Father's Day Special: Lessons From Dad, Fatherhood & Family | S2. EP 15

Happy Father's Day! In this special episode of the AtWill Podcast, the crew reflects on the fathers, father figures, and life lessons that helped shape who we are today.
We share stories from childhood, talk about how fatherhood has changed over the years, discuss the values every dad should pass down, and wrap up with a fun round of rapid-fire Father's Day questions. Whether you're a father, have a great dad, miss one, or simply appreciate the impact of father figures, this episode is for you.

In this episode:
-Father's Day memories
-Life lessons from our dads
-Fatherhood then vs. now
-Funny dad moments
-Rapid-fire Father's Day questions
-Advice for fathers and future dads

💬 Question of the Day:

What's the greatest lesson your father—or a father figure—ever taught you? Share it in the comments!

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:09

Welcome back to At Wheel Podcast. It's me, your boy, the dude with my bros. Welcome back, May No. What's the deal? We back, man. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:21

That boy got a twinkle eye, man. Nah.

SPEAKER_02 0:25

But what's up, man? You back. You back. What's up, man? How's your week, man?

SPEAKER_00 0:33

Uh it's upcoming week. It was it was good. It was good. I didn't really have no words.

SPEAKER_02 0:38

Yeah, first of all, say happy June Teeth. Yeah. To all you blacks. All you blacks. No happy June Teeth. Hey, Jackson did their thing again this year with the June Teeth as well. That's my first time going to a film like that. Oh, works. That was my first time being there. I'm not gonna lie. No, it'd be it's nice to learn.

SPEAKER_00 0:56

Usually I'll be working dance. Right, right.

SPEAKER_02 0:58

I'm about to say you worked the one last year.

SPEAKER_00 1:00

It was nice though.

SPEAKER_02 1:01

Yeah, man. Hey, shout out to y'all, Jackson. Beautiful event, man. Good, good acts, good shows, good food, good people, everything. Oh nine, man. Yeah, man. What about you, Deuce? What about you, Deuce? How was your week?

SPEAKER_01 1:15

Man, it was it was pretty chill. Yeah, chill. Uh, first part of the week, had camp. Um, we we did this this RPO camp first offense.

SPEAKER_02 1:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

Uh went up to Northwood University. Um, you did? Yep. Okay. Yep. Went up there. Uh their coaching staff ran the camp, so it doesn't really count as a camp day for us, like as of what we can do because they were running it.

SPEAKER_02 1:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:38

Um, learned some stuff, some nice stuff as far as like RPOs and how like they run their offense, different reads and stuff like that. That was cool. Uh, and then the rest of the week was just move. I didn't work Thursday or Friday, obviously Friday, because Juneteenth. I didn't work Thursday or Friday, so it was real chill. Um that man, the head coach.

SPEAKER_02 1:57

Big dog. That's what's up, man. That's a good look. Shot caller. Nah, man. Hey, man. Let me ask you a quick question. Hey, man, this dude this week, uh, we're talking about the story at work. Man, guy had uh one point, I think 1.2 million dollars uh accidentally stored in his account, man. And I guess his sentence he had to get the money back or do a year in jail. What y'all doing? Are you giving the money back or are you taking one year of jail time?

SPEAKER_00 2:29

In today's world, how high everything is right now, I'm gonna just do my year. I'm gonna I know it's gonna be easier said than done, I know, but I know I'm coming home to a million. Yeah. Oh yeah. I'll sit on. Yeah, yeah, for real. I'll sit on.

SPEAKER_01 2:47

What about you dudes? I mean, if we if we being honest, that million gonna end up only being like five. It was at 1.2, it's gonna be like 500 by the time they tax it. That's true.

SPEAKER_00 2:57

Uh but I is that like how they would tax it if you tried to get it out the the bank account or something?

SPEAKER_01 3:03

Nah, I'm thinking if they just if they if you got it, they will they will have some type of fees, you know.

SPEAKER_02 3:08

Yeah, that's what they're gonna do.

SPEAKER_00 3:10

Especially if you're trying to get it out the bank. They don't have to do it.

SPEAKER_01 3:12

Some stupid stuff, yeah. Yeah, they go well. I mean, but I I get it. Um I'm indecisive. You just decided to at the same time, it's like that's a lot of money. I can you know change somebody's life, but then at the other time it's like, dang, jail.

SPEAKER_00 3:27

A year though?

SPEAKER_01 3:28

A year away from everybody.

SPEAKER_00 3:31

The county jails is dirty too, though.

SPEAKER_02 3:33

Lock me up. I got 1.2. I got one.

SPEAKER_00 3:39

I'm gonna say I'm gonna just have to sit down.

SPEAKER_02 3:43

Yeah, man. Yo, it's sure. It's get rough, it's it's gonna get rough in there. Let's go. Nah, man. Uh but y'all, none of that feel like it's it's not stealing. Right? It's accidentally put in your account. It's not your responsibility to give it back. Nah.

SPEAKER_00 4:02

I tell you, like, that's that really happened.

SPEAKER_01 4:04

That really happened, bro. Nah, because people people at their jobs don't be doing their job correctly. Ain't happened with me, bro. They gave me extra money, then they took it all back at once.

SPEAKER_00 4:14

No, I had that happen before, too.

