Rewiring Pain Into Purpose w/ Dr. Robb Kelly

Some stories punch through the noise because they’re honest about pain and fearless about change. Dr. Robb Kelly joins us to trace a blunt arc from childhood drinking and homelessness to a purpose-built life that blends faith, neuroscience, and relentless service. He doesn’t just talk sobriety; he reframes addiction as a thinking problem rooted in patterns, identity, and environment—then hands over simple tools that help anyone rewrite the script.

We dive into practical rewiring: twenty deep breaths to flood the brain with oxygen and quiet the subconscious, six-foot mirror work to bypass self-critique, and small daily actions that train new neural pathways. Dr. Robb explains how the gut makes much of our dopamine and serotonin, why rancid oils and hyper-processed foods hijack mood and cravings, and how better inputs can stabilize energy and resilience. We compare sick-care to prevention-first strategies, touch on GLP-1 therapies and peptides, and center the mindset shift that moves people from coping to creating.

The heart of the conversation lives in identity and worth. Dr. Robb argues that the language we use shapes outcomes—stop defining yourself only by illness or past mistakes—and that we attract the opportunities we believe we deserve. With powerful stories about expectation effects, limited beliefs, and environmental upgrades, he shows why so many “can’ts” are inherited caps, not facts. Community voices from the hemophilia world bring these ideas to ground, asking sharp questions on epigenetics, chronic stress, and the overlooked roots of addiction. The result is direct, human, and actionable: choose your inputs, set your worth, and take the position you’ve already earned.

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Learn more about Dr. Robb Kelly at https://robbkelly.com/

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Transcript

Welcome And Mission

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to the Evil Life Podcast, your display to transformation and power. Hosted by Eliot Why over Diving Deep into the world of work of sports and marking the full spectrum of your first book. This episode join us as we connect with five years, wellness experts and food providers. They're here to share powerful stories and valuable insights from mental resilience to physical health, community news to life-altering strategies. At EmoLife, we provide the tools you need to excel and inspire. Prepare to elevate your life, learn, laugh, and grow with us. Let's embark on this journey together.

SPEAKER_04 1:15

And today, we're talking about evolution.

SPEAKER_05 1:18

We're joined today by Dr. Rob Kelly, internationally known addiction expert, speaker, and recovery advocate. He lost everything to addiction and rebuilt his life from rock bottom. But what makes his story more powerful isn't the recovery, it's the rewiring. He teaches that addiction isn't just a substance problem, it's a thinking problem. And today we're going to explore how he applies that far beyond addiction. Dr. Rob Kelly, welcome to HELIF.

SPEAKER_04 1:43

Thank you so much, Chris. Good to be here. All right, sir. So for anyone who hasn't heard your story, give us a condensed version to start off. What was your rock bottom and what started the shift?

Rock Bottom And The Turning Point

SPEAKER_03 1:54

But rock bottom boom for me is I took my first drink at the age of nine. So multiple things happened during that. I lost my children, wife left, kids, house, car, all the stuff went. And rock bottom for me, dying twice on the streets and five other attempts was just that one night came when I just dropped down and knew that I was uh on my hands and knees and everything came to reality that I couldn't stop drinking. That was my lowest point. That was, it shocked me to even think that that was the problem I was going through. Because I always thought it was manageable. I also thought it was just some bad stuff I'm going through. Um, and the and the more losses and the more pain, and yeah, that was the night, man. I don't think any, even when my kids were taken off me, there was still hope for a future. But when everything is stripped to hit, when you're calling your mom and dad at home and back in the day used to ring, they say hello, and you'd put the money in. You go, hello, hey mom. Phone was go down. She'd hang the phone up. And it was just, it was that feeling of loss, abandonment, fear, shame, guilt, remorse. And I I just didn't want to live anymore.

SPEAKER_04 3:01

Yeah. I I love how vulnerable you are, and I I think that that's your power. I I've had the opportunity to listen to multiple podcasts that you've done, and it's crazy how vulnerable you are. And I I've kind of prided myself when telling my story to be vulnerable as well. But listening to how vulnerable you were has kind of inspired me even a little bit more because I think that's how you truly impact people.

SPEAKER_05 3:23

And I'm just curious, um, like like you just said, you know, you're essentially at rock bottom. What like was the internal switch in your brain that just it just went off and you're like, hey, I have to make change. And um, you know, at the moment when you realize I can't stay here anymore, I need to rebuild.

Spiritual Awakening And Purpose

SPEAKER_03 3:41

Well, it was that Sunday morning, uh, Monday morning, Sunday night, early hours of the morning. I had what's called a spiritual awakening as an atheist because I I tried everything else, I couldn't do it. But it's it's when I looked up to the sky and said, and I believe in God, guy. I don't go to church, I don't read the Bible. I don't believe that God wants me in a room somewhere at 10 a.m. on a Sunday. It doesn't work like that for me. So I just said it as a God up there, I can't do this on my own anymore. And the next thing, this guy walked around the corner, middle of nowhere. And his story was that he'd missed his last person from Bible study. He'd been walking for over an hour or something, and he took a shortcut he's never took before and he came upon me. And that's kind of where the whole journey turned around. It gets crazier than that, but that's when it first turned around. And I have to say, back in the day, it was on no effort on my behalf. I tried all human, I've tried everything I could as a family man, businessman, entrepreneur, clever, you know, intelligent guy, and nothing was working. So that was the big turning point for me, thinking there's something bigger out there that doesn't want me to die. And that's what I kept thinking throughout this journey. And it seemed for me anyway to be true.

SPEAKER_05 4:55

I can relate. I mean, I'm I'm very close with God. I'm I'm a Catholic. And, you know, but I haven't always been close to God. I will say that. I mean, you can be spiritually close to God, like you said, not necessarily attending mass and going through the sacraments or even attending whatever, you know, formal arrangement we'll call it. But for me, I I thought, you know, I'm gonna do everything myself. I don't need God, I don't need this, I don't need that. And I actually hit rock bottom twice in my life where I didn't feel like God was looking down and like, okay, you you want me to help you or you want to keep beating your head against the wall? Okay, let's see, let's do this again. And so really that brought me back into the church, brought me back into uh, you know, practicing as a Catholic and just, I don't know, I I think sometimes God just lets you do what you you think is best, and then really knowing his will and trusting his will and trusting in God and just being, like I said, vulnerable and to say, hey, here it is, I trust you.

SPEAKER_04 5:54

So since your spiritual awakening that you had, has your relationship and your, I guess, your perspective on God's power in this world, like has that changed? And do you look at this whole like differently now?

