I’m Not Your Therapist. I’m Your Wake-Up Call

Therapy today is a sedative wrapped in soft language and empty empathy. You go in with real problems and walk out with breathing exercises and a copay bill. In this episode, Enrique delivers a no-bullshit teardown of the therapy industrial complex and introduces the PrecisionCycle model: a post-therapy recalibration system built for people done playing the self-help game. From war trauma to eating disorders, from alcoholic executives to collapsing marriages—this is where the cycle ends and actual insight begins. If you’re tired of being pathologized, misunderstood, and sedated, this is your call to wake the fuck up. elevate.epo

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Hello, welcome to another Precision Cycle, brought to you by Elevate Dot epo. I'm Enrique. Let's open it up. I've been doing this for about three months now. putting on a show every three days of the week talking about certain components, mental health. Some things do better than others, some don't, what I've come to understand in those three months is that I'm not a therapist and I don't really want to be a therapist even though I went to school to become one. Therapy is something that is meant to keep you sedated in a way that. Allows you to keep going on day to day and do the things that you need to do. Go to work and engage with your family, be a good person and a good man, and that's all fine. what I found was that most people don't want therapy. What most people want are just friends. What most people want are people to talk to In this day and age of Americans being so lonely, 58% divorce rates. We even see people going out here falling in love with AI and robots. The reality is we live in a highly secluded space, and we live in a world where people are increasingly more distant from each other as technology gets more advanced. I was gonna do this whole show today about the narcissistic mother-in-law and how she killed her husband. And we're gonna get to that one day, and that's a very real thing. Female narcissistic violence and its effect on men. And how it is an unseen component to the negative aspects of men's mental health. But I think what I wanna talk about more today is just what Precision Cycle is, because I think I haven't really done a good job of talking about it. Precision cycle isn't therapy. Precision Cycle is a post therapeutic model for people who are done playing around with their therapists who are never engaged in a way that they'd like. That are done with the therapists who keep telling 'em the same platitudes over and over again, and things never change. Precision cycles for the guy who goes to work doesn't wanna sit there for an hour processing his feelings that are gonna be misconstrued or twisted, and then end up being gaslit and told that, the reason that they're. I feel so much anger is because of all this childhood trauma that they experience. Yeah, you experienced trauma, but that's not why you're angry. You're angry because you're not being heard. You're angry because you're not being valued in society. That's why you're angry. You're not angry at your mom sure. Our moms might've hurt us. Our dads might've hurt us. We might've had some traumatic experiences, but that's not why you're angry. You're angry because society still doesn't see you, doesn't value you, doesn't value your pain, and every time you see a therapist, they end up trying to talk you out of it. They end up trying to box, breathe you out of it, rather than sitting there and helping you feel that pain and understand what is it trying to tell you. That, or they're gonna go and they're gonna recommend ketamine or some other drug that's gonna keep you sedated where you don't think about it, where you're just be this version of yourself that walks around stone, have the time on mushrooms or wheat or whatever you're gonna be on to be able to function in life. Is that therapy, is that therapeutic? Is that something that people actually want? if it is, then I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to the people who have gone through that see how horrible and stupid that model is and wanna do something that actually is worthwhile. Wanna actually talk to somebody who has real insight, who has the experience working with Fortune 50 companies to understand how data science works. That wants to work with someone that's working with AI and software to take the words that are coming out of their mouth, measure that quantitatively and deliver a qualitative action plan for wellness. This isn't something that lives in some theory somewhere. It's not in some book, it's not in some sort of, cosmic understanding. You're not gonna go to some retreat, you're not gonna talk to a horse. You're not gonna. Have all these alternative experiences with a healing component to what precision cycle can give you. Because when you come to Precision Cycle and you come to me, I am able to give you a document that gives you seven dimensions that tells you where exactly you're leaking. You go to therapy, they're not gonna give you anything. they're gonna charge a credit card, but you are going to get a quantitative assessment, which will help us create a blueprint for a path forward, a journey map, if you will, that will take you from whatever you're in right now to where you want to be. Because here's the reality, the reason you're not getting. Dates. The reason that you are not getting promoted at work, the reason you can't find work, the reason you continually have people telling you're weird and you're a bummer. That's not you. Really, that's a society that doesn't value your. You, your presence. it's a society that continues to prey on your lack of boundaries. So when we talk about the precision cycle differences, it's boundaries. I come in and teach you how to put boundaries down. identify what boundaries are broken and where we need to fix 'em. then we go through the reps and we do it Is that therapy therapists would argue perhaps. I would argue no, because for 45 minutes in the session, you're gonna go in, unload on your