Is It A Red Flag If Your Boyfriend Keeps You A Secret?

A woman wants to know if it's a red flag that her long-distance boyfriend of 10 months hasn't told his friends they're dating.

Tarren from Snowflake calls in with some relationship advice, Brian from Pinedale disagrees, and accidentally creates one of the funniest moments of the morning.

Plus, we give away Diamondbacks tickets, spin the Wheel of Names for VIP tickets to the Chris Bennett Comedy Summer Comedy Series on June 27th at the Show Low Elks Lodge, and test a listener's shopping cart knowledge for movie passes on National Shopping Cart Day.

Grab your coffee and join the fun with Chris Bennett and Best Friends on The Morning Brew.

Transcript

Cold Open And Big Question

SPEAKER_01 0:00

And ten months is nothing to decide if you're re related or not, to have relationship.

SPEAKER_00 0:07

So so you don't think ten months is long enough to find out if you're related or not?

SPEAKER_01 0:12

No, relate the relationship. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_00 0:17

That was Brian from Pinedale calling in during today's relationship advice Thursday. A woman wanted to know if it was a red flag that her long distance boyfriend of 10 months hasn't told his friends they're dating. Plus, we give away diamondback tickets, VIP comedy tickets, and put a listener's shopping cart knowledge to test for movie passes on this national shopping cart day. It's a fun one. Let's get the show started. Chris Bennett and the morning brew.

Listener Advice On Hidden Dating

SPEAKER_00 0:45

Good morning. It's the morning brew with Chris. Who's this?

SPEAKER_02 0:47

This is Taryn from Snowflake.

SPEAKER_00 0:49

Heck yes, Taryn from Snowflake calling to win those two diamondback tickets to Sunday's game against the Washington Nationals. All you need to do is help me with some relationship advice. Taryn, do you feel qualified to uh give some relationship advice?

SPEAKER_02 1:04

I guess so, but probably not.

SPEAKER_00 1:06

Uh what uh what makes you uh qualified, do you think?

SPEAKER_02 1:09

Um, I've been married for 13 years.

SPEAKER_00 1:11

Oh, there he goes. Come on. Sweet. What's the key to being married for 13 years?

SPEAKER_02 1:16

Oh man. I don't know. Have fun? That's a good question. I'm still trying to learn. Maybe that's the key.

SPEAKER_00 1:26

Yeah, yeah. Always trying to learn. Don't know all the answers, and I think you're doing a good job. Well, here's the story. My boyfriend, 22, and I, 23, have been in a long distance relationship for about 10 months. And overall, things are great. I don't think he's cheating, and there really aren't any major red flags in our relationship. That's why this one has me a little confused. I met some of his friends, but as far as I can tell, most of them have no idea we're actually dating. They seem to think we're just friends. Whenever I ask my boyfriend why he doesn't tell people we're together, I never get a straight answer. He either changes the subject or completely shuts the conversation down. What's strange is that he doesn't act like someone who's trying to flirt with other women. When women show interest in him, he doesn't encourage you and usually steers the conversation elsewhere. Still, after 10 months, it feels odd that our relationship is basically a secret. Am I overthinking this or is this a red flag when someone won't tell the people in their life that they're in a relationship? Uh, what say you?

SPEAKER_02 2:36

I definitely think it's a red flag. It's definitely a red flag. She's probably his cousin or something, is what I'm assuming, and she's just confused. So that that's what I'm assuming. Or or he has another woman in his life and he doesn't want her to find out.

SPEAKER_00 2:52

Yeah, I mean, if he's not telling people, that definitely steers me towards that assumption as well. But she says he doesn't flirt with people. But uh yeah, I mean, if you're with someone for 10 months and then you go to meet their friends and they won't introduce you as your girlfriend, maybe it's time to sit down and and have a conversation and do what the kids say, DTR, to find the relationship. That's right. There we go. Awesome. So what's your advice to her? If this was your sister or friend, what would you tell her to do?

SPEAKER_02 3:22

I would tell her to leave the guy and go find someone that's happy to be with her.

SPEAKER_00 3:26

Yeah, and maybe someone that's local that's uh not long distance.

SPEAKER_02 3:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:29

There we go. All right, Taryn, great relationship advice and congratulations. You just won two tickets to watch the Diamondbacks take on the Washington Nationals this Sunday at 12.15 p.m. What radio station hooked you up?

SPEAKER_02 3:44

Q Country925. You know it.

Brian Pushes Back On The Red Flag

SPEAKER_00 3:48

Good morning. It's the morning brew with Chris. Who's this?

SPEAKER_01 3:51

Good morning, champion Chris Bennett.

SPEAKER_00 3:54

Heck yeah, it's Brian from Pinedale. Did you hear today's relationship advice?

