This is BUILD IT, BABY!, the show for big ideas, brave pivots, and bold next chapters. So let's do it. Let's build it, baby.
Penelope:
Stay right here because today we're going to break that wide open. I'm Penelope Bent, and this is BUILD IT, BABY!, the show where you don't wait for clarity. We build it. And today I want to give you something practical, a tool you can actually use to see through limitations, through failure, and through where you are right now and into where you're going. This is a how-to, and I'm ready. So let's do it. Let's build it, baby.
So today I want to introduce you to something I call the fourth eye. Now we all move through life using different ways of seeing, but people never realize there's more than one way. And let me break it down very simply. The first eye is what is. That's your reality, what's in front of you, the facts. And then there's the second eye. That's your focus and your interpretation. What went wrong, what you're afraid of, what you think it means. And then we all know about the third eye. We've all heard of this: your intuition, your inner wisdom, your deeper knowing. But today I want to talk about what I believe is the fourth eye. It's part of creation, it's part of creating.
Now most people are trying to build their lives, their businesses, their next chapter, using only what they can currently see, their circumstances, their past, their bank account, their resume, and of course their mistakes. And it's very three-dimensional thinking. I get that. And if you're only building from what's right in front of you, you will keep recreating what you already have time and time again. So more of the bad will keep coming into your reality. You'll be creating the same loop of what your current circumstances are and most of what you don't want.
But the fourth eye, that's the one most people never learn how to use. The fourth eye is the ability to look through the obstacles, the troubled times, through the financial limitations, through the disappointment, and still see what's forming on the other side. The fourth eye is different. It's the ability to see beyond your current reality. It's when you see possibility before there's proof. You recognize direction before there's a clear path.
And trust me, this is not fantasy, it's not wishful thinking. Through all my experience, I've learned this, it's a skill. It's a skill-based belief or technique, if you will. And today I'm going to show you how to start using it because I can tell you every meaningful shift I've made in my life, every reinvention, every build, every comeback started before I had evidence it would work. It started because I could see it before I could prove it. I could see it through the haze, the fog of all the limitations and all the obstacles. I could see the goal, the dream, the finished product, and you know what? I never took my eyes off of it. It was the sharper image, it was what I was completely focused on.
And I want that for you. I don't want you to be sitting there knowing you're meant for more and feeling like you can't access it. I want you to be able to use this to tap into it on demand, to shift yourself when you're in it. Because you can.
So let me show you how to actually do this.
Step one, call out what you're seeing, what's actually in front of you, the numbers, the situation, the setback. Just name the damn thing.
And then number two, separate the fact from the meaning, the what's real, and what are you making it mean about you. You need to develop a separation between what you see as your setbacks and what you really think that says about you. Because 90% of the time, there is really no connection there other than the way you label it, the meaning that you give it.
And then step three, ask the fourth eye the question. If this were working for me instead of against me, what would it be? What would I be building?
And at that point, decide where you're going anyway. Not based on proof, not based on your direction. Take one step from the place, not the perfect step, just the next one. That's it. That's starting to use the fourth eye.
And the way I think of this, and the way I can explain it, is that I want you to envision a tunnel, a dark tunnel, and you're on the one side of the tunnel, and through the tunnel is this bright light at the end, and that's the business that you want to build, that's the life that you want to build, that's perhaps the career that you want to move forward toward. And it's bright and it's beautiful, and you have all the details in your head of what that looks like at the other end of that dark tunnel.
And in between you and the goal, the build, the dream, is this kind of a haze. It's a haze of thoughts that are limitations. Then once you think you can get through that haze, then you're going through the haze of self-doubt. And once you go through that haze, you'll hit another haze.
And what I believe the fourth eye does is it looks at the reality of it just being a haze. It's just a thought. It's a thought with no power unless I give it power. So if I can stay tuned in to what I see with my fourth eye, I can see through the bullshit. I can see through the limitations that I gave myself, I can see through the nagging self-doubt that keeps rolling around in my head that says you can't possibly be that big.
So every step of the way as you go through this tunnel, as you walk through this dark, foggy, hazy tunnel with all of these very small-minded thoughts about why you can never have that goal, why you can't have that dream, you develop an eye that sees so clearly through the haze that you keep stepping out toward the dream.
And here's where I see the disconnect. Many have been taught or believe failure means you're messed up. It means stop. Failure means you weren't good enough. But builders, they know something different.
