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007- Celebrating Cinco de Mayo: Weddings, Drinking Games, and Hot Takes
Kelsey and Grace celebrate Cinco de Mayo with margaritas and a game of "Drink If" while tackling controversial wedding hot takes and planning questions from followers.
Episode Highlights:
• Firmly against guests who RSVP yes and then don't show up to weddings without legitimate emergencies
• Mixed feelings about prenups – understand their purpose for wealthy couples but question if they contradict marriage commitment
• Both hosts experienced family drama around wedding guest lists – importance of standing your ground
• Strong opinions against cash bars at weddings – "the least you can do is provide free alcohol"
• Personal wedding planning experiences including breaking out in hives from stress
• Shocking story about wedding guests breaking into a resort's liquor cabinet and stealing $7,000 worth of alcohol
• Advice on seating charts when guests don't get along – be strategic but accept you can't control every interaction
• Both recommend against bringing puppies to weddings unless you hire a professional handler
• Discussion about honeymoon funds versus traditional registries – supporting couples' preferences
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Hey Queens, welcome back to another episode of the Wedding Hive podcast. Today we are celebrating Cinco de Mayo, which really is Cinco de Drinco Cheers. Hey Queens, it's Kelsey and Grace back with the Wedding Hive.
Speaker 2:Giving you the tea and all the buzz in the wedding world. Let's jump right in. You guys. We have a fun episode today. It is Cinco de Mayo, I think, probably one of my favorite holidays of the year. I don't know about you, kelsey, but I love an excuse to drink.
Speaker 1:I love Cinco de Mayo. My amazing Hispanic husband says that it is not celebrated in the country of Mexico, and your Hispanic husband says the same thing as well, so we're going to celebrate it today.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because why not? It's the best holiday of the year. It might. But for today's episode we thought we would switch it up a little bit and play a fun game of Drink If and also talk about some wedding hot, take questions that we have written down. So I'm gonna go first with our game of drink if and we will answer, and if we don't want to answer the question, we have to take a shot. We're here to party today. Okay. First question Kelsey Drink if you've been caught having sex? Wait, so I have to take a drink. No, if you don't want to answer this or like, so we're going to drink. Okay, if you've done it. And then if you don't want to like, drink or like, basically give up what the question asks, then you have to take a shot. Okay, so drink if you've been caught having sex before. Do you care to elaborate your story?
Speaker 1:If I say no. I have to take a shot. I think so Um.
Speaker 2:I'm going to take a shot. Okay, perfect, I think you should just line it up. We forgot limes. Oh, we're going to have to raw dog it today, you guys. We also found the cutest little cups at a local party store because, who knew, party city went out of business.
Speaker 1:Okay. I thought this was a joke shot, but you don don't have to take it with no. I'll tell you my story, okay, because I'm gonna tell you, start telling your story.
Speaker 2:You get your shot ready, my shot, okay, basically my first boyfriend ever. We were moving and grooving and my mom walked in and it was. It was your mom. Like I'm happy it was my mom because, like I feel like it would have been worse if it was like my dad or like I have a brother. I think that'd be worse, but it was my mom because, like I feel like it would have been worse if it was like my dad or like I have a brother. I think that'd be worse but it was pretty embarrassing. I was like 18, you know, young, and I remember this is my ex, of course. He's like looks at me and he's like, yeah, I think I'm going to go home. So he left because we were both insanely embarrassed. So that's like the only time, thankfully, but I'm. It was insanely embarrassing. You didn't tell your story.
Speaker 1:I think I'd rather tell my story. Oh, okay, you're switching your answer.
Speaker 2:I'm switching my answer. Okay, if you want to tell it, then you can say that for the next time you don't want to take one, I'm going to save my little shoddy shot for next time. Okay.
Speaker 1:So, um, okay. So my husband and I thought we were super slick and didn't get caught. And then the next day we were carpooling with another mom and the mom knocked on my front door and I answered it like when the kids came in and she's like hey, can I talk to you for a second? And I was like, yeah, is everything okay? And I got out like I walked outside and she was like, yeah, is everything okay? And I got out like I walked outside and she's like so I just wanted to just let you know what the conversation was.
Speaker 1:On the car ride home today from school and my oh gosh, the oldest was like maybe 14, which would have made the youngest like five. So like kindergarten, through like eighth grade, were my six kids at the time and she goes yeah. So we were driving home and one of the boys was like, yeah, um. So mom and dad were like doing it last night. And when I went to, when I went to the uh door to knock, mom answered it but her hair was like shut up're like hey, and she's like, so that's great.
Speaker 1:Like I'm not judging at all, I just want to let you know um have a wonderful day. And then I had to like go inside and do, like, yeah, homework and act completely, just pretend like you didn't know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so I mean that's, that's so. I've been caught by my I know children, which I feel like is like not inevitable. That's like one thing like I think about, like like that's, that's so I've been caught by my children, which I feel like is like not inevitable.
Speaker 1:That's like one thing like I think about they didn't like walk in, Like that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm sure I don't know, but I mean I can't say it off kids, so that'll be a different time for me eventually when I have kids. But you know, hopefully avoid that situation.
Speaker 1:But okay, Do you want to pull the next one Drink if you took a selfie?