SPEAKER_01 4:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:16

But I thought it was my money at that time. I thought I knew, I thought the calculations was right. Hey, that's why my stuff got adjusted. That's why I really like things like that. I'm not gonna lie. Because they it just it's just a number to them.

SPEAKER_02 4:28

Yeah, yeah. That's why I say, hey, he ain't wrong. At all. Lock me up. So lock me up. No, I just had to job with that, man. Uh, we know, we know guys who would give us great advice on that. Today is Father's Day, so man, this is you know what I'm saying. We got some questions to talk about our fathers. And happy Father's Day to all you fathers out there. Uh none of us are biologically fathers in there. But uh, yeah, you know, we we we we kind of know what to take. We we held some roles to where we, you know what I'm saying, mentor some young boys. So yeah, man. All right. So let's let's just let's get right into it, man. You ready? So this this is what we call we can we gonna call it, what we gonna call it Father's Day check-in. Father's Day check-in. I I got a first question. I got what does Father's Day mean to you then and now? Then and now? Yeah, well was it a big thing back then? Was it a big day you had, oh man, Father's Day.

SPEAKER_00 5:39

And I mean now I feel like yeah, growing up in school, like yeah, I definitely want to get my parents. I feel like it's always that's tough.

SPEAKER_02 5:52

Because Father's Day is the most unappreciative holiday.

SPEAKER_01 5:56

It is the most underappreciated because we gotta because we got a lot of women out there saying, Mothers, man, it's y'all day two because single mothers are raised.

SPEAKER_02 6:06

Duh, it's it's it's the most unappreciative holiday.

SPEAKER_00 6:10

It is. I'm not gonna call it. You're right about that.

SPEAKER_02 6:14

Nobody cares about Father's Day.

SPEAKER_00 6:16

Mother's Day is because Mother's Day compared to Father's Day is huge, huge, big huge difference.

SPEAKER_02 6:22

They got Mother's Day sales through that, man. You is right. You that's right. Father's Day getting nothing. Dad's getting nothing. I'm sorry, pops.

SPEAKER_00 6:33

But I'm f I I feel like I felt like I feel like it's kind of been the same like since we're growing up, like, yeah, always give my father something, but yeah, I feel like it won't be a real huge difference until like I become a father or something like that.

SPEAKER_02 6:45

It does, yeah. And then as a father, I think most fathers they they don't overthink about it neither. Because they just say, hey, yeah, I'm family straight, I'm all about the family, I'm trying to provide for family, family good, kids.

SPEAKER_01 6:56

Man, that's because if if if men really went out here talking about Father's Day and how they want something, like how they be doing for Mother's Day, they're gonna be looked at as weak. Facts. Man, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:09

Like, man, you cry about that, bro? Man, you're gonna appreciate me today. Hey, but I have read some dudes that's like that though. Like, hey, bro, yo, man, hey, your wife, look, man, you got this good house, y'all good. She she good too, man. You good, bro. Just relax. Don't worry about the gifts. Relax. Yeah. Nah, but I I say it it's hard to. Okay. Is it more valuable now than it is then? No. To you.

SPEAKER_00 7:44

No.

SPEAKER_02 7:44

I'm about to say we all see it's the same.

SPEAKER_01 7:46

I mean all of us in here have fathers. Right. Um, no matter how that, you know, like our role, like how they how they how they impact it with us is different. Yeah. But at the same time, we all have fathers. Um, and I think even as a youth, as as we were young, we all appreciated them.

SPEAKER_02 8:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:07

Uh, no matter who's that who was in that role, if you have a even a father figure in your life, even if it's not your biological dad.

SPEAKER_02 8:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:14

I think us in here, we understood that and underappreciated, that's not unappreciated and appreciated it um then, which only helps us now because like we knew that we had that for however long. Yeah. Um, but for other people, it might not be the same. So, like, let's say someone grew up and they didn't have their dad in their life at all, but then now either let's say their dad came back into life or they have kids of their own that they are around and impacting. So then that can mean something better now than what it used to be. Yeah. Because it could just be reverse. Uh it's something.

SPEAKER_02 8:53

I mean, I I like what you say, because I I've experienced both. I mean, of course, biologically, my father my biological father was never in my life, but I did gain a dad. You know what I'm saying? My dad stepped up, my stepdad. Shout out to you, Mike Brown senior. Uh Bishop. Bishop, Mike Brown senior. Bishop, the bishop. No, but uh, no, he he stepped up and took me in as so you know that way I kinda I knew the challenges of you know of having questions with not having a father, but with having a father too, well. So I mean, I just think we we just look at it the same, man. Father's Day underrated. Yeah, man. All right. What's your funniest dad moment that you witnessed?

SPEAKER_01 9:42

Alright, so quick start. Yeah, yeah, go ahead, put it off. Nah, nah. My dad, remember that my dad be laughing at me anytime I get hurt now. But uh back in the sixth grade, we was at practice. He was he was my coach like for wreck and everything. Yeah, and we was doing a practice, and this thing is like raining or something like that. And he was doing the drugs with us, he throwing a ball, and man threw his shoulder out at practice, and it was one of the funniest things in his recovery. It was one of the funniest things in his recovery because that man couldn't move his arm, but he refused to go to a doctor, and he legit couldn't move his arm like he could only lift it. Um, so uh anytime something happened, he's like, See, now you know how I felt. I'm like, nah, bruh, like you gotta chill.