SPEAKER_03 6:05

100% it's changed. Excuse me. Uh the things that I've been through, the things that I've achieved, the things that has happened to me along the way that I got cancer and they disappeared, and all the things prove to me that that God is looking after me today. And as long as I keep working with his kids, everything's gonna be revealed and everything's gonna be okay. Um, but I have one of the mindsets that I do not want to be average. Like if I'm gonna be a plumber, I'm gonna be the best plumber in Texas. I I'm not settling for being ape. It's the same with my life. Everything I touch, I want to master it, guitar, music, stuff like that, neuroscience, you know, is there all of the way. And I remember I remember telling somebody that I don't go to church and I don't read the Bible, and he said to me, Yeah, but what arrangement did you make with God? And it flawed me. I'm like, well, I made arrangements. I remember at John's house, this angel guy, and told him that if you work with God's kids, go out there and guarantee people recover. I will give you everything you want and I'll give you big platforms as long as you keep working with our kids and saving lives. And that was the guarantee that me and God made was if I keep doing that, you're gonna be okay. Don't worry about you and never worry about money or friends, anything. In actual fact, I'm gonna give more money than you ever imagined, so you can give more money away. That's how we do this deal. So, yeah, I mean, people come to me and go, hey, listen, so I'm not spiritual, I don't believe in God, I'm an atheist. And and my first question is, is that are you willing to change that? And if they say no, I I can't help you, they go, What? You've got to be, I'm not saying you've got to be anything. What I'm telling you is once we have a spiritual awakening where the power of the mind connects with another power outside us and your neural pathways change, your freaking DNA changes. So if we can't change your DNA, we can't help you. Now people get crazy about that. You're turning money down. Well, you have turned millions of dollars down. Millions of dollars of singers who just wanted to throw their own weight. I'm not here, man. No.

SPEAKER_05 7:57

Yeah. I mean, I recently uh heard something. It was on Instagram or Facebook, I can't remember, but uh, someone said like praying to God for just like, hey, I need money. God's not looking for like, oh, I you're just asking for money. God wants you to like ask for wisdom, ask for favor, ask for guidance. He he wants these higher heavenly things versus, you know, if you think about it, money, think about it, scammers, they can get money. Crooks, they can get money. Money's a lower, it's almost like a side effect or a byproduct of these higher heavenly things. Like you just said before, you prayed to God and he said, Hey, you know, let's make it this arrangement. The arrangement you help my kids, and you have all this stuff added to you. And so I don't know, I just feel that that I can really connect to that. I I really can. Yeah, I love that.

Faith, Excellence, And A Deal With God

SPEAKER_03 8:44

The thing is with God, I think we asked for so little and he wants to give us so much, but we get offered. I don't know, ask, I don't know. I asked for a huge house. And and the agreement to me and God was, I'll give you a huge house. As long as A, you keep the top floor open for people that are struggling that you can keep in your house, and B, that every Sunday you hold a barbecue where hundreds of people can come down, and we call it sober Sundays, and you bring your families down. You know, ask for stuff, guys, listening to this at home. If you're doing God's work, ask for stuff that we don't know ask. Oh, well, everything is there for you. You just need to know the rules of engagement. That's all it is. I don't have to go to church on a Sunday to realize what God wants with me. Because I'll tell you something right now. I have everything, guys. I have toys, all this stuff, everything. But when I get to heaven, I know what God is not gonna ask me. How much was that venture you bought, Rob? How much he's not gonna ask any, how many people did you help? How many people did you bring to me, Rob? That's the line I want to want to know from you, not the other stuff I gave you. I know that. How many people did you save?

SPEAKER_04 9:50

Yeah, absolutely. I love it. I love it. Yeah, see, we we work with a lot of different patients in the hemophilia community who are struggling. And there's been patients, um, actually, one of the one of the guys that's gonna be joining the asking you a question, he when I first started working with him and trying to help him just as a friend, you know, he didn't believe in God either. And that's uh I didn't I didn't press it, but every once in a while I would slip it in. And one thing that I that really stands out to me in my life is um, I don't know where I heard it, but it was somebody was just saying, well, test God, test him, try it, try him. And and I I did that with him one day. And actually you played a role in that with he was really struggling and and we were able to come through for him, and now he's uses God as you know, he sees the power of God because he tested him.

SPEAKER_03 10:34

God is circumstances. God is circumstantial, and I'll tell you why. True story flying on from England back to Dallas, Texas, eight years ago or something. It was pouring down with rain. There was lightning, it was it was a terrible evening when we took off. And we're in the air for about 20 minutes. The captain comes on going through lightning, blah, blah, blah, putting seat belts on. Do not stand up, please. We're gonna go through some turbulence. Everybody started strapping in, and then all of a sudden we dropped, because he must have been missing well. We we dropped, that felt like about 10 seconds, and everybody grabbed hold of the arms of the chairs, and everybody went, and you could hear a hand up on that plane. And my friend leant over to me and he went, Hey Rob, how many atheists do you think are on this plane right now? Yeah. Circumstantial, when it gets bad enough, you'll start to believe, you know, I'm not believing in God. Good for you. Good for you. But for me and my teachings and my belief and my life and my friends, it has to be that otherwise I'm not here.

SPEAKER_04 11:35

Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes that's the beauty of being at rock bottom, is maybe you wouldn't even ask yourself those questions or get to find yourself in that scenario. So sometimes that's the blessing through that. But I I want to make a little shift real quick. So let's talk about something real. In the hemophilia community, chronic pain has been a part of many people's lives. Um, sometimes that's led to opioid dependence. Sometimes alcohol becomes the escape. From your experience, what are the early warning signs someone is moving from coping to dependency?

Pain, Dependency, And Early Warning Signs

SPEAKER_03 12:05

Well, I'm gonna look at the stats that we've we've looked at and studied. 90% of people have come to us with a drug addiction started in the doctor's office. So, first of all, you have to start being, you know, careful and looking after yourself and finding out what's right or what's wrong. The third leading cause of death in America is the medical fraternity. So just because some back doctor who's getting a backhand from somebody, um purdue or somebody, sell their drugs doesn't mean it's good for you. So if you're taking a drug once a week, even let's say you're taking cocaine once a week, and it's manageable, it's still cocaine. It's still affecting the brain that is unreversible to the dopamine that's released of a million times more than it should, your brain will never fully recover from that. Now, that might be 0, 0, 0, 1%, but you have to start looking at your behavior around. Is it a dependency you have? Or are you going out weekends just to enjoy yourself? Is there addiction in the family? Or do we have any any members around us uh from extended family members that that suffer from that stuff? It's kind of a self-care kind. We all go through our teens and at college and we all go a little bit crazy, but you know, when when you're trying to be a sensible guy, making a difference in this world, you've got to realize that everything that you put in your body, uh it makes a difference in your body and brain. Everything, most of the stuff we eat, we can't met on it. So that's where the illness is comes from because it's a deficiency. So I think if you're getting up every day, if you're spending too much money, if you're, you know, uh going on vacation with the wife and you're missing out the time because you're trying to score drugs to the local dealer. I mean, that's a big problem, man. It really is a big problem. Where's it affecting your life and can you do without it?