Speaker 2:today? I think I did. Do you have your phone? Yeah, I didn't, you didn't. No, okay, I literally took one, like two minutes ago. I'm a fraud. Yep, I just took one. So you have to drink your margarita Shoot, or do you want this shot? No, I'll prove it to the camera. I took a selfie literally like 15 minutes ago, but I had to. We have our little, we have our Cinco set up, so I had to take a selfie. It was too cute. Okay, let's do another one and then we'll get into one of our questions. Perfect, all right. Next one Drink. If you've ever gotten a speeding ticket.
Speaker 1:You've never gotten a speeding ticket.
Speaker 2:I've never, actually, I like need a knock on some wood. I have never gotten pulled over once, I've never gotten a speeding ticket, anything, and I'm almost 30. I think that's pretty impressive, very impressive yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've gotten a speeding ticket.
Speaker 2:Boom.
Speaker 1:Okay, no fun story with it.
Speaker 2:No fun story.
Speaker 1:You're driving too fast, yep.
Speaker 2:That'll still get you. Okay, do you want to go into your first question? Yeah, so first wedding question.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so first wedding question Is it okay to RSVP yes and not show up to the wedding?
Speaker 2:Girl. Am I explaining my opinion first? Yeah, okay, absolutely not. Actually, if you've been married, you know how frustrating it is to have people RSVP and then get those texts the day before, a week before. Hey, I'm not coming, please, unless of course, there's obviously certain circumstances like things can happen. If it is not life or death, please just show up, in my opinion, because at that point when people cancel, it's usually, like I said, like a week, a few days before you've already given your final guest count and you've already paid for these people's meals. Or if you're not going to show up, I better get a fat, fat check in my mailbox from you as a wedding gift saying sorry I didn't come. So that's my opinion. I don't know. What do you think?
Speaker 1:I think just like not showing up without an excuse is crap. When it's like there was a death in the family, somebody is like extremely sick. I wouldn't want anybody showing up if they have like the flu to make everybody else sick A hundred percent. No, I don't think it's cool to say yes and then just no show.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't like that at all. It was happening to me and it's very annoying. Are you still friends with them? I am still friends with them, um, friends, siblings, that you know invited and then didn't end up coming, and if you actually one friend I have, I mean no ill will but you know invited and then didn't end up coming and a few actually one friend I have I mean no ill will, but you know, I just was like I don't know. I think I took it just my personality like very personal and it just, I think also too, with having a small guest count, like I took the time to you know hands like these, like small group of people, and then to not come is like I'm a salty, I'm a salty girl, so but you know, it's all good.
Speaker 2:Things happen and you know you move on, so it's all good. But um, I'll do one of my questions, okay? Should you always have a prenup?
Speaker 1:have a prenup. Do you have one? No, we don't have a prenup. We were so poor when we got married Do you have to pay for that shit. Yeah, really. Well, you have to have, like it's, a legal document, and so you want to have like an attorney or a lawyer.
Speaker 2:Oh, I guess that's true.
Speaker 1:It's not that you just do it on, you know Google docs or word Um, we do not have a prenup. And you said do we need one? No, we do not have a prenup. Um, I have seen, and it's been interesting cause it's kind of been circulating in the wedding industry. There's been a lot. It's kind of been circulating in the wedding industry. There's been a lot more conversations about prenups. I struggle with them, like from a moral sense. If you're getting married to this person and you're choosing to spend the rest of your life with them, then there's no need for it. Also, understand that not everybody always stays married and divorce rates are high. So so I think if you're looking at those big, big dollars, you know multimillion, I understand.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think, if it's like a big amount or like I think every celebrity has like one, but like I agree with you in the fact of if you're marrying this person it's supposed to be forever, so why would you even entertain that idea? Um, but I mean, that's just my opinion. Did you watch love is blind? The last season they had, one of the girls was very adamant about having a prenup and it was interesting how they. You know, obviously love is blind. Like you just meet them and then automatically she's like I want a prenup and she was a doctor. So I mean who them? And then automatically she's like I want to prenup and she was a doctor. So I mean who knows? But then some people are like oh, it's in the sense of my I don't know, like debt and stuff like that. So I just I don't like them. They kind of give me the ick and I just don't think that you should.
Speaker 1:I do think that the debt has a lot to do with it, like it really does suck when one person gets hit with that debt and have to pay it. But I don't know. Yep, you want to do another drink? Yeah, should we.
Speaker 2:Silly Drink. If you're reading this card, it's all drink to that.
Speaker 1:There you go.
Speaker 2:Okay, you want to go next? Then oh gosh.
Speaker 1:Okay, miss, I've never had a speeding ticket. Drink if you've been in trouble with the police, come on, but was it just a speeding ticket?
Speaker 2:No, it says drink if you've been in trouble with the police. No, I'm saying you've been in trouble with the police just for a speeding ticket. I think that counts as your shot. Okay, fine.
Speaker 1:Because I'll tell you the story. Okay, perfect. When my husband and I were dating, I got pulled over in the state that I currently live in. I'm going to do everything to avoid taking shots, dude. You said and, and. When I got pulled over, I found out that I had a worn out for my arrest in another state. What I forgot to go to court? Oh, and so it wasn't anything big.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like anything crazy. The vehicle I was driving go to court. Oh, and so it wasn't anything big. Yeah, like anything crazy.
Speaker 1:It was like the vehicle I was driving wasn't registered Okay or had expired plates, and so I didn't go to court and I like forgot about it.
Speaker 2:And so.
Speaker 1:I had a warrant out for my arrest. So yes, I was in trouble with the police for that.
Speaker 2:Fair, not terrible, but you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm glad my husband still married me because he's like she's a fugitive, he's like she's on the loose.
