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014- High School Sweethearts: A Journey Through Marriage And Wedding Planning
Luke and Coltey share their journey from high school sweethearts to married parents, revealing how their relationship survived distance, breaks, and finding their way back to each other.
• Meeting at a friend's quinceañera when they were 14 years old
• Building their relationship on friendship and never speaking ill of each other
• Taking a break during college to grow independently before reconnecting
• Maintaining a healthy relationship by accepting change and growth in each other
• Luke's surprise Thanksgiving proposal with both families present
• Planning an intimate 70-person wedding at The Willow in Arizona
• Taking a slow, pressure-free approach to marriage and having children
• Transitioning to parenthood and Colty becoming a stay-at-home mom
• Emphasizing the importance of communication when life plans change
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Hey Queens, it's Kelsey and Grace back with the Wedding Hive.
Speaker 2:Giving you the tea and all the buzz in the wedding world. Let's jump right in. Hey Queens, welcome back to another episode of the Wedding Hive podcast. Today I'm joined with Colty and Luke. Welcome you guys.
Speaker 2:Thank you Excited to be here and we're so excited to have you on. So fun fact if you guys do not know, kelsey and I work at a wedding venue called the Willow out in Surprise, arizona, and you guys are one of the first two couples to get married there. So we wanted to have you guys on talk about your wedding experience. And years later, and now you have a baby, so we're going to get into it. But we love to do with all of our guests a yes or no question. So did you guys yes or no, do it on your wedding night?
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 1:Honestly we went back to the wigwam after our wedding.
Speaker 2:We love the wigwam.
Speaker 1:Yes, we had a big room block and everyone was there and we partied probably till like four and by the time we got back, to the hotel. We were absolutely exhausted oh my god, let's save it for the next night, right, you know, I guess I I totally feel it.
Speaker 2:I'm we're, I'm the same way. Me and my husband also got married at the willow, so we love them. Um, but we went out, yeah, to Westgate right after and then, like by the time we got home, I'm like don't remember getting home and I was like, yeah, we'll save it for later. So I think there's a big misconception or like a big thing of like oh, you always have to do it when you get married. The day of is so long yes, it is so, it's so fun, but it's exhausting, like I think I don't know about you. I had to get up at like 6 am, wash my hair, get to hair and makeup, but yeah, I feel like, especially for the women it's.
Speaker 1:It is an extremely long day, yep, and then by the time it's over, you're like, oh my gosh that was it, you're sad, but you're also relieved because the months and months of planning.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, yeah, I totally agree. And then the guys just go golfing. I was going to say my day wasn't too stressful.
Speaker 3:The guys are like, yeah, we just pulled up, got a sandwich.
Speaker 1:We're just chilling. I think they had a group workout. Awesome, I love that.
Speaker 2:I've seen the whole thing like, oh, the guys just show up at like 12 and it's like they don't have to do all the hair and makeup and stuff, so they get lucky. I love that so. But you guys, as you know, we have a new sponsor for Care Vodka. Would you guys like to take a shot with me and tell me what you think? Absolutely okay, perfect, we have our shots ready. We don't have any chasers. So you know, hopefully you guys are going into it raw cheers to that cheers cheers oh god very smooth, right?
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Speaker 3:vodka. I would say truthfully yeah, yeah vodka.
Speaker 1:I'm a big martini espresso martini martini I love.
Speaker 2:I haven't gotten into the dirty martinis. I love an espresso martini but I'm just like I don't know, because it's like I usedend it and like, so I know it's just like vermouth and like pretty much all vodka and I'm like can I, can I do that? I don't know Can.
Speaker 1:I handle it. It's quick, you know, you feel it quick and it's like it's cheaper at the bar, like you don't even have to worry about it.
Speaker 2:So I heard that you guys have been together since you were 14. Is that true?
Speaker 1:Yes, it is Okay With a little hiatus. Yes, on and off throughout.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Okay, do you guys want to dive into like your story for a little bit and like how you met and how you got to eventually wedding day?
Speaker 1:Yeah, so we met our freshman year of high school. One of our friends at the time was having her quinceanera and so we were actually both in it. And that's how we met and we, honestly, were friends at first, just kind of hit it off. And then time went on, started like getting a connection, dated a little bit throughout high school and then in college we were both college athletes, so we ended up going to opposite ends of the country and we were together our freshman year and then truly just thought it was best for the both of us to kind of take a break, figure it out and you know, said, if it was meant to be, it'll find its way back.
