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043 - Valentine’s Day, Real Talk
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We unpack the joy and pressure of Valentine’s Day while mapping the green flags that sustain love and the red flags that become wedding headaches. We get candid about timelines to the ring, proposal pressure, ring myths, budgeting stress, and how to stay connected while planning.
• green flags in partners and why they matter
• red flags that resurface during wedding planning
• real talk on timelines to engagement
• proposal pressure vs authentic gestures
• ring size myths and budget alignment
• social media comparison traps and how to avoid them
• dating apps, online trust, and safety culture
• engagement reality checks and money management
• love languages influencing planning stress
• practical ways to stay connected during planning
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SPEAKER_00:Giving you the tea and the Wedding World. Let's jump right in. Hey Queens, welcome back to another episode of the Wedding Hive Podcast. Today, when you're listening to this, it is gonna be the Wednesday before Valentine's Day. It is Saturday, the 14th.
SPEAKER_01:Cupid is in the air. Cupid's in there.
SPEAKER_00:I have a few questions for you, but how do how do you feel about Valentine's Day?
SPEAKER_01:Like in general?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, like do you hate it, love it? What's your vibe?
SPEAKER_01:I just hear for it. I think it was so fun as a kid to do like the different Valentine's and like the classroom parties. Like that was so fun as a kid. As an adult, I think it's way too much pressure.
SPEAKER_00:I know. I actually was thinking about that too. I was at the store and I was seeing all of the kids' candies and stuff. Yes. And I was like, I love doing that as a kid, but I'm sure my mom hated it. Because you have to write all the, you have to get the list of all the kids for the parents, it sucks, but the nostalgia. I love doing that. It was like the best day of the like week, and you're like, yes, we're gonna have a V-day party tomorrow. You're gonna get all the like candy and cute stuff.
SPEAKER_01:I think that even like in marriage, I feel like it almost sets you up for a fight. Oh, a hundred percent. You know, did you get me the right thing? Or you just got me the flowers that everybody got in bulk? Like, what are you doing? It just it I think Valentine's Day is super hyped. It's a hallmark.
SPEAKER_00:And you feel like there's a lot of pressure on it. So much pressure. I know.
SPEAKER_01:But I'll get into my feelings in the episode.
SPEAKER_00:Well, really quickly, what was do you have a favorite Valentine's Day you've ever had with Tomas? Or like can you think of something whether it was like you did something big or if it was just chill, or you guys, since you're very indifferent, you're just always vibing.
SPEAKER_01:Gosh. Uh no.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Um, probably because of the last statement that I made about being that's fair. Trying to like have grace with the expectation of Valentine's Day.
SPEAKER_00:Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Um, no. I actually hate going to restaurants on Valentine's Day. They're packed.
SPEAKER_00:They're I would never go to a restaurant on Valentine's Day ever. I feel like we've always are like, we'll do it on a different day or next weekend because it's just so packed.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it's just too much. I think actually, in like our marriage and with our kids, I used to enjoy always doing like a special Valentine's breakfast for the kids. So I like decorate the table and we do like heart-shaped pancakes, and like that was always fun. I know that's not necessarily like for you and my husband, but we had these kids, and so just trying to keep it special for the kids.
SPEAKER_00:Aw.
SPEAKER_01:So I love that. What about you and John? Have you guys done anything?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, my favorite actually, the sweatshirt we got. We went to Disneyland on Valentine's Day. They have events after like after dark events, and it's called Sweethearts Night. And it's like you, it's like nine to I think you could have stayed at the park till 12. I don't know. But yeah, we went and did that, and they have like all the princes and princesses, and they have themed drinks and snacks for like V-Day, and like all the buildings and the castle have like um hearts all over them, like projected. So that was like the funnest one. And it was like actually on Valentine's Day, so that was cool. Cute. Yeah, and I love it because we got the jet these jackets embroidered with our wedding date on them. So we have matching ones. His is brown, or like his isn't pink. Yeah, his isn't pink, unfortunately. I tried to, and he was like, no. And I was like, okay, fair enough. I was like, at least you'll match with me. So that's cute. Yeah, that was my favorite Valentine's Day ever.