Speaker 2:I don't know her. He's like she kidnapped me.
Speaker 1:Help blink twice, blink twice if you need help exactly literally okay, let's see next one drink.
Speaker 2:If you've sent a sexy pic, I mean come on, let's be so for real who hasn't, and if you say you haven't, you're lying yeah, you're not telling the truth.
Speaker 1:You're not telling the truth. No stories for that one. I know we don't have to tell the stories. We're married, yeah.
Speaker 2:We're loyal married queens, correct? Do you want to do one more and then we'll do another question after?
Speaker 1:Yeah, Okay perfect. Drink, if you like rom-com movies.
Speaker 2:I do I do too.
Speaker 1:I love a good rom-com. I'm going to be out of margarita by the time.
Speaker 2:I know we're going to need our producer to bring us.
Speaker 1:We're going to need a refill.
Speaker 2:What's your okay? So yes to rom-coms. What's your favorite rom-com? Like ever, or like not ever, like just one you can think of, that's like I love, like how to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. I was going to say that that's my favorite. Yes, I literally love that movie. Kate Hudson, matthew McConaughey, that yellow dress.
Speaker 1:I love the Wedding Planner. That one's good too.
Speaker 2:I actually do see the Anyone. But you or wait with Sidney Sweeney and Gunpow. Did you see that one? Oh, that one's really good. It came out last year and like there was all the controversy that she was like cheating on her, like fiance and stuff with him because all their promo was like super, like sexy and like scandalous and stuff.
Speaker 1:Okay, but let's talk about it In. The wedding planner, matthew McConaughey ends up falling in love with his wedding planner. Yep, if you caught the groom in a lie, would you tell the bride and like stop the wedding or would you confront it?
Speaker 2:Oh, that's a good one, I would say. Depends on what the lie is. If it's like he's in love with the wedding planner, obviously I'm going to be like yo. I probably would not continue this marriage. But yeah, I think I'm someone who can deal with like confrontation. So I would like say something. If it was something bad and I was like genuinely thinking this shouldn't happen, I would say something, Would you?
Speaker 1:A hundred percent. Yeah, and I think it it's. It does stink because our last few guests that we've had on we've talked about the terrible grooms literally brides make some mistakes too, like the girls aren't completely right angels I know.
Speaker 2:Does anyone have a story about a bride? We would love to hear that you guys should send it in to our instagram we're dying to know if there's any tea from some brides, because it's not always the grooms. Yeah, okay, we'll go into our next question for weddings, kelsey, do you think it is tacky to have a honeymoon fund instead of a registry?
Speaker 1:No, I don't. I think that it could be something fun with the honeymoon Like, hypothetically, the couple's going to Hawaii and so with that honeymoon fund, like, instead of a registry gift, you can gift them like Like an excursion or something, yeah an excursion, zip lining, snorkeling, I don't know anything fun like that, or even just putting money into it, I think. I think it's fun, I don't think anything fun like that, or even just putting money into it. I think it's fun.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's tacky. I don't think it is. I mean, that's what we did, we basically, even on the RSVP. If you're contemplating doing this, we literally I forget how we worded on the RSVP but if you're so inclined to bring a gift, we asked bring money or cash or whatever it was, however we word it to go towards our honeymoon. And I don't think it's tacky at all. I think it's not even more tacky. I think it sucks more to just get random shit that you don't need. How many toasters do you need Exactly how many toasters? And if you're already, say, established with a house, with your significant other and already have all this stuff, um, you're gonna spend the money anyway on a gift. And if it's, you know they want money for their honeymoon. I don't see why not, yeah? So I say it's not tacky and I love the idea because I did it perfect, perfect.
Speaker 1:All right, I have a question for you, okay. Sorry, I'm just drinking just sipping on my margarita. It's so good. I have chosen to switch gears and ask you some of the questions that we've gotten on Instagram. Okay, perfect, because some of the followers want to get to know you. So a question for you, grace how?
Speaker 2:is your hair so perfect? Guys? Stop it. Honestly, I think one. I think genetics play a big part of it, but I keep trying to tell people collagen has changed my hair like infinitely. I put it. I buy. I mean you can take collagen in different forms. I always do the powder and a protein shake. And I swear, what brand do you use? The Vital Proteins collagen brand. And it's nice to have like a chocolate flavor too. If you don't, because it tastes kind of nasty sometimes. So I'll put their plain flavor in a chocolate protein shake. And I think you know they always say you know, use good hair products, but you also I don't do like a lot of heat on it if I don't have to. So I appreciate all the love for my hair and it's gone a long way and a long journey and it's finally to the length that I want it. I'm contemplating cutting it.
Speaker 2:But we'll see. I've had it long, for a few years now, but I know for sure I won't decide until after my honeymoon. I was gonna say, don't do it until after your trip. No, because if my hair like looks like shit and I'm all spiral like I will literally cancel the whole entire honeymoon and be like we're leaving.
Speaker 2:If my hair looks the honeymoon, I will literally cancel the whole entire honeymoon and be like we're leaving if my hair looks terrible, so I will not be cutting it for sure until after then if I make the decision. But I appreciate that so much, so that's my biggest tip for hair. Also, I totally forgot my other phone. You brought the wrong phone.
Speaker 1:I brought the wrong phone.
Speaker 2:I was gonna text Do you have my actual phone number?
Speaker 1:No, no, that's asking no One sec. I can hear the alcohol in my stomach gurgling. It's literally. That's all that's in my stomach right now. Do you have both?