SPEAKER_05 13:49

Yeah, I think so. I'm obviously a primary care doctor and I do a lot of weight loss. I do a lot of the GLP1 medications and I help folks lose weight. I mean, I have a big patient panel. I've helped patients lose thousands of pounds at this point. But one of the things I really see is um early on. I mean, we have so many processed foods. We have sugar. Sugar is like the first addiction, and food addiction is a big, I guess, driver. I mean, patients go from like food addiction to then alcohol addiction to drug addiction, and you're just like you said, hitting that dopamine receptor, hitting that dopamine receptor. And so even as a young kid, you're getting like a reward as, oh, you did it, you did something good. Well, here's a sweet treat, here's sugar. I mean, I have four kids, so they're always wanting sugar, but you're almost, I guess your receptors and your your biology is almost taught at an early age that reward. Uh, and then, you know, as you get into your adolescence and adulthood, you start, you know, there's alcohol, and then there's, you know, there's other substances that I feel like many Americans struggle with, but I feel like it starts with the poor food choices, even, you know, in in into childhood. And so um, do you see that maybe correlating folks that are obese or have other, I mean, it could be other addictions like a shopping addiction, are more likely to develop, you know, I guess, addiction in in later life in their later life, or even the adverse childhood events.

Food, Dopamine, And Methylation

SPEAKER_03 15:14

Yeah, we I see that a lot. The problem with food in this country over the last 15, 20 years, is it's not food. So we're not on the evil battlefield here. You are with other stuff that you take because you know what you're taking. If you take a medication from the doctor or you start smoking, you kind of know what you're doing. With food, it's kind of a con. We could go to the uh local store now and we could we could spend$200. And I'm betting you right now, probably a million dollars,$160 of that food. We're not meant to methylate as human beings. So if you're picking something up from the shelf and the first ingredient is canola oil, put it back. We can't methylate rancid oil, sunflower oil, all it we cannot methylate it. And then you look at, let's say McDonald's fries in England has six ingredients over here, it's 27 ingredients. You look at anything you pick up from the shelf. We did a live TV thing on national TV a couple of months ago, and I was proving this point. And we walked in blind to a to a store and across this health food section. By the way, if your supermarket's got a health food section, what the hell is the other food? But that's by the by. And one stood out is nine grams of protein, zero fat. And I'm like, oh my God, guys, look at this. So we took it off, we spun it around. The first ingredient, canola oil, and there were 32 other ingredients in there. So what happens to the human body, and one of the reasons that people believe that you can pass heart disease down from families to families, which you it's biologically impossible. So what happens is, you know, I say my father eats something, he's on a staple diet that they eat because that's what they can afford, and let's pretend that beans is something with so many chemicals in it that he can't methylate. So the food that we put in our bodies, guys, we don't use it in that source. It has to be changed to a source that we can use. So it has to be methylated into a source we can use. 95% of the things that are being sold, we can't methylate. So if you can't methylate it, there becomes a deficiency in the body and brain. When there's a deficiency, it causes the illnesses. So when I leave home, I'm kind of eating beans and toast and stuff just like my dad and my family did. I can't methylate the beans because my dad couldn't. Nothing to do with the heart disease right now, but then I've got the deficiency and I can't methylate that eventually turns into the heart problems, and everybody's telling us that it's hereditary because that's not true. And these later reports will be coming out in the next couple of months as we're talking to some very important people, but we're led to believe certain things, especially about food. Food industry gets you sick, and the pharmaceutical companies will keep you sick. You are no good as a healthy human being in America. No good to anybody. And then obviously, you've got the physicians like you that are doing the right thing, you know. One of the reasons I came on the show is because you guys are doing the right thing. We turn down 20 of these shows a week, I think, or a month. I don't know. But people like Changing the World, we love coming on. But this is what the general public doesn't know. They think that just because they're going to a supermarket and buying chicken, that it's chicken. No, it's not the case. Do your research.

SPEAKER_05 18:17

Recently, actually on the Joe Rogan podcast, we had RFK Jr., he was on there talking about, you know, health, wellness. I mean, he's a he's a big guy that is really uh enthusiastic about peptides. And he even mentioned that, you know, there was 19 plus peptides back in the Biden administration that were taken off uh and put into a different category so compounders couldn't compound it. And he's like, no, it wasn't a safety issue. It was literally just he did it. And he's like, no, in two weeks, we're gonna reverse this and allow this access. And in my opinion, so I'm a I'm a deo, I'm an osteopathic physician. Okay. So there's there's surgery, there's medications, there's manipulative therapy. You know, we we it's like almost like a chiropractic style of medicine for our viewers. And then, in my opinion, the fourth thing is gonna be these peptides, these, these uh, you know, naturally occurring peptides that can really help folks. And on top of that, we have cognitive behavioral therapy. There's, I feel like, like you said, having the pharmaceutical companies just tell you, this is it, there you go, and goodbye. I feel like that um is what really needs America, really needs that education because I mean, worldwide, we need that education because I I I would never have guessed that patients would come to me and go, Oh, yeah, I want a GLP one or I want NAD. I was like, where did you hear that from? And now it's becoming more common knowledge, but there is all these other things that folks can really dive into. It's simply even talking about food like we're having on this conversation is really people don't know what's good, what's bad. They don't know. I mean, they're just looking at labels.

SPEAKER_03 19:49

Yeah, I've I'd lost, I've just lost 155 pounds over the last uh 18 months. And and GLP one, I started checking about eight months ago, and it's made a big difference to me. But like you said, the pharmaceutical companies and the doctor take this and take this. And let's do our we did our research around that. First of all, we have people here most of the weeks that come in brand new. Dr. Roe, I feel so depressed. Oh my God, Mrs. Smith, I'm I'm so sorry. How long has this been going on? About five years. Oh my god, five years? My good, do you take anything for that? Yeah, I took well butine. Oh, how long have you taken the well butriene? About three years. So when do you think it's gonna kick in? Yeah. Because it isn't kicking in. But people do that, you know, they think that the medical paternity is the only answer. And what we found out, that it's rarely the answer. When I conference, I asked, I asked people in the audience, has anybody, apart from antibiotics which we take, which I'm not still not a great lover, but have you ever gone to the doctor for an ailment? It's give you a pill for that ailment. You've taken it, it's cured the illness, and you never have to take the pill again? Yeah, I didn't think so, because it doesn't exist.

Peptides, Prevention, And Weight Loss

SPEAKER_05 20:55

Yeah, I mean, we practice, like I said, sick medicine, not preventative. And that's why I pivoted in more of a preventative. I was a hospitalist working with patients that had heart attacks, strokes, diabetes, limb amputations for four or five years. I was a medical director of a hospital, and I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa. I'm seeing 30, 40-year-old people come in dying, and these people are my age. I'm like, I have to take a step back and figure out, okay, I learned things in medical school, but obviously we didn't learn that. We didn't talk about diet. We didn't, we didn't, and basically I focused on, hey, if I intervened in that patient's life five, 10, 15 years ago, they wouldn't be sitting here with a mild cardioinfarction known as a heart attack at 31. Now this guy can't provide for his family. He was a construction worker, or that person that she was a hairstylist at 39. Now she can't move her hand and her life is ruined. So that's where I started pivoting. And I just I love this synergy that we have together. We're talking about how we're helping folks uh really change their life from addiction, whether it's addicted to food, alcohol, drugs, addiction is run running rampant. And uh I just I think it's awesome that we're bringing this to the surface.