SPEAKER_01:I love it. It was um, all right. So going into the episode, do you have the first question? Or do you have a few?
SPEAKER_00:I do, yeah. So obviously, Valentine's Day, being in a relationship, getting married. I want to talk about what some green flags for your partner. And then I know you have we're gonna talk a little bit about some red flags. Um, what are what are your green flags, you feel like, for like for Valentine's Day or for like a partner?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, a partner.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, just like a partner in general.
SPEAKER_01:In general, yeah. Um, I think good communication, um low temper. True. I think is huge. I'm on the red flags, and so now I'm just going the opposite of the page. Well, I have some written down. But I think communication is key. A hundred percent. Um like a good communication values are super important. Um, and then that short temper because like you want a man that, or you know, you want a partner, I should say. You want a partner that's gonna protect and defend, but you don't want them to lash out over the most minute things. No, 100%.
SPEAKER_00:So but I have the red flags, so I feel like too, like respecting boundaries is like a big one too, whether that's like with you or also like having the same boundaries with like family and like friends. Um I also like this one too. Doesn't, when you're like in the beginning stages, like doesn't rush intimacy. I think that's a good one. Bless you, your little.
SPEAKER_01:I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_00:It's been a little cold here in Arizona, not as bad as the Midwest, but they're like under our Arizona's are like I know.
SPEAKER_01:I'm like, it's 65, it's freezing. It's freezing. Um no, that last one you said not rushing intimacy, I think is huge.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. And then last one I kind of is like matches your effort. Like if my if I have a man or someone that I'm looking for in a partner, like I want to make sure that whatever effort I'm giving out, they're gonna give out too. And it's also too, I do want to clarify. We kind of, me and John have a rule, like some days, you know, it might be we're 50-50. Some days he might be having a bad day. So I'm 80% and he's 20. And I think having a good balance with that too, though. Making effort, but knowing when, you know, to balance it out.
SPEAKER_01:So um, I actually heard somebody once speak at like a marriage conference and they said um if each partner is putting 100, 100, then when somebody drops and is at that 50 or that 80, they're still, you're still both like so in it. Yeah. Versus making it like an even split. If you're a math nerd, then it is what it is. But neither of us are math nerds. Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:My sister's a math teacher, not me.
SPEAKER_01:Correct, correct. Um, all right. So this is terrible to talk about, but let's talk about dating red flags. Um, these dating red flags we see end up in the wedding planning. Um, it turns into wedding planning headaches. And the truth is, is if they're not gonna change um during dating, they're probably not going to fix it after weddings. Marriage is not a band-aid, it doesn't fix everything. Um, I would say some big red flags. Um maybe some like poor communication. Um stubbornness is such a hard one to like say, but if you're if you're with somebody who's so stuck in their ways and they think they're right and they're the high horse and nobody can change them, you're not gonna change them. So, um, and think you're bringing in marriage, you're bringing two people to be one and to do life together, and that's going to um, there's a ripple effect, and so it will um impact all of your future relationships, your family, into parenting, um, into all of those tough decisions. You know, it's funny. Um, I think that there's things that you find about your partner that you fall like, it's almost like so attractive in the beginning, like when you start dating, like they're quarks. Yeah. And they're not gonna be. And then they become the things that annoy you. So in that dating phase, you want to make sure you know what those quarks are. And are those gonna be cute forever or are they gonna drive you bonkers? Yeah. Perfect example. My husband is an absolute clean freak. I used to think it was cute, it was funny.
SPEAKER_00:Like, ooh, a clean man.
SPEAKER_01:He's like such a clean freak. Like, O C D. I am not. I don't care if my laundry sits in a pile on like the love seat in my bedroom. It doesn't bother me. I'll shake it off and throw it on. At least it's clean. You know what I mean? For sure. Um that like that drives him nuts, and now it drives me nuts. It drives him nuts, and that's like what an actual argument's about. But in the beginning, I thought it was cute that he would like dust my house or like do the dishes.
SPEAKER_00:And I'm like, You just leave the dishes in the sink for one night.