Speaker 2:pictures. Yeah, can you just, or and then just text it 602?. Hold on, okay, sorry, brock, I was like grab my phone and I was like this is the wrong phone. I was like fuck, be like Dom. Sorry, I just cut that out. I'm like wait.
Speaker 1:Not Kelsey eating the chip. I haven't eaten it.
Speaker 2:I know, are you sending me the picture?
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, I'm trying to airdrop it. Oh, open your phone.
Speaker 2:No, my other phone's in out there. This is your personal phone, oh.
Speaker 1:Grace Zook.
Speaker 2:That's me. I haven't seen him, bro. It's just the one picture, right, so just text it. She said airdrop shit, not my margarita like.
Speaker 1:It's like Going through green.
Speaker 2:Okay, beautiful, okay, sorry. Okay, airdrop failed. Okay, beautiful Okay, sorry Okay.
Speaker 1:Drop field.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all right, ready to continue this? Okay, sorry about that.
Speaker 1:My shot isn't getting disgustingly hot.
Speaker 2:I mean it's it's out to anyway. Like the liquor is just sitting out anyway. I know a wool. What's the next one? Like the liquor's just sitting out anyway. I know what's the next one. You've had sex in a public place. I'll just drink. I'll be like I have, but I don't mind saying it. But I'll just drink.
Speaker 1:I'll drink. Should we both take a shot?
Speaker 2:Yeah, because I'm not going to say it. We'll be like, uh, and then we'll go into that. Okay, does that work? Okay, so sorry. Okay, kelsey, a little bit about you. We had some followers ask some questions how do you navigate a work-home life balance? It appears so effortlessly perfect. Oh, that's so sweet, that's so nice.
Speaker 1:That is what you see on social media. I know right and not in real life.
Speaker 2:I said actually you don't see shit, yeah, no.
Speaker 1:It is not easy and it is not as perfect as it looks, but I will give credit to my husband because he is the one that puts in a lot of work outside of he works and then he puts in so much work and effort inside the home. We're a combined unit when it comes to like parenting and making everything go smooth. So if I was like your typical fifties housewife that did everything and handled all of the things it would, everything would be on fire. Um, so we split the tasks and we have good days and then we have days that are very exciting to be over. To try to balance all of the personalities and work and home. And everything also is in season seasons, because wedding season is so unique in Arizona so my summers look completely different than my novembers.
Speaker 2:Um, so thank you, that is the sweetest.
Speaker 1:That was super nice.
Speaker 2:Why'd that make me want to cry?
Speaker 1:Um so nice brides, make sure that you have a man that will support your career and your dreams and your goals and is willing to do laundry. But don't tell my mother-in-law that he does laundry because john john I know my husband don't do no laundry oh, my mother-in-law would be so mad if she knew that she's like her son does laundry I know.
Speaker 2:Okay, we're gonna go back to some of the drink, if ones, so I'm gonna grab one real quick, okay. Okay, it says drink if you've had sex in public. Okay, I'm going to take a shot. I will take a shot with you. We're going to take a shot together because we both don't want to answer.
Speaker 1:I do not want to answer that question.
Speaker 2:You already have yours pre-poured, because you I decided to talk instead of drink. You decided to talk instead. Also, these are literally the cutest things ever. I'm kind of scared because we don't have lime. I'm going to have to chase it, or salt.
Speaker 1:Oh bitch.
Speaker 2:I got a lime. Oh, that's not fair. I'll just chug with this, Okay, oh my God, it smells so bad. Tequila is my favorite, but like it's still scary All right, cheers, cheers, let's do that. Gosh, oh God, oof. Okay, that wasn't that bad. I don't know what you thought, but oh my god, that was spooky. Okay, now my stomach's like oh no, I didn't. It's like festering in there. She said help me, not my like margarita, like already being like way your margarita my margarita is just like gone.
Speaker 2:Kelsey, just need a slow sipper and that's fine. I love that for you, couldn't be me but thanks boo all right, okay, let's do this. Should we do another one?
Speaker 1:yeah, okay, okay. The question is drink. If you've ever lied about your age, I've definitely lied about my age. No, really.
Speaker 2:No, Actually I'm going to toot my own horn.
Speaker 1:A lot of people think I'm younger than I really am.
Speaker 2:People don't think I'm as old as I am. No, but I think you look young. I would say like yeah, how old do I look? I would say like 29. That I would say like like yeah, how old do I look? I would say like 29.
Speaker 1:That's sweet. Okay, see, I'm 33. Okay, put it on the record.
Speaker 2:Put it on the record You're 33. I'm 28.
Speaker 1:So how old is your?
Speaker 2:husband, he's 26. He's two years younger than me, oh.
Speaker 1:I know, wait, how old is Tomas. He's 11 months younger than me. Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:So so you guys are like I mean, well, we're only two years, I mean I guess you can say I'm a cougar, but I basically like forced him to ask me out to be his girlfriend.
Speaker 1:So okay, wow, I said so. I forced tomas into marrying me exactly I mean, that's how we're alike. We're bosses, we get things done. We're like.
Speaker 2:So you're marrying us or not?
Speaker 1:It doesn't matter. You don't have a choice, so we're going to do this. Exactly, and you have no choice. Exactly, gun to the head.
Speaker 2:And look where it is 12 years later and you're still together. Yeah, shit, you know what?
