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Wedding Guest Dilemmas

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We tackle a listener's wedding dilemma about whether to invite a close friend's toxic on-and-off boyfriend to a small 40-person wedding. Our unanimous advice: don't invite him.

• Small, intimate weddings require careful guest selection
• Your wedding day is your day - invite only who you want there
• Don't invite people who might cause drama or problems
• Toxic relationships can lead to potential fights during your celebration
• No need to pay for meals and alcohol for someone who may ruin your day
• If your friend chooses not to come because their plus-one wasn't invited, that's their choice
• Surround yourself with people who truly love and support you
• Stand your ground on your guest list decisions


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Speaker 1:

Hey Queens, welcome back to another episode of the Daily Buzz. Today we had a listener send in a question and she said okay, 40 people wedding. Do I have to invite a close friend's on and off again? Toxic boyfriend, no, no, no, I would not do that at all.

Speaker 2:

I don't. I'm sorry you feel obligated to invite them. Yeah, especially with a, like a smaller, intimate wedding that you're having with a guest count where it is, if you had, you know, a 300 person guest count, it would be really awkward, um, but to say, you know, we're keeping this very, very intimate, very um, close knit, and this is the guest list and this is what it is. There you go, they don't need to come, and then if that friend chooses not to come, that's up to the friend not to come and you can't take it personally if they choose to not come because they are plus one wasn't invited.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, no, I agree, and we've talked about this like so many times that plus one wasn't invited. Yeah, no, I agree, and we've talked about this like so many times, that your wedding day is your day. And one invite who you want to actually be there. And two, we've talked about a lot do not invite people who are potentially going to cause a problem, which it sounds like, if they're on again, off again, toxic. I would just not entertain it. And also, too, you don't want them to start drama. What if they get into a fight on your wedding night? That's just the last thing you're going to want to deal with on your wedding day. So I would not feel guilty about not inviting them, especially with the guest count, like you said, so small. If it was a big wedding, then yes, then that would be kind of awkward, but if you're having a 40 person guest list, that's really small and not a bad way, that's if you're doing an intimate setting, then I would not do that.

Speaker 2:

And especially again with that number, you're going to be interacting with all of those people intentionally. And so you're going to be interacting with all of those people intentionally, and so you are going to be in the same vicinity of that individual for more than you would like to be. So, and even if they don't cause a scene, and you know like, like Grace said, cause issues there. If their overall like, character and vibe are going to negatively impact your day, there's no reason that they need to be there.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I would just be worried too if people start drinking and then I feel like sometimes it just it won't end well and that's-.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, why are you paying?

Speaker 1:

for their meal and yeah, ew, I wouldn't want to pay for them. Also, yeah, please just don't invite them, our listeners. Just don't invite them because they don't deserve their $40 plate that you're probably going to end up paying for and they don't deserve if you're providing alcohol. Yes, they don't deserve it. Why are you?

Speaker 2:

feeding them and giving them free buzz. No, babe, we don't, we don't, we're against it. Yeah, stand your ground and don't invite them. Yeah, and again, if this friend chooses not to come because their plus one was not invited, then now you have 39.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, people who want to 39 people who love you and actually care about you and want to be there.

Speaker 2:

Correct and want to celebrate you and come to be with you on your special day and not make it about them. Yep, and that's your daily buzz.