Speaker 1:And I moved back to Arizona and he was still in school and I had this crazy like medical situation and he ended up reaching out to me seeing if I was okay and everything, and we hung out. I think we went to dinner and a movie, just you know, catching up. We hadn't seen each other in probably two years and never stopped hanging out. After that Caught right back together. That's so crazy.
Speaker 1:Honestly it's cool because we never broke up in a bad way. It was always amicable, we always stayed friends. I felt like we always really supported each other, and so when we got back together, my mom was like yay, I'm so happy.
Speaker 2:I love that. I think it's crazy to like cause everyone's love story is so different, so like to know each other since you were then like 14, and then all of life's things happen, and then to bring you guys back together is like I just I love that so much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I joke that like our parents have seen each other as young kids. Oh, that's true, your family members Older teenagers, college kids.
Speaker 3:I was getting dropped off at her house when I was 15 because I didn't have my license.
Speaker 2:That's so crazy.
Speaker 3:So, my parents would drop me off, be like okay, when are we picking you up? Set a time for pickup and everything.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, that's so full circle. I love that. So, since knowing each other since you were 14, I think a lot of people think high school sweethearts and stuff, like how do you do it? How do you think that the years, how you've not in a bad way, but like I mean to be with someone and know someone for so long, what's your method to your madness?
Speaker 3:essentially, as a couple. How do you think? No, I think I mean you have to take a very different approach. You know, because when you are like when you meet each other at 14 and we're now 33, 32, you just you're learning yourself, you're growing up. So I think the biggest key for us was never speaking ill on each other. Even when we did break up, like it was never, like she said it was very pc, it was like hey, this isn't working out, we need to kind of figure something out. So I just think that was always really what took us to the next level, because we always had love for each other. Just didn't really work out at certain times.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah no, I totally agree. I feel like the biggest part of having a healthy relationship is um, never speaking ill on your partner or like, even when you're like in that moment of anger, or um, I feel like I realized growing up like there'd be times where me and my like fiance would get in like arguments, and I just realized as years I'm like I want to keep everything about our relationship private, like just you and me, cause you know it's hard when you're, you know, younger and I'm sure you're like, oh my God, like Luke did this thing. It was super annoying. And then it's like but then I mean I mean.
Speaker 2:Colty also did this one thing that really annoyed me, and it's like you never want the perception of your partner to be ill from outsiders or like people on the outside, even if it's friends, family, 100.
Speaker 1:but I don't know if you guys agree on that, because I just know 100, and I feel like we've seen so many stages of each other, like we've been lucky to be able to fall in love in every stage and continue to do that, and so I think you know understanding that we, that we are absolutely not the same people that we were when we were 14 or 18 or even 25. And that's exciting. And so I think we built our relationship on the foundation of being friends and we have so much fun together and we have a lot of commonalities and I think we enjoy a lot of the same things and so that's been one of the things that we've been over since we were young.
Speaker 2:yeah, do you think having that? Do you think it's lasted so long? Because you had that initial friendship and it wasn't there in the beginning and then it turned into something that was more than friendship yeah, I think that sure.
Speaker 1:I think also our break in college was really nice because we got to experience and like live who we wanted to be and figure things out. And you know now I say when for a lot of couples that are together since high school, you know they don't get that. They always have that like what if?
Speaker 2:Oh, constantly, yeah, what if I did this? They don't get that. They always have that like what if? Oh, constantly yeah, what if I did this?
Speaker 1:But we got to do that and we still ended up back together, and so it's like we always kind of knew that it was going to be each other. Just a matter of when, yep, more timing, and so, yeah, and the timing worked out how it was supposed to.
Speaker 2:I love that, yeah, okay. So the timing worked out how it was supposed to. I love that, yeah, okay. So, luke, how did you propose? We want to know. We talk about proposal, we talk about engagement. How did you propose? Yeah?
Speaker 3:So I of course had the classic pressure because Colton and I dated for so long of like when are you going to ask her?
Speaker 2:When are you going to ask her? It was not pressure from me, though, it wasn't yeah, Never.
