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Wedding Hive Podcast
033- Inside A Joyful, Intimate Wedding With Zero Regrets
We toast with champagne, laugh about TV teams, then get real about what makes a wedding feel intimate, present, and worth every choice. Logan shares how she trusted her gut, chose vendors who protected her energy, and found joy in the details that actually matter.
• ceremony as the most vivid memory
• how to stay calm right before the aisle
• defining intimacy with a 105 guest count
• planning becoming fun with the right planner
• presence over pressure and hitting cocktail hour
• first look vs first touch tradeoffs
• firing a vendor and trusting your gut
• budget flexes, chandeliers, and smart late night food
• handling viral criticism and body image honesty
• hair hiccups, calm makeup, and timeline wins
• sweetheart table benefits and real connection
• vendor selection by energy fit and respect
• practical advice for engaged couples
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Hey Queens, it's Kelsey and Greece back with the Wedding Hive Hive. Giving you the tea and all the plugs in the wedding world. Let's jump right in. Hey Queens, welcome to today's episode of the Wedding Hive podcast. Today we have a very, very special guest that we have waited months, literally months. Miss Logan. Yay, everybody.
SPEAKER_03:She has arrived. She is arrived. She's drinking her champagne. Yep, exactly. We had to start the day off. We had to start it off. No orange juice, just champagne.
SPEAKER_01:Yes. No mama.
SPEAKER_03:Straight to the champagne.
SPEAKER_02:Straight to the point.
SPEAKER_03:Yes. Yay. Well, welcome for and thank you for coming on. So we always like to start the episode with um either a yes or no or like a little icebreaker. So we talked before we started, we've bonded over TV shows together. Yeah. So would you rather watch Tell Me Lies or The Summer I Turn Pretty? The Summer I Turn Pretty, Really? Yes. Oh, I love Tell Me Lies. Team Brad Fisher. Oh. Conrad Team Connie Baby. Team Connie Baby. I did get her to watch you watched one season.
SPEAKER_01:Um, I watched like half of the first season. Okay, just getting there. Well, like I'm I'm trying, but what? It's really hard. Like hard? Yeah, I just finished. Okay.
SPEAKER_02:I was hooked on that shit since the moment it came to the show. She's like, I must binge.
SPEAKER_01:No, I wish I could binge it. Um, but like Secret Live of Mormon Wives, I had to binge that.
SPEAKER_03:They are occupying. Yes. Yes. They've been everyone's been dropping a lot of good stuff. We talked about Stranger Things is today. There was new selling Sun S. I mean, come on. There's a lot of news. Yeah, selling OC, I think. Yeah. I mean Mormon Wives. I know. What are we going to do? The TV world just eating it up right now. I can't keep up. I know, literally.
SPEAKER_01:It's not supposed to be this way.
SPEAKER_03:What?
SPEAKER_01:Um, the show.
SPEAKER_03:Oh.
SPEAKER_01:Or nobody wants this. Oh, I'm hearing about it. Kristen Bell.
SPEAKER_02:Kristen Bell. But we also have a new season of um what's it called? With Steven DeMarca or whatever his name is. Yeah, tell me lies. It's Tell Me Lives. Yeah, January. It's coming out. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So I have apparently that show.
SPEAKER_03:I told her she has to watch it. Before twisting, like it's the best show. It's so good. It's a great show. It's great.
SPEAKER_02:I don't know. It could change after this new season.
SPEAKER_03:I know. Right now, I'm in summer I turn pretty though. Okay. No, that's totally valid. And their last season just happened. So maybe when then it's a good thing. The movie's coming. The movie. There's a movie. A plug for the movie. Maybe that might be easier for you to just watch if you can't get it here.
SPEAKER_02:But you still have to watch it because they're gonna get married, I'm assuming. Oh yeah. So you have to watch. Yep. Okay for you. It's easy to just kill it. But if you're Team Jeremiah, then we're not friends anymore. Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, noted. Noted Jeremiah. If you like executed, get out of here. Delete my number.
SPEAKER_03:Please don't call me. We're like, it's this is almost as serious as Team Jacob or Team Edwards. That's how it's almost on that level. Actually, I think it is that level.
SPEAKER_01:Were you guys Team Edward or Team Jacob? I was Team Edward. I was Team Jacob.
SPEAKER_03:Really? I know I was. I like went back and forth. I mean I always like faltered each way. I think the first one it's like Edward and I think Edward loved her so much. And then it's like Jacob was a little bit toxic. He was the toxica. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I think that like I I dug Edward. See, because I can talk about this because I've seen Twilight. I know. Yes. She's activated. Read the books. But I loved like Edward Edward's obsession with Bella. Yes. But he isn't my type. No, no, no.
SPEAKER_02:If we're talking about type, he's not my type either. But he's good for Bella. Because Bella's very monetary.
SPEAKER_01:He would get sunburnt if we went to the beach. And I prefer my men to be like Yes.
SPEAKER_03:I need you tan and I need you loving the kids. I like a little bit of a kid. I need you to tan with a lot of kids. Yeah. Thank you so much, Edward. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks for trying. Exactly. I'm obsessed. Okay, so let's hop into it. So you have been married almost a year. Your anniversary is December 6th. Yes. Oh my gosh. Okay. So now that it's been almost a year, what's one of your like favorite memories that like pops into your head from that day?
SPEAKER_02:It's like hard to pick a memory because it's the whole day.
SPEAKER_03:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Like the whole week leading up to it. Um, but if I had to pick a specific moment, it would be the ceremony, I think for sure. It was super special.
SPEAKER_03:I love that. Yes.
SPEAKER_02:And I was super present for it too.
