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have you ever felt like you're doing everything right in love, being available, being supportive, showing him you care, and yet he pulls away? Well, what if I told you that the energy that you're leading with is pushing him away, not actually pulling him in. Today, I'm gonna show you how to stop chasing these men out here and start radiating so that love and masculine men and money and whatever you want. Starts to come to you. I'm gonna teach you how to become the kind of woman that a healthy masculine man cannot stop thinking about. Hi, my name is Amanda. Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in your life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to. If that's something that you're interested in, make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell so you don't miss a single video. We currently have a feminine. Energy communication series going on on this channel that you guys are really enjoying. We also talk a lot about nervous system regulation, prosperity consciousness, all the woo things we got you covered. So make sure to subscribe. If you like this video, give it a like, we're on a mission, uh, to help solve the relationship crisis going on in the world right now. There. So much confusion about relationships and healthy dynamics and what it means to be masculine and feminine and it's just crazy. So we're trying our best to get this in front of as many women as possible so they don't end up in janky relationships with feminized men. If you're on board with that mission, go ahead and give this a like,'cause it helps us get it in front of more. Women. And as always, I always have resources for you, for those of you who wanna go deeper, uh, into our paid containers or working with me, personally, you can find all the links to that below. For this particular video, the best resource to go deeper is going to be our masculine and feminine energy dynamics masterclass, where I go into describing polarity, what that looks like in different areas in your life, how to integrate it. Uh, within ourselves, because once you learn how to do that, life starts to get a lot easier. Whether you wanna make more money, whether you wanna attract a masculine man, things just start getting pretty cool. So make sure to check that out below. Okay, let's start with some honesty. Okay, big cysts, Amanda. Time here. Chasing a man does not work. Trying to convince a man that he should marry you. Does not work right? Try to convince your husband to go do a thing that you want him to do, also does not work. All of these are examples of chasing, and chasing is basically just control even when it's disguised as care. So when you initiate every conversation, when you plan every day, and you try to make him choose you, that's the problem Here. What you're really saying is. Your value as a woman comes from what you do, not who you are. So you got this backwards'cause you're already in that masculine position. And what happens is that energy actually repels healthy masculine men. Now what it does do though, is that it attracts unhealthy feminized men who will use you, who will build businesses off your back, who will leave you single, uh, and who will make you jump through hoops of fire. The polyamory bullshit, like that's what it's going to do. So we have to learn how to really shift that energy. So that healthy men, um, are attracted to us because masculine energy is very directional. It wants to pursue, it wants to penetrate, and it wants to win. But when you're the one doing all of that or trying to prove yourself, which is essentially doing that, is you're trying to prove yourself that you're good enough. They're the ones who need to prove not you, right? Basically, there's no space for him, uh, to show up and pursue you. Now, most women. Get into this wonky dynamic because it feels safer to stay in control than it does to surrender and wait. And I know this very personally because this was me for 15 years. I wanted to control everything. I still struggle, uh, with control. I grew up in environments where there were, uh, very controlling women and on both sides of my family, at least about three generations back. The women had to control because of life circumstances and things that were going on around them. So I understand it, and they gave me a lot of resilience and strength and, and confidence in a lot of ways. But I've had to learn how not to go overboard, um, with that control. And it is, it's a daily struggle. We all okay, if, you know, you know, it's a daily struggle, um, sometimes in terms of us learning. How to heal this. But once you start doing that feminine energy inner work, part of what we have to come to terms with is that we don't have to always be in control. The masculine is in control and we can trust and surrender. Uh, to that, and I, again, I know it's challenging, so we're gonna go into some of the ways that we can start doing that, because if we're in this chasing energy, whether you're making up a bunch of stories in your head about a guy you barely know, or whether you're the one planning a bunch of dates, or whether you're trying to manipulate