The Other Half Podcast
The other half can be many things. Most of all it is your perspective, your narrative, your side of the story. We are here to hear the other half of the story.
The Other Half Podcast
Finding Balance in a High-Speed Life: Marriage, Depression, and Making Time for What Matters
Meet Tino and Erika, the dynamic duo behind The Other Half podcast, as they dive into what makes their eight-year marriage work despite their horoscopes suggesting otherwise. Their contrasting energies—Tino's go-getter attitude versus Erika's need for downtime—create both harmony and tension that many couples will recognize in their own relationships.
The conversation takes an unexpectedly vulnerable turn as Erika reflects on her recent struggles with what might be depression, sharing how she's gradually withdrawn from social connections and finds even simple tasks exhausting. "I used to be fun," she confesses, expressing a desire to rediscover that side of herself. This raw admission opens up a thoughtful discussion about mental health and how life changes affect our wellbeing.
Their story of moving to Arizona with nothing but "ramen noodles and four frozen pizzas" reveals their courage to start fresh, contrasting with the comfort of staying near family that keeps many people from pursuing new opportunities. Now raising teenagers while juggling work and personal aspirations, they navigate the challenges of maintaining connection amid busy schedules.
The podcast touches on several universal themes: finding balance between work and rest, sustaining intimacy in long-term relationships, managing different personality types, and recognizing when isolation might signal something deeper than just "me time." Their conversation weaves between lighthearted banter and profound insights about marriage, parenting, and personal growth.
Whether you're navigating relationship dynamics, struggling with motivation, or simply curious about how other couples make it work, this authentic conversation offers both comfort and perspective. Subscribe now to join Tino and Erika every Sunday or Monday as they continue to explore life from both sides of the narrative.
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Erica was trying to check our horoscopes when we first got together. She said we're not compatible, we're not and I'm starting to believe that. And it's kind of rude.
Speaker 2:No, it is true, though, and I don't appreciate it. It's true. I can't believe people don't believe in that. It's very true, you don't think we're compatible. All right guys. So I'm Erica.
Speaker 1:And this is. This is who am I. This is Tino. You already know Tino Cruz. They call me. You feel me In the streets. They call me Cruz. I mean in a barbershop in the streets. They call me Tino. You know, everybody know me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, this is the other half podcast.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:So, Mm-hmm. How's it going?
Speaker 1:It's good. It's good. How's your day?
Speaker 2:It's going.
Speaker 1:How's life lately?
Speaker 2:Exhausting.
Speaker 1:Why is it? Exhausting Because I'm always exhausted because I'm getting older, all right, this is our first episode, so I wanted to ask you what does the other half mean to you exactly?
Speaker 2:I think it's supposed to be the other person's perspective. So my perspective versus your perspective on certain topics.
Speaker 1:Okay, Okay, Okay. Well, to me, I mean, I guess the name of our podcast means of course I'm doing it with my other half. So they say, but to me it's more like the other half, meaning the other side of the narrative. Like somebody puts out a narrative on you or whatever the case may be, there might be a story out there. This is your chance to tell your side. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:The other half.
Speaker 1:That's deep, that's deep.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you hear my hands, they ashy.
Speaker 1:We're going to get into our icebreaker segment. I'm going to have you do this, since you picked this card. I don't know what this is at all.
Speaker 2:So I just randomly pulled it. It's the topic is dating At. It's the topic is dating At. What point do you have the? So what are we talk?
Speaker 1:At what point, I don't know. That's weird.
Speaker 2:I thought about when we first dated and when I pulled it.
Speaker 1:When did you pull it?
Speaker 2:What? When did you pull it?
Speaker 1:When did I pull the. I mean you're talking about the card.
Speaker 2:I mean when did you?
Speaker 1:ask me, and why.
Speaker 2:I didn't ask you. You asked me. That's why I thought about it, did I?
Speaker 1:I don't remember and I said I don't remember, yeah, I know it.
