Poised Up
The Poised Up Podcast is where confidence meets unapologetic ambition. We’re all about leveling up, turning heads, and taking what’s ours—no hesitation, no apologies. From self-care and personal growth to mindset and making power moves, this is your no-BS dose of motivation with a side of style. Think of it as your backstage pass to real talk, bold strategies, and the unfiltered truth about what it takes to stand out and stay on top. Because being poised isn’t just about looking the part—it’s about owning every space you step into.
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Poised Up
The Problem With...
We're flipping conventional topics on their head and examining what's not working in modern life, from dating apps and corporate jobs to influencer culture and hustle mentality.
• Dating apps create mismatched expectations with many users just looking for casual encounters
• Corporate America's outdated structure accepted by previous generations needs rethinking
• Importance of building assets and investments beyond trendy platforms or single income sources
• Hustle culture can be redefined from quantity to quality with strategic focus on meaningful pursuits
• Our golden doodle Fendi makes an appearance as we debate pet ownership challenges
Stay blessed, do everything with intention, stay unbothered, stay prayed up, keep family and friends close, keep your peace close, and don't forget to stay poised.
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Speaker 1:Right. So welcome everybody to the podcast. The Poised Up Podcast is where confidence meets unapologetic ambition. We're all about leveling up, turning heads and taking what's ours no hesitations, no apologies. From self-care and personal growth to mindset and making power move. This is your no BS dose of motivation with a side of style. Think of it as your backstage pass to real talk, bold strategies and the unfiltered truth about what it takes to stand out and stay on top, because being poised isn't just about looking the part. It's about owning every space you step into. Stay bold, stay polished, stay poised up. All right, alright. So today we have a very interesting topic that I think a lot of people would actually like to hear us talk about. Today's topic is the problem with dot dot dot. So what we're going to do? We're going to take something ordinary like a dating app, corporate jobs, influencers, hustle culture, religion, family dynamics and flip it on top of its head. So today's topic is the problem with how you feel about that topic, babe I like that.
Speaker 2:I I think, uh, I think it's a very lucrative topic to talk about. I have a lot to talk about when it comes to this.
Speaker 1:Right, okay, so let's start off the problem with. So I got dating apps on my list right here, but I've never been on a dating app before, so I don't know the problem with dating apps. But I can imagine what the problem with dating apps are. But I'm going to let you start.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to think if I've ever been on a dating app like that. I mean, I'm a guy.
Speaker 1:No, no, no. Don't swipe left, don't swipe left, just to smash, that was it. It was like I was second tier.
Speaker 2:So that's the problem with dating apps. Women or I guess some men too, like a lot of people, are on these dating apps to kind of find love, and really people that's on these dating apps is looking to just kind of slide through as many people as they can, you know.
Speaker 1:Which is sick. So since you brought that up, I've never been on a dating app. But I will say the problem with a dating app is you don't know who these weirdos are.
Speaker 2:Man, it's scary, I can't imagine. Or they're my charts, you don't know what they're my charts.
Speaker 1:They're my charts. You got a good point looking like a test subject.
Speaker 2:You got so many things, man not a test subject yeah but some people use dating apps.
Speaker 1:you know, to each his own, I think zone. I think it's fine A way to like engage out with other people. You know, social media and just the Internet is a thing right now how people meet.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I just think you got to be extremely careful, extremely cautious. Yeah, you know, I mean, of course, have fun I'm definitely not the fun police have fun, date, sleep with who you want to sleep with. But I also remember, like, we only get one life and one body. You know what I mean. You don't want to mark your body up with you know. You just got to be careful.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely. And people, if you are on dating apps, meet that person in public.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely Don't be embarrassed.
Speaker 1:Be like, don't be embarrassed, definitely don't be like come to my house, yeah, don't be embarrassed. Like, oh, I met this person on a dating app and I'm meeting them in public and I don't know.
Speaker 2:I'm a guy though.