SPEAKER_01:Correct, yes. So make sure it's like minimal things, not like yeah, like something you can work through and not something that's gonna irritate you for the rest of your life. Correct. And like, not like the bad boy that you're like, ooh, he's a bad boy. I like that because I promise. It's not gonna end well.
SPEAKER_00:It's gonna turn into a Stephen DeMarco. So it's gonna be.
SPEAKER_01:That's who I've thought about this entire time. The toxic man. You do not, if yeah, yeah. If you're trying to get those toxic traits, like it ain't changing.
SPEAKER_00:It's not happening. I think I've gotten not that I'm like old, but now that I'm turning 30 this year, I feel like I know old. You start collecting your shit. Um, I feel like as I've gotten older, I remember I used to roast my sister because she's seven years older than me. So she, you know, I would be like, you have no friends, you're a loser, basically. And then now as I've gotten older and just like not only a partner, but like relationships is just like being friends with people who like are actually gonna take the time, the effort, communicate, be there. So it's yeah, but that was just my side tangent really. I loved it. It was great. I just wanted a side tangent, but I think too, back to the point, be sure when you're you know in a relationship before you get to that next engagement step that these things are hammered out. Correct. Because getting a ring and then having these issues is just gonna make it 10 times worse. Then it's is this the right decision, or why are we been doing this, you know? And I guess it's better to break off an engagement than get divorced, but no, I agree. So I mean, try to figure that out before you make that next step. Because once you're some oh, I remember really my actual point to what I was talking about with like friendships and stuff is I feel like I've had friends in the past that I feel like make no effort, and I'm just like, you know what? Well, I'm almost 30, they're almost 30. If they're not gonna change now, they probably like never will. You know, you're always gonna be stuck in your way. So don't think you can change your man because it's typically not gonna work. Um, okay, let's go on to the next one. So we want to talk about obviously when you're with someone and then you're getting engaged. Um, how long do you think is too long and how short is too short before a ring? Oh like before getting engaged.
SPEAKER_01:I do you think there's a timeline? I think everybody's seasons are different.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Because some people will, you know, it and again, it depends on it's so hard to say because it's where you are in life. If you get a ring and you want to finish up or you're dating, do you want to finish up college before you get to that next step? Are you gonna be engaged in college? Because the second you get engaged, everybody gets the pressure of planning the wedding.
SPEAKER_02:Right.
SPEAKER_01:So you go straight into wedding planning. If you're older, um I've worked actually this this month with a lot of couples who are in their um 40s in their on their second marriages, and so they're wanting they, you know, they dated for a year and are ready to they're engaged and ready to just make it happen.
SPEAKER_00:Um I think yeah, age has an effect too, like on it.
SPEAKER_01:And kind of like again, that season of where you're at.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:We I see, especially where we live near the base, um, the military base, we see a lot of people um do like long distance because there's deployment. And so I don't know if there's too, I don't know, I guess I would say too short to jump into it is like two months, because that's what I did. Um and we're happily married, but that's not everybody's luck. Yeah, exactly. And then years and years, like, come on.
SPEAKER_00:That's what I've always been like. If you I know there's like different, like there's high school sweethearts, and like there's those kind of scenarios where it's like, yes, you guys have been together for like so many years, and you want to wait till you're an adult and like actually make the question, but I don't know. Like I was with John for five years and we met when I was 20 and he was 18. So, you know, we were kind of younger, and then it kind of got to that point where it's like, okay, now we're in our mid-20s, like we feel like we're ready to like make that commitment. But I don't know, any longer than like five years just like is seems crazy to me. Like, I see people like, oh yeah, we just got engaged, like it's we've been together for 10 years, and I'm like, You should have left five years ago. I'm just like, I think it's crazy.
SPEAKER_01:You want my other like super hot take and talk about it? I would love to hear this because this could get me canceled, but yeah, it is like actually bothering me. It makes me so frustrated when a couple has been together, like you said, 10, 12 years. Literally, they have two or three kids.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, the kids are.
SPEAKER_01:Like they're doing, they're doing you're doing all of the family things. You're doing all like my guy. Where's the ring then? You can do all that. So stop milking the cow for free. Yeah, and and get the cow. Period. The whole thing. You've you're doing the whole thing, just get married. Yeah. And if you're not, why not? Yeah. What is like what is going on? What's the reason? What is the reason? And even if it's you go to the justice of the peace or you do a micro and you do something small, but I'm gonna married at the courthouse.
