Aloha Crushes Anger: Mr. Angry vs. Mr. Aloha - Hana HOU!

He’s a beloved Hawaii musician with a reputation for warmth, humor, and that unmistakable “aloha” energy. But what happens when the person everyone loves in public becomes someone his family fears at home? We sit down with Kelly Boy and Leolani Delima for a candid, faith-forward conversation about anger, trauma, marriage, and the long work of healing what you almost lose. 

We talk about the hidden cost of masking pain, how childhood trauma can shape adult triggers, and what it feels like to stare at a big empty house after your choices push people away. Kelly Boy shares the night everything broke, the moment he tried to walk out, and the spiritual confrontation that made him turn around and start bowing his life low enough to change. We also get real about the process after the breakthrough: anger may still knock, old habits may still call, but awareness, humility, prayer, and faster forgiveness can keep you moving forward. 

Along the way, we dig into family reconciliation, grief, and rebuilding trust, including how unity returns through honest words, restraint, and consistent love. We end with a simple challenge that hits hard: “Aloha comes from you.” Not from the world, not from social media, not from other people acting right. From you. 

If you care about anger management, trauma healing, Christian testimony, marriage restoration, and building a healthier family legacy, this conversation will stay with you. Subscribe to Aloha Alive, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a review with the line that challenged you most.

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Transcript

Welcome And Why Aloha Matters

SPEAKER_02 0:11

Aloha Ohana. Welcome to Aloha Alive. I'm Auntie Don O'Brien. I am super stoked to have not only some of the best, most well-loved musicians in the state of Hawaii, but I also call them Ohana. It's Kelly Boy and Leolani Delima from the Penn L. Yeah, I gotta confess, and Mark is my witness who is my videographer. I had Masese stuck in my head all morning. And I started from the beginning, right? Tongue. Just in the chat. I'll full tongue inside. But thank you so much for being my very first guest here on Aloha Alive. And essentially, you we said it when we prayed before we started, is that it is about making aloha alive in our hearts and putting aloha all over. Now we reconnoted both of you, and I had you come on together specifically because about five years ago, and correct me where I'm wrong, by the way, Ileolami is my best best friend. In fact, she has a nickname, Blessed, because she knows how to bless all over the place. Thank you, blessed. Thank you. But correct me where I'm wrong, blessedy. About five years ago, we were on a certain series called the Aloha Ha. It was music, melee, lots of LOLs, hence the Aloha Ha during lockdown. And as a culmination of that, Kelly Boy, you shared a very personal testimony about being Mr. Aloha in public, but then kind of Mr. Angry at home. Can you recap that a little bit? And then we want to hear how how it has it gone since then? Because that was huge. Like I was sitting next to your beautiful bride. She turns to me as soon as you were done, and we just hugged and cried, and she said, Praise the Lord. Bless God.

SPEAKER_05 2:00

Yeah, well, first of all, congratulations on the new podcast.

SPEAKER_03 2:04

They finally go on my own.

SPEAKER_05 2:05

And I just wanted to know when did you become auntie?

SPEAKER_03 2:08

All right. Thank you, brother. Thanks to you.

SPEAKER_05 2:14

I remember Dawn when she was not anti-Dog. Yes. But anyway, MCS. We shared that. We were together. Was that at Pastor Cal's house? Cal Chan. Yeah, so that was uh the two hurricanes boiling down. I'll go, I'm gonna tell you the truth, and this is the honest truth because this is the Dawn podcast. Thank you. I never know what was going on, Dawn. I I I never came inside there say that ambushed by Jesus saying that I was gonna share that testimony.

SPEAKER_06 2:40

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 2:40

That thing just came flying out. Wow, yes, and it need needed to be um exposed. Exposed, yeah. Yeah, totally. And um have God both yeah, really. It was just um something that was at that time that God was gonna deliver me from, you know. Yes, yes, and uh breakthrough was happening, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03 2:59

And um it was a dark secret.

SPEAKER_05 3:02

It wasn't not really a secret. I mean it was the whole family knew.

SPEAKER_02 3:05

No, I mean you know that only our family knew that, not the world. Because to us, Kelly Boy, and I'm your sister. You know, I love both of you as Ohana. We had no idea. So when you busted that that night, I literally I thought my eyes were gonna pop out of my head, my jaw was dragging on the floor.

SPEAKER_05 3:22

Your face and Leo's face was the only face that I saw, and you was like, I mean, you had your head now buried, you know? And um, it was um, it was really it was breakthrough even for me. You know, after the thing finished, yeah, um, Pastor Cal said, Oh Kelly boy, you know, um come eat and stuff. I couldn't even eat. I never knew what

The Public Smile And Private Anger

SPEAKER_05 3:45

happened. Yeah, I don't know what I said. You know what I mean? You have to go home to watch it. I I went home, I looked at Leo and I said, Let's go home. Yeah, I mean, I I felt good, you know what I mean. I know you've been through it, but you know, I explained to people that haven't, you know, you feel so spiritually drained after something like that. It's like it's like something, you know what I mean? Like something laugh, you know what I mean? Definitely a demonic possession. You were just kind of like tired and you you know what I mean, like like you've been spiritually battling, you know what I mean? And like when it when it's finally gone, it's like who what happened, you know what I mean? And I had to go home and watch that back on on Facebook, yeah. And and I and I was it's it's so awkward, you know. It's like I was like ministering to myself, like thinking to myself, oh my god, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 4:38

And Teti Boy, forgive me, but there may be one or two people who did not see that confession and that testimony. Can you share it? Because I I as I said, you are Mr. Aloha out in public. We all love you. You are Mr. Aloha after that, but you are kind of Mr. Angry at home. Can you share a little bit?

SPEAKER_05 4:55

Well, it wasn't really I was carrying it everywhere, it was just masking, masking it, you know, and um just masking the whole thing. Um, yeah, you know, just this anger from all kinds of stuff. You remember we did a show back in the day with Pastor Wayne? It was uh um what was it during Christmas time the holiday booze Christmas booze or something? Yeah, I love it you know, little things that you know what I mean would really um had affected me growing up. Yeah, you know, um trauma, trauma that has been through, and I learned like through my wife, you know, that she does a lot of studies, you know, on on top of these kinds of things, like you know, trauma and what um maybe um affected me, uh that I carried all of my life that just you know what I mean, and when it affects you, like when you were a kid and stuff, you know, these certain traumas that happened to you, you start carrying these things, yes, you know what I mean, to your whole life, and you know, you don't realize it, but the more you carry it, the more the thing visits you and comes back and checks in, like you know what I mean, checks you, right? You know, and um um bruh people cut me off on the road, I wasn't hiding or basketing, bro. I'll go full bang, you know what I mean? And they all know I got kafena on top the side of my truck, and I'm like, you know, I get it. They all see get sold for killing boy, and um especially I I I think you know, because the walls was around my house and you know everything was all, you know, is like I could let myself go and I I never had to, you know what I mean, be one certain way or something accountable in public and stuff like that, that maybe my anger had had um, you know, uh been really poured out on my family, you know, at a home, you know.