Speaker 1:Meet them in public, huh.
Speaker 2:I'm a guy. So, guys, when y'all go to these chicks' house, it's easy.
Speaker 1:Don't go to their house. I mean, yeah, I mean I don't advise it because you, it is way too many demonic, ungodly spirits out here.
Speaker 2:But fellas. If you are going to somebody's house, send a group chat to your location. Let them know where you're at, let them know who you're meeting.
Speaker 1:But with apps though, I mean, if people want to meet people, I love that. But guess what? I think a great way to meet somebody is just going to church. There's a lot of good people in church.
Speaker 2:Yeah, fellas, go to the grocery store. They're weighing.
Speaker 1:Go to Sam's Club and Costco's.
Speaker 2:They're weighing, especially Sam's Club and Costco. That means they're cooking. So you know you need a home-cooked meal. I'm just saying Okay, so let us switch to the next problem.
Speaker 1:What's the problem with corporate jobs? We got to be a little careful.
Speaker 2:We do got to be careful because we work in corporate. But my main issue that I think is the problem with corporate is I think that the generations before us just accepted anything.
Speaker 1:Oh, I never thought of it like that. You're right, generations before us just accepted anything.
Speaker 2:Oh, I never thought of it like that.
Speaker 2:So now the way corporate is ran is just like well, this is just how things go. And it's just like no, the way things are just going is just not making sense, no more. You know like we work all day, we work for eight hours, making somebody else billions and billions of fucking dollars I'm sorry, Sorry to cuss, but billions and billions of dollars and we're getting paid pennies and we're just supposed to be like okay, and then we're supposed to wait two weeks to get that money that we worked hard for. It's just the old wages is not working and I don't see it sustaining because these YNs and these young women, you know even smart and stuff like that, they're starting to get into making their own businesses.
Speaker 1:They are, which is so good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, streaming.
Speaker 1:I love that.
Speaker 2:Things like that, finding different ways to just get out of corporate America. I could see it dying in the next 10, 15, 20 years.
Speaker 1:What's scary is remember when TikTok was supposed to be going away. I was thinking about so many influencers that are on TikTok or whatever. They was about to be broke. So it's like you always need a backup. You know what I mean. Definitely have your own business. I think that's a plus, but if you are in like kind of entrepreneurial, like social media influencer type stuff, I feel like you always should have some type of backup in corporate America, whether you used to work in it and you can always go back or you got your own business, establishing your own assets for sure.
Speaker 2:For sure, like the thing with the getting rich off the trendy social media things is that I know it may seem like it, but these social media sites aren't lasting, aren't gonna stay forever forever like think about myspace. Well, myspace, black planet, not myspace.
Speaker 1:Our audience is 25, no, 25, oh my gosh, remember when we used to create like little stuff on your black planet?
Speaker 2:pages.
Speaker 1:I love that. We can put music and stars.
Speaker 2:Music and everything. My little pages was dope and, um, you know, we wasn't expecting that to ever leave. It was like, oh, it's going to be around forever and then it's gone.
Speaker 1:Wait, I'm sorry Because I love black.
Speaker 2:Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1:Is black planet still up?
Speaker 2:Can we go look at our Black Planet?
Speaker 1:page. I think it's a porn site. Okay, not too much, babe. Okay.
Speaker 2:Keep going. You can say porn on I know we just keep going.
Speaker 1:This is Welcome to Crimp and Poise guys.
Speaker 2:Oh my goodness, yeah. So yeah, back to the whole. The reason why I was bringing that up about how these social media platforms can just be gone in a day or sold to another company and things change is always have a backup plan. You know you're making all this money from streaming and stuff like that. Of course. Get yourself out of debt, that's number one. Pay off everything that you possibly can, even if you got to sit down for a minute, just sit down, pay off everything, be debt free and then after that, once those checks keep coming in, invest in something you know. I mean invest in something that you can just go to and be like okay, well, this is moving slow, tiktok is moving slow a cd, what you got oh, yeah, yeah look at some stocks.