experience, which they're gonna draw you out into more questioning of your position. And you're never gonna get to actual sort of real tools. cognitive behavioral tools are something that are designed for people with different kind of sensibilities. We're in June, we're in Men's Mental Health Awareness Month, and I don't wanna make it seem as if I'm anti therapy, but the reality is that therapy today is not made for modern man because therapy today is made for people with softer sensibilities that don't have to carry a lot of the real sort of realities that men have to carry. That's if you're lucky, if you're able to get some good mental health therapy. what's the difference with me? I've been practicing for three plus years. somebody that worked in corporate America came outta that, done some other education, but really. I think ultimately look, count the precision cycle because I am a person who understands how anxiety works. I've worked with women with eating disorders. I've helped them change the way that they respond. I've helped them change the way in which they look at their eating disorder as an identity to something that they use as a coping mechanism to something that no longer serves them. that's what Precision Cycle can do. I worked with someone who has been a lifelong alcoholic. Somebody who literally drank Two handles of Tito's vodkas a day. They are currently over 30 days sober right now with Precision Cycle. Because we are starting to work to place boundaries, we're starting to work to put down the blueprint for them to control their lives. I have worked with clients who have been sitting at their mom's house until they're 35. And have gotten them to see their true potential and activated them in a way no other therapist has been able to I have been able to work with same-sex couples who were on the verge of completely destroying their marriage and after stress testing it with just pointed questions And very real data that I present to them were able to understand that there was only certain levels of communication that needed to be fixed, those specific things were fixed, and now they're off having their best lives. Is that something that you guys can talk about that you've seen in your own experience? Have you ever worked with somebody who sat across from a war veteran who was trembling with PTSD? Because they ran over their best friend when they were driving the tank. holding that space and helping this person work through all that trauma so that he could understand that it wasn't ever his fault, that it wasn't ever something he was responsible for, because the reality was that he was doing a job that he was being asked to do and forced to do. if anything, his commanding officer was the one who did it, not him. The commanding officer that kept kicking him in the head every time. He didn't obey an order every time he didn't turn right when he told him to turn right. Every time he didn't press a button, when he asked him to press a button, this commanding officer on the tank would kick him in the back of the head. So when his commanding officer said, turn on the tank and roll out, do you think he was gonna take any moment to sit there and think about his friend who liked to sleep under tanks? No. He's gonna turn on the tank and roll out. But imagine living with that guilt of being the guy that turned the tank on and rolled out knowing that you were the guy that smashed his best friend. Those are the type of clients I've worked with, and those are the type of clients I've helped see clarity that they can forgive themselves because they weren't at fault. That's the precision cycle difference. Another therapist would've had them spinning circles talking about what it meant that he ran over his friend, talking about what it means that he still thinks about it, asking him what it means, that he still trembles over it, rather than understanding that he's trembling because he's so overcome with emotion about the fact that he's literally killing himself to death This was a real client. I helped get to another place in their life. Clients who come to me and are in dire straits trying to figure out their lives at community college. Single moms trying to figure out how they're gonna make any sense of their world. years later. They have already traveled Europe on academic funded trips because they have graduated from Berkeley and are now looking towards that American experience. So as we sit here, we talk about mental health. Let's talk about mental health and let's talk about men's mental health. We oftentimes leave to practitioners who have no experience whatsoever with men. Think about this. You go to a therapist. Female therapist. I'm just talking about how the therapy game isn't made for men. Why? Because when I was practicing, my supervisors were all women, Divorced women, single moms giving me advice. during supervision on how to deal with a man who's in active collapse, They're supposed to be giving me advice about what actual healthy relationships look like. this is the paradox. These are the things that therapy is. You go to eating disorder treatment centers and half of the therapists there have eating disorders. you go to a community mental health clinic, and most of them have their own mental health issues, if not complete psychic collapses. I've sat in classes with transgender therapists who actively. Talk about how they don't like to read and how even in training, they shouldn't be expected to read the material. They have that level of privilege when it comes to practice. Why? Because they meet a quota. I'm not trying to say anything negative about any of that. What I'm saying is that's therapy in a nutshell, a lot of performative nonsense. people actively looking to Steal your money and not give you anything qualitatively, because why should they? We've romanticized therapists and put them above. Reproach, because now we conflate the you're criticizing therapy as an industry therapy exists for people who are in extreme acute cases. Absolutely. But if you're going to a practitioner for more than a year, then you need to really