Becoming Unstoppable - Rise, Thrive and Lead with Impact
Becoming Unstoppable is the go-to podcast for fierce female entrepreneurs ready to expand their empires with unapologetic growth, energy mastery, and bold, soul-aligned strategy. Hosted by mindset coach and manifesting queen Rachel Jackson, each episode delivers big energy, real talk, and magnetic tools to help you scale with purpose and become truly unstoppable.
Becoming Unstoppable - Rise, Thrive and Lead with Impact
Your Voice, Your Rules: The Mic Metaphor That Will Redefine Your Boundaries
Who’s Holding Your Microphone? Reclaiming Your Voice + Power
Have you ever felt like you're holding back your brilliance just to keep others comfortable? Like your growth is somehow threatening to those around you?
In this powerful episode of the Becoming Unstoppable Podcast, we're diving into the subtle — and not-so-subtle — ways other people’s expectations can silence our truth. Inspired by Jamie Kern Lima’s Believe It, I share a potent metaphor that shifted everything for me: your voice is your microphone. You decide who gets to hold it, how loud they speak, and when it’s time to take it back.
This visual is a game-changer when it comes to boundaries. You don’t need to cut people off entirely to honour your path. You can simply turn down their volume. And you get to amplify the voices that lift you higher — those who truly see you and believe in your vision.
Here’s the truth: when you start reclaiming your microphone from the people who've been holding it for too long, things might get uncomfortable. You may face resistance, judgement, even rejection. But their discomfort doesn’t mean you're doing it wrong — it means you’re evolving. And their voice doesn’t carry nearly as much weight when they’re no longer speaking through your mic.
This lens also brings fresh clarity to friendships. You don't need one person to be everything. You get to choose which friends speak into your microphone depending on what you need — wisdom, warmth, fire, or truth. That’s sovereignty.
So let me ask you:
✨ Who’s holding your microphone right now?
✨ Are they the right people?
✨ Are their voices aligned with your expansion?
You become the average of the five voices you turn up the loudest. Choose intentionally. Reclaim your power. And never forget — your microphone, your dreams, your destiny — they belong in your hands.
If this message resonates, come and join us inside the Becoming Unstoppable Sisterhood — the place where you’ll be supported, seen, and reminded of who the f*** you are. Let’s amplify the real you, together.
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Hi everyone, welcome to this week's podcast. I am so happy to share this topic with you because this one is something that all my clients struggle with and people in my Facebook groups and on Instagram, and I've really heard some amazing information and I feel like I need to share it with you. So I've been reading Jamie Kern Lima's book, believe it. Now, if you don't know who she is, she is the founder of it Cosmetics and I come across her on a Tony Robbins event. She was one of the speakers and she went through her journey and how she got to where she was and how she wanted to create this brand. That was about real women seeing themselves as beautiful. Now, for one, I just totally resonate with that. She's all about empowering women and real women and giving everybody a chance to shine their light and really bring out that superpower inside of them. So she is amazing for one, but her book is absolutely fantastic and I cannot recommend it enough. So I would definitely recommend having a look at Believe it if you haven't already. She's just inspiring. But one of the things really resonated with me what she said.
Speaker 1:So when I talk to clients and I start to get people believing in their own self-worth and really digging into that magic and seeing where they want their life to go, not where they've been told the life should go where they actually want it to go. That life they've dreamed of deep down, but it was like a dirty little secret they weren't allowed to share. And now, all of a sudden, they have this confidence and they have this way of being and this new way of thinking and all the people around them suddenly think have they gone crazy? Have they gone mad? And as you grow and develop, you've got to get to a point where you are setting boundaries with people so that you are not influenced by the people around you, because we are the sum of five people we spend the most time with. Now we say this all the time, but it's really difficult when you start to change and you start to adapt. It's not easy just to shut everybody out your life because they have a different opinion to you and just because you've grown faster than them, does it mean that you have to cut them off. It can be really difficult when we come against this and also we have that added baggage of they're always dragging me down. I've got to this point. I'm trying to be positive. They're always pulling me back. They're always making me feel bad. They're always making me feel like my dreams aren't worthy. Who can relate to this? I went through this massively.
Speaker 1:I used to talk about manifesting to people and they were like Rachel, have you just read like some crazy book and you've lost your mind? No, I'm going to be teaching people how to do this on a huge scale one day. Can you not see that? And they're like no, I can't. You just need to get on with your normal job and just live your normal life and just be normal. And I'd be like no, I don't want to be normal, I'm not normal, I'm absolutely bonkers, and I know that this dream is for me. So I had to get really savvy about who I shared this with, because I didn't want anybody pulling me back. I didn't want anybody thinking I was crazy or telling me I was crazy and then making me think, oh, I've got to stop. What am I doing? Because then I wouldn't have been sat here doing this podcast.