Speaker 2:I remember the conversation. It was through text and you asked me basically so what are we? And I said said you know what this is? What does that even mean? Because we were just friends and I didn't know what we were and I didn't know if we were gonna actually be something. So it felt safe to just say we're friends, but we're talking dang, I don't remember what about you.
Speaker 1:I don't remember that, I don't know when. When to pull that, that's, I guess, when it gets more serious but when does it become more serious?
Speaker 2:the second date, the third date when you start catching them.
Speaker 1:Serious feelings if you know, you know. But if it's a, it's a weird topic, because what is what if the other person doesn't feel the way you feel?
Speaker 2:yeah, or like in our, our instance, I feel like I wasn't ready, but I liked you, but I wasn't ready to y'all hear that say yeah, we're a thing, or yeah, we're dating.
Speaker 1:That's, I don't know. That's tough because you know we haven't dated, we haven't, I guess, not been married in a long time.
Speaker 2:So I don't know. So it's hard to talk about anything pertaining to dating.
Speaker 1:I mean, it's not hard. But with dating, for me it was always like I felt like I always liked the other person more.
Speaker 2:And with you it was like you didn't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was like yeah.
Speaker 2:No, because I liked you more.
Speaker 1:I know.
Speaker 2:And quickly.
Speaker 1:I mean, who wouldn't, though, you know? So yeah, so, your answer is when things get serious.
Speaker 2:I feel like it's when you start talking about your goals together and when you start asking serious questions and you start seeing each other more, and then it's when you start if you're not a title, you start talking to other more. And then it's when you start, if you're not a title, you start talking to other people. And then you want to know what are we because?
Speaker 1:I feel like the jealousy, but I feel like in a relationship that should be like a I'm not talking to anyone else but you or these are my intentions yeah, but that's.
Speaker 2:That's what the question is I guess, when do you decide?
Speaker 1:I don't know, I guess I don't know.
Speaker 2:Everyone has a different perception of it.
Speaker 1:I feel like yeah, that makes sense. So what are your goals for this year? Your goals for this year.
Speaker 2:I'm not very proud of myself. I feel like my goals should be well. Honestly, I think for me it's more of finding a balance between wanting my own me time, being productive, fitting it in with mom, wife, work life. That is my goal, because I can never seem to like balance it out. I always feel like I'm overwhelmed, no matter what.
Speaker 1:So find a balance. Find a balance, that's important. And I need to hang out with people more. You don't have many friends.
Speaker 2:I know, but I keep getting invited to brunches so I need to just show up because the hardest part is showing up. I don't know if anybody can relate, but it's hard to show up. Then once I'm there and I leave, that I'm glad I went, but getting out the house is the hardest part.
Speaker 1:Facts facts show up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you're outgoing. You like to be busy. I wasn't always like that. Well then, what made you like that?
Speaker 1:I don't know being an adult Now. I have to speak to people every day.
Speaker 2:Your job.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's facts. My job made me like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like I'm going to have to be like that, since that's what I'm going to be doing, because I will be a waxer, so I do have to have relationships, but Avery knows I'm not a. I don't really like to have a lot of what is it Like? I'm not a people person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you got to get out of that, ma'am.
Speaker 2:I like to be by myself In this industry.
Speaker 1:You got to get out of that, ma'am.
Speaker 2:I know so. Yeah, that's one of my goals too. Just get out more, hang out with my friends. Yeah. Just not being so isolated all the time yeah makes sense what about you?
Speaker 1:my goals this year are to honestly, I feel like I've done a lot. I feel like my goals are to get you where you want to be, because I've done a lot in my you know, in my time on this earth. There's not much that I want more. You know what I mean. So I feel like I've done enough to where I'm happy where I'm at. So I want you to be happy where you are.
