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016 - The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Do's and Don'ts
Grace and Kelsey dive into the essential dos and don'ts of wedding etiquette, covering everything from guest behavior to wedding planning decisions.
• Avoiding excessive alcohol consumption on your wedding day to ensure you remember your special event
• Why wearing sunglasses during the ceremony is tacky and ruins emotional photography moments
• The importance of meeting catering headcounts and serving adequate food at weddings
• Understanding dress code etiquette, including the traditional ban on white and potentially red attire
• Major holidays as wedding dates and considerations for guests' convenience
• Why "unplugged ceremonies" are becoming more common and the importance of respecting photographers
• RSVP etiquette and why no-shows create significant problems for couples
• The importance of following wedding registries rather than going rogue with gifts
• Why making major personal announcements at someone else's wedding is inappropriate
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Hey queens, welcome back to another episode of the Wedding Hive podcast. It's your co-host, grace and Kelsey, and today we are talking about a bit of a hot topic. We are talking about wedding no-no's.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:All the things that you want to do that you probably shouldn't do, yeah.
Speaker 1:Things to avoid, whether you are a guest or the bride and groom or a bridal party member. Yes, true, or a parent, yeah, or a bridal party member.
Speaker 2:Yes, true or?
Speaker 1:a parent.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or a vendor, or a vendor.
Speaker 1:The list really goes on and on, if you are showing up at this wedding.
Speaker 2:Don't do it.
Speaker 1:We're going to go in on all of you and what you should not be doing at weddings. Have proper etiquette and things like that. So do you want to start us off for your first wedding now?
Speaker 2:Yes, okay, yes, so mine is getting too tipsy on your wedding day. I feel like you drank a lot, though, on your wedding day.
Speaker 1:Okay. So this is how I went about it. I always said I'm not spending $30,000 on a wedding and I'm not going to remember it, you know. So me and my husband both kind of made a pact before we start, you know, before the wedding came, and said let's enjoy ourselves but not get too drunk. So I would say I was a really good tipsy. And then once I got to our after party, then I got drunk. So I think that's, I think that's a happy medium, at least that's for me. I mean, I've heard some people can't even drink cause they're so nervous or just like have the stomach like jitters and stuff. So I mean I kept thinking, oh, I'm going to drink, you know, during the whole thing, but you really are super busy during the day. Like, I think I had one drink while getting ready and then, until the reception started, I maybe had one white claw.
Speaker 2:How much water did you drink? Probably none.
Speaker 1:I don't think I drank any water. Sounds about right. Yeah so drink water on your wedding day because you want to stay hydrated. You don't want to get sick, especially if it's a little bit warmer, so do not do that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree more than everybody Don't get too drunk. Don't get too drunk. I have had a bride went into bridal suite to get her ready to walk and she was passed out and we had to get like liquid iv, had to stall the wedding. You actually had to call someone to bring an iv.
Speaker 1:like it was a liquid iv but I'm saying that's probably what you needed if I had a banana bag I would have absolutely stuck her like you.
Speaker 2:You know what A little medical procedure real quick before we walk down the aisle, so getting too tipsy, and it's just awkward.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we've been to weddings and I've seen people and it's kind of awkward.
Speaker 2:If it happens later in the night, after all the things, or after party let it be.
Speaker 1:Drink during your reception time. Don't be drunk when you're taking your photos. I don't know about you, but when I see myself pictures of pictures of me when I'm drunk, I got crazy eyes. I don't have I it's. It's like the lights are on nobody's home. I don't see anything.
Speaker 2:So the eyes are glazed over. I swear my eyes are open, but they're not.
Speaker 1:They're not and I feel like I have like bloodshot eyes. I just don't smile properly. So I just don't think it's the best idea, correct? I agree until the reception. All right, which one do you have? Okay, this one, okay, do not wear this is. I don't think I've ever seen a bride do this, or the bridesmaids, but guyss dads do not wear sunglasses during the ceremony. Yep, please, I've seen it and I'm sorry. It's insanely tacky.
Speaker 2:I agree, even if they're your nice Ray-Bans.