SPEAKER_03:That's good. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. Oh the ceremony's the best. Like, just like when you see, like when you walk down the aisle, and it's just like, I always like joke, and I've already told this to Kelsey like a million times. She's probably like, shut up. But I was like, I always tell people, I'm like, I literally feel like I blacked out. I, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Because it's like you're just like, holy moly. I had a moment though before walking down the aisle. Kelsey, I couldn't find her. Where is she? I had a panic attack. I'm like, I'm on the wrong side. I'm on the wrong side. Dad, where is Andrew? Am I standing on the right side? He's like, I don't know, Logan. Yes, I had a little bit of a panic, but Kelsey came in. I don't know who it was. It was a younger kid, I think, that was opening the doors for me. And I was like, Do you know where Kelsey is? And he was like, I'm not sure. I'm like, well, can you find her? You're like, we need her A shop. Fix my veil.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, but I love it.
SPEAKER_03:The ceremony. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Yes. Um, not to go off topic, but on that topic, one of the most like scary parts of my job is genuinely those like three to four minutes before doors open. Yes. Because I've had brides, they're like, my dress is too tight. I need you to loosen it. I can't breathe.
SPEAKER_02:I feel like you almost like over, you get overstimulated. I'm sweating.
SPEAKER_01:And like I'll see, like they start to get flush, and I've had, and they're like, I think I'm gonna pass out. I'm like, please no, please, please please don't pass out. Like that would be a problem. Like deep breaths. I have like unzipped dresses. Have you really? Yeah, so they could get deep breaths and zipped it up before we walked out. Like, okay, I wasn't that bad. No, like you were good. But the the fear, because everything is like the reality is.
SPEAKER_02:I think everything just happens at once. Yes. Yes. It's like nobody talks about two. There's a moment where it's just you. Like they take Kelsey came and got like the bridesmaids and everything. It was just me and my dad, like in the bridal suite, and he was like, So we're doing this, right? And I'm like, Yeah. We're doing this. I guess so. It's just like you have a moment and it all like flushes towards you. And then you go in and you see like the reception space, and you're just like, Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. And then you start to panic, but good panic. You just want it to all be good. It's like all the excited, like nerves that are like there. They come at once. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:It's like this is really happening. Yeah. Yes. Um, describe your wedding vibe in one sentence. Oh, intimate.
SPEAKER_02:Kelsey heard that word tons of times. I wanted it to be very like romantic, airy. It was the first time our families were all getting together. Like they've all met and talked on the phone, but they've never like spent time together because Andrew's family's in Missouri and then mine are in Maryland. And so this was the first time everybody was really hanging out. So I wanted it to be a really intimate and like fun environment. So yeah, Kelsey heard that word 50,000 times.
SPEAKER_03:Kelsey was like, that's my favorite word.
SPEAKER_02:She's like, what does that even mean?
SPEAKER_03:No, I love that. That that's what you wanted because of bringing the families together. How big was your guest count?
SPEAKER_02:I think we ended up having like 105. Oh, that's like perfume like that, which was shocking because it was an in-state wedding for us because we live here. Okay. Or lived here. Um, and but it was out of state for everybody else. So everybody had to travel for it pretty much. And we had a really, really good turnout of family and friends. So yeah.
SPEAKER_01:And originally we were at 150-person guest counts. And so for everybody freaking out about guest counts, yes, it it does when you bring in people from out of state, not everybody can be. Yeah, and I think your number was perfect.
SPEAKER_02:Yes, and it's also a point like we were inviting people knowing they weren't coming, but we wanted them to be invited, you know. So that was important too.
SPEAKER_03:So I think that's a good mindset, too. It's like I feel like people think, like, oh, you know, I can't invite these people because they're not probably gonna make it. But then it's like just that gesture of like, okay, we know you can't probably come, but we want you to know that you're included if you can't. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, so we did a couple of those, and yeah, but I think it worked out perfect. It was beautiful.
SPEAKER_03:I love that. Okay, so when you look back, what's parts of planning that were actually fun for you? Do you enjoy the planning process? Were you over it? For a minute there, no, until I met Kelsey.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, yeah. I think every it was fun, it was almost like a breakup when the wedding ended between Kelsey and I because we would talk like every single day. I think that was fun. Like just the planning of it and like having that relationship with her and going back and forth on each other. Yeah, like it was a fun meeting. Like I just think, but then also like seeing it all come together because I'm not a visual person at all. Like, I have these ideas in my head, and like Kelsey just like transformed and put it to life. So I think like that was seeing like my vision come to life for sure, yeah, was the best. I think Kelsey's just here with us like gassing her up. I don't know. You don't need a wedding planner, you need Kelsey's. Yeah, Kelsey. Okay, we need you.
SPEAKER_01:Aww.
SPEAKER_03:That was sweet.
SPEAKER_01:Um is there anything that went better than you expected it to? Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:I think I was very overwhelmed with like being the center of attention. This is more like materialistic rather than a physical thing. It was easy to be present. I was very worried about that because I didn't want to forget anything. And I saw everything. The only thing I didn't see was I saw the welcome table, but I didn't get to look at it fully. But we got to go to cocktail hour, we got to eat, we got to be present. I was very worried that that was gonna be like I was just gonna, it was gonna go away in the blink of an eye, which it did. But when I look back on it, I remember everything about the day. And so I think for people that are worried about that, like just be present. I owe props of that to my husband because he kept me present and like even pulled me away like during the reception and sat back and watched everybody. Um yeah, I just think that came naturally rather than worrying about it and forgetting everything. So yeah.
