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045 - How To Spot The People Sabotaging Your Big Day
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We unpack why weddings trigger hidden resentments—from best friends who feel replaced to parents losing control—and share practical ways to protect your peace. Money stress, sibling dynamics, and friend bias meet clear boundaries, empathy, and smarter planning.
• reasons best friends feel replaced and how it shows
• how to choose safe confidants and protect your relationship
• the bridesmaid cost trap and setting money expectations early
• single friends’ grief versus jealousy and gentle ways to include them
• sibling rivalries resurfacing and assigning roles by trust
• parents’ control, financial strings, and boundary scripts
• friends who dislike your partner and asking for specifics
• guests who hate weddings and simplifying for sanity
• accepting you cannot please everyone and staying aligned as a couple
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Who Secretly Hates Your Wedding
SPEAKER_01Hey Queens, it's Kelsey and Grace here with another episode of the Wedding High Podcast. Today we have a juicy episode for you today. And today we're gonna be talking about the people who secretly hate your wedding.
SPEAKER_02Dun dun dun dun.
Why Best Friends Feel Replaced
SPEAKER_01Honestly, I think this is gonna be a good episode because I think it's reality. It's true. There's, you know, people in your life you you are gonna find out during your wedding process aren't really who you thought they were. I think the uh I don't know if theory is the correct word, but the saying of you really find out who people are when you get married is so true. So we're gonna dive into that today. Yep. Um, okay. So first things first, we're gonna talk about um maybe just like reasons why these kind of things can happen. And that is the best friend who feels replaced, um, and why they secretly hate it pretty much. Um, you know, if you think and you know what, then pretty much why they just hate your wedding. So um basically, I don't know. I always feel like it's tough sometimes when you're you have a best friend and like you're in a relationship and they're not. I feel like it can be like strenuous. Like I remember when me and John first started dating, we definitely had not issues, but his friends feeling like, oh, you pick her over me, blah, blah, blah. And I'm thinking, well duh. Yep. So I feel like that's very common. Um, if you think about it, a lot of friends can be going through that they were your person before the partner.
SPEAKER_00Yep.
SPEAKER_01And now they feel replaced and like, what about me? Um, and also to fear that they're being downgraded in your life, which I feel like can happen, but I don't know. I feel like I make just as much time for my best friend as I do for my husband.
SPEAKER_02Maybe that's terrible. Saying you are a good best friend.
SPEAKER_01I try. Well, it's just it's easy because of John's schedule. I can do stuff during the day, and then by the time I'm done, I'll come home and spend time. So I'm conscious about how I split the time, but I think it can be done.
SPEAKER_00When I was a stay-at-home mom years ago, my when a lot of I had a really good core group of other moms whose husbands worked during the day. And so we would spend our days at the park together or go to like different like kids' activities. And so we had that really good community of the moms and like friend time. Yeah, the kids developed those relationships. And then by the time we got home, we'd like do naps and I'd do housework and yeah, Tomas would get home and we'd be able to have a normal life. So even though I was just shitting on it, once I stepped back and thought about it, I went, wait a second. I actually did have real now in my season of life, I don't have any time for friends. Yeah. And even my husband I'm your one friend. Like, you actually are my only friend race. I feel so honored. You are my only friend.
SPEAKER_01If it makes you feel better, I what? I don't have kids, and I maybe have like 10 solid like friends that I like hang out pretty occasionally with, but that's about it.
SPEAKER_00Yes. Um, the only this is so bad, but it's true. My my closest people, they we have each other on like find my iPhone or find my iPhone.
SPEAKER_01I have all my sims. I have find money for everyone.
SPEAKER_00Everybody, I started telling people I'm working, I'm homeschooling, I'm with my husband, I'm with Grace, or I'm not available because I'm reading a book. I'm not available and check where I'm at, and if I'm in a ditch, then start making phone calls to find. That's when you need a book. But if my little blue bubble is moving, then that means your girl is alive and don't call me.
SPEAKER_01Keep them busy, baby. Correct. I love that. Also, too, that made me think of you talking about your mom like friend group. Yeah. Did you see all the tea with Hillary Duff and like Megan Trainer and Ashie Tisdale? Okay, I have no idea what you're talking about. Oh.