SPEAKER_01 3:58

Yep, and I don't agree with it. What's your advice? I don't believe so. Begin with, long distance relationships are hard. Real hard. I did one with my wife for four years when she went to college and she was six hours away. That's one, okay? Two, they've only been dating for ten months, supposedly. And, you know, that's not very long. A year or better, I say, well, maybe think about it a little bit more, but those are my two reasons. The distance is hard to do, okay? And ten months is nothing to decide if you're re related or not, to have relationships.

SPEAKER_00 4:36

So so you don't think ten months is long enough to find out if you're related or not?

SPEAKER_01 4:41

No, relate the relationship, I'm sorry. It's it's is strong enough to start, you know, saying this is my girlfriend.

SPEAKER_00 4:51

Okay. And so you think it's completely normal not to tell people that you're dating someone after ten months, especially long distance.

SPEAKER_01 4:59

Yes, I don't think that's really appropriate yet. I mean, if it's a year or better, you know, after a summer, maybe she's in school, you know, and and they get back together in the summer, you know, and stuff, and then he'll look at it differently, you know.

SPEAKER_00 5:14

Right.

SPEAKER_01 5:15

So ten months isn't very long to decide a relationship or not.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

So you did long distance with your wife for four years. So did you when did you start telling people you were in a relationship?

SPEAKER_01 5:27

Well, before she went to high school or be c before she went to college. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 5:32

So so like before the four years, so before you were long distance, people knew you were in a relationship. Yes, yes. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 5:40

Because we dated all through high school.

SPEAKER_00 5:43

Okay, so you don't think it's a red flag?

SPEAKER_01 5:45

No, I don't think so.

SPEAKER_00 5:46

All right.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Well, I think it's just I think give it some time, yeah, and just see where it goes.

VIP Comedy Win And Shopping Cart Game

SPEAKER_00 5:52

All right. Give it some time, he says. Is this Kendra? It is. Heck yeah, Kendra. You entered your name into the Wheel of Names for two VIP tickets to our comedy show at the Elks Lodge, June 27th, 18 and over. Show starts at 6:30. Doors bar, Allaberto's food truck open up at 5 p.m. with national headliner Nancy Norton. We spun the wheel, and guess whose name showed up? Dark Nermi. No, no, no. Your name. Holy moly, congratulations. Uh, you are headed to the comedy show. You got two VIP tickets. If you weren't as lucky as Kendra, you could get your tickets today. We have early bird pricing going on where you could say $5 through June 12th. Just go to Chris Bennettcomedy.com. And this one is 18 and over. So uh a lot of people say, Oh, I want to bring my son or I want to bring someone. Well, if they're 18 and over, you can now bring them. But before I let you go, will you play a fun game with me today on the shopping cart day? Yes, I will. All right. If you get too right, I'm also gonna throw in four movie passes to the WME movie theaters, not valid for special engagements. Are you ready? Yes, I am. All right, multiple choice. Tell me what is the shopping cart total. All right, here's a family barbecue shopping cart, uh hamburger buns, ground beef, ketchup chips, watermelon. Is it A21, B27, or C31? Oh, with these prices? Woo! I'm gonna say B. B27? Dang, she got one right. There you go. You just gotta get one more right. All right. Here's a cat owner emergency cart. It's got cat food, cat treats, cat litter, and a laser pointer. Is it A $37, B42, or C48? Um, Jimma say C48. C48, no, correct answer. $37. Oh, bang. All right, and uh so this last one, if you get it right, you're also gonna get these movie passes. You get it wrong, you just get the VIP tickets. All right, this is what's in my gas station. This is Chris Bennett's gas station shopping cart. Beef turkey, an energy drink, a lottery ticket, and a donut. Is it A $20, B24, or C27? Oh, okay. Um, let's go with A. A20! Holy moly, Kendra, today's your lucky day. You just won two VIP tickets to our comedy show at the Elks Lodge June 27th. Doors open at 5 30. Bar Alaberto, or no, doors, bar and Alaberto's food truck open up at 5. Show starts at 6 30, and you also won four tickets, movie passes to the WME Theaters. What station hooked you up? Chris Bennett in Q Country 92.5. You know it.

How To Enter Tomorrow And Closing

SPEAKER_00 8:45

Well, that was another fun episode of The Morning Brew with Chris Bennett and Best Friends. And if you want to win VIP tickets like Kendra to our summer comedy series on June 27th at the Sholo Elks Lodge with headliner Nancy Norton, feature Bob Kubota, and hosted by myself, we'll head over to my social media pages, click follow, then hit the link in the bio and fill out the entry form. We'll be spinning the wheel of names again tomorrow and giving away more prizes. If you enjoyed the show, please follow the podcast, leave us a review, and share it with another best friend who could use a few laughs, a little fun, and some morning shenanigans. For the morning brew, I've been Chris Bennett reminding you to be nice to yourself, be nice to others, and don't be jerked. Bye, best friends.