Speaker 1:I don't care if they're a $500 pair of glasses. These are your wedding photos. Why, like you want to see the emotion in your face. You want to see the tears. Why are you wearing sunglasses? I don't care if it's oh, we have matching ones. Take that. You wear them during pictures After I'm down for a matching moment. You know a lot of bridal parties do the matching sunglasses. It's cute. After For your grand entrance to the reception.
Speaker 2:It's cute After For your grand entrance.
Speaker 1:Yeah, for the grand entrance there's a time and place, that's an appropriate time yes, but I agree no sunglasses during ceremony.
Speaker 2:I don't care if the sun is burning your eyes. I don't care.
Speaker 1:I don't care if you're sweating and your eyes are burnt like you're not wearing sunglasses.
Speaker 2:No, and if you do have the sun in your eyes and you shed a little tear, it looks good for photos because it looks like you're emotional and the girls love to see that. Yes, the soft side. Yes, all right. Not serving enough food?
Speaker 1:Ooh yeah, vibe, kill yeah Definitely.
Speaker 2:Keep those numbers right with your vendors and make sure your RSVP is what is actually showing up. You'd rather RSVP for too much and not have enough people come to have a little extra food versus mess with that RSVP. Say there's 100 and 125 show up and now there's no food.
Speaker 1:I know that would be terrible. Yeah, especially like cocktail hour, try to have like a good assortment or just, you know, a little bit of everything so everyone can eat something. You know, because it's cocktail hour, that's when your guests are going to start drinking and then it's. You know, I don't know about you guys, but I started drinking and I want like In-N-Out burger. I want food. So I would love, just yeah, I would definitely like, said too, it will make sure guest count is, you know, properly given to catering so you have enough food for everyone. Yep, so, um, okay, I saw this and I actually texted you about this. It's not really I don't know. I don't think it's a no, because I didn't know this was a thing, but wearing red to a wedding because it means you've slept with the groom.
Speaker 2:I do remember this text.
Speaker 1:I didn't know that was a thing until someone posted I think it was probably a TikToker Instagram and she was trying on different colors and then she's like wait, I think someone said that means you slept with the groom, so is that a known thing?
Speaker 2:So I've had couples not want their guests to wear red to their wedding. There was actually one couple who had a very strict black tie wedding and everybody was supposed to wear black and some chick showed up in a red dress which, if you think about everybody sitting in the seat during ceremony, everything's black.
Speaker 2:And then there's this blob of red dress and we had to ask her to leave Like she was asked. It ruins the photos. It ruined the photos Looking at bride, looking at groom, looking at her. I don't think she slept with the groom You're like.
Speaker 1:Well, I was trying to think did that actually happen? Or?
Speaker 2:like yeah, there's no way this woman slept with the groom, I mean, unless I don't know.
Speaker 1:Maybe she did it to be petty and it's like I've.
Speaker 2:I've heard so when you texted me that that was the first time I've heard red represents sleeping with the groom, I haven't heard that. I have heard that, like red is a tacky color to wear, it represents more like anger, mad, mad, grumpy, whatever, like more negative emotions versus positive emotions. Okay, but this spring I saw a lot of like floral dresses with like pretty red roses on it, but it wasn't an all red dress, it was like an assortment of colors.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I like that.
Speaker 2:Don't wear white, don't wear red.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:If you wear black to the wedding, make sure it's on the website, because black is so stylish and in, but our grandparents think black represents funerals. Oh true, I didn't think about that. It's hard in 2025. Yep, so check the wedding website to know what to wear. All right, I'm next. Yes, all right. So, yes, yes, this is. I know these are our list of no's, but what are your thoughts on your wedding date falling on a major holiday?
Speaker 1:I don't like it personally. I don't think you should have. I mean, if it's like a small holiday, that's like president's day, yeah, like something. Sorry, presidents, we love you. But if it's like a small holiday, that's like president's day, yeah, sorry, presidents, we love you. But, um, if it's something like that, but I let the Christmas weddings, like time and just I don't know, I think financially it's a lot on people and traveling fees always go up. You know plane tickets.
Speaker 2:So I just in the traffic, I would say no, you sound like you love getting out of the house, I know.
