E32: I Was Done With My Marriage… Then THIS Happened

Rock bottom doesn’t always look loud. Sometimes it’s a quiet dinner table, an empty house, & realizing the thing holding the marriage together is gone. I sit down with Leolani De Lima, wife of Kapena’s Kelly Boy De Lima, and we talk about what it takes to survive 38 years of marriage when fame, temptation, trauma, & family pressure all take their hits.

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SPEAKER_04 0:11

Aloha, welcome to Aloha Alive. I am so blessed to have my blessie. She's not a bestie. She's a blestie. A lot of people have a BFF, best friends forever. That's awesome. I love it. But did you know that Leolani De Lima, who is Mrs. Kellyboy De Lima of the group Capena, and yes, she is the momager, not the manager, because she's the mom and the wife, and she manages the whole family band. That she is also one of my dearest, bestest friends. So you would normally be a BFF bestie, but she's a blessie because she's always dropping blessings. She's always dropping Jesus bombs, and it's a good thing. Good morning. Welcome, Leolani Voice of Fibonniz.

SPEAKER_01 0:51

Nice to be here. Thank you, Donnie, for having me. And girl Slay, we got the memo.

SPEAKER_04 0:57

She shows up and she happens to have hot pink on, and so do I, because we're the hot pink ladies.

SPEAKER_01 1:02

Yeah, I knew it.

SPEAKER_04 1:04

The Lord told me where this. I love it. Now let's get straight to the goods. You're married to legendary local musician Kelly Boy Delema of the group Capenna, 40 years strong in the state of Hawaii. And I 41. 41. 41 and counting. Yeah, here we go. I just seen Kelly Boy lately, and he was performing, and he's he was telling the Keiki at Hono Uli Uli Middle School as they were jamming to Masese and all the other songs that we love. He said, Can you imagine, kids? Keiki, Bibes. That's what he says, because he's Makaha, why and I, right? Right. He says, Bibis, imagine your grandparents was singing these songs. And that's the truth. Exactly. You're like, we know. I was standing there going, I am that grandparent.

unknown 1:47

Okay.

SPEAKER_04 1:48

But you're married to this local legendary celebrity. It hit rock bottom a few times in the marriage. Tell us about the time you sat alone in your huge house at your huge dinner table alone. All the cakey had been either kicked out or moved out. They were ran out, and you finally were making the decision to also get out. Tell us about that moment.

SPEAKER_01 2:09

Yeah, that was that was like rock bottom because we've had a lot of close calls in the marriage, you know. But um I was there, I guess for my kids.

SPEAKER_02 2:22

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 2:22

You know, um, and I don't know if other women go through that, but um sometimes you just endure it for to keep the family together. But when all the the kids are gone, then what's gonna keep us together? Wow. And so that was like a hard place to be.

SPEAKER_04 2:42

It came to a head. Yeah, but as you said, it would had happened a few times before. You've been together how many years?

SPEAKER_01 2:48

I'm 38.

SPEAKER_04 2:49

Oh, and 40 years he's been leading this boy band. It started as a boy band. He was in high school at Kaimuki when they first got famous with the two tongue and brought us. So he met you kind of immediately afterwards, and you got married lickety split quick.

SPEAKER_01 3:04

Yeah, really quick, super quick.

SPEAKER_04 3:08

Pregnant and then married, if we may be so honest. And pastor's daughter, but there they are, pregnant, and then kind of a what we used to call back in the day a shotgun wedding. Don't worry, kids, we're not trying to trigger you or bring up violence and all the algorithms. Back in the day, that was a term for when a young lady was pregnant, and this is a pastor's daughter. Yes, and then the men folk in the family would come and show up with arms and weapons and tell that boy do right by her.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

I didn't know that's well, I'm not from the deep south.

SPEAKER_04 3:37

I'm from the deep, deep south in Tonga. We don't show up with uh arms and weapons, we show up with our arms because they are weapons.

SPEAKER_01 3:43

Well, I don't call it a shotgun wedding, I say gunshot wedding.

SPEAKER_04 3:47

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 3:48

It's even even quicker than that. The guns already shot.

SPEAKER_04 3:54

Shiwai Manalo, that's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Sorry. 38 years, and you had hit rock bottom a few times, stayed for the kids, and here you are. Not even grandkids at that point could keep you in the marriage with Kelly Boy.

SPEAKER_01 4:06

Yeah, it was, you know, it was. I feel like some people in their walk, they have to hit rock bottom to get it.

SPEAKER_03 4:15

Really?

SPEAKER_01 4:15

And so I feel like that was a turning point. That was like for him, like, what's your decision? What are you gonna do? You know? And so it was necessary for his journey, his walk, because that's when real change started to happen when he hit his rock, rock bottom.

SPEAKER_04 4:33

Wow. Yeah, and you stuck it out, Leolani. You often say that you and Kelly Boy are best friends. You live together, obviously. Still, your marriage survived, you work together and you call each other best friends. You never get sick of each other. Um, no, that's kind of a hard question.

Who He Is At Home

SPEAKER_01 4:51

Yeah, I'm like, hmm, do I get sick of him? Um, you know, I I feel like we've learned to navigate life together, and people might not know this, but I'll tell you, um, who he is at home is very different from who the public sees. Yeah. And so um he's he's quiet, he's to himself, he's he's introverted.

SPEAKER_04 5:15

A little bit.

SPEAKER_01 5:16

Like you would you wouldn't think that, but um, he kind of is, and he really cherishes that downtime because he understands that once he's out of our gates, he belongs to the public. Yes, and he kind of has to work, you know. Um, you might understand a lot of like that persona and just and it's not fake or phony.

SPEAKER_04 5:38

I was gonna say that it's not inauthentic, it's his best self on at all times. And then when we go home, you're right, blessy. I when I come into my house, that's my sacred area, it's my pu'uho nua, yeah, right, is how we say it in Hawaiian. It's your sacred temple where you can be just quiet. Yeah, my family is often shocked that I am a different person. I'm a quiet book reader, nerd. I just love I don't even want to talk to anybody. No, yeah. It's kind of like a taxi in New York. When the light is on, you can rent the taxi, it's driving. But if you see a taxi and the light is off, that's not on. So don't ask them to give you a ride. Same thing for Kelly Boy Donald Brian. We are public people, but when we're coming home, we're very private persons.

SPEAKER_01 6:17

Yes, yes, and that's where you refuel, that's where you um, you know, you you go over your day and maybe analyze where you could have done better. Like just process, I guess. Yeah, processing. And so he's he's very, very much a different person at home. And so I think that helps the marriage too, where we know our roles, we know our space, and sometimes we won't even like speak, we'll just like high five thumbs up. It's like really aware, like after 30 years, you're like, hey, how's it? You know what I mean? I mean, it's just very chill. It's you don't have to be on all the time, you know, rocking jokes, telling sparkly stories, listening.