Speaker 2:Yeah, which I've already taken steps. Yep, I was just talking to my friend about it. She said you sound a lot happier when I send my voice text.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I said honestly I think it's because I left a place that I was not happy in for so long and I feel like I was bringing it home and that affected a lot. So I feel like 2024 was like a rough, rough year for me, and now that I'm not there anymore and I feel like I'm happier where I'm at now, I feel like I'm just working on. Ok, now what? How can I? I do need to get out more. I do need to do things. I need to stop just staying in my room.
Speaker 1:Facts, facts.
Speaker 2:Because you know how I am, even this is a lot for me. It's the getting to it. That's the hardest part for me, but then, once I'm in it, I'm good. So yeah, I have a lot that I still need to do, but I just I'm a big procrastinator. That's my problem.
Speaker 1:Facts. So what made you want to start a podcast?
Speaker 2:Because everyone always tells me I should start one.
Speaker 1:That's not a reason, that is not a reason?
Speaker 2:Yes, because I always have a lot of. I always have like thoughts on things, I always have my opinions and I feel like I help a lot of people when I tell them like thoughts on things. I always have my opinions and I feel like I help a lot of people when I tell them like my story or if I tell them things I've been through. I think the one thing for sure why I wanted to start one was to talk about like my stuff that I've been through that I'm sure other people can relate, or maybe if they've never been through it, but it kind of makes them look at life differently because of all that I've been through. I think that's what my goal is, yeah that makes sense and a podcast.
Speaker 1:That makes sense, makes sense.
Speaker 2:Why do you want to do a podcast?
Speaker 1:I just like being on camera talking to people. You know, the reason I started a podcast in the first place was because one day we're not going to be here and I have to leave something for my children. That is the number one thing. Number two is I just, I mean, I enjoy it. Yeah, like now that I've put music down, it's, it's the next thing that I enjoy the next thing that you're doing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do a lot of stuff, though I do too much stuff. I get confused. I do YouTube Twitch stream, gaming podcast, cut hair, all that.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, I don't know how you do it.
Speaker 1:And it's very organized. I know I don't know how you do it, and it's very organized.
Speaker 2:I know, I don't know how you do that.
Speaker 1:So if you guys don't know, Erica's not organized. No, I'm not, she doesn't have a routine, all that stuff.
Speaker 2:Okay, and everyone says, like, make a. You know what I have done. Better, though, is I've made little alarms for me. That says, like, like, I've been little alarms for me. That says, like, like, I've been reading what. I have the audio for the Bible. That was important to me. Every time I go to church and they say you need to be in the word, so I have the audio.
Speaker 2:Because I'm not a reader, so I don't. It's like what do I like to do? I don't like to read. I don't like to be around people At. I used to, but we talked about this last night. I just I'm not like that anymore, and I'm trying to get myself back to that person that I used to be, where I used to be fun. I used to like to go out, and I I mean not go out out, but like to be around people. I used to have a lot of friends, and then I feel like I just I think life took over too. Life has just been really stressful, so I just yeah, we talked about this. I could be in a slump. I'm trying to get out.
Speaker 1:Facts.
Speaker 2:I think Erica's depressed.
Speaker 1:Low key. You're depressed bro.
Speaker 2:And I just realized that yesterday, when I was talking to you, I'm like, maybe I am depressed because I just don't like who sits in the dark on their phone that's the only light you have. That's crazy and I'm happy though, but I'm happy, that's my me time. You know how like yours is in the bathroom just sitting.
Speaker 1:My room in the bathroom, ain't no kids exactly why, yeah, I can have my phone on yeah, all that. Well, that's me in the bed yeah, but you, you'll be laying there all day because maybe I'm depressed no, you need to get out of that. Oh, one of my goals is to to go back to church consistently yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2:I don't like that.
Speaker 1:We missed the last two days I feel like we've missed more than I'd like but I feel like life's been better since we've been going to church. I've been mentally better, um, I stress less, I worry less. Um, I guess I think about stuff less and I just go with the flow, you know.
