Deep Heartfelt Success

Quiet The Mind, Hear The Heart

• Heidi Marke, The Gentle Rebel Coach • Season 1 • Episode 13

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A behind-the-scenes share of how I am approaching the New Year differently, guided by the body, the heart and a quieter kind of ambition. 

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Hello, welcome to the Deep Heartfelt Success Podcast. Success that feels even better on the inside than it looks on the outside. Hello, I'm Heidi, Heidi Mark, transformational coach for big-hearted, driven professionals who want more, more ease, more joy, more capacity to fully experience and enjoy the success you've worked so hard for. Because real success isn't just about achieving more. Although I'm sure you want more. It's about expanding our capacity to feel confident in it, to really enjoy it. It's time to start feeling the fulfilment, the freedom, and the ease you've worked so hard for. This is where traditional success ends and deep heartfelt success begins. Welcome to the adventure. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome to this week's episode. It's lovely to have you here. How are you doing? I hope you had a lovely Christmas and that you're getting a chance to slow down and connect with yourself as the year turns. At least I know that's what I like to do. So I've been thinking a lot about the mind and how when my mind feels clear, everything's easier. And as I believe there's an easier way, and I want that easier way, the more I can support my mind, nourish my mind, the better. And one of the ways I do this is to allow my heart and my body to weigh in on the conversation because I know that my mind is primarily easily distracted because it's linked to my nervous system, so it shuts down and I get into binary thinking whenever anything is fear-based. The problem with that is it's not always easy to work out what's fear-based. So very often I can be just thinking away, planning my day, thinking about what I want to do. Whereas actually, that's not the best way, maybe to be setting up my day, and I have to just reset and think, ah, am I doing all of these things which suddenly feel like quite a lot to try and do in one day? What am I up to here? What am I doing? What do I really want? Because it's I don't know about you, but it's very, very easy for me to get overwhelmed by all the things I feel need to be done. Then they press in in on me. And if I just go underneath that little bit, I can find some level of fear. I don't mean, you know, rabbit and headlight fear. I mean I kind of like when I when I get rid of those things, then I'll feel better fear. So there's a difference, isn't there, in doing something because it's clearly your purpose. It's clearly going towards what you want to achieve, and doing something because it's kind of in the way of being able to think clearly. And the problem is if I try and do all of the things in order to get headspace to then do the important thing, which is a really easy habit I find to get into. I just do all of this and then I'll have space, but then I've used the best energy of the day to clear the space. But it there isn't, I mean, for a start, there isn't an end to the stuff that needs to be done, it's just endless. And secondly, it's not actually that high priority stuff, it's not the most important thing. Now, sometimes I might do a little bit of light task just to kind of warm my brain up if I'm moving into work mode, but it's very tempting and easy for me to slip into the when this, then that. When I've got all this stuff out of the way, then I'll be able to focus properly. Whereas actually, if I drop out of my head into my body, connect with that stillness inside me and remember what I'm really up to. Remember who I am and what I'm up to. Pay attention. What am I up to? Who did I want to be? How do I want to be? What am I doing? Reconnect reconnecting to that real heartfelt purpose, then actually the busy work falls away unless it's essential, and then it can just be programmed in. And there is there is, you know, this is never an easy thing, is it? We've always got to make a decision about what to do first and what to do. But just catching that and nourishing my mind, I find to be really helpful. So this week I'm preparing to one of the things I'm doing is preparing to give the workshop, the new year's workshop, on Sunday. I do hope that you're coming. There's a link in the show notes, or just go to HeidiMart Quietly Unstoppable, and you can register and join me. It'd be lovely to have you there. And what we do at that workshop is review this year and then set up for next year, which is what a lot of workshops do and a lot of self-development practices do. So, what's different about this? Well, this is based on the idea that we can turn overwhelm into joy if we can stay focused on what will bring us joy. And what brings us the most joy is what actually deeply matters most to us, as opposed to the things that ought to be done, should be done, the stuff that's in the way of that peace and joy. It doesn't mean we don't want to do all of those things. Well, actually, there's quite a few things we don't really want to do, but we feel like we have to, and that's a decision, isn't it? It's just that it's easy for time to get swallowed up in the doing stuff in order to have the space to do the really important stuff. What I find is by asking that question, what do I want, I can get different answers depending on where I'm standing and looking. So if I ask my mind what I want, it will give me a different response than if I get out of my head into my body and ask just my body. Or if I then ask my heart. So there's different stages of this, there's there's different ways of asking the same question to get a different response, and then just deciding that am I happy with the response I've got? Now, when we do the workshop, it's 90 minutes and we go really deep, and having a group of people live together, the energy is amazing and really helpful, and having me guide you is incredibly powerful and helpful. So I really recommend if you can make that space that you show up live or