SPEAKER_04 22:01

Yeah. So for anyone who's listening right now to our show, no matter what the addiction is, you know, it could be alcohol or, you know, taking pills in secrecy, what is the first honest step that they would need to take?

Sick-Care Critique And Self-Advocacy

SPEAKER_03 22:12

Well, start dialogue with somebody. That's all. Don't be ashamed. You know, you probably think you're the only one doing this and you're so shameful. And it's like, no, start dialogue. I want to talk to you about something, buddy, mom, dad, friend, somebody you don't know. Start dialogue with somebody when you share them, somebody will give you a true instinct. Definition of sanity. Definition of insanity where where we work right now is the inability to see one's truth. So we can't see our own truth. So that's why we're insane. We've got to have somebody else to show us and tell us what's going on with us because we can't do it. You've got to just be smart, guys. Don't trust other people's life, you know, to other people. It's like diet, it's like diabetes. Speaking to Gary Brecker the other day about this, and he said, if somebody asked me, How do I get diabetes? Do you know what I'd do? I said, I don't know, Gary, tell me. He said, I'd send him to the diabetes website. Because what they've got on there, especially starting with fresh orange juice, you'd have diabetes within six months. And we we were laughing, and then I researched it, and then I called him a couple of days and we're like, Holy crap, you're right. He says, I know. You just find out what you're taking, find out, you know, what's going on with you. You know, call us, call any, just find out of sensible people that are not in it to strip money for you and keep you sick. Everybody can have an amazing life. Everybody can recover from most illnesses. That there's two things that the illness, if diseases are down to two things oxidicity and deficiency. What am I being poisoned by and what am I deficient in? Boom, drop mic, walk away. That is it. There's no other questions. And all the illnesses in the human body start in a hypoxic area. So if we're only breathing 45% of our lung capacity, these diseases can be rampant, but we don't know because we think we're doing okay and everything's amazing. It's not, you can we walk around about 45 to 55% of our capability in life. Why you why are you not doing 100 guys, like me and 11,000 patients a tree? Why aren't you walking around 100% of what you're supposed to be here? Find your niche, find what you're good at. I couldn't work in a corporate office. I couldn't work for somebody. I'd be like a little kid in the corner not knowing what to do. And people go, look at Rob, he's dumb. He doesn't know. Find your niche. Stop asking a cow to climb a tree. It's not your pond. Go find out where your people are, go find out what your niche is. Start researching your life. There should be people living to over a hundred, man? But because of all the crap that we that we're eating on a daily basis, it's killing us. And nobody wants to talk about it. We're talking to Kennedy right now about this breathbox studio software that we created about changing neural pathways and with subliminal messaging stuff. So yeah, we're we're we're we're kind of as as annoying as you guys. We ain't going away, we have the truth, and we're not listening to any shit from you guys.

SPEAKER_04 25:01

If you could rewind time, going back to your story a little bit. Um, one of the questions I had for you is would you ever rewind time and remove the pain? Or is that necessary to who you are today?

SPEAKER_03 25:13

Yeah, guys, it really is. So I look at my homelessness and my pain and my loss and all that stuff I went through, the dying on the streets as a semester at Harvard. That's what I look at it. It was the teachings, it was the education. I mean, we can't, if we're chosen, whether it's medically or scientifically, or when we are chosen by God, this is this is my truth here. He has to take you back to school because you I today, if you if you're a therapist, guys, and you're dealing with alcoholics, but you haven't dealt with it yourself, please don't. Please don't, because you you have no idea what we're going through. No idea. So, no, every pain, every tear, every cry has kind of been replaced.

SPEAKER_04 25:52

You lost your lost everything. And I'm experiencing some of that too. So that's I personally truly want to know. Um, a lot of people who suffer from hemophilia, you know, this is something that they didn't choose, but it it's uh somehow, like for me, I had to change my perspective on uh I heard a quote one time was to play your hand of cards like it was the one that you've always wanted. And once I changed my mind to say, hey, you know what? Maybe I didn't deserve this hemophilia, this chronic disorder, all this pain. But, you know, just like what you did was you found a way to take the pain and make something so beautiful out of it. And no, but it's like the same thing for me. It's like, would I rewind time and take away my hemophilia?

SPEAKER_05 26:31

I wouldn't.

SPEAKER_04 26:32

Like, would I say, and that's a hard sometimes that's hard to say because now that we see the impact in the the lives that we're changing, like you, it's like, man, like I did, but I did. I lost, I lost some relationships. I lost a bunch, but the the impact too, it's just I don't know.

Purpose In Pain And Chosen Work

SPEAKER_03 26:48

That's why we're better than others. This is why we're more qualified. God's choosing chooses us. Say to my guy all the time, whether you like it or not, you've been chosen to do this because you have to do it. He handpicks us to do this, man. And he takes us through the losses and the pain. And then later on down the road, he restores all that stuff. But you have to go through that because you're gonna sit in front of somebody one day and they go, nobody understands me. You go, Yeah, I do. Well, you've met, yeah, I've done that. What? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And all these boxes, because I'm old, I've been through all this, you know, all the boxes are checked, man. And and you can't get paid in in money, the look that you get from somebody that looks in your eyes and goes, Thank, I've found somebody who knows what I'm talking about and can relate with me. That's priceless, man. So would I go back? Oh, you guys, no, that would be selfish. It's not about us. The biggest day I found out it wasn't about us, my life opened up and I stopped giving a shit what people thought about me. It's not about me. How many people can you heal? God's gonna ask. Not, oh, I'm sorry I took you through that. Was that painful? I'm not interested in that. How many people did you heal? Because he doesn't give this to the scientists and the surgeons. He gave it to us. He gave it to us for you right here to do this. He doesn't give it to anybody else. And everybody are going through stuff that's just as bad as what we've been through, but they don't get to highlight it like us because they don't get platforms like us that God's gives us these platforms to stand on so we can actually say, Here's me, and I was where you are. And every I thought was the only person in the world that was going through this, and it's no. What we're here as teachers, we're here as healers, because we have information and teachings that nobody else has.

SPEAKER_04 28:33

It's a lonely path though. It is. I I think that I'm struggling because you want to be understood, but I know that I'm going through something. I keep on going to God to ask me to help me to get through it because I know the beautiful things that are happening, but no one else can see it. And it's that's the hardest part. Like it's yeah, I know. And I I I mean the people you impact see it, but like I'm talking about the relationships that were ruined. Like no mat no matter what you do good in the world, those people are always gonna put you in a bubble of no, you're you're a criminal. No, you're you've done this, you did that. So that this other person you're trying to be, that's fake. This this is who you truly are.

SPEAKER_03 29:10

Not your pond. That's not your pond. That's a pond that you used to fish in. So if you're fishing in a pond with the same fish, and you you promote and get out of there into a nice pond, the guy's there is going to treat you how you want. Your past does not define us. They like to think it does. Everything you've lost will come back. You're only a young kid. Everything you've got will come back. My daughter come back. Everything you want will come back, man. The guys that don't appreciate who you are and what you've done, they're not your people. And this is one of the biggest things I had to understand because I want everyone to like me. They're not gonna like me. I earn over a million dollars a year. They're not gonna like me, they're gonna freaking hate me from where I've come from. And that's okay. That's okay, man, because that's not my pond anymore.