SPEAKER_00But I have no idea what you're talking about. But for the first time, we had a game night with um some of our really good friends that we do not see enough. Um, so it was amazing. We got together. Um, and we played Uno Attack. Like, true story. Have you played Uno Attack? No. Okay, it is so fun. It's like your traditional Uno game, but instead you have to like press the button of the machine and like it might not shoot out Uno cards at you, or it's gonna shoot out like 15 and it like actually explodes in your face and you're completely screwed. You have one car left and then it spits out 15.
SPEAKER_01Correct. That's pretty much a story of my Saturday night.
SPEAKER_00That's exactly what happened. Thanks for bringing that up. Um, yeah, but the comment was made about Hillary Duff coming out with a new album or a music video.
SPEAKER_01She dropped, I from what I've seen, I do follow her on Instagram and she's on like a mini tour right now. I think she's going on a big tour, which I mean, I'm here for. I love her.
SPEAKER_00I'm the total Lizzie McGuire girl.
SPEAKER_01Oh yeah, come clean, like all those bops. Um, so I don't know. I know she dropped a new song for sure, and there's a music video she dropped. But yeah, I mean, I'm here for it. If she's wanting to get back out there and hit the stage, I'm here for it.
SPEAKER_00Just I'm just waiting for you to go, uh Oh yeah. Have you ever seen such a beautiful night?
SPEAKER_01I was actually last year with one of my girlfriends. We did Lizzie Maguire and um Isabella. Yep. So it was like perfect. She had the long brown hair, I had the long before I cut my hair, um, long blonde hair, and it was just iconic.
SPEAKER_00I got um the Lizzie McGuire movie for my 12th birthday, and I like cried. Oh, I would cry. Like the DVD. I got the DVD. Oh, yeah. That's like me. It was like on repeat. Your mom's like, turn that shit off if I hear mom. Um actually, I also got a TV. This is this will tell you how old I am. Box TV. Um, it was a box TV with a D player. And it, you know, the TV is like not even like it's like eight inches big. It's so tiny. Yeah. You're just wonder why I wear glasses and have to like poor pigeon. You're like, I can't even see.
SPEAKER_02That was the day. Oh, that's awesome.
SPEAKER_01So but basically, back to the tea is Ashley Tistel had come out with an article with I don't know, magazine, just stating how she left her toxic mom group. And everyone knew that her, Megan Traynor, Mandy Moore, Hillary Duff were all in a mom friend group. So then it came out that, you know, clearly the dots are aligning. She's clearly talking about all these celebrity moms and how toxic they were. And I know Hillary Duff's husband went on his Instagram story and like just basically bashed her. Like, I can't believe you would say this kind of stuff, or like even write an article, yada yada. But it was just like that's so sad.
SPEAKER_00I will be honest, mom groups can be toxic. Oh, I believe that shit. So judgmental.
SPEAKER_01The housemaid. Do you remember that part of the movie? Yes. When they're like all city and then it's like, oh my God, let's do the fundraiser, blah, blah, blah. And then she walks away and they're just mad talking crap about her.
SPEAKER_00Correct. Like you, you have to find a good, solid group of moms, or which I've been blessed to have many of good, healthy mom groups in my life of mothering, but they can be no bueno.
Mom Groups, Pop Culture, And Toxic Tea
Signs A Friend Resents Your Engagement
SPEAKER_01No bueno. Um, okay, so basically, we're gonna get back to what we were talking about for this whole episode. We just rambled. Um, so signs for the best friend who feels replaced. I'm happy for you, but energy. That gives me like the biggest ick. I just hate those friends that you can just tell they can never give you that satisfaction or just like praise or like lift you up.
SPEAKER_02Just let it be.
SPEAKER_01Yes. And then also, too, maybe like passive aggressive jokes about marriage, because you're single as a Pringle and you're getting wifed up. So look out for that. Um, oh, this is a good one. Dragging their feet on bridesmaids' duties. I think that's very accurate. Yep. Um, and overanalyzing your partner, maybe being nitpicky, you know, calling them out on stuff that isn't necessary. I feel like that's a sign too. Or what do you think?
SPEAKER_00I'm not gonna go off on a side tangent.
SPEAKER_01No, I want to hear your side tangent.
