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Monster-in-Law: The Ultimate Bridal Test
We tackle a challenging question from a bride dealing with a difficult future mother-in-law who's threatening not to attend the wedding. Through sharing personal experiences and practical advice, we explore how to protect your joy during wedding planning while navigating complex family dynamics.
• Don't take difficult mother-in-law behavior personally – it's often about her fear of change or loss of control
• Protect your joy during wedding planning and let go of trying to please everyone
• Let your partner take the lead in difficult conversations with their own family
• Ensure your fiancé has your back – this sets the tone for your future marriage
• Set healthy boundaries early with statements like "this day isn't about control or ultimatums"
• Remember that your wedding day belongs to you as a couple, not extended family
We wish you the absolute best of luck with your wedding planning and family dynamics.
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Hey queens, Welcome back to another episode of the Daily Buzz Grace. We got a juicy question in our DMs from a bride, so we are going to chat through this one. Here is what the question is Are you ready?
Speaker 2:Yes, I'm ready. De my gosh. That's a tough one, I would say. Sometimes, like we've talked about, during weddings, emotions are heightened. People's true colors can come out sometimes, which is very unfortunate. I might be savage, but I say ixnay her from the whole day if she's going to ruin it. I'm sorry, but if you know we've also talked so much, do you want people there who are going to bring stress, drama and ew? If you're going to threaten not to come because you're being a monster in law, then see you later. That's what I think.
Speaker 1:But so I have been married for 12 years and we have had plenty of family battles. Blessed be my family. So if I were to give our sweet bride any advice, the first thing would be to not take it personal. Even though it feels personal, her behavior probably has something to do with control and the fear of change. Who knows? She might have a her, your fiance might be her baby, and she is not prepared for this significant change in life. So I know it's so hard. Don't take it personal.
Speaker 1:That doesn't mean it's an excuse, but it will help you try not to internalize this feeling of hurt through the planning. One thing I would also suggest is to protect your joy you only get this moment once in life and letting go of trying to please everyone, especially someone who's making it about them, focus on your relationship with your future spouse and the love that you're celebrating. Like Grace said, she is welcome to the wedding, but if she does not choose to come, then that falls on her. I would suggest I don't know, grace, how you feel about it, but I would suggest letting your partner take the lead in this conversation and not come from you, because it is your partner's mother. Would you agree? Or?
Speaker 2:disagree, grace.
Speaker 2:Oh, I totally agree.
Speaker 2:I think when it comes to family and getting married, just like you said it, you know, hopefully it's not coming from a like place of ill will, but at the end of the day, you're coming together as a new, you know unity and at the end of the day, girl, your, your fiance, super like, soon to be husband better have your back on this.
Speaker 2:If it's a situation that's genuinely, you know, upsetting you or hurting your feelings, I think as long as your fiance has your back and is up front with them, and this conversation with your monster-in-law or your mother-in-law, who's not very great to deal with, I think if you don't have that, then that does worry me a little bit. It's always having your partner's back because of, of course, families should come first, but now you're going to have a new family and if you can't even get through this right now, like dealing with you, know I mean, what is she going to do after they get married? Is it going to still be like this? And if you create a healthy conversation before the marriage and hopefully it'll pan out and be fine, then I think that's your best course of action.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree. And even if he, like, sits down and says um, we would love for you to be there, but this day isn't about control or ultimatums. It's about love and support, and we will respect your choice, um, but we're not changing our plans to avoid upsetting you because, again, it is not about her. This is your wedding day.
Speaker 2:A hundred percent.
Speaker 1:So that is your daily buzz, and we wish you the absolute best of luck.