SPEAKER_04 7:01

No, yeah, no, and that's the best putting your best foot forward, kind of like when you go on a date, when you put your best foot forward there, and it's not that you're hiding the junk stuff, but you want to say, here's who I am, in all of God's goodness that He made me to be. But there's times we just want to be quiet, like you said, and not talk. Okay, you're my best one of my best friends. Could you fix your ribbon just to go up a little bit, up onto the side? There you go, Miss Mary.

SPEAKER_01 7:24

Excuse me. If I change it, let's do you guys fix your lay.

Why Their Marriage Survives

SPEAKER_04 7:28

If I have lipstick on my teeth, she best tell me because she's my best friend. Oh, yeah. So, um, and if I fixed it off camera, then we would see it and be like, oh, it was here and now it's up here. So I had to just do it in front of everybody. Um, you know, what saved your marriage then? I will say, and I'm asking you an open question. What saved the marriage? I know there's a lot of women who may be listening, and last time you came on, you shared one nugget story. Girl, I've heard that nugget story repeated to me so many times in public when I'm out there, and they're like, that time you had Leolani de Lima on with Kelly Boy, brah, you wouldn't do all the talking, but that one time she got to talk, she shared about um how you uh and so anyway, back to your story. Uh I won't, because you have so much to say, is that I think a big part of what saved your marriage is that you are the only woman who could possibly be married to Kelly Boy Delema. No shade or shame on Kelly Boy, because I know there's a lot of women. I tried to allude to that when I said you've been married to a massive local celebrity for a long time. Women throw themselves at him. I've seen it when we're out working, and I'm the MC, and then he's singing. I've seen the flirtation, I've seen the different women present themselves physically. I think it's disgusting. He's a married man, but nonetheless, you're the only one. So you're my blessed.

SPEAKER_01 8:46

You just bring it all here right now on camera. She Nalo, that's why she's from Waimanalo. She backs me up, which agrees.

SPEAKER_04 8:56

Hawaiian Hawaiian if Kelly Boy from West Side was gonna have one woman, it was this woman from Waiman, and she's always right up in your face, and then she goes and gets a tongue-in best friend who will bounce your butt in the name of Jesus and lay hands strongly in the name of Jesus. Thank you. But I think you're the only woman who could be married to him. What is your answer when I ask you? That's my answer. Yeah, how could you possibly survive that marriage?

SPEAKER_01 9:23

I don't know. I I only know it has to be Jesus. Come on. And you know what? He told me early on that he had crafted me like specifically for him.

SPEAKER_04 9:34

Exactly perfectly for Kelly Boy Dilemma.

SPEAKER_01 9:36

Like they were like, Leo can do it, you know? Um, and I understand purpose in his life, on his life, and anointing. I know the stage he has had his whole life is nothing compared to the stage God is about to give. Come on, hallelujah. I know it, and I speak it into his life all the time. I said, people trust you. When you say get your own Ford, you know how many people get Fords? And they'll tell him, like, bruh, look at my Ford, and it's like rolling up, like, wow, you know what I mean? But they trust him. You know, I said, if you can sell cars, you can absolutely share Jesus. Hallelujah. And so I always encourage him all the time that people love you, believe you. And when you say it, it it just comes out different. It doesn't sound so religious. Yes, it doesn't sound so scripted. It's just like heart to heart, like, bruh, I was rock bottom, Jesus helped me, he can help you too.

SPEAKER_04 10:34

And that's exactly what he shares. You just shared in a snippet, a snapshot, what Kelly Boyce says. He hit rock bottom. He was a child of trauma. He shared that on our last episode together with the two of you. And then you met him in your teens, right? You both were teenagers, got married, lickety split, went through a lot of the healing and deliverance that God gets to do. You were the vessel of that forgiveness, uh, long suffering patience, and and vice versa. I'm not trying to be here to bash men or especially bash my brother Kelly Boy, whom I love dearly. He I always tell him, Bri, you my favorite Tongan brother. He's not Tongan, by the way, but he's he's Hanay Tongan. We adopted him, he's our famous Tongan. But um, I love Kelly Boy, I would never bash him. But there were issues that needed to be worked out in Kelly Boy that only a wife, and you've shared even that there were moments when you kind of were a mom to him as well. Oh, yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 11:30

A nurturer.

SPEAKER_04 11:31

Yes, yeah, that's it.

SPEAKER_01 11:33

Because he was separated from the mom, I recognized it early on. And I even shared with his mom, I said he never wanted a wife. Wow. He was looking for his mom.

SPEAKER_04 11:43

Wow. And when we look at um neuroscience and behavioral sciences, when we look at psychology, um, we see exactly what you said. That if there is an arrested development and a child is in a traumatized home where maybe they stop aging at five, six when uh physical abuse or psychological abuse happens, that child, if separated from the mother, is still seeking and yearning after a mother, mothering, nurturing person. Yes. You are that person, Leo.

SPEAKER_01 12:13

Yeah, and still am. I I understand that even though he's grown and he's healed and he's delivered, that that is the spot that really um makes him feel loved and secured and protected. I still malama that part. Yeah, you know, and I think you know, sometimes as women, we just like we're just like, oh, can we just, you know what I mean? Can we just, you know, you know what I mean? Like we do, we get to those places, you know, and sometimes I feel like men need more than we do.

SPEAKER_04 12:41

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 12:42

No, like, and I'm not trying to do that, man. I'm really not, I'm really not. But um, you know, to stroke the ego and just to, you know, and be their cheerleader. I also understand that when a man has a woman that backs him up, yeah, not just in words, not just in prayer, not just in deeds, yeah, but just really loves him, you know, when when nobody else will love him when it's unforgivable and you still forgive.

SPEAKER_00 13:11

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 13:11

When they're unlovable and you still love, like that kind of love is not mine. It's from the Lord, it's from the Lord. Wow. I I am I don't have the capacity to love someone that way. Only God can love them that way. And so I understand those things, and I understand that as a marriage or a partnership, so if I say anything against him, I'm actually saying it against myself. Oh wow. So I I I am very careful of how I speak about my husband in any place, any platform. I mean, I'm gonna tell the truth, but I will always do it in a place that supports, lifts ups, and encourages. Better be bubble be. It's the truth. It's just the truth.

SPEAKER_04 13:51

And that's the God's honest truth. It comes straight out the Bible that a wife is, and we've discussed this, the azair, which is the original uh word in Hebrew, right? Aramaic, that is um, under armor. Under armor, the brand had nothing on Jesus Christ. He invented it, and he said, A woman is the helpmate, and she is the word used in the original language, is just as powerful as God. So God does not tell us we are the second sex. He says we are just as powerful co-heirs, and as a wife to a husband, you're his protection. And you still protect him verbally, spiritually, emotionally, physically. You do everything in your power.

