The Other Half Podcast
The other half can be many things. Most of all it is your perspective, your narrative, your side of the story. We are here to hear the other half of the story.
The Other Half Podcast
Spouse or Friend? Worst Dates & What Makes a Good Friend
Friendship – it seems so simple when we're young, yet becomes increasingly complex as we navigate adulthood. In this raw and unfiltered episode, we explore the nuanced boundaries that define our closest relationships and when those boundaries might need reinforcing.
When your best friend and your partner clash, who do you choose? Erika shares her powerful experience of cutting off judgmental friends who couldn't accept her relationship with Tino. Ten years later, she stands firmly by that decision, revealing how sometimes losing a friendship can be the price of personal happiness. The discussion highlights a universal truth: relationships often serve as mirrors, reflecting our values and revealing others' true colors.
We tackle the question of standards – are yours too high, too low, or just right? Guy admits his friends criticized him for dating women they deemed not attractive enough, sparking a deeper conversation about superficial expectations versus genuine connection. Tino confesses to being picky about appearance but acknowledges that shared values ultimately matter more.
The heart of the episode emerges when we distinguish between true friends and mere associates. "If you ever feel like you're about to cut your friend off and then the next minute you're cool, you're not real friends," Guy notes, crystallizing the difference between meaningful bonds and casual connections. Erika reveals her selective approach to friendship, distancing herself from energy-draining, one-sided relationships that demand everything while offering nothing in return.
From hilarious first-time drinking stories to profound reflections on loyalty, this episode offers both entertainment and wisdom. Whether you're questioning a friendship, navigating relationship drama, or simply curious about how others maintain their social boundaries, you'll find authentic perspectives that might just change how you view your own circle.
What makes someone worthy of your inner circle? Listen now and join the conversation.
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All right, guys, take us in, hit us with the intro.
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Speaker 1:We're going to redo that. We're going to redo that, Dang man.
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Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:This is uh the little guy. You feel me, he the new.
Speaker 3:I cut my dress off. You feel me Dress had to go, but it's cool though.
Speaker 1:Tell them why you cut it off cause I feel like cutting them off, oh, okay that was just uh.
Speaker 3:You know, I chose professional life instead of the street life. You feel me? Yeah. I feel you, boy praise God praise God, amen praise the Lord, thanks um on this good Sunday morning anyways, this our our co-host for this episode.
Speaker 1:This my little brother guy you already know. He got his own episode, so we decided he could be a co-host today.
Speaker 2:So yeah he's already been on the. You already been.
Speaker 1:You already been on the podcast, right? It's Big Tino. You know it's Baby E over here, right, anyways.
Speaker 2:Queen E. Thank you very much.
Speaker 1:You tell him girl.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes.
Speaker 1:Anyways, what's our icebreaker? We got an icebreaker right here, powered by hella.
Speaker 2:Awkward on this wonderful sunday all right, you ready yep okay, as always, I have a few just in case we need icebreakers, just in case we don't have to do all of them. Okay, so the first one's based off relationships, and this one is your best friend and your partner aren't, aren't vibing. What do you do? Aren't so you're with, you're in a relationship but you have like a best friend and you know you don't get along with them.
Speaker 2:But what you mean by aren't vibing you don't get along, okay, you don't like them. You don't like them. You don't like them for your significant other, your partner.
Speaker 1:Oh no, I ain't never had that happen. That's what you think.
Speaker 3:I ain't gonna lie. Depending on like the situation and how long y'all been together and how long you been friends with the person, somebody gotta go. If they ain't, y'all don't try to have them talk it out and all that and it ain't working. Somebody got to go, whoever.
Speaker 1:But which one though?
Speaker 3:Whoever ain't been there the longest. That's crazy Dang. Now, whoever in the room, whoever in the room, if they act the childish like, if you don't like a person for no reason yeah, yeah, yeah that's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 1:I mean that makes sense, I'm gonna tell you like this though, cause sometimes your girl is gonna last way longer than your friendship so it depend on how good you know what I'm saying. The relationship is cause. If it ain't the right relationship, then you lost both yeah, nah, you're gonna have to cut the cut the relationship off you so you feel like cut the relationship off if it's not the right relationship. If it is the right relationship, then obviously you got to choose your girl over your friends, but I don't know.
Speaker 2:Okay, that's crazy I think it depends. So I didn't think of I've had, I have erica cut her friends off of me don't even go there first of all.
Speaker 2:No, I feel like, okay, yeah because, but for good reason. So when I first started dating him, my friends there was two friends that did not like him because he was younger than me and he's not that much younger than me, by the way, but he's younger than me and I, you know, I have kids and stuff. So people look at that as like, oh, he can't take care of you, he can't, I didn't need somebody to take care of me, that's what they forgot, you tell them you're talking about two people, that, two women that are very, very independent.
Speaker 2:I don't need a man kind of thing. So eventually, yeah, I cut them off because I don't need that kind of ignorance and negativity in my life and then look we're still together 10 years in pretty much it. You know, that's how I see it. I think it depends facts, facts. You can't be judgy, judgy.