SPEAKER_00There is something very important when, and this is like it's kind of that gray line. However, when you decide to settle down and do life with somebody, you want to protect that relationship. Um, and so being very thoughtful of the things that you say to other people, like even and you want to have the right people in your life to be able to hear those things and you know, give support or positive feedback. You don't want people in your life that are going to hear those things and hold on to them forever. So, like example, I make dinner, my husband doesn't like it. He's like, this was the worst dinner ever. It hurt my feelings because I feel like I made a good dinner. So the next day I go and I sit down with my friends for coffee, and I'm like, oh my gosh, he just he dogged on my dinner last night. I swear he doesn't like anything that I make. And then two, three weeks later go by, not a big deal. It's nothing. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm so grateful. My husband, you know, took me out to dinner tonight. And that friend's like, yeah, it's because everything that you make, he hates. Because they're constantly reminding you of all the mistakes your partner has made. You have to protect. So it's so it's that hard line because we're not like for domestic violence. Like if there's an issue, yeah, you need to have sound people. I think there's, yeah, 100%. You are you the you are the one that is going to have the most grace in most of the situations and be the one to forgive them. If you can forgive your partner, you're the people in your small circle need to learn to forgive. So they're not holding the grudge and just ready to shoot arrows. Otherwise, that becomes a toxic friend group or a toxic relationship because it's not supporting your marriage.
SPEAKER_01Yep. You know what I'm saying? No, I I've been through that before, I feel like in the past of like feeling as if I confide in a friend about, you know, stuff because, you know, I think it's normal for anyone to confide in friends about, you know, whether it's family issues, your relationship issues, but then almost feeling like down the road, well, oh, well, this, well, oh, well, that's correct. And so then I kind of learned on my own to really pick and choose who I decided to share stuff with. Correct. Or even to share anything at all. I think there's a certain, I'm interested on your opinion actually about this, um, on how much you share with other people about what goes on in a relationship. I'm not saying tell every single detail, but I don't know. I feel like I've seen a lot of people talk about, oh, it's just healthy to keep everything in your relationship between your relationship.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01But then part of me is like, I feel like I would go stir crazy.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. You know, I do have one, I have one person in my life um who is extremely like that I am extremely close to. And my, they absolutely love and adore my husband and our family and our family unit and want nothing but the best for us. And that is always how they see it. And so if, you know, I'm frustrated with him or we get into a fight and I just need to like girl vent essentially, I can girl vent, but this person also will not always have my back. They very, very often will be able to, they can look at it from both sides. Yeah. And um actually, it's so funny. I just had this conversation with them yesterday. I I was making a comment about something, and I said, I don't feel like he's taking it seriously. And because he's not taking it seriously, it means that he doesn't care. I don't feel like he cares because he's not taking this seriously. Um, you know, we've had these house projects on the list forever, and every weekend has been busy. We have all five boys in football right now. Like all five of our sons are in football, so we are running around like psychopaths trying to get everywhere. My car is in the shop, so we have a rental, like just everything is happening at once. So this to-do list is not getting done. So I'm irritated and I go, I wish that he would get this done. Like, I just don't think that he cares. Well, he's shifting his priorities, and you have to be able to recognize that he's doing the best that he can. And I'm like, well crap.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, fine.
SPEAKER_00Like, all right. Because so I have one person that I do share a lot with, but there are still things that are protected within the walls.
SPEAKER_01Um I think there's a certain amount of like stuff that's healthy to share with like friends to feel like you can confide in someone and maybe you just be like, or or you know, I think it's good too. Like no one's perfect in relationships, everyone has different experiences with relationships. So getting opinions of like, hey, what should I do? Is this something serious? Am I overthinking it? I think is like healthy too.
SPEAKER_00So I think that I don't I think you have to be really careful because you never want to say something to somebody else that you wouldn't say to your partner. You have to be willing to say it to your partner.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, which is tough.
SPEAKER_00Um, so because you don't want to, you know, be you don't want secrets, you don't want things to be hidden because everything comes to light at some point, and it would that's hurtful and that causes more damage. But I think it is important to have a safe person. You figure out early, like you're saying, the people that you do and do and not share stuff with.
SPEAKER_02Correct. Jeez. So that's my random two cents.