SPEAKER_01 14:28

I do, I do. I'm very protective over him. And sometimes he's even like, you know, it's like a dog.

unknown 14:35

Sorry.

SPEAKER_01 14:36

You know, when no, sorry, you know, I'm sorry, but you know, when you have an owner and they love the owner, they're like very loyal. I'm kind of like the bulldog, but you know, like, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 14:47

No, and she's point-sized. So let me say her two things. One, first and foremost, my friends are a protector. She is, I don't know, pit bull, dobo man pincher. She's like a dogo Argentina. She is the most pit bull friend, which is why she's one of my besties, my dearest friends, because we're both protector spirits. We both grew up in um places and homes where we needed to be that, is part of your spiritual identity. But here's the second thing is I I want to show you a picture in my mind, the snapshot. I was sitting behind the Capenna family, which is of course Lilo and Penabu, her son, oldest son. You have um winty rain now, the third generation, right? And then you have Mama D, Delema, and you have Kelly Boy. Kelly Boy is what, six, two, six? Oh no, he's just like five, eleven. He is a giant though. He he's a tall, big man. And then she's pint size, or she likes to say snack size, like a snack size. No, it's fun size. You know, like smokers, and then there's fun size. But you know what?

SPEAKER_01 15:49

I have to say about fun size, it's never often very fun. Like I need three fun sizes to find out.

SPEAKER_04 15:54

I was gonna say, yeah, I don't even know what fun size is because I look at it and laugh, and then I go back to the regular size because I'd like two of those. But back to you, your pint size, but very petite lady. And then I see as I'm sitting behind you in the second row at this conference, it was T.O.W. Hoy, you and Kelly Boy there, your family next to you, because you all worship the Lord. But this big man, then he's been there all day leading worship, y'all leading worship, and he sighs into her and he like sits on Leolani. And I'm like, you know, as a protector, I want to jump in and be like, oh no, no, please don't lean on my best friend because you're gonna squash her. But I saw your body not only receive him, Leo, but you you let him rest. And he may have closed his eyes for a few minutes. Don't worry, Papa Cow, but he came right back if you were speaking.

SPEAKER_01 16:42

But if you started snoring, I would have punched him.

SPEAKER_04 16:44

And there it is. Nalo, she always tells me, Donnie, Jesus is gonna punch your face. And I'm like, I'm pretty sure Jesus does not punch people in the face. He punches mine. She's from Wayne. With the word of God, with the word of a good strong truth. We lay hands on the back side of your head, he'll do it on the front side. But that's the snapshot I have of you guys because you really are the two become.

SPEAKER_01 17:05

You're so observant. You know that, Donnie.

SPEAKER_04 17:07

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 17:08

Yeah, yeah.

Prayer That Changes Everything

SPEAKER_04 17:09

But I love seeing that moment because as defensive as I was for a small pint-sized woman, a delicate young lady, her husband knows that she's strong enough to support him in that second. And again, I come to I land on my point that there's no one else on earth that could have been married to Kelly Boy and been the supportive, warm spot for him to land on. And that includes uh everything that you imagine in a celebrity marriage that has happened. Now I'm gonna pivot on you just a little bit. Was prayer a big part of your 38 years of? Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

I would have known there is no way I could have survived anything without prayer. Without prayer. Wow. Yeah, wow, that's a big statement. Yeah, and you were saying, like, you know, in your notes, you're like, you know, can you give us a like a sample? Right. Is there a prayer one? Yeah, step by step, yeah, prayer 101.

SPEAKER_04 17:58

Because there may be women listening going through a tough time in a long marriage. And after COVID, we saw uh skyrocketing rates of divorce in the state of Hawaii. Speak to us about how to pray, if that's the lifeline.

SPEAKER_01 18:09

Yeah. Um the the prayer I used was always biblical, you know, it always went back to the word of God. And so I was looking up scripture because there's like three different prayers I always prayed. So there's one that's called the persistent prayer. Okay, and that's the one that's found in Luke 18, 5. It says, Yet because this widow continues to bother me, I will give her justice and legal protection. Otherwise, my continually coming, she will be an intolerable annoyance and she will wear me out. I love that. I was annoying to God. I was annoying. Intolerable annoyance. No, she was so persistent. I cannot even tolerate that. No, no, yeah. She was so persistent that God was like, oh my gosh, would you just answer her prayer? I was like that. Wow. And I was like that on purpose because the word of God says so. Yes, uh. I could imagine him going, and who is that prayer? Like Leo again. Oh my God. Can somebody shut her down right now and just give her what she wants? You know, sorry. So that was the persistent, annoying I love it prayer. That is the widow who kept knocking and saying, Excuse me, I've been wronged. I need your help. I still do. Let's go. And you know, um, one of my favorite pastors, Philip Anthony Mitchell, said something about like you guys bully God with prayers, and and I changed my prayer life um because of that word. And I'm still persistent, but I I'm persistent in the prayer, and I say, you know what, Lord, I have put on my request before you.

SPEAKER_04 19:31

Come on now.

SPEAKER_01 19:32

You know what I need, you know what I've been praying for. Yes. I'm just gonna sit here and and and just praise you because you're I know you're good. He's moving. You've you've proven it to me time and time and time again. I've had experience with you. We've been through this together, we've had intimacy together. Yeah, we've been hunkered down in this place of prayer. So I'm just gonna let you do what you do so well.

SPEAKER_04 19:54

Yes, you. Yeah, and you've said that to me, Leo. There's times where you um you would come out of one family trial. I didn't say trauma drama, I said trial with one child and then another child, right? And they're all adult children now. It doesn't stop family. It just you have littles and then they get big, and then you have little issues, you got big issues. Yeah, and you came out of one um trial and went into another adult child trial, and you said, Donnie, I've been praying. I've been praying, and my God has never failed me to this day, not a single time. So if I have prayed and I have, I know that my God is gonna move the Mona. He is moving.

SPEAKER_01 20:30

Did you not say that to me? Absolutely. I'm getting God bumps just remembering that. And I and I still stand on that. I believe with all my heart that God's gonna answer. He may not answer me exactly how I want him to answer me, but let me tell you. Come on now. I have the faith that God will, because he has shown up every single time for me. Boom. And I'm not nothing special, and that's the thing.

SPEAKER_04 20:52

No, but I mean like I'm just regular, yeah. It says in the Bible, God is no respecter of persons, meaning he has no favorites. So she says that. I happen to think you are God's favorite, but so am I, and so are you, right? God loves everybody. So go ahead. You were saying that he answers your prayers.