Speaker 3:Never from her. No.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Cause I always reassured. I was like, hey, I want to marry you, but this is my plan. I want, we wanted to buy a house first and just do so many other things prior to getting engaged. So but yeah, I mean the classic like when are you doing?
Speaker 2:it.
Speaker 3:When are you doing it at?
Speaker 1:the wigwam um july 2020 2020 so yeah, that was like my original plan um, and then covid hit, so like nothing was able to. I know we hate you.
Speaker 3:Yes, we do the wigwam is really close in our family. Actually um her sister's husband, his dad, like was like a long-term worker there and just had like a lot of ties there. So it really resonates with us. So I was like okay, what we're gonna do is go to the wigwam and I'm gonna do this whole spiel. You know the?
Speaker 1:whole thing, but go this is so funny because I have. No, I did not know about this at all.
Speaker 3:This is the first you knew the wigwam part? No, I didn't. Oh, you didn't.
Speaker 1:No, I knew you were gonna to do it in the summer of 2020, but I did not know. This is actually really cute, this is so cute.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 3:Didn't do that and then ended up proposing in November. So Thanksgiving of 2020. Just a few six or so months later, after that it calmed down.
Speaker 2:Did you do it public, private? Where was it Public to?
Speaker 3:our family. It's funny because we've been together for so long and it calmed down. Did you do it public, private? Where was it Public to our family? So it's funny because we've been together for so long, Our families now actually do all the holidays together which has just been awesome.
Speaker 2:That sounds so clutch. Oh my God, that sounds like heaven on earth to me.
Speaker 1:Yes yes. It really is. We feel really lucky that they all get along.
Speaker 3:It's been incredible, yeah, instead of having like a couple hours here and then drive to another place. Yeah, so on one spot, we have been doing that for a few years, leading up to that date of always like having the family there. And her biggest request was like I want my family there when you ask me, like you know. So I was like okay, so trying to think of like how to do that Well especially with how COVID was too Like in the beginning part.
Speaker 3:It was like you can't travel with more than x amount of people. When you do travel, you're quarantining for a few days and like all of this stuff. So you just really had to get like creative yeah, literally yeah, see what we can work with. When is the next time we are all gonna be together?
Speaker 2:it's annoying too if, like you obviously were like I want my family there and then covet, and they're like you can only have five, and you're just like yep, yeah, so, yeah, so yeah through, got some curve balls thrown at me in the beginning.
Speaker 3:but yeah, um did it on Thanksgiving. We did it. Uh, that year my sister hosted, so the way her like house is set up is she has like a big Arcadia, like sliding glass door, like right when you initially walk in. So I like had that they're outside, so just like super casual laid back.
Speaker 2:I don't know Everyone's out there.
Speaker 1:I was so blindsided.
Speaker 3:Her thing. For her was like I'm going to know when you're going to ask me, because you're such a nervous guy, I'm just going to see it on you. So I had it internally.
Speaker 2:I was like no way, you're not going to know. You said this is the one thing I got to pull off. You said it's not happening. Yeah, yeah, you ain't going to know a damn thing.
Speaker 3:So yeah, that was like my biggest strategy was like just play cool. So I was like, yeah, I don't know. And then we walked out and we unveiled like after the curtain and I had like a rose, like heart, uh, like hedge wall set for her.
Speaker 1:yeah, it was like in roses yeah the whole thing was like set up. There was like drapery, there was lights. It was like it was stunning something oh, I do have.
Speaker 2:There's no expense for money here, okay, well, my mom is actually my girl's gonna get what she wants she's an event planner, my mom is, oh, so I can't take all the credit.
Speaker 3:No, but, still, that's awesome yeah and she definitely helped me with like the whole thing, so yeah, she's truly, she's the best.
Speaker 1:Yeah she, she came in so clutch she always does, but she came in very clutch and that's so awesome.
Speaker 2:you guys have a good like healthy family dynamic with each other's sides, because you know there's a lot of people out there who don't get along with their significant other's side of the family and that can be a tough subject or time to deal with. So I love that you guys are just like kumbaya on Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1:So far.
Speaker 3:You said we're waiting for some shit to pop off eventually, you never know.
Speaker 2:One too many mimosas, who knows?