Speaker 2:It's the spirit. Be like that sometimes it's true though, hey God, my bad bro. That is true. Yeah, I don't like that. We've missed the last couple days.
Speaker 1:But honestly it could Couple Sundays, not couple days.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean the last two Sundays.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But also it could be me, because I'm in such a funk internally. I feel like I'm better than I was last year, though I'm not like unhappy.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But I'm still trying to pull myself out of that routine of like not wanting to do anything. For me, it's hard to want to do anything. I don't even want to do my hair, my makeup, so I guess that is depression. I don't even want to do my hair, my makeup, so I guess that is depression.
Speaker 1:You wake up happier.
Speaker 2:I am happier because I like my job. Yeah, I feel like that's a huge, huge thing. I like my job. But now I'm like, yeah, now what? Now, what do I do? Because Running it, yeah, but I'm still, I'm in, in the process. I'm not there yet. So you see how, what I mean? I'm still in that middle area of where I'm not a waxer yet, but I'm in the field. So I think maybe when I'm doing it, I'll be happier, because then I can help, provide more, we can go do things, because I feel like life is just about work and paying bills. Also, I need to make more YouTube videos.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you'd be slacking bro.
Speaker 2:I don't have the motivation. Well, find it. I'm trying to. This is my first step.
Speaker 1:I mean, I guess you got to start somewhere. Maybe we'll do every Monday.
Speaker 2:Every Monday.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's dedication. Can you be dedicated to that?
Speaker 2:Well, if we go a week without doing one, I probably won't do it, so we might as well stick to every Monday.
Speaker 1:Why it's got to be Monday. Because, it's one of my days off. We could do Sunday or Monday.
Speaker 2:Or Sunday or Monday, sunday or Monday, or Sunday or Monday.
Speaker 1:Sunday or Monday After church.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, because then I'll already be ready.
Speaker 1:That'd be good. You'll be dressed already and everything, and I'll have the word Exactly.
Speaker 2:I think that'd be good.
Speaker 1:So how do you feel about interracial relationships? I don't know, I might be mexican because I'll be with the amigos, I mean, I don't know shut up shut up amigos.
Speaker 2:Shut up amigos your sister said interracial relationships. I mean I feel like it only is a big deal to the parents what do you mean, like I feel?
Speaker 1:What do you mean by that?
Speaker 2:Because I feel like the way you're raised, it's like your parents are able to tell you they'll either tell you I want you to marry someone who's this and this and not that. So then you grow up with that mindset, either of you wanting to marry whoever you want to marry, or what your mom and your dad said.
Speaker 1:Did your mom want you to date someone Mexican?
Speaker 2:She didn't have a preference.
Speaker 1:She didn't have a preference. You could have dated a white guy.
Speaker 2:No, but she always said you need to marry someone that can take care of you.
Speaker 1:So somebody that has money? That's crazy.
Speaker 2:No, she just wants someone that treats me right and that could take care of me.
Speaker 1:Miss Veronica, you need to. I don't know Someone that can take care of you. Is kind of crazy.
Speaker 2:I mean obviously somebody that would be able to fight, if you think about it. Actually, I've been thinking about this because it's like what if something happened to me and I couldn't work? Your partner has to be able to pick up the load. If something were to happen, I could be like literally no limbs. No, you know, you have to think about stuff like that. I think about all the time you need to stay out your room.
Speaker 1:You need to stay out your room, bro.
Speaker 2:What if you were in a wheelchair and you couldn't cut hair? What if you lost both your arms? I would have to be able to pick up the load. So I don't think race really matters, but I think that it's a society thing Because honestly I see it all the time, People are like you should marry within your race, not outside your race, Especially with black folks.
Speaker 1:She's being racist.
Speaker 2:And Mexican parents always don't want you to marry someone who is black.