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, definitely Some assets.
Speaker 2:Assets. Buy a crib, even if it's just one. Rent it out. Invest in crypto because we just don't know. You know, just like how some people are skeptical about crypto, a lot of people were skeptical about the stock market, so you know.
Speaker 1:It's always a risk, always a risk, everything, yeah. So you know it's always a risk with anything like that.
Speaker 2:Always a risk with everything, yeah. So why not take the risk and possibly become a millionaire in 10, 15 years, like? Who knows, you know, like just try it, but just make sure you got assets and not just, you know, keeping $100,000 under the mattress, because that is not going to be much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we can't do that, no more. We got to let our money make more money for us. Yeah, but I think the problem with corporate America is that a lot of times you feel as though you might have to fake it with relationships or just personality in order, in order to be around a certain different group of people that you may not interact with on a daily basis in your real life. Right, they're like I'm not being fake to that vp or that boss, you know what I mean. I'm not being fake to do this. I saw what it took and I would fake small talk real quick, but eventually it became normal for me and it kind of became interesting. So it's like I was able to navigate those relationships because I realized, like that human interaction of like someone wanting to know you and when they know you, they trust you, and when they trust you, you're good. You might know a little bit more about this than me.
Speaker 2:Oh influencer. The problem with influencer culture and this is actually hidden, personal to me because I'm a huge Drake fan. The problem with influencer culture, Uh-oh guys.
Speaker 1:Uh-oh guys so Darlene we're about to get into Drake conversation.
Speaker 2:Everybody is trying to go viral to be an influencer.
Speaker 1:Still, still. It's not going to stop.
Speaker 2:Technology is never going to stop. You know what I mean. So it's like take this Drake hate train, for example. For 15 years Drake has been giving hit after hit, supplying summer after summer.
Speaker 1:And everybody loved Drake.
Speaker 2:Everybody was loving.
Speaker 1:Drake.
Speaker 2:Everybody was singing the hooks. Everybody was rapping his verses. Everybody was in Drake. Everybody was singing the hooks. Everybody was rapping his verses. Everybody was in their car singing their hearts out.
Speaker 1:And all of a sudden this bum come out with two, three little bops.
Speaker 2:Not even the best. I could understand if it was Jay-Z. I could understand if Jay-Z came out and was coming at Drake.
Speaker 1:That's because Jay-Z is a legend, but this one person that never made music, came out with three bops. And everybody just on his tail. I'm like what is this? A follower world? We?
Speaker 2:living in. It's a follow trend, like everybody wants to be on the next big thing, so everybody wanted to be in their videos dancing to they, not Like Us, hoping that their video will go viral. You know what I mean. It's like ugh, even. It's like I'm a huge LeBron fan Huge LeBron fan. Lebron, in my eyes, couldn't have did no wrong, but just watching him go like switch up on Drake the way he did, it's just like damn, like basketball-wise. You the GOAT. You know what I'm saying. I personally have never witnessed a player like that.
Speaker 1:I thought you said basketball-wise.
Speaker 2:Basketball-wise. I was about to say I love basketball-wise. I know you love basketball-wise.
Speaker 1:Hey, Evelyn.
Speaker 2:But basketball-wise he's the GOAT, right, I personally I wasn't older. I guess I was older, but I wasn't watching Jordan. I watched Bruh Jordan. I watch him run. He's the GOAT. When it comes to personal I can't even say personal because I don't know him Just watching this characteristic of how he just switched up on Drake because Kendrick was the next big thing, it just changed my point of view. I think that's a big deal with Florida, Children's Children.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, absolutely. That was a good one. I know you are very passionate about that topic, so that probably needs to be a whole topic for the podcast, because this fake hate, drake, hate is crazy yeah. He got a lot to say about that and I'm sure you guys that know us already know he do I do Right. You guys that know us already know he do right. I mean, I I don't know what I can say about influencer culture.