Speaker 1:That's so cute, love, that I always joke like hi, I, looking back, I should have known, yep, like his sister and I are really close and leading up to it she wouldn't come in the house like she, you're like she would like stop by and, I think, talk to him about it or drop something off or do something. And I'd be like, did your sister just come? And he was like yeah, and I'm like what the heck? Where'd she go? Like I didn't even get to say hi, he was like oh, she had to run and I was like that's so weird, that's not her.
Speaker 2:She would not do that. And looking back, I'm like I just want to get out of there. I'm like, oh my God. Well, it's like, yeah, you don't want to ruin the proposal, like it's the proposal.
Speaker 1:So she's like I don't want to ruin anything. Yeah, amazing surprise, for sure.
Speaker 2:Oh, I love that that was a surprise for you. I feel like a lot of people like me. When I got engaged I was like I knew, did you I? Think that I don't know how you guys felt, but getting engaged it's like, oh my God, it's finally here, this is happening. It's like an out-of-body experience. It really is. Did you have a speech or did you cry the whole time?
Speaker 3:No, I didn't. I wasn't too emotional with it. I kind of am a little reserved with that. I brought her to the area that I had set up for her and I was like I love you so much and like I wanted your family here to see this. Like, will you marry me? So I kept it like super, like, super short.
Speaker 1:I blacked out, so I couldn't even believe what he said. I was like in shock.
Speaker 2:I know it's almost. I don't know. We'll get into it more. Obviously you guys got married. But I just remember a few weeks after I was talking to my now brother-in-law and I was like, oh yeah, I feel like I blacked out. And he's like you were drunk. And I was like no, I was like it's literally all this time you've been with I mean since you're 14, knowing this person. I'm sure it's even crazier. But and all this planning and it's finally there, it's like walking down and you're just like, oh wait, like we're actually here right now, like this is we're getting married.
Speaker 1:What is this? It's literally an out-of-body experience experience, if I don't know, if you guys know 100% it was incredible, like it's almost you can't even describe it, because, yeah, you think about it, you talk about it and then it actually happens and you just like, oh my gosh, this is it, like this is happening.
Speaker 2:Yeah, are you guys like um, don't, do you guys like be in the center of attention? Or how do you guys deal with that? I feel like, did you guys have guys have a big wedding party, or um, like count?
Speaker 1:No, so our wedding party was only our siblings, so he has a sister and brother, I have a sister and brother, so it worked out perfectly.
Speaker 3:Two and two.
Speaker 1:And then we actually kept our wedding really, really small. We were going back and forth about even eloping, oh really yeah, and so my biggest thing was I wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle and I wanted my first dance with him. So that kind of leaned us to, okay, well, we'll have a wedding. But yeah, we wanted to keep it really small. I mean small right, it was like 70 maybe, I think 70 people there.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I think 72 ended up showing. Oh yeah, but we invited 85 or something like that.
Speaker 1:I think 72 ended up showing oh yeah, it was like the official number, but we invited 85 or something, 80 maybe, yeah, so, and it was perfect.
Speaker 2:Aw, I had a small. I had 55 people at the end of it and I felt like that was perfect. I'm not against big wedding, like guest counts, but I feel like I got to talk to everyone and it's not so overwhelming and not those people there that like really love and care about you.
Speaker 3:So yeah, yeah Um okay.
Speaker 2:So with the wedding planning process, there's always the. The bride plans. Everything runs the show. Colty, what did you plan? And Luke, what did you plan when it came to the wedding day? Okay?
Speaker 1:do you want to go first?
Speaker 3:you go first.
Speaker 2:You're just going to be long or like is it that not stigma? But at least me. I pretty much planned our whole wedding and my husband just kind of showed up or I would send him stuff for opinions. He'd be like, yeah, like whatever you want, or yeah, that looks good. So how did that look for you guys' process?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like I pretty much planned the whole thing. Um, and honestly, no, no, no, shame at all. Um, it was kind of nice, I enjoyed it and I wanted to do it. Um, I filled them in, I felt like when it was necessary, but I'd be like, hey, we're going to do X. Um, I filled them in, I felt like when it was necessary, but I'd be like, hey, we're gonna do x, y and z, and he'd be like, cool, love it. Um, and really, because our wedding party was so small, I really relied on my sister, his mom and his sister to kind of help and guide me.