SPEAKER_01 21:10

He does, and then the other prayer I used to pray was um the one in Matthew asks, you know, seek and knock. We know that prayer, right? A S-K. Yeah, just keep asking and knock, right? And then the last prayer I would pray was in Genesis 32, 26, where he was wrestling with Jacob. Wow. And and he said, Let me go. And he said, Not till you bless me.

SPEAKER_03 21:30

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 21:31

And I have said that prayer so many times, like, Lord, I am not gonna let go, I am not gonna stop, no matter what, I will wrestle here until you bless me. Wow. And and you know, I've heard like even in testimony, I would say that sometimes, and you know, some of my family members were like, Oh, that's a little like arrogant, need a bit, you know, like really you know, like, oh, you know, but the relationship I had built with God, I wasn't trying to be arrogant, I was trying to be b biblical. And and looking at scripture, yeah, that if you hold on to God until the morning, because because it was the it was the scripture says that um let me read it. Then he said, 'Let me go for day is breaking.' But Jacob said, 'I will not let you go unless you declare a blessing on me.' And so there was a time when the wrestling had to stop because day was breaking was a new day. And I don't know what exactly that means in scripture, but I do know that there is a time when there's a breaking, a dawn of a new day. I was gonna say it was bidening my tongue. The dawn of a new day means there's a blessing that awaits you in the new dawn, in the new day, in the new season. Amen. And if you could just hold on, just hold on. It's coming.

SPEAKER_04 22:46

Girl, somebody watching right now, whether it's male or female, but I really feel strongly for the women in marriages, long-suffering, long-standing, long faithfully, waiting upon that promise. And you just said, scripture says it out of Genesis 32, and that's the Jacob prayer, that's the persisting prayer, right? I'm gonna press into the Lord. Even when I don't see the cloud on the horizon that the prophet promised, I'm gonna stand here and stare. Because if God wrote the check, I'm gonna cash it, right? If God dropped a Venmo, I'm gonna get it. It's it's a written done deal. If he said it, he done did it.

SPEAKER_01 23:21

Right. And you know, I'm not gonna speak to every woman's relationship because I had asked God, like, are you sure this is the guy for me? Now, women, first of all, that's a question we would like to ask before. Thank you. I'm just gonna sip my tea while you spill it. Before we uh get married. You know, that that might be a good question before we open certain parts of ourselves. Yeah, we get pregnant and get then you go, are you sure this is the guy? You should have asked that before, Leoleni Delima.

SPEAKER_04 23:52

But um And it's a difficult thing to do. We get it, ladies. We both have fallen short of the glory of God. And we believe back to your point.

SPEAKER_01 23:58

And so I did ask the Lord. I said, Lord, if you want me to stay in this marriage, a sign would be the next pregnancy. Four weeks later, congratulations, Mrs. Delima. You're pregnant. Which one was this? Lilo. Oh, Lilo is the promise. Yes. Lilo is the promise that God made me. And I thought that was a one and done promise, but do you know his promises live in her?

SPEAKER_04 24:22

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 24:22

So it is revealed. Her promises of God is revealed in her.

SPEAKER_04 24:26

Amen.

SPEAKER_01 24:27

Amen.

SPEAKER_04 24:27

Amen. And so that was that. She's the first one, Leolani the first. Lilo is Leolani the second, and now we have Leolani the third in Winterway. And each of them have a prophetic gifting, which is to your point of the promise lives. It's not a one and done. The word of the Lord never drops down to the ground. No, it lives and it moves. And he is the same yesterday, today, and forevermore. Yes, he does. And it lives generationally. So come on, I love that. So if you're listening to this, I want this to be feeding your spirit man, spirit woman.

SPEAKER_01 25:00

Yeah. So I asked them because maybe some people are in relationships. I'm not going to tell you to stay because of my testimony. You have to ask God like if this is where he wants you to be. Because I don't want women to stay in a in a relationship that will never be, you know, because God was working on my husband. Yeah, he had a platform for him, he had a purpose for him a long time ago. And so um I realized that that God was doing a work in him. And so you know the story, Donnie, right? The story where um I was gonna finally leave, right? I I made it up in my mind, like that's it. That's it.

SPEAKER_00 25:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:34

And the Lord came to me quickly and he said, if you leave, yeah, another woman, you can stop right there, right? Right? No, but he didn't stop right there. He said, Another woman will reap the harvest that was meant for you, and all the prayers that you prayed over him will will be answered in that season. And so I with you know, and I said this to you before, that you don't ever know what's on the other side of the obedience. Amen. You know, so I stayed, right? And I and I believed.

SPEAKER_04 26:08

Well, and you said something critical, and that's the line that when you shared it the first time here on our podcast, please say the line because many women have repeated it. Oh, and you said at that moment when the Lord said to you, another woman, and you even stopped during the retelling right now, and you said he didn't even need to finish that, and you were already done. But go ahead, say what you said to the Lord.

SPEAKER_01 26:26

I said, No, she's not. No, she not no, because his prom when he said that, he's saying, Leo, if you would trust me and stay where you are, stay put, I'm gonna prove to you and show you. And so when we stood at the Lifetime Achievement Awards, amen. And you were so observant, and we me and my husband had a discussion about what you told me because you were saying, like, you look like you were just kind of not trying to take the shine. You were trying to just like be up there and support him, but you were about to cry, but you held it together. You know, you were very, very observant, and I shared that with my husband. I said, you know, Donnie was saying, like, you were trying to share that award, and he said, No, no, no, I wasn't sharing it, I was giving it to you. Oh wow, and I and I was like, Wow, what? And he goes, We're not gonna share that. He said, You were the reason why our families stayed together, yeah, you know, and so he said that from the stage, and again, family.

SPEAKER_04 27:25

If you didn't know this, let me interject and support what she's saying and paint the picture for us. They won, uh, Kelly Boy De Lemo was awarded Hara, which is Hawaii Artists Academy of Recording Artists. Academy of Recording Artists. It's where we get the Grammys of Hawaii, it's called the Na Hoku Hano Hano Awards. Yes, it's the highest musical award you can receive in the state of Hawaii, and the highest of the highest is the Lifetime Achievement Award, of which Kelly Boy De Limo won. He turns around on stage receiving this, and there we are, front and center, because they gave us the front and center, you folks, and thank you for inviting me. And then his daughter, Kalena Koo of the song, Kalena Ku is now president of Hara, and she was sitting there with um her husband, right? And everybody is there supporting Lilo and Sua, everybody. And there is Kelly Boy, and in the moment when he's receiving his lifetime achievement award, he turns around and gives it to his wife. I could have cried and bawled, except I'm Sony LA, I want to watch it play out. I'm like, this is better than kicking it with the Kardashians. Let's go, Dilemas, divinely anointed with the Dilemas. Go ahead, go do that.

