Why Manifestation Isn’t Working (And It’s Not the Tools) w/ Jen Gutfriend

You’re doing everything you’ve been told to do to manifest, so why isn’t it working?

In this episode, Jen breaks down the part of manifestation most people completely miss. She shares her experience of doing all the “right” things for years with little to show for it, until one shift changed everything. Instead of focusing on more tools or routines, this conversation gets into what’s actually driving your results.

This is the part of manifestation most people skip. You can follow every tactic out there and still feel stuck if you don’t believe you’re actually worthy of what you want. Jen walks through how those beliefs form, how they show up in your life and business, and what started to change for her once that shifted, including unexpected income and opportunities showing up quickly.

So, if you’ve been putting in the effort but not seeing the results, this will help you understand why and what needs to shift.

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Chapters:

00:25 Why manifestation tools are not the real answer

01:25 How your current reality reflects your energy

02:25 Why worthiness controls what you receive

03:25 Jen’s story of doing everything “right”

04:25 The belief that changed everything

05:25 How worthiness impacts success and money

06:25 The cycle of growth and energetic ceilings

07:25 How to identify your limiting beliefs

08:25 What your inner dialogue is revealing

09:25 Where beliefs come from and how they form

10:25 Why subconscious work is required

11:25 How quickly results can change after shifting beliefs

12:25 Why you don’t need a strict mindset routine 

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Welcome to the Business Chaser, your quick pour of strategy, clarity, and momentum. We skip the small talk and get straight to the strategy here in these bite-sized episodes. We're here to help you grow smarter, market better, and chase what matters all in 15 minutes or less. I'm your host, Lauren Nejar. Tune in and let's chat.