SPEAKER_00:I'm not saying it's anything.
SPEAKER_01:I'm like, oh my gosh, you have two or three kids, you're doing the whole established family thing and you're not taking that step of marriage. Like, are is this an open relationship? Are you guys like just doing because it you appear to be roommates?
SPEAKER_00:I would be like embarrassed, honestly, if I was like with someone or like with a man and had multiple kids with him and like 12 years on it and like no ring, I'd be like, uh what's going on?
SPEAKER_01:I guess I don't get it. And maybe it's just like from a moral standpoint, or maybe I'm like super old school, but that the kids see that too. You know what I mean? Like the kids, these this is your family unit. Why aren't we sharing? Why, why isn't mom and dad married?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, they're just dating. I agree.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, even the taxes, like after so many years of living together, even so many years of living together, you like filed joint, not married. Yeah. So like even the IRS has it figured out. Like, Mijo, why haven't you figured it out yet?
SPEAKER_00:Just marry her. Yeah. No, that drives me insane. It drives me nuts. Um, I think that too. And then short, I mean, I don't know. I've I've seen people obviously date for I think my mom and dad, but I mean, that was like so long ago. And I guess some Mormons do it. They do. Well, I was gonna say, I think about those who go straight into courtship.
SPEAKER_01:People who like skip the dating phase, they go into like a courtship, and then like two months later they're engaged, and then the wedding's four months later.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know how they do that. Genuinely, like, hats off to them. I don't know how they plan their wedding so fast, but well, when you have 19 kids in county, everybody plays.
SPEAKER_01:Everyone gets a roll.
SPEAKER_00:Everyone has to play.
SPEAKER_01:They're like, you're on flowers, you're on catering. Exactly. Trash duty. Trash duty. Exactly. Um, all right, let's talk about the proposal pressure social media versus reality. It's so sad how social media, I think it's beautiful to share your love story on social media. It makes it so sad that it's always being one-upped by the expectation when it's about you and your partner.
SPEAKER_00:Yep. I know it's funny. I this is kind of random, but I was at my girlfriend's house last night and she is a gorgeous house, and it's like decorated to the nines, like everything like I wish my house looked like. And then I was like, you know what? I'm like, comparison is the thief of all joy. I was like, I have a beautiful like home, I have a roof over my head, I have a bed to sleep on, you know. And so I kind of took a second back and said, okay, no, I have a lot more than some people wish they could have. So I think that comes too with like engagements and weddings and just doing your wedding and you know, enjoying your engagement and not letting the pressure of like social media taint your special time. Yeah, we don't want that.
SPEAKER_01:I agree. Um, and so let's talk through. Oh, this goes back to your ring comment. Um, engagement myth. Bigger ring equals better marriage.
SPEAKER_00:I don't think better marriage, but I feel like I've talked about this before on this podcast, or I know I even posted a TikTok about it, but it like sends me into orbit when I see a girl like post her ring and it's like super tiny. I'm sorry. Like if it literally looks like you haven't watched the summer I turned pretty. No, right?
SPEAKER_01:And I won't.
SPEAKER_00:If it looks like Belly's ring, I'm calling the cops in and then also breaking up with you right then and there. Okay. Like, I just think it's crazy that your man could spend money on sports gambling, going out to the bar, but can't take the time and money to get you a nice ring.
SPEAKER_01:So it's funny you say that because there was just an article that came out on the perception of ring size has actually changed. Okay. Um, you know, because it used to be it that the ring needed to be worth like three months of the man's income. Yeah. Like that's like the traditional. Um, but now a lot of people are starting to say that the bigger the ring, it almost looks too gaudy and like some of those celebrity weddings. And so people are starting to resort back to the more simple, minimalist looking ring, which you are not a fan of.
SPEAKER_00:No, I don't okay. Well, I'm not saying like it. You're gonna go protest. I know her ring. Get her the I'm just here for the ladies, okay? I want our queens to get what they deserve, and they deserve a nice ring. Point blank, period.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, but does it have to be that big of a document?
