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Sex Before Marriage?
Grace and Kelsey debate the controversial topic of sex before marriage, sharing their personal experiences and how their views have evolved over time. They explore the balance between testing compatibility and keeping intimacy sacred.
• Grace advocates for "test driving" before marriage, believing intimacy is crucial for relationship compatibility
• Kelsey reflects on how her religious beliefs have shaped her current perspective that waiting has special value
• Discussion about how multiple sexual partners can potentially bring "baggage" into marriages
• Conversation about the unique bond of having only one lifetime sexual partner
• Advice for younger listeners about not using sex to win someone's affection
• Both hosts agree on the importance of making wise decisions about intimacy
• Emphasis that marriage should be based on character and heart, not bedroom compatibility
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Hey queens, welcome back to another episode of the daily buzz. We were talking about some controversial topics and I think this is a hot one. So, kelsey, what do you think about sex before?
Speaker 2:marriage. Oh my gosh Grace. Um well, we know you didn't wait, but well, yeah, thanks, thanks for that. Does anyone? I didn't either. So, um, I do. I do know people who do. I think, oh my gosh, you're putting me on the spot here.
Speaker 1:Well, I'll say I'll give my opinion, okay, so you can like debrief what you want to say. Um, I think a hundred percent, yes, like, and not even just like I'm gonna bring this into like a nice, non-sexual way like intimacy is a big part of relationship in my opinion. You know, there's looks, there's personality, there's intimacy is a big thing. So, like, I personally cannot imagine marrying someone when you haven't test drove. You know the car, the car because you know, and they always say, like, oh, you can learn, and like, teach them and da, da, da, which I think is valid and fair. But like, I just, yeah, I think intimacy is a big part, so I think you should test drive before you make the full long haul commitment so your definition of intimacy is sexual intimacy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean like there I think the other stuff like too. But like, obviously doing the other things isn't as far as going to do. You know the deed, the home, the home base, you know. So I think I would definitely Okay, um, what do?
Speaker 2:you think I would definitely Okay. What do you think, kelsey? Yeah, it's funny because it's like the. I did not wait. Obviously I had babes prior to marriage. As I have aged and gotten a little wiser, my religious beliefs tell me that you're supposed to wait until marriage, so I have to make sure I put that out there on the podcast. There's some morals. Her heart's been changed.
Speaker 1:There's some morals to it.
Speaker 2:Damn.
Speaker 2:Thanks, babe. No, we love all your babies. I think it is very difficult to wait before, like it's hard to wait until marriage. There's there's feelings, there's hormones, there's all of these pieces to it. Um, and my husband and I both have had lots of conversations about how cool it would have been if we were each other's only partner in life. Um, there's something very special about that. There's very I think there's something very intimate about that.
Speaker 2:Um, and sharing that bond together. Yes, like I, I, I kind of swing it on both sides of like you want to test drive the car, you want to make sure the car doesn't absolutely suck Right, but at the same time, like why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? Like there's something very special about having that one partner. I think that what I have found in not my job in the wedding industry but my previous careers that sometimes those previous partners have brought in a little more baggage into the marriage. If it's the numbers, if it's how you've found you like things that other people would do that you and your partner aren't comfortable with. I feel like when you have multiple sexual partners, it makes it a little more messy and a little less special. Again, I am not speaking from this like holy mountaintop, because we're not going to sit here and pretend like I'm a saint, but I'm just speaking from experience.
Speaker 2:and then conversations that I've had with people, the least, like the smaller amount of sexual partners you've had and then going into marriage seemed to be a lot healthier than you having 27 one night stands. And I'm serious Okay, I'm not talking from experience Like she's like so no dude like uh, but I know what you mean.
Speaker 1:It just brings more trouble. I feel like down the road sometimes Not always, but like you said and then it's just. I think it's special too.
Speaker 2:I don't think you should. I don't think male or female should just be out. I wish if I could talk to the younger generation. I would want to tell them like you are so special and you are so unique as you Like, don't put out left and right because you think that's going to win them. Like sex shouldn't be the reason. Like they should not be marrying you because of what you do in the bedroom. They should be marrying you for all, like your heart, your character, like who you are as a person. And sometimes I think that that can get really foggy because the bedroom life is so great and you think this is going to just be what it is forever and that's not how it is. Like so should you have sex before marriage? Like I again, I'm not going to sit here and pretend like I didn't Like go, do you? But just I think you should be really wise in those decisions. So sorry if my answer is a little boring a little prude, no, I think.
Speaker 1:Well, obviously, just like you said, like you were, you've like grown so much. So I mean, I think it's your views have changed on it and I think that's great. So so, all right, that's your daily buzz.