Speaker 1:I don't really be knowing no influencers you know, uh, you know, jason lee jason lee is the bomb because he's he's so open and he's so honest and he's very smart. He's a mayor now. Did you know? That, oh, he won he won like a year or two ago. Yes, that's why I appreciate him, because he's smart and then he keep up with the little pop culture stuff, so I like that I rock with you. The only influencer I know that I'm like ooh yes, is Bernice Burgos. Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you got the body for it, all right.
Speaker 1:Not too much. Not too much. It's a public thing. But she's what? 50? Almost 50. Or 50. She got grandkids 50 she got grandkids, she got grandkids and I think she's 50 or almost 50. We gotta look up her age, but she is like so pretty to me you know, and so fit and just very like demure, isn't she? Yeah and is she an an influencer? She don't say much.
Speaker 2:And I like that type of influencer. That's the type of influencer I like. You don't have to say much, I don't say much.
Speaker 1:Today I am, but I don't say much. But I can impact when I'm walking around.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I like her. Yeah, influencer, influencer, all right, so now let's talk about another theme under the problem with dot dot dot. Let's talk about the problem with hustle culture. How do you feel about it?
Speaker 2:I mean, we're from Detroit, that's what we do. Everybody hustle, everybody work their corporate job but do 50 million things on the side. Hustle, we get to it, you know, for playing yeah you know, we don't wait for no handout. So I respect hustle culture. I just don't respect it when they come in like of course I don't. I'm not nobody's hustle, but the scammers. You know what I mean. Like just taking somebody's information.
Speaker 1:That's sick.
Speaker 2:You know, like I don't look at that as hustling, I think I look at that as that's lazy. You know what I'm saying. Like you, smart, you can go build a server for somebody, or you know what I'm saying, Do something like that. But the scamming because you're scamming older people or you're scamming your regular day Americans you know what I'm saying Regular day people that you see every day and you know taken from family and friends I just don't rock with that.
Speaker 2:You know, what I'm saying, but a hustle, go get your money, go do whatever it is that you got to do to live the life that you want to live. You know what I'm saying, as long as it's not infringing on nobody else's lifestyle.
Speaker 1:Right, Isn't it bad that? Okay, wait. So what? Before I say that comment? What is your interpretation of hustle?
Speaker 2:Hustle.
Speaker 1:Like the hustle culture.
Speaker 2:Like just wake up every day and get to it.
Speaker 1:Like you just go okay. So in that space I like the hustle culture okay you know like I feel like that, that's what I do.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean like I get up everybody you know, get up, do what you got to do, whether it's taking care of your kids and taking care of your household Responsibilities on the weekend, going to work. You know saving money Going to the bank, figuring out how to invest, how to save. You know making sure your kids are straight, making sure your marriage or your relationship is straight, but like hustle culture in a different dynamic, I don't know if I care about it.
Speaker 2:Why.
Speaker 1:Like when people are just like oh, I'm out here hustling, I gotta do X, I gotta do this, I gotta do X, y, z, I gotta do that to make money and do this Chasing money. That has never been my thing. Like I don't like to be stressed out hustling in order to make my money. I'd rather have something where I'm passionate about. It's a steady thing and I'm making the money that I want. I don't want to have two or three jobs. I want to have one job that pays great, versus three jobs and I'm stressed out, but I'm making money. You know what I mean. Like I feel like maybe I'm a different type of hustler when I think about the word hustle.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean it's definitely a different type of hustler. When I think about the word hustle, well, I mean it's definitely a different type of hustle. You know what I mean. You hustle in your corporate job to get to where you want to be, that's true. Then you got people that don't want to work a corporate job that hustle to still feed their family. That's true. So that's why I say I don't knock nobody's hustle.
Speaker 1:Do what you got to do, get your money. Thank you, so, thank you. So we got one more topic the problem with family dynamics yeah, no thanks no thanks on the topic. We don't okay. Yeah, I don't really have a problem with family dynamics I don't.