your husband to do something, or you're trying to prove to a guy who's been with you for seven years but still hasn't put a ring on it, that you are worthy of being married, it all comes down to control. Um, and you not trusting that you are valuable enough as it is because if you trusted that you were valuable enough, as it is, a lot of you would not be in the situations that you're in. Now, granted a lot of you were, most of you were actually not taught what I'm teaching you in these videos, so obviously that has a lot to do with it as well. So again, make sure to give this a like and share it because a lot of women are very confused out here and we're trying to, uh, smooth that out. So. Now that we've got that out of the way, what actually makes a woman a feminine muse? Okay. The feminine, she doesn't chase, she inspires. And I've done other videos in terms of how to communicate in a way that actually inspires, uh, masculine men. So make sure to check those out. And also make sure to check out our masterclass on masculine and feminine energy dynamics because it's gonna help you see how these, uh, energies play with each other, right? And why you need both of them. But in this case, right, if Feminine Muse, she leads with her energy, not with effort. Now, what does that look like? Well, what that looks like is that she embodies the following. Number one, self-assurance. She knows that she's worthy of love without proving it. And what's going on a lot out here is that a lot of women are constantly trying to prove their love so that they are chosen. They don't realize that the ones who need to do the proving. Uh, is the man, right? Like if we look at the animal kingdom and we look at like a lot of the, the mating rituals of a lot of these animals, it's not the female who's out there dancing and doing things and puffing out her chest and doing all that stuff. It's the male who's doing that. It's not the female who's going out and getting in fights. It's the male who is doing that. Well. What makes you think humans are that different? At the end of the day when it comes to this, we're really not that different. Um, now what makes us different is we can make choices all the time. For them, it's instinct, it's nature, and for us, we can say no to that. So that's what makes us different. The other thing, uh, is emotional openness, right? So she's not afraid to feel her feelings. She expresses them rather than suppresses them. Now, I was the type of woman who would. Uh, suppress my feelings, and I still have to be, uh, mindful of this because I will get my feelings, I will not express it. I will suppress it. I will go too hard on something. I'll burn myself out. Like, that's kind of the cycle that I get into because that's a, a behavior that I had from my old life, as I call it. Whereas I was uncomfortable feeling my feelings, and then rather than feeling my feelings in some healthy way, like perhaps journaling it out or learning how to communicate, I would just go work and then I would feel better because that was my addiction. If that makes sense. Um, a lot of you may, uh, relate to that and for some reason it's addictions. For some people, it's addictions in other ways, uh, to suppress, uh, those emotions. And now, on the flip side of this, right, we don't also don't wanna be a drama queen because the drama queens are actually in their wounded feminine energy. They're the ones who let, just let their emotions run the show, and they're constantly reacting to everything around them, which honestly is most. Of humanity, if we're being honest. They're just going around reacting, uh, to everything. So those of you who are suppressing your emotions, you're at least in a better place than the ones who are constantly reacting. But what we wanna get to is that middle place. And that middle place is called emotional mastery. That middle place is nervous system regulation, and that middle place is learning how to communication skills. Uh, to be able to, uh, feel your feelings and express those feelings without blowing everything up around you in the way that you choose to do that. The next thing is magnetism through presence. So the feminine is not always doing unless she's inspired to do stuff, right? Like I'm inspired to do this YouTube channel. This is super fun for me. I like making classes for you guys. I like making these videos. Uh, but I will be done with these videos today and then I'm done for the day. Until tomorrow. Um, because that, that's what I have set time aside, uh, to do today. But I enjoy doing this, right? This is a creative thing for me. I feel like I'm giving back in a lot of ways and hey, it makes money too, so why not, right? I enjoy it. Um, but I'm not always doing this. I'm not always on. Now this is very different from the Amanda of before. So the Amanda of before, um, because she had to be in control all the time. She would make videos and then, you know, be like, oh, this is the one that's gonna make money. This is the one that's gonna do this. This is the one that's gonna do that. But there was, you could, I mean, I can tell in looking at old videos from old YouTube channels that like I wasn't really having