SPEAKER_02 10:31

Wait, wait, he he said a few days like that?

SPEAKER_01 10:34

Nah, it was like a couple months. What? Yeah, but he couldn't move his arm at all.

SPEAKER_02 10:40

His arm was out of socket fall, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:47

That was that was one of the funniest moments, bro. I'm not gonna lie.

SPEAKER_02 10:51

So for multiple.

SPEAKER_01 10:53

He couldn't lift it up.

SPEAKER_02 10:55

The church is stubborn.

SPEAKER_01 10:58

And then and then look when he got progress. He's able to raise his arm this high off the ground. He was off the couch, he'd be sitting there like, see your progress. That was one of the funny things. He gonna look at he's gonna look at this and be like, see, man, what like that up, man? Nah, that's one of the funniest things.

SPEAKER_00 11:21

At the time it wasn't funny. At the time it wasn't funny. So uh this was probably when I was. This is when I was living with my dad. I was in high school. But my dad was trying to take me to go working out with him. Yeah. Go working at the time it wasn't funny. But uh he wanted to go early in the morning. I'm talking about like five in the morning. Yeah, like so he uh he wanted me to eat early in the morning. I can't eat that early. I ain't uh I don't be having appetite. So he wanted me to eat early and he had me eat he had me drinking some creatine, right? Some creatine or some pre-working, it was something. Yeah, so we went to the gym early in the morning, we working out, we was doing like the circuit training, we superset and everything. Yeah, uh so I tell him like, hold on, like he ain't he work out, like he don't even let you get on your phone for a second, he don't let you sit on for a second, he just straight, next set, come on, next set. So uh I think I forgot what we was doing, bench or something like that. I told him, like, hold on, like I don't feel good. My stomach, hold on, hold on, and he like no more, come on, like he get aggressive with it, like come on. I'm like, hold on, like hold on, chill. Yeah, so he just steady no more. Come on. So come on, what's up? So we get done with the bench. I get up, my stomach aching, so I'm I'm gonna use a bathroom. As soon as I go in the bathroom, I just all over the gym. This one, I just got the gym membership that day. He was embarrassed. He was like, they had to clean it up. All the other people in the gym just was looking like oh no, he didn't. During that time, when I seen his face when I came out that bathroom, he was just like, son, what are you doing? Looking back, though, it was not funny though. During that moment, it was not funny though. I was hurt, I ain't gonna lie. But after looking back, though, I'm like, you had to have some bull.

SPEAKER_02 13:15

Man, my funniest dad moment, man. We was uh younger, man, my dad. So my dad, I mean, they used to, you know, we had a good relationship with like the Star Commonwealth. And they used to get like foster kids and bring them home and kind of teach them, you know, give them a better lifestyle, whatever. So I got three Foster brothers. Uh man, uh one that I remember, Tyrone, man, my boy. Shout out to you, Tyrone. Man, he was man, cool dude, but man, he was uh funny. He's high, he's funny, hyper, man, strong. Oh he's big, big dude. But man, my dad, I I think he's at the Jackson High football game. And uh I think he I think he's playing too. I think he's playing on the team. And uh he got into it with my dad. My dad was like, what? He's like, he's like, and he's like, my dad's like, he's like, you better beat me home. He said something, uh I guess they got into something, and my dad pulled him through the like, you know, the vans, he had those one smaller, I don't know if y'all remember young with his vans that had the little curvy little future. I'll show y'all a picture afterwards. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It was a Pontiac, it was old Pontiac, like Pontiac. I want to say Trans Am van, but whatever. Um But it was it was a small van and my brother was sitting right behind my dad. And my dad is like, you know, you got the little middle slot, but then the little spot where your uh seabelt is. Man, he made my dad, he was talking back to my dad. My dad's like, I'll make you walk. He's like, Man, you ain't gonna make me walk. My dad pulled him through that little slot right there. And he got him out the uh man. He's like, hey, he said, nah, you better beat me home. He's like, man, that we started booking. My dad, we got home. He seemed coming up. He said, I'm sorry, dad. I tried, man. I tried. He's like, my dad's like, yeah, you learned your lesson, man. He's like, man, get it out, man. But that was the funniest moment because we see this big old, we like, man, that's me and my brother Mike. Uh we like, man, we look at my dad, it's like he's superhuman, like, man, yo, uh, this man is strong. He got dudes that's way taller than he pulling them. Just I was like, man, I ain't messing with that old man. Let him know for real, man. All right, we got another question. Let's go. Uh lessons we learn from our fathers. I can say I know all the things I can learn. Uh, of course, you know you have to work. As a man, you gotta work. Yeah, I mean, that's one thing he told me. He taught me my work out there. Or at least, you know, how to have one. And I say how to be patient. My dad was always patient. I know he wasn't a man to just be he didn't just respond out of emotions, you know what I'm saying? He wasn't quick to respond, he took his time and thought things through. Yeah, so I I man, that's one thing I can say about him. I learned throughout life. Like, man, don't make any, you know, you know, rational decisions. You know, don't be quick with it. So he's he always took his time and he was strategic. Which probably explains why he's in this position to this day. He's like director at the J, the with the city buses or whatever. So he always he always showed me how to be I mean, like I said, he always strategic with the thing.