SPEAKER_00:No, I'm not saying it needs to be like disgustingly gaudy, but I'm just saying, like, when it looks like you got it at Walmart, I'm just concerned. Like that's what I'm saying. I don't think, like, even when John was buying my ring, I was like, do not be going out getting alone or like whatever. I want a nice ring, but be reasonable about it, you know? And that's how we also, too, I think that's a good thing to talk about. One, I think you should 1000% go ring shopping with your man. Love the men, but they're they're men. So um I feel like that way you're not disappointed. And also it's kind of it's just fun to do to like go look and you know, try on different rings and styles and stuff. So, I mean, yes, I don't think it needs to be insanely gaudy, but like something that your woman deserves.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:That's all I'm saying.
SPEAKER_01:All right.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, next thing. Um, how do you feel technology has changed dating though?
SPEAKER_01:Oh man.
SPEAKER_00:Oh lord.
SPEAKER_01:A lot of people meet on social media.
SPEAKER_00:I always say this. I'm so glad I met John when I did because I don't know how people date now. Like with just the dating apps, and it's just, but what's funny to me is like I feel like every person that's dating is like, I want to meet someone authentically. But then it's like they just revert back to the dating apps. It's like if everyone wants to meet someone authentically, why aren't we all just like out mingling and meeting people? You know, and I know it's scary, like obviously putting yourself out there and trying to meet people and stuff like that, but I could not imagine dating right now with in 2026.
SPEAKER_01:I think what's even funnier, and this is so terrible, there is a Facebook group um for like the Phoenix Valley area. I'm not in this group for. The record. I just hear about it or like because it's so toxic. But I it's something it's called like, Are we dating the same man? Or and so, like a bunch, like not the mixed hundreds of thousands of girls are on this and they'll like take screenshots or like conversations, be like, Hey, is anybody else with this dude? Stop, and they'll like be able, they've connected. And so the reason I think honestly I love that thing is hilarious because they're like, Yeah, he took me out last Thursday, and they're like, Well, he said he was at his mom's last Thursday, and there's like a chain of girls, and I'm like, Yeah, this is like where you're trying to get it. Honestly, I love that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, this is where my trust issues start. It's on this group. This is where it unfolds in real time.
SPEAKER_01:Um I think that uh yes, the internet has changed it significantly. I know some amazing couples that have come out of the city. No, for sure. I know there's yeah, and plenty of the farmers only.
SPEAKER_00:I've seen a lot of people actually get married from Hinge because I think it's supposed to be the dating app that's supposed to be deleted, is their slogan.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. I don't know. Does that make sense? Yeah, it does, but I don't know anything about dating apps. Like like I do. Well, I I don't even yeah, okay.
SPEAKER_00:I'm just saying that there's I've seen a lot of couples come from that app.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Which, so if you're trying to date on a dating app, go to that one because I've seen a lot of people.
SPEAKER_01:What's up with uh the old men on TikTok that slide into DMs and are like, Oh my god, I get so many a day.
SPEAKER_00:I always joke with John. I'm like, but like what if it's like he's like, oh my god, stop. And I'm like, well, you know, it's just like 2000.
SPEAKER_01:What if that's what if that's the opportunity? All I have to do is make him dinner.
SPEAKER_00:I know, it's fine. Like, it's fine, it's our meal ticket. I know. I'm like, and then we can go on a trip to Hawaii. It'll it'll pay for vacation. It's worth it.
SPEAKER_01:That's cringe. And guys, if anybody is listening or paying attention, please stop sliding into DMs like a weirdo. Yeah, it's gross, it makes you look bad. It just like and then you end up on the Facebook group where all of the girls roast you. Like that's just what it turns into. No, it really keep your aura, don't lose points. Like, let it be. Just keep it. Go meet pretty authentically.