SPEAKER_02 6:46

And um and May I asked Shao, yeah, what did that look like towards the end? Because I remember you sharing that you were sitting in a big empty house, you were reconsidering your 37 years married, you were reconsidering all of that. And you couldn't talk to the kids, you couldn't talk to your grandbabies, they couldn't come visit. What was that moment like for you?

SPEAKER_03 7:08

Um terrified because you don't ever live your life with the love of your life thinking that's how it's going to end. And you're best friends to this day. Yeah. In that moment, yeah, it wasn't going well. No, um you ever heard that saying like it gets worse before it gets better? That was the worst. And um sometimes we have to really yield and submit to the Lord's work. And sometimes, like when when uh the Bible talks about him being the potter and you being the clay. You ever saw a uh clay on on a wheel? It's spinning, spinning and and being molded and punched that. Yeah, yeah. And and that's what it is when you're you when God's bringing your character flaws to the you know, it it feels like that, like it's not gonna be good, you know. Yeah, but but God promised me a long time ago that He said, I'm gonna make you a new pot, you know? And I really believe for all of us Christians that He's constantly molding us, and so that was my husband's molding part on this the potter's wheel. Amen.

SPEAKER_05 8:12

You know, and you know, for me, if I can just jump in, um I got to the point where um my control, you know what I mean, was my were controlled. It was out of controls was yeah, it was out of control, and you know, um you just get to one point where you know I just got to that breaking point, and that's what you saw, you know, that breaking point that bruh, there's nothing that I've gonna control. I cannot control my family, my kids, my wife, my life, um, with anger. You know what I mean? That this thing it don't work. They all grown up, they all, you know what I mean, they're gonna get offended, they're gonna get they can leave. Yes, they're not my little kids anymore that I can and they did leave, you know, they all left, one each one at at a different time, you know. And I saw her at the most breaking point, you know what I mean, that she had and I had. And uh it was that one night we're sitting at the dinner table, and just her and I, and she buried her head in the table, and she just cried like I never heard them cry before. And she said, You chased all of them out of our house. You chased them all out, and we don't have you're not here, we don't have our children. I said, all we have in this big empty house, you know, and I stood up and I said, you know what? Let me do you one favor. I'm out of here. I'm leaving, you know, and I said, I'm gonna I'll do you an I'll do you a favor and get out and get out of your life and dah, never took me two never took me ten minutes, and I was going down on the road and in Kanyeohe we we go down down an area that is called uh Lilipona. Um there's a flashing yellow light on this one band. And I saw that flashing light, and all of a sudden, man, I I I I heard God's like God's voice. Just like we're talking, and he was where you gonna go? You tell me where you think you're gonna where can you run? Where can you go? Whose house you can go stay at?

Trauma, Masking, And Family Fallout

SPEAKER_05 10:20

Where you think you can go? Fly off to that. You think top problems is gonna be gone. You know? He said, You're gonna turn around right now. You're gonna first, you're gonna call her, and you're gonna turn around right now, and every day of your life from this point, you're gonna bow your head lower to the ground than you've ever had in your life, and you're gonna get rid of all of this. Wow, you're gonna get rid of all of this.

SPEAKER_02 10:49

Audibly heard guys say to you, and that yellow blinking light. Stop caution, don't forget. That yellow light is still there, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 10:56

And um, man, no sooner than that that words came to me, man. I was on the phone and I said, Honey, I'm I apologize. I I'm sorry. Anything that I can do, you know, you get to one point in life where you say to yourself, you know what? This is the one that I'm supposed to be with. This is the life that I'm supposed to be. You know what I mean? You just think to yourself, you know, sometimes you're chasing life, you know, and it's like, man, there's gotta be more. You know what I mean? But God, God more for you. All you have to do, yeah, is put all that junk away, yeah, you know what I mean, and focus on him. That's good, Kelly. You know, really just yes, you know what I mean? Because only he can give you the more. Yes, only he can give you the joy.

SPEAKER_02 11:38

Come on now, you know, and um and this is from and Kelly Boy, I know you would never say it because you're a humble Hawaiian. I am not Hawaiian and I'm not humble, but I'm gonna say it's the word you have. Is that you know, you're a massive celebrity, and you just said that. You just said you can chase a lot of things in this life. I mean, it could be money, it could be other women, it could be fame, it could be a lot of things, but the Lord's gonna give you more, and so you don't put a stop, hold, cease and desist, and turn back to the wife of your youth.

SPEAKER_05 12:07

God showed me our entire life, how we were so good together. Yes, together, huge, you know what I mean? You are one, you know, the two become your nickname for her is honey lani.

SPEAKER_02 12:20

I love that about honey lani. I use it with your honey lani. I'm not even her husband, but I'm like, ooh, I like that. So now yeah, yeah, we but you are like me, and to this day, the two of you are best friends.

SPEAKER_05 12:37

You just you just know it's right, you know. It was God's God, yeah. You know, and and even though you know they say opposites attract, I mean, totally, we're totally opposite. She came from a whole different world than I came from.

SPEAKER_02 12:52

Like huge, you know, and um if I might interject, Kelly Boy, what you're saying right there, and and there's this thing, because you confess there was childhood trauma, it manifested or it bears this fruit, right? It was a transgenerational curse of anger and abuse, and it came in and it messed up your home. But the opposite of ACEs or adverse child experiences, which is a big word for trauma, is M-A-M-A. Meaningful adult, meaningful activity. So we recommend and we try to help children with trauma, find a coach, a teacher, a counselor, find an auntie or uncle. For me, it was my grandma Ketty. You know, it was my volleyball coach at high school who saw this messed up girl and helped her not to start drinking with the rest of the crew at state championships. For you, who is that M-A-M-A? Because for you, you were using drugs early. You were running the streets of Waikiki. You were running drugs and other things, but who's your M-A-M-A? Meaningful adult, meaningful activity.

SPEAKER_05 13:49

It's always been my wife. Come on, and how just a teenager. We got married, I got married at 20 years old. Holly me. You know, I met her. And uh all the sounds illegal, baby. All the well, from me on your part, because you was of age.

SPEAKER_00 14:05

She's dropping that cattle.

SPEAKER_05 14:08

But uh, you said it. That'd be sweet.

SPEAKER_00 14:11

Sorry.

SPEAKER_05 14:12

How about confessing said to me? Yeah, I always tell Leo, she was the she was the only solid rock in my life. Come on. The like she was that life preserver. You know what I mean? Yeah, I didn't know it. I mean, I I knew what was good. Yes, even though I was going back for many years, I was still on Crystal Met. I was out there, I was Bri.

SPEAKER_02 14:33

You said at one point, your testimony, one of the ones we've done, that you had your crack pipe in your pocket, front row of her father's church. He was the Kahoo, and you excused yourself to the bathroom to go smoke and come back. Yeah, and that's how vigilant and fierce she was. We I was smoking drugs while I was in the house of the you know, but God, and but the fact that, and and your wife isn't for those of you who who are sitting in with us right now, having a talk story with these two beautiful people who I love as Ohana, she's not perfect either, necessarily. We can whip out a Bible and I can look at all the ways I've fallen short today. My blessy was with you, not yet married, and she always says, Oh, yep, six months we were um pregnant and getting married, right? And she's even looked at you and said, Yeah, I don't remember him asking me get chance, and you said, I never have to ask. Had plenty chance, and I was like, Oh, but yeah, you didn't see me there, perfect.