SPEAKER_00 17:07

So I would probably say uh definitely work ethic, you know, hard working, and I'll say uh respect. You know, respect from uh learn know how to treat a person how you want to be treated, stuff like that.

SPEAKER_02 17:25

I can see that. See that Modi. What about you, Deuce?

SPEAKER_01 17:30

Not the nickname, not the nickname, nah, but uh bad, my bad, bro. Oh shoot, nah, but uh I learned a lot. Um how to uh be well mannered, of course, but then like at the same time not reacting out of emotion, like how you said. Think about that taking accountability for what you do. Um just overall, just it's a lot of stuff.

SPEAKER_02 17:58

That's a good one to take accountability.

SPEAKER_01 17:59

But accountability, be responsible for the things or be accountable for the things that you were supposed to be responsible for, own up to and all that stuff. So that's a big one.

SPEAKER_02 18:09

That's a big one. Yeah, a lot of men we all clear from that. Alright, what less is what less is stuck with you the most from your father? Oh, it can just be one lesson.

SPEAKER_00 18:41

I feel like how my dad raised me up, it was like I feel like a lesson was like, you know what I mean? Don't let nobody basically don't let nobody play with you. Right. Right blunt like that. Don't let nobody play with you, man.

SPEAKER_02 19:02

Yeah, what you gotta do.

SPEAKER_01 19:06

Man, it's it's it's a little hard. It is, man. Cause uh, you know, out of the I'ma round up 28 years I've been living, it's a lot of lessons that I learned. Yeah, I'm uh one right out of it. To really pick one, to pick one up that was like the most. Um, you know, I'm gonna I'm gonna say this, right? So I learned, it's gonna be a little relief. I learned to not really do what my sisters did. Oh, I wasn't getting no beatings like it was talking about all the time, too. Uh C I tell you all the time I did I barely got what uh is what it is, you know. Um, but I say me not wanting to get belt, whatever, I I learned to behave. So uh learning from watching the I'm not about to do that. I'm not gonna do that, yeah. Hey, perks of being the youngest, man.

SPEAKER_02 20:09

Yes, it did. Hey, I learned that from being the oldest too.

SPEAKER_00 20:13

I ain't gonna lie, I'm the oldest. But I feel like it was because I was a little intimidated. Yeah, my mom on the other side, she was giving them out. But it's the person like that, man. Don't do my girl pressure precious. You don't mean it. Dad, dad. He was just intimidating. So I I was on bed, I was on best behavior. Yeah, I can see that. But mom, she was just giving them out.

SPEAKER_02 20:37

She was handling them out. Yours, yeah. So brother is uh she was had she asked me real.

SPEAKER_00 20:42

I didn't, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:45

Yeah, don't be doing what girl precious, he don't mean that. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I say mine is uh my dad sometimes he got on my nerves. He was too he he's always honest. He's honest, he's just he just don't lie. He don't leave like he don't believe in lying. Like, man, sometimes a little too honest like that, they don't even know all that. No, but yeah, but he just he just he's just an honest dude. That's the one thing I can say. I learned from him just being honest with yourself, being honest. I mean, I learned I see how you be honest with a situation sometimes. Uh so yeah, just being honest. That's the one thing I say that stuck with me for real for real the most from him. So my voice started to grow because we had a good time last night. This guy.

SPEAKER_01 21:47

Talk about that one day, man.

SPEAKER_02 21:53

We all what did your dad teach you without telling you? Without ever telling you.

SPEAKER_00 22:01

I would say uh you know when I did live with my dad the more the majority of the time I live with my mom, but when I did move in with my dad, uh I would say you know how to keep up a house. You know what I mean? Uh could I say this? How can I worry it? I would definitely say like keeping up a house, being a man, you know, taking care of the responsibility that need to be taken care of. For instance, making sure the grass cut, you know. He used to do a weird thing where he makes sure your bed is made every morning. I know that sound weird, but he used to be on he used to be on that. And when I was at my mom's house, I'd be like, Yeah, if I'm having company, I'll make my bed. You know what I mean? My room not dirty, and I'm gonna make sure my room is clean, but that's something that he like, you know, like he didn't, he is he said it before, but he expected after that point.

SPEAKER_01 22:55

Right.

SPEAKER_00 22:56

Like your real bed's supposed to be made every day, you know what I mean.

SPEAKER_01 22:59

You know who he got that from.

SPEAKER_00 23:01

Yeah, yeah. You know where yeah, it's yeah. So that was that was something that was weird, but now that I take it now and I look at it now, it it do uh it's like a discipline thing. Yeah, it is. I look at it like that, it's like a I don't know. Yeah, and then I hear little quotes and stuff like if your bed made, or you know me, your room made at the beginning of the day, it's a start to like a good a jump to the good day or something like that. Start to the good day, or it was weird though. Yeah, I was going that was weird.