Speaker 1:I said oh, we just talked about this before we started. I don't like driving. I don't know why. I think because for so long I lived 40 minutes from my house to my job for a few years and I think it just. I just don't like traveling. I'm kind of nervous for my honeymoon because we have a 10-hour flight, so that's going to be a little rough, that'll be fun.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, so Major holidays. I don't know why somebody would want to get married on a major holiday being Christmas, new Year's, valentine's Day, 4th of July, like those things. We talked about it last week a little bit and the fun that comes with holidays or weddings around major holidays, to be able to spend more time with family. But it has to make sense. I think we did the Daily Buzz on that.
Speaker 1:Yes, we did. That's a little more in-depth on that one. So if you guys want to listen to that one, More thought process into weddings on major holidays.
Speaker 2:Yes, exactly.
Speaker 1:So this one's an obvious and you already kind of touched on it. But do not wear white to a wedding. Oh, that one was already on there. It is on here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Don't wear white to a wedding, unless it wasn't completely obvious as to why you shouldn't be wearing white, because that is for the bride. Yeah, don't do that. Yeah, I, I've seen and also I'm sorry, don't. Don't try to play with me and wear the nudes, the light creams. It's fucking white. Don't wear that. Yeah, that's nothing close to white. Just don't do do it. Sorry, I'm very passionate about that.
Speaker 2:I can tell I'm trying Don't wear white or I'm going to come for you. I'm trying to match your vibe and it's not happening.
Speaker 1:I just think it's obviously just being a bride already. I couldn't imagine, you know, at my own wedding, someone showing up and wearing white. I'd be like what.
Speaker 2:Why would you do?
Speaker 1:that.
Speaker 2:Yeah right, why would you do that? I don't know, I don't know um did you see? I just saw it on tiktok. I think it's like on the mix of going viral. Okay, the bride said not to wear white and it's like a video somebody's sitting at the ceremony and they're like pan panning the the camera around and some chick showed up in like a red, white and blue American flag dress. What?
Speaker 1:It is so tacky. Okay, I'm going to have to look that up now when we're done with this. So like.
Speaker 2:we don't want to wear red, we don't want to wear white.
Speaker 1:Please don't wear US green colors. God bless.
Speaker 2:America, we love America, but why are we wearing?
Speaker 1:an American flag dress, unless, like we just talked about, the major holiday weddings. If it was a 4th of July wedding, then I'm down for that.
Speaker 2:But still, grace, it's awful.
Speaker 1:I know I didn't say it was cute, I'm just saying she's literally wearing an American flag dress and I was like, oh, that's so cringe. That is cringe. I would never wear that ever.
Speaker 2:What if somebody showed up to your beautiful wedding? I would tell them to leave In a flag In a flag.
Speaker 1:I would tell them to leave. I would find my coordinator and be like they're cabooted, like you got to get out of here.
Speaker 2:Deuces, is it my turn? Yes, okay, this one Bringing children when they aren't invited. I don't know why anybody would do that. I know, like you, would have a conversation.
Speaker 1:I would think so. Yeah, I would hope so. Also, I think, in my opinion too, don't overstep. If you are invited to a wedding and they say no kids, do not ask the bride and groom, you know, outside of that, Can I bring my kids? In my opinion, either don't RSVP to come if you really cannot, you know, find a sitter or what have you, but it's not your wedding. And if they don't want kids there, don't make them. Then it's just like awkward too, and then you have to have that conversation of you know no, we set an invite, you know no kids, so just don't ask. In my opinion, I wouldn't do that.
Speaker 2:I'm with you. I don't know why anybody would bring their kids without notice. That's weird. Or just like showing up with the kids, yeah.
Speaker 1:Like not RSVPing or just like showing up with their kids. I would think what the heck?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So don't do that, Okay. Next one and this has become so big too is a lot of people doing unplugged ceremonies. So if people have signs like that or also, I think, even if you don't have a sign stating unplugged ceremony or make an announcement, just taking photos during the ceremony, I get it because you're there, you want to enjoy the moment. But I've seen now being on social media for a wedding venue just seeing all the photos that we get back and so many ceremony photos. I see pictures ruined that are such great shots because I see someone with their phone and it just ruins the whole picture.
Speaker 2:If I'm friends with you on Facebook and you post pictures from somebody's wedding sitting in the ceremony, I like automatically don't want to be your friend. Yeah, because I'm like you did not get it. Yeah, you didn't get the memo. Don't take pictures during the ceremony. It's not your place and in time, that's what the photographer's for you really are messing up pictures.