SPEAKER_01No, and I love that. But to end my segment, um, just remember though, it is fair to expect your best friend to just be as excited as you, I think, during the wedding planning process. So um make sure you have people who are in your corner cornering and it make you feel excited.
The Bridesmaid And The Bill
SPEAKER_00Yes. Um, all right, going into the next one of the people who secretly hate your wedding. Um, let's talk about the bride maids, the bridesmaid who resents the cost. Because gives me anxiety. I know. So um, this is the one that quietly explodes. Um, what they're not saying is I can't afford this, but I'm embarrassed to admit it. Um, why is your wedding costing me a vacation's worth of money? Or why do I have to suffer because you're in love? I don't even know what I would say. If I think if I had a bride's year out. I'd be like, goodbye. Respectfully, that's the door, and I want to see it close behind you.
SPEAKER_01100%. I think it's yeah, it's tough when it comes to bridesmaids, and you know, obviously it comes with money obligations, but I think being front like up front of before even asking bridesmaids, before you're already in that predicament of, hey, it's gonna cost XYZ. I'm expecting you to pay for this. Are you gonna be financially responsible? If not, I would rather just ask someone else so that way there's no tension. Um, but yeah, I I don't know. I think it's fair to obviously pay for stuff if you're a bridesmaid, but be conscious.
SPEAKER_00Yep. Too. Because the hidden tension is money plus obligation plus friendship is usually a resentment cocktail. And the profession, the pressure to perform enthusiasm, if they have to work and take that much energy to act enthusiastic, they might not be the person that you want on your wedding day next to you. So exp expensive weddings really test loyalty more than it tests love.
SPEAKER_01That's so true. Let's see right there. Yeah, I think, you know, I remember too with my bridesmaids, I made sure I asked them I think almost a year in advance. Okay. And so I felt like that gave them enough time with the money obligations to feel like it was spread out, you know, when it came to buying their dresses and hair and makeup, you know, I would be like, hey, if you want to send me half now, or whenever you get like a big paycheck. And, you know, I think just being really good about open communication because money is always awkward to talk about.
SPEAKER_00Yes.
SPEAKER_01It's like the most, I feel like it might be the most awkward subject to talk about besides being in a fight with someone.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01I know it's just like very awkward.
SPEAKER_00Um, so just be tell me about the single friends, because you mentioned that earlier.
Single Friends Feeling Left Behind
SPEAKER_01Oh, yes. Um, okay, so we're gonna talk about the single friend who feels left behind. Um, like we said, the stuff that we're talking about in here is delicate, but it's real. This stuff happens. Um, what could be in, you know, happening internally? Um, your wedding could be mirroring what they don't have, which is very true. Um, fear that they're aging out of milestones, feeling invisible at couple centric events. Um, maybe to see the signs of that, you know, pulling away emotionally, skipping wedding events, becoming hyper um critical of marriage as an institution. Um, but this sometimes I feel like isn't so much jealousy, it could just be grief of what maybe you wish you had.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01I feel like a lot of people, um, and I've talked about this, is you know, you know, comparison is the thief of all joy. So, you know, some people they want that, or you know, you're maybe getting older and like you wish you had a partner and were getting married. So I think it's definitely real and can happen.
Sibling Rivalries Resurface
SPEAKER_00I up. So this one is right in my alley. Oh shit, because it is the siblings with unresolved rivalry. No, I do not have any rivalries with my siblings. I have amazing siblings, I have great relationships with each of them individually. And as of this day, there's no beef. So but I am in the world of raising children. And oh yeah, so um, weddings bring back childhood dynamics and they just resurface. So, why siblings hate weddings? Um, old comparisons resurface. Younger siblings beating them to beating them to marriage, not physically beating. Um, I kind of giggled. Um, but you know, younger siblings getting married maybe before older siblings, and then parents suddenly recentering uh one child, meaning that one child all of a sudden is the golden child because they're getting all of the attention. So these are some chaotic indicators, powers, struggles over speeches, um, sabotaging planning decisions, making the day about themselves. So the juicy question is do weddings reward the successful sibling?