Speaker 1:about. Follow us for more marriage advice. If you're not even engaged yet, we're your girls. We will get you a husband. We'll tell you what you should or shouldn't do. I'm gonna ask you another question, okay, um, oh, in regards to your wedding how long did it take to recover, unpack, send thank yous post wedding? Have you sent your thank yous yet, grace? No, you still haven't sent thank yous.
Speaker 2:My thank you is the free alcohol. You're welcome, grace.
Speaker 1:What am I going to say? Thank you for coming to my wedding, okay, thank you for being a part of my special day, but that's why my wedding was so small, like everyone knows Exactly. You have like five plus 70 thank yous to ride, that's it, you have 75 thank yous to ride.
Speaker 2:I think that's probably like my red flag, like I just don't, I think I don't know, I'm so terrible. I just don't think there's like a point to like say that I know, maybe that's a hot take. I don't see the point of sending thank yous. They're so personal. I gave you free alcohol and great food, so you're welcome.
Speaker 1:Dude Anyone listening that came to my weddings like F you, I think thank yous are important. I think they're very old school See old school?
Speaker 2:I'm like not old school.
Speaker 1:I understand, but like grandparents, aunts, uncles, I don like. Not old school I understand, but like your grandparents, aunts, uncles?
Speaker 2:I don't have any of those.
Speaker 1:Rest in peace.
Speaker 2:You don't have aunts or uncles. John's Mexican, so he does no, right. Yeah, but none of them came because I don't talk to them. That's when I put my foot down and I said they're not coming.
Speaker 1:I don't know them. So what you had friends that make your friends came. Yeah, did you write a thank you to your mom?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, well, I got them like cute gifts and stuff and like wrote thank you cards to them, like I did that for them and like all my bridesmaids and you know, john did the same thing we got them like thank you gifts and wrote them letters and stuff. So we did that for them. I think that's enough. Okay, I was gonna be like, um, you're mean, I'm gonna ask you another question.
Speaker 1:Okay, bring it on um. If any, how did you manage family or bridal party drama?
Speaker 2:this is where the tea's coming in. Um, I didn't really have any besides family drama of who was getting invited to the wedding. That didn't go very well, that I did not know, nor had met in the seven years I had been with him, so I had to put my foot down with his dad and just say that they're not invited, and that led to many, many drama, drama situations that are now resolved. Everything worked out and everything was fine and we're good. But I was proud of myself. I kept my foot down and so did my now husband, john.
Speaker 2:We know that you love them and you're close with them, you know. You know, we know that you love them and you know you're close with them. But I've, you know I just I was like I've been with your son for seven years and I've never met them once. Like, why would they be invited to my wedding? You know, that was my aspect of it was it wasn't even so much the money, like it was just the fact of I don't know these people, so why I'm not going to meet someone for the first time at my wedding? That gives me a huge ache. Like, why would I at my wedding? I'm like, who are you. So that's that's like the drama I dealt with. But, like I said, everything's good, everything worked out. But I, you know you, just got to stay, stay strong, got to get through those hard conversations. That's what comes with weddings, unfortunately. That's just you know what I chose to do. So but, um, should we ask another question from the viewers of about you, kelsey?
Speaker 1:sure, I think we should. That tequila shot is I know Loki, I'm like. So, loki, I was trying to like focus.
Speaker 2:I was like wait, we're just chatting, Okay. Okay, how to arrange cheating charts if a lot of people don't get along? Ugh, help me.
Speaker 1:Oh man, yeah, you can be really yeah. So about that you're screwed. No, that's like such a good question it is. There's like two parts of it in my in my head, as I'm like the tequila is.
Speaker 2:It's really racing. It's like right in there.
Speaker 1:So two parts to this answer. One is you can do absolutely everything right when it comes to creating your seating chart not just putting people at tables but also assigning their seat. You can be as strategic with those seating charts, at the end of the day you do not have control If those people run into each other walking to the restrooms, if they end up standing next to each other at the bar, you don't have that control. So, yes, be strategic in placing them at their seats, you will have control where they sit. But in those dynamics of walking around, being on the dance floor, going to the bar where they sit for the ceremony, you don't get to control that, and that is hard.
Speaker 1:If you have a planner, a day of coordinator, whoever like your people are, who's going to support you on that day, I would highly, highly, highly encourage you to have that conversation with them as well as have that conversation maybe with I don't know if it if there's somebody who gets more crazy in drinking, give the bartender a heads up, just so you have your full support team, so you are not worried about it. On a wedding day, I agree, um, we have had I have had a handfuls of weddings, where people are bringing people with them, and so I've been able to keep eyes, not necessarily like stopping them and and re-navigating them to where to walk, but to visually be able to have an idea. Oh my gosh, is it tequila coming?
Speaker 1:back up the tequila, I'm like burping. Oh my God, I was too, don't worry.
Speaker 2:Okay, it's so gross. I was too. Don't worry, it's okay. Tequila, tequila, that's odd.
Speaker 1:No, I would not like, re. I wouldn't stop people from where they're walking and what they're doing and who they're talking to. But to have eyes, yeah.
Speaker 2:And there's only so much you can do.
Speaker 1:Because if something does look like it's going to escalate which I have seen plenty of fights in the wedding world usually I have enough eyes on it, I can see the profiles and the mannerisms and the body language to be able to step in fast enough Thank you, lord, that I've never been hit but to have to, like, actually step in fast enough Thank you, lord, that I've never been hit but to have to actually step in and separate or grab a team to say, all right, this is the next move because it's about to hit the fan and bride's just living her best beautiful wedding day.