question what you're doing there. And why you can't regulate yourself, why you have to depend on this other person to regulate because really that's not what medicine is. It'd be like going in and getting prescribed weekly medicine that never does anything. Would you keep getting the same medicine year after year? If it didn't do anything, if it just kept you in the same state. how many people are hooked on 17 different drugs? Because they've let themselves get to a place where they're have to take, five different pressure pills and three different heart pills. But that's. another discussion for another day. Because the American experience has been one of gluttony and one where people have really embraced the part of themselves that is the complete lack of activation of their own self. People are literally not living their lives. They're just numbing out. This may be a rant But the reality is that precision cycle exists so that we can bring clarity to all of these things. Precision cycle exists so that you can exactly come in and find out what's going on with you, and you can figure it out, and you don't have to sit there for a year, for two years trying to just process and get to it yourself. Why? Because you already know the answers. They're in your words. you've just never had someone reflect them back to you in a manner which lets you know that, what you just said, that's an open door for a calibration that you desperately need. I may have made sense today. I may have not. I don't give a shit. The reality men's Mental health month means absolutely nothing if you're unwilling to actually face what's challenging you and help you get to where you need to be. You can go and talk to a therapist who isn't gonna get you and is gonna sit there and nod along and yell, oh yeah, that's unfortunate. how does that make you feel? Does that really fix you in the end? No. You know what fixes you? Hard data. The type that comes outta your mouth and is reflected back to you and shows you this is where you're fucking up and this is how you fix it. How With boundaries. we are in a society where people have not learned boundaries because we have been too scared to place them. We are scared of abandonment and placing a proper boundary, and thus we want to people please. when we people please, we end up being upset because everyone ends up walking all over us because we let them. And then we sit there and say, but I'm just a good person. I like to help people. You're a narcissist who only does things for yourself. if no one has ever told you that, maybe you're going to the wrong place, I will show you quantitatively how narcissism presents in your personality and the things that you do, and how they're keeping you trapped in these loops. That give you the worst outcomes for yourselves, because the reality is, if you're a woman who is out here attracting some of the worst men, that's on you. That's on you because no one's ever taught you how to build boundaries that actually value yourself. No one's ever taught you how to build a boundary to respect yourself because you never learned that from your father. If you're a guy who is constantly in these bad relationship cycles with toxic women, and you find yourself seeing the exact same outcomes, yes, it's your fault. It's your fault because you're unable to really calibrate yourself and find out how you're leaking and how you're a simp, and how you keep overcommitting to things that you shouldn't, and people and women don't respect you. Because the reality is once you start placing valid, strong male boundaries, people stop fucking with you. that's the reality. People will stop fucking with you. When they understand that you are not someone to be fucked with when you project safety, people feel safe, and thus they don't activate their own narcissism. when people come at you and you have strong boundaries, it's amazing how fast your life starts to turn around and you start to get some of the things you want. How do I know? Because I know it personally. The day you wake up and say to yourself, I am no longer living this way, I'm finding another way. That is the day you start to get people more attracted to you, more magnetized towards you. That's when opportunity starts to present itself. That's when things open. The world opens up to you in a way that perhaps it hadn't before because this world respects boundaries. And they respects the people who place them and build them and force them and are them. Precision cycle is different than therapy because precision cycle is actual healing. It's actual data that tells you how to move forward in your life in a way that is aligned with how you want it aligned. It's not some soft therapy where we sit there and we process. I'm not that kind of therapist. I'm personality architect personality engineer, performance psychology engineer that will measure. where. You have trouble and help you fix it. If you need any type of real, comparable example of what position cycle is, they can be as Gordon Ramsey, e and, kitchen nightmares. I go, I sample the food, I see the service, I see how you do it, and then I tell you it's shit and I show you how to fix it. You come in, you talk to me, I see how you operate. I see how you're structured. I tell you it's shit, and I show you how to fix it. That's precision Cycle in a nutshell, and so today has been all over the place. It's been rather difficult week for me. Regardless, I hope that this message finds somebody. Who needs help and is tired of spinning wheels with therapists who don't get them, who don't understand them, who are giving 'em the same song and dance, same protocol, same type of interventions that are leaving them just as confused as they were when they came in. If you're tired of all that and if you're tired of talking to people that don't understand your pain, come to precision cycle. I understand your pain and look to not pathologize it. I look to see what it is, from that pain that drives you, because that's what changes you. Aligning yourself with your drive. My name is Enrique Raga. This has been Precision Cycle.