SPEAKER_01That's tough. I feel like that's like so true, like not only in weddings when it comes to siblings, but just life in general, too, like who has a better degree, who's more educated, who has the most money. And I think weddings aren't any different. Correct when it can come to that situation. Um, I feel like I've been very lucky. I have two older siblings. They're one year apart, I'm seven years after them. So um, I mean, my sister got married when I was 15. So, like, no beef there. And my brother got married, you know, she's like almost 10 years after that. So, um, and then there was me, the golden child. So, you know, the youngest.
SPEAKER_02The youngest.
SPEAKER_01I'm the baby and a favorite.
SPEAKER_02The center of attention. Exactly.
SPEAKER_01No, so but I think that's super realistic. And I don't know, if I had a sibling, I feel like it's one thing for a friend to be shitty during your wedding time, but a sibling, yeah. I don't know.
SPEAKER_00That just I hear what you're saying, but there's but again, it all is rooted back to that like childhood beef that might not have been resolved, or the constant being shadowed behind the one of the other siblings.
SPEAKER_01Maybe this is a hot take. I feel like it's so true, and I've talked about this with my own siblings, is and me too coming like so many years after them. Like, we definitely grew up like completely different, even though we're like in the same household. Um, but also I think there's a point where it's like you kind of just gotta grow up, you know, like in a certain sense. I'm sure I'm sure there's like more intense situations, but if it's like you got to have a phone when you're in sixth grade, and I didn't have one until I was in eighth grade, you know, when it's stuff like that, it's just like who cares? But I feel like in a sense, it's like unless there's some deep-rooted issues, I feel like you should be happy for your sibling.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, it doesn't work like that. And that's what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_01I haven't had to deal with that as much, but I don't know.
SPEAKER_00What's the age gap from you and the next sibling?
SPEAKER_01Um, six years.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. So you're you're like right there of being considered like almost an only child.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_00I think it's seven years, is what they say psychologically, is that is that break. Um I'm gonna start telling my siblings that I'm gonna be like, hey guys, I'm actually an only child. You were raised as like the way that you were being raised.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I know that's true.
SPEAKER_00Because yes, those sibling issues, they they don't go away.
SPEAKER_01Yep, they're just sitting there.
SPEAKER_00So let's talk about those parents raising those children.
Parents Losing Control
SPEAKER_01Yes, yeah. So the parent who feels like they're losing control, just like we talked about. If you guys listened to our last episode, um, we talked a little bit about the whole situation with Brooklyn Beckham and his mom Victoria. Um, especially mothers tend to lose control when it comes to weddings. The I love my baby boy, my son. I'm not gonna lie, that probably gives me like the biggest ache. If I was with a man and his mom was like that, I'd be like, Yeah, I gotta go.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, I'm a boy mom and I'm I love, like I said, I love my kids.
SPEAKER_01I'm a boy mom, but there's yeah, of course, love your child, but when it gets weird, yeah, that's weird. It's just I don't like that. Um, so why this can hit hard is symbolic loss of influence, clashing traditions, realizing you're no longer the center of their child of you know your child's world. Um, and how it can show up during wedding planning, over involvement disguised as help, emotional guilt, and financial strings attached. I feel like those are good ones. Like, I feel like I'm sure a lot of people deal with this during wedding planning is emotional guilt from parents, whether that's financially, or you should do this, or you should have this design, or I'm financially obligated, so I need to have, you know, say in all this stuff. So I feel like have we talked about that? Financial strings. What's your take on that? If you if your parents are paying for it, do you think they should have a say in design, guess count what food you're having, or do you think it should still be what the couple wants?
SPEAKER_00I think there needs to be a conversation about it. Okay. I'm not like super I'm not one way or another. I think every real every couple's situation is different.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_00Like I would want my parents it I would want their input, their thoughts, their opinions. Um, and then I meet other couples and their parents, and I'm like, I would not want their thoughts or opinions. You're like, actually, you gotta go.
When Friends Dislike Your Partner
SPEAKER_01Correct. So I mean, yeah, I think it's fair if you're having parents financially obligated to have, you know, an opinion or, you know, be in meetings or whatever. Um, I feel like we did this really good. It was that was what we said we would love your opinions, or you guys to come to meetings, come to food tastings, but then they it's whatever we want. So, but it's kind of weird. I feel like other spots are different. Obviously, we had Cassidy on from Bloom and Blueprint, and she talked about how they have a little blurb in their contract, stating if you know parents are financially responsible, then that means they have a seat at the table. Um, but then it's it made me think of when I went back to getting my own wedding dress when we signed the contract. It says, you know, no matter who's paying for this, this dress goes to the bride. Yeah. Like you, the mom, even if your mom's paying, you cannot come pick it up and take it without you know the bride being present.