First, there is no such thing as a failure. The word just makes me nuts. Failure is really just data gathering. So your plan didn't quite work out as originally suggested in your idea. But you're gathering data. So that one wasn't the perfect formula, but now I've learned. So I'm going to gather that data, I'm going to add it into the plan, and now I'm reshaping it.
Failure is contrast, it's helping you feel sometimes when you have to feel terrible to get yourself in gear, to make that decision that you want and deserve better. So failure is just really helping you collect the data and the feelings to make the move, to walk through the tunnel, to walk through that haze.
Failure is the learning of the valuable information your future self will need. You just don't wake up and know all this stuff. You have to learn on the way. And if you don't walk through the limitations, if you don't see through them, if you don't see through the haze, then how on earth do you think you're going to build anything because you can't learn how to build it that way?
The fourth eye doesn't deny your feelings of feeling like failure. It just simply knows it for what it is. It studies it. It asks, what did this reveal about me? What did this strip away? What can't be unseen now? What did I discover?
Failure isn't the opposite of success. It's the classroom for success. It's where you learn to design or redesign, you learn to shape what your future, what your life is going to look like, and you keep reshaping it and you keep walking in that tunnel and you keep walking toward that bright light.
You walk because you know that you can see through the failure now, you can see through the limitations.
Let's talk money. Honestly, this is number two. Most people see financial limitations and think, oh my god, I'll never get ahead. This is just how it is. Other people have it easier. But if you tap into your fourth eye, it sees something else. It sees constraints as part of the creative process, it sees disciplines that are forming. It sees discernment shaping, and it sees values clarifying.
And some of the strongest builders I know didn't start with abundance, they simply started with awareness and enough faith in the project to keep moving forward. And the fourth eye, it says this isn't permanent, this is formative.
Prosperity doesn't begin in your bank account. Prosperity begins in how you relate to what you have right now.
And let me tell you, my friend, I have watched my bank account get to the bottom of the barrel. And there were times that I just felt like I had no idea where I was going to find the strength to keep my eye on the sparrow, to keep moving toward my goal. I was spending money on the build, I was spending it, and money was not coming in as quickly as I needed it to.
But I didn't stop working and using my fourth eye. I let that be the brighter light. I let that goal be the one, the knowing that if I could just keep walking through it, I didn't let my bank account slow me down. I almost developed a mentality of I'm going to do it anyway, and I have no idea how, but the money is going to be there when I need it.
And here's the third step. And this one's the hard part. The fourth eye doesn't show you immediate relief, it shows you meaning in the middle, the uncomfortable space where you don't feel successful yet. You don't identify with the old version anymore, and you're standing in between identities.
And that's where most people panic. But builders pause, because this space is where courage is formed. You build that self-trust. And those old stories, those old self-doubts, all the limitations that everyone that meant well has told you that this could not come to pass, those lose their grip.
And the fourth eye doesn't promise ease, but it promises the truth. And the truth builds things that last.
This is where the fourth eye really wakes up. It sees it, it knows it. It is no longer a dream, it's not a mirage, it's an absolute.
To me, the fourth eye is one of the strongest tools in the creative process. Why? Because the fourth eye has power. It has power to create, it has power to manifest my desires and my dreams.
And when you keep your eye on the sparrow, the dream, the goal, and you begin to see through the illusion of limitations, when you make that determined decision to take that one bold step through the fog, trusting in the power of the creative process, you will discover with every step your dream or idea is clearer. It will become brighter. It can almost look like it has light behind it.
And you know what you're really doing? Through your own creative urge, the gift you were given at birth, you are creating, you are manifesting. Whatever you see at the end of your tunnel, you are moving from the unseen to the seen. You're moving toward the dream.
You don't wait for business opportunities, career change, or better life to float in your door. You use your fourth eye, you create it in your mind's eye, you imagine it, you see it, and all the detail. See every aspect of the business you want to build or career, or what you want to have your life in your dreams to be, and you hold on to it, you focus with all your might, and then you step out and you walk toward it.
So here’s the part where I tell you exactly what I know. These are my knowings, the things I no longer question because they've shown themselves to me again and again—not from a book, but from building, getting knocked down, getting back up, and doing this work in the real world.
So here are my knowings.
I know that the warrior in me has already won, and my plan will come to pass.
Number two, I know that I see clearly and act quickly with poise and confidence.