SPEAKER_03:I feel like I've heard that too a lot. Is um some people I think have this big idea in their head and they like hype it up so much it's like your wedding, and then like they have it and they're like, I just feel like I wasn't even there. Yes. And I feel like I've heard that a lot with people. And so I think that's good to remember. Like, I had totally there. Yeah, yeah, like that. That I was gonna come and just enjoy it and be present no matter what.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, because it is gonna go fast, but like look at everything, like take a minute. Like I think people get so caught up in like saying hello to family and like totally do that, like say hello to people, but also like it's okay to be like, Can I take a peek at this? Like, ask your photographer, like, do we have a minute like to look at cocktail hour? And then, you know, they can wheel that in for you. So we got to get a drink at cocktail hour and stuff like that, which was I didn't think was gonna be a thing at all, because usually cocktail hours for the pictures, but we were able to fit that in. So I think that was really special. Yeah, I love that period.
SPEAKER_03:Um, okay, looking back, what decision do you think? And you say, I'm glad that we did that. Um, actually, it's not a first look.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. I thought I was gonna hate every second of that, but I left it up to Andrew, and he told me he wanted to see me for the first time walking down the aisle. Okay. So I was worried about that, but I really do think it made that moment even more special. Like, I know there's pros and cons to it, but I'm so glad we did it because there was that like excitement factor. Like he hasn't even seen me yet. Like, yeah, I'm just really glad we did that. Because I was hesitant about it at first because there's so many pros to doing a first look. Um, but we did a first touch, and that was good to just like calm the nerves, but it was exciting that he didn't see me, and I feel like that created the tears a little bit more for him.
SPEAKER_01:I'm obsessed. So, not to get on a negative note. No, let's bring it in, baby. What was the most stressful part of planning for you?
SPEAKER_02:Do tell vendors in the beginning. Um, I'm a people person for sure, and so I gravitate towards people, and so I want a very emotional connection, especially like during something like this. Like you want to be friends with your vendors per se. And I just think I didn't ask the right questions starting, and it went downhill from me. Like, I had to fire the wedding planner that I first started with, and I just think it it was rough at first because it was just like this is not gonna be my day. Like, like it's I feel like everything's just falling apart until I met Kelsey and she saved me fully. But I also think like it was stressful, but I think it made it better in the long run. Um, and I think my biggest thing to push forward is like trust your gut, is my advice because it's it was just a gut feeling overall, like things were going wrong and stuff like that, but I just did not feel good about it, and that made wedding planning sucky. And I think what Kelsey said to me was like, wedding planning is not supposed to feel like that. And I just think it allowed me to ask the right questions, like timeline, like that's a big thing. Like, I didn't realize these things were so intricate, and I just think trust your gut. I mean, I think that's what I'm I'm really not trying to shit on anybody here, but you know, um trust your gut and your instincts, I think is my biggest advice because it can suck. You can have vendors that you don't like, and you know, it starts off good in the past in the beginning and then it falls off. And I just think you have to advocate for yourself because at the end of the day, you are the client, like that your vendors are working for you. And I think if it doesn't feel right, it's not right, and you don't have to explain that to anybody, like jump on your gut decision because the last thing you want to do is have your wedding day like tainted because you didn't act on what you felt. So I think that's my biggest advice, even though it's hard at the first time to let somebody go that you do like, it's just not working for you. Yeah, I think that's my biggest advice. But it it went, it it got better because Kelsey showed up.
SPEAKER_03:It got so much better. It got so much better.
SPEAKER_02:I was the last puppy that showed up on her front door. She's like, hello. Do you want me to put your wedding? I remember the phone call. I was like, she was like, Well, we can offer wedding planning services. I'm like, well, who am I gonna get? She was like, You would get me.
SPEAKER_01:I'm like, okay, booked. I was like, Are you sure? And she's like, Yeah. I'm like, all right, here we go. Here we we're here. Let's bring this bad boy to life. And we did.
SPEAKER_03:Yep, period. I love that. Well, and I think it's good. Like, obviously, you brought up like advocating for yourself, and yes, you did have to fire your original wedding planner, but I don't think it's this is like the one time you should be selfish. Yes. And if you don't feel like the connection's there, it's going to your expectations. Yes. Like brides, grooms, whoever, like speak up for yourself and make sure you advocate for the family.
SPEAKER_02:And I just don't think that's talked about a lot because money's involved. And like you're paying these people, and you're like, well, I made this decision, and I'm paying them. Like, I can't just pull out right now. And it's like you have to like take a moment and just like, like you said, be selfish. And that's hard for people, especially me, like, because I want to like love everybody and let everybody in, and everybody's good, and I feel that their intentions are good. And people say, trust your vendors, and that's true. Definitely trust your vendors. But if it's not feeling good, it's not feeling good. And you don't have to explain why there doesn't need to be like there wasn't a big event that occurred where I was like, uh, I'm firing her. Yeah, it was just like a lot of things leading up to it and just feelings that it just didn't feel right, and that's enough for you to feel. Yeah. So I think protect your energy and your space and your wedding day, protect your space, baby, protect that shit.
SPEAKER_03:Protect it as at all costs, please. Yes. Um, so do I know you kind of talked a little bit about it already. So was there a moment that you thought like we're gonna lose our minds during the planning process? Yes, during that.
