I Caught My Boyfriend Sleeping With a Pacifier… What Do I Do?

☕️ The Morning Brew with Chris Bennett & Best Friends | Relationship Advice Thursday

Today’s episode gets a little… weird 😳

A woman catches her boyfriend sleeping with a pacifier and has no idea what to do — bring it up or pretend she never saw it? We break it down with our relationship expert Janine Ford.

Plus, we hook up a Best Friend with Diamondbacks tickets playing a brand new game called “Drunk or Dumb” (you won’t believe some of these stories 😂).

And we wrap things up with some brutally honest advice from Show Low’s own Dave Ramsey on a boyfriend who suddenly “doesn’t know how” to do anything around the house.

💬 Would YOU say something about the pacifier… or ignore it?

👉 Listen, laugh, and let us know what YOU would do!

Transcript

Pacifier Discovery And Dilemma

SPEAKER_00 0:00

I caught my boyfriend sleeping with the pacifier. Do I ask him or pretend I never saw it? Hello, best friends. It is me, Chris Bennett, and uh we have a fun episode of the Morning Brew with Chris Bennett and best friends planned for you today. On this relationship advice Thursday, we have some relationship advice, and we start with the story of a woman uh catching her boyfriend sleeping with something that she never expected, and now she doesn't know whether she should say something or just ignore it. Plus, we hook someone up with diamondback tickets playing a game called Drunk or Dumb on this National Alcohol Screening Day. And later, uh, we have a bonus relationship advice where we deal with the boyfriend who suddenly doesn't know how to do anything around the house. It's Relationship Advice Thursday. Let's get things started. Chris Bennett and the morning brew. It is now time for relationship advice with our relationship advice expert, Janine Ford.

SPEAKER_02 0:57

Expert being a relative term.

Adult Pacifiers Stress And Sleep

SPEAKER_00 1:00

All right, Janine. Here's the headline. I'll read the story and we'll get your advice. I caught my boyfriend sleeping with a pacifier. Do I ask him or pretend I never saw it? What? Ah! Here's the story. So I stopped by my boyfriend's place to drop off some food while he was asleep. And I saw something I was not expecting. He works nights, so I didn't want to wake him up. I just popped my head in his room to check on him real quick, and there he was, passed out with a pacifier in his mouth. Oh my god. Like a full-on pacifier. Not a joke, not candy, an actual pacifier. It even had a little necklace attached to it, like he wears it regularly. Now, for context, he does have some sensory habits. He chews gum a lot and uses those chew necklaces sometimes. So part of me is wondering if it's something like that, but still, I was not prepared to see that. I haven't said anything yet because it feels like something he might be embarrassed about. Yeah, I think so. Yeah. So do I bring it up or do I just pretend I never saw it?

SPEAKER_02 2:10

Ooh, I I think we need to dig deeper in this one. This is the first relationship advice uh where I have gone on AI and looked at do some uh adults use pacifiers? You know, and uh it's coming up right now. I I just I I worry because it says it says right here, yes, some adults use specifically uh designed pacifiers, certain adult-sized pacifiers or soothers to magic manage stress, anxiety, insomnia, or a sensory sooth as a sensory soothing tool. So there you go. There's even e-commerce sites for these. Oh my gosh. Yeah, and it also uh yeah, kind of stress, anxiety. They're actually some people they're prescribed and they talk to talk about them using. Oh, okay. So maybe she, yeah, maybe she doesn't embarrass him, maybe she just kind of lets this roll and let uh waits till he feels like he can tell her about it. Right. Um, you know, because maybe it because if he has a real problem and it's a sensory kind of a thing, I mean it could be she could look at it kind of like a CPAP or something. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 3:17

Right, right. And a couple people on my Facebook Live said it could be like uh, you know, one of those teeth guards to prevent you from gr gu grinding your teeth.

SPEAKER_02 3:26

Yeah, yeah. So it yeah, and if it's a teeth tooth guard or if it's a pat you know, if it maybe it's maybe it's that, maybe it's a little bit of both. Maybe yeah, yeah. I don't know, but that's yeah, that's just one of those things. And people have weird when you uh study in my old job, I had to go to those sleep uh thing, you know. Uh-huh. And there's a lot of sleep issues people have while they're sleeping, and it can help you sleep so much better in some of those things. So I don't know. I would I would wait, uh wouldn't you just wait and let him see if he's gonna tell her. He's gonna have to say something like before they get married, you know.

SPEAKER_00 3:58

Yeah, I mean, if if they ever spend the night together, you know, uh that will be s you know, maybe the time to bring it up.