SPEAKER_02 23:30

I ain't gonna lie. I say my dad taught me what I was telling me. It was uh my dad was like that too. He was a little he was structured, yeah. Very structured. Sure. Uh dang that's I guess I can say that. You know, he was very yeah, he believed in that structure. He was very structured person. Uh I mean he's organized. I can say that. That's one thing. He he definitely taught me how to be organized. My dad don't like stuff being out of place, you know, and he don't like clutter either. So that's what yeah, I think I learned. And that's shocking to say that from a male, you know what I'm saying? Because like, man, my dad, you know, he taught us he taught us to a man that like you said, don't complain. Ain't no cry, ain't no crying. I mean crying tears, but get your butt back up going over, you know what I'm saying? Something like that, you know. But uh it was yeah, he's very structured, very organized. So I learned that from him. What about you dudes? Uh just how to handle yourself. Um I can see that definitely definitely with your dad. That's the bad one.

SPEAKER_01 24:45

Yeah, yeah, for sure. Just being out in public, how you handle yourself. At home, yeah, not acting out. That's why I felt I feel like I get a lot of my my calmness from him. Um I mean both of my parents, but especially uh my dad. I never I never really seen him act out of like character or nothing like that. So I I just say how to handle yourself. I I can definitely see that.

SPEAKER_02 25:14

I can see that with your dad because that's big, man. Yeah, your dad, yeah. I mean, like I worked with him attack. And I think when I first uh joined the ministry, uh they said, man, who what church you go to? I was like, yeah, oh, it's his love, man. He's like, who the pastor over there? I was like, man, you don't know the pastor? I was like, man, hey, the pastor is uh he actually worked here. It's like Corey Party. They like, Corey Pryor, Corey Party. I said, man, he worked in uh I I thought it's like two weeks. I was like, man, he he does he he worked in the office. I was like, but he do like the purchasing for the company. They like all the dude will be walking, they're like, man, he be walking all smooth up to up to the offices. I was like, yeah, they said I see you walking over a couple times. They said, man, I didn't even know he's a pastor. I was like, they're like man, he's always cool, he's always just chill. I was like, yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying. What about that though?

SPEAKER_00 26:07

The people that's like overly chill, overly hum, overly humble, and you've never seen them act out. Yeah, he he never say come to nobody say too where they might, I don't know, it's intimidating. They might get to that.

SPEAKER_02 26:23

Yeah, that's why people respect you. They like, yeah, I can't read this one right now. Yeah, I'm not gonna play with him. I can't read this guy or this girl or whatever. Yeah, man. All right. I got one more on this song. Uh let's see. Where did things you didn't uh appreciate until adulthood? Did I read it right? Okay, okay, yeah. Were there things you didn't appreciate until adulthood?

SPEAKER_00 26:58

Uh you know how much is that related to reading again from reading again?

SPEAKER_02 27:05

Okay. Were there things you didn't appreciate until adulthood? Like it's basically about your dad. About your dad, yeah, from your dad. Is there anything that you appreciate now that you didn't appreciate when you was a kid?

SPEAKER_00 27:23

You got one now?

SPEAKER_01 27:25

Nah, not really.

SPEAKER_00 27:26

Y'all don't got one?

SPEAKER_01 27:28

Nah. I mean, nah.

SPEAKER_02 27:30

I mean so maybe because I'm older, man, but uh all right. I mean, I I got a few, I think. I can say I can appreciate now is man. Okay, all right. So y'all ain't never had no moment where you be like, well, of course, because we don't none of us got kids. So, but when you see it, I see my niece and nephew, I'll be like, and I see how they be driving by, like, especially my sister. My sister got a daughter who's just like her. And she was I was like, she looked like her, mouth y like her, and everything. She's like, I don't know where you get that from. My dad be like, he looking at my sister like everybody like, yeah, Ashley? She just like you like that. So I appreciate man, just how they I just appreciate everything they try to teach you as a you know, life lessons, you know, and teach you how to respect your elders. Let me say that. Especially I mean, as a kid, you really you don't do that. You don't really do you do that just to so you don't want to get in trouble, basically. But as you get older respecting your elders, you're like, oh yeah, these are so that's something you always I mean, I like I said, especially as you get older, you're like, yeah, man, hey it's very it's something about seeing a kid disrespecting a dog just don't look right. No, yeah, so I I appreciate that. When they when they the lessons that they taught us today, hey, call uh older person, either by Mr. Mrs. Aunt Uncle, you know what I'm saying, or when they just call them by their first name, like hey, hey Cindy, come over. No, no, hey Miss Cindy, you know what I'm saying? So yeah, yeah, so respect the elders. I say that's one that's one I appreciate. Now that I didn't appreciate when we was kids, not that I disrespected uh I just never understood, so yeah, but I see it now, so yeah. I guess that that can answer for all of us, huh? We all gotta get that.

SPEAKER_00 29:45

That definitely makes sense. You just said as uh you was just saying it back then, because that's it. It was telling you to say it. Yeah, right. Now it makes sense, you know. You grow up, it's a respect then, yeah, yeah, yeah. So yeah. All right.

SPEAKER_02 30:00

Go ahead, Mano.

SPEAKER_00 30:02

All right, we got fatherhood today versus back then. All right, some of these done wiped off a little bit, so uh Core got it back here. Uh are fathers more involved today in today's life, today's world?

SPEAKER_02 30:20

I would say yeah. I would say yes, also. Yeah, I would say yeah. Because back then, I mean they all they taught them. Get up, go to work, yeah. You're right, yeah, you're right. Come home, take you go, go to work, come home, take care of the family, wife have food ready for you. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 30:41

You might not be there all day, but you work and providing for your family.