Speaker 1:So what Jamie says in her book and it's some advice she has been given from a friend I'm sorry I can't remember who that was, but this advice is in there in her book and she says you've got to think as if you have a microphone your life, your voice, your power. It is your microphone and you are walking around life with this microphone on a wire and it's yours to hold and handle. Now it's your choice who you give this microphone to. Now you'll know if you're in a bad place. You've probably given your microphone out to lots of different people to have lots of different opinions and lots of different sayings on what it is you're doing. Now that was me, my whole family, my whole friends, everybody around me, old bosses, horrible bosses, just people who I didn't really value as people. I would give them that microphone and I would be like, yeah, give me your opinion, I am going to turn you up loud and I am going to listen to everything you have to say about me. And that was me giving away my power to everyone around me.
Speaker 1:Now the power in this microphone is huge. So if you think you have this microphone, you can hand it to who you want, you can control the volume, you can turn it up when you want, you can turn it down when you want and you can turn it off when you want, and you can bring that microphone back and say you're not holding it anymore. So can you imagine the power in this If you have someone around you who is constantly feeding you negative information and dragging you down, take that microphone back off them or start to slowly turn the volume down so you don't have to listen to it anymore. You can smile and be nice to them and be courteous to them, but you don't have to listen to all that information and absorb it in because you have your microphone and you take it back off them. Now imagine you've got someone who's really positive in your life, bigs you up, makes you feel amazing. Give them the microphone and turn it up loud and listen to what they have to say. That, again, is in your gift, that is in your power.
Speaker 1:It's in your power to get around people that you want to hand that microphone to those people that you're going to learn from, those people that are going to make you feel good. You need to find them people and you need to give them your microphone. But how you find them people is by taking your microphone back from the other people who drag you down. You don't have to cut them out of your life, because often it's family. That's the ones that are doing it, that are thinking the best for you, but their opinion is based on their view of the world. Your view of the world has changed completely, so you can't look through the same lens.
Speaker 1:It's like I always say you cannot take directions from someone who has not left the house, say, you cannot take directions from someone who has not left the house. And this is the same with manifesting and creating your dreams and creating that amazing life, that magnificent life, because not a lot of people do that. A lot of people settle. I talked about this last week in the podcast. Are you settling or are you succeeding? Because if you're succeeding, you're willing to push yourself out there and shut out this chatter that people will give you.
Speaker 1:People will want to hold you back, either through caring or through jealousy, or through the fact that you are triggering something inside of them and they do not like it. And the only way they know to keep you small is to pull you back and make you feel small. And unfortunately, people have their own ways of working and they will do whatever they need to do to keep themselves feeling comfortable, whether that means hurting another person. That is what they'll do so. If they've got that insecurity inside them, you need to take that mic off them. You need to turn that volume down and you eventually need to take that mic off them Now.
Speaker 1:This hit home for me massively because it's so hard to tell people to start distancing from these people or changing the dynamics of your relationship, especially because I have been through that. I have had them people who have tried to drag me down. I've had them people who would rather me be small, voiceless and just sit where I was than do what I'm doing now. And I know who them people are and some of them people are the closest to me and I had to take my microphone back. And I took my microphone back and there was a repercussion of that.
Speaker 1:I have people in my life now who don't hold the microphone and try and punish me in different ways, whether it's rejection, whether it's cutting me out of things, whether it's oh, you've changed that type of thing. I have that now. I have that with close people in my life, but I've just took that microphone back and whatever they throw at me, whatever rejection, whatever cutting me out, whatever not making me feel part of it, I know that my why and my desire and my other people that I give the microphone to is driving me on. I don't need to pull myself back and give them that microphone so that they can voice their opinions on me. I don't need that. I don't need that to live the life where I'm going. I've chose my life, I've chose my direction and I know that that giving them that microphone would not suit and I know that I can handle whatever they throw at me because I don't need to give them that microphone and over time, that not needing to give them my microphone has now meant I don't actually care what they're doing. I don't care about that leaving me out, cutting me out, because I think, well, my path's.
Speaker 1:Here I have these people. I've attracted these people, the ones that make me feel good, the ones that boost me up, the ones that make me push myself and strive for more. They are who get my microphone and they get it and they get it loud. But the others, the ones that want to pull you back to a different place, they're either on a, on a very low volume, or they don't have it at all, and some people will not like that. You are taking that microphone off them because, let's be honest, let's be fair to them. They have always had that microphone. They've always had that opinion and watched you follow it. They have always done that and now, all of a sudden, you're not. You're taking it off, you're not listening to them. They're going to try and shout louder and louder, but they'll be shouting without your microphone, so it doesn't matter, because you still won't hear them. You won't hear them the same, they won't have the same penetration, they won't have that same volume. So let them shout. All they're doing is wasting their time, not yours.