SPEAKER_05 15:28

That was my like she was like my my accountability, yes, sir, in my life. She's a you know what I mean? Like like my rock, you know, yes, like um, that's why I would go to church, that's why I would come back because she knows because you know what I mean. That's the only good Don I have. All of in all of you know, yes, um, eventually I learned that God is good. You know what I mean? But you know, He puts people in your life, like you were saying, what is that adult adult activity um to the kind, and you know, to for her, I still today I still try to talk to her and tell her, she goes, Yeah, but I felt like you just stepped on me and you just I said, you know, honey, I said, I always tell her today, and we both agree that today, you know, we look back on our lives and and I and and she says, you know what? I was um, I said, you were the only one that never gave up on me. Come on, you know, like come on, you know, like my mom gave up on me, my dad, he would just he would tell me good for nothing, he would call me Kelly Imoloa. And I believe the translation to that was you know, you useless, you know, and um he would sow those kind words when he would get mad at me, you know, in

The Night Everything Broke Open

SPEAKER_05 16:40

my in my life. As a matter of fact, you know, um don't get me wrong, I love my dad. I know you have to do that. And I'm not trying to throw him under the under the bus or anything, or my mom, but my mom told her the truth. She said, Before um we got married, she pulled Leon aside and she said, Do not marry him.

SPEAKER_03 16:58

Oh bro, you know, she tried to marry me.

SPEAKER_05 17:00

And not only dad's Sony, but when I got married to her, my mother-in-law at the bottom of the steps, after I got on our way to deck, she looked in there and she goes, She goes, If please don't beat her, and if you don't want her anymore, please just bring her home. We'll take care of your mom. Like, like they all, like they could see one. I mean, like, you know, it was almost like you know what I mean. And and you know what, Don, I'm not this not one Petey party, you know what I'm trying to say.

SPEAKER_06 17:31

We're just telling the truth. It was the truth because I was P Lau.

SPEAKER_02 17:35

And it's I was not local boys, but men around the world who might think or partnership. That's all I saw. Right. And this is how I'm gonna do them, right?

SPEAKER_05 17:46

I seen my dad beat my mom, trolrow out the car while the car's still rolling down the road, her screaming like you know, I can hear still hear the screams in my in my head, you know. And I said I would never be like that, but I became just like that.

SPEAKER_02 17:59

Wow, you know, but then but God, then you have this rock of a woman who loves you sacrificially. That's pure true Aloha. Everybody leave up on me. I tried to leave, Donnie.

SPEAKER_03 18:11

Tried to leave. You know, I tried to leave. But God told me a few short words and changed my mind.

SPEAKER_02 18:20

And what were those few short words? Because I know them, but our audience may not have heard that it was pretty shell-shocking, yeah, world rocky.

SPEAKER_03 18:27

The the day I I decided, like, this is it. Yeah, I'm leaving. And he said, He said, You're gonna leave? And I said, Yeah. And he goes, He said, The blessings and the harvest that was meant for you, another woman will come in your place and take the harvest and the blessings. And she's going to see all your prayers that you soaked into him coming to fruition. She's gonna get to have that version of him. And I said, No, she, no, she not. I'll stay on him.

SPEAKER_05 19:06

Okay, hey guys, I'm not the biggest prize or catcher.

SPEAKER_04 19:08

No, you are that's the whole, you know, that's that's what I call Jesus Gangsta Jesus.

SPEAKER_03 19:17

Hey, come on. Sometimes you gotta be guy that's the whole point that I'm trying to make.

SPEAKER_02 19:21

And she's from Moimanalo, so Jesus will punch your face that he's a gangster Jesus.

SPEAKER_05 19:26

I'm I had Kelly. You know, God has the perfect person for you, He has the one that works with you.

SPEAKER_06 19:33

Amen.

SPEAKER_05 19:33

He's the one that you're supposed to be doing life with. Yeah, I'm so glad that I came to that realization. Hallelujah. You know what I mean? Absolutely and that I I'm living that. Yeah, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 19:43

It's like we would not have Kelly Boy if we didn't have honey lani leolani. We would the two really are one. You're the full package together. As you're saying, go to sign this.

SPEAKER_05 19:53

They see you up on stage shining the bright lights and stuff. Right, it's somebody that is at home watching your kids.

SPEAKER_00 19:59

That's right.

SPEAKER_05 20:00

You know, there's somebody at home, you know what I mean? You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 20:06

Making sure you have spam to be when you at the Naho Kurma Purano Awards, but we won't get into that one. Thank you, Kelly Boy, for saying that. So, since that confession five years ago, how's it been?

SPEAKER_05 20:18

Awesome. It's it's been still, you know what I mean? You still go through, you know, the hills and valleys of life, but more understanding, more clarity. Thank you. You know, more grace, more grace, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:30

And there was, as you said, Kelly Boy, when you made that confession, I believe a spirit of anger. We're not to have a spirit of anger, but a spirit of aloha. It broke off of you. You went home, you had to watch your own testimony to know what you said. Your wife had the same experience, and she is your, as we understand in the Hebrew language, Azair is like under armor. It's like an armor that is so close, and it's not just a term used for women, it's a term of a woman made in the image of God that we are his protector. And you allow him to be Kelly Boy, he is your guardian, he is your protector, your pastor, your provider, he is the father of your keiki, your mopuna, but you are his helpmate, you are the mother, you are the minister, you are the minister to his soul. And that is a power package right there. So I love that five years later, tell me what happened at Christmas this year. And I think, was it a rumor or a trumor? You got to go and be with one of the kids who left the house, which was Helena Ku and her husband. Hello.

SPEAKER_05 21:29

Can I just, you know, just share one thing is that you know, from that five years, you know that anger that that that had left and stuff. You know, guys, it it's not like you know, um, you're not gonna get angry again. Thank you. You know what I mean? You know, yes, thank you. Um, you gotta really watch because everybody thinks, oh, oh, trust in Jesus and turn your life over to the Lord. And you know, now you're in a washroom. You know, you gotta watch, you but you gotta be really aware because you know those past traumas. Those things they always gonna come back and chat. They're gonna come on. Oh, Kelly Boy, I'm gonna do something. You know what I mean? And you know something? Um like I said about clarity now, you know, and and with God exposing this whole thing, quicker, you know what I mean? I see where the thing is coming from, you know. So when I feel that anger coming on it, it's like okay, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 22:22

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 22:23

Alright, calm down, Rada, and just what do you do when that moment of anger comes?

SPEAKER_02 22:28

Because I've heard the opposite

Turning Around And Choosing Humility

SPEAKER_02 22:30

of anger is aloha in action. Right. It's it's the opposite of anxiety is taking action. So do you take a raction?

SPEAKER_05 22:36

This is what I do. I look at it and I'm like, you know what? I says, You have no right to take away my joy. Come on, you know, with this anger, yeah. You know what I mean, the devil what you know what I mean, that glory, you know what I mean, to take, you know what I mean, to to take my life and and and to make me so upset, you know what I mean, and have you know what I mean any credit to have you know what I mean and give him any of that.