SPEAKER_00 0:24

Hey and welcome back. I'm Jen, a clinical hypnotherapist, mindset expert, and manifestation coach, and I work with amazing successful female entrepreneurs who also struggle with neurodivergency. So today I want to share something about the manifestation space that a lot of people miss. I mean, there's a lot of great tools and tips and trainers out there in the manifestation space, but I feel like this one thing is really overlooked. Either people don't want to share this little tidbit or the secret, or they just don't understand that this is actually a thing. Because in the manifestation space, everyone goes to those tools, like, oh, you have to journal, you have to say your affirmations, you have to do scripting. It's all about the tactics. When really manifestation is about who you are at your core, it's about the energy. We've all heard that manifestation is about like, attracts like. But that energy, that, you know, liking, that energetic attraction, that vibration, they don't talk about where that comes from. And that's what I want to share with you today. So what happens with manifestation is that energetic match, right now, your world is your energetic match. The success you have in your business, the relationships you have, romantic friendships, the vehicles you drive, the house you live in, everything in your current reality is all a result of the energetic vibration you're putting out into the world. And in order to elevate your vibration, you need to elevate who you are at the core. And that comes down to you can only manifest what you believe you are truly worthy and deserving of receiving. So truly take that in. You can only manifest what you feel you are truly worthy and deserving of receiving. So right now, the amount of success in your business, your house, your family, your friends, everything is a result of how you feel inside, how you feel you're worthy and deserving of. So here's a little story to kind of explain how this works. So earlier on in my career, when I started my manifestation journey, I was working really hard. I took courses, I worked with coaches, I was reading the law of attraction books, I watched The Secret a million times. I did all these things that are supposed to help you attract more into your life. But I was still struggling with manifesting the odd parking spot or the odd free coffee, maybe a five or $10 here and there. But those big things that I truly desired, the dream relationship, you know, multi-six-figure business, dream home, car, all those things just seemed so out of reach. And it wasn't that I wasn't working at it or working hard enough. I was journaling every day. I was doing scripting. I was doing visualization. I was trying to meditate with if you're an ADHD like me, you understand how difficult meditation is. But I tried. And it got to the point where I had like a 30 to 45 minute mindset routine every single day. And it felt awful because routine for me, I'm just like, it was a struggle to literally force myself to sit down to do these things every day, to try and force myself. But I did. I'm like, I have to be successful, and this is what you need to do to be successful. So I literally sat down and I did those things every single day for years and it didn't work. But then I uncovered this worthiness piece and everything shifted. So I don't know, many of you may not have heard my story. If you haven't, on my personal development journey, everything shifted when I had my first hypnosis session. So in that first session, I uncovered a belief that I had that said I wasn't worthy and deserving of success, of wealth, of love, of anything. I literally was not worthy and deserving of good things in my life. So throughout my entire life, I sabotaged myself. And creating this belief at just three days of age, that was my entire life. Anytime anything good started coming in, I would do something to self-sabotage. And the same thing in my manifestations. I was allowing myself to have what I was worthy and deserving of. But something amazing happened. After that first hypnosis session, when I worked through that worthiness piece, all of a sudden, within a couple days, things started coming to me. Things that I had had on my vision board, things that I had been journaling about, scripting about, those things that were out here in the outer world, all of a sudden just started coming to me. And it was easy. It was just like, oh, wouldn't X be nice? And that. And it's something I'd been thinking about and journaling on for months or years. All of a sudden, it starts shooting at me. And it's like quickly, all of a sudden, these things just are coming in quicker and quicker and quicker. And that's when I put the two together that worthiness is energy. And so I started to continue working through this worthiness piece. I started continuing doing hypnosis sessions on myself. I continued working with other practitioners and understanding what was going on in my subconscious brain. What beliefs did I have? Oh, there was this fear of success I had. Well, how am I going to draw in more success and a multi-six figure business and all these other things I want is I'm afraid of success. That was lowering my energetic vibration. That was telling me you're not worthy and deserving because you're afraid of it. And so as I continued to work through this energy of I'm deserving and more and more and more, I started manifesting more and more and more. Last year alone, I manifested over $50,000 in unexpected cash. This was outside of my business, outside of my like partner's income, any other expected income we had knew was coming in. This was just random cash that showed up to us. I also manifested a multi-million dollar home a few years ago. It literally just came to us. It doesn't cost us a dime. It's 21 acres. It's right on the edge of the city. I have views of the Rocky Mountains from my rooftop deck. Like these are the amazing things that I started to bring into my life. And yet, you know, 10 years ago, five years ago, when I first started this journey, I wasn't bringing any of these things in. Again, coffee, parking spot. I was like ecstatic when I had those things. So if you've been struggling to manifest, I want you to think about that. What is it that you feel you're worthy and deserving of? And we all have these levels. That's why we continue to grow. And it's funny because when you work through a worthiness level, you're going to find things just start coming at you at warp speed. And then they're going to start slowing down again. And that's when you have to get to that next level. Okay, what's that next level of worthiness? And then you work through that, and all of a sudden things just start coming at you like crazy, like new clients, solo line clients, new money, unexpected money. It just starts coming in and coming in and coming in. And then it slows down. And that slowdown is your sign that you need to continue working on yourself. It's like, okay, what's that next level? What's that next level? And when you continue doing this work on a regular basis, you're going to start attracting more and more and more. I've had clients go from struggling at six figures per year for multiple years to multiple six figures immediately, like within a year, they doubled their income, tripled their income because they started adjusting that worthiness piece. So if you're wondering, well, Jen, I don't know if I have this. One, we all have this. One way I'm going to help you to start figuring that out is I want you, if you can, to close your eyes right now. And I want you to think about that big goal of yours. And that maybe it's a business goal, maybe it's a personal goal, maybe it's something really big you want to manifest in. Maybe it's a big vacation, a home, a relationship, whatever it is, large amount of money. I want you to think of that in your mind right now. I want you to think about that big manifestation. And then I want you to think even bigger. Like that's not even big enough. Now, what would the next level of that be? What would be that next level home, the next level income, the next level relationship? I want you to think even bigger. And now I want you to kind of internally look and ask yourself, what is that negative dialogue? Because as soon as I start telling you to think bigger, there's probably some negative dialogue coming up. And what is that dialogue? Is it, oh, you can't do that. That's not available to you. You know what? Who are you to think you are? You're not smart enough. You know what? You're not educated enough. Whatever that voice is, that's kind of a window into your mindset, into your subconscious mind. And starting to reveal to you where some of those limiting beliefs could be. So one that I used to have was you're not smart enough. So maybe that's what came up for you. Oh, you're not smart enough to do that. Okay. So then get curious about that. Don't judge. Don't get down on yourself. Don't be like, oh my God, Jen, you're so stupid. Like, oh, you'll never do this. Get curious. Okay. You know, and I'm saying this to myself that I'm not smart enough. Well, why do I feel that way? And then start listening to yourself. Oh, well, you know what? You were told when you were a kid that you were dumb and you did such stupid things and you never thought. And you know what, your grades weren't perfect. Like you didn't get the perfect straight A's all the time. You know what it was A's and B's. So, you know, that wasn't good enough. So, and then, you know, when it comes to college, oh, you'll, you're just a woman, and in our family, women don't go to college and you're not smart enough to go to college. And just start following that pathway. Just get curious, don't judge. Just start asking yourself those questions and really start digging in. And you're really going to start uncovering what some of those beliefs are. Unfortunately, with this conscious work, you can't remove those beliefs, but you can start understanding them. And then once you start understanding them, you can come work with someone like myself or someone else who can help you work at the subconscious level to actually start removing them, to start uncovering where these came from, how they've been sabotaging you so that you can actually remove them at the root. Because that's why I love hypnotherapy so much, is it literally is like an easy button for subconscious reprogramming. You come to me and say, Jen, you know, my brain and my mind is telling me that I'm too dumb to be, you know, a multimillionaire. And we go in and we go, okay, well, why not? Like myself, uncovering that belief from three days old that said I wasn't worthy enough. Okay, why do you feel you're not worthy enough and you're too dumb to have that success? We'll figure out what the cause was, we'll remove that cause, and then we're going to give you a whole new program. Programs like, I'm so smart and amazing, and I can be as successful as I want to, and I can easily bring in money. And it's just like a splip of a switch. In one session, you can easily flip that over and reprogram your mind so that you know you're worthy and deserving of everything. And every time you go in and you do a session, you're increasing that worthiness, which is increasing your vibration, which is attracting more and more and more things to you. It's really crazy when clients come to me after a session and they go, Oh my God, you know what? A client just came to me and paid $10,000 and they paid in full and they're so excited and they can't wait to work with me. And yet they hadn't got a client or they'd been stuck at the same income level. And that's what happens. Raise your worthiness. Believe you are worthy and deserving of whatever it is you desire. And if you believe that at the core level, nothing can hold that back. There is no manifestation tool. You don't even have to do the tools. You don't need a mindset routine. I am a mindset coach that does not have a mindset routine. I do not believe in them. I don't have them with my neurodivergent brain. It just does not work. I cannot have a set routine. Do I do things throughout the day to help improve my mindset? Yes. Is it a specific routine at a specific time of day that I have to do? No. It is doing what works best for me in the time that is best for me when it feels good for me. And it can be the same for you. You do not have to fit in a box. You do not have to do special tools. You do not have to spend hours and hours following these specific routines or tools just to get manifestation. You just have to elevate your worthiness. And when you elevate your worthiness, absolutely anything is possible, including a multiple six-figure business, dream clients, large cash influxes, travel, whatever it is you desire, you truly can have it all when you tell yourself deep down that you truly are worthy and deserving of it. And when you do that, absolute magic can happen in your life and in your business.

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