SPEAKER_00:Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Um, let's talk about what no one tells you about being engaged. Dun dun. Um, couples get engaged. I think the first few days are usually the shock factor. It's official, it's happening. We're gonna start planning the wedding. Um, and then all the emotions set in. Um, brides often feel pressure um to please everyone. Some days are giddy and others are exhausting and you're tired. There's lots of decisions and decision fatigue. We've done lots of episodes on um like protecting your mental health through the wedding planning process. So if you're in that stage, go check out those episodes because we talk a lot about mental health. Um, what are your thoughts? Do you feel like there's anything that in your engagement season that nobody talked through?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I mean, I feel like the biggest stress is always like money is, you know, that's where a lot of it's not so much about the planning aspect because that's the fun part. But then when those payments come in, the emails, deposit is due. I think that's like the hardest thing. And I think that's where a lot of like brides are coming from that I've seen is, you know, exactly you're engaged, you're like, yay, it's it's we need to start planning. And then the reality of how much a wedding costs and how much goes into it starts to settle. So I think that's what I see a lot. I feel like just money makes it tough. But I mean, it's a reality, unfortunately.
SPEAKER_01:The marriage needs to be the focus. So that is the end goal.
SPEAKER_00:Yep. So 100%. Speaking of getting engaged and planning our wedding, should you be planning the wedding before the engagement? How do you feel about that?
SPEAKER_01:I see it all the time. Like I genuinely see it all the time.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I probably mean.
SPEAKER_00:I think that's literally I'm sorry. If you do that, I'm so sorry you can hate me. I think that's actually insane.
SPEAKER_01:I think it has a lot to do with dates book up so far out. And so couples are trying to jump on the bandwagon to get their dates secure, even though the engagement isn't. Um I see it a lot. Yeah. So I know. Because often I'll ask couples like, how's engagement going? Um, or you know, how's the planning process? And I'm probably like two out of ten.
SPEAKER_00:Well, we're not engaged yet, but I mean, I guess like at a certain point you know you're gonna be with your partner. So I guess I can see it from that aspect of like, but I'm just like, if you're taking the time to literally go to a venue and get quotes and do stuff, where's your ring?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I just like I don't understand. The wedding's gonna be the deposit probably to book the venue is gonna be more expensive than probably what you're gonna pay for a ring. So I just don't see that. Like the point of that. I had a ex-friend that I will not be naming, but she kind of did the same thing. She made a big group chat with like all of her girls and verbatim telling us this is the ring I want, this is how I want to be proposed. Everything, like, I want this big engagement party. And I just remember like, what? I was like, you're literally one planning your own engagement, which for me, I feel like it should be a surprise. I mean, a lot of times girls catch on, but like, think your man should be planning that for you. Um, so I just thought that was so crazy. I was just like, I read, it was like verbatim, like a long text thread of exactly what she wanted. I'm like, why are you planning your own proposal? I was like, that makes me sad, and they're not together anymore. So I think it was for the best.
SPEAKER_01:But so save that text message and put it in your notes. And the next dude that she meets, just send it to him like this is exactly what I'm saying to and just say, Hey, this is what she expects from you.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, is this gonna be okay? Is this gonna work for you?
SPEAKER_01:Because this is what she wants.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, so it was crazy to me.
SPEAKER_01:But is Valentine's Day cute or cringe? I love it. Okay, okay.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, I feel like I will give my man props. Like, he always, my husband, he always, um, whether we're low on money or not, he always like makes sure I get something for Valentine's Day. And I think that's special. And but also, too, I don't like put pressure on him. I'm like, I need every, I need like 20 gifts. Like, I'm always just like, yeah, whatever you want to get me, I don't need anything elaborate. So, you know, in some years it's been crazy, or we did the trip one year, or some days it's just or yours it's sunflowers, and I'm happy with that. Okay. I love it, and we know how you feel about it. So scrooge. I know she's the Scrooge or the Grinch of Valentine's Day. We didn't come up with a a name for the Grinch of Valentine's Day. Yeah, it's like has to be like opposite a Cupid or something. Literally DM us what your your um or send us to Instagram DM. We want to hear if you can think of a name for a Grinch of Valentine's Day. I'm gonna have to like chat GPT that. Yeah. Okay. Um, I feel like we kind of already talked about this a little bit, but um, the most common relationship arguments during wedding planning, um, I would say is probably gonna be money, um, disagreements. Um, and I think two um also different love languages can kind of come into the planning process. Um, you know, if you're acts of service and you feel like your fiance isn't helping with the planning, or you know, or if you like um what else is there? Words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch, and receiving gifts. I feel like everyone's is different. So I feel like it can cause issues during white planning. What's yours?