Speaker 1:obviously, his mom is a queen of event planning, so oh, yeah, true yeah, exactly, it was really nice to have that, yeah, and then truly just kind of everything, and we wanted it simple, like I didn't want a whole lot of stuff involved, like my decorations and stuff. Yeah, my biggest thing was I want to be able to hang out with the people that I invited.
Speaker 1:Like those, those are, you know, our chosen family, along with our blood family, but our chosen family and so being able to spend time with them that day, I didn't want too many extra things around, so we kept it pretty simple. I felt like it was easy to plan, so yeah, it was good.
Speaker 2:Luke, what did you plan?
Speaker 3:Well, I'm going to take credit for my mom. You're like Well, I'm going to take credit for my mom.
Speaker 1:You're like, so I'm her son, so like, basically I planned the whole thing, everything she did.
Speaker 2:I was a part of so.
Speaker 3:No, but I actually I took the groom's like suits really serious, so like I was really dialed in on that, my suit as well, and then just like little random things I feel like I kind of like gave opinions on. But yeah, for the most part, yeah, truly, I was just thumbs up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you got this, like always, like the videos, it's like you show up and they're like good job you're like this looks great.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you said this is what we've been planning for the last. How?
Speaker 2:long did you take to plan your guys's wedding, or what was the time frame?
Speaker 1:so we were engaged November 2020. Got married April of 2022. Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:We took some time.
Speaker 1:We enjoyed being engaged. I will say he had a really cool suit. I felt like he took a lot of pride in that. I think I saw a picture Was it orange.
Speaker 3:It's like a rustic orange A rustic orange.
Speaker 2:Okay, yes, I saw that.
Speaker 1:He flew to California and got it custom made from David August, oh my goodness.
Speaker 2:He said I'm going to show up. That's right. I love that.
Speaker 1:And it was amazing. But even it's so funny. We laughed the wedding day. There were some little things that his mom did that set up their couches or cute decor things. I didn't even know about that. We showed up and they were there and it was like just made it all come together so perfectly, yep, um. So I feel like, yeah, we definitely had a lot of help and that was it made the process like easier Very much yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:Well with Luke sounds. You got kind of fancy with his. How was your wedding dress shopping experience?
Speaker 1:It was good. I'm a fairly simple girly, okay. So I went to one spot, I tried on about three dresses and by the third dress I was like all right, this is it. It was a little different though, because of COVID. Oh, that's right, because you have to get it early, yeah, so when I went, there could only be, I think, three people. So I had I had my mom, my sister, my grandma and my aunt, um, and it was fairly quick. Yeah, they are the best, but they are also very opinionated. So they surely told me what looked good, and didn't you said tell me how you feel?
Speaker 1:yeah, so when I tried, on the dress and they all gave me what looked good, and didn't you said tell me how you feel so when I tried on the dress and they all gave me a thumbs up, I was like cool, let's get it, let's get out of here, and that kind of did it. So I joke with Luke like, oh, maybe I'll pretend like I'm getting married again and go wedding dress shopping and it'll just be us two that would be cute, that's on our to do list at some point.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, that would be cute, that would be fun, that's on our to-do list at some point.
Speaker 2:Yeah, eventually the vow renewal and something like that oh yeah, that would be cute, and then you guys could just go together, because you've already had the whole experience and everything with that.
Speaker 1:I love that.
Speaker 2:Okay, so we've talked about on the podcast bachelorette parties. Did you guys do a joint one? Did you do separate one? Did you do separate? Separate, for sure, separate. Okay, do you think you're glad? You did separate, like I did a joint one, and I loved it okay, okay, yeah, we went to rocky point, got a big beach house oh wow, that sounds awesome yeah, so it was fun because then we got to go out at night together and we did separate things we wanted to.
Speaker 2:But I'm interested to see, like another person's perspective of like, doing separate did you? How was that? Was that experience, was it?
Speaker 1:I loved it. My sister planned my bachelorette party and it was perfect, like every part of it. It was everything I ever wanted, so I felt really lucky. We actually stayed in Arizona, so she rented this huge house in Scottsdale. A lot of my friends are very athletic and competitive, so the house had it had pickleball, it had basketball, it had a swimming pool, it had pool, it had mini golf and so like oh wow it was a lot of any sport you can think of.
Speaker 2:We got it. That's right, so don't even try me.
