When Someone Tells You To Calm Down

Recording from Revelstoke, BC, with Bailey Boo by her side, Tara Jo opens this episode with an honesty, she's in the middle of one of the hardest weeks of her life, and she's bringing you into it.

With the full moon energy fresh and Mercury retrograde underway, Tara Jo shares what's been unfolding with a family member's health, the eerie echoes of her brother Cory's story, and what she's been learning in real time about how we show up for each other (and ourselves) when everything feels like too much.

This episode is about the one thing that either makes or breaks a relationship in a crisis moment: how you respond when someone you love is in emotional distress.

Tara Jo digs into why "calm down" is one of the most damaging things you can say to someone who's overwhelmed, not because the person saying it doesn't care, but because most of us were never taught what it actually looks like to hold space. She talks about nervous system capacity, why other people's inability to sit with your big emotions is not your problem, and how to find your footing again after a moment where you felt unseen.

You'll also hear about the somatic practices she's been leaning into this week, walking in nature, EFT, getting her senses grounded, and why she created the Walk and Talk Somatic Summer Series from exactly this kind of moment.
This one is for the woman who's been told she's too much. It's also for the person who wants to show up better but doesn't know how.
In this episode:

• Why telling someone to calm down activates them further (and what it triggers in the body)
• How to actually support someone in emotional distress, including the one question that changes everything
• The difference between acute overwhelm and trauma responses that keep replaying
• How to come back into your own energy after feeling dismissed or unheard
• What Tara Jo does when her mind starts spiralling, and the tools she reaches for

Mentioned in this episode:
The Walk and Talk Somatic Summer Series, a guided movement and mindfulness audio experience for when you need to process on your feet. Message Tara Jo on Instagram @loveyourjourneyinc or email tarajo@loveyourjourney.ca for details.