SPEAKER_02 23:03

No, yeah, we're not giving him a foothold, we're not giving him a toehold, a strong a stronghold, a chokehold, get out, not to me and to the person and you love your best friend. Yeah, you're not trying to hurt her, but I hear you that those old thoughts, which is broken, but they're gonna always come back.

SPEAKER_05 23:19

Yes, you know the spirit of um um drug addiction, oh the thing always comes back.

SPEAKER_02 23:25

Well, you're out in clubs, you're at concerts, you're in Vegas.

SPEAKER_05 23:28

My wife was was loved alcohol, and she, you know, she abused it a lot of times in her in her life, but and we played them at the Hale Kulani, and every time when Mai Thai or something is floating by, right?

SPEAKER_00 23:43

She was like, This no, right? Because we've been set free. Thank you, Lord.

SPEAKER_05 23:48

The joy of not having to go through all of that, yes, is uh the the the payment is way more greater than it than what we would say.

SPEAKER_02 23:57

And here's what I hear you saying, Kayleigh Board. I love that you made that important point that it doesn't just you don't just become this whitewash rope before the the throne of heaven, you're still working it out, or still a work in progress. I've called it, and I've been on your wife's beautiful show, your beautiful wife's show on Olelo. I said it's Kardashian Christian. We look perfect on the front, and but we got a whole lot of junk in my trunk. I'm still entertaining a whole bunch of sin because I had a massive alcohol problem. I just figured it out yesterday. I had been drinking for 31 years of my life. I know I look 21, barely ready to order a drink. Yeah, but I had been drinking for 31 years and basically dealing with a lot of I was self-medicating, right? I was trying to forget those childhood traumas of still hearing certain things, of still hear, seeing certain images, like you, Kelly boy, because we had so much trauma from early kid time, probably before we were more and curses were being spoken, and we're not special family. There's a lot of you struggling with the same thing. But God, once again, and we can pick up and keep moving forward. I can think to myself, boy, I sure want to drink. I had this thought the other day, bless you. I'm always accountable to you, but I I thought I really want to have a drink. And I went, Don, you know, it's not just one, it's gonna be a couple bottles, but choose. I'll drink this bar until it's done, and then I'll go tap some more. But Kelly boy, as you said, we continue to choose Christ, and what I hear you say is giving grace to ourself because it's worth it. Yeah, yeah. Look at you guys now. We traveled, and I'm gonna come back to that Christmas story, but I want to tell a quick story about my blessie. We traveled to Lahaina after the wildfires. Thank you for letting your wife invest her with me with the Red Cross. Actually, it wasn't with the Red Cross, was a salvation army that may be distinctive. And he also had a friend going out there. We work with King's Chapel, King's Cathedral with the Moroccos. And my blessie, at the end of a long day of working out there in Lahaina, she would leave our hotel room, she'd say, Okay, well, I know you want to rest on Donnie, so I'm gonna go outside and talk to my boyfriend. I was like, Never be Kelly boy, and she's like, Of course it's Kelly Boy. And she was outside talking to her boyfriend for a couple hours. I mean, to the point it was like 11 o'clock. I'm looking out, going, Blesty, are you gonna come in? Are you still with your boyfriend? But you guys will talk for hours. You're gonna you go minister on the North Shore and you you're talking in the car there, you're talking about two hours, right? What is that? What is a day in the life of Kelly Boy and Leolani, and you guys really are best friends. But tell us about Christmas last year because you were at Kala and Kaleho.

SPEAKER_03 26:29

Kusna's house, yeah. It was our entire family actually. We all went up there and just celebrating Christmas with the family, and we we had so much fun together that we didn't even open gifts till like three days after Christmas.

SPEAKER_04 26:45

Oh, that's right.

SPEAKER_03 26:47

Because we just it mean it was there and we knew we had to do it, but we were more having more fun playing volleyball and singing and playing music and just enjoying each other.

SPEAKER_02 26:57

Yeah, and this is a picture of the spirit of unity, which the good book, which we all love. The Bible says in Psalm 133, verse 1, how good and pleasing it is when God's children live together in unity, and some versions say harmony. And Kelly Boy, when you laid down your life that night, and your wife has been laying down her life for 37 years, but you broke off that spirit of anger and you opened up. I'm gonna humble myself down to the ground. I, cause it's worth it, she's worth it. Is there a scripture verse before we switch gears and we're gonna start talking about how you learned aloha? Because you are Mr. Aloha, bra. I love you. I loved watching you get healed and delivered that night. I'm so proud of you, Kelly Boy. I'm sure there's many people who are proud of you today, and we still love you plenty, Kelly Boy.

SPEAKER_06 27:45

Wow, I love you too.

SPEAKER_02 27:46

Is there a scripture verse that you folks stood on during that whole time that can help someone who's just saying, I need something to hold on to? Please give me a scripture verse because I love this testimony, but what can we hold on to from the Bible? Hopeah hubai.

SPEAKER_03 27:59

I'm like, what is this scripture?

SPEAKER_02 28:00

She's racking her brain. I seen the gears moving. She racking up. I was thinking maybe 2nd um Corinthians 5, 17, and it says that we are new creations in Christ. The old has died, dead would be our version, right? Why and I? The old me has died, ma'ai dead, and the new creation of Christ that I no longer live.

SPEAKER_03 28:24

Yeah. Because I want to make a point about like long time ago when he was smoking in church, right? So that was Kelly Boy with no reverence. Come on, no fear of the Lord. But this whole journey wasn't without prayer, fasting, hallelujah, reading our word. Um, we we had to we had to confront really hard things in me and him.

SPEAKER_05 28:47

Well, I just want that I just want everybody to know that you know, do not be a people pleaser.

SPEAKER_02 28:54

Okay, come on, here we go. There it is.

SPEAKER_05 28:57

Because all I was trying to do, come on, I wasn't pleased trying to be there to please God. I was trying to please my father-in-law. That's to look good, you know, to look like us and please my wife that

Scripture, Reverence, And Dropping People Pleasing

SPEAKER_05 29:10

I'm I'm here, you know, you know what I mean? And you know, it wasn't about God in those days. I never grew up in church, I never knew nothing about God. The only thing I knew about God was the guys on Lahaina Street, that Pentecostal church that was super loud. And I told my dad one day, hey dad, how come on a good church? And he said, you know, boy, we we know about church because well, we just don't go to church, but we believe in God.

SPEAKER_06 29:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 29:36

All I knew about everywhere I went, I believed it. God's good because my dad said, right? There it is. But you know, well, it was always the kind stuff, yeah. And and I did not, yeah, have on reverence from God until Hebrews 10. I read we Papa showed me that you know, he goes, No get to the point where you step in on the blood of Jesus. Wow, you know what I mean? And you go backwards, you know, he's stepping on the blood. And you go back. You know, I mean and when I've heard that the kind, bro.

SPEAKER_02 30:05

And when I think blood, yeah, yeah. Wow. When I I have never heard that. I've heard it said as sloppy adopy or greasy grace. No, girl, you're gonna just say sorry after you've done dreams. Step on a blood.