And number three, I know that I draw from the universe irresistible power and determination, which is mine by divine right.
Those are my knowings.
Okay, so it's time for our listener question.
And this is from Sarah from Indiana. This is a good question.
Sarah writes, Penelope, I feel like I am holding back from living my dreams, and I cannot pinpoint what my issue really is. Any suggestions?
Well, Sarah, I can tell you I have been there many, many times, and it is a very odd feeling. It kind of is a blah. I know where I want to go. I just don't know how to begin. It's almost like all the ideas are overwhelming, and you really can't put your finger on what is the real block that is keeping me from moving forward.
So when that has happened to me, and what I can share with you is that for me, I think you need to shift environments for a minute.
And what I mean by that is it may mean you need to take a drive and go to the outdoors where there's a wooded area where you can sit for a moment, especially if there's a lot of dirt and foliage around, a place that's quiet. It doesn't have to have a great view.
But one technique that I have used, and this has really worked for me in the past, is that you sit on the ground with your legs crossed, where your spine, your tailbone, really feels the dirt. And kind of with your arms laying on your knees, stretched out, so that your heart is open. And close your eyes.
And if you can, start to reach up into a higher consciousness and bring some white light through your body, through your spine, to your tailbone. And from your tailbone, imagine it like a tree trunk where the roots are starting to spread out into the dirt.
And what I have noticed happens when I can drop my body into the ground and feel attached and connected and rooted, and stay in that position trying to eliminate as many ideas and thoughts that come into the builder's mind.
Because I think what happens and what is required is I think there's a time in building our lives, a time when we need to dump, when we need to dump all the ideas, when we need to dump all the plans, when we need to dump and get back to the basic origin of who we are and how we're connected to the universe.
And by allowing yourself to re-root to your being and emptying all of those thoughts, even if it's just for a very short period of time, even if you're sitting there and the mind is chattering, and if you can just start to breathe.
And one of the techniques that I learned really early on is that you take a deep breath in through your mouth and hold that breath for the count of seven, and then let the breath out very slowly with the count of eight, which normally would require you to really feel those muscles as you let that air out.
So while you're feeling those roots grow and connecting you to your being, perhaps blend in some of the breathing where you're taking that breath in and you're holding it for the count of seven, and then really digging deep and letting it out through the count of eight, really releasing all the chatter, all the mind, all the thoughts, all the requirements, all the confusion, all the fear, and allow yourself to just find the raw you again.
And when you feel that you're at peace, don't jump up and start doing calisthenics. Be mindful of your being, be gentle with yourself. Take a slow stroll back to the car or the way that you came upon your setting, your wooded area.
And then for the next 24 hours or for the evening, really try to avoid any of your social media or anything that would confuse the peace and harmony.
If you can extend your afternoon to a wonderful bath or a beautiful swim or watching the sun go down as you're enjoying your beverage of choice, and just reuniting with who you are, with who you know yourself to be, and taking that with you into a deep, safe night's sleep.
I will assure you, or at least that's been my experience, that by the morning, by the rise of dawn, when life looks brighter, you will have been able to perhaps come closer to pinpointing what it is that has been in your way, what has been blocking your movement.
And if you get closer to discovering or you discover whatever that block is, then gracefully take a look at it, put some time aside to address it, to tear it down, to dismantle whatever you have to or learn from whatever that blockage is there in your way to where you want to be.
It will give you the strength and the insight to look at the cause, to look at what you need from it, because most obstacles are always what we really needed. You just need to look deeper into them and look at their benefit and why they were placed in your path.
So, Sarah, I hope that helps. I hope that helps you find what is standing in your way. I hope you pinpoint it. I hope you find it. And I really wish you well on this amazing journey called life.
Thanks so much for the question.
Okay, it's that time. Thank you for listening to BUILD IT, BABY! And please remember, we don't wait for clarity, we build it. That is called success by design. We walk toward it. We walk through the self-imposed doubts, through the negative chatter, through it all, we walk toward it. And that is how you build it, baby.
Always best, P.
BUILD IT, BABY! is a Rainy Day Production House original, hosted by Penelope Bent and produced and edited by Morgan Clymer. Music by Yuri Shemshishin and Oleksii Holubiev. If this episode spoke to you, please follow the show and leave a review. It helps more dreamers like you find us. And remember, you’re not just building a bold business or career—you’re building a bold life.