SPEAKER_01 28:34

No, yeah. He did, he gave it to me. It, you know, um, it didn't belong to me, it belonged to the Lord because the Lord gets the lifetime achievement in our lives. You're gonna make me cry. If I, you know, my husband was praying for me this morning before I left home to come here. He was praying for me, and I was like, You almost made me cry my lashes off. And then now you're trying to make me cry my lashes off. Don't you dare! Okay, anyway.

SPEAKER_04 29:01

I not, I not, and they look stunning, by the way. I feel the flutter of them all the way from over here across the desk. No, it was a beautiful moment for your family because there were so many facets, like a diamond that is glittering and shining on your wedding ring. There were so many facets of seeing Kalena Ku and Kalae perish. There was um Lilo and Sua and Winty Rain. There was Kapenabu and his son, right? And so I look over and I see it's not just one marriage that was saved when you said yes to Jesus and oh no, she not, and you stuck it out. It was many other generations standing on it.

SPEAKER_01 29:39

Being an example for your children and generations to come that um marriage is not easy for anybody, whether you're a celebrity or not. It's hard, it's hard work. But if you put Jesus in the middle of it, you're gonna be fine.

Boundaries And Choosing Wise Friends

SPEAKER_04 29:54

Hallelujah. Wow. Boom, could Jesus. There's the answer that we were I was hunting for and wanting to share because I have had so many women and I've had some men walk up and talk about that episode about Kelly Boy sharing about being Mr. Aloha in public, and then a lot of times at home it was like Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde. He was Mr. Angry. Yeah. Mr. Aloha, Mr. Angry, and you were the wife receiving um, there was no physical violence against you. However, there was stuff that was going on with the kids, etc. And you lasted it through. And then to follow up today, and that's what we wanted was how did you possibly survive that for the last 38 years? She just said it is Jesus and the power of prayer. Now, I'm gonna pivot forward. Thank you for that. That was a deep, huge share. Um, do you have boundaries that you draw? That's a word that I've been really getting into lately in my own relationships, boundaries because we can aloha all day long, but sometimes um if somebody has an issue, and again, I want to recap also as I'm asking this question, family, or if there is a woman watching and you are in an abusive or an adulterous marriage, the word of God covers that. And we are not staying to, we are not saying to stay, to stick that out necessarily. You need to, I really believe this, go to your pastor or to a counselor who is Christian based and get and work that through. We are not recommending Leolani said this was for her and her house. The Lord speaks to us individually. And so we're not telling you to stay in either an abusive or an adulterous marriage. Please hear us clear, right, sis? And this is a Hope Kahu that's an associate pastor at Echolesia Church on a sure foundation. So back to what I was gonna ask you is do you have boundaries for your marriage? Like who are the women friends you allow around the house? Is that a consideration? Um, do you need to travel with them 24-7? How do you, because your husband and your kids do go out on the road all the time, how do you manage that? Is there boundaries?

SPEAKER_01 31:53

Yeah, I I do have boundaries. I do have um women in my life. You're one of them. And um, without saying that, you you kind of go through a process of um You learned along the way, yeah. And um it's it's a character in the woman, it's their fruit, you know? Yes, um, and I'm just um very selective. And I don't think I chose my friends, I think God chose them for me. I would agree because each of them brings something different to my life, and I am a better person because of them. Wow, yeah, wow because they're not your family, right? Your family is your family, but you can select who you stick around, and like these women are like leaders, they're they're strong, they love the Lord, but they also are humorous, have fun. I mean, we bust laughing when we it's inappropriate, you know, like we get in trouble for it.

SPEAKER_04 32:51

Like before we started the cameras, we were just having talk story and then we go off on a wing thing, and our poor videographer is a male from Y, right? And we're like, oh, sorry, Clint. Um, did you start the cameras? Because we're just having a jolly old time. We started the show before the show started. But yes, you have women in your life who are pillars in the temple and they are carved with the word of the Lord. I think about people like Kahu Kanani Mayole. I think about Sister Shar, right, who is over at um the Kailu Costal Church. She's also pastor's wife, and she is like your fashionist, right? She does stylists for you. She also cooks, she makes her charcuterie boards. I mean, you have so many friends in so many ways that I believe it's iron sharpening iron. Jesus said, as a friend sharpens a friend, so iron sharpens iron. Or I'm getting it reversed.

SPEAKER_01 33:41

You they've um enhanced my life, but they also have shown me how to be a good friend to someone else. And so I just reached out to a woman recently, and I said she he she had just lost her husband in the last year, and I called her just out of the blue. Like I don't have a relationship with her really. And I just said, I don't know how to be a good friend to you, but I'm trying. Like, what can I do for you? Wow, you know, and I said, Maybe we'll go to coffee, maybe we'll have lunch, maybe we'll just sit at the beach and cry together, right? You know, like I just want to be for you what you need me to be.

SPEAKER_04 34:15

Wow, you know, but I've learned you don't even know her, but to sit as the book of Job in the Bible, where his friends showed up and they just sat in silence for six days. That's where they won. They should have lost, exactly. You know the word, they lost when they opened their mouths, but it's so neat to reach out to another woman and be able to hold space, is what they say a lot, or to cry tears. And the Bible says that we mourn with those who mourn and we rejoice with those who rejoice. You offered her another friend, like I see you, and one of God's great names is El Ra, the God who sees, right? And so he said that to the maidservant who was sent off with her child. Remember Abraham Hagar. Yes, thank you. Hagar. And when she was out in the desert, baby's off by himself, she couldn't even stand the crying anymore because he was gonna die out in the desert. And the Lord who sees her showed up and said, You didn't see that water over there, I'm gonna take care of you and I will make sure the boy survives. Right. So you are saying to that woman as a manifestation of El Ra that God sees you and I can sit with you. Right. Because a lot of times we hear so many sermons, we hear so many podcasts, so many um memes and scriptures and all kinds of things flying at us. But Leolani Delima, the gift you gave that woman was the gift of presence.

SPEAKER_00 35:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 35:33

It's I really believe that humanity is losing our humanity nowadays. We don't know how to sit and just talk story like we used to do back in the day. We don't know how to just sit and listen. We're always like, oh, that's kind of boring. I'm gonna check out and just look at my social media, blah, blah, blah. No, right here, this is the connection, not your connection on Wi-Fi. Sorry, I got off on a tangent.

SPEAKER_01 35:54

Yeah, no, but thank you for holding something. But my friends have taught me how to be a good friend. You see, and so that it's so valuable, those friendships, you know. They do teach us, and um, yeah, and just women know how to take care of women. We do, you know. Yes, we know we know what we need, and so we know how to speak, we know how to, you know.

