WEBVTT 00:00:00.239 --> 00:00:03.439 Thank you for listening to the Kelona Christian Center podcast. 00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:08.080 Our desire is that today's message will be fresh and encouraging to you. 00:00:08.320 --> 00:00:13.679 For more information on KCC and how to connect, visit us at KCC.net. 00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:15.679 My name is Brian. 00:00:15.759 --> 00:00:18.800 If you don't know me, most of you probably do by now. 00:00:18.960 --> 00:00:25.440 Um Pastor Brody asked me to share just a little bit on Father's Day. 00:00:25.679 --> 00:00:28.480 And I'm going to be a little bit raw. 00:00:29.440 --> 00:00:37.840 Because when I talk about this kind of thing about Father's Day, I didn't have the luxury of having a father that was active in my own life. 00:00:38.320 --> 00:00:46.159 And because of that, I really struggled as I got older into my married life. 00:00:46.640 --> 00:00:51.920 Things that happened, I really suffered with rejection and failure, fear. 00:00:52.479 --> 00:01:04.319 And all of these things, because of my father figure that wasn't there, it really, really affected me in a way that you don't really know until you move on with life. 00:01:04.560 --> 00:01:17.920 You don't really know the effect of not having a father there until he's not been there, and he's not teaching you those things like how to shave, how to treat women, all of those things that you just don't that that your father should be teaching you. 00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:18.879 I didn't have that. 00:01:19.040 --> 00:01:26.879 I had an amazing mom that did so much that taught me a lot of those things, but there's nothing that can replace the father's love. 00:01:27.040 --> 00:01:30.079 And I say this not because my dad didn't love me at all. 00:01:30.560 --> 00:01:32.640 Um that's not the case at all. 00:01:32.799 --> 00:01:34.319 But he wasn't present. 00:01:34.719 --> 00:01:46.239 So something that as I moved on with my life and I got into uh being married, my selfishness and my lack of having that figure just took hold. 00:01:46.560 --> 00:01:50.000 We barely made it out of our first two years of marriage because of me. 00:01:50.159 --> 00:02:03.040 And I don't I don't say that because I'm trying to, it's because I was such a hard-nosed, rebellious, not listening to authority, not doing anything because I was unwilling to hear what God had told me. 00:02:04.799 --> 00:02:11.039 I was unwilling to even bend my knee a little bit to what God has called me to do, and that was to be a husband. 00:02:12.240 --> 00:02:15.199 So for the first two and a half years, we barely made it. 00:02:15.439 --> 00:02:18.319 We were this close to walking away and being divorced. 00:02:18.560 --> 00:02:22.719 And I didn't even believe in divorce, or so you thought, or so I thought. 00:02:23.840 --> 00:02:34.159 It was just it was hard because all of those feelings of inadequacy and all those things that you don't know that are gonna pop up, they just start coming up as soon as you have someone else you have to look after. 00:02:36.639 --> 00:02:45.759 And God was so faithful, and I didn't want anything to do with God, I didn't want anything to do with with other men that could possibly speak into my life at all. 00:02:46.000 --> 00:02:51.680 I didn't want it because I'm like, they'll tell me something I don't want to hear. 00:02:52.240 --> 00:02:55.199 We made it for it past the first two and a half years, obviously. 00:02:55.280 --> 00:02:59.840 I've been married for a whole bunch of years, won't say the number, so I get into trouble. 00:03:00.719 --> 00:03:13.599 But I've been married for a long time, and then as I had children, other things started popping up in my life because I didn't have that father, and God strategically placed men in my life. 00:03:13.759 --> 00:03:17.120 I had one guy, he's one of my best friends now in the world, his name is Greg. 00:03:17.360 --> 00:03:19.759 He chased me down for like a year. 00:03:20.159 --> 00:03:21.280 He wouldn't leave me alone. 00:03:21.520 --> 00:03:24.000 Brian, come on for coffee, come over to my house, come over. 00:03:24.080 --> 00:03:33.120 I want to and then he just invested in me, and he invested in me, and he invested in me and he prayed for me and he cared for me, and he invested and he got past my anger, my bitterness. 