Speaker 1:So how powerful is this that you imagine yourself walking around with this microphone? This microphone is your voice, it's your power. You have the choice of who you hand that to. Beyonce would not get on stage and give her microphone over to someone who cannot sing. If she has a crowd full of people who have paid to come and see her, she's not going to hand it over to me and go, rachel, have a sing. She's not going to hand it over to me and go, rachel, have a sing. No, because I can't. For one, I'm not very good. And two, why would she? She knows her power. She knows they have come to see her. She knows. Her voice is her superpower, just like yours is, just like your dreams are.
Speaker 1:So don't hand your microphone over to people who one don't have the experience to give you the information on what you need to know. I mean, you're looking at changing your life, you're looking at manifesting, you're looking at living a life that none of your family and friends have probably done before. You might be changing stuff that they have no experience in and yet they're trying to give you an experienced opinion. It would be like going to a banker for information on how to be better at sports. It's not common sense. So let's stop doing it. Let's stop giving them the microphone when they don't have the experience or the knowledge to give you the opinion that you need. But they'll say it really loud, they'll say it with conviction, they'll say it with confidence because they think they're right. But it's your choice to take that microphone back and give it to someone who actually knows what they're talking about and has potentially done what you need to do.
Speaker 1:So if you're at a point where you are letting all these people influence, you, start to think who do you need to claim your microphone back from? Who do you need to turn the volume down on. And who do you need to turn the volume up on Now if you haven't found them? People start putting the feelers out there that you want positivity in your life. You want these people coming in. Go to the Facebook group, start meeting people. Start posting in there. See who turns up, who's similar to you. Listen to all the lives, listen to all the things that are going to start to make you change.
Speaker 1:Come and join the membership group. The Magnificent Life membership group is exactly about this claiming your magnificent life. And those women and men in there have all had this challenge of people trying to drag them back, people trying to drag their microphone off them, and I'm trying to teach them how to get that power back, how to shut them out and not listen to what they have to say, because they're here to do amazing things. So if you want to come and join that membership group, the Magnificent Life membership group, come and join us. I will help you through this journey. I will be there with your microphone feeding all that amazing information to you, feeding that information on how you can make this change. I will be your biggest fan. I am not there to drag anybody down or make anyone feel small. All I am there to do is empower people and make them feel amazing and make them see that true potential that's inside of them. So if you want to give me your microphone and I will big you up and drag you up to where you need to be, then give me your microphone, because I would be more than happy to do that, and that is what I inspire in everybody else.
Speaker 1:If you are given, if you have been granted with someone else's microphone, make sure you are the one that's given them exactly what they need, not what you, your insecurities, are getting in the way of. Empower that person, give them the best advice, give them love, make them feel special. If you have that ability where someone has trusted you to have their microphone and put you on loud, make sure you are using that to the best of your ability so that you can really help that person, because that's what I inspire. Let's get people's microphones. Let's feed them with good energy, let's show them how amazing they are and let's build this way of building each other up. Let's not drag each other down anymore because of our own insecurities. All we do is make ourselves feel crap in the meantime, doing that as well. So, really, who can you big up, who can you be that voice, that big voice on the end of somebody's microphone that goes you are amazing. Stop listening to the negativity, stop listening to that other stuff and see that potential inside of you that you really have and get someone who's going to do that for you as well.
Speaker 1:So I really want you all to think about are you using your microphone right? Are you giving it to the right people? Are you turning people down when you need to? Are you turning people down when you need to? Are you turning people up when you need to? And it can be all sorts of different things. So if you want career advice in a certain field, go and find someone in that field and give them your microphone. If you want career advice in that field, don't find someone in a different field that might not know as much about it. You know you've got to weigh up. You could maybe take a little bit of advice, give them a little bit of volume, but you don't need to hear everything. So look at your experts that you need and go and give them the microphone.
Speaker 1:So you might have a group of friends and you might have all different things that you give them the mic for. So you know you might have a friend that really makes you feel amazing, that one that boosts your confidence, makes you feel really good, shows you what a badass you are. Give them the mic when you need that boost, when you need that straight talking advice. Go to that friend who's going to give you that and give them the mic then. But if you don't need that all the time, then just turn it down when you don't need it Doesn't make them any less of a friend, but it just means that you're getting what you need as and when you need it.
Speaker 1:And look at everybody with a different lens. People don't have to have all hats on to be an amazing friend. You can have that friend for that thing, that friend for that thing, that friend for that thing and use it like that. Just look at them for what they give you. Yes, one of your friends could be amazing at giving you that straight talk and advice, but then when you're feeling low and you're weepy and you know that you need comfort and love, don't be hard on them. When they can't give you that, just turn that volume down on them and turn it up on the one that can give you the, the love and the care and the support from that angle, because one day you'll still want that straight talking advice. So then you turn down the love and the cuddling and the molly coddling in a sense, and then you go back to the straight talking one and turn that volume up and in the meantime all your friends are still around you. You just use them for different things that really play to their strengths and to yours. So it's just looking at things in a different point of view.