fun. I was really forcing myself to even talk about these things in a lot of ways. Whereas with this YouTube channel, and also when I make cameo appearances on my husband's YouTube channel for his business, it's fun. This is just my life. This is just what I do. This is what I like to talk about. This is what I like to help people with. Uh, it's, it's, it's fun for me, uh, to do this. And when you're having fun, right, you're automatically magnetic, right? So if you're doing stuff from a place of joy, fun, and pleasure, that's totally different than forcing yourself to do stuff that's also totally different than those of you who are constantly doing stuff to prove your worthiness. I'm talking to you, achievement addict. Out there where it's like you're starting three businesses, you're going for your MBA, you've got alphabet soup at the end of the name and you're taking the 10th certification, you talking to you. Um, men don't care about any of that stuff. FYI, they just do not give a shit. Um, but what happens is a lot of women will get, uh, caught up in that. And again, it's control, right? That's, that's all it is. It, it makes you feel safe. It makes you have, um, a form of control in some way to know that you're always busy and you're always up to something and you're always running. Uh, and you don't allow yourself to just rest and be the feminine needs to rest. And B. Um, now of course we live in a more masculine world'cause that's how it's set up. So how do you rest and be well? Number one, know when you're done, right? So, for example, I'm done. When I'm done filming these videos today, I'm ouch, uh, because I need that time to rest. Uh, when I get more rest, I feel more regulated. I get better ideas. So on and so forth. Cycle sinking is another really great way of doing that that most women don't even know about. You can use the power of your period to know when it is you're supposed to rest. So for example, when I'm bleeding, those are my rest days, right? If I am in my first week or my second week, that's when I have the most energy. So I might do more during those weeks, but once I start getting into like the second half, the luteal phase and then actually bleeding, that's when I rest. Okay. So that's one way that you can do it. Or maybe you just set a time, some time aside, every single week. I know a lot of you got like small kids and stuff like that. Maybe it's two hours a week, and that's all you got right now. Okay, well, you treat those two, you pick a day on the calendar and you treat those two hours a week like it's freaking sacred and you give to yourself. Rather than constantly doing stuff for other people, and this is actually why the, uh, housewife archetype is not actually a feminine woman. So a lot of people will say like the trad wife or the housewife archetype that she's the, the epitome of femininity. It's actual bullshit because she was so busy doing everything for everybody else and walking across eggshells and suppressing her own emotions and her own feelings that she was actually quite controlling and. Masculine in a lot of ways. So don't use that archetype or that trope as an example of the ultimate feminine woman, because that's also a part of what causes a lot of the confusion out here also, that was like a uniquely American thing, right? That didn't necessarily happen in other cultures, uh, in other countries, uh, quite in that way. And then finally, uh, you become amused by communicating boundaries with softness. A feminine woman says no with grace and she honors herself, right? So she might say something like, oh, I'm flattered. Thank you so much for thinking of me. But no, for example, so you wanna think of a muse as a woman who awakens something within a man, not by being loud and demanding and being like, I need a man who makes six figures. I need a man who makes more money than me. I need him to be six two with blue eyes. Not that right. Not by telling a man what to do, not by chasing and planning everything, but by being fully expressed in her own energy. Which is why I always tell you guys, don't do this stuff with the intention of trying to get a specific man. Do this stuff with the intention of improving your own life, and the men will show up. That's how this works. Okay, next part is how to shift out of that chasing energy. So if you're ready to stop chasing, here's how you start embodying more of the feminine magnetism and start becoming more of that feminine muse that drives him wild. So number one, you wanna pause before you reach out. This is for those of you who are dating specifically, right? You wanna ask yourself, Hey, am I acting and expressing and reaching out to him from a place of desire and fun and joy and pleasure? Or is it out of fear of losing him? Now, if most of you are being honest with yourselves, it's because you're afraid of losing him, and that's why you're reaching out. It's that nervous energy that wants to express itself. It's the control. So chasing and initiating for a woman often comes from anxiety. Not intuition. And we have to learn how to tell the difference between the two in those situations. And you can start learning the difference by