SPEAKER_02:During that like I almost I feel like I even said to Andrew, I could have said this in my mind, but I do think I said it out loud. Where do we just cancel this whole thing and just elope? Like, and that's a big question because it is a lot. And people put a lot of stigma on wedding planning being stressful, and like this is a plug to Kelsey again. Like, it's not supposed to be. Yeah, it's supposed to be fun, and that's why when you asked me, like, what was your favorite part or something? It was the planning, and it wasn't at first. Um, and so I just think it's it's supposed to be a fun business. I mean, like it's about you at the end of the day. And there's a lot of stigma of like, yeah, like, do we want to spend all this money? Do we want to do all this? Should we just elope? And I I thought about it for a second, like, and that's cute. Like, people do great elopements, and I'm a big fan of them. But for me, like the reason we waited so long because we were we've been engaged for a long time. We were engaged for like six years before we got married. Oh, wow. And it was because I wanted to do it right. Like, I wanted to have my family there. I wanted to be done with school, I wanted to be done with looking for a job. I wanted to feel like everything was complete per se. And I just really wanted to celebrate our day with our family, and that's a big thing. Like, people worry about like the money and all that stuff, and that's a big aspect for sure. But at the end of the day, it's about celebrating with the people you love for sure. And like we were definitely present with each other, but part of a marriage is celebrating with your family and your friends. So that's what I wanted. And I told myself, like, yeah, we could cancel and we could elope, but like we don't have these pictures to look back on. We don't have our family, my grandfather standing next to me on my wedding day. Like, those are cherishable memories, and I think that is what a wedding is at the end of the day. Like, it is about you, but it's also about your family too, because they are who brought you up, and you know, not everybody has like a good family dynamic and stuff, and obviously that can be different, but for us it was important. And so I'm glad like we stuck it out and just trusted our gut and just let the process work itself out.
SPEAKER_01:So yeah, that's the plot. Me too. Yes, I'm glad you stuck it out. Yes, I know. I did, and it all worked out, and it was gorgeous. Yes, it was, it was absolutely stunning. I know. Um, so I want to ask you about your budget.
SPEAKER_02:Are we calling her? Should we phone someone in for this show? I did not pay for this wedding, mom. Yeah, let's call mom.
SPEAKER_03:Let's call mom and see her what she has to say about your budget. Let's see how it went. This could get bad really quick.
SPEAKER_02:Because what is a budget?
SPEAKER_03:I know, right? Honestly. Is there like any amount of like money like to your happiness? No, absolutely not.
SPEAKER_02:And like I'm the only daughter. Exactly so like what are we doing here? I love the queen. Let's see if mom answers.
SPEAKER_03:I love this so much. She's gonna be like, Hello.
SPEAKER_02:Hello, hi, you're live on the wedding hive.
unknown:Oh, hi everyone.
SPEAKER_02:We want to talk to you. We want to talk to you about the budget.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, the wedding budget.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, did did we go under budget? Did we go over budget? Were we at budget? Way over. And is there a price on the wedding? Like you can't put a price on that, right?
SPEAKER_00:Uh no, absolutely not. I wanted it to be the day of yours and Andrew's dreams. So, you know, it was the day I heard that we had to bring in forklifts uh to hang some chandeliers that I knew there was no such thing as a budget.
SPEAKER_02:No forklifts, and that's the answer. No budget. There's no you can't put a price on love. Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_03:You can't on happiness and you're a price on love.
SPEAKER_02:There we go. Or the chandeliers.
SPEAKER_00:Or the chandeliers.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, and they look stunning. Oh, she has more.
SPEAKER_00:And and the epic wedding that the willow uh put on for the state. Yes. They were the they were the answers to the prayers. Oh you heard it here first.
SPEAKER_02:I love that. Okay. All right, mom.
unknown:Enjoy.
SPEAKER_02:Thanks for coming on. She's amazing. She was thinking about that for a long time. What do I think?
SPEAKER_01:Um she is the queen.
SPEAKER_02:The queen. The queen. No, I feel like the wallet go. Well, she got to a point where she was just like, fuck it.
SPEAKER_03:Right? Yeah. It really does at that end. It really is just like, you know what? What's an extra thousand dollars? Like, who cares?
SPEAKER_01:I think it was when um the remember the guest favors were the custom art. Art. Yeah, so we had to fly her in. And we flee, flew her in. We couldn't find anybody like her. Yes. And and mom called me and she's like, hey, so this is the update. And I'm like, pull up our budget. And I'm like, uh Cindy, this doesn't fit. Where where are we putting this? And she goes, just add it. It's fine. And I'm like, okay. Whatever mom said, whatever mom said.
SPEAKER_02:But the best part is she uh cut the budget at the McDonald's because my husband wanted McChickens, and she was told, that's where I'm drawing the line. I remember$100 of McChickens. Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, because we had hamburger or we had cheeseburgers, French front fries, and I think we did some chicken nuggets.
SPEAKER_02:We wanted some, but she cut the nuggets. She cut it at the nuggets.
SPEAKER_01:She's like, that's my line.
SPEAKER_02:She's like, she was like, this is my line. And I'm like, this is your line. Like the not the chicken lyrics. And she goes, the$5,000 twinkle lights? Got it. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:She's like, where are we at with the McDonald's budget? And I was like, um, let me, I had to download the McDonald's app for the record.
SPEAKER_02:The week before I'm Kelsey is a McDonald's DoorDash. No, 100%.
SPEAKER_01:And I'm actually not. And what's so funny is I downloaded the McDonald's app and at Thanksgiving I had my phone open and a family member walked by me and they were like, I thought you um said that you weren't eating McDonald's. And I was like, What are you talking about? And they're like, the app is on your phone. Oh. And I was like, It's work really. Don't even, don't even come. You know what? Maybe I do want a Big Mac. Maybe you want a large fry and a Big Mac.
SPEAKER_02:We're not having Thanksgiving dinner.
SPEAKER_03:We're having McDonald's. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So something.
SPEAKER_03:You should have been like, there's no food coming. Be like, we're having McDonald's from Thanksgiving. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I didn't um my husband picked it up. Yes. But we'll talk about it. I mean, come on. He he can't.
SPEAKER_02:He should be here. Yes. We didn't roll it. She was like, the fries go here. The fries go here. Yes. Oh, we love Thomas. That's amazing. I think I didn't realize he was going to be there until I saw him. And Kelsey was like, This is my husband. I'm like, she has you working on my McDonald's.