SPEAKER_02 30:44

Yeah, so and a lot of you know, hear a lot of people is like, oh man, my dad was never at my games. You know, the game like three games because you know he's always on the game. He was always working, yeah, yeah, yeah. So, yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_00 30:56

Definitely a good one for sure. Yeah, yeah. I definitely agree. I'd be definitely more involved for real.

SPEAKER_02 31:01

Oh yeah, yeah. They're proud of you, fathers for being one.

SPEAKER_01 31:05

But I also think at the same time, uh, for some people, uh if they let's say if their dad was there but was always working, or if they had a father who wasn't in their lives, yeah, uh they wanted to not be who their dad was and be the present for their kids.

SPEAKER_02 31:22

So Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:24

I think not gonna say out of spite, but just some people want to be better for their kids than what their dad was for them. Yeah, yep. Facts. Facts.

SPEAKER_02 31:34

They want them to experience what you experienced. And not having your dad around. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:42

Next question is shit rubbed off. Social media, I'm assuming, versus real life dad.

SPEAKER_01 31:50

Yeah, like a social media dad or a real life dad. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 31:53

Do you like just social media dad or a real life dad?

SPEAKER_01 31:58

I personally I think people who all they do, like they have their whole persona around being a dad on social media. Just to make it look good for somebody to do it. Make it look good. Yeah. I don't, but then it's like you don't know, like, are you even like that in real life or are you just putting it on for a camera? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:17

Oh, so you basically say like in the pictures of the they'll post pictures of uh yeah, make it paint a picture as everything is good when it's not.

SPEAKER_01 32:25

Yeah, but then again, you're not you're gonna be like, are you even really like this? But because you see like everyday life, it's like maybe. Okay. But it's like when you put the camera down, like, you feel me?

SPEAKER_00 32:36

Go real life dad for sure.

SPEAKER_01 32:39

Real life for sure. Real life. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:41

That's just, you know what I mean? Just throwing out an image that might be fake to the world. Yeah, for real.

SPEAKER_01 32:46

Because a lot of people, I don't know. Either you either you gonna get two crowds, people who admire it and think it's all extra cute and whatnot, or people be like, man, that's fake. That's fake.

SPEAKER_00 32:55

It's not that ain't that ain't coming from all right.

SPEAKER_02 32:58

I mean, so do y'all think uh do y'all think a lot of people hold a real life dad to no TV dad uh no standards?

SPEAKER_01 33:09

Standards yeah. Nah. I don't think people do it for that. Yeah, maybe other things on social media, but not not fatherhood. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 33:19

It's two totally two different things. That's a good one, baby.

SPEAKER_00 33:25

Next one. What's harder about kids now? My bad, man. It's mud you know that one, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:40

It's like what's harder about raising kids now? There it is.

SPEAKER_00 33:44

What's harder about raising kids now?

SPEAKER_01 33:49

Economy.

SPEAKER_00 33:50

Yeah, society, all that, yeah, society issues. I would say, yeah, I would say economy, social media, influences, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:01

Influence, man, that's a good one. That's a big one.

SPEAKER_01 34:04

You got other people influencing your kids, yeah. Yep. Because the influencers, they like the but you got like, especially because of social media and everything else, you got so many other people influencing your kids' life.

SPEAKER_02 34:20

That's the thing, yeah. And say, like, oh, okay, most fathers are not around because they're working.

SPEAKER_00 34:27

Yeah, you gotta think when you think about it like that, it's kind of like you only got a piece of you raising your child. You know what I mean? Because say if you're going to work and you know what I mean, you might have daycare, you might have somebody else babysitting, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 34:41

Or they like at school, they're learning all day behaviors from somebody else.

SPEAKER_00 34:45

You know what I mean? Or they watching TV.

SPEAKER_01 34:48

Yeah. So it's a lot of different things that they learn and then that's especially like just based on what I observe, especially like when kids go off to school and everything, you at work day at school, you they spending more time at that place than they are with you. By the time they get off school, you get off work. You only get a few hours before you go into sleep and got wake up and do it all over again. So really, you got other people raising your kids technically. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 35:14

Exactly. Other people like that, it's weird. Yeah, and then you gotta look at it like that as you know, they just they working a job. So how so many more kids, you know what I mean? It's not a lot of one-on-one to make sure that your kid is getting uh getting raised the best. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 35:32

Like you send your kid, you send your kid off to school, they come back saying something like where you learn that at? Yeah, I never said that around you.

SPEAKER_02 35:40

So yeah, like yo, who you been around? Yeah, there you go. There's an influences, yeah, it's a lot of lot of bad influences. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 35:51

That question went with that. What do you feel like what was easier?

SPEAKER_01 35:54

Oh, so now what's easier? I mean, I feel like at the same time, some of the same stuff we was just saying is what's helping you out.

SPEAKER_00 36:07

Yeah, but at the same time it's bad though.

SPEAKER_01 36:10

But yeah, but if you got good people in your life, yeah, it's true.