SPEAKER_04 36:16

Have the softer side, the sensitive side, even the flashy style side. So you did this recently. I saw you show up for a friend. Last Friday was a certain fashion show, and one of our friends is Maylin Vitali Vay. She is an awesome fashion designer. We wear her style. It's missing Polynesia. She represents for all the Southern Polynesians, right? We all know the Hawaiian aloha shirt. We know the Hawaiian designers, but girl. Got it. This girl got sleigh style. And so um, Maylin recently overcame cancer by herself. We found out on social media. We did Friday. This one texts me and she goes, Here's the poster of the upcoming young women's prom event, W Y uh Y W Pick tonight. Are you going? And I'm like, Mary, I work like five jobs. I don't know. This is the first time there's three today on Aloha Friday. I'm gonna check out, go to sleep, go home, and um just read a book and not do anything, eat popcorn. She's like, Well, you know, I was thinking of going, which means are we going? So I said, Okay, great. I want to see Maylin anyway. I haven't seen her. So we showed up. And do you know that Maylin, long story coming in for a landing, Maylin texted us one line and said, The Lord knew I needed you and Leo to show up.

SPEAKER_01 37:35

That's so nice.

SPEAKER_04 37:36

And then reposted what we posted, right, about the fashion show. And here's our fashion designer. And even in the moment, in the cup of trembling and in the moment of trial, right? Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall fear no evil, for God is with us. Right. When you are with someone and you just you just sit there and clap for them, you sit there and cry with them, you just sit there. As women, we we bring something a little bit more special to other women. So thank you for having encouraged me to do that. As dog dead tired as I was, we showed up and we showed out. And she's like, Wait, what? Because I said, Well, now we have to dress up. Now we do need to wear our missing Polynesia tonight. Do you have your missing Polynesia?

SPEAKER_03 38:17

She's like, I need to dress up for a fashion show.

SPEAKER_01 38:22

Have to wear heels and lashes? Are you kidding me?

Deliverance From Smoking And Drinking

SPEAKER_04 38:25

I'm like, Mary, do not come with your bottom bottle clothes, your leppo items. You better take a shower and put on your best dress, Mary. Go borrow one. That's why you need a best friend, you guys. Iron sharpens iron. We do our best. And girl, this is Tonga, right? I got my shoes from us, anyways. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I'm gonna skip down towards the end of some of the questions I gave you in the beginning. At present, now, uh, and just to round off what we were saying, is I was gonna shift into what we were doing in the present with Capenna. You know, you loved Kelly Boy from that young man that he was, and still very much activated in things of the world. We'll just cover it. That's a big brush statement. There you go. Things of the world. Um, he finished, as he shared earlier, so I'm not gossiping. He's his testimony. He he was able to work out a drug addiction, and that was even sitting in the front row of your daddy's church with a crack pipe in his pocket, going to the bathroom to smoke, coming back, sitting down and listening to that. Is the extreme level of what you the big brushstroke to say, the many issues. So that teenage boy that Kelly Boy was with all of the issues and the trauma, healed so that now he is Deacon Delema, that he prayed for you this morning as you were coming to this podcast. Thank you for loving your husband so that we all could receive God's gift in your husband and through your family. Because it's not just your husband, Kelly Boy Delema, one of the finest musicians in the state of Hawaii, because of his Aloha spirit. I'm not gonna cry off my eyelashes because I don't wear eyelashes. These are the real puny deals. Um, but it's also in your children for Penna Boo, Kapenna. It's also for your daughter, Kalena Ku and her spouse, Kala'e Parish, and then it's also for um and for Kapenna's spouse, it's also for Lilo and Sua and their children and their children's children to come.

SPEAKER_01 40:18

Right.

SPEAKER_04 40:18

Thank you for loving God's um man for God's destiny.

SPEAKER_01 40:22

Amen. And you know, it doesn't stop there, Donnie, because we know that when one is healed, it opens the gates for the healing for every single generation. And so I believe my husband was a breaker in his generation, and I was a breaker as well. You sure are. But I was a breaker because my papa was my my dad, Papa Kahu was a breaker. When he um quit alcohol, yeah, he was a breaker and he broke that. So I didn't have to live under that curse. I chose to live under that curse. But when God approached me and said, That's it, girl, cut it out. Um, I did. Yeah. But you know, all of our walks are different. I don't want to sound preachy, like, oh, you have to do this or you have to do that, and you have to quit this, you have to quit that. But let me tell you, as a previous cigarette smoker, one and a half pack a day, right? Oh, I know. Bruh. I know, serious, okay, and um a drinker, but see, I wasn't just a drinker, I was kind of like a closet drinker, which makes it worse. Um, because I would I would hide it. Excuse me. I would hide it in a like a flask or something, which is worse. When you start to sneak around, it makes it really bad. But my dad, my dad never, as a papaka hoo, he never said you have to quit all those things. He never did. He would come to church and preach, and he said, When Jesus is ready to take it away, he will. Oh, that's how he plays. No, and he was absolutely right.

SPEAKER_04 41:45

He does not juke and jive and lay down the guilt trip. He just lets God do his trip on you. And he was awesome.

SPEAKER_01 41:50

And he was correct. Yes, he is. Because the night um before I quit, before I went to bed, Jesus said, Are you ready? And I was like, Mmm, yes. You know, like a half-hearted yes. The next day I woke up and it was like I was imprisoned the day before, and chains fell off the next day. It was like that, for real. And it was only because I had prayed all those years, like, Lord, I I want to be better, I want to live better, I want to do better.

SPEAKER_02 42:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 42:17

And God didn't want that for me. And then the alcohol was I had a dream, and I Papa, this is the last dream Papa Kahu ever interpreted for me. It was like my toilet was backing up in my house, and no plumber could fix this. So you know what that means, right, you guys? The sewage is gonna be all over your house. What you do in darkness will affect your house more than you think. Come on now. The the the the stench, the filth of it all will touch every generation. Wow. And so I say this not lightly, but because God delivered me. I praise God every day because I couldn't have made it without him. And um, do I still think about it? Oh yeah, the enemy will still come and tempt you. Yeah, but I know who I am in Christ, and I know that he delivered me. If God's gonna take you out of Egypt, don't you dare turn around and go walk back into Egypt. I've thought about it many times, but when I did the deliverance for the cigarettes, I did it in front of my children. And Kelly Boy is like even standing there, even as a baby Christian, going, Don't do this in front of the kids.

SPEAKER_04 43:18

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 43:18

And I was like, I have to. Yeah, I have to. In 1999, I I chose the date too, so that I remember it's 99, 1999. Wow, it's on September 9th.