SPEAKER_03:She's like, whatever to get the job done, baby. She's like, you better get whatever. We have VIP service here. Correct.
SPEAKER_01:I have one job, and that is to get the McDonald's on site.
SPEAKER_02:Kelsey didn't know that she was going to have to map out a McDonald's location to make sure the fries were still warm. Like, I don't think she knew that was in her job description.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:But it was.
SPEAKER_03:You gotta do what you want to do. Whatever it takes for the haters, whatever it takes. The fries were warm. I love that. I always wanted so badly to have In and Out Burgers my favorite. Yes. Fast food. And they like do the trucks, but like only in California right now they have, and I'm like, that's so bad. I know. And like the closest one was just like a little too far. I was like, it's just gonna be nasty by the time I get here, you know. And I'm also psycho I can only eat McDonald's or uh in and out burger, like fresh. It's either I'm eating in the car or we go inside and eat it. Absolutely. You have to, you can't hold it.
SPEAKER_02:I was like, I don't want to tarnish my like late night snack, like that is something we did right because like you're eating the food, and our food was great, like huge, huge success. But people are drinking, they're dancing, they get them, they're burning carbs, like they're burning calories, they're ready. And we're providing transportation for all of these people. Yeah, we can't have them throwing up. Exactly. They need a burger, yes, yes. Like I wanted a burger. You know, like you we need that, and nobody threw up. Oh, because of the McDonald's. Because of the McDonald's. Nobody had a McChicken, but they had a burger. Yeah, which gets the job done. If you're saying you don't eat McDonald's, you're lying to me.
SPEAKER_01:You're lying. Loki, we did have uh we got sodas from McDonald's yesterday. Yesterday.
SPEAKER_02:Kelsey, did you have McDonald's at the wedding? Did you eat something?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, yeah. Did you eat any of the McDonald's? No, because I no, because I was running around.
SPEAKER_02:She was working.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, she was just putting that work, she was vibing.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, she's a queen. And mom was like, Do you know where Kelsey is? I'm like working. Like she's busy. We're paying her. She's doing things, she's making it intimate out there.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I'm making sure everybody's having a very intimate.
SPEAKER_03:She's like, she's like, Are you feeling intimate? She's like, She's like, Do you like the word intimate?
SPEAKER_01:Yes, if it is if you're not feeling intimate, we're gonna need to figure out what we gotta do to like create.
SPEAKER_02:And I don't even know where I came up with that word, but that's the word I picked.
SPEAKER_03:Hey, intimate. I love that. Um, okay, so obviously we just talked about you having McDonald's thing, which was a huge success. Tough. Um so fun fact, I made an Instagram reel. You did. Um, just being like, get a late night bite at your wedding. People love it. It's like we just talked about people are drinking. Um, but of course, with social media comes negativity, and there was some negative comments on there, positive ones, of course, as well. But how do you feel like you dealt with that and like seeing stuff like that?
SPEAKER_01:Because for the record, that video went viral.
SPEAKER_03:It's almost three million views.
SPEAKER_01:I'm so getting paid by McDonald's.
SPEAKER_03:I know McDonald's. Can we please get the plug? Can we get a plug? Like, come on, we need a sponsorship, okay? Like almost three million views. I have 150,000 likes, so it blew up. Yes, yes, it did. Overnight success. No, you really did.
SPEAKER_02:No, um, I owe props of that to my husband, like monitoring it, like looking at things. Um, because people suck, people find something to say about anything. Yeah, and I do think it's important to note that a lot of the comments were about my weight, and a lot of comments were about eating bad food on your wedding day, which I'd like to add a little bit to that because that's something I had to learn is struggling with your body image as a bride is something nobody talks about.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Like there's so much pressure as a bride to look a certain way, lose weight, be on a diet, and that's just not sustainable. Because you start to hate it. And I did, I went on a diet, I tried to lose weight, you know, but you become just you start to hate it. You're like, I can't even eat anything. I can't eat this because I need to be in this dress on this time at this day. And it's like I got to a point where it was like, why am I doing this? Because it's about marrying the love of your life, it's about being happy.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:And I think those comments make a stigma around it, just adds to it. It adds to body image and it adds to being a bride and how you're supposed to look on your wedding day. And the realist part is you're supposed to look like yourself. You're not supposed to change who you are. And I just have to say fuck you to the haters. Because, like I said, if you don't like McDonald's, you're doing something wrong. And the fries were warm to the haters. Okay, how do you keep that? How do you keep that warm? Are you eating warm fries when you're drunk? No, you're not. Yeah. But yeah, how haters gonna hate. Sorry, you can have McDonald's at your wedding. Yeah, honestly, I just wish you had McDonald's. You just wish you thought of it. Absolutely. But it's definitely hard, like going back and reading those things for sure. Because, like, you know, you don't want to hear that stuff, but people, haters are gonna hate. And I think social media is a big thing that we're dealing with now. And I think have a good husband to block those hoes. I know. Because that's what mine did.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, I love that. No, I totally like, and we've talked about this on the podcast before of like trying to remind brides that like it's not about like, oh, just because you're getting married doesn't mean you have to like try to lose weight. Like your husband and like your family love you for who you are, and like yes, it doesn't need to be something where it's like then it becomes miserable. Yeah, because it does, it does. Yeah, because I did that, I wouldn't know I'm like 75 hard, like try to lose weight. And I'm just like, this is exhausting. You start to like hate your wedding.
SPEAKER_02:You're starting like, why am I doing this? Like, if this wedding wasn't happening, I wouldn't be feeling like this, like you're restricting yourself, you're not enjoying, and like you have all these tastings. And I remember being like, I can't eat all this, I can't eat all this until like and thank God I got to a point where I was like, Why am I doing this to myself? But some people don't, yeah, and it just becomes it sucks. And I just think, be you, be yourself. Your husband loves you, yeah, your family loves you.