SPEAKER_02 4:07

Yeah, and it can't maybe they call it something else, you know, a sleep sleep, you know, sleep aid, something. I don't know. I don't know. It's just a little weird, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:18

Uh pretty fun relationship advice today. Janine says, just ignore it.

SPEAKER_02 4:23

Or right now, you know, and just see if it's you know, it might not be a big turn-on for her, but you know, it's a little odd. But if he's a good person and he's just got some sensory problems, who knows, you know? Right. If he starts sucking his thumb in public, I don't know. Yeah, yeah.

Drunk Or Dumb For Tickets

Weaponized Incompetence At Home

SPEAKER_00 4:37

I don't know. Awesome. Well, Janine, thank you so much for the great relationship advice today. I hope you have a great rest of your day. You too, Chris. Love you. Bye. You are first caller. Who's this? Linda. Linda, where are you from, Linda? Today is alcohol screening day, so I have a fun game called Drunk or Dumb. I'll read a headline and you gotta tell me if this person was drunk or dumb. You get two right, you win the tickets, two wrong, you're gone. You ready? Ready. Man tries to use Taco Bell receipt as driver's license. Drunk or dumb? Drunk. Yeah, we go. I'm a number four, I promise. All right, uh, you're up one zero. Women, uh woman calls 911 because her her McNuggets were missing. Drunk or dumb? Dumb. Holy moly, two for two! You did not waste any time. Linda from Concho, you just won two uh tickets to the D-Bax vs. Toronto Blue Jays Friday, April 17th at 6 40 p.m. What station just hooked you up? Q Country. You know it. Thank you. It is now time for a bonus relationship advice. We have uh Solo's own Dave Ramsey, star of Boo or Cool, uh, for some relationship advice. Did you hear the pacifier one?

SPEAKER_01 6:02

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:03

What's your advice uh to that girl?

SPEAKER_01 6:05

Leave it alone.

SPEAKER_00 6:06

Leave it alone, just ignore it. Do you sleep with a pacifier?

SPEAKER_01 6:08

No, I got enough pets to deal with that.

SPEAKER_00 6:12

All right, Dave, uh, we're gonna do a second relationship advice, and we'll get your advice. Uh, the headline for this one is my boyfriend suddenly doesn't know how to do anything. Am I dating a man or a toddler? Here's a story. I've been living with my boyfriend for about a year, and lately I feel like I'm dating a grown man who suddenly forgot how to function. At first, everything was great, but now every time I ask him to do something simple, he acts clueless. I asked him to put away the mop, and he said, I don't know where the mop goes. It's been in the same pantry this whole time. Then later, I asked if he mopped the floors and he said he couldn't find it, even though he was the one who put it away. It's the same thing with everything. I asked him to vacuum and he laughs and says, I don't know how, and then just doesn't do it. When I get frustrated, he doubles down and acts even more confused. Now I feel like I'm managing a child instead of being in a relationship. How do I shut this down without losing my mind?

SPEAKER_01 7:17

I think it's time to play show and tell. How do you play show and tell? You break out the vacuum, you show him what to do, and then hand it to him and say, there you go. Same way with the mop.

SPEAKER_00 7:30

Our friend Kendra says this is weaponized incompetence. It sounds like he's just being an idiot to get out of chores. No, yeah, he's being a total drag. But you think the way to do it, just treat him like a child and say, honey, I'm gonna show you how to vacuum. Now you do it. Exactly. All right. Should she maybe give him a chore chart and give him stars when he does a uh good chore?

SPEAKER_01 7:54

No, I wouldn't go that far. But it's time that would just turn him into more of a child.

SPEAKER_00 8:03

So Dave says it's time to show and tell. Show him and tell him how it's done. And if he doesn't do it after that, break up with him.

SPEAKER_01 8:11

Uh, I'd take off for a couple days and give him time to think.

SPEAKER_00 8:15

Oh, scare him. Put put put a little fear in him. Yeah, yeah. All right, all right. There we go. Awesome. Great relationship advice from our best friend Dave Ramsey from here in SHOLO. We love you, Dave. Have a great day.

SPEAKER_01 8:27

Yeah, you too. Be careful on your trip, buddy.

Wrap Up And Listener Callouts

SPEAKER_00 8:30

Thanks, buddy. See ya, bye. Bye. All right, best friends. That's gonna do it for Relationship Advice Thursday here on the morning brew with Chris Bennett and best friends. Big thanks to Janine Ford and Dave Ramsey from Sholo for the relationship advice today. And congrats to Linda from Concho on winning those diamondback tickets. If you enjoyed the episode, make sure you follow, subscribe, and share it with the best friend. We'll see you next time for the morning brew. I'm Chris Bennett, reminding you to be nice to yourself, be nice to others, and don't be jerk.