SPEAKER_00 36:14

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_02 36:15

Because I think one of the biggest things that Corey Kids has the kids today in school and stuff, is the at-home life. That's the that's the so I mean it's like so when they pick up bad habits and become this troubled child, they're influenced by, you know, these kids can already already choose the wrong thing to want to, you know, do. It's just a it's just an immaturity. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just something about that. But they have that structured at home. Uh yeah. Would you rather tough love or gentle love from your father?

SPEAKER_00 36:56

I feel like I feel like it should be a balance.

SPEAKER_01 36:58

I feel so like definitely a balance. It gotta be a balance. So are we are we talking from the perspective that you want it from your father or how you gonna do it to your kids? Uh let's do both. Alright. Would you would you okay? I mean, so like tough, tough love to an extent, because some people treat tough love as in like just acting like you don't even care about your kid. Yeah. And just go, oh, I love you, but I'm gonna beat you up for it. Yeah. Uh but at the same time, you could be gentle but still discipline them in a in a facet that it's effective. Yeah. Where you where your kid's not growing up and hating you.

SPEAKER_00 37:38

So yeah, I definitely agree. I feel like it should be a balance on both sides, you know what I mean? Once once we all, you know, if become fathers, you know what I mean? And then from you know, from how you was raised, from your father. Yeah. Yeah, just what you're saying, like you don't it's your, you know what I mean? It's your father, you know what I mean? So you don't I don't know. But a lot of fathers come from the tough love. Like it's just the the like the molding you into, you know, cycle though.

SPEAKER_02 38:10

Yeah, and back then today, that's what they that's I mean what they taught. The father is the tough love person, the mother's gentle love.

SPEAKER_00 38:18

So yeah, but you look at it like you know, some people might not have both. Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 38:22

That's a see that little thing, people talking about the cycle of like a man with their father. Oh, no, no. It'd be like uh like tough parenting, hard father, like rough life, build strong men, yeah, which then don't want to do that to their kids, so then they end up creating weak men because they didn't want to treat their kids the same way how they came up. Yeah, yeah. But then it's just a cycle for then the weak man has to go through it and end up building a strong man because their kids don't want to be like the strong dad comes too strong and hard.

SPEAKER_02 38:58

So now he wanna become the gentle dad. Yeah. It's yeah, yeah. I heard that too. Man, the yeah, that's that's that's a tough one. All right, this is a big one. Allow kids on social media before 16. What'd you allow kids on social media?

SPEAKER_00 39:17

Ah, 16 is is late. It's late.

SPEAKER_02 39:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 39:22

Like, I look at it at like my little brother.

SPEAKER_01 39:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 39:25

That's he's been playing a game since oh my goodness. But just like even Yeah, because these kids are all they know now. Like, I'm just thinking TikTok. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like, it's it's all over. It's like if you go to school, it's there.

SPEAKER_01 39:42

Yeah. Yeah. I'll say one thing with with that, me personally, because I'm a summer baby. Yeah, I was 16. I turned 16 going into my junior year of high school. Yeah. Oh. So that's what I'm saying. You got an early birthday. It's in the summer. Yeah. So because of that, I was one age the whole year round. So it's like I turned 16 going into my junior year of high school. At one point or another, they're probably going to find a way to get on there.

SPEAKER_00 40:10

Yeah, for sure. And then if you don't get on it by then, I feel like you're gonna be behind. You're gonna be out of the other. You're gonna be out of the little bit too behind.

SPEAKER_01 40:17

Yeah. So at 16, I feel like that's a little too late. Now if you say like, let's say 12, 13, where it's like middle school-ish, cool.

unknown 40:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 40:27

But I might got my first phone in middle school. I was going into the eighth grade and I got a phone.

SPEAKER_00 40:32

You said I think I got my first. I had like a uh like a yeah, I got my first phone. I had like a little Samsung.

SPEAKER_01 40:39

I had an iPod, I had an iPod in the seventh grade, I will say that. So technically it was a touch iPod touch. So it was pretty much like a phone. So you could say middle school, but before that, it didn't have none of that.

SPEAKER_00 40:51

So I had the little free little Obama phones. And then I had the uh the one where it switched and had the keypad. And then I got my first I got my first iPhone high school though.

SPEAKER_02 41:02

Hey, that that was me. I got my first uh cell phone in high school. Of course, cell phones weren't nowhere near like they are now today. And uh when I got it, it was just for emergencies. My mom was, you know, she was ill, so yeah. Uh hey, yeah, that's social media. I mean, we we didn't have it back then in our days anyways, till after high school or whatever, or maybe at our senior year, so yeah, that's a tough one. Alright, I got one last one. This is a good one. Then we go get out of here. What's the best dad movie?

SPEAKER_01 41:44

Now I actually had time to think about it.

SPEAKER_02 41:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 41:47

But Daddy Daycare.

SPEAKER_02 41:51

I forgot about that one. I did too.

SPEAKER_01 41:54

Now that I think about it, that that was a now that's Eddie Murphy. Eddie Murphy? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 42:00

Daddy Daycare.

SPEAKER_00 42:01

Dang, I'm trying to think.

SPEAKER_02 42:04

It's some good ones.

SPEAKER_00 42:05

You said the other movie earlier, uh John Q. I like that movie, man. That's uh that's a tough movie though, I ain't gonna lie.

