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Politics and Marriage: A Recipe for Disaster?
We tackle the controversial question of whether couples with different political views should get married, exploring the challenges these fundamental differences create in long-term relationships.
• Different political views create challenges when tough conversations arise
• Political and religious differences are foundational elements that rarely change
• Having children complicates mixed-belief marriages even further
• Modern political divisions (post-2020) have made these differences more significant
• Couples in previous generations may have managed political differences differently
• Conversations about politics and religion should happen before marriage
• The "honeymoon phase" can blind couples to important compatibility issues
Make sure to have those difficult conversations about politics and religion before getting married—don't let the blinders of love stop you from addressing these crucial topics.
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Hey Queens, welcome back to another episode of Daily Buzz. Today we're probably talking about one of our most controversial topics that we've ever brought onto the podcast. So, kelsey, do you think couples who have different political views should get married? Should they? Yeah, do you think that that is like a detrimental I.
Speaker 2:I mean, go for it, get married. I don't know how you're gonna have tough conversations or manage the logistics every four years yeah, with very different political views. That's hard.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think it's. I'm not saying it can't work, but, like said, there's just like so much that goes into having different political views, just like in today's day and age, like how riled up each different party gets, and then to like bring that into a marriage when, like, the views are so different. I can't even imagine what's that like. And then when you have like kids and I don't know.
Speaker 2:Those are like those foundational pieces, like those fundamentals it goes, and I even think sometimes I get very cautious when people of different religions get married. That too, because those are those foundational pieces. And so when life hits the fan, or you have difficult conversations, or you're having to decide on a viewpoint and the two of you are not agreeing on those viewpoints, it can make things very difficult.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because those are just huge fundamental pieces in your life, I think, and just also where you stand religiously, politically, is really who you are as a person, and I feel like those are views too that you don't really change and like can change. Like you either, it's kind of black and white when it comes to those things. You know it's either think this or you think that. So to bring that into a marriage I just don't think it would work out very well.
Speaker 2:If you're a very open-minded individual and you're open to like, you navigate those conversations with grace and love and can see the other person's point of view. I can see it, but then at the end of the day your view is still your view.
Speaker 1:It's still going to be different and it's like I just don't know. I think, obviously, if you choose to get married and you still have those different political views or what have you, I hope you've discussed how that's going to look if things come up, because I think that's where it cannot end up going well is if you don't have a like before talk of getting married, like hey, if stuff comes up, how are we going to handle this together? Is because you know you don't want to end up divorced well, and look at the last five years.
Speaker 2:If we had this conversation 10 years ago, I don't think I would feel so strongly about it. 10 years ago, things were pretty calm in our country. Everything was. Everything was kind of like yeah, that what we had a we had a market crash in 09, and even then that was not that bad. I mean, we were both really young in 09. You weren't 18.
Speaker 1:God no, I was like fresh out the womb Okay oh my gosh, I was like what, I'm terrible at math. I was young, I was like definitely a kid.
Speaker 2:I turned 18 in 09. Okay, so it's not like I was buying. It didn't really affect you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So, looking at 09 to 2019, things weren't really that big of a deal. 2020 is where political views were like there were very specific. This is how I feel on these topics, or this is how we handle things, and I think things have just escalated. Yes, the country is doing okay, but I mean the conversations are very different.
Speaker 1:I just can't imagine going to go like vote and then it's just opposite. I just feel like the voting day would be the worst day of the year in that marriage if you were not on the same page at all.
Speaker 2:I knew a couple who one was very left, one was very right and they stayed. They were married until he passed of cancer in their older age or in his older age, and I unfortunately never was able to ask how those conversations went, but from the stories I have been told there was a little bit of tension.
Speaker 1:Oh, I bet.
Speaker 2:Around the political views. Yeah, but that was also. They were married in the early 60s probably late 50s, early 60s and marriage even then was To find different.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like back then, it could have worked. Quiet housewife.
Speaker 2:Quiet, housewife. He's the kid, oh yeah, he's, you know, the working husband, 100%. Now everybody's pretty vocal.
Speaker 1:Yep, everyone has their own opinions and everyone's vocal about them.
Speaker 2:So I, yeah, have those freaking conversations prior to marriage Political, religious because, like you said, once kids come into the mix, that's a big thing. Kids really are a thing. They're like, actually like human beings. They're human beings and you like again that religious side. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:I imagine now like raising kids and not having the same religious views, or how does that work If you guys have different? You know churches you go to. I don't know how that would even work.
Speaker 2:I've seen it and it's so messy and it's so confusing for kids. That's what I'm saying, super confusing for them.
Speaker 1:Like wait, am I supposed to do this? Or?
Speaker 2:am I supposed to do that? On Saturdays they go to one church and on Sundays they go to a different church. And oh no, it totally works. Well, you're building the foundation of that child's religious beliefs as a young child. How the heck are they supposed to figure that out? Yeah, because they're getting taught two different religious views and they're supposed to come up with their own. Yeah, I just it's messy, I don't think it works. So have those conversations now. Don't let the blinders of Love yes, the honeymoon phase, yes, the honeymoon phase Stop you from having those important conversations. Yep.