Speaker 1:That's the whole, my whole point damn, I've never had a situation where the friend I guess with you, that's the friends don't like me or the family doesn't like me. That sounds like the worst when the family doesn't like you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but you didn't have that problem.
Speaker 1:I cuss some people and they're like, yeah, I don't get along with my girl's family and I'm like, couldn't be me?
Speaker 3:So y'all had just met, and then your friends. Like how long you been with friends, with your friends?
Speaker 2:long time, long time long time, years, yeah yeah, and then you cut them off for him no, I don't feel like it's that I cut them off for him, but it actually let me see like their true colors as people right like I've never been anybody to say you shouldn't be with them or you know, unless they were like beating their ass or something or cheating on them, obviously, right she cussed sorry, just because you don't feel like somebody can take care of me, like they missed the whole memo.
Speaker 2:I wasn't looking for that, so I'm saying it depends. Like I've never been the kind of friend to tell my friends what they should be doing or shouldn't be doing unless they ask me. I didn't ask so. To me it's just unnecessary opinions that I don't need and I felt like at the end of the day, it made me see them for who they are and to this day I've watched their lives, you know, transform into what it is and I'm still here holding strong 10 years in. Can you say the same, right?
Speaker 2:So in a way, kind of no, I'm just, you know, I'm going to say how it is In a way. No, I didn't cut them off for him, but I cut them off for me because I want to be happy.
Speaker 1:I feel you, hey, hey, by the way, we live right now on tiktok, tiktok. If y'all got anything y'all want to say, if y'all want to put y'all a little two cents in, you feel me slide, let us know if y'all got any questions. Anyways, what's the next card, since you got a thousand cards now, I only have three.
Speaker 2:Okay, so that was one. Tell us about your worst date guy. Have you ever been on a worst date cards? No, I only have three. Okay, so that was one. Tell us about your worst date Guy. Have you ever been on a worst?
Speaker 3:date Worst date.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I don't really be doing the dates. What you do then People don't really go on dates no more. It's like two. Nowadays it's two mans and stuff. That's a date. What is's two mans and stuff and that's a date. What is a two?
Speaker 1:mans. You know, we old dog, we ain't young like you. I know what a two man is. Explain it for the people in the back, though, Erica.
Speaker 3:Okay so y'all know what a double date is.
Speaker 3:So, a double date is like when two relationships go on a date that go on a date. That's a double date. A two man is you call this girl like and y'all not dating right? So it's not really considered. So it's a difference, it's not a double date. So you know somebody like you just met this girl. You'd be like you got a friend from my homie. You feel me, y'all don't even know, don't, nobody know nobody. You feel me, y'all don't even know, don't, nobody know nobody. You feel me, except for the friends. And so basically y'all all link up, all four of y'all. Y'all just getting to know each other. You feel me.
Speaker 3:That sounds like a double date.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but y'all not dating, I mean you don't got to be dating on a double date. He too young to know what a double date you've ever been on, so you've never been on a date with somebody and it didn't go the way that you wanted it to go. Oh uh, that reminds me of your other client that went on that day, this one yeah, this one, I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3:Uh, I don't know if I should say this on the camera, but it was the one time when uh I was, I was young and all my friends ordered me, so that was encouraging me to you.
Speaker 3:Feel me, get some buns and so, and so, uh, this one girl, she wanted to smoke and I had the car, and uh, I'm getting in trouble for this one. But she, she wanted to smoke and I had the car, and, uh, usually we'll just link up and smoke at her crib, but she was saying it like she was on that. You feel me On what I was trying to get down with the get down, you feel me. So I called her, I was on the way to her crib. She was like she said something, crib. She was like. She was like she was like she said something. And I was like I was like all right, I'm finna, you feel me, I'm on that, I'm trying to, I'm trying to crack so. So she was like huh, and then, and then come to find out she wasn't even on that. So I go over there to smoke, and it was just awkward, dang.
Speaker 1:That is not the worst, that ain't a date?
Speaker 2:That's not cut.
Speaker 1:Hey, we need to get him up off the pod right now. What he telling us? It got to be a date.
Speaker 2:The worst date you've ever been on. All right, Erica, tell your worst date Actually, yeah, so in high school this is the only one I can think of. In high school, this guy wanted me to date him, so he took me on a date.
Speaker 1:He took me to.
Speaker 2:A&W got me a root beer float.
Speaker 1:Boy, you ain't never been to A&W. Anyways, go ahead.
Speaker 2:Because I didn't know how to say no but I didn't like him. But then right after the date, this is like freshman year, so I was like 15. Been a year, so I was like 15. Then right after the date, we get back to the school and he asked me out right in the hallway afterwards and I was like no, sorry. So I felt kind of bad because I went on a date. I was not into him, I didn't like him, I didn't find him attractive, nothing. It was probably the worst. It was very awkward. He didn't talk, it was quiet why are you doing like that?
Speaker 2:because I didn't know how to say no that's crazy, nothing crazy I don't think I've had a a crazy date have you had anything where somebody like expected you to pay for everything?