Speaker 1:I'm one of the amigos, though, so it don't matter.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but my mom isn't like that. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Shout out my boy Jose. Shout out my boy Tony. Who else Shout out my boy Jose? Shout out my boy Tony. Who else? Shout out my boy Kenny and I'm Filipino. Shout out my boy Jazz. Come on, man. Shout out Andre, I'm everything, not really. People think I'm black and white all the time.
Speaker 2:I know I asked you that. I thought you were mixed.
Speaker 1:That's crazy, really. I'm black and I'm Lebanese.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I didn't think you were white, but I thought you were mixed with something else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, my mom's dad is straight Lebanese Straight from the land I don't know what land, but straight from the land I can tell now though, but I think my mom I don't think she would care if I dated I mean, obviously, outside of my race. She prefers a black woman.
Speaker 2:But I mean, we know this.
Speaker 1:I think it's. I think she preferred me to be happy more than anything, and even if that was, you know, whatever didn't matter to her for me. I was like I feel like I've seen too many interracial. Certain races were off limits for me because I've seen too many people in those races, and you see what comes out of that and a lot of times it's not good. A lot of times it's not good. But shout out to the migos man your cord's in your mic that's why shout out to the migos y'all be accepting me.
Speaker 1:You know, when I went to washington, I was really one of y'all. I was really one of y' all. Hey, I would have stayed in washington had you not wanted to. I don't know why. I probably would have stayed in Washington had you not wanted to move. I don't know why. I probably would have stayed in Washington, I would have never moved here. But when I got here I was like you know what it's cool out here and I know some people already.
Speaker 2:So if you had the option to move back to Washington, you would move back.
Speaker 1:I'm cool.
Speaker 2:Because no.
Speaker 1:I'm cool. I mean I wouldn't be super against it, but I feel like we've built up so much here. It wouldn't be, it wouldn't make sense. Like our kids are doing well in school, they're happy I feel, like it's a better community here too, though, but I feel like also, you know, a lot of people are like oh, I want to be around family, I want to be around this, I want to be around that. I mean I've been around family my whole life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but the Bible says you got to go on your own way. That's actually something. No, we got to talk about that because that's like something that people struggle with. They don't want to be away from their families so they don't get out of the place that they're in. We talk about this all the time. People want to stay where they're comfortable. Facts Moving here was not comfortable. We came here with absolutely nothing. So I just feel like sometimes when I hear people talking about, oh, I want to move and I want to start a new journey, and then they just talk, talk, talk and they never do it, it's always because they're comfortable.
Speaker 2:She sneaked this in a lot of my friends right now no I'm not I'm just trying to say that, like we did it so, but it's not for everybody. Some people are fine being comfortable and they're fine just being around their family, but you just have to think about it another way. Like what, when everybody is gone because they will go then what are you going to be stuck in a place that you're not really happy, with no family, because you know everybody's got to go at some point?
Speaker 1:Facts yeah, mom, she's talking to you, maja, she's talking to you, caleb, she's talking to you.
Speaker 2:No, I just want the best for everybody and it's it's not necessarily Arizona facts for facts. For me it is, but for y'all it might be somewhere else. I don't know better than where you're at, but life is too short. You just have to make the move, because I'm I mean, yeah, when I think about we came here with nothing. I had ramen noodles and like four frozen pizzas. I had no furniture well, we had no furniture.
Speaker 1:Why do you say I liked?
Speaker 2:Because, remember, I came first.
Speaker 1:So that was scary for me because I don't do much on my own. Yeah, it was fine to me. We had air mattresses.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Dang. Now look at us. We got too much furniture.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I need my own room now. Mm-hmm Dang, now look at us, we got too much furniture.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I need my own room now, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:I seen a video where there's a couple together, but they slept in different rooms. What do you think about that?
Speaker 2:Why? I don't know. Are they married, are they?
Speaker 1:dating. I have no idea.
Speaker 2:You don't know the background of the story.
Speaker 1:No, it was just a weird dynamic, because they're like oh yeah, I got my room, she got her room, everybody's comfortable.