SPEAKER_04 29:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:55

You thung around nine-depressed people and you bit a tent. I say people all the time. I could go back to Manchester right now on the projects, right? And I could help those people. I just can't live there anymore. Because we don't speak the same language when it comes to living. If that makes sense.

SPEAKER_05 30:11

It does. I mean, growing up, like you said, and fishing in the same pond. I mean, I had, you know, we grew up in the 80s. I'm I'm 38 years old, I'm gonna be 39, and he having hemophilia, you actually were looked at as even my own family members, oh, you have a bleeding disorder, oh, a hemophiliax, they get HIV, they get AIDS because we've had multiple people that we know that have died from blood transfusions, and they got, you know, AIDS and died. So, you know, I was looked at as like, even by my own family members, we don't want to touch Joe stuff, we don't want to be around Joe Stuff. So you get like that, you know, you get that essentially like stereotypical card. Oh yeah, I could have HIV, I could have obviously the advancements in you know hemophilia have been much better. We don't have that risk anymore. But back then it was real. And so, you know, I was made fun of, I was bullied. And so going back to would you ever want to be uh have this reversed or taking it out of your life, I wouldn't be sitting here today as a physician. LA would not, we wouldn't even be on this podcast. Yeah, and I wouldn't have helped all these other folks lose weight, do this, help people that, you know, giving CPR in the hospital. Like there's so many things that have changed my life for from having this disorder, this disability. I mean, I have you know, braces on my ankles, I can't walk real well. You know, it has shaped me into the man I am today. So I think it's a blessing.

SPEAKER_04 31:31

And I think all the things that I've done to change my life, like it you start to attract the right people, you know, and like Dr. Joe, I had he's got hemophilia, I have severe hemophilia, we both do. We didn't connect again until recently. And we decided to take on this endeavor with the Hemo Life podcast stuff. So I think, you know, having, you know, you start to form these relationships. So it's it does become a little bit easier when you have someone who has the same mindset as you.

Worth, Environment, And New Identity

SPEAKER_03 31:55

We attract what we think we are worth. That's the bottom line. If we don't think our worth, we'll attract those people. But we have to attract the things that we worth. I I'd go out to dinner all the time with my wife when the waitress serves us or lunch or something. I get the bill, I bring her over and I put into the tip line and I say, How much am I putting there? They go, How much am I putting there? In other words, what's your worth? They go, just to wait to what's your worth? And they may say$100,$1,000. I'm putting that down there. So 10 to 20, 30, 40. Makes no difference. The thing is, you I've just changed somebody's worth. Because your worth is not what other people do. Your worth is pointing out the tip line, going, how much are you worth? Doctors all the time call me up. I finally got my own practice role. We open next year. How much do you think us to charge? How much are you worth? Well, I mean, do you think 200's okay? I don't know. What do you what do you charge?$2,500 an hour. Oh my God. Yeah, that's my worth. Prove me wrong. You can't. It's really gonna start thinking, and you're changing, you're changing the mechanics of the brain, and you're changing the cells into this person that you've always wanted to be. Well, guess what? You already are that person. You're never gonna be ready to step up to that person, by the way, guys. So start acting, start walking, start eating like the person that you want to be. And quantum physics facts us up, you will become that person.

SPEAKER_04 33:12

Yeah. There was a quote that I love. I think it was maybe James Clear who said something like, Every action you take is a vote on the person that you want to become. And I I love that, you know, because it's like you might not be that person right now, but if you just keep on taking those daily actions, like when I wanted to be a bodybuilder and I wanted to compete at the Arnold and I wasn't that person, I would I would tell myself certain things every day to start to try to rewire my brain to be like, you are a great athlete, you know, you are capable, you are these things. And then it's like, okay, you can say those things, but also what are the actions like, okay, well, I don't want to go to the gym today. So now I have a choice. Am I gonna go or am I not gonna go? And when I every action that I do take, that's one more that's one more vote for the person that I want to become. So I I love that one.

SPEAKER_05 33:53

So I have a quick question for you to piggyback off that for Dr. Rob here. So you mentioned in obviously in the intro, entrepreneur, doctor, you know, advocate. Like, I feel like being a physician, I in medical school, you're you're taught to do one thing. Yeah. For me, I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I don't come from doctors. My dad's a carpenter, my mom does sales. I don't, you know, our house was foreclosed on twice growing up. Like, I I come from no money, like zero. And so I guess for me, I've always had to be that Swiss Army knife. I couldn't just be a doctor because I I get I want to help folks, but I wanted to do more. Have you ever felt like similar where you're like, yeah, this is it? Like, I just want to be one thing. Like, I've I've always wanted to do a bunch of things. Like, if someone told me you can't do it, I'm like, I'm gonna do it. Like, you can't do that, I'll do it.

SPEAKER_03 34:45

Yeah, I mean, it's a lot of it for me is I believe I can do anything I want. So we're in Texas. I don't know whether you know about Texas too much, but it's Tex Mex. Mexican food loves it. Everyone, I'll tell you what I'm gonna do. I said three years ago, I'm gonna open a British cafe and restaurant next door to my offices in San Antonio. My financial guy, the people, no, no, you can't. No, no, it's in the top 12% of most successful restaurants in San Antonio as of last week. Are you serious? I've got the breath box box, I've got four companies that are thriving that are bringing millions of dollars, and you know, everybody told me about them. You can't. You want to go to you want to go to America and and you want to be on national check, check, check, check. Of course I do. I'll do if you say I can't do something just like you, it's like, says who? Yeah, I mean, no, no, says who? Who's telling me I can't do these things? Because the one of the reasons I have the restaurant, everyone loves it, we do the afternoon, we do all the British food, great, okay? But the reason I have the restaurant next door to me is on Sunday lunch when we close over from eight till three only, when we close at three o'clock, I take all the food that's left over, I stack it into my car, I drive down to the center of San Antonio where there's a bridge and all the homeless there, and I give the food out to all the homeless people. Nobody in the restaurant in here knows we do that. So there's always the non-profit. I don't even know what money goes, what money comes out. I mean, that's we don't even want to see that, just goes straight out, man. You know, we we just I love it. You've got to do it, man. It's just like, listen, so I'm 65 uh next month, okay? If we look at the Bible or just in average research, 75 is the average age. Well, we'll all agree on that. I have 10 birthdays left. I have 10 Christmas times left. You think I'm gonna sit in my ass there and start worrying what you think about me, guys? No, I'm gonna do stuff. I'm gonna do, we had no experience whatsoever in restaurants. Nobody did. I brought my sister over, she's an office manager. She don't know about restaurants, but we believed we could do it, so we did.

SPEAKER_05 36:49

That is so inspiring. And restaurant, that's a tough business to be in.

SPEAKER_03 36:53

I'm telling you.

SPEAKER_05 36:54

Well, the fact that you're donating, you're giving back, like like you said, God, you make an agreement and he's gonna help you. And like seek the kingdom, seek his kingdom first.