Speaker 1:I've never had. I've never. You need to tell. Can you tell me a story about?
Speaker 2:your friend, your client hold on.
Speaker 1:I've never actually paid for a first date, true? I want y'all to know that I've never right. It was girls. I told them, yeah, I didn't have no license, right. But I told them I ain't gonna, uh, I ain't got no car, my car in the shop right now. And then we get to the end of the date and they was like, don't worry about it, I pay. I was like I was it's cool, I was gonna pay, but y'all got it cool, is that bogus?
Speaker 2:okay, tell us, is that bogus though?
Speaker 1:is it bad for a guy to not pay for a first date?
Speaker 2:I think it's bad for a guy to assume, no, no, I feel like it's bad. It's a bad look for a guy to not kind of just pay. If the woman says, oh, don't worry about it, I got it, I think it's fine. But if a man just like assumes that, yeah, you were just like, oh, yeah, you got it, it's cool.
Speaker 1:No, it was like we get to the end and they just be like I got it. I didn't. I didn't ask them to pay for me or nothing like that. It was just they just naturally tried to pay and I was like it is what it is.
Speaker 2:I mean, that's different. They're offering to pay.
Speaker 1:So yeah, but all right. So I got a client. I ain't going to say no names. I ain't going to say no names. Right, Meets a girl. He probably going to know and he won't follow me, so we good, but look, he's gonna know. This is about him. He meets a girl at fogo de chow. He's leaving fogo de chow. What?
Speaker 1:is that it's a restaurant, okay, it's cost deal. Meets his girl girl's picking up food. She drives a mercedes. He said, oh yeah, gets her number. All that you want to go out for what did he say? Either seafood or sushi? She says, oh yeah, let's go to Nobu, right? I don't think he knew what that was.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Nobu is a very expensive restaurant. It's fancy All the rappers talk about it all that.
Speaker 2:It's out here at az, I ain't never been and I ain't going, or california so look he, he gets a haircut by me.
Speaker 1:He's telling me I'm like no, boo, you tripping. He said, yeah, man, I'm scared. He was like what, I can't even go pick her up because I drive an ultima. He's driving nissan, she's driving mercedes. Yeah, he's man, I'll just meet her there. So then he goes, meets her there. She's mad because she got to pay for valet. Right, they get there. She ordering dessert, wine, appetizer, all that, remind you, this guy is cheap, so she does all that by the end of the date. It's like you know what I'm saying. She finds something in her water. They give her 40% off because she finds something in her water. That bill was still $400.
Speaker 2:I was just going to say, even with a discount.
Speaker 1:Even with a discount that was $400. That boy would have been paying rent if he didn't find that thing Then he's talking to her. She's uh, they talk about something and she was like he just asked her like what you cooking tonight? She was like why you paying? Yeah, you know what kind of time she was on trying to get that bag. She was trying to get that bag up off her.
Speaker 2:I'm sure the dating world's rough right now in this generation. To be honest, yeah, I'm not going to lie.
Speaker 3:If I was in that predicament, I would not have paid. Yeah, I would have left her there.
Speaker 1:He paid for it, then you know, he did, he did.
Speaker 3:Simp. That's what we call that Straight simp.
Speaker 1:But look, he thought she was there to pick up food for her. She was doing DoorDash. See and how are you? That's crazy. Whole time she ain't even got it.
Speaker 2:Now, people that do DoorDash actually make a really good amount of money. But how are you going to work for DoorDash and expect somebody to pay for a $500 bill for dinner?
Speaker 3:That's crazy, couldn't be me, but anyways, couldn't be me. I'm the don and ass. They're gonna lock you up. It is what it is all right.
Speaker 1:What's your last card, man all?
Speaker 2:right. Last card okay, according to your friends, are you. Are your dating standards too low, too high or just right? What do you think? According to your friend, that? Is well, we're not dating, that's we can't answer that because we're not dating. No, I can't answer it here, but he dates guy.
Speaker 1:Dude is very gross dude. Do people think your standards is too high, too low or what are?
Speaker 3:you picky I go a lot my friends back in iowa. They used to be like they used to be cause, like, like you gotta be somewhat cute, right, right, but like I'm not really all the way in it for the looks, mhm, cause my mama raised me right. So so the girls I went out with, they wasn't the cutest girls, they wasn't ugly, but they wasn't. You feel me what? Was they, they was mild Bro shut up bro.
Speaker 1:They was mild. Shut up bro.
Speaker 3:So, so, uh, every time my friends used to see like Fat, fat and RJ, they used to be like bro, you 6'5, what did you do with her? It'd be like bro, you can have anybody you want and you pick her. I'm like bro, I'm not even in it for all that fuck do you have a type do you have a type um, I don't really. I don't really have a type, but like I ain't gonna lie if I see a light skin with curls dang, you're just like Tubby.
Speaker 2:That's how Tubby you, you just like, just like your brother, I don't know who you like.
Speaker 1:My knees get weak. He's like I get so weak in my knees. Shut up, bro.
Speaker 2:I keep forgetting to speak into the mic, that's not going to be good.