Speaker 1:As long as yeah.
Speaker 2:I totally agree, did that answer the question.
Speaker 1:I hope it did. I think so, I think it did. I mean OK, answer the question. I hope it did, I think so, I think it did.
Speaker 2:I mean, okay, like the question was arranging seating chart, and like I mean with people who don't get along and I agree with you, there's only so much you can do, at least I think of dinner when you're like sat for a certain amount of time and you have to be right next to someone, make sure they're separated during then. But you can't control if they walked, if they accidentally sit next to each other at the ceremony, if they're going to the bathroom or they're at the bar, like you know. Hopefully at the end of the day they would have enough respect for you and your now husband that they would not cause a scene. But you never know, alcohol will get to you.
Speaker 1:People have big feelings Exactly Okay.
Speaker 2:Should we play more drink if?
Speaker 1:Yeah, but your margarita is empty. I know it's really empty. Can we get our bottle please? Producer, can we get our bottle please? Can we pause this for a second?
Speaker 2:Okay, okay. So we're going to play another episode. We're going to play another Drink. If we're going to play another drink, if Now he's in front of my camera.
Speaker 1:Even better, perfect, thank you. Here will you top me off.
Speaker 2:Wait, top her off.
Speaker 1:Thank you Okay, such a kind Really.
Speaker 2:That's top the best producer. Just top it off with a tequila, okay, whatever, such a. Really that's top the best producer.
Speaker 1:Just top it off with a tequila, okay. Whatever Facts there's, like none in there, okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, the next drink, if Drink, if you're the youngest one here, ah, tequila, that's messed up. Nope, tequila, tequila shot. Yeah, okay, fine, okay, fine, because you're the youngest one here, you know what? Hell? Yeah, okay. And by the youngest, I'm not that young. Actually, I should not age myself. Wait, I'm 28.
Speaker 1:You just said you're 28. I did already expose that. No, I'm saying like I should have been like oh my God, like I'm so young. We just talked about our age dude, I know and I forgot.
Speaker 2:That's Okay. Wait, I need to chase this With this. Okay, cheers, cheers. I have like two little. I have like a mini one and then like actual one. Oh God, you're taking one. If there's something like that about you, you know what? Well, we're about to take another one. Oh shoot, okay, you're up, all right.
Speaker 1:Start pouring the tequila drink if you have a test too. Are we taking the shots or drinking?
Speaker 2:out of the margaritas, we're doing shots. Oh god, you guys, if I get drunk it's because of kelsey. This is her fault. Whatever I'm gonna be like, it's cinco de mayo's fault. Cinco de drinko. Okay, hand me your. Are you got it or no? I got it, you got okay. Thanks, boo, but yeah, you better pour you, better pour up the whole thing. I'm watching you, cinco de Mayo's fault.
Speaker 1:Cinco de Drinco Okay, hand me your, you got it. No, I got it, you got it.
Speaker 2:Okay, thanks, boo, but yeah, you better pour the whole thing. I'm watching you, no, no, no, that's not fair.
Speaker 1:That is fair.
Speaker 2:I just that's not fair because I just took one and you're making me take another one. It better be full. It is full, alright, and now be full. It is full, all right, and now you don't have a lime?
Speaker 1:huh okay, calmate okay okay, cheers. Oh my god, I'm gonna cry oh my god okay you said this was the best tequila dude.
Speaker 2:I said that because it was $16. I didn't say it was the best, I said it was Okay.
Speaker 1:I'm not. We're taking a break from shots just for a second.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's go back to a question. I have a good question Because okay.
Speaker 1:I'm scared of the drinking game. Can I Do?
Speaker 2:we have water Garçon Ding ding, ding, ding, ding, ding ding. We need like a little bell. Our producer's going to be like absolutely not, okay, all right, Next wedding. It's getting toasty in here. We don't, we're poor, we don't have AC. I mean we're like a big fan, but just like, okay. Do you like who said okay, okay, all right, we're getting back to business. What do you rather have? A five thousand dollar ring or five thousand dollar honeymoon ring?
Speaker 1:or $5,000 honeymoon. Ooh Okay, crap, Damn the tequila's hitting.
Speaker 2:I know.
Speaker 1:Because the answer is 5K. Ain't shit.
Speaker 2:Literally I was like first of all, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1:Like I said, we were poor when we got married. We eloped at the courthouse my incredible husband and I. We had to pay for our witnesses and we had just enough money left over to go to Chick-fil-A. Yum, my Chick-fil-A and we like I'm pretty sure we like split the Chick-fil-A, Like I think we got two sandwich, like two Chick-fil-A sandwiches, large fry.
Speaker 2:You didn't even have enough. We didn't even have enough for like no, what about?
Speaker 1:we like split the lemonade. Oh, so to say, would I rather have a five thousand dollar honeymoon or a five thousand dollar ring after 12 years of marriage, starting from like dirt, poured nothing together to where we are today? Like boo, you better be like quadrupling those numbers for my honeymoon and my ring.
Speaker 2:Okay, all I'm saying, like maybe this is a hot take and I don't give, I don't care Um, and I don't give, I don't care Um, if, if your man like sometimes and this is sometimes I see rings and I'm like you gotta be kidding me. Like, unless it was like you just started dating and you just knew it was the one. Like if you've been like together for X amount of years, this is one. I'm usually not one of these like kind of people, but like if you wanted to, he would like. I'm sorry If, if your man can go out to the casino and go sports bet and go yada, yada, yada, that's fine. You better have a fat ring on your finger, because I am playing around. You know, I think that's a big part and I know it's a financial aspect. That is a lot. But also there's so many different. There's payment plans, there's xyz, there's so many things. If he wanted to, he would, that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1:And also 5k ring or I don't even know where you could go for five thousand dollars on a honeymoon.