SPEAKER_04 37:03

This isn't if this if you're not if your story isn't proof to test God and see what happens, man. I I don't know, I don't know what else is. But uh, Dr. Rob, if you don't mind, can we uh let two patient hemophiliac patients come in and ask you a question? Beautiful. Okay, sounds good. Hey guys, hello, hello.

SPEAKER_05 37:19

How's it going? Good afternoon.

SPEAKER_04 37:20

This is Dr. Rob, guys, and uh Dr. Rob, we've got Jay Garmin. He's a severe hemophiliac in Texas, and well, actually both of you. Yeah, you're both uh and then Carlin. Carlin is also a severe hemophiliac in Texas. Nice.

SPEAKER_03 37:33

What about you in Texas? Are you guys? Upperus Cove. Oh, yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_02 37:36

I'm in Houston, Texas.

Community Voices: Epigenetics And Gratitude

SPEAKER_03 37:38

We'll be in Houston in five weeks' time. I'm doing a seminar there. I'm gonna look you up. Oh, cool.

SPEAKER_01 37:43

Very exciting.

SPEAKER_04 37:45

Yeah, definitely. Well, guys, thanks for jumping on. Uh, I guess let's start with Jay, because you know, me and Jay, we've been friends for man, many, many years, and we have both been so obsessed with rebuilding who we were. Like the guys that you see today, like I remember back then, man, we were struggling and so bad, but we always had this belief in us that we just had to rewire our brains somehow and to become who we wanted to be, reinvent ourselves. And we both took a little bit different paths when it came to that. Um, your path has been a little bit more science-based. And but anyway, Jay, you you know, go ahead and ask Dr. Rob whatever questions you might have. Man, I know you're excited for this opportunity.

SPEAKER_01 38:24

I am very excited. I have read a lot about uh about you, and I hear what you're about, and it aligns direct directly with what I think and how I feel about the world. Within the last set seven years, I've been researching a thing called epigenetics, which is highly misunderstood still. Uh, when what keeps blowing my mind about this is that our genes are not set in stone. We can physically reprogram our our uh genes and it's based on how we react to the environment or react to the uh stress that we are in. So my question is if chronic stress can damage our genetic material, is it unreasonable to ask whether elevated emotional states of love and gratitude can produce the neurochemistry to heal our bodies.

The Overlooked Root Of Addiction

SPEAKER_03 39:27

So the I first of all, 100% it can. Uh secondly, I want to just mention Randy Dertl, who's a good friend of mine. We studied together. He's a grandfather of epigenetics. Uh just look him up. Randy Djertl, his name is. He started all this off about 40 years ago. But 100%. So there's four chemicals that need to happen in the brain for us to be 100% happy, authentic, and make a difference in this world. Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins. Uh everybody knows that. But not a lot of people know that dopamine and serotonin, the two main neurotransmitters, are created in the stomach. So when these chemicals, when you're eating properly and you're acting properly, you can change. We have tests and trials in jail. I'll I'll share it with you one day. But we can literally change our being and ourselves with thought patterns and gratitude, and we can redivert. There are billions of neuropathways in the brain. Everybody knows that. But did you know that 300-ish die every single day? 300 neuropathways, thought patterns die every day. What are we replacing them with? Well, if we're replacing them with gratitude and good and good food, could show me a depressive person, I'll show you someone with gut issues. Then we can 100% rebuild and retrain just by using our mind and listening to our body, somatic experience, into a thought plan that will cure most illnesses. Now, now people freak out when I say that. Again, tried proved, testing, where the only guys that cure addiction and are working on Alzheimer's right now. But yeah, 100%. Fantastic question. Absolutely fantastic question. But yeah, so so when you get up in the morning, the subconscious brain wakes us up. And the reason why the subconscious brain wakes us up is lack of oxygen. So the subconscious brain is the bad guy and the conscious brain is the good guy, obviously. But this guy wakes us up because it thrives in hypoxic situations during the night, between the hours, on a normal circadian sleep pattern, between the hours of two and five o'clock is when the body is at its most repair. It's when oxygen is really low. It's also when most people die of natural causes at that time. So when we wake up, and the only reason why nobody's woke up laughing ever is no oxygen, very little. So when we get up in the morning, it's important that we do our 20 exaggerated breaths in and out. And this is what happens. So this guy is the subconscious. We wake up. If we do the breasts and the other morning work that we teach our patients, what happens is this he dies because we're flooding the brain and body with oxygen. Now, the conscious brain is alive. Now, this guy's gonna create some amazing things, the thought patterns, the feeling good, the epigenetics. But you see the subconscious brain? It's like this in the background all day long. And it will grab any minuscule that you don't think is going right and grab it and run the day. And patients come to me all the time. They go, Do you know, Dr. Vod had a really bad day? And I go, Was it really a bad day? Was it five minutes you strung out all day? All this is changing ourselves, all this is changing the epigenetics behind the psychology of how we think and how we do. So definitely great question, Jay.

SPEAKER_04 42:33

Awesome. Yeah, that was all right, Carlin. Welcome to the show, brother. What question do you have for Dr.

SPEAKER_02 42:37

How's it going? How's it going? So, my question would be: what is the real root of addiction that most people completely overlook when trying to help come, trying to help recover their addiction?