SPEAKER_05 30:16

You step on a blood when you're clean, you end up on Kawiki Street with a broken leg and a motorcycle accident, and God breaking your leg and waking you up, and Daniel Kekaua calling Kavika Kayapu and telling him, I have a revelation for Kelly Boy, because I gave that testimony many years ago about Wait, I didn't break your leg, babe. God allowed allowed that action. Yes, excuse me for the other clarifying, thank you. That's the clarification in my life.

SPEAKER_02 30:44

I don't want you're a hero. She got gangster Jesus, but she wants to make sure he's not syndicate Jesus. Here's the thing. Here's the thing, right?

SPEAKER_05 30:51

Okay, I use that phrase because, or I use that because in the Bible, Daniel Kikawa told Kavika, you know, in the in the when when you get that lamb that always running away. Yes, that's right. Who break the leg? The shepherd breaks the leg. That's right. I feel like so that the lamb does not run away. And I hate that too. Yes, thank you, Kelly boy. And he puts that lamb around his neck and he carries on it.

unknown 31:16

Amen.

SPEAKER_05 31:17

You know, and when he told me that, guess what street I I I I ate it on? I got my leg broken on Kawaiipa Street, which means shepherd.

SPEAKER_00 31:25

Hallelujah. Come on, scientists.

SPEAKER_05 31:28

Anyway, yeah, getting back to you know what I was saying is that you know, I never had reverence for God when I was doing that during that time. So you know, God's grace, you know what I mean? Praise the Lord. Yes, it's also I'm not be sitting because if I knew Don, yeah, yeah, and uh I stepped on the blood of the Lord, you know what I mean? Yeah, during during that time, guess what? Yeah, would not be one broken leg. Come on, there would be no Kelly Boy, yeah, because of sin. My bike skid in a police report, a hundred feet, that's how fast I was going. Hundred feet off the road field? Almost, I guess. Oh, no. And um I was on the ground and I was blacked out, and all I all while I was coming to, you know what I mean, my senses, all I heard was, you know, friends of mine was across the street at the spa, and it was an auto body shop that another couple of my friends was hanging out at. And all I've heard was my name, it's Kelly Boy, you know, and I'm on the ground, and all I remember is ambulance and then going in an ambulance and going to the hospital. And that was the waking point of that. That was part one many chapters.

SPEAKER_02 32:43

Shout at you to get your and you were talking about not pleasing people, and that was the scripture I was reading this morning from Galatians 1. And Paul is writing in verse 10, he says, If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Kelly Boy, when I look at you today, you are done pleasing man. No, no, yeah, you and your family please the Lord. That's why every single venue you go to becomes an altar for the most high God. You are sharing that.

SPEAKER_05 33:09

Papa told me, he said, you know what? When you pre when you please your father in heaven, you please everybody else.

SPEAKER_06 33:15

Come on.

SPEAKER_05 33:15

Your father on earth, your mother on earth, your wife, you know what I mean? Yes, just look to God, just keep pleasing him in the way you live and the way, and like you said, how is everything? Is it better? Yeah, but every day, we're working it out. We're working it out, you're walking it out. It's it's it's way better because yeah, we have a greater understanding of what Christ is and the role that he plays in our life, as Lord and Savior. You know what I mean? As Lord and Savior, you know what I mean? And uh in that part it's way better. But do you um walk around and still not go through the trials and the tribulations and the thoughts and the and the traffic and the films and the you know what I mean? All the things all the things, still the kind, but God is the great old He He's the great victim, he's the overcomer, he's a strength, and you have faster to choose him, you go faster to forgive, you go faster to confess, faster, right, faster to get away that anger. Faster to forgive and you see the king coming faster. Yeah, yeah. You know what I mean? It's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, okay, okay, I see this.

SPEAKER_02 34:18

It's not my first way. I love this, and and as we switch into the aloha, I would say as a capstone for what we've discussed, you shared that beautiful testimony. It really shocked hell and it rocked heaven, and your family has come together. You know, it did, and you're no longer pleasing man at all, and therein lies the fruit of God's the Lord's rewards, because now you have your children. You know, you got Lilo and Kapenabu. You even have your grandson, one of the best drummers in the state of Hawaii, is like 11 years old. Oh, wait, he just turned 13. 13. I know. I seen the pedal yesterday on that crap.

SPEAKER_05 34:59

But you know, Don, you know, getting back to family, you know, family is complicated. Yes, you know, it's a nice messy. But you know something? Yeah, when we, you know, when Michael and a cool and Kalahe, you know, um went through their um um the loss of their baby, you know. So everybody always tell me how many grandbabies? Five. I have four here on earth and one angel baby or Hamakoa parish. It was hard for them. Yes, it was hard for our family, yeah, you know, and and you know, hurt people, hurt people, Melanie. You know what it is, and um, you know, but adults healed people, heal people, yeah. Healed people, heal people, and today we are healed.

SPEAKER_02 35:39

And you drew

Rebuilding Trust And Family Unity

SPEAKER_02 35:40

both of you drew a straight line because the whole time you're sharing about this, Kelly Boy, thinking about when we went to Tennessee, we went to the Johnny Cash Museum, yeah, and when you were talking about your wife being the straight line, that's the movie that they made based on their life story because Johnny Cash, as you know, he walked the line, and that line was introduced to him by his wife, June Carter Cash. And then the same thing in your situation, not only were you healed from going crazy, kukamonga all over the place, but this woman drew that line. Now you can draw a straight line for your children and your grandchildren. So as Kalae, who I love dearly and Kalina Ku, right, lost baby girl, and she's in heaven, they went through a humdinger of a season. Loss of a baby is hard. They uh statistically speaking, most couples don't survive the longest of the child. It's so anti-God, it's so against the design of the Lord. But here's the deal: you kept drawing as hurt people were hurting people, you kept healing people were healing people.

SPEAKER_05 36:35

But and aloha people all over. It was coming from both sides, uh saying that they hurt. You know what I mean? You know, I said things that I've that I shouldn't have said. You know, sometimes we've got to watch all you sometimes. Especially nowadays, you know. You just gotta just sometimes you just gotta hold back slow to you gotta pray. Yes, your words are the best words, are the best words, and today, you know, we prayed and we we've we've just prayed for two years, you know. We just prayed and so prayer, and um, today we have the best relationship, yeah. Wow, and I love my son-in-law, Kala'e.

SPEAKER_01 37:12

You guys are all in the house.

SPEAKER_05 37:14

I love my for Christmas!

SPEAKER_03 37:17

I know 20-something people-three, I think they counted.

SPEAKER_02 37:20

And it says where beautiful.

SPEAKER_05 37:22

And you know, even Capena and my daughter-in-law Rocky, you know. Okay, yeah, they I mean, shucks, we all been through battles, and even with my little Lilo, you know, my love, my love. The family's exempt from you know, I tell people me and Elo in the in the in the living room, bro. That's the first kid, man. She wins, she went square off with me, and we was going.

unknown 37:43

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_05 37:44

And she was cracked, trying to crack me. Maybe that's why it happened. And I was like, Yeah, strain voice.