you register and get the replay. But live is really, really good and really special because it kind of it focuses the mind and really helps you connect deeply. But what's interesting is even when we've done that, I still strongly believe that we need time to percolate. It's easy to get carried away, isn't it, this time of year? I the year's turning, I need to reflect. I really ought to reflect on last year, and what do I want for this year? And then it's just like it's done. New Year's resolutions are the worst example of this, aren't they? And apparently most people have given up on their New Year's resolutions by the 4th of January when the workshop is. Instead, we leave the workshop with a heartfelt wish list, and then we allow it to percolate because other things will come up. Because when you ask a good question and you send that question through your body into your heart, it's going into your subconscious, and gradually stuff will just pop up, pop up, pop up, and you'll get a richer and richer and more well-defined heartfelt wish list as you move through January. And giving yourself that space, I think it's really really helpful. So I'll just let you know where I am with this. So before giving the workshop, I do the workshop, and then I can see whether it still resonates, any improvements to make, but primarily because I walk my talks, it's really important, and this is my time too. And I don't want to be doing, I don't want to be thinking, I don't want to be kind of triggering my responses while I'm holding the workshop. So I did mine yesterday, and I've now got a heartfelt wish list that I'm really excited about, but I know it's not done, and I really like the fact that it's not done because it means it's not, it doesn't have to be perfect, there's no pressure, it's not finished, and I'm just allowing stuff to pop up, and I'm just noticing and catching, and and then I'll look at themes, and then I'll condense it down, and then what will come out of that is the general feeling that I want to feel. What what is my purpose? What's my strongest calling and desires and longings to feel? What am I up to in 2026? And what we're doing here, I believe, so to connecting to heart and body comes from my Zen teaching, but what we're really doing is is tapping into the subconscious and allowing the words to come through onto the page through and then eventually reconnecting that to the conscious mind, but we're bypassing, largely bypassing the conscious mind to get a deeper, more courageous, more exciting list. That's not just because that's what we want, right? We we want to have a fuller year. It's also for me, part of this turning overwhelming into joy is not just identifying what matters most to you, what truly matters, what lights you up, what energizes, what brings you the most joy. But it's also, I believe, because once you've done that, that that list also becomes your compass. Because you've used the subconscious, you've used the heart and the body to identify it, it becomes easier to stay connected to it. Whereas a mind-based list can be really hard to stay with because it made sense at the time, but now it feels like a bit of pressure. You know, it can be made, it can be fear-based, it can be anxiety-based, it can be judgment-based. In fact, it's most likely to be because that's how the mind works. This is like buy one, get one free because it it's a big problem, isn't it? With getting really excited about something, especially this time of year. It's funny because really we can do this at any point in the year. Any point in the year we could tap into our hearts and ask what do we really want and set a course for a month, a week, a year. But there is a powerful energy about this time of year which I think is worth riding, worth just taking. It's an opportunity, it's an invitation. I'd love to know actually from my listeners in New Zealand and Australia and the other side of the world whether you have the same feeling. Because obviously, we've got we've got long stretches of darkness, although I'm delighted to report that it's now getting one minute more daylight every day now, although it's still getting darker slightly in the morning. But anyway, I'm very excited because we've passed the shortest day, and I just feel utter, utter relief. So I'm wondering whether you have the same thing where it's darker, so it's kind of like this it is this turning inwards and going within and thinking whether that's that the turn of the year does has the same effect in the sunshine. I I'd love if somebody would let me know because I find that a really interesting idea. Doing this turning inwards as the year turns in sunshine, what would that be like? It might be better. Well, to me, sunshine's always better. I'm embracing wintering at the moment. I'm embracing it rather than constantly planning escapes to warmer climbs because I do live here and I do love where I live, so let's let's remember all of the good stuff about it. One thing I did want to mention about this is the timing, the timing of the year, and the fact you could do it anyone and that you don't need it to necessarily be December to January or longer nights. The Gently Rebellious One Minute Journal version 2 is now published. It's deliberately undated for that very reason because it's easy for us to put up barriers, isn't it? Oh, I'll do it at the end of the year. Oh, I've missed the beginning of the year. So if you are interested in having that, it's a really useful tried and tested method of keeping your mind focused on what matters most to you using this exact method, connecting to your heart and your body, creating a heartfelt wish list, and then tapping into that for one minute every morning. It's really powerful. It's not dated so that you my hope is that it allows you to find it at any time in the year, and also if you forget and you know have a day off or weeks off, it doesn't matter because you just go, well, I'll just do the next page. It's really important, I think, to forgive ourselves and just go, oh well. To not be not be succumbed to the shame of I failed. No, just pick the journal up and get back in the game. Come on, it