Speaker 1:What about you? Do your friends think your standards are too high, just right, or too low, or what?
Speaker 2:I think I have the best standards. I'm not going to lie. Erica ain't got no standards bro. You're really going to lie like that just because you're on camera, bro.
Speaker 1:What you mean.
Speaker 2:You better fix that right now.
Speaker 1:What are your standards? Fix it right now. I would not be with you if my standards were not good. Erica, it's not standards, it's more like you're not in it for the looks. You're not in it for the looks. That's what I mean, that's true, yeah exactly.
Speaker 2:Okay. That doesn't mean I have no standards, though Correct yourself, I have standards. I actually have very high standards. It's actually not good. I have very high, high standards, but sometimes I have to remember to work on myself.
Speaker 1:You tell them girl.
Speaker 2:But I feel like my standards are just right. Why? Because I have a job, you have a job, I pay bills, you pay bills, I've paid all the bills and then you couldn't, and then now I couldn't, and now you do. We don't cheat, we don't lie. There's nothing to hide. We meet each other 50-50.
Speaker 1:We listen and we don't judge.
Speaker 2:Period. So my standards are just right, but according to my friends, I don't know. Y'all can tell me, I have no idea. I don't really care though because I don't really feel like I know a lot of people with good standards in the first place. Hold on, let me see the card again.
Speaker 3:Hey, we gotta do another card. Them cards is good. Are your standards too high, too low?
Speaker 1:according to your friends I ain't gonna lie, I ain't. I was outside with no friends when I met you. So you know, don't know, I feel like when I was younger, like I went with what everyone else thinks is cool.
Speaker 2:So I didn't really know what was good for me. Yeah, what.
Speaker 1:I liked. But now that I'm older, you feel me, my wife, a 10. What, oh man, do I have?
Speaker 2:I don't know, you know what I think you have good standards, oh man, do I have?
Speaker 1:I don't know you know what I think? I'm gonna say this I feel like sometimes my standards are a little high because my grandma and all them used to be like oh you, you, you don't like nobody because it's something small wrong with this person.
Speaker 2:I think you're very uh picky anyways, back to what I was saying.
Speaker 1:I'm picky, so yeah, so I got high standards and uh, but here's the thing I'm short, I'm a tall five seven, you feel me. So it'd be like that. You know, everybody can't be six foot something and all that, but honestly, I feel like sometimes the tall guys are not like.
Speaker 2:They don't even, they don't have any personality. Most of the time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they're goofies.
Speaker 2:They're very corny because they feel like it's just like men with muscles. Like men with muscles think that they don't have to, they don't have to have anything else, and that's where they lack. They lack everything else and they wonder why they're being cheated on and stuff. It's because all you do is think that you have muscles and that's it and that's good enough.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've been in the gym.
Speaker 2:I do feel like you're very picky and you can be judgmental at times and you're very like what's the word when you care about looks? Because does he not always point out something with somebody? I ain't going to lie, though.
Speaker 1:He always talks about somebody's features when I was younger, like I didn't get a lot of attention from girls, but now, you know, I feel like I could if I was single. I mean, I did before I met you and now I'm just like I don't really. I guess I don't, my standards don't matter anymore because I'm married.
Speaker 2:Right To an extent. You still have standards in a relationship, something like that.
Speaker 1:With your partner. But yeah, I wasn't always tall. I wasn't always sought after by women. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:You were never tall.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying. I used to be average height at one point, now not so much, you know you know getting that hunchback hold on, man, watch out, watch out. But my standard I don't know. I don't know if, if they are too high for me, they're just right I feel.
Speaker 2:I mean I'm married too, so I know I feel like your standards. Sometimes it's not wrong, though it's not bad, but I feel like your standards are very high because you expect a lot out of me for myself, like you expect me to be successful, go to work, you know, make my own money too. You would like me to go work out successfully, because you know that that's what I want for myself. But you're very like, you're a pusher. You're very pushy. That could be a lot for some people, but I don't think it means your standards are too high, but you do definitely have high standards.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I guess, I guess. So what's our topic for today, ma'am?
Speaker 2:What is our topic? Go ahead.
Speaker 1:I thought you said friends.
Speaker 2:Anyways, we were going to talk about.
Speaker 3:I don't have any friends. This is going to be hard. Oh, that's funny. That's funny.
Speaker 2:I mean, I never knew my father, you definitely have had friends on the past, right, because this doesn't mean just like present. We're talking about like just in general. Um well, the subject was kind of basically like talking about what makes a friend a friend, like, what is your experience with friends? Do you ever feel like you have to ghost anybody, cut anybody off for any reason? That's a friend and why.
Speaker 3:I ain't going first. I ain't going first he's scared.
Speaker 1:Look, my friends know I got kids Right. We don't talk every day but we be locked in. My friends know I'm not going to be out here cheating in the streets. They're not going to push me to do that. My friends know that I mean they just. They just I'm not going to be out here cheating in the streets. They're not going to push me to do that. My friends know that I mean they just, they just you know they know that if they hit me up it'll be, it'll be like we never stop talking.