SPEAKER_02 37:53

You know, but then you guys roll right into Kauai, and this woman stood up and shared the testimony. She goes, One of my kids has a black guy right now. We're just gonna deal with real because Jesus is a gangster. I'll gotta tell you the truth of the truth. Yeah, that's why I love my Waimanalo Grey, and that's what we're about on this podcast. Let's be helpful. I don't need to be a Kardashian Christian. We all got junk in our trunk, and we're all walking to each other. This is how I say it on my testimony when I was in Healing Hearts. I said, you know, we're all just children trying to find our way home. Yes, Lord. And and some of the days I stumble and I reach out for my friend, and she grabs my hand, she dragged me forward. And some of the other days she might call me and I'll sit there and I'll listen to her for a couple hours, and then we're good. We do back up. We're good, right? But we're not gonna have any Kardashian Christian in this house. Not except we're gonna be floated on S. Because then God can do the surgery.

SPEAKER_03 38:44

Yeah, He He's worth it. He's worth it.

SPEAKER_05 38:46

But you know, my Lilo, she's special. That one.

SPEAKER_03 38:49

I love Leo.

SPEAKER_05 38:49

You know, out of all of my children, you know, um, I love them all the same, but that little one, I mean, you know, she's you know, she's so and they'll pray for you now. She's three years old, but always your babies, you know. That one, she always, and you know what? After what we've been, you know, we got into it, and she, you know, she's the sweetest, she's like her dad. You know, like she can be the sweetest, right? But then, oh, no, get her upset. Right. Once you cross that line, bro, you know, you crossing the line. And um, you know, today, I mean, she just she's such a blessing. She's like her just like her mom. She is she's named Leolani, like Leolani the second, and now we have Leolani the Third. She's always calling us, hi mom, dad, you want something to eat, or can I do you know?

SPEAKER_02 39:37

She's such a good child. I seen her at uh Easter when we were out at Chinaman's Hat. We were doing our baptism for Echolesia Church, which is your family church now four generations, and with Win Top Bam, gonna be five generations. And um, there's Lilo holding um Mamakamhu Tracy's hand to escort her up to the water, making sure the seats or every because she always serves.

SPEAKER_05 40:02

She is always she is uh a deaconess, she got ordained in our church, and she loves the Lord and she raises her baby to serve, to serve, you know, and that little winter man and Riley, those two ways, yeah. They just they just love the Lord because they see what their parents, you know, how parents serve, you know, they're they're exactly it.

SPEAKER_02 40:26

Yeah, so what we were gonna switch into for the next few moments before we bring this in for a landing, and we don't have you back. I already gave you the hanaho. We not even foul yet.

SPEAKER_00 40:34

How good is that, bruh?

SPEAKER_02 40:36

Is it that but um what you just said, Kelly Boy, that you raised up your children, both of you raised your children. Now the children are raising the children with the aloha spirit, right? That I can come to Echolesia any given Sunday. I promise you what. Garrens bow barons to God at that. I will see a child up on that stage giving a scripture memory verse. I will see worship team, and they may not even know how to worship some of them, right? Like they're so small. Amber's little girl, how old is she? What's her two?

SPEAKER_03 41:06

She's four. Yep. Um, she's four, yeah, she's four, too.

SPEAKER_05 41:09

And then you got Tessame.

SPEAKER_03 41:10

Yeah, Tessame.

SPEAKER_02 41:11

She's older, she's like eight or nine. Yeah. And prophetess also. But here's what I'm saying, family. You raise up a child in the way that they sh should go, they're not gonna depart from it. And this is the aloha alive podcast because part of the controversy we see nowadays is oh, where's the aloha? Right, it's right inside of you. It is, and and as as imperfect as we might be, I'm still gonna raise my my juju boo is seven, but he knows how to walk up to Auntie. You gonna honey auntie, right? You're gonna kiss and greet auntie properly. Um, when we are at home, we pull it before we eat, right? We there are certain things. How did you learn aloha? What's one of your favorite memories? Because Kelly Boy, you know, the uh the other side of your dad was he trained you, he saw a gift in you,

Learning Aloha Through Music And Fatherhood

SPEAKER_02 41:55

and you won the brown bags to start him statewide, and a lot of that was your dad's encouragement. As hard as he was, he also had goodness to him. What was your favorite memory with your dad?

SPEAKER_05 42:06

My favorite memory was um I think when I made him proud, you know, like I was telling him, you know, it was a music. It was a music that made him proud that I was doing something, you know. I had to been what is how old are you when you like seven, eighth, grade? Oh yeah, 12 week. 13, yeah, 12. Cappenna is in the he's 13, oh yeah. So 13, 14, you know, when I was in high intermediate school, um I um I entered the um brown bags. The brown bags just my dad took me the year before and he said, Hey, Kelly, he um he goes, Boy, we go to the um high school, you know.

SPEAKER_03 42:45

What a vision. Oh, you went to the show?

SPEAKER_05 42:47

I went to the Waikiki show and I saw I think it was um oh I forget who was who was up on stage, but I looked at my dad and and and I said, Hey dad, next year I'm gonna be on that stage. And he just goes, All right, hey, alright. So you know, good, okay. He tells me like that, Kelly. It was the it was a sarcastic kind, you know. Yeah, yeah. You never feel really taunted. Good, good, the kind of like good. And I was wow that made him really, really um how old were you? Oh, that was high school, man. That was like I was at about 15. And you won the statewide brown backs. I only won from my school. That was a that was a year we played on we um uh Naleo was on uh so we was 84 and bro Naleo came out with you know a little bit poison. You couldn't even no there was no probably shak we sang Kauluvehi okay, but we put a a dent in inpression. It made an impression, you know, because it was the I was the only Howley boy up there, Leon. They're looking at me. My dad is Hawaiian. My mom is Hawaii, but I look like my mom. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 44:05

And um I love how you say there were two Hawaii people in Makah at the time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now I get plenty.

SPEAKER_05 44:17

But you know, she's a Canadian lady that married on Hawaiian local boy, and you know. And look at the wonderful result we all enjoyed. My dad always, you know, that I, you know, I always disappoint enough. That's why I mean I went to psychiatrist, I went to all kinds of programs, ALC programs. I was kicked out of school. I was heading to detention home, and I was heading in in, you know what I mean, in the wrong direction, you know, as a kid, you know, and you so they would put me ALC is one step shy of detention.

SPEAKER_02 44:47

ALC, if you don't know, is alternative learning center or another bad word. I was always in last chance. Then it's detention center and prison.

SPEAKER_05 44:56

So, you know, my dad, um, you know, all my life, you know, getting into trouble and stuff like that. But he was when he saw me get into the music, you know, and uh he was the one, you know. I just told him one time, though. And I said, Dad, I met my friend James Willis and Cunilla Galdera that really, you know, changed my life around. And I saw them play that ukulele, and I said, Bruh, this is what I like, do, you know. And um I told my dad once, I said, Dad, Alepon Ukulele. Wow. Um, because my friends play, and he went down to Kamaka Ukalele and he bought me a brand new eight string. Yeah, and at that time it was big dollars, it was $260. Bruh, that's still big dollars. That was big dollars back in those days in the 80s, you know what I mean? But that's the real deal. Now it's like the eight string, you said it was on eight string, wasn't full on. I was like, You were going for that. Um, when he gave me the gift, he gave me the thing and he said, Here you go, boy. And I opened this thing. I my entire life, like I could feel something like shift, like, wow, what is this? And I will never forget the words you told me. He said, Brother, this thing better not be collecting dust in two weeks. In other words, you better look at him in the kind and put the thing in a closet and forget him. That thing never ever got let down on. Do you still got that thing? Oh, yeah, I still got him.

unknown 46:26

Wow.