SPEAKER_03:So I make sure yeah, because there's you know, the bachelor bachelorette parties, there's a bridal shower, like you should be able to like have some drinks, yes, have some McDonald's, yes, get those late night McDonald's at the bachelorette party. Yes, I mean come on.
SPEAKER_02:I had hot dogs at my bachelorette party. Like your best class. I got to. I got to.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, yes. Okay. Well, I'm sorry for the haters. I think that people can be such keyboard warriors.
SPEAKER_03:I know and hide behind a screen.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, you'll hide behind a screen, but it's two followers and they're like roasting you. Goodbye.
SPEAKER_03:I'm like, wait, the map's not mapping.
SPEAKER_02:I'm like, are you AI?
SPEAKER_01:You wouldn't say that to somebody's face. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Like people just hide.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. People hide. Cool. Like you're very small in my mind. Yeah. You're probably really jealous that you didn't get invited. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Sorry you didn't have a big chicken. Yes.
SPEAKER_01:So um, is there was there any drama? Dra Drama. You barely even drank your champagne. I know I can't. Are you Richard? Kelsey's like, I did you put your own. Yeah, what did you did you spike my drink? I know. She might have. Maybe I did. Did you have any? Drama hiccups or behind the scenes chaos that you'd want to share? Drama.
SPEAKER_02:No, I mean it's a lot. Okay. We had a bad hairstylist while we were getting ready. And that was a little stressful for me because all the girls kind of had to scramble. Thank God one of my bridesmates was a hairstylist and came in clutch and fixed it all. Um but yeah, like I just think things go wrong. You're dealing with your bridesmates, your friends, they want to look their best too. And this is my plug to your makeup artist because my makeup artist was the best. She focused me outside so that I didn't hear any of this stuff going on nor see it. And obviously, like everything worked out, but I'd say like that was a big like drama point because everybody wants to look their best, everyone's to feel their best. And when like you have your hairs not looking right, like you start to panic. Like, because it's about you know, it's about them looking good too. They're paying your bridesmaids are paying for this too. Um, so I think that was the drama of the day, but it all worked out. That's good. Um, but like friend drama or like family drama, there wasn't really any of that that I can remember. Maybe there was they just didn't tell me as they should. You shouldn't say anything. No, yeah, no, yes.
SPEAKER_01:No, I don't remember any like putting out fires.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, maybe Kelsey would do any family drama. Mom gave you the credit card and you just ran with it.
SPEAKER_01:She said, make it happen. Make it happen. Yes, mommy, here we go.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, no, and I don't we didn't have like any like drama at the wedding either. No, I didn't, not that I knew of.
SPEAKER_01:The timeline was right, yeah. Everything was right. All seven shuttles where they needed to be where they needed to be.
SPEAKER_03:Oh my gosh. Yes, yep, that's impressive. Yes, from to and from. I love that. Well, I feel like maybe if you can't think of anything else, our next question was um, you know, every wedding, usually something goes wrong. Would you say like the oh no moment was just like the hair debacle for anything else?
SPEAKER_02:There was that like Kelsey said, seven shuttles is a lot. I had this vision, and it really wasn't like the end of the world for me, but it was just kind of like an oh crap moment. Like I had this vision where we didn't want to do an after party because the wet we were staying in Scottsdale, and so the willow was like an hour and 15 away. And I was just like, I want to spend the night with my husband, like I don't want to go out and have like an after party and all this stuff. So my idea was to have like the after party on this bus, and like all the family was gonna be on it and stuff. And the bus was late. Is that what it was?
SPEAKER_01:Leaving the venue, leaving the venue, yes.
SPEAKER_02:One of them was late, and so it didn't work out that way, but it wasn't like the end of the world, like we must like all better. It was just kind of like, oh, that sucks. And Kelsey was like, they were late, like, and like we we just can't, yeah. It wasn't a terrible, but that was a something didn't go right. But something's not gonna go right at your wedding, you can't make that all perfect, yeah. Like so that's true, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:We were I don't remember like significant fires. No, trust me, they're burnt in like there were happy there were gone ingrained in fire.
SPEAKER_02:There were fires I had no idea.
SPEAKER_01:That is why I couldn't enjoy that's why she was nowhere to be found.
SPEAKER_02:That's why she didn't know. That's why she was busy. She was nowhere to be found.
SPEAKER_01:Um, is there one myth about wedding planning you wish you could debunk?
SPEAKER_02:I think what I just said about like the body image, I guess that's a myth.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Um, looking a certain way, presenting yourself a certain way. Also, the same thing, like I've been saying, like it's supposed to be fun. Like people are like, I remember people were like, Are you so stressed out pet planning? Like, yeah, God, would you ever do that again? Like, yeah, I would. Okay. I would do it again. Okay. Because it's you have to like bring yourself back down to earth and remind yourself that it's about you getting married and having it's a giant party that you throw for your friends and family. And how blessed are we to be able to do that at the same time, you know? Like to have people you love celebrate you. Um yeah, it's supposed to be fun. And if it's not fun, something's wrong. Yeah, I think is what I have to say. Yeah. No, I know. Yeah, but I agree. Yeah, obviously, like there's stressful moments, like money's involved, people are involved. You're trying to get people what they need, where they want to stay, like hotels and all that stuff. But like it's supposed to be fun at the end of the day. And it was definitely stressful. Like, my husband is probably rolling his eyes over there because I did cry many times.
SPEAKER_03:I think we all cry during wedding plans.