00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:36.639 If you knew me before, I'm not this guy now. 00:03:37.280 --> 00:03:41.759 I was angry, I was so bitter, I was so hard on everyone around me. 00:03:41.919 --> 00:03:48.719 My wife had to put up with me for a long time before God finally, finally did something. 00:03:50.240 --> 00:03:53.120 I learned what the father's love was. 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:55.919 We talk about Father's Day. 00:03:56.080 --> 00:04:02.960 It doesn't matter the position that you're in, if you have a relationship with your kids or you don't, God is a God of restoration. 00:04:03.840 --> 00:04:07.919 My dad and my relationship was very difficult for a long time. 00:04:08.080 --> 00:04:12.159 We've been up and down, but I can say that God has restored our relationship. 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:15.840 It's not the same as having a father-son, but it's different. 00:04:15.919 --> 00:04:18.399 And God was there in the midst of all of these things. 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:26.639 And it wasn't, we talk about one moment, this was a series of moments that happened consistently through my married life, through me being a dad, through my walk with Jesus. 00:04:26.879 --> 00:04:31.920 There wasn't one time that I can think back that God wasn't faithful to me. 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:44.639 We look so hard at what's in the past, and I will tell you that my past kept me from my future. 00:04:47.199 --> 00:04:52.000 And when I say my past kept me from my future, I could not move forward. 00:04:52.240 --> 00:04:55.759 I was stuck in the same spot because I was afraid of everything. 00:04:55.839 --> 00:04:58.560 I was angry, I was bitter, I was unwilling to hear. 00:04:58.639 --> 00:04:59.439 I had rejection. 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:02.639 Fear of failure was a thing that I just lived with. 00:05:02.800 --> 00:05:05.839 I didn't want to try anything new because I might fail. 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:15.920 But then slowly, as life changed and God just filled me up with his presence over time, I understood what the Father's love was. 00:05:17.839 --> 00:05:24.160 And when I say you cannot come into contact with the Holy Spirit and be changed, you really can't. 00:05:24.480 --> 00:05:33.439 Because over time, these things happen in your life, and the Lord says something to you, and the Lord moves something in your heart, and something happens, and you begin to change. 00:05:33.759 --> 00:05:38.399 But what I had to do is I had to change my no into a yes. 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:50.639 My no had to stop being a no every time he talked to me, every time he spoke to me, every time he wanted me to do something, every time he wanted me to change, move my life forward, I had to say yes. 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:55.199 Because the no instantly shuts it down. 00:05:55.360 --> 00:06:03.040 If you have children, when you say no to them, they're gonna keep pestering you and they're gonna keep pestering you, but they can see it in your face that you just shut down because you said no. 00:06:03.199 --> 00:06:08.079 When I said no to Jesus and I said no to God working in my heart, I shut down immediately. 00:06:08.319 --> 00:06:19.839 But the moment that I decided that my yes was gonna be my yes, God moved in my heart in a way that I I legitimately can tell you I'm not the same guy personality-wise. 00:06:20.800 --> 00:06:24.079 He moved through me in a way that you just cannot. 00:06:24.480 --> 00:06:31.680 I was went from being hard, bitter, angry, like would freak out at anything, would have short temper. 00:06:31.759 --> 00:06:37.920 My wife had to put up with all kinds of things, my kids had to put up with this, but the Holy Spirit softened me. 00:06:39.120 --> 00:06:40.560 So I want to talk to you guys. 00:06:40.639 --> 00:06:42.639 I want to encourage you men this morning. 00:06:43.199 --> 00:06:49.360 What's that fear that's stopping you from turning your no into a yes? 00:06:54.319 --> 00:07:01.199 Because the moment that you change your no into yes, God will move in your heart like you've never felt it before. 00:07:01.839 --> 00:07:13.120 Things will change in your life, your relationship with your kids will change, your relationship with your wife will change, your relationship with your friends will change, and most of all, guys, your relationship with God will change. 