Speaker 1:You know, it'll seem like we talk every day. Those are the friends. What's the other part of the topic?
Speaker 2:Like have you ever had to cut a friend off, and why?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:What makes a friend to you? How do you know someone's your real friend and not just someone in your life?
Speaker 1:All the stuff I said for that part. But then I've had to cut people off. I don't want to say cut people off, I just kept distance. I used to work with a guy in a shop and I got brought him into the shop, right, I got him a job there. Because he was like, oh, I got fired from this shop. He didn't tell me the real reason why he got fired. Then it's like I'm having my kids around you, I'm bringing you into this barber shop. I'm basically telling the owner I approve of this person. And he turned around and was like hey, I don't know why he has all them clients, he ain't even that good he said that about?
Speaker 1:oh, he said that about you yeah so it's like sometimes you gotta ghosting people, sometimes you gotta keep distance. I don't want to be friends with somebody who doesn't take care of their kids for one I don't want to be friends with somebody who's going to talk behind my back definitely understood I don't want to be friends with just people who are going out all the time because I don't go out. So I need more people with common goals or to have a lot more in common with me I agree so, yeah, what's the third part of that question?
Speaker 2:boy, do you need the card oh?
Speaker 1:I asked it, she asked it and she don't even see what I'm talking about. No, I said, have you ever had to?
Speaker 2:ghost somebody, or like cut off a friendship and why that was it? Or like what makes somebody a good friend to you and why you done you feel me?
Speaker 1:of course I'm done. I just I just gave you a bible verse anyways.
Speaker 2:Um, you could probably speak for me. I'm very picky when it comes to friends. I did not used to be that way. That's why I always had a bunch of friends she ain't gonna know friends.
Speaker 2:I don't really have a lot of friends now. For me it's more of like I just get really irritated easily with people and like their decisions. So if you keep making the same mistakes over and over and over, but then you want to vent to me like I can only be there to help you so many times or tell you what I think you should do, but when it gets to a point where I feel like you're draining me, you know, or like it's mentally exhausting to be around you, I will literally, yeah, distance myself. Um, or if I feel like you use me in a way like I love, like I have a friendship where if I get a coffee for her, she gets a coffee for me. If I'm picking her up today, she'll pick me up. If you know I got her something, she'll get me something, and we don't do it tit for tat, but we just were thoughtful about you know I got her something, she'll get me something, and we don't do it tit for tat, but we just were thoughtful about you know what we would, what we do with each other.
Speaker 2:I've gone over to her house whenever she just needs me to be there and I'm just there to be there, like I truly enjoy being there to help her with her kids. I don't need anything in return and it's fine. We don't have to talk every day. But sometimes you just have friendships that are just one-sided and you're constantly doing, doing, doing for them, but you're not receiving anything back, and not even on a mental level. So for me, if it's that, I will distance myself, and you know I only speak to you if I have to, but I'm pretty selective when it comes to my friends facts, because I feel like that's I mean, yeah, same thing like you wanna have friends that have the same common goals, cause If not, why are you friends? They're not doing anything for you, yep.
Speaker 1:Who's your friend? Shout out your friends.
Speaker 2:My friends.
Speaker 1:Shout out your friends.
Speaker 2:Why are you trying to put me on blast Cause you know they only fit on one hand.
Speaker 1:Shout them out.
Speaker 2:Okay, well, my number one, my OG friend from the fourth grade, is going to be Maribel. We literally don't even talk every month.
Speaker 1:We talk.
Speaker 2:Every once in a while, we shoot each other a message on Instagram or something, but that is my friend from elementary. We have been through a lot, a lot, but we're still so strong. So, maribel, stephanie Stephanie is my kid's godparent. Again, we've been through a lot too, but we always seem to land on the same page. We're very mature and can communicate about any issues that we have. And then there is, uh, jc. Jc's my friend through avery's friend, so her ex boyfriend is his friend, so they're pretty close and so I met her that way. Um, um, that's really it, stephanie.
Speaker 1:She already said Stephanie. How you on the podcast?
Speaker 2:And then I have friends on social media that I love, love, love too, but I've never got to meet them in person.
Speaker 1:Interesting.
Speaker 3:Man shout out Huncho Shout out Nito.
Speaker 1:Well, huncho, your cousin boy.
Speaker 3:That's so friend.
Speaker 1:Man shut up.
Speaker 3:I'm trying to correct somebody you can tell we siblings, cause I'll smack buddy anyways go ahead, go ahead yeah, man shout out to them, but so talk about it did I ever have to cut somebody off, like cut a friendship, nah cause. Or ghost? Yeah, I mean. Yeah, it's probably been times where I cut a friendship no because. Or ghost? Yeah, I mean, it's probably been times where I cut a person off, but ghost, no, I don't really be ghost people. If I ain't mess with you, I'm just keeping a bug and tell you what you did wrong. I ain't mess with you, no more.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 3:I mean you don't like it. Okay, what makes a good friend A good friend? Perfect example of a good friend Me, I feel you. I don't even know dude Nah, but look, I don't really know the specific examples, but like All my friends is great friends.