Speaker 1:Yep, it sucks, and people pay a lot of money for their photographers, so let them do their job.
Speaker 2:I don't know. The last wedding I attended ran was involved with that didn't either have an unplugged sign or the officiant said this is an unplugged ceremony Yep.
Speaker 1:Yeah, if you don't do a sign, don't think that you can't do that. I did that. I didn't have a sign that said unplugged, but our officiant in the beginning before the ceremony started, you know, hey, don't have phones out. You know, that's what the photographer is for.
Speaker 2:So Next one showing up late.
Speaker 1:Being late is like my biggest pet peeve, so, and I actually had some people late to my wedding or missed the entire ceremony because they were late. It's just just don't do that, just don't.
Speaker 2:I agree, I am gonna give. I mean, there's stuff happens so when we attend weddings with my husband's side of the family, they're culturally a little different than the weddings that I do and typically the ceremony is only held for immediate, immediate individuals, or like invite only Like. Even though the invitation says ceremony, they're done like at a church or like somewhere else, wherever it might be. So I've only attended like one or two ceremonies because we were told to show up at the reception like between these times.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean. Well, that's completely different. I'm saying if you're invited to the wedding and everyone's invited to the ceremony, you shouldn't be late, especially if you're sending out these invites a year in advance or say the date's a year in advance and then the actual invitation six months before, just leave early, just leave early. I would rather be 15 minutes early than 15 minutes late. I mean, it's just, it's rude. Honestly, in my opinion and I think you know, people take the time to pick out who they want to be at your wedding and it's just, it's the decent thing to at least be on time.
Speaker 2:If people show up late and ceremony has started, the processional has started. We will not let people in the doors in the area they are pretty much. You can go hang out in the parking lot and I'll let you know when you're welcome in, because you're not messing up pictures, you're not drawing attention. You should have been late.
Speaker 1:Exactly, I agree. Okay, I like this one Is posting photos before the bride and groom do. Do you think? I mean, obviously this is something that's said as like a no to do? Do you think that's okay, or what do you think on that?
Speaker 2:I agree. Even I'm noticing a shift in social media. There are some people who are super loud, keep all their information out there, sharing every minute detail of their lives, and then there's other people who are starting to be a little more private with social media. Social media is something from the last 15 to 20, 25 years per se, and it's ever-changing. I think that even like pregnancy announcements, baby, like baby's been, people are starting to kind of hold off on when they're ready to share it. I don't think somebody else should spill the beans.
Speaker 1:Yep, I agree, I know especially, I think it depends, I don't know, like on the night of my wedding, I didn't care if people posted like on Instagram stories and stuff. You know, I I kind of liked it. I was like, oh, it's fun. And then the next day, you know, we're on our phones and we have all these tags and we're looking at pictures and stuff. So I think in that sense it's fine.
Speaker 2:But um, yeah, I think it needs to be clearly shared by bride and groom what they're what they're asking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's like I don't, I don't, you don't watch her. But one of my like favorite influencers just got married and she sent out invites and you know she's I mean, I would say she's famous, she has millions of followers on Instagram. You know YouTube, and everyone knew she was getting married and she was like no one can post and also she got a bride magazine exclusive. So she said no one can post until they post. And then everyone can post because if they posted early then they would have lost the exclusive. And you know, she's like I want all the vendors to get highlighted and stuff like that. So it's definitely I know in celebrity influencers in there they're all like hush, hush for the whole weekend until they've had time to post, which makes sense.
Speaker 1:So, and even if you aren't famous, yes, even if you're not, if you don't want people to post, you have our permission to tell people not to post until you are ready to post. Exactly, you don't have to be a celebrity, you promise.
Speaker 2:Correct? Um so, getting in photographer's way or asking to take photos? Your photo taken by the wedding photographer? Did this one come from that horrible viral video of the random lady that got up during the ceremony or after the ceremony? Do you know what I'm talking about? No, so, bride and groom, they're getting ready to do their recessional. I now pronounce you, husband and wife. You may kiss the bride. Bride and groom kiss. They start walking down the aisle and this random lady like gets up, jumps in front of them and like storms out of the ceremony. What? Because she was like in a rush to get wherever she was going.