Speaker 2:And I don't know. I need to know if they're married or they're dating or what's the situation.
Speaker 1:Because if you're married, Maybe she sleeps wild and he's tired of that, or maybe he just sleeps and he sweats out his whole life in his sleep. I don't know.
Speaker 2:Okay, I've heard of like one person sleeping on the couch because they can't sleep together in the same bed. I mean to each their own. If you're happy and you have a healthy relationship and you do that, great, but I don't see us doing that. No, I feel like yeah, because I've been in that situation and then people started to question wait, why are you guys in two different bedrooms for a year? Yeah, because it's not good and you get too comfortable and then, it's just not good, not healthy.
Speaker 1:So how's life as a? Mom Better what do you mean better Because.
Speaker 2:I get to see my oldest.
Speaker 1:But like.
Speaker 2:More. But, like what do you mean?
Speaker 1:what do you mean? Better this year or better Like?
Speaker 2:I feel like better than all the years, but it's like all the kids are older. My oldest, as you guys probably not, have three older kids and they're growing up. One's already graduated, one's about to graduate come May, and then I just have one that is still she'll be in high school still and Asia and April. They're growing up. But you know, april's in sports, asia's what In?
Speaker 1:middle school.
Speaker 2:Orchestra. They're all busy doing something.
Speaker 1:This is your last. You're having a child in elementary.
Speaker 2:I know, I was just thinking about that yesterday, you, old as hell dog. I always wanted another one, but now we have Tubby, so it feels like a sixth child Tired of that boy. Our house is full. So, yeah, I feel like I'm still adapting to that. But life as a mom is busy.
Speaker 1:It's always busy. There's always someone who has sports.
Speaker 2:There's always someone who has a conference practice wants to go to their friend's house wants to go to the gym hungry everything yeah or don't want to hang around us they want to hang around me.
Speaker 1:I'm wonderful until unless I get home, and you already made them mad. They don't want to.
Speaker 2:They dad, get out because they don't be listening. And then just, I mean I feel like they're all teenagers, even though April's still 10, but Asia's 12. Then you have Tubby, who's 14. And then, like they just all. They're all like teenagers, to be honest Facts. And the more I think about it it's like like yes, I do feel like I spent more time with the girls when they're younger, because they're like little kids. Now they have iphones and they could care less about being with us. But I had started like doing, you know, play cards with them, do a game, just to spend quality time, because if not, they'll be on their phones all day that's true.
Speaker 1:Unless it's april, she'll come out.
Speaker 2:I'm bored yeah like she is now. But yeah, so I mean, I guess, to answer it yeah, life is. It's busier as a mom. I think maybe that's why I'm always so mentally tired. You seem to balance it just fine.
Speaker 1:I'm the GOAT. It's different for me.
Speaker 2:Not for me.
Speaker 1:I feel, like you think I'm a morning person and I don't think I am. I think I do what needs to be done Because I'd be tired dog. But I don't like to go to sleep early at night, like when I come home and you got all the lights off at seven and you're in the bed. No tv on, just your phone. It's like dog. We're not that damn old what?
Speaker 2:okay, no, no, no, no, let's, don't even let him play y'all like that, because actually I was thinking about it. If we want to be real, I think a part of my depression Could be that all we do is Work and come home. You know, I feel like we're married. We're married how long now? Nine years.
Speaker 1:We're together nine married for eight. Wow and.
Speaker 2:I just feel like Wait, I'm not done. This will come with more podcasts. Is it eight?
Speaker 1:Is it eight?
Speaker 2:I can't keep track. We've been together for nine years. Come April it'll be eight years married.
Speaker 1:Yep, okay, come September, it'll be what.
Speaker 2:Ten. I know come september it'll be what 10 I know. So anyway, this will come with more the more we do more podcasts. But I feel like it's so important to date even when you're married and I don't feel like we're not that it's like a bad thing. I think we're just busy. You're always busy, I'm not.