Speaker 2:I love my family.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2:It's like that's we, we all, we got, you know, family, regardless of stuff that happens, it's like, at the end of the day, we love our families but just because you got that family title don't mean that you can just do and say and act how you want, like you still have to treat me as if I'm a human being. You can't just do something I don't like and then just kind of like ignore it like it never happened.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:That's respect for human beings in general, I didn't do that.
Speaker 1:You know. So I mean that always should happen for sure, like especially with family and friends. You got to have respect for each other, and if it's to a point where somebody don't have respect for you or feel like they could do and say whatever, that's not respect and that's not love and that's not family you know, so I agree with you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I respect you so much because you really really do a lot and you really really care. Yeah, always yeah, like you really care and like when you can't do it. I don't know if people realize how much you care that you couldn't do something.
Speaker 2:Right, you know, I applaud you for that. Well, thank you, I appreciate that. I don't know, because nobody will ever know. Yeah, because I'm not one of those people that like do stuff to hold it over your head oh yeah, you don't do that or I'm not going to do something and be like well.
Speaker 1:I did this for you you should do this. For me, it's never a quip you just have a caring heart, like I think you legitimately just do stuff because you care and that's why I love you oh, thank you.
Speaker 2:I appreciate that I love you.
Speaker 1:Oh, thank you. I appreciate that. I love you y'all. I said I love you because he didn't say I love you too back that is crazy you didn't say it, but I was.
Speaker 1:I appreciate that you should say I love you too, back instantly. But yeah, so that was. I appreciate that you should say I love you too, babe, Instantly. But yeah, so that was the family topic. Is there any other? The problem with topics we should talk about? I mean it's 40 minutes. We got like maybe five more to do a full little podcast we can talk about, like relationships, co-parenting, the problem with having the golden doodle.
Speaker 2:Don't put Fendi. She is all on my lap right now.
Speaker 1:Do not put Fendi in your problems.
Speaker 2:Fendi is a problem.
Speaker 1:Fendi is not. First of all, guys, I just want you guys to know right now, as he's saying this, he is rubbing her head. She is leaning her chin on his knee. He is looking into her eyes, is rubbing her head, she is leaning her chin on his knee and he is looking into her eyes, rubbing her head. He's talking about he got a problem with her.
Speaker 2:It's a trap. Don't get a golden doodle.
Speaker 1:It is a trap, though.
Speaker 2:It's a trap.
Speaker 1:They are a lot, but I love golden doodles.
Speaker 2:Y'all probably can hear her snoring.
Speaker 1:She snored with her eyes open because her head is getting rubbed. That's crazy. You miss Dior. Shout out to Dior, her sister. Shout out to Kinks, her brother. Shout out to Teddy, her other brother, you got a big family Fendi. Yeah, but I feel like you know this was a good podcast.
Speaker 2:Good first podcast.
Speaker 1:Did we want to go into relationship stuff or no? Not tonight. I mean that's just a topic.
Speaker 2:That can go on for a long time. The problem with Relationships, people don't really say what they want.
Speaker 1:Past relationships and moving on to the next one, oh, that's a whole thing. That's a whole another podcast. But guess what guys? Stay tuned for the next topics in the next episodes. If y'all want to hear the tea, clock it, you clocking it, babe.
Speaker 2:I'm clocking it.
Speaker 1:The way you clock it.
Speaker 2:Don't disrespect how I clock it.
Speaker 1:But yeah, the way you clock it don't disrespect how I clock it, but yeah. So this was a great conversation. I'm happy we talked about all the problems with those topics. Everybody, don't forget to stay blessed, do everything with intention, stay unbothered, stay prayed up, keep family and friends close. Keep your peace closer, father. Stay prayed up, keep family and friends close, keep your peace closer. And don't forget to stay poised.
Speaker 2:Get this money.
Speaker 1:Hey, we out.