matters, you matter, how you are in the world matters. Let's do this. So I actually have three things at the moment to help you with this nourishment of the mind and keeping the mind on track. Obviously, there'll be other episodes about that. And my previous podcast, Overwhelm is Optional, also has resources for that. But right now, here's where I am. So the first thing is to come to the workshop or register so you can get access to the recording. The second one, and that uncovers your heartfelt wish list for the year. A really deep, courageous, exciting, energizing you, very bespoke to you, which obviously you don't share with anybody at the workshop, by the way. It's all very private, which is lovely, and that percolates through January, and then you need things to help you stay focused on it. So it's it's identifying what matters most to you, and then staying focused on it for the whole 12 months rather than getting excited, doing a workshop, reading a book, rebooting, and then falling off again over and over again, which I know is a common cycle. We get inspired, we have clarity of vision, it's going really well, and then we lose it. We lose that focus, and then we drop it, and we try to get back on, and it's quite difficult to do. So we want to break that circle because imagine what would happen if you could stay focused on what matters most to you. Your dreams would come true, you'd feel amazing. It's what you want, right? So it's worth it's really worth focusing on. So the workshop's there for you if you want if you want a guided opportunity, a strong, powerful, guided opportunity to uncover your heartfelt wish list for 2026. And when I say your heartfelt wish list, it always sounds like there's one, there's many, but it gives you the chance to get the the best version for you now, the most exciting, the easiest to follow follow because it's yours rather than a mind-based one, which can feel quite pressured. Secondly, there's the gently rebellious one-minute journal, which is a tried and trust tried and tested method in one minute every day to stay focused on it, and also has the journal method at the journal method, the workshop method at the beginning. So that's there for you, available on Amazon, the Gently Rebellious One Minute Journal, Heidi Mark. Just search for it, you find it. And lastly, just to let you know that I'm also have decided to offer five people. Obviously, I can't fit in everybody, I'm offering five, so get in quick, special new year coaching packages. This is just a two-session one. So one, identify what matters most to you, and two, stay focused on it. So you'll end up with a a heartfelt wish list and a personalized strategy to stay focused on it for the whole year. So if you're interested in that, then just email me Heidi at heidimark.co.uk and let's talk. So where are you with all of this? Are you ready for the new year? If you're not, can I just say it doesn't matter? You can't miss it. I d I firmly believe that the year turns and then we have the whole of January. To me, it just doesn't make any sense to go guns blazing into January. It's dark, the days are short. Sorry, New Zealand and Australia. It just doesn't feel like the right time of year. It feels like we need more time. Isn't it better to be more prepared? So I'm reading the story of oh no, I'm gonna get this wrong. When who was the famous person who went to I'm terrible at this Antarctica, they went to the endurance, the ship, got stuck. Anyway, I'm reading this book, which feels quite funny. I've never read a boat like this. And they spent all the time just stuck in snow. I'm not entirely sure what's happening. I'm pretty sure they've just gone backwards, which is really disappointing. But anyway, I'm amazed at how resilient and incredible these men are. Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness, they're amazing. It's it's a really inspiring story, although it does tend to make me feel really cold because obviously it's in Antarctica, so it's it is really cold. But what I was gonna say was the the months of preparation, it was the the preparation, you can see how much preparation went into the trip, even though things keep going wrong. Spoiler alert. Um you can see how much preparation went into it, and and what that preparation does, and that even when they're struggling, there's there is strict discipline of preparing. The preparation matters, the preparation's huge. So taking some inspiration and permission from a trip to Antarctica, I just think sometimes you need more time to to let your heartfelt wish list of the year, to to be honest about what you really want, to let it come up, to let it bubble up and and then set it down, you know, then say yes, this this is it. Not it's perfect, not waiting for it to be perfect, but just going, yeah, this is good, I like this. This is this seems like a good way, a good direction to travel in for 2026, because it it lights you up, it feels like you, it feels energizing, it it is an up-leveling, it's exciting rather than a rushed list. Just thought I'd add that in. Remove the pressure. Doesn't your mind work better without pressure? That's an interesting, that's a whole nother episode, isn't it? To me, it's about removing the pressure while keeping the structure that gives me discipline. But that is another episode. Anyway, I hope you found that helpful. I'd love to see you at the workshop, it would just be so lovely to see you there. The link is in the show notes, or you go to Heidi Mark, Quietly Unstoppable, and you will be able to register. Please check out the One Minute Gently Rebellious Journal on Amazon because it works and having a whole year of staying focused on what matters most to you is powerful, especially as it's one minute every morning and it's one minute of feeling really good. What have you got to lose? And lastly, if you're interested in the special new year coaching package to get you really focused on what matters most to you and how to stay focused on it for the whole year, then please do get in touch. Heidi at heidimark.co.uk. It'd be great to hear from you. Okay, have a great week. Hope to see you on Sunday at the workshop.