SPEAKER_00Yep.
SPEAKER_01So I thought that was kind of interesting. Like two different sides of the wedding world doing it a little different. So but um, so yeah, the hot take. Some parents don't hate the wedding, they hate the independence it represents.
SPEAKER_00Exactly. Um, this one is juicy, the friend who hates your partner. But smiles anyway. This is peak drama. Literally, and why they are conflicted is they see red flags you don't, they project past experiences, or they liked you better single. So some of the signs, backhanded compliments, um, saying things like, I just want what's best for you, um, or never fully warming up to your partner. So this is kind of goes into those relationships, those friendships that we were talking about, what you share, thoughts. I don't know, part of you know, seeing thinking about things like this, then do you really hate them or are you just secretly sad that you're not with them?
SPEAKER_01Is the real question. Do you actually like them and you want them instead? Correct.
SPEAKER_00And you're unhappy that I got them and you didn't. Um, so would you want to know if people disapproved of your marriage? That's a spicy dilemma. Ooh, everybody disapproved of my marriage. Yeah, everybody, nobody supported my marriage. And we're absolute haters and were convinced we were gonna get divorced. Yep, and here you are. Here we are, 13 years old. Proven everyone wrong.
Guests Who Hate Weddings
SPEAKER_01I mean, that's how my parents were. Like, my um they met and a lot of their family members didn't, they kind of almost did what she did. Like they met and they hung out and they got married very quickly, and um, yeah, they didn't approve. And what this year they'll be married 37 years. So block out the haters, baby. Exactly. Don't listen to everyone. Um, okay, next one we're gonna talk the guest who hates weddings in general. Loki, I feel like they're the villains. Yes. Um, why they're annoyed. Um, maybe just the fact that um time, money, and social performance, um, sitting through vows for people they barely know. This is why we discussed do not invite randos to your wedding. Um, destination, a wedding resentment. Um, I think these are all good too. Like you think about the bridesmaids and the family and their money obligations. But if you think about it, when you're a wedding guest, you kind of have an obligation too. Yeah. Obviously, most of the times you get, well, not most times, at least for sure, food, you know, free. And most people have an open bar. So I mean, you get that. But if it's far away, like time, money, gas, having to take off work, um outfits. Outfits.
SPEAKER_00Like, I feel like every time they'll never see me in the same dress at a white.
SPEAKER_01That's what I'm saying. I feel like if I have a wedding, I go get something.
SPEAKER_00Outfit.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. So money obligations to get new attire. I mean, the list could add up. So um, you know, guests pretending weddings are magical while counting down till the open bar. You better hope that guest got an open bar, they're gonna rage. All right, you want to fill up finish out our last topic? Wrap it up, or what are you thinking?
Can You Please Everyone
SPEAKER_00I think I'm gonna ask you a closing question for the. Okay, perfect. I'm done for that. Let's do it. All right. So here is the question, Grace. Okay. Can you have a wedding without disappointing someone? Or is that impossible?
SPEAKER_01I think that's impossible. I think I mean, with how many people are included in going into the wedding from family, friends, you know, whatever it may be, I think there's always gonna be one person that's gonna be disappointed.
SPEAKER_00I agree. I mean, as long as it's not the couple, yeah, and that's what I'm saying too.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, and I totally agree. As long as the couple's happy and everything's good and copacetic, then I mean, at the end of the day, it's your day. If someone's disappointed that they're like, oh, I really, I really don't like this venue. Well, guess what? It's not your wedding. Correct. So you can get married at whatever venue wanna get married at.
SPEAKER_00Or I don't like the food. Well, then be hungry. Yeah, exactly.
SPEAKER_01Period. That's what I'm saying. So yeah, I don't, I think there's always gonna be one person that's gonna be disappointed, unfortunately.
SPEAKER_00So if you decide that early on, then it takes the pressure off to keep everybody happy.
SPEAKER_01Yep, and you can enjoy your day exactly how you want.
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