SPEAKER_04 43:30

You threw away the cigarettes in front of the kids and rebuked the addiction of smoking. In front of them. I held it in turkey.

SPEAKER_01 43:36

Yeah, I held the cigarettes and the even the lighter and the beautiful Japanese, you know, like I just had it. It was beautiful sin wrapped up very beautifully for you. And I and I and I showed them, and I said, You will never see me smoking cigarettes again. And um, Cabenna goes, Can I have the lighter though? And I'm like, No. You don't get It everything's gonna be burned. You know how bad it was. We threw away everything that every birthday after that, for years and years, we couldn't find a lighter. Right. It's that moment. We're like, where's the where's the lighter? And we're like, I don't know, she quit smoking, so we don't have a lighter. But I'm just saying, like, when God delivers you out of every single um bondage and you are free, you can live purposefully and you can live how he created you to be.

SPEAKER_04 44:26

And so I will empower you to do so, is the part I'm taking away from your story. Like you stopped flat, cold. You were smoking a pack and a half a day for years, and then you stopped the next day in front of the family.

SPEAKER_01 44:38

Even the drinking, I quit in January, puleha mau of 19. Um sorry, 2019, that was the year Papa died. He died two months later. Two months later, I was like, I need the drink. You know what I mean? With a grief. Sure. The night, the day he died. Yeah we went out to tell you.

SPEAKER_04 44:54

And she said puleha mao, which means prayer silent, which is uh, I think it's a week of silent prayer with their um staff and family at Echolosia Church. Every first week of the year, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 45:05

To dedicate yourself to so when he died, I was like, Lord, I need to, you know, and he and the Lord put it in my heart, he goes, What better way to honor your pastor who also gave up, yeah, went and overcame that exact addiction, right? Amen. He showed you the way, he died today. This is not how you're gonna honor him.

SPEAKER_04 45:25

And so every day I live to honor him um by being sober, which is huge because as you're saying, um, and I've said it this way we reverse the curse and we bring the blessing. And there's a lot of transgenerational curses, or in um regular secular society or science calls it transgenerational patterns. Okay, call it what you want, but it's a stronghold on your life, on your children's life. And until we overcome certain things, it's like taking that cup of poison that we've been drinking that we got from maybe our parents or grandparents. Now we're drinking it, but we also are serving it to our children. And that's exactly the dream you had was the backup in your sewage system. That doo-doo and that um that didn't belong to me. That was before me. Exactly. But I will stop, reverse the curse no more. As for me in my house, Joshua 29. We will serve the Lord, right?

SPEAKER_01 46:18

But he never even he never even interpreted that dream.

SPEAKER_04 46:20

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 46:20

He looked at me and he goes, you know what this is? And I said, Absolutely. You don't need that dream to be interpreted. You know.

SPEAKER_04 46:27

God gives you the interpretation, a confirmation, affirmation. You're not just gonna hear it one time, it's gonna resonate with what the word of God says. And then you're also gonna get the power of the Holy Spirit. When you step forward and say, I'm gonna burn these cigarettes or throw them away, trash them in front of the children, I'm gonna get rid of all the paraphernalia, the lighters, the cigarette case, I'm gonna get rid of the drinking, we're gonna get rid of all of the bottles in the house. We don't need the glasses for whether it's a martini or a uh, you know, the champagne flute. We're getting rid of all the stuff. So hear this family, as we're talking to you and we're coming in for a landing, that when God asks you for a step of obedience, he will bring the spirit of God in that moment, as it were in the Red Sea parting. They had to step forward onto the ocean. Imagine you go down to the beach, your foot is hitting the water, and God will split the ocean in front of you. That power comes upon you in the moment of your obedience.

SPEAKER_01 47:21

Yes.

SPEAKER_04 47:21

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 47:22

Absolutely.

Capena Updates And Booking Shows

SPEAKER_04 47:22

And she did that for her marriage and for her Keiki. Okay, so what is Capenna doing today? And then we'll land on our last question, which is traditional.

SPEAKER_01 47:30

Um, we are doing a lot of private shows, baby parties, and graduation season is coming up, so it's all getting booked right now. So go ahead and book your day.

SPEAKER_04 47:40

All the mom and jerk or book it and your information. Do you have a website or do you have an email?

SPEAKER_01 47:44

Yeah, capenna.com. Okay. Everything's there. That's how you can find us, find everything. And um, like even in music, we're always creating new music. There's this one new song that my husband's gonna bring out, and you guys, I think this might be the song that was written for him. It's it's yeah, I wish I could share it with you guys, but when he um he sung so many songs, 30 albums later, right? But this song, someone wrote it for him actually. And um, it just tells his life story. Wow. And I think it's called like I'm grateful or something. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, sorry, I don't know if I should have said it or not.

SPEAKER_04 48:21

No, but well, and this to be honest, we're probably gonna air this in about a few months, so maybe by then it will have been out. It'll be a huge hit. We're just gonna prophesy and name it and claim it and and pro proclaim it out loud. So thank you for that. And then you have a calendar also on kapenna.com where they're performing. Yeah, um, we but they do regular gigs, like I know they're at the surf jack sometimes Sundays.

SPEAKER_01 48:44

He's um at the Surf Jack as a soloist one Thursday a month, like the first Thursday.

SPEAKER_04 48:49

Because you also perform at Hale Kulani on Tuesdays, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 48:52

But that's a trio, that's not the Kapena band. So people make the mistake and come down and look for the reggae train band, and that's I'm in that band. Okay. We're doing hapahaula Hawaiian music, you know. And then my husband will try. Reggae train. You know, you want to go to the concerts, you know, that he's um in for Hawaii's finest, yes, or you know, or other concerts. Yeah, some people make the mistake and they calm down and they're like, this doesn't look like the reggae band elegant Waikiki.

Aloha Meaning And Aloha Hero

SPEAKER_04 49:21

Hale Kulani is one of the top um hotels, resorts, beautiful, it's historic resort. So, anyway, you can find out more information on kipenna.com. Now, um, last question we ask all guests, and I love I think I have asked you before, but I'm gonna ask you again because you were on before. What is aloha to you and who is your aloha hero?

SPEAKER_01 49:41

Oh, that question kind of like just made me think a lot. Um, you you put like what does aloha mean? Like, is it a scent? Is it a so I imagined, right? What would um aloha feel like to me? So it's when you hear Hawaiian music, it's when you smell the flowers. Wow. And I specifically kind of honed in on plumeria because that's what Wamanala would have so much an abundance.

SPEAKER_00 50:06

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 50:07

And then the last thing was my mom's um or my dad's um beef stew cooking on the stove. Oh that's if that's not all over, I don't know what it is.

SPEAKER_04 50:18

You laid it down what we would see, what we would scent, smell, what we would taste. You laid it all down.