Speaker 2:Why.
Speaker 3:Why you feel me they got my friends. Why, why you feel me they got my back. You feel me I don't know Whatever make a friend a good friend? Y'all know. If y'all got good friends, y'all know and I ain't talking about the people that got friends and then be like, oh y'all, finna, cut him. No, I ain't talking about the people that got friends and then be like, oh, y'all, finna, cut him. No, I ain't talking about y'all. If you ever feel like you, finna, cut your friend off and then the next minute y'all cool, y'all not real friends?
Speaker 2:Okay, but actually let's talk about that, because I feel like not gonna lie.
Speaker 3:Don't cut buddy off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I struggle with that, though, because Avery knows we talk about this all the time, knows we talk about this all the time, of course, like we vent to each other, right, like we, we talk to each other about certain things, like we'll be like, hey, that's crazy, that's something right. But let me just say I feel like it's hard because you sometimes do want to be like I'm done, like I don't even want to deal with them anymore. I don't want to, whatever they keep making the same whatever. How do you? It's hard, though, because then what you would come back around and it's like wait, no, we're still good. Like we're good, everything's fine.
Speaker 2:I think it's trying to give people like the benefit of the doubt, trying to give people chances, but it's hard because deep down, you know they're probably not a good person to have in your life. You know what I mean. So it's the same thing as like gossiping about your friends, but then you're cool. I mean that's like we've talked about this. One of my biggest pet peeves is like having a friend but then talking about them behind their back because you don't agree what they're doing. I feel like it's kind of different, though, like when you're only venting to like your spouse about it, because y'all communicate. Then if I was going to like another friend and saying, dang so, and so did this today and whatever she got on my nerves and I keep telling her the same thing over and over, I feel like that's different than like when we what do you think? I feel like? I don't feel like it's healthy, though I know exactly what you're saying.
Speaker 3:I feel like. I feel like if you feel that way, you should just keep it a bug with him, be like I feel like you're not a good friend yeah, I feel like just being honest and if y'all get into it.
Speaker 3:That's the perfect timing to cut that right there and then be like you know what I'm, finna, stop messing with you. I ain't messing with you no more. Yeah, you cut you, feel me. That's exactly what you gotta say. Never talk to them again. Simple as that. Simple as that you cut, I ain't messing with you no more. Uh, uh.
Speaker 2:I feel like it depends on what it is, though, because you can have like I said, you can have friends that don't live the same life as you, or don't live the same life as you or don't have the same mindset as you, but you're still cool and you can't make other people be smarter. You know you can't make other people do what you do.
Speaker 3:You know if you don't want to do that, you can just keep your distance.
Speaker 2:I think yeah, exactly that's my point just keep your distance have a have a different relationship than with y'all Right Then, like another friendship, you feel me Exactly.
Speaker 3:It's different between friends, because you got friends that you call your brothers and sisters, then you got.
Speaker 2:that's just my friends, friends that you're just cool with, yeah, nice.
Speaker 1:That's facts.
Speaker 2:So I guess that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1:See, I got a lot of friends. And then I got associates. Yeah, I have a lot of friends. I got a good amount of friends, be fake. And then it's a whole bunch of associates. I said you're fake. Hey, I ain't fake, I just live off good vibes, that ain't fake. All right, no, ain't nobody doing nothing to me for me to be like, oh, I don't want to mess with you. But at the same time, it's whatever flow his boat.
Speaker 1:It's like this I got, I got my certain group of friends. I'll talk to them all the time. And then, outside of that, you got other people who you. When you see him, you just be like what's up, bro, that's it all. Right, you feel me. But the friends, they know, friends is the ones you call when you. You know I'm saying when you're going through your worst times, or, and like it was a time me, bradley, bradley and Bryce, we was on the phone like hey, man, who got the lowest bank account today. I know we all going through it. So it be like that. Sometimes them is your friends, right, kenny Andre, them is friends, people like that, you know what I'm saying. The guys at the shop them is friends, you know what I'm saying. But you know what I'm saying. The guys at the shop them is friends. You know what I'm saying. But the people outside of that like.
Speaker 3:it's certain people that I don't just I don't Like associates.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they just associates. We ain't going to say no names. We ain't going to say no names.
Speaker 2:There's a lot of I'm cool with everybody though you know what I'm saying I'm cool with everybody, Because I feel like even your friends' friends, they know how you are Because you know I've seen it where they could be telling you something or venting to you about something. You've already told them how it is and they're still in the same boat, so you just don't say anything. Eventually they change the subject, Eventually they stop talking about it and they move on. They know not to come to you about certain things because of how you are and like you know what you, what you believe or whatever. So I feel like it's a little bit different because you're pretty straight up about it. You've already told them doesn't mean that you can't vent to me about it. You've already said something to them but they still. They just are who they are.
Speaker 1:Facts. I agree with that, you know but Iowa's small, so you know everybody just from knowing everybody. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you have way too many friends over there.
Speaker 1:Too many associates. They're not all friends.
Speaker 2:Cousins, I don't know, Cousins, that we do I don't know who is who that we do.