Speaker 1:Girl, you can wait two more minutes, you're not going to die.
Speaker 2:Ruined the photos Like bride and groom like freeze and they kind of look at each other and they kind of start walking and then the lady like kind of stepped on her dress because she like shoved them out of the way Unless she needed to go vomit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, unless she needed to throw up Like she had a medical emergency Girl, what yeah? Oh my gosh, I would be so pissed. Yeah, and it makes me wonder who is this guest? Is it a family member?
Speaker 2:You know what I mean. She was in like the first, probably the second row. Okay, she was like up front, she wasn't in the back.
Speaker 1:Another video I'm going to have to look up and see. Don't do that. For the love of all God. Please do not do that ever, unless like we said jokingly unless you're violently sick and you have to leave.
Speaker 2:In that moment. Yes, and you have to leave. In that moment there is a medical emergency. It's about to come out one end or the other.
Speaker 1:Besides that, even then, maybe I would literally run to the other side.
Speaker 2:Correct don't go down the middle.
Speaker 1:Yeah, maybe not down the middle of the aisle to ruin your wedding photos that you're supposed to have.
Speaker 2:So getting in photographer's way, I've gotten in the photographer's way. Yeah, I've walked through a first look, unintentionally. I felt awful.
Speaker 1:It happened.
Speaker 2:So, hopefully, being cognizant of the space and knowing where your photographer is and keeping an eye for that photographer I know in my role probably in your role you always kind of have an eye of where they're at. The last thing I want is a photo, bomb a picture, or end up being in the picture just keeping an eye on the surroundings as a wedding guest, kind of keep an eye on the surroundings. The last thing you want is a candid photo of you making a funny face and then it makes the wedding album. Yep, and it's there forever.
Speaker 2:And then what about asking to take your photo? I don't even know who would do that I don't see.
Speaker 1:I've seen people and I know people have done that. I know you are not paying for the photographer. Do not ask for a photo. I mean I just I don't get why you would do that, because I just feel like that's so weird to ask. I get it because you know everyone's dressed up and you look nice and you know you want a nice picture, maybe you and your husband, whatever, or whoever you're with. But I just wouldn't ever and half the time I mean half the time like photographers grab photos like that anyway, correct, you know. Or you on the dance floor and like you'll be in photos, but don't go out of your way to ask photographer. They're busy, they're trying to make sure they get their shots, they're trying to go eat their dinner because they're hungry. Like leave them alone it's weird.
Speaker 2:It's weird, it's cringe yeah, let's not do that, yeah all right, what's your next one?
Speaker 1:okay, this one's my biggest pet peeve ever, I guess in weddings, do not RSVP and then not show up, unless you're violently ill, unless yes, just like we've talked about, of course all this stuff or there was a death in the family. Yes, there's, of course, scenarios where it's completely understandable, but if you're just, you know, end up doing something else or not wanting to come anymore or whatever, like, just don't, it's. You know you're already paying for their plate, cause at this point it's always. I can tell you how to few people cancel. It's always the week before, two days before, and you've already paid for everything, and you know, know, it's frustrating, obviously, but yeah, just don't do it. It just adds more stress to it. Just, you know I was annoyed and so if you can avoid that at all cost, please.
Speaker 2:So in January we were invited to a wedding. We RSVP'd in like November and it was the wedding was on a Saturday. So we thought Friday afternoon it's like three, 30 and I text my sister-in-law and I said, hey, what are you wearing tomorrow? And she was like I don't know why. And I said, well, I need to figure out what I'm wearing to the wedding. I know they're a little more conservative, they don't have a website and so, like her and I are going back and forth. So I sent her like three dresses and she goes, that one looks good, like we picked one. And she said what time are you going to be there? And I was like and I said I think our plan is like leave around five. And she goes, it's 5.10. And I said what do you mean? And she goes the wedding's today. And I said what do you mean, the wedding's today? We were like laying in bed binge watching TV, no thought in mind. We flew out of bed, tamar showered, I threw my hair up.
Speaker 2:It was we made it work and we were out the door by like 5 45 I think I had to like door dash the kids dinner, because you're like we gotta go. I'm like I'm so sorry you're not eating.