actually pausing, uh, before you do something. Just because you have a thought doesn't mean that you have to take action on that thought in that very moment. And that's what most people out here do. They have a thought and they think that thought is a green light to go take some action on that thought. No, it's just a thought. Same thing with feelings, right? It's just a feeling. It doesn't mean you go act on the feeling right now. So we have to learn how to start pausing so we can start figuring out, okay, what am I actually feeling, um, in this moment? And then we can start getting, I have no better way of saying this. We can start getting some data on what is going on. The next thing. Is you wanna learn how to pour into yourself because your energy comes from being magnetic when you're lit up from the inside. Do you wanna know why this YouTube channel makes money? Because this is fun for me and I'm lit up from the inside. Obviously, I also know what I'm doing when it comes to sales and marketing. My husband is a systems. Funnel, uh, tech genius. Some of you have met him already'cause you know, he, he have a disaster with tech. Some of you have met him and he provides a lot of structure in that way. But it's'cause it's fun and it's because this lights me up and it's because I'm not just. Saying this shit, I'm also living it and I'm embodying it. And what happens that becomes very, uh, magnetic because I can tell you from before that you can learn, you can know how YouTube works, you can learn how analytics works, you can do stuff because it's going to make money and it's nowhere near as magnetic and it's nowhere near as easy something that you just have fun doing and very naturally. Um. Comes outta you, right? So that would be an example of that. It's the same thing in dating. If you're taking care of yourself and you're pouring into yourself, if your entire life doesn't revolve around, uh, man or men in general, then you know that makes you more magnetic and radiant and inspired and soft. What we want to avoid is what I used to do, which is what a lot of you do, the achievement addict specifically, is that you avoid the whole relationships. Sphere in the name of work and money, because that's control. And that's what's going to make you, uh, safe, uh, in the world. We want to avoid that. So again, it's that middle ground. It's finding that balance. You're gonna hear me talking about that middle ground a lot, uh, on this channel because that's, that's where we find a lot more peace. Um, next thing is you want to let him lead. You'd be surprised at how many women out here. Don't let men lead. And I understand.'cause it's hard. It's a difficult thing to do because when you are used to having anxiety, when you are used to controlling, when you're not used to regulating your nervous system, when you haven't had good examples of how to actually communicate with men in your life with most, which most women have not, uh, then of course you have anxiety and you wanna control everything.'cause you need to feel safe and you need to feel like you need to take care of yourself in this crazy, dangerous, scary world. Um, so. It is hard to surrender to that, right? But that's why we have to work on our own feelings and our anxiety and our nervous systems first, because when we learn to start feeling safe in ourselves and trust ourselves, then we can trust ourselves to pick better men. Um,'cause that's also a part of it, right? If we're picking men from that place of anxiety and nervous system dysregulation and all kinds of stuff, like, you're gonna pick, keep picking the wrong ones. But if you. Um, really learn how to regulate yourself, and you learn how to trust yourself and be in a safer space and not let your anxiety control everything. You're gonna pick better ones and better ones are going to pick you. Um, so letting him lead, let's get back to that. It doesn't mean being passive, right? It means trusting that if he's. He's going to move toward you. And if he doesn't, then you have the answer that you need. A lot of you in the comment section are obsessed over one dude. Some of you, sometimes you've been dating the dude for seven years and he still hasn't put a ring on it. Other times you barely know the guy and you'll be like, that's my man. And then it comes to find out you've never even talked to the guy. Right? And other times it's like you have a, a cursory, um. Encounter with a man, and then you become obsessed with the man, right? Right. That's all controlling, uh, chasing behavior. Whereas a feminine muse, number one, she doesn't get caught up in any of that stuff because she's busy living her own damn life. Um, and, and pouring into herself and what she enjoys doing and her pleasure and while she's open at the same time. Um, and number two, like if a man is not coming toward her, she doesn't care because she knows the right. One will. And then finally, you wanna learn how to express, not explain. A lot of you in the masculine energy are in this constant explaining, proving, defensiveness. I get it. It's that anxiety again. It's that need to control, it's the need to feel safe. Believe me. I understand. I get it. Okay. I've done