0:00 - Introduction
<br>0:50 – Who are doctors Don and Carrie Cole?
<br>3:37 – Don and Carrie’s roles at the Gottman Institute
<br>5:03 – Some couples struggle with some problems in their relationship at some point. Why?
<br>6:56 – Marathon therapy; how it works and how it helps
<br>8:54 – How COVID has changed the way therapy is done
<br>10:47 – How Don and Carrie work together with couples
<br>12:51 – Why it’s harder for men to connect with therapists
<br>15:33 – How the Gottman method is validating for men in therapy
<br>16:45 – Stress reducing conversations; an idea born out of research
<br>19:05 – Don & Carrie role play good and bad stress reducing conversations
<br>21:43 – Avoiding the “two don’ts” - don’t problem solve and don’t side with the enemy
<br>24:19 – Creating more rituals of connection
<br>26:10 – Couples are turning away from each other and towards their phones
<br>28:09 – Turning toward moments may be small but they do add up
<br>30:54 – When things aren't feeling right, you have to fix it
<br>32:40 – A gentle startup makes all the difference
<br>35:38 – Couples who are connected to each other have a lot of rituals that they really enjoy doing together
<br>37:56 – Finding out what is at the heart of the issue
<br>39:00 – “You don’t have to change to satisfy me” - honoring your spouse40:00 – Don & Carrie’s takeaway: be openly curious and proactive with your partner
<br>41:17 – Dave & Liz takeaway: doing small things often to keep the connection strong