Speaker 3:That's why I got two of my cousins that I call friends, but they're my cousins To me.
Speaker 2:Anyways, was there anything you want to talk about, Guy? Before we end this podcast today, End it already. No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 3:Yeah, what did you want to talk about? What did you want to? Talk about Dang? I don't know Something. Let's do another card here, you pick a card.
Speaker 1:All right, Guy ain's supposed to be a co-host. He ain't asking no questions. He ain't doing no co-host duties.
Speaker 3:We need better from you dawg. I'm going to tell y'all business on this one.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Buddy it's niche. All right, look, Buddy, it's niche.
Speaker 3:It say tell us the story of your first time getting wasted. We need all the details.
Speaker 2:He's never been wasted.
Speaker 3:He don't drink and she don't smoke, so she drink and he don't smoke, but he he be popping them joints.
Speaker 1:Popping them joints, what?
Speaker 2:you're lying, you lying. No, not popping them joints. What?
Speaker 3:do you mean you remember when you was in Vegas and you was lit?
Speaker 2:oh, yeah, man, he was up there. He was up there, he was up there.
Speaker 1:He was up there when you was in Vegas and you was lit fuck. Oh yeah, man, this guy trying to set us up. I'm going to tell y'all right now there's one time I did edibles in.
Speaker 2:Vegas, that's it.
Speaker 3:Yeah, how'd you feel I don't know, so here's the thing.
Speaker 1:When I was young, I used to fake smoke, if you know what that means. You inhale you inhale and then you exhale, but you don't actually inhale, inhale don't go in your lungs.
Speaker 1:Hold on, man, anyways. So I was doing that and then one time they was like man, you ain't even smoking, man, you gotta inhale, I inhale. That was the first time I said say, yeah, this ain't for me, dog, I, I can't be one of the people who relies on marijuana every single day and cannot function without marijuana drinking. That's different. I know a lot of alcoholics in the family or people I've just been around that I cannot drink. I won drink, I'm not trying to drink. So you want to tell your story?
Speaker 1:Okay, mine's pretty bad, we're done, folks, after this, this is it All right.
Speaker 2:Okay. So the one time that I got I hate saying that wasted, that sounds trashy but the one time I got really drunk was when I was 16. Or 17. No, when I was 16 or 17. No, I was 16. Dang, you was drinking that, yo, and back in the day everybody used to go get a big old bottle of sangria. That's what it's called. It's like a big old bottle of wine and I'm talking like a jug, not a bottle, a jug. So I drank it all. I'm a lightweight and so I got really drunk. We went to the club, stood in line and that's the last thing I remember.
Speaker 1:We never made it into the club.
Speaker 2:They said I was falling in line. I don't remember anything. I blacked out, woke up the next morning and I was so mad that I did not go to the club.
Speaker 1:Why.
Speaker 2:Because I really wanted to go.
Speaker 1:I was really excited, you was outside.
Speaker 2:I blacked out and there was throw up everywhere.
Speaker 3:It was so bad.
Speaker 2:They had to throw me in the shower Naked, that's gross Because it was throw up all over my clothes. Yeah, Threw me in the shower naked. Cold water it was bad.
Speaker 1:That's the worst story I have. Yeah that's pretty bad. I'm a little too messy guy, what's?
Speaker 3:yours what, yeah, tell, tell when you uh, I ain't gonna lie, I uh, I'm 18, I I'm grown, I can't get in trouble no more, you ain't grown shut up, but look, uh, shut up, but look, I used to. So we used to have a little neighborhood group right Sixth grade, you feel me Sixth grade.
Speaker 3:Shut up. Does your mom know this? We listen and we don't. Yeah, I got caught. I got sent to my daddy's hospital. I went to go stay with my dad for like two years after that and it was this little fat kid down the street and he stayed with his grand.
Speaker 2:He stayed with his grand.
Speaker 3:He was like a super duper eighth grader right, Not a super senior, but he was Dang. He repeated it like five times, like three times. I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1:Dang.
Speaker 3:So this nigga was like 16, in the eighth grade and he lived with his granny so he ain't had no discipline. So he had. You feel me? I tried to hit the blunt for the first time. You feel me? I was in sixth grade and I wasn't even smoking for real. I thought I was smoking. I wasn't even smoking until freshman year. Fat Fat and Andre. We was at Fat Fat Crip and I tried it again cause I had. You know, I got sent with my pops for that cause my mom found out. And then seventh and eighth or the rest of sixth grade and seventh grade I was, I was staying with my dad. I came back eighth grade and I was doing good Freshman year, me, fat Fat, andre and another dude.
Speaker 3:We was at Fat Fat Crib and we smoked. That was my first time getting high. I was like, yeah, I wasn't high for real. Last time, nigga, I was zooted. Then it was the middle of the night and we had to run for the bus. We was like 10 blocks away and the bus was coming in like 5 minutes. These niggas decided to take off running y'all were bad.
Speaker 3:I'm like oh heck, you don't they look at me, I look at them in the 6th grade.
Speaker 2:That's April's age, so you were 11 he trying to be a pothead, bro.
