Mind Soak
Mind Soak is a podcast for the curious. Curving your perspectives with others' information.
Hosted by Samuel Dignan, each episode dives deep into conversations with people who have overcome, created, and evolved. From entrepreneurs and athletes to thinkers and adventurers, we unpack the struggles, lessons, and mindset shifts that shaped them.
This podcast is about absorbing wisdom — soaking it all in — and sharing insights that can help you grow mentally, emotionally, and personally.
Whether you're chasing clarity, building something meaningful, or just love hearing how others do what they do, you're in the right place.
🧠 Stay curious. Soak it in.
Mind Soak
#10 - Thoughts, Beliefs, Actions, Habits - Lewis McFarlane
Men are told to be strong, but many are just performing. In this raw conversation, coach Lewis McFarlane shares the wake up calls that forced him to stop pretending and start rebuilding. We unpack modern masculinity, performative authenticity, sobriety, changing environments, and his simple framework of Thoughts → Beliefs → Actions → Habits that helped him transform.
What you’ll learn
- Why “authenticity” online often becomes acting
- How to spot your wake up moment and use it
- The four lever framework to rewire your life
- Why your environment beats your willpower
- How action beats anxiety and victim thinking
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Lewis's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewismcfarlanecoaching/
Timestamps
00:00 – Are most men emotionally weak
02:18 – Authenticity vs acting online
05:00 – Personal wake up moments and stretch marks story
08:20 – The car crash and double life conflict
11:10 – Spiral, intrusive thoughts, and asking for help
14:15 – From self sabotage to first hard choices
17:10 – The drug run story and adrenaline dump
20:06 – Cutting vices and going sober for 12 months
23:00 – Rebuilding through mentorship and new rooms
26:20 – 80 10 10 rooms rule and managing ego
30:05 – Thoughts, beliefs, actions, habits framework
34:25 – Daily high frequency toolkit and next best action
39:10 – Tracking emotions, negativity bias, and perspective
44:30 – Victim mindset, language, and choosing the now
49:05 – Designing the future self and identity habits
54:10 – Action cures anxiety and closing takeaways