SPEAKER_01 42:13

Now, if we're talking about, well, one of the greatest, like as in movies, kind of a little sad, a little dramatic. Pursuit of happiness is probably the best one ever.

SPEAKER_02 42:27

But that is probably the best dad movie ever.

SPEAKER_00 42:31

But oh no, that's what Wills. That's what's been that's what I meant. That's what it's sad. That's what I meant. Every bit of it is a great actor.

SPEAKER_01 42:49

Um we talking that, but like, I don't really like all that sad stuff. So that's what I was like. Like Daddy Decker, I grew up watching that movie.

SPEAKER_02 42:58

Yeah, but I got some old ones for your events, Mr. Dowfire. Fire. John Q. R. B. Robert Williams. You know, yeah, R.B. Rob Robin Williams, Robin Williams. Uh John Q. I mean, I got an older one. This one for uh all the old heads. You gonna say even myself. Ghost Dead with Bill Cosby. Bill Cosby. See, I knew he's gonna say that. That's why he said that one last, man. I knew you was gonna say that. Oh my goodness. Yo, man, Bill Cosby. He split that one in there. He did, but he's wow. Come on, man. Leave him alone, man. Nah, that's my bad, my bad. On that door, man. Yo. Happy Father's Day to all of you. Happy Five Days. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Happy Five Days, y'all. Brothers and cousins, all y'all who's all fathers, all that. So, man, yeah. We just wanted to give y'all a special tribute. Uh man, we're gonna get out of here. Uh let's uh what we willing to do at will this week? Uh I'm gonna go first. I mean, uh I'll just say, man. I'm waiting on my I'm waiting on my uh important document. I'm I'm just worried about that. Heck yeah. Man, I want this to come through this week, so I'm gonna just be patient. Pray about it. Yeah, I pray about it. I'm just being patient this week. So that's it. That's all I'm gonna say. I'm being patient.

SPEAKER_00 44:47

I say I'm finding balance. Finding balance in my life, man. I'm trying to trying to find a balance with everything. Yeah. Uh I've been back in the gym last week. Okay. Fresh. It's fresh, though. But trying to do it on my own page, just at least at least three times a week. But uh eating healthy. I've been trying to woke up, so I've been trying to, I've been talking to Chad G GBT. I've been talking to Chad GBT a lot.

SPEAKER_02 45:16

Like, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 45:18

It helped bro. Like with everything, what I need to eat, but uh trying to get up, get enough sleep, yeah, stuff like that, balance, man. That's what I'm trying to do.

SPEAKER_01 45:29

Yeah, hey kid. Uh I'm just trying to man, I'm trying to be great. Um facts. Right. Nah, but uh I'm take this week, be patient, uh, take it day by day. Yeah, yeah. Um, just going through these days, being intentional throughout the day. Um got a few things going on. Got our first 707 coming up uh on Wednesday.

SPEAKER_00 45:58

Oh, that's gonna be sweet.

SPEAKER_01 45:59

Yep. Um I'm looking forward to that. I'll be calling, I'll be calling the defense during those uh during that uh particular one.

SPEAKER_00 46:07

Paz and helmets?

SPEAKER_01 46:08

No, it's just like passing game, probably just helmets, just helmets. Um, we're going up to Eastern up in Lansing uh doing that. Um because Bogan, uh yeah, Bogan uh is the head coach there now from uh Sexton, I want to say. You probably know. I think I think it's if I see them, I'll probably um but uh just doing that, looking forward to some some big news coming out this week, you know, pre-order and GTA this week. Uh it comes out Thursday. Pre-orders are game is never coming up. How much is it? I don't know yet. Pre-order's coming out on Thursday.

SPEAKER_02 46:46

That game is never coming out.

SPEAKER_01 46:48

You sound stupid.

SPEAKER_00 46:49

If pre-order is coming out this week, it's it's gonna break the it's gonna break the wall.

SPEAKER_01 46:55

I mean, it's gonna be the greatest game.

SPEAKER_00 46:58

It's gonna be crashing because everybody's gonna be doing it. I'm gonna be on it.

SPEAKER_01 47:03

I'm gonna be on it.

SPEAKER_00 47:04

Dang, I didn't know that.

SPEAKER_01 47:05

Nah, pre-orders drop on Thursday.

SPEAKER_00 47:07

So they probably tax them too. It's probably it's probably over $100.

SPEAKER_01 47:11

Nah, dude said they're trying to they're trying to keep it around industry standards. So they might bump it up because usually the industry been following them. So like back when the games jumped from like $60 to $70, that's because of Rockstar. Uh so now I might make another jump to like $80 or something.

SPEAKER_00 47:26

Yeah, because Rockstar finited, Rockstar, they they killing them, man.

SPEAKER_01 47:30

Yeah. So that's that's all I got going on this week, bro. Uh got one more week after after this week. No, two weeks. No, less than two weeks, actually. Yeah, I got one more week. From Thursday, so you know he turned up going crazy. I'm good though. I'm I'm I'm straight.

SPEAKER_02 47:48

I'm done, man. Yeah, man. So that's what we're doing though, will this week. Uh man. Once again, we say, man, we do your purpose, your purpose at will, man. We create, we speak, we live at will. Happy Father's Day, happy Juneteenth.

SPEAKER_01 48:05

We out of here. Yes, sir.