Speaker 1:You don't have to cut everybody out because they don't give you what you need all the time. But as well you don't have to feel bad for taking your microphone back off someone and they might kick and scream if you have always let them hold that microphone, and I genuinely I'm experiencing that. I have experienced that it's a crazy world to be in, but you still. You hold your microphone firm and you do not let them take it off you. You don't need to give that back. Whatever they do on the outside, that's their issue, not yours. You have your microphone, you have your power. You've got your big dreams.
Speaker 1:So I hope this one's helped you just really visualize how we cut people out and how we align people properly to what we need. We don't have to cut them out completely. We just have to not give them the power in what they're saying. That is ultimately it and that is our choice. We choose who we give that power to. And if you're saying, oh, my family's dragging me down, such and such is dragging me down, they're dragging me down. You're letting them do that. You're giving them the microphone and not only giving them the microphone, you're giving it on full amplification. So stop doing it, turn it down. If you need to do it slowly, just start doing it slowly, turn it down till eventually you can have that power back and you can bring your microphone back in and give it to someone who is going to give you what you need. Give you that good advice, give you that good support, give you that positive attitude.
Speaker 1:I really had to share this because this just made complete sense to me and even when I was thinking of my own experience, I was like, wow, I can see the reaction now, and the reaction is they don't hold the microphone anymore, but they did for a long time. So I'm not mad, I'm not bitter about that. They held it for a long time. That opinion was valid, that opinion was loud, and I took that back off them, probably without a lot of warning, and the reaction is what I got. But I don't mind, I'm happy to keep that because I want to keep my microphone and I am keeping my microphone and it was probably the first time in my whole life that I held the microphone myself.
Speaker 1:Now, who else is in that position? Do you actually have your microphone at the minute? Or has everybody else got it? Because I know me, for years everybody else had my microphone and I hold it now and and I hold it strong and I give it to who I want to hold, who I want to hear, who I want to get their opinion, because no one else has the right to have an opinion on me other than me and I don't have to listen to anybody else's opinion on me other than me. So remember that you don't have to listen to everybody's opinion.
Speaker 1:Just because they're saying it doesn't mean you have to take it in. You have the power to turn the volume down and just let it fade out. So please just start imagining you have this microphone and you are walking around everywhere with it and somebody says something nasty and you're like, oh, I'm taking that back off you, you don't get to hold my microphone. And then somebody else says something amazing and you're like, oh, you can have it, let's turn that volume up. Someone says something and they're a bit in between. You're like, well, I'll listen, but let's turn that volume up. Someone says something and they're a bit in between. You're like, well, I'll listen, but let's just turn it up a little bit, see what happens. And it's your power. You don't have to take everything in.
Speaker 1:So when that negativity pours in, when somebody is making you feel bad, grab that microphone back off them and just you hold that power. Then you don't have to take that energy in. You don't have to take that opinion in. It's not true. Anyway, you are limitless. You have unlimited potential and you have this power inside of you, like we all have.
Speaker 1:So whatever they're saying to make you feel small, it's wrong. It is just wrong. So do not listen to it. Do not give them the microphone and unless they prove that they are willing to support and, you know, get you to a point where they're encouraging you they don't get the microphone back. That's just Doesn't mean you don't have to love them, but they don't get it back.
Speaker 1:So I hope this one's empowered you to think of who have you given your microphone to. Are they the right person? Are you starting to turn that volume down, or do you need to turn it up on some people? And also, do you need to take it back? And please come and let me know in the Facebook group what you thought about it, who you are going to try and up the volume on, who you're not going to up the volume on. And if you need any advice, come and post in the Facebook group and I will more than happily help you on it, because it's something really dear to my heart, and I do believe you are the sum of, let's not say, the five people you spend the most time with, the five people you give your microphone the most often.
Speaker 1:So imagine that you might not see them that often, but their opinion really hits home and digs in. They're the person that you bend to, they're the person you try and please. So that is the one that you are giving the microphone to. So is that the right person to do that? So think about them five people that you are handing the microphone over to and have that power over you, and are they the right ones for you? Just have a think on that. Imagine that microphone. I can imagine it getting passed about everywhere. I absolutely love this analogy and I am using it and visualising it all the time now, and I hope you have too. So take good care of that microphone. It is your power, it's your dreams and it's yours to hold. Catch you next week Bye, aware it's your dreams and it's yours to hold. Catch you next week, bye, thank you.