Speaker 1:We have them all exactly we wanted to have some fun, so we actually like broke into two groups. It was like very fun and competitive drinking games, we had yoga, a chef and then a masseuse came in and gave everyone individual hour long massages. So very relaxing, very fun, just like honestly right up my alley, like everything I ever wanted. So, yep, as much as I love his friends and we all get along and everyone knows each other, it was the best thing ever just have the girls time separate.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, and what we always joke, the bachelor parties you guys just pull up no plans. Is that what you guys did? Exactly what it was? Yeah, where did you guys go?
Speaker 3:we went to Vegas okay, classic.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we did the whole casino it.
Speaker 3:It was actually like right when the circuit like swim. I forgot what it's called. It's like a sports book. It's like a huge like circus, circus, swim, yeah, so it's like this, just gigantic outdoor, like pool, with like multiple monitors for like games, betting and all of that. So, yeah, it was fun. Oh my God, nothing planned but ended up being great, nothing planned.
Speaker 2:You just pull up the guys just go to the floor. Us girls are like we need every single minute scheduled out. And everyone has to have a theme dress for each night.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'd be like so what are you guys going to do tonight? And he's like I got no idea. I'm like okay. You're like okay, sounds good. I'm like I would spiral viral.
Speaker 2:But I love that for you.
Speaker 1:I love the go with the flow go out, have fun, live your best life. I'll see you on Monday when you get home yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:Um so, speaking of you, went on your bachelorette party to Vegas. How do you guys feel about strip clubs?
Speaker 1:I, I like them. I actually joked like he should have.
Speaker 2:She's like when you're there.
Speaker 1:Obviously that's what I said. They're so fun, little women empowerment, you know? No, I joked, he definitely should have gone to one. Okay, so you didn't go in Vegas, you didn't do the whole no we just really were drinking and gambling to where.
Speaker 3:next thing, you know, we looked at the clock and it was whatever time we're like oh okay.
Speaker 2:You're like oh, it's bedtime. You said it's 3 am.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was very heavily gamble focused.
Speaker 2:How do you feel about if she went to a strip club, a male strip club?
Speaker 3:I wouldn't care. No, yeah, no, I don't know. No judgment towards it.
Speaker 1:Me and my best friend planned our other besties bachelorette party in idaho on in like cordon lane, so we had like lake house oh random spot but very very beautiful. Yeah, that sounds fun and we did get a male stripper to come to the house and we picked out this guy and the guy that showed up was not him at all the guy we picked out was like tall, buff, handsome.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the guy that showed up was like short, skinny, bald and we were like, oh my gosh, but it was so fun, so funny. I'm sure you guys just died the memories. We still joke about it. Oh, I bet. So you're like we didn't do that for mine, but absolutely, catfish stripper. Yeah, they're out're out there, you guys.
Speaker 2:They are out there. They're out there okay, especially when you go to a random spot. I know, I know they're like I'm taking pictures from the internet. They're like that's not them. Yeah, that's like. Have you guys seen the Proposal with-.
Speaker 3:Yes, and she was like what is going on.
Speaker 2:I'm like I live for it, though, but it's so fun. Um. So, with planning your wedding, um, do you guys have anything that you either I hate the word regret, because I feel like I don't regret anything, but like maybe wish you would have done on your wedding day or do you feel like everything was perfect to what you guys would have wanted?
Speaker 1:I wouldn't say there's anything in particular that we would have done on the wedding day specifically, I think there are a few people we didn't invite that I regret, and we should have invited, and I would say that that is probably my bigger regret. Other than that, I feel like the day itself went really smooth, like it was seamless, um, but yeah, I would say just just not inviting more people that you wish you would have invited?
Speaker 2:yeah, okay, yeah, do you have? So if you feel like your day went perfect and seamless, what advice would you give to couples like what did you stick to that, you feel like, during the planning process that got you to that day? That was, as you just said, perfect. Nothing went wrong. We loved it.
Speaker 1:I would say honestly just you know you have this plan and you want things to go exactly how it's supposed to and stuff. But on the actual day I tried to really soak up every moment. So even if something did go wrong or wasn't exactly how I thought it was going to be, I kind of just wanted to roll with the punches and know like the most important thing is I'm walking down the aisle and I get to marry Luke and that was it. So we didn't stay apart the night before. We slept in the same bed, like in the same room.