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:19.360 And that father's love is never ending, always abundant, filled with love all the time. 00:07:19.600 --> 00:07:27.279 He loves you, forgives you, gives you all the grace and mercy that you need at all times, without fail, never ending. 00:07:27.600 --> 00:07:32.480 So, what's stopping you today from having your no be your yes? 00:07:34.240 --> 00:07:38.399 Because God's authority and God's power in your life is bigger than you can see. 00:07:38.480 --> 00:07:44.879 And I'm telling you, there is an anointing on your life to be the best dad that you can be, to be the best husband that you can be. 00:07:45.040 --> 00:07:46.959 That's what God's called you to do in this moment. 00:07:47.120 --> 00:07:53.600 If you're a new dad, or you're soon to be a dad, or you're a longtime dad, God's word to you doesn't change. 00:07:53.839 --> 00:07:56.720 He will never leave you, he will never forsake you. 00:07:57.680 --> 00:08:01.439 So, what I want you to do is I want you to put your hands on the fathers around you. 00:08:01.600 --> 00:08:03.040 We're just gonna pray. 00:08:03.360 --> 00:08:04.000 Amen. 00:08:06.800 --> 00:08:18.800 Lord, this morning, as your Holy Spirit just speaks to these men in this place, Lord, that they would turn their no into a yes for you. 00:08:19.920 --> 00:08:32.240 Lord, that whatever is stopping them from moving their life forward, whatever is stopping from making a decision to serve you more fully, to be the best that you've called them to be, would just be broken down in the name of Jesus. 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:37.519 Lord, that your word, your authority, your Holy Spirit cast out all fear. 00:08:37.840 --> 00:08:49.440 In Jesus' name, that these men would be rise up and be the beacons of uh being a husband, being a father, being an employee, being an uncle that you've called them to be. 00:08:49.759 --> 00:08:55.120 Lord, that you've you've you rise up inside of their hearts to just give more of themselves to you. 00:08:55.360 --> 00:09:00.720 Lord, that you would teach them that vulnerability isn't weakness, it's strength. 00:09:02.159 --> 00:09:06.799 That being broken before you isn't weakness, it's strength. 00:09:07.200 --> 00:09:09.840 Lord, that your strength just invades us this morning. 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:12.000 Lord, it invades all these men in this house. 00:09:12.159 --> 00:09:15.039 Lord, that we would be ready to serve you faithfully and fully. 00:09:15.200 --> 00:09:23.120 Lord, that we can just be more in depth and more knowing of who you are in your presence in Jesus' name. 00:09:23.679 --> 00:09:24.320 Amen. 00:09:29.120 --> 00:09:29.759 Amen. 00:09:33.120 --> 00:09:33.759 Amen. 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:40.480 Would you take a moment with me and just stand up and greet like three or four people around you today? 00:09:40.639 --> 00:09:46.639 Welcome them to church, give them a high five, let them know that you're glad to see them. 00:09:53.679 --> 00:09:59.120 If there's a dad there around you, then give them some special love. 00:10:28.879 --> 00:10:34.799 I'm the lead pastor here at Kelowna Christian Center, and we're just glad to have you at KCC today. 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:36.799 It's awesome to be here. 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:40.960 Um, you know, moving around is just highly undervalued. 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:43.039 How many of you have a desk job? 00:10:43.200 --> 00:10:45.279 Like sometimes I do I do. 00:10:45.440 --> 00:10:48.879 My wife called me like this tracking, like this fitness tracker. 00:10:49.039 --> 00:10:49.840 I don't know why. 00:10:50.000 --> 00:10:53.279 That's not really a that's not really the point here right now. 00:10:53.440 --> 00:11:03.440 But the there were times where we were sitting at board meetings or our executive meetings, and at the end of the day, I looked at this tracker, it hadn't moved. 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:06.000 It literally hadn't moved. 00:11:06.159 --> 00:11:11.039 So I'm just praying that my metabolism, you know, adjust likewise. 