Speaker 2:I'm not always doing stuff, so then, it's like you're always busy doing something, so then I'm just by myself. So it's like, yeah, I'm either, if I'm gonna do something with the girls, I try to do something with them here and there when I find the motivation, or I'm by myself. So I thought about that already and I'm like you know what it could be that just don't. That's why I went to brunch, because it's like I'm gonna and my friends want to go to brunch, like once a month on a Sunday, and maybe I need to do that because maybe I need to be around people, maybe I do need to be pulled out of my environment because I feel like I am always stuck in the house. So I think that has a lot to do with my depression. And it's not anything bad on you, it's just that you're always busy doing something and then I'm just left by myself, if that makes sense, like that's what I was saying I wish we had bikes so we could go ride bikes together.
Speaker 1:So I was you know how to ride a bike, yeah, Okay, and I would do that.
Speaker 2:Some people might think that's boring or lame. I would let's go on a bike ride, you know. Let's go get I don't know a smoothie afterwards, something like even when we went to lunch yesterday. That is that makes me happy, like just doing something together that's not in the house is that right.
Speaker 1:well, I feel like, I feel like we'll get to that more, but I feel like it's when, when, when.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:When, what.
Speaker 2:When I already know your answer After we just get everything taken care of.
Speaker 1:You know, we'll get to that, we'll get to that. You don't think so.
Speaker 2:No, it's just. I already know the answer.
Speaker 1:What's the answer?
Speaker 2:It's like when we have the money to do the extra stuff, because right now it's just priorities.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But I mean we'll get there. I just think like you have to have a. I know some people probably relate to this. You have to have a balance, though, where you fit that in somewhere when there is just going on a walk.
Speaker 1:I think living in Arizona has made me so fast paced, because I never used to be like this, but now I'm like, oh, what's next? Oh, what's next, let's get this done early, and then we get it all done.
Speaker 1:By the time we get it done, it's 7 pm, so that's exactly, I feel like living in a bigger city, I have to prioritize those things more because when you go to, sometimes you go to the store later. You know it's, it's crazy, or sometimes, I don't know, it takes longer later when everyone else is doing it. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you said you like to get everything done early in the day Facts and then have the what. The rest of the day. Yeah, that way I ain't gotta go nowhere else you're a planner too, though like you already think out the day facts, whereas for me I'm like I'm such a go with the flow person I don't plan anything.
Speaker 1:I feel like if I have free time there's something I could do that so I don't have to do it later. So yeah, I just like to get everything done and out the way.
Speaker 2:We're so different, I know.
Speaker 1:Erica was trying to check our horoscopes when we first got together. She said we're not compatible, we're not and I'm starting to believe that and it's kind of rude.
Speaker 2:No, it is true, though I don't appreciate it. It's true. I can't believe people, don't believe in that.
Speaker 1:It's very true. You don't think we're compatible.
Speaker 2:I know what. I know what makes us compatible. What makes us compatible is that we we are very family oriented, like we're a good family team for like the kids and having a family, but when it comes to like other stuff, I feel like we're not compatible at all wow but I mean not everybody. I feel like you balance me out is what I'm trying to say, like honestly. It's probably true sometimes which could be a lot for you where I need someone to like, pull me, like, push me you know, what I mean to do things, because otherwise I don't, I may not ever do it.
Speaker 2:Facts you're very like go go go, and we've talked about this too. He's very go go go. Always has to be doing something. That is very overwhelming for me because I'm just such a which is not. I guess it's not good. I'm very, just chill and You're very.
Speaker 1:Oh, I need to rest first.
Speaker 2:Yes, I need to relax first.
Speaker 1:Then we can go do that. I'm a very let's get it done now, we can relax later.
Speaker 2:I already know those people that agree with you. That's just me, okay, but it's awesome.
Speaker 1:But I'm sure there's people who agree with you yeah, because for me it has but it ain't me I know.