Speaker 1:What's wrong with buddy? Yeah, shut up, man and then getting drunk.
Speaker 3:First time getting drunk I was like it was like a little bonfire. This white kid, his dad, had an abandoned barn, a barn house, and they would just start a fire in the middle of the barn house and we all used to go in there and I remember I was off, that clear joint, what I was off, that I was off that clear joint what I was off that, what's my car, what's? A clear joint I ain't gonna say what it was.
Speaker 1:I don't know what's the buddy.
Speaker 3:I was off that.
Speaker 2:Vodka.
Speaker 3:Nope.
Speaker 2:Smirnoff, it was that trunk.
Speaker 3:I was off that trunk. No, but that's my story. We got one more card.
Speaker 1:No, we done.
Speaker 3:No, no, no One more, one more.
Speaker 1:We have 40 minutes we done.
Speaker 2:It's going to be short anyways, you got to edit it. It says stop fronting.
Speaker 3:You have a favorite friend. Who is it?
Speaker 1:I don't got no favorite friend. You a lie, I don't you a lie. I don't who, I ain't got one. Who your closest friend, I don't got one.
Speaker 3:You used to Everybody's different at different times in my life. You be talking best about. Everybody off the camera Are we on camera.
Speaker 1:I'll be on y'all head.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to lie. Oh my goodness, that's what I mean, though he's very picky about people. He's very picky about people in his life. He doesn't have the patience for nonsense. Facts. You know what I feel like definitely, mine is Stephanie, oh, but Maribel's like my.
Speaker 2:Okay, that's hard because yeah, thanks to me, we get messy Because I don't see Maribel anymore so I don't get to have that connection with her in person, but like the connection that we have from afar will never be different. I don't have a favorite. I can't choose, because I feel like Maribel is just, she knows me like nobody else knows me. So I'd have to say Maribel, because Stephanie's more like my sister. Who's your favorite?
Speaker 1:guy.
Speaker 3:I got a story time for y'all, Nah ain't no story time.
Speaker 1:Who's your favorite? Shut up man, who is your favorite? Answer the question.
Speaker 3:Of course I'm going to have to say my cousins, right, Because them who I hang out with.
Speaker 1:Them, you got to pick one.
Speaker 3:Shut up, but look.
Speaker 1:He got angry issues. He drops on his head as a baby.
Speaker 3:Me and Honcho grew up together, so I can't say Nito and not say Honcho. But I can't say Honcho and not say Nito. You feel me, because me and Nito spend more time together than Hunter do. But I can't, you feel me, I can't pick between. So me and Hunter grew up together, but Nito I met Nito at I was in fifth grade and her mom, her and her mom had just moved to Des Moines and they ain't know nobody out there. And yeah, see, I came over, we met, we used to be in the basement slot boxing and stuff and so, and so I would say, I don't know, it's like me and Nito spend more time together, for sure. But shoot, yeah, it's between them two and I ain't gonna lie, I'm gonna have to say Nito, nito only because we spend more time together. But Hancho.
Speaker 1:I still love you time together.
Speaker 3:That's what I'm saying. But, hancho, I still love you bro. I still love you bro.
Speaker 1:He choosing size. It's hard.
Speaker 3:No, I ain't choosing size, it's just, we spend more time together, you picking size? No, I'm only picking her because we've been through the most stuff together.
Speaker 2:Exactly yeah.
Speaker 1:Like what time we got somebody she stabbed me on purpose.
Speaker 3:Yeah, uh, no, I think she was just pulling it out to scare me, but but we.
Speaker 2:What did she? What did she?
Speaker 3:would have killed you though we were squabbling and she was like trying to. She was trying to fight back. She had the knife in her hand, but I don't think she was meaning to stab me, but she just she had it in her hand but but we made up. After that We've been to the most parties together.
Speaker 1:There's always that one dude. That's six foot, something that's trying to pick on shorter people.
Speaker 3:She started with me I don't believe that. She poured juice on me. I had a fresh barrel to what's in. She poured some juice on me through the car window because she was mad. I said I was going to pull off in her car and so I was sitting in her car and, yeah, she took too far. She dumped the juice on me so I got out of the car.
Speaker 1:I would have dumped it on you too.
Speaker 3:She tried to get out but her window was broken and it didn't roll out of it, so I I drenched it and then she tried to open the door and she could've killed you.
Speaker 1:She gotta tell her side of the story. Cause you be lying.
Speaker 2:There's always two sides to the story.
Speaker 3:She gonna be down here for the YB concert. Y'all wanna have her on the podcast.
Speaker 2:You going to the YB concert.
Speaker 1:He ain't going to the YB concert.
Speaker 3:Who ain't?
Speaker 1:You. Okay, that's the end of this video. I'm tired of guy Guy trying to get messy.
Speaker 2:If you want to see Guy on the podcast more, let us know you don't, because we will add him.
Speaker 1:We don't want no more YNs on the podcast I want some YNs.
Speaker 3:Hey, let's make the, let's make the videos More interesting. I bet you you get A thousand A thousand plus views On this.
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