Speaker 2:I was actually going to ask you guys that, oh yeah, that's perfect, and I, I didn't want to, I didn't want to stay apart.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we left each other that morning, but that morning when I woke up, I was really anxious not to marry him. But I just think it's a big day, it's a big day you take all this time to plan and then it's finally here and you know you do want it to go great for sure. Um, I started doing squats and like lunges in the hotel room. I was like I'm done.
Speaker 2:She's like you have sage and shit. You're like, I'm like looking around.
Speaker 1:He's like what are you doing? I'm like I just gotta, like you know, calm myself down, um, so I would say that honestly did help, yeah, and then just kind of being laid back and going with it and knowing that at the end of it, like I get to marry my best friend, that's it. If stuff goes wrong, whatever, what else is going to happen, it'll all work out how it's supposed to. Yeah, I totally agree.
Speaker 2:I feel like that's why a lot of people don't not don't have good wedding days, but they have so high expectations that it like ruins the day. If something goes wrong, it's the end of the world. And exactly, you worded it perfectly Like you get to walk down the aisle, so like you get to marry your best friend and that's really all that matters. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's the whole reason you're there so did you feel nervous?
Speaker 3:No, nervous, no, but yeah to your point. I mean you kept me calm by just being like you know, whatever happens, happens. You know it's like we can't be stressed out at things we can't control. So you know that's where it was. You know I liked it. It was enjoyable for that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can do so much stuff to have the perfect day day and then the weather could be bad or like something can rip or like my husband forgot his wedding shoes. Thankfully they know they noticed quickly and it was close and I was like forgot your shoes what do you mean?
Speaker 2:that's a real story, that's, that's literally, yeah, my wedding day, our photographer got there and the second photographer was like, hey, I'm gonna go split off to the groom suite and start taking, you know, detail photos. And then she came back like three minutes later and we're like, oh, is something wrong. She's like um, I don't want to worry you, but he forgot his shoes. I'm like sounds like John, his brother and his two brothers hopped in their cars, zoomed to our apartment and grabbed them and they had plenty of time. But I was like, oh, okay, but things like that you don't plan. You think, oh, I have this, I have this, I have my veil, I have my dress, I have my shoes, and then it's so much commotion at once that you could forget stuff like that.
Speaker 1:I will say that I loved my makeup and hair people. They were fabulous. But when we were leaving I was like, oh, you know, we have to go to the Willow and then we'll do final touches there. And they were like we don't know that or we have to go somewhere else, and I was like, oh, shoot, what? So I did get a little nervous in that. But yeah, the company amazing the owner actually reached out, sent somebody. She was there before we arrived at the willow and so.
Speaker 3:So it ended up, I mean rectified it perfectly.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I would say that was the only thing, cause I was like you know, I'm a sweaty girl, so I was like we live in Arizona, it's hot out here, yeah, and you know, just like the nerves.
Speaker 3:I was like oh yeah, and you're sweating.
Speaker 2:Your girl is going to need some final touches.
Speaker 1:I final touches. So powder girl, yeah, come on. So it worked out. But yeah, that was the only thing that I was a little nervous about, but yep, yeah, easy, I love that.
Speaker 2:Okay. So my last question to kind of wrap up obviously, with marriage comes kids. Usually, yeah, you guys waited a few years after getting married to have your first kid. Did you ever feel pressure from family friends to have a kid right away, or especially already knowing each other for so long? And then it's like, okay, you've already been together for so long, where's the kids? How did you feel with that, or how did your situation look like?
Speaker 3:Yeah, I mean we've always taken a very slow approach to all things like the wedding engagement, Slow and steady wins the race we just like to do you know we like to beat to our own drum kind of thing.
Speaker 3:So you know it's funny, all her friends are all married, all have kids and everything. So we definitely felt a little pressure just because of that. But yeah, we've always had kind of our plan and what we wanted to do, we doing this. So we knew, you know, bringing a kid into the world is a huge commitment and literally, yeah, we just weren't, we weren't ready for it.
Speaker 2:You got to take care of them. So, yeah, so we just took, you know, a very calculated approach and did it when we felt we were really ready and, yeah, I think that's the best way to go about it is just listening to your timeline and what's going to work best for you as a couple and prioritizing what you think is, of course, you know I mean we'd be lying if we said we didn't feel pressure just because that's what everyone you know, you get engaged.