Speaker 2:I was like, first of all, my ring is more than 5k and then, second of all, my honeymoon is more than 5k, so I'm gonna need a 10k ring we had like our quote-unquote.
Speaker 1:Honeymoon yeah, last summer, and it was just a vacation. It wasn't our honeymoon, but that was like we. We went all the way to hawaii, we went to maui, we were there for seven days. We just go by yourself. I forget, like, like Like. Are you asking for one with the kids?
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, okay, I couldn't remember, so I was asking why would I take my kids on my? Almost honeymoon. That's why I was confirming who doesn't-, because you're just too nice. I feel like you would take your kids.
Speaker 1:You don't know me well enough. No, I do love my children.
Speaker 2:No, no, you do, and I'm like super a sweet mom. It was very hard to go away for seven days, but you guys have been married for 12 years.
Speaker 1:You deserve to like go do something. So this was like we went and we went to Maui and that in itself was like 10 to 15 grand.
Speaker 2:Our honeymoon to Europe, just for hotels right now and flights, is $9,500. Yeah, and that's not even spending. So like 5K ain't getting you shit. No, I can tell you, unless you, I mean you could like go to like, do like a cute, like staycation in like Cali or something like on the beach, but that's if you live here in Arizona Exactly that's what I'm saying, like there's possible cute ways to do a honeymoon, but if you way you can do it for 5k.
Speaker 2:No Like, in my opinion, especially in the, especially in these times, I can't even buy eggs like $8. Huh, don't you want to talk about eggs? I don't even want to know how much you spent on eggs with your family.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we cause I would go into cardiac arrest morning. Yeah yeah, I get mad when I look at the car and like there's two of us and there's like four left.
Speaker 2:Next question okay, because now you're getting me hot on. Okay, let's go, that's what we're here for. Okay, did you ever have a nightmare about your wedding? Oh, I don't think I ever had a nightmare. But this is, and not even tea. But I was so stressed out with my wedding for I have videos, pictures for like two months straight before my wedding I broke out in hives, like almost every day. My face, my eyes, my arms, literally. I remember the day we were getting married, on Saturday, thursday night, I broke out in hives and I was like, oh my God, I have the rehearsal dinner, like we had our rehearsal the next morning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and um, thankfully, if you've been a drill like good, but, um, it is crazy. People don't realize the stress you can go under with. You know, planning a wedding and I, I mean I did essentially obviously plan my own wedding. I didn't have a plan or anything, but I can't. I had a small guest count. I can't even imagine like people like big guest counts and like elaborate things, like I was stressed and I think it's also okay to be stressed. I think, um, I feel like a lot of times brides feel like they're like oh, I didn't have everything together and everything needs to be perfect. And you know, I was, I was stressed, I had, I had hives and I haven't had them after the wedding gone. So I think it's like normal for those things to happen, but, um, I never had a nightmare but hives, I was stressed because it's a lot. So, um, should we play another?
Speaker 1:Let's ask an Instagram question.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's do that. Let me pull an Instagram question. Okay, let's do that.
Speaker 1:Let me pull Kelsey's. Like I'm crazy. Like donde estas, donde estas el agua? Oh, she's like where's the water? Please bring me water.
Speaker 2:Help me, I'm poor, okay, okay. How do you handle guests who break into liquor cabinets, steal alcohol from your expensive resort and then leave it in the bridal suite?
Speaker 1:Okay, I planned this bride's wedding Very, very I mean probably one of the top five weddings I've ever planned. Absolutely stunning, gorgeous wedding, high-end resort. It wasn't close to home so I stayed at the resort and, yes, the guests, the wedding ended and guests broke into the liquor cabinet and from my recollection it is.
Speaker 2:From what I remember, because I was trashed.
Speaker 1:No, I wasn't, I wasn't, it was like a really tough. It wasn't a tough wedding, it was a big wedding. There are so many logistics that went into play in this wedding. I was emotionally exhausted. I wasn't drunk because I wasn't drunk, but from my recollection, the bar cut everybody off. Bride wanted everybody to continue drinking, so they opened up the tab again, but then the bartender was running out of stuff. Bar cut everybody off. Bride wanted everybody to continue drinking, so they opened up the tab again, but then the bartender was running out of stuff and the bartender wanted or no, the guests were wanting certain things that the bartender didn't have, and so the I feel like this is what you get.
Speaker 1:They ran out of Red Bull and they wanted Red Bull vodkas.
Speaker 2:Looks like you're getting a vodka.
Speaker 1:And so the guests were like, if I find Red Bull, will you make my drink? And the bartender was like, yeah, game on. So the guests started like ravaging the resort, looking for I would like Instacart it, like it was a little pack looking for Red Bull, for what it do, for what this guest count was and the amount of them drinking. So, anyways, I left, like I left it. You know, after we striked we're cleaned up, good to go. I went back to bed, woke up the next morning I walked to the bridal suite and I walk into the bridal suite and I'm like where did all this alcohol come from? Because I know it was here yesterday, like I had checked in enough times and was around in all of the spaces, um, and like this was like high end top shelf liquor, and it's in there and she's like the.