You Can Do More Than You’re Told

SPEAKER_03 42:48

I love that question, man. So alcoholics are born, drug addicts are made, alcoholics have a predisposition, we're allergic to ethanol, and the hypothalamus basal ganglia and the amygdala are different to any other human body or human beings. Now, drug addiction, again, is the addictive personality. So the basal ganglia plays a big part in this. When we do something once, imagine a clock face, the basal, it's a repeat, repeated part of the brain, repetition strength and confirms part of the brain. So let's say we fly, we want to fly a commercial jet. You need 10,000 hours in the air before you can not only legally fly one, but you can don't even think about it, kind of thing. So what happens with addiction is we get onto the addiction level and it goes around that many times for different reasons that it becomes a working part of the brain. Addiction can be cured. Any addiction can be cured. Alcohol is about addiction, food, cake, porn. Because what we found is that the the substance, the alcohol, the food, you know, the the porn has 1% to do with the addiction. So what we find is when we get people well by going back and clearing pathways and reprogramming brain patterns because it's all in patterns, we find out that the alcoholic and the addict. When clean of all the trauma and replanted neural pathways, are actually geniuses. We're geniuses. I don't know one stupid alcoholic or addict. I don't know. So when people come here, we build them careers. You know, I want to be, you know, a podcaster. Okay, we'll buy you a website, we'll get you some cards, we'll launch you, I'll introduce you to uh my guys with the big podcast guys and uh Rogan and stuff. Um and and then we retrain the brain to come away. So the biggest myth around addiction is A, I'm never gonna be anybody, and B, I can't get over it. And and that's not true. I used to love AA. I got sober in AA. I spent most of my life traveling the world speaking on behalf of AA. The book is amazing, but the people are crazy. So I stepped away some four years ago because they still believe that if if I'm an alcoholic and then that's it, I'm an alcoholic or a drug addict, and that's just my worth. That's not who you are. You know, if you went, if you had cancer, God forbid, and you went to the cancer hospital enough times and they say you're in remission that's all cured of cancer, would you still go back the next week and call yourself a cancer patient? No. Because internal dialogue becomes very powerful. So out dialogue into it, Rob, you're a piece of crap. I take that on as internal dialogue. Oh God, I must be a piece of crap. And I start to believe that. There was a great experiment that we did back in the 1900s, I think it was. I'm not sure. I had a friend who was a schoolmaster at a private school. And we said to them, This is how early we got into the neuroscience, before it was called neuroscience. I just knew the brain wasn't hardwired because of my own experiences. So the idea was we went down to the school. There was probably 25 young pupils there between, I don't know, nine and twelve years old. And we told them that we had an exam that we're gonna pass out, and it will tell you the top three students in your school, even if they're eight, nine, ten, who's gonna go on to be captains of industry and they're gonna change the world. And my friend headmaster said that's impossible. And I said, Well, get the board together and the parents and see if we could do this. It's just like 15 questions, it's nothing really. And they all agreed, so we went down on a Monday, we handed the test papers out. They all come in 30 minutes later. We said, We'll be back tomorrow with the top three. So we went back the next day and uh we said we got it, we got the top three. And the headmaster and some parents were there. So, well, who is it? I said, Well, Johnny. Johnny? Yeah, Johnny Smith. Oh, oh, okay. That that's are you sure? Oh yeah, we're sure. We're very confident. And then Billy and then Julie, and I said, Oh my god, that's uh two of them. I I I said, I'm telling you, our research is a hundred percent. It's okay. We'll be back in 12 on the sign. Please don't contact even my friend, don't make no contact with back in a year's time. Went back a year's later. They were waiting for us outside, waiting, there's loads of people waiting for us, all excited, cheering, clapping, and we got the car. And he said, Oh my god, Doc, you will not believe this. Unbelievable. The top three you told us, one's been accepted to college. He's 11 years old, Dr. Ross, 11 years old. The other two, blah blah, it's unbelievable. Master, how did you know? We need to know, we need to call the government. How did you know? And we sat them down and said, Here's what happened. We took the test papers away and we trashed them the next day. Then we pick three random names out of your school. And we come back and we told you they were going to be geniuses. And because we told you, you started treating them like geniuses, so they become geniuses. And that's 101 of life. That's one or if you get told you know if you can achieve something. Look at look at Roger Bannister. You might not know him, guys. Roger Bannister was the first guy that broke the four-minute mile as a British guy. It was impossible, nobody could do it. He broke the four-minute mile, one of his races. You know, three days later, somebody else broke it, and two days, and all of a sudden, a thousand people have done the four-minute mile. You can do anything that you put your mind to, and this is what people don't believe. Mind over matter. The mind sits inside the brain, mind over matter. If you could control the mind first thing in the morning and throughout the day, there's nothing you can't do. And people, when I came over to America and I said, you can do anything you want. You know what most people would say back to me? Well, I can't be president of the United States. Let's forget our political views for a second. We had a freaking businessman first term in charge of America that had no political experience whatsoever. Don't dare tell me you can't achieve your dreams. Somebody's put that there. It's not true.

SPEAKER_05 48:31

Yeah, and I will say this what you just said really hits home to a lot of hemophiliacs. Because Jay, I mean Carlin, you have probably been told you can't do X, Y, and Z. You can't, you can't, you can't. That's what we're told growing up. You can't, you know. Well, we we found out, yes, we can. And so, yeah, I just feel like anxiety, depression, that is very prevalent in the hemophilic community. Uh it is because we're constantly told no, no, no, no, no. And what we're finding is that, like you just said, hey, they just told those individuals, no, you are a genius. No, you can do this. Mind over matter. I feel like this should resonate with a lot of our listeners because you can do this. You can do what you want to do.

SPEAKER_03 49:19

Do you know? I always tell people, I tell people this when they come, they say, Well, doctor be honest with you, I don't believe it. And I go, okay, here's the deal. I'll book a court date tomorrow. You'll bring all the evidence that you can't do something. And I'll be all bring all the evidence that you can do that. And do you know that you're gonna be sat there with a piece of paper and you're like, I've got 25 boxes behind me for the paper. And do you know what the court the court's gonna do? She's gonna throw you out of the court for wasting their time. In fact, they might even charge you with contempt because you have no evidence that you can't do this. You have other people's opinions that you might, but you have no evidence. Give me one piece of evidence where you can't become blah. And they go, well, no, sorry, that's an excuse. Give me a reason why you can't do. And there isn't no reason. The only reason is our pre-thoughts and our and our early stages where people taught us how to be us, to be shameful. You know, we used to kick a ball, football, like, you know, soccer around the streets outside our houses, and it was to play a game, you should kick it over to John. John, where are you going to be when you grow up? Oh, I want to be a doctor. What about you, Billy? I want to be a footballer. Do you know what happened to them dreams? I'll tell you, they were kicked out of us by a family and friends. That's why we didn't achieve. Stop telling letting people tell you you can't do stuff when you can. If the people around you are not lifting you up, they're not your people. And this is what people find hard. They're not your people. Stop trying to teach a cow how to climb a tree. It's not going to happen. You know, go to a leopard, climb a tree, and two, that's leopards are your guys because you climb trees. The cows are not your guys. And they used to be, God bless them, but they can't be your guys now. Because what I would hate for anybody, especially the the the four of you on here, is to get to the age of 80 or 90, look back in your life to your 30s and 40s, and realize two things. One, there was nobody watching. And two, you really could have done anything you fucking wanted to do. Because that's the truth. Nobody can stop you.

SPEAKER_05 51:15

It is the truth. And you know, you look at Carlin, just as an example, he's also a bodybuilder. Carlin, tell him a little bit about your uh your coloring book. I mean, at an early age, like I just said, we're taught no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And you're not this, you're not this, you're gonna be this. Carlin, tell him a little bit about your coloring book and how you're inspiring younger generations. Uh, yeah.

Practical Daily Rewiring Tools

SPEAKER_02 51:38

So basically at a very young age, like we all have been talking about, and your last little segment that you said kind of almost brought me to tears because there's a lot of things in life that I kind of wanted to give a go, but I kind of really didn't. I pulled back due to the fact of me having the hemophilia, but I still got to enjoy that part of my life. So with the coloring book, it's more so of I'm giving the younger generation the key factors that I that we didn't have growing up. So, like giving you that you are something you are more than just hemophilia. So, like there's pages in there that goes and say there's a page where it says a kid is falling on a skateboard, and the other page will have a kid with a skateboard, but a hemophilia patient with elbow pads, helmet, knee pads, and say, Hey, we can do this, we just have to do this to safe way. Then there's also goes into about bullying and things of that nature. So those are kind of the things that I kind of went through through um having hemophilia, and I felt like with having a younger nephew that is going through hemophilia as well now, I felt like, okay, how can I create something for him to understand at the age of 10 and under versus when you go to these conferences at 10 and under, it's really just information for your parents. And sometimes the parents don't understand the information that has been given to them. So, like, I feel like giving something to the hemophilia community so that they can grasp and hold on to so they feel that they're not alone through the journey was the main key point of the coloring.