SPEAKER_02:But like you have to like come back to that. And like, I think a lot of that came like after the fact. Like, thank God. I never for once said, like, why did we do this? It was always like, thank God we did this. Like, this is so much fun that we have this to look back on. Like, and I told Kelsey this planning, like, people, my parents have been married for 36 years, I think. Long time, and people still talk about their wedding. Like, still, and that's what I wanted. You want people to talk about your wedding because it's like a time for them too. A lot of people are leaving their kids at home, it's a date night. Like, yeah, you want everybody to have fun and people to talk about your wedding, and so I think that's that's really special.
SPEAKER_03:Um, okay, if you could relive 30 minutes of your wedding day, what would it be?
SPEAKER_02:30 minutes of my wedding day. Can I like put them all together? Like, I want like five minutes getting ready. I want five minutes at the ceremony, I want five minutes at the cocktail hour. Um, yeah, I think that was special um the whole day. But if I had to think about it, like just sitting down and having dinner with Andrew was so much fun. Um, we sat separate from everybody. We didn't do like a bridal table. We did the his and her. What's it called? The sweetheart table.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:That was the best thing I could have ever done. Like we had, we got to eat, we talked, we had a bottle of wine, him and I, like for us, and we got to just enjoy that time. I think that's something I think back on all the time. It's just like sitting there and like people coming up to you and saying hi, and like you didn't have to get up and entertain, like as and somebody, I don't know who it was. One of our guests came up to me and was like, I am so glad you're doing this. Like sitting here and having dinner, and they were like, We didn't do this at our wedding and we regret it. Like, because you know, part of a wedding is entertaining, but it's also about you and be selfish, like Grace has said. Like, I don't know, that was a special time being able to actually eat and enjoy and recap and being like, Oh my gosh, I need to reapply my lip gloss. Like, I have time to do that here. Yeah, no, I I think back on that a lot for sure. Yeah, I love that.
SPEAKER_03:Um, okay, I'll ask you one more question and then we'll we'll wrap it up. Oh, um, I know it went by so quick. Oh, Graysdown's wine. I know, I know. Why don't you do like chug mine? I was like, I've been talking too much, and I'm like, should have done that. Um, so obviously, being engaged in planning, is there anything you would tell engaged couples that are starting to plan? Like any advice or like besides, I know you talked about like vendors a little bit, but is there anything else you would tell them?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, again, just trust your gut. Um, hire people that make you feel good, make you feel valued, um, enjoy yourself because it really does. We're just an old married couple now. Like we're not fun anymore. Um, but yeah. You said you were at the casino last night. We were, we were at that we call it the C know. We were at that was our low-key night. I know. Yeah, yeah. We're we're fun but boring at the same time. Yeah. Um, but yes. Um, definitely like enjoy yourself, your vendors. Like, I said my makeup artists, like I I think the best vendors to like focus on vibe with, because I never saw my florist, I never saw them, I never saw the rental company. Obviously, all that stuff matters. Like, you want to like your stuff. But when it comes to picking people, pick people that make you feel good. Like, pick a makeup artist that sits you out and looks at the outside rather than all the chaos going on behind you. Have a makeup artist tell you to breathe. Like a plug for Tiffany there. Like, um breathe, take a deep breath, eat. Um have a photographer too that respects your space. Um, we had Megan Carey was our photographer, and she was just a gem. Like, just do you need a minute? Do you want to take a minute to have a fan? Like, we don't we can take a break. Like, have people that respect your space. I remember when I was opening the gifts from Andrew, she was like, Do you want me here or do you want a minute? And I just think people that resonate with that, respect that, recognize it. Same with our videographers, they were the same way. Like having a camera in your face all the time as somebody that can be very reserved, like that's a lot. But I didn't even know they were there half the time because they just respected your space, kept a distance, like asked you what you wanted and did such a beautiful job of capturing your day. So I think like if you were to like really focus on a vendor, I would say like your video, your photo, your makeup artist as a female is so important. Your planner, obviously, like Kelsey was the star of the show that day. But like if I had her, was I? Um yes, that definitely means something because all of those people are around you on your day and they're recognizing how you're feeling too. Like, I didn't even know I wasn't breathing half the time. My makeup artist was like, let's take a minute, let's breathe, babe. Um, yeah, just surround yourself with good people that make you feel good too, because it's a lot, it's a lot of money involved, it's a lot of things going on, you're out of the norm. Get people that make you feel good and just enjoy your time together because it's about you guys. And I know that's like preached to the choir everywhere, but it's really true. Like stay present. Yep, for sure. Yeah. That's my plug. That is. I'm getting married again next year. Let's do it. We're doing it again next year. Two year valve. I still need to clean my dress.
SPEAKER_03:I know. I'm glad that's one thing I love that I did. I got it cleaned and it's like in a preserved. I need to do that. And I'm just like, I picked it up and I was like, Did you put it in a box? No, that's how it came. Like I sent it and they like cleaned it, steamed it, and then it's like in this nice, like encased box.
SPEAKER_02:And that's something I would say too that I'm glad I did. I didn't change my dress. And I sometimes I do regret it. Like sometimes I'm like, I should have put something cuter on. But like, when are you gonna wear that again? Yeah. When are you gonna wear that dress again? And like you can see how fun the night went because my bustle just like falls apart. Oh like my bet I remember my best friend like came up to me. She was like, We're done with this. Like you are dancing too much. Like, we are done. We are not buttoning these anymore. But it's just so fun to look back on and like have that dress on because I'm not gonna wear that again.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Um, that's something I'm glad I did too, was keeping it on. I think. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:I know I did I did an outfit change, but I had like a but that was a sleigh. Thank you. Thank you. I did. Okay. I know queen. I'm glad I did that because I had a more form-fitting dress. Yes. So I was like, after like 20 minutes of dancing, I was like, all right, I gotta go. I gotta go. I was like, I can like drop it like it's hot in this.