SPEAKER_05 46:26

Thank you, Chris Komako. And you tomorrow from there, they redid it, you know, many years ago. Oh, the thing was boss up, bro. I mean, I rode my skateboard, I was down at Beach.

SPEAKER_00 46:40

That he watched the chords, and he'd go for young.

SPEAKER_05 46:43

Um the Beach Boys grandma ukulele.

SPEAKER_02 46:47

And um that was a wonderful investment, and it was a prophecy, it was a vision your dad had for you. And I can see that you say he was impressed and he was proud of you, yeah. But I'm sure it was like the clicking in of a vision that he got. And sometimes guys really get it great because God has given them vision and he had that free. And like you said, your whole spirit shifted when he gave you that eight string.

SPEAKER_05 47:11

And he said, even as of like just a couple of weeks ago, my wife and I was driving to Ho'olanipur, and she said, You know what? God just told me, I said, What? And she goes, you know, like King David, yeah, he had his harp. Yeah. And he would play two Saul's, you know, torque or whatever.

SPEAKER_06 47:28

I mean it's a while, whatever it was. It's a liar, yeah, lying, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 47:31

Which is an instrument.

SPEAKER_05 47:34

She goes, That's what your ukulele is for you, honey. Yeah, you know, because there's been you know countless times that we just played um over at um um what is the place in Kanewe?

SPEAKER_03 47:44

The um no, the um no, the habil attack.

SPEAKER_05 47:49

Habil attack, yeah, yeah. We got asked to go play, and I just took my guitar and I took my ukulele by himself, and the people was singing along. I mean, this whole Habil attack.

SPEAKER_03 47:59

So it's a weapon in his hand, they call it.

SPEAKER_05 48:01

Yeah, it was it's a suivi, you know, like you remember when the Bible talked about King Saul when he would get those tormenting spirits, right? Spirits, and then he would come, call David, call D B in it, and they would just run, you know, yes, anyway. She told me that, and it made sense, you know, that after all of these years, and this was just as of two weeks ago that she shared that with me.

SPEAKER_02 48:22

You know, again, Revelation.

SPEAKER_05 48:24

I know, you know.

SPEAKER_02 48:25

Yeah, the spirit of worship, but it's a spirit of aloha with which it's a spirit of aloha, right? That's what I believe was it was invested into you, not just by your dad and your community, and yeah, there was hardness, there was roughness because the Terminator always tries to come back in time and take you out before you reach the fullness of God's gift. Yes, the hurt. So there was hardness, but God allows those things to bake in the goodness of resilience.

SPEAKER_05 48:50

As I look back, Don, God was up in all of this. Orchestra. Wow, even from one kid touched up.

SPEAKER_03 48:57

He allowed all the things we went through.

SPEAKER_05 48:59

He was up in all of that, man. All I had to do is get to the to the maturity of you know my walk with the Lord to really look back in my life and see all the places that God

Instruments, Legacy, And Worship As Healing

SPEAKER_05 49:10

was with.

SPEAKER_01 49:10

So we don't regret it.

SPEAKER_05 49:11

And all like that.

SPEAKER_01 49:12

Because it was necessary, amen. Yeah. For the growth. It was spiritual surgery. Yeah, surgery. It's gonna hurt. You're gonna be cut, they're gonna be take you out.

SPEAKER_05 49:20

Yeah, I'm thankful for everything that I went through. My heart, my good, the good and the bad. Because, you know, even in like Revelations 5, yeah, you see, you know, always use that that scripture reading, you know, like, you know, you had all us he had um, what was it? It was a to um, it was a saint over there, and and and they said, Who is worthy to open up these scrolls?

SPEAKER_00 49:42

That's right, right?

SPEAKER_05 49:43

Who's worthy? And they all could smell out. And he said, Oh, but look, the Lamb of God, amen. And how did they know that he was worthy? Because look, all the stripes and the sc everything that he read through, true. You know that it's the only reason how we can get to where we're going is because of your journey. That's good. You know, that's that's the journey, you know what I mean. You know, God look upon you and he says, Bruh, look all the scars and all the buffs of this guy get on top of you. That's good. But come here, my my good and faithful soul.

SPEAKER_03 50:14

And we all haven't used you, yeah, whether it be spiritual or physical wounds of the things we've been through, but God's gonna take us through. But I did want to go back to you getting your your gift from your dad, the Upulele, because this guy, every single child of ours, whenever they were in a new instrument, he would get the best. Wow.

SPEAKER_05 50:35

Wow, my dad said that in motion, right? He never just buy me an ABC store of four-string me do kahamo.

SPEAKER_03 50:44

And this guy would buy the best for the kids, like the best instruments, the best private lessons. And just recently, Lilo did it forward because Winter Rain studying uh piano lessons at four. She bought a new keyboard, she bought a new keyboard. Cinnamon play. And she can fix it.

SPEAKER_02 51:01

But um in order to get what you pay for, and I think what what we heard, and your point being, and please make it, is that my dad used to say you get what you pay for, so certain things invest the best, and you're worth the best. And the child noticed that. And you noticed.

SPEAKER_05 51:16

Yes, you take pride, and and these are instruments that you can pass down to your next one.

SPEAKER_02 51:21

Like you still have your kamaka, eight string.

SPEAKER_05 51:22

I still got the kamaka. That one I'm gonna, you know, I'm hanging on to, but my kanilea ukulele, um, my first custom kanilea ukulele, I just um passed that down to my my grandson, Aiboy. And bro, the boger can play. Yes, so you know, that's the kind of stuff that you get, you know what I mean? That's good. You know, you pass them down.

SPEAKER_03 51:44

That's the living legacy, yeah. Yeah, his second kanilea ukulele, he gave it to me. And you know, you don't know for borrow, babes. So okay. When you put a leolani, the little hey, that's tongue and style, right?

SPEAKER_02 51:57

Blessy. I can borrow, I can borrow. And then the owner has to come ask me. Everything is hers.

SPEAKER_00 52:04

You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03 52:08

Um, but you don't know what you have until you use uh regular upalele off the wall that's not custom, right? The tone, the sound, and you're like, ooh, yeah. And so sometimes, you know, we don't realize that we're being gifted the best, and I feel like this is how God is with us too. Sometimes we don't realize we've been gifted with the best until you kind of walk another way and you try something else, and you're like, oh, and there I'm gonna go back home to where, yes, and you know, make that point, slay it, queen.

SPEAKER_02 52:39

Come back home.

SPEAKER_05 52:40

Yeah, God wants the best for every for all of us. God wants to be you his best.

SPEAKER_06 52:45

Yes, yes, he does his best.

SPEAKER_05 52:46

You know what I mean? He's not gonna just be you everyone broken, you know, or the kind not not baby, you know, which is all good. It serves the purpose, you know what I mean, for for some people, but that's not the way our God is. You know, he's just uh you know, just something that you know.