Speaker 2:I'm not making dinner I have to get to a wedding. I have stuff to do and so the wedding. Like again. We were late, but we were invited to the reception portion, not the ceremony portion, so nobody knew we just casually showed up. You're like we've been ready for hours. But my point in telling that story is it would have been so easy to be like oh forgot whatever, and stayed home.
Speaker 2:But we committed to going. They paid for our plates. Yep See, make it work Again. If you're sick, and even decide how sick you are, I don't want to start if you're like oh, I'm, I'm the same first trimester. I don't feel good like, can you pull it together? It's like, oh, are you contagious and going to give everybody influenza?
Speaker 1:yeah, like you have to decide she's like are you guys gonna give like everyone? Is everybody end up with ebola? Like?
Speaker 2:let's not do that. We don't want that. If you're hungover, that's on you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's suck it up, suck it up if you're like, oh, my throat's a little itchy, like okay, like down an emergency, and then just tough it out yes, you will survive.
Speaker 2:I'm not saying I want you to get everybody sick, but just be smart.
Speaker 1:But do, yeah, be like, use your discretion, like how badly are you sick, whatever, and just make it if you can. If you have a fever, I said if it's 101, just like suck it up.
Speaker 2:If it's over a hundred, if it go through my kid's school rules if they can or can't attend school.
Speaker 1:You're like, okay, what is? Yeah, yes, there you go. Just use Kelsey's kids' school rules and that'll be if you're going out, if they're allowed to go to school.
Speaker 2:You're allowed to go to the wedding Period. If you meet the criteria and you need to stay home, then please stay home. Exactly Okay. Is it me Good Ignoring the registry? Ooh, what are your thoughts?
Speaker 1:on ignoring the registry Annoying Really, I mean I guess it depends If there's a registry and say you were like no, I want to buy a custom photo album Cutting board.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know why I couldn't think no, you're good If you want to buy like something cute and custom.
Speaker 1:I'm down for that. I think that's very sweet, it's sentimental. But if you're just buying random shit when there's a specific registry, I don't get the point of that. I think I mean, I honestly, personally I love registries. I'm like perfect, amazon, buy, buy, it'll be here tomorrow, great.
Speaker 2:So I don't know why you'd go out of your way to like buy something that's not on it. I would rather just give somebody money?
Speaker 1:well, that's what I'm saying then. That's our whole discussion we've had before is if, if the registry said for me I said give me money please and thank you, yeah, and I would say, my one cousin bought me like a cute little scrapbook and stuff and we had like one other gift otherwise, cards and money there's.
Speaker 2:Everyone listened there there's this bride and she somebody didn't order off her registry. She got this like white and blue vase and to this day I still get pictures because it doesn't match their house at all and like they keep randomly putting it in like random places. I would have taken it to goodwill, like well, the person who gave it to her was like, do you like the vase? And she was like, oh yeah, and she's like, I got it at TJ Maxx.
Speaker 1:Oh girl.
Speaker 2:Goodwill all the way, so it's like a whole thing. So, yes, buy off the registry, yeah.
Speaker 1:I think she should stick to it. Okay, the next one asking to bring a guest Okay the next one asking to bring a guest.
Speaker 2:I think either it is specific in the invitation of who the invite is going to or when you RSVP it's typically specific or online, like your name and then plus one their name. You know what I mean. I don't think you should bring randoms to weddings. It's always obvious Wedding professionals know when you found a Tinder date and brought them to the wedding. Yeah, can we talk about?
Speaker 1:that, or a random ex-girlfriend. Don't bring your like Tinder or Tinder. We both can't talk today. Don't bring a Tinder date. I just like wouldn't do that because I don't know. Can I tell you a horrible story? Yes, I want to hear, okay.
Speaker 2:So my husband had this coworker. This is like I'm not kidding, this happened. This happened in 23. Yeah, November of 23. So my husband has this coworker and they work alongside each other, but there's some separation. Anyway, this guy went through a horrible breakup.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And we'll call him John. Okay, so John is going through this horrible breakup. Well, one of my good friends we'll call her Jessica Mm-hmm, Jessica just went through a horrible divorce. So my husband has this bright idea let's get John and Jessica together and let's go on a double date. Okay, cool. So we go on a double date on Friday night. Friday night we go out, we bar hop, we go to dinner. We end up leaving John and Jessica. How their night ended, I don't know. That wasn't up to me.