SPEAKER_02:And I do remember vividly like finding Kelsey and was like, I need to change my shoes. Oh my gosh, yes. She kept checking on my feet because I had the the pretty shoes and everything, and like I was spraying lidocaine on my feet, like so I didn't feel them. But that was Andrew and I's gift to each other. Instead of changing outfits, we changed shoes. We got um, I actually should have worn mine. I didn't wear them today. But um, I had like custom golden gooses made with like Miss Hess on them, and I got Andrew a pair of shoes, and we changed. And I remember Kelsey was like, How are your feet? Like, do we need to change them? Like, if I don't change my feet right now, they're gonna fall off. If they're gonna be gone, they're gonna be gone. We need to change the shoes. Yes, yes, um, yeah, and they were so cute. They were cute. I love them. I love them. I wore them yesterday. Babe, why didn't you tell me to wear my shoes? My husband's here in the corner. I know we're like, Where's the shoes at? Where's the shoes? He's the real He actually wore his shoes now that I'm looking at it.
SPEAKER_01:I'm done.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, I love it.
SPEAKER_01:Well, shout out to your amazing groom now has been because he does a sick. He does bring you in a good way, bring you back down to earth, is a good listener, grooms out there, fee like listen to your fiance.
SPEAKER_02:And the table settings. Can we give him a shout out for those? He paid to pick it up. Kelsey was like, this is a good idea. Go for it. I was like, I like this.
SPEAKER_01:It's like just a thought.
SPEAKER_02:We're like, keep bringing it up.
SPEAKER_03:So, grooms, don't stay silent. You have some ideas. I'm here like some of your IDs are gonna get shot booted, but like the seating chart, okay.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, we loved it. We loved it.
SPEAKER_01:Yay! Well, Logan, thank you so much for this over.
SPEAKER_02:Can we do this next week?
SPEAKER_01:I know it's like I have more, I swear.
SPEAKER_04:I know we can do a rated R version.
SPEAKER_03:We could we could use that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, um, it was wonderful seeing you. Happy one year anniversary to both of you. Um, we continue to wish you just the best in life in your future in my boring of marriage bliss.
SPEAKER_02:So I'll be back on in 15 years when I'm old.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, let's do it. Yeah, not 15, that's too long.
SPEAKER_01:No, let's yeah, let's give it a few, like maybe five. I need to see you sooner than 15. Oh, yeah. That was rude.
SPEAKER_02:That was rude. How dare I? How dare I? Oh my god, yeah, yeah. The breakup between a wedding planner and a bride is a serious breakup. Like it's just really weird. It really got her in the heart. I remember being like, Can I text her? Does she want to talk to me? Or is she like, this bride sucks?
SPEAKER_01:No, it's so weird because it is a weird thing.
SPEAKER_02:Did you feel that way? Did you feel like we broke up?
SPEAKER_01:Because I think I do feel like we broke up and it was like terrifying. Do you want to get on a Zoom call? Yeah. Do you want to have a glass of wine?
SPEAKER_03:You're like, want to get on a couple of things. Do you want to talk about budget?
SPEAKER_02:Do you want to have anything?
SPEAKER_03:We had no budget.
SPEAKER_02:It just happened so fast. I know, and it's a bridge, but that's so true.
SPEAKER_01:In saying goodbye on a wedding night, I think that's what like that's what I mean.
SPEAKER_02:But like I didn't even think about it. I don't even know if I said goodbye to you, did I?
SPEAKER_01:You did. Yeah, I gave both of you guys a hug goodbye. But and you guys are like still in the high and celebrating and they walk away. And it's like, you know, in the inside out when they're like, bing bum, bing bum. And I'm like, I get this bottle of champagne and I'm going. And I'm sober because I'm working. And so like I have a drink. And like the bus goes, like the bus leaves, and take it and dropping off her school. No, it's not. But me the next morning, I'm like, Helsing, Helsinki, yeah, and I'm and I seriously stand in the parking lot for like 30 seconds. And it's like, can I tell them to turn around? Okay. Like that.
SPEAKER_02:To clean up all their McDonald's now.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it's so weird. I'm like that. The book is now closed. And it's like the weirdest reality because now it's silent. Yeah. And I got holding the motions. And then I like, I'm like, all right, I guess I'm gonna go clean up french fries.
SPEAKER_02:And then like I guess I'm gonna go toss espresso martini in a bin that nobody finished.
SPEAKER_01:I'm gonna go cry myself out.
SPEAKER_02:I think I think we did come back because I forgot my bouquet. Do you remember this? Yes. I said Andrew out, my husband. I forgot my bouquet because I wanted to preserve it. And I have my grandmother's locket on it, and I'm like in the bus. I'm like, you need to get my flowers. I'm panicking. Oh no. Yeah, we came back for a minute. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:So then we read it all all over again. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:So then we're like, Andrew's running with the bouquet, and Kelsey's like, hi. Hi. I'll just be here. She's like, I'll see you via Instagram. Hi. Yeah. I'm gonna have a podcast soon, Leon.
SPEAKER_01:True. True. Um there yet. Yeah, no, when the podcast became a thing, like there were conversations a few months before your wedding, and I was like, I have some big weddings coming up. That's where my focus needs to be.
SPEAKER_02:It was after your oh, was it really?
SPEAKER_01:There were conversations about it, and I said, No, I have some, I have a few big ones in the fall, and I need to make sure that I'm presenting and I'm good at it. You were good at it. And so once I once you drove away and I just looked around and was like podcast time.
SPEAKER_03:I guess it's time like and then it's on me. So it worked out for a minute. Exactly.
SPEAKER_01:But thank you so much for joining us today. Thank you so much. Um, those who want to check out the Wedding High podcast, be sure to check us out on Instagram and TikTok. And a new episode drops every Wednesday. Bye.