Speaker 3:Everyone's like when's the wedding? You get married, and it's like when's the kids? Then you have kids. When's the second kid? You know the questions. It's always never end.
Speaker 2:It's like all you guys is want, want, want how much can we get? What else more do you?
Speaker 1:want Take it easy. I always told him I wanted to wait until I was 30. I don't know why, it wasn't any particular reason, but I just felt like at 30, we have lived to our 20s and had fun, and then we'll try to have a kid. And yeah, that's when we were like all right, Two years married. We were like let's try it out, let's see what we can do.
Speaker 2:I'm in the same mindset too, me and my husband. We were like oh we'll extravaganza for a honeymoon in September.
Speaker 1:Obviously don't want to be pregnant during that because I'm trying to drink wine on the beach of Italy. You got to enjoy it, girl.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to enjoy myself and we're always like and then we were like we really want a house. So we're like, let's push it back a year. And then I'm like, let's. I'm like the same, I'm like I want to wait till I'm like 30. I feel like we'll have it together. And then, if maybe we don't have it together by then we've tried as much as we could to like you know, because I feel like there's always no perfect year, even if we don't get a house, I'm like you know what? Let's just do it and just not wait any longer, because I want to get soon, yeah, yeah you know, gotta wait a little bit and honestly it's the best.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, how's motherhood been and like anything that you feel like you didn't expect that you've gone through, or how has it been?
Speaker 1:you know. So, um, I ended up having a c-section and I knew I was going to have one going into it. But I will say, harder than I thought, a little more humbling than I thought you know, I felt like I was going to be like oh easy, breezy, let me take this on, no problem. Uh-huh, and it was.
Speaker 1:It was just different, like it was just different than I thought, but truly I feel like, just with our personalities, it's go with the flow. We're fairly laid back. Um, it's been really good. I mean, obviously there are hard days, yeah, but overall it's been amazing. You can probably hear him, I'm not saying he's back there, he's back there, but it's truly been the most magical time of.
Speaker 2:I feel like both of our lives. You feel the same, or how's it been?
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, I mean of course, physically it's a little different for me, unfortunately, that's when we have to carry the kids.
Speaker 2:It's a little different.
Speaker 3:Mentality-wise it's completely little different, yeah, but I mean mentality wise completely changed me as a man and just what I stand for and everything.
Speaker 2:It's been an amazing, amazing journey so far, for sure yeah, I love you guys whole full circle, literally from 14 to now, and you have a baby. I know, does that feel like weird to think about sometimes, that you've known each other for so long and like now you're at this point, not in a bad way, but it's like oh my gosh, like we've literally been through it all through it all and and it's it's been really cool to see, like I said, ourselves in different stages and of your lives.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and this just being the best one, I feel really lucky. I get to stay home every day with him and so I've transitioned to a stay-at-home mom and, yeah, it's the best title and job that I feel like I could have ever asked for, and so, getting to spend that quality time with him, I feel really lucky that Luke, as a man is, you know, allowed me to do that, but then also, like we've our partnership and like the way we work has been able to, we are both thriving and it's just and having the best life.
Speaker 2:It truly is. I love your guys' love story so much. I think it's so good to see someone from the beginning to where you are now. And just I think a lot of times relationships don't work out because they don't want to accept that people change and that you're not going to be the same person forever. And you know life can throw something at you that you don't expect and change you forever, or you know you never know, and so I think you guys are a testament to you, know you grow, you change together and that's what makes marriage work.
Speaker 1:And we always joke, we always say a little communication goes a long way, Just communicate.
Speaker 3:Just communicate, please.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's our biggest thing, Cause I it wasn't our plan for me to stay home. I ended up leaving my job when I was pregnant. It just wasn't a good situation a little toxic and so I left and we had a good conversation and pivoted and said all right, we're going to do this.
Speaker 2:And that is a healthy, happy relationship everyone. Well, thank you guys so much for coming on. I know our viewers and listeners are going to really appreciate all your advice and going through from where you are to where you are now with a baby.
Speaker 1:Thank you for having us. Thank you so?
Speaker 2:much for coming on, so we'll thank you guys so much for listening into this week's episode. Be sure to comment, like and subscribe, and we'll see you guys next week. Bye.