SPEAKER_04 53:14

I think like what he Dr. Rob was saying about the Roger Bannister story, that's what we are all doing. That's why we all came together. All of us are super close, and all we're doing is really trying to change belief, you know, removing those limited beliefs through our own actions and leadership. And uh, you know, that's why it's it's been so awesome to have you on here, Dr. Rob. Um, is there any practical ways when if somebody says today, okay, yeah, I was raised to say to, you know, to tell myself I can't do this, I can't do that, but I want to change. I want to be different. What can they do over the next month, two months on a daily basis that's gonna practically help them start eliminating those subconscious thoughts that are telling them they can't and they're not enough?

Removing Caps: Belief, Identity, And Closing

SPEAKER_03 53:53

Well, first of all, we're gonna write three things down on paper, pen to paper, not type, of what we're gonna achieve this month. That's it. Find the free down. Now we need to start believing in ourselves and changing patterns of self-sabotage. So I'll give you three things tomorrow morning, guys, that'll change your life. And it's not a case of, well, I hope it will change your life. It's biologically impossible not to change your life. The stuff I'm gonna give you now, and it's really simple. Again, let's go back to the breath work. The only reason why we feel good going to the gym is not the weight, it's starting between the sets. Don't be fooled. We need to get oxygen. So when you get up tomorrow morning, guys, sit on the bed, don't stand. You will go dizzy, otherwise, you're not doing it right. And I need you to take 20 exaggerated breaths in and out quickly. It's gonna look something like this. Really exaggerate and out. Let's flood the brain and every single cell in the body with pure oxygen. The subconscious brain hates that. So once we do that, we're alive, okay? Go in the bathroom, stand in front of the mirror, stand six feet away from the mirror, and say, I love you ten times. We're stuck in the subconscious brain now. Please don't get nearer to the mirror, guys, because when we get near to the mirror, we see all our blemishes. That's how we see, that's how we think people see us. But when you stand six feet away, the blemishes go. Because let's face it, when's the last time you went into the office? Hey, Jim, we don't do that. But we think that's what people know. Stand six feet away, blemishes gone. Let's change your neural pathways patterning around. If 300 die every day, let's replace them with new patterns, new behavior. If you brush your teeth with your right hand, one week left, one week right, one week left, one week right. Let's start changing the patterns. All in patterns, whether we finally find out how to get into good patterns, which you will do eventually, but most of us are in bad patterns and don't know it. So we we need to replace them thought patterns with new patterns, new dialogue, new, new uh, new introductions to different things, otherwise, we stay in the same routine. So if I'm doing today what I did yesterday, and today was yesterday was a crap day, guess what? It's gonna be a crap day today. You have to visualize stuff. Quantum physics backs us up. Let's say I've never played basketball, guys, and British. But let's say I did. I know there's 10 people on the court, maybe. Where would I want to be? If I can visualize 10 Dr. Robbs on the court, where would I want to be? I I don't know which call, but I want to be near the goal. I get the ball, I jump up, I slam it in the neck, and all of a sudden run the hero of the game. Sounds brilliant. Question needs to be begged to ask, how do you get there? And this is the answer. You walk over and you take that position. We don't fall for it, we don't beg for it. The hard work has been done. The hard work was the pain, the hard work was the losses. It's been done. Stop worrying about do I have to do any more work? You don't have to do any more work. For goodness sake, walk over and take the freaking position because you deserve it. And everybody who hears this today is hearing it for a reason. This is how the world works. One of the reasons of 65 is I'm still doing this stuff. I'm sick to death of people dying and living to an old age without living. I see people die at 30, but they don't really die till 60. Because the body, just like, oh, I'm no good, I'm no good, says who? Who's making these rules up? Who's asking these questions? No. We're each individually and eventually come together as a team because you've been chosen. So if you look about a psychological point of view, you don't have a choice over this. It's not about us. It's not when, and when you start thinking like that, and you can you can believe you can do anything in the world that you want to do, your identity starts to come back. Somebody who finds their identity away from illnesses, work, marriages become very dangerous people. Be a dangerous person. Who gives a shit about what you think about it?

SPEAKER_05 57:46

All of us here, all hemophiliacs except Dr. Rob, but he he uh but basically, you know, this goes out to everyone that's listening. I mean, this really changes your identity. This simple podcast and these simple little breadcrumbs that you can uh start your 30-day transition in 2026 and make it a habit. You know, make it a habit that you are, you know, practicing that mindset, writing down three goals for the month. It's just, I don't know, it's really empowering to know that like, yes, we do have hemophilia, yes, we do have a severe bleeding disorder. We have to do intravenous infusions, we do have chronic joint pain, but we also are Dr. Joe, we also are LA, we're also Jay, we're also Carlin. We are somebody outside of this, this, this disorder. And I think that should raise up so many hemophiliacs. Listening to this podcast is listening to Dr. Rob's message. Yeah, that doesn't define you. Hemophilia doesn't define you. And you have to start thinking that way, not just speaking that way, thinking that way. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 58:53

Think about who you are before the illness. I used to be an alcoholic called Rob. Now I'm Rob, and by the way, I used to suffer from alcoholism if you ask, but you don't need to know about that. You just need to know my identity today is Dr. Rob Kelly, a very powerful person in all kinds of ways, you know? And stop thinking that I can't touch alcohol. There are people who can't touch cheese. You think you think, oh, you don't you don't eat cheese? What's what why? It's not the same as alcohol. You don't drink. Why? Imagine going to a barbecue with cheese and asking you, do you want cheese? I don't eat cheese. Why? Why don't you eat? Nobody does that. The same thing with alcoholism. It's something that happens for me to be on a higher platform with a with an unstoppable message that nobody can argue with. A, I've been through it, B, I'm so educated in it. Three, I've got you know degrees behind me that most people don't have the opportunity to have, which means shit, by the way, when I'm teaching. But there's no limits on this. So let me finish with this guy. We wanted to find out limited beliefs from uh from uh mesh parents and stuff like that. So we got a thousand fleas from the from the pet store. We actually ordered them, and we took them onto my house and we put all of them into a big mason jar, and we stabbed holes in the top so there was oxygen, and our fleas can jump two or three feet in the air. We left them for three days with this cap on, with the puncher things. After three days, we took the cap off. Not one flea jumped higher than where the cat was. Which was interesting. But, and here's the but when they had babies in that jar, the babies wouldn't jump higher than where the cat was. They'd never even seen the cat. Limited beliefs and amessment from parents and caregivers. And it's not parents' fault. Gotta watch your man. Take that cap off.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:31

That's powerful. That's a powerful advantage. Yeah. Thank you so much for empowering our community today. This episode, guys, it wasn't just about addiction. It was about identity. It was about choosing who you want to become, even when you didn't choose what you're going through. Dr. Rob, thank you so much for being here. We appreciate your time. Thank you, Dr.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:48

Thank you.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:49

Gentlemen, thank you. We'll see you guys. Thank you. Bye.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:52

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