all of these things too, but with practice, um, and by watching videos like this and working with me and signing up for our programs, you can get better at this stuff, I promise.'cause if I can do it, you can do it because. One way to express instead of explain is to use i I feel statements rather than over-explaining your value. So you can say, Hey, you know, I really love it and it makes me feel really good and taken care of when you reach out first.'cause I just feel so cherished when you do that. That's it. You don't have to go into, I like it when a man reaches out first'cause that's what he should be doing and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Which is what a lot of women out here do. You don't need to be doing all that. We don't need to be doing the rah rah. Okay. We just need to learn how to express ourselves in a way that actually inspires, um, masculine men to move toward us. And the thing is that when you shift into that energy, you become completely unforgettable to a man because it's not about how hard you tried, it's about how deeply, uh, you felt. And it's about the emotions that you invoke in him. Men remember the women who make them feel alive, inspired, and safe to be masculine. A lot of men out here are afraid to even open a door. For you right now because of the five women that chewed his ass out when he did that for them before he even met you. So you have to realize that as well. And I'll tell you a story from, um, my own relationship and my own marriage. My, my husband did the international and my husband's lived in different countries. Uh, he runs the business where he helped successful, uh, business owners and investors relocate to other countries. He's managing some properties here in Mexico as well. He's lived in Columbia, he's lived in Europe. Um, he's, he is, he's had a, I, I joke with him and I'm like, you did like the United Nations of dating, right? So he, he had his fair share, um, in his twenties before he met me. When he met me, he was gobsmacked. He's like, you're different now. He has since explained to me why, and the reason why is'cause I didn't do any of the basic stuff that all these other women all around the world, by the way. Uh, we're doing. I wasn't complaining when he was working really hard. Go work, babe. Go make that money. Go take care of us. I love it when you do that. Uh, most women would not do that. They would just bitch that he's working too hard. Um, you know, I would appreciate him and his efforts. Most women would not do that. Um, you know, it doesn't mean I've been perfect. Of course I haven't. Right? No one's perfect out here and I'm improving constantly and trying to learn, uh, for myself and also for you guys. And, um, he's like, you just stood out because you weren't basic. Most women out here are totally basic because they don't understand these things, and what I'm trying to help you do is not be basic because masculine men are going to take notice when a woman is above the riffraff that is out here, right. Now and when a man notices that about you, right?'cause masculine men are smart and they know when they know, when they have found it and they're immediately drawn to it. That's when you can stop chasing and you can come home to your feminine. And that's when you've got providers and that's when you got people who will protect you. That's when you got people who are not going to expect you to work. If you don't want you, that's when you have men who actually cherish you and your needs and will move heaven and earth. To make sure that you are happy and will not make you jump through a bunch of hoops of fire to try and prove your worth, uh, to them. And they also don't take that long to make decisions about whether or not they wanna marry you. For those of you who are interested in marriage. So if this spoke to your heart and you really wanna go deeper, then I really do invite you to that masculine and feminine energy dynamics masterclass. Below I go a lot deeper into the different energy polarities and how they dance with each other in different areas of life. It's really gonna help you understand, uh, not just the skills, right, but also the dynamics. Behind these skills and why they work the way that they do. So you can download that uh, below. Also, a lot of you have been asking a lot of like questions. We've been getting emails and comments about your specific situation. Make sure to email me the information on how to do that. Is below, because there's no way for me to know without context, right? And once I chat with you about context, and I can point you in the right direction because it's pretty hard for me to make videos when I just have like one question and I have zero context on the man, on you, on the relationship, how it's going, where you're at in your head. If I don't know these things, then I cannot give an appropriate answer. That requires, uh, coaching and perhaps some trainings. So if that's you, make sure to email me in the information and how to do that. We'll be below so I can actually give the appropriate, uh, coaching and guidance. Thank you so much for giving me your time today, and I'll catch you on the next one. I.