SPEAKER_01 50:25

But the person that comes to mind every single time is my mom. Because my mom, um, she was the one that was taking us to church when we were little, and um nobody ever fell in line until Papa said yes to Jesus, and then we all said yes to Jesus. Wow. My mom was the assistant choir director, and for years, like she would fast, she would she would do everything, and it was like nothing moved until the priest of the home stood up and said, You know what? I'm gonna follow Jesus. We all one by one got saved. My brother, my sisters, me, and then our spouses, you know, and it was pretty immediate, like inside a year, right? You know what I mean? It was pretty quick. So, you know, to the priest of the home for to the men of God, when you say yes to Jesus, wow, everything else falls in line. And I can't encourage you more to just lead your family in the way that they should go. Amen. Because God's gonna come behind you. Oh, heaven is gonna come behind you and bless you, yes, and stand behind your yes, absolutely. And so um, my mom, she just um like when I think about her, like she she came from very humble uh beginnings, but she wasn't the favorite child. And um, she had to find her own way. She got pregnant when she was 16 to my dad, and um he was uh he was a hard man to to deal with in those years. I remember my mom struggling a lot, and um they were like fist fights, you know, like woman out style, like yes, yes.

SPEAKER_04 52:00

Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_01 52:01

Mom and pop going at it, you know what I mean? Wow. Um, sorry I don't mean to laugh, but um she she she stuck it out, she did it, and I know she didn't even know when he was in the worst parts of his alcoholism, yeah, they lost the home, they lost, you know, their house and everything. She didn't even know that God had purposed him to be the Papa Kahu of our church, and he led all of us to Jesus.

SPEAKER_04 52:29

Well, and as I hear that, I've never heard you share that story about Mama Kahu, because that's who they became. That's when I stepped in, was later in life. In fact, I just told you the other day I have the honor, great honor of having attended your dad's celebration of life. He was Papa Kahu, and of course his wife, Mama Kahu. I went there at that celebration of life as well. You've never shared that story, but my highlight that I hear, and I believe it's God's holy highlight, is that she was the one, as the Bible says, some are to plant the seed, some are to nurture the seed, and some are to harvest the seed. And so she was faith faithfully nurturing the seed, you folks, the kids, all those many years. And yeah, fist fighting because that's title, right? You gotta stand up for yourself, go toe-to-toe sometimes back in the day. But she kept praying and fasting for her husband. She may not have known explicitly he was Papa Kahu, he had that call, but she knew the goodness of that man and she stayed by him. Yeah, because there's always an option to leave, it's too easy to leave. Yeah, and I I am blessed to have known Mama Kahu for having stood by the children and nurtured them so that they were ready for him to come in with the harvest later in life.

SPEAKER_01 53:40

Yeah, I want to tell you a story real quick. She was the last one to accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. My dad was first, and then my brother, me, and my sisters, and my mom, I remember we're at a Benny Hen Crusade, and she finally, and it was kind of odd, like, mom, you're the one who led us here, you know. But it was almost as if she was waiting for all of us to be okay, and then she thought about herself, like her own salvation. That makes sense. If that makes any sense to me. That makes a lot of sense. And so we're like, oh my gosh, we thought you were saved all these years, and only now you give her something. What's happening, Mom? You know. So crazy. Small kind backwards, small kind. But I want to tell you that I was thinking about that, that you came to both of my parents, and I have to say that um friendships um are nurtured that way, and it meant more than you know that you were there for both of their funerals. You were there praying for her when she was in the ICO on life support. And you taught me how to be a good friend like that because you were such a good friend. In a crisis is when you need your friends, and you were there, and I just I that's like more valuable to me than money can buy. So mahalo for being my blessed all these years. Thank you, friend.

SPEAKER_03 54:53

And she chose me.

Proverbs 31 Blessing And Closing

SPEAKER_04 54:54

Well, God chose us for each other, but you really hunted me down. And then one more fun story. Thank you for that. I received that because it just meant a lot to me to be there with you folks. And God even told me, wear white to Papa Kahu, first mama Kahu's, and then Papa Kahu's celebration of life. I'm like, God, it's a funeral, it's black. I hate to tell you, Lord Jesus. Maybe you don't know everything. Why don't people wear black?

SPEAKER_01 55:15

We use white.

SPEAKER_04 55:16

They were wearing all white, and I was like, praise God, I listened to the Lord for once, right? Two times. Um, the other fun story was just uh we have too many fun stories, but thank you for all that you are in my life, Blessy. And she has her own Olelo show. Um, you've been faithfully upholding since Papa Kahu started it many years ago. You've now been what three, four years.

SPEAKER_01 55:39

Um, this is my seventh year. Oh, it feels like yesterday. I know seven years or 84, and how many shows a week? Um, two a month. Wow.

SPEAKER_04 55:50

So 84 shows. So if you want more of Leolani, voice of him. She is a prophetic pastor and wonderful sister friend, and she really is the real Jesus deal. I say that about all of the Capenna family, and I bless you, Kelly boy. Thank you, brother. My favorite tongue and tongueata. And then also for Capenna Boo and Rocky and the kids, as well as Kalena Ku and Lilo and their spouses and the kids. I just I scored, I hit the Jesus jackpot when I got my Capenna to Lima Ohani.

SPEAKER_01 56:22

We did.

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So if you want more of them, you can find them on Kapenna.com or you can watch the show with her or even come to church at Echolasia. It's on the Windward side, right across Windward Mall. And they're just available all around the earth because they are that good that God salts the earth with capenna. So we love you, and I bless you in the word that comes out of Proverbs 31, that it says right here, an excellent wife who can find. She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not harm all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax and works with willing hands. She sows in real life, she sows. She is like the ships of the merchant. She brings her food from afar, safe way. She f rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it, and with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arm strong. She perceives her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She burns the midnight oil, praying. That's the truth. Verse 19 She puts her hands to the distaff and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household. All the Lord is the all in all. And when he says all, he means all. All her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself. Her clothing is fine, linen and purple. Well, it's pink today, but you know what I mean. It's royal. Her husband is known in the gates. When he sits among the elders of the land, she makes linen garments and sells them. She delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity. And I'm saying this over my blessed Leolani, but I also say it over you, many of you wives watching and gleaning strength today. Let me say it again, verse 25. Strength and dignity are her clothing. She laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the way ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her. They call her blessed. Her husband also, and he praises her. Many women have done excellently, but you, Leolani voice of Hevani, surpass them all. Charm is deceitful, beauty is vain. But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the fruit of her hands. Let her works praise her in the gates. And remember, aloha always wins.

SPEAKER_01 59:26

We're gonna do it again.

SPEAKER_04 59:27

Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 59:28

Aloha always wins.

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Okay.