Speaker 2:But what I'm saying is, for me it's more of a health thing. I've you've already told you even I'm talking, I'm out of breath, I am just. I know that something's going on with me physically and I'm trying to figure out what it is, because this, even just this beginning of the year, I feel like I'm always super tired, I have no energy. Like I said, just doing and it could be the depression, I don't know but like just doing the smallest tasks is very exhausting to me. So I feel like it's also more of like mental health.
Speaker 2:If I don't mentally feel well, I don't want to do something like. If I'm not mentally feeling well, I don't want to do something Like. If I'm not mentally feeling well, I don't want to get on camera to fake the funk. No, I have to be like in the mood and I feel like that's my problem, like that's what holds me back a lot is my mood. I've heard somebody say like you can't do like working out, like you can't, you can't like based off when you're going to work out, based off your mood, you have to just do it because your mood will hold you back. Well, that's me.
Speaker 1:Your mood's holding you back, huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I'm not. I'm not motivated to do it, it sounds exhausting.
Speaker 1:Everything sounds exhausting In the words of my boy Jose motivation, derogation and yeah.
Speaker 2:But I think it's just a phase. I'll get through it. I haven't always been like this have I, have you, I don't know. I'm asking you now because now I don't know. Yeah, but is it worse?
Speaker 1:Yes, it is absolutely worse. We used to do youtube used to be like oh, let's do this video. But even then you were like right now. You always used to do that. Now look at us. Never did a video again. You still be like oh we should do a video on this.
Speaker 2:Never did it Because I'm telling you it sounds so exhausting guys, it's not that hard, I don't know if anyone relates to me. For me it is.
Speaker 1:I'm just a creative person, I guess, I don't know.
Speaker 2:You are and I'm not. But also I just feel like I've changed a lot throughout the years. Like I we were talking about this yesterday I used to be so fun and I and I used to do my own YouTube videos. But now, but think about it, when I used to do my own YouTube videos, I was a stay-at-home mom. I had nothing to do and I was like, what can I do to make myself feel like more than just a mom, like I wanted more of something to my identity. Then I started doing YouTube videos and that was a time when I feel like I was that person, like I was creative. I did it all by myself. I got sponsorships by myself, I edited, I learned to edit by myself and now it's like that's what I'm getting at.
Speaker 2:I feel like it's just so much, especially since moving it's true, moving to Arizona I feel like everything is so fast-paced, I feel like everything's more expensive, so you're trying to hustle more. I just feel like I'm overwhelmed, more than ever, so that I have even less energy. Instead of it feeling, instead of it being like a motivator to want for me to do more so that I can be how do how do I make that make sense. Like I wish I was like you, where I would be more motivated to do Cause. What if I did do a podcast? What if I did you do did YouTube videos, and it took off and then I didn't have to work so much. But I just I don't know, I haven't got there yet. You're just so great huh At everything, except for he has videos of y'all that he hasn't even let out Girl, please.
Speaker 1:Anyways, YouTube, YouTube, YouTube.
Speaker 2:We could do YouTube again. We could do YouTube right now, but you got to go cut hair.
Speaker 1:All right, I guess that is. It's about that time, man. Time to wrap it up. Time to wrap it up. So, yeah, have your listen to this podcast. Spotify, apple Music, whatever Apple Podcast, I should say I don't even know what else is out there. No more youtube. Subscribe to our youtube channel subscribe or follow our. Subscribe or follow our. Everything it's fine. Subscribe or follow our social medias social medias what?
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Speaker 1:And yeah, that's it. We'll see you next time. This is the other half podcast with your host. I'm the host, right okay, yeah with our guest Erica and our host, the big dog, I am not the guest big Tino.
Speaker 2:No, if you know me from the barbershop cruise.
Speaker 1:If I'm in your family, you know me as Avery, but I am not the guest. The big dog peace. I mean your family. You know me as Avery, but I am not the guest. The big dog Peace.