SPEAKER_01:My love language, yeah. Um, words of affirmation.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. I like that. What is yours? I would say acts of service. Okay. Yeah, like taking out the trash or just doing stuff like that. I like that. That's what I like. Okay, you're up.
SPEAKER_01:I'm up.
SPEAKER_00:Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so some of the things that I've learned about love after seeing hundreds of couples.
SPEAKER_00:Literally.
SPEAKER_01:Um, I can spot true love versus superficial love in like the first two minutes of a conversation.
SPEAKER_00:No way.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, yeah. Okay. Um that's your superpower. That's my superpower. I love that online. Like genuine, true love couples who, and it's not because they're super affectionate or they're giddy, it's the communication, it's the energy that they carry, it's um the way they talk about each other to one another, or if the other one's not around. It is so cool to be able to spot, like, wow, you two really genuinely love each other. You're excited for life together. And then the ones that are completely superficial.
SPEAKER_00:It just makes you so sad. Like, obviously, I've been to a lot of weddings, and I feel like that too. I wouldn't say I'm as good as you, but like you can tell as the night goes by if it's genuine, if it's just we're together because we're together. And you know, it sucks sometimes when you see the we're just together because we're together. Yeah. You know. So um, okay, a few more things. How you can stay connected when planning your wedding. It's very stressful. Um, a few things, you can schedule no wedding time. Yep. So whether that's, you know, a specific day, like, hey, Monday, we're not gonna talk about wedding stuff. Um, I think two just like date nights, you know, go out, have a date night. We're not talking about wedding budget, things like that. Um, and of course, to remember the why.
SPEAKER_01:Yes.
SPEAKER_00:That's the biggest part.
SPEAKER_01:I love that. Um, should couples skip? This is the last one that I have. Okay. I have one more too. You have one more and then we'll wrap up. Perfect. So, should couples skip Valentine's Day once they're engaged or married? So, for being the Grinch of Valentine's Day, I say no. Okay. Um, romantic jet gestures, I think, are what matter. And I think that has been um to give my husband props. I'm more of a girl that's like, it's a random Tuesday and I was thinking of you, so I brought you home flowers. Those go a million miles versus like day here, it's the 14th of February, so I got you a dozen roses. And he has learned that. Yeah. So I don't think you should skip it. I don't think so. Yeah, even if you're married or engaged. I also think that you should celebrate your love more than just your anniversary and Valentine's Day.
SPEAKER_00:I agree at that 100%. Okay, last thing before we wrap up V-Day proposals dreamy or overhyped.
SPEAKER_01:Uh I think Valentine's Day. I think the proposal is fine.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. I think it's cute. Um, that's like my one of my favorite movies ever is have you seen it? It's literally called Valentine's Day, but it's one of those like the rom-con. Yes. I watch that every Valentine's or like season because I think it's just so cute. And I think I know a few of the characters get proposed too on Valentine's Day. Yeah. And I think it can be cute. I like it. I I say dreamy, not overhyped.
SPEAKER_01:Yep.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Have you seen he's not that into you? It was it dropped on Valentine's Day. No. In like probably oh nine, 2010.
SPEAKER_00:I know what you're talking about, but I've never watched it.
SPEAKER_01:It was so cute. It's like such a cute rom-com. Okay. He's just not that into you. Or he's not in something like he's like, doesn't even care about you. Yeah. It's cute. I feel like Bradley Cooper's in it. There's some good like names.
SPEAKER_00:Good names in there. Yeah. Okay. I'll watch that. I'll do my homework. I'll watch that. So. Okay.
unknown:All right.
SPEAKER_01:Well, happy Valentine's Day. Happy Valentine's Day Valentine's Day to all of our girlies. I know. Um, if you enjoyed this episode, be sure to like, comment, subscribe on YouTube. You will also find us on TikTok. TikTok. On TikTok. And Instagram. Um, feel free to DM us if you have any questions, need anything, because we love supporting and walking through this journey with you. So we're here for you. Until next time. Bye.