SPEAKER_02 53:03

He gives his very best, he gave his son because he loved us so much. He's gonna give you the best. I love you guys so much. Is there a last word you want to give? And and our heart is part of thank you so much. This was so rich. I just want to talk for like five hours. We can do a Joe Rogan right now, but um no, he does three. Um I want to go on, but we'll have you back for sure. Hanaho, hanaho, cannot go. But also, do you have a last word? Because this is the aloha alive podcast, and we know a lot of people are saying, Oh, where's the aloha nowadays? No, he's so different. The world is crumbling. We randomly are hearing World War III. But how do we share the aloha?

SPEAKER_05 53:41

Well, you know, Sudan, I learned a long time ago. Yeah, aloha comes from you. You know? Yeah, um, I remember looking back at my my my past life and saying to my wife, yeah, but I saw my father beat my mom. I saw my uncles, you know, do drugs. I seen the kind, so that would be my excuse, right? You know, that'd be my excuse to the guy. She said, you know something? She told me one day, she said, you know what? You gotta be accountable for you.

unknown 54:08

Wow.

SPEAKER_05 54:08

She said, You gotta be, you gotta make the change. You know?

SPEAKER_06 54:13

Yes.

SPEAKER_05 54:13

And I looked at her and bruh, it made so sense. Think about it. Yep. You miss the change. Yes. Everybody looking around and goes, Well, when they all gonna get aloha. There it is, right? When you all gonna have aloha.

SPEAKER_02 54:25

When is the state capital gonna be a few?

SPEAKER_05 54:26

When everybody else is gonna have aloha, and you give aloha. Yeah, you know, hey, they cannot steal that from you.

SPEAKER_06 54:33

No, you don't let the gems steal that from you. Come on. You make that choice and that's the way it's your power, it's your personal power. I could either choose life or death to choose your power. You like to give somebody else that power? Right.

SPEAKER_05 54:45

No, right, you got you cannot take this from me. Helly boy. You cannot take this from me. I'm gonna walk with Aloha. Come on, I'm gonna I go and stand up for the auntie that might come on top the you know what I mean, on top the shuttle bus when I'm going from gate to gate, traveling or whatever, that nookin, you know what I mean? You know, I gonna stand up still yet for, you know? Yeah, that's but we're in Las Vegas and you go into the rental car place and get one old lady, come on, you know the kind. Nobody stands up for other LT, come, you know what I mean. That's what you gotta be to Allah. You know, and they and they sit around, and then the other people that is the kind they all look at you strange.

SPEAKER_02 55:25

You know what I'm saying? Why you do this? Like, oh, and that used to be common courtesy, but not so common that men would get up and give their seat, or young

Aloha Starts With Me And Everyday Kindness

SPEAKER_02 55:35

people, I would get up and give a kupuna older person a seat. And I seen Kelly Boy do this, and I won't share specifics, but we were in a um kind of a contesting type of situation where we were sharing testimony about something, and we were at odds with other people in the room, and you know you folks know what I'm talking about. And I got up there and I gave the opposition, I gave them my mouth. Because, like you said, I can be real nice, I'm anti Don, but you got a piece of me, you want a piece of this, let's go. I'm gonna use my mouth as a sword. And I sat down, I was very proud of what I had done on behalf of this family. But when we were all said and done and they wrapped up the proceedings, this man stood up and went to the other side. Yeah, and you blessed the very people I was giving the eye. I was like, bruh, I'm using my mouth, but I'm I will use my body next. Just try me. But you walked up and you honey them, you said, God bless you. I hope it all works out. He's so nice, it's Eric Katie. I don't think he gave the power.

SPEAKER_06 56:35

Because aloha comes from you. That's good. It's what you aloha comes from you, and that's where we're gonna land with the. And that's hey, you know what? That's where you got you gotta start somewhere.

SPEAKER_05 56:44

Amen. Start with you, absolutely. You know what I mean? Don't just keep looking at the world and thinking, there it is, you gotta get it.

SPEAKER_02 56:50

I can choose all of that, but I can always choose my response, and I can always choose because only you gotta go home with you. There it is, and live with yourself, I'll live with you. And thank you. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 57:02

Yes, and not just us single people. You hear what he's saying to me. That's why when I see all of these kind of comments, you know what I mean, on top, you know, social media and stuff with people lashing up all these shit at this, and right. You will never see Kellyboy Belema make a comment. I have never I pray. And you bless. I said, Lord, we're gonna just bless. Just bless and make make it bless, make it out, you know, work it out, work it out, Lord. And and you know what I mean, let the truth be told, you know, let the truth be seen.

SPEAKER_02 57:31

Amen.

SPEAKER_05 57:31

You know that we it's gonna be seen whether you comment or not. The truth you say is always whispered in the house, they'll be shouted from the roof.

SPEAKER_02 57:43

What would you like to say, bless the? How do we keep perpetuating aloha in our outspee?

SPEAKER_03 57:49

So this just happened to me like a week ago. We were in LA, and we were checking out of the hotel, and I was telling the front desk uh um helper that it was so fabulous. I had a great time, and their their food was good and everything was good. And he goes, Did you try our biscuits? I said, No, I didn't, but I ate everything else and it was so good. And I was just there was an exchange, but there was a woman next to me listening to me talking. She goes, It's so nice that someone speaks with such kindness. And I said, Oh, I said, Well, and I'm a Christian and I'm from Pubikey and this is how we all speak. And she said, Well, you know, I'm the teacher, I teach gratefulness. And I looked at her and I said, We live with gratefulness. Yes. And then I walked out and I told my husband, Do you think that was sassy what I said in there?

SPEAKER_05 58:37

Yeah, that was a little hard.

SPEAKER_03 58:39

But what I meant to say in that dude, you know, interaction was that we don't, we don't, this is not fake and phony. Yeah, this is who we are, and we should be so proud to be that. And we've been privileged and honored to be the bearers of aloha, yes, which is the light of the Lord into this darkened world. Oh, I like that. And so we should we should we should we should be so proud to be the bearers of that light, and we should bear that light wherever darkness is. Absolutely. And so I try to live that way in every realm where the people see you or don't see you, you have to live aloha. I love that.

SPEAKER_02 59:15

And living the light of the Lord, being honored to have the privilege to bear that light and to be the light of the world. Woo! You married a good one, Kelly boy. She nailed that right there. Sewed it up. Well, thank you again to my Delema family. Um, we just I just thank you and I bless you a hundredfold for all that you've shared today and and so transparently, so truthfully. And we can't have trust if we're not truthful. So thank you, Kelly Boy, and Leolani, your

Final Blessings And Farewell

SPEAKER_02 59:50

other half two or one, for sharing such a powerful. I bless you as you go out and continue to shine and bear the light of Aloha Raphael.

SPEAKER_05 59:57

We receive that, and thank you, everybody, for all of the prayers. You know, and uh we just are we be we belong to uh God's network is his community, is just so glorious. Thank you for the prayers, Donnyo.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:12

God's ohana, or as I call her Donnie O. I love it. Donnie only Kelly Boy, and only his wife can call me Donnie, Donnie. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:20

Nobody else can. It's Auntie Don.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:25

Aloha Shakazan. Thank you for coming on.