Speaker 1:The guests, like so-and-so, broke into the locked lipker cabinet at the resort. What do I do? Sos and I was like um a, you leave it in the room but then get charged for it. I would send that invoice b, I walk away and I don't. I have absolutely nothing to do with it, and so it was the guest's fault. And yep, it happens when your guests are savages.
Speaker 2:So dang, just take it, take it, take it with a grain of salt, I guess $7,000 worth of alcohol what yeah, shut no.
Speaker 1:Just take it with a grain of salt, I guess $7,000 worth of alcohol what yeah Shut no. And the police nobody ever got called. Police never got called. So for months, post-wedding, we were waiting like would check in and be like hey, any update on?
Speaker 2:the alcohol. So, yeah, that's why, yeah, I don't get like the open bar, like I just feel like that is room for disaster of how much how do you feel about?
Speaker 2:cash bars? Absolutely not, I don't. I just I think I think it's kind of ratchet like. I just think that if you're having a wedding and you know there's people going there, driving there out of town, I think the least you can do is like free alcohol, and a lot of times I mean, I did mine from Costco and we, you know, asked the bartender how much we should bring and then if you don't open it, you can just return it, so that saves you money as well. So I think, um, I'm super anti-cash bar at weddings.
Speaker 1:I don't think they should ever.
Speaker 2:I mean even by like shit liquor like. I just don't even know, like even by, like the low, like at least something. So then they're not like feeling as if they're going out for a night at the club or going and spending $100, $200 just to drink for the night when it's at a wedding.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree, anti. So I have another question for you from a listener. I think our opinion is going to be different. Oh no, do I include my pup or not?
Speaker 2:like your puppy. Yeah, at your wedding. Yeah, I would not with a 10-foot pole, bring my puppy to the wedding Because Dallas is a menace. He's literally an a-hole. So I mean, yeah, if it's not a puppy, like I mean, we've seen weddings where they have, you know, they hire a service to bring someone in and they take care of the dogs, but then they're there and I think that's super cute and fun, but a puppy I would not bring to my wedding at all.
Speaker 2:I don't think so. I don't know what you think, but I wouldn't.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I guess we're pretty close In the event that you have somebody who handles them fantastic. If not, then I say leave the puppet home. It's overstimulating.
Speaker 2:I, I just don't. I feel like you'd have to like watch, like yeah, if you do, do it, go through a company that watches them. If you don't, then I would not bring them at all so do you have any?
Speaker 1:do you want to wrap up with a drinking game?
Speaker 2:yes, let's. Let's finish the episode with a few drink ifs, and then we'll wrap it up. Are you grabbing air on me? I don't know what it is, it's so dumb.
Speaker 1:I don't know how many more shots I can take. Dude, it's way too hot in this room For the record, we're in Arizona, we live in Arizona, it's a sauna in here.
Speaker 2:Okay, drink if it's a dry heat. You're married.
Speaker 1:Cheers to that cheers to married life literally okay drink if you've gone, skinny dipping.
Speaker 2:I haven't. I know you're, I know you, I know you have. How do you know that? I just I can tell. If I just tell your vibe you've done some crazy shit.
Speaker 1:I.
Speaker 2:I have gone skinny dipping like was it like in a pool or like in a lake, like it was in a lake, okay um. See, I'd be scared that was gonna bite me it's gonna bite you with clothes on either way?
Speaker 1:I guess so. But like everything's out, it was dark, it was night, it was um. I was very self-conscious in my body, so I figured why not screw it?
Speaker 2:take it all off. See, I feel like maybe that's why I haven't. I feel like I'm like too self-conscious, I'm like yeah, that's why you need to do it.
Speaker 1:I can't. It'll like get you un-self-conscious, oh I like that though.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that I give you like that confidence. You're like you know what.
Speaker 1:You know what hell yeah. Confidence. Baby, I love that.
Speaker 2:Okay, are you? You bitch Drink. If you're the oldest one here, do I have to take a shot? Because you took a shot. I think I had to take a shot for mine, so I think it's only fair that I think you have to take one. What is this shot number like? Three for you.
Speaker 1:I know I am cute cute but good thing everybody has my husband's phone number to come pick me up right, aye, aye, aye.
Speaker 2:Cheers to that. I want to matches your dress. It looks cute cheers to being the oldest, cheers exactly and still looking young baby you took like that champ. That's how much I've drank are we gonna finish? How many do we have? Ugh, let's do two more, and then we're gonna wrap it up okay, we're gonna do two more of these and then we're gonna okay drink if you're only on your first drink okay, neither of us are drinking, yeah okay, okay, drink if you've had a random hookup.
Speaker 2:Just want to let everyone know kelsey's drinking and I'm not because I'm a saint took me a minute to find the right one, and that's okay you're out of your mind, okay.
Speaker 1:Serious question, okay. Do you think that it should be exposed what your body count is before you get married, either on the bride or the groom side? Oof.
Speaker 2:I think, yes, you think it should be exposed, because if it's a lot, it's an ick to me. Is yours a?
Speaker 1:lot no Grace.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I think no grace. Oh yeah, um, I I think, well, I feel like that's like a common question every couple asks. I feel like you also like, feel that like right when you first start dating, though I feel like that's like a main like what's your body?
Speaker 1:yeah, what's your body count? Oh wait, really go what?
Speaker 2:is it? My body counts two.
Speaker 1:My body counts four liar cheers happy cinco tomorrow happy cinco.