Speaker 1:I said are you safe? That wasn't relayed to me.
Speaker 2:She's safe, all right, cool. We went home Saturday morning. I run a rehearsal. Sunday I have a wedding. I am working this wedding Sunday getting bride and groom handled. We go into cocktail hour and I take a double take because John is at the wedding with this ex-girlfriend and we make eye contact Damn.
Speaker 1:He said you know what he's like. I'm going to go back.
Speaker 2:No way. And this girl, I walk past him and he goes, he goes.
Speaker 1:Hey, I think I know you and I was like you're like yeah, I just spent the whole Friday night with you. What do you mean?
Speaker 2:and I think you might have hooked up with my friend, I don't know. So we go in, I go hi. I said, yeah, you, you look familiar and he goes. Oh, I'm John and we, he goes. I work with your husband, that's how I know. Like totally. He played it off as if he only recognized me through social media because he's seen my husband's stuff.
Speaker 1:What a douche.
Speaker 2:I'm not kidding. And so then he's like this is my girlfriend and introduces me to his girlfriend and I was like how do you know the couple? And she's like, oh, like went to elementary school together and we've been like friends.
Speaker 1:Do you have the photo evidence from Friday night?
Speaker 2:And I'm like, oh my gosh, that was two days ago I was like I need to walk away.
Speaker 1:No way.
Speaker 2:So that is that's so awkward to be like okay, yeah, so that happened. So going back to do you invite plus ones?
Speaker 1:I, I wouldn't don't ask to bring a get if it's our. If you're doing a wedding where you're allowing plus ones, that's different obviously. I guess, bring whoever you want, but don't bring a tinder date that you just met, like a day ago, or like your ex or your ex, when you've been having this like dramatic breakup.
Speaker 2:Yeah, everybody knows.
Speaker 1:But yeah, if it's you've got and in my opinion in this question is, if you were invited and it was just you don't text them and be like can I bring someone else?
Speaker 2:That's not how it works, yep.
Speaker 1:And that's all I'll say on that.
Speaker 2:Okay, taking attention away from bride and groom, example, a proposal or pregnancy announcement at a wedding. Don't do it, it's not your day. They spent so much money. They spent so much money on their day. Don't make it about you.
Speaker 1:Yep, see, that's the hill I'll die on yeah, that's, it's one I mean at the end of the day. Besides, obviously, like your birthday and whatever, your wedding night is the one night that's about you, and I've seen, you know, videos of the bridesmaid groomsman proposals. That is so cringe. And so the fact that, even if the bride and groom said yes, the fact that you even went out of your way to ask to do that at their wedding, is what's even crazier, you know, because at the end of the day that's just awkward, I'm sure, for anyone who's going through that I guess I would say sure, you know it, just just don't do it.
Speaker 2:I have seen, and if the bride and groom decide to do it, great, because I've seen there was a bride and her dad's birthday fell on the wedding day or around the wedding day, so she got him like a really cute small birthday cake. Oh, I've seen that and they sang happy birthday. That was cute, it was intentional. The bride made the decision. If you're not the bride and you're not the groom, it is not your decision to make any surprises. Yep, don't do it.
Speaker 1:So do you have any more? I have one more. Okay, okay, inviting someone to all your wedding events, but not the wedding.
Speaker 2:Why would somebody do that? That was a top one. I don't know why somebody would. I don't know. I don't know why. I'd have to get context.
Speaker 1:Can you imagine that Like the bridal shower or like the? Bachelorette parties engagement parties and then just not inviting them to the wedding well, they must have done something to really piss you off between all the parties and the actual wedding you're like you're invited to like all the those parties but just not the actual thing.
Speaker 1:So yeah, that's weird, I don't know, I'm sure there's people who do that out there 100 yeah, there has to be some small percentage of people. I'm sure there's people who do that out there 100% yeah, there has to be some small percentage of people who do that, I'm sure. Yeah, they're just like it's fine so.
Speaker 2:Don't do that All right. Well, there is the no-nos of weddings.
Speaker 1:Yes, you guys do not do any of this stuff?
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