00:11:11.279 --> 00:11:16.799 But a lot of people, in particular in church, we defend our right not to move. 00:11:17.200 --> 00:11:30.799 And it used to be, you know, that stoicism, some type of like just simple uh lack of expression, perspective, was something that God was approved with. 00:11:31.200 --> 00:11:55.840 You know, I believe that the scripture says, clap your hands, shout to God, get on your feet, and there's like this movement that happens when you're with God, when you're in God's presence, where God actually wants the church to raise their voice and sing unto God and shout unto God with a voice of triumph. 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:57.759 It's like a voice of victory. 00:11:57.919 --> 00:12:11.120 We we celebrate God with our movement, we celebrate God with our our words, our expression, our language, and and sometimes, you know, as men particularly, we just you know, we just get a little concerned. 00:12:11.200 --> 00:12:13.919 We're just gonna stand here, me and my space. 00:12:14.080 --> 00:12:24.080 But I believe God wants us to just let go and let loose and just begin to express to God how we really feel. 00:12:24.720 --> 00:12:33.120 I love it because you know, I'm I'm not suggesting we do as David did particularly, like as scripture actually says. 00:12:33.440 --> 00:12:35.039 But he got hot. 00:12:35.600 --> 00:12:36.480 That was the point. 00:12:36.639 --> 00:12:39.600 He was like, I'm busy worshiping God. 00:12:39.759 --> 00:12:45.519 He was stripping off every kind of kingly uh article that he was wearing. 00:12:45.600 --> 00:12:48.720 It was just encumbering him, it was tying him down. 00:12:48.879 --> 00:12:56.240 Instead, he just stripped it off so that he could worship God with all of his heart, all of his soul, all of his mind. 00:12:56.799 --> 00:13:01.200 He was engaged with God in that place of movement. 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:10.080 Um, the church is a lot more fun when we're just generous with each other and generous in our in our expression to God. 00:13:10.399 --> 00:13:18.320 Uh, I love being a part of a busy church, a charismatic, uh, alive church. 00:13:18.399 --> 00:13:21.360 How many of you like being a part of a church that's alive? 00:13:21.919 --> 00:13:22.720 That's right. 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:26.799 A church that so you can't be quiet in this church. 00:13:27.360 --> 00:13:29.759 I don't want you to be quiet in this church. 00:13:29.919 --> 00:13:33.200 Be respectful, but be but but engage. 00:13:33.519 --> 00:13:34.960 I want you to engage with the word. 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:41.840 If the word says something that's real and true and witnessing to you, uh just agree with it. 00:13:41.919 --> 00:13:42.960 You can speak it out. 00:13:43.519 --> 00:13:45.840 If not for your own sake, for your neighbor's sake. 00:13:45.919 --> 00:13:46.799 Just nudge your neighbor. 00:13:46.879 --> 00:13:47.600 I'm doing it for you. 00:13:47.679 --> 00:13:49.360 I'm doing it for you today. 00:13:49.840 --> 00:13:51.759 This is why I'm doing it. 00:13:52.399 --> 00:13:59.279 But you know, the the house of God should be like your own house. 00:13:59.840 --> 00:14:05.360 Like if you come to my house, uh, my house is moving. 00:14:05.919 --> 00:14:14.960 I have three kids and a wife who's kept busy, and that place is moving all the time. 00:14:15.360 --> 00:14:22.159 If there are, if you aren't ducking and dodging nerf bullets in your house, it's it's not a good day. 00:14:22.480 --> 00:14:34.799 But you hear the noise and the chatter, and it's one of my uh probably my joys in life is actually having a house that's alive, and I'm sure that God appreciates it the same. 00:14:35.120 --> 00:14:45.120 But as much as I love activity in a home, one of the biggest challenges in my home is being able to like rally my kids together. 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:51.840 Come to the table, finding out where they are, getting them from where they are to where they need to be. 00:14:52.080 --> 00:14:55.519 Church on Sunday morning is one of those moments. 00:14:55.840 --> 00:14:58.559 Wake up, one kid doesn't want to get up. 00:14:58.799 --> 00:15:06.720 My daughter, though, however, like by eight in the morning, she's already showered, dressed up, had breakfast, and it's just like sitting talking. 00:15:06.879 --> 00:15:10.159 It's like, okay, now I've got your full undivided attention. 00:15:10.240 --> 00:15:12.720 You know, you can't tell me to go and do anything. 00:15:12.799 --> 00:15:14.080 I've already done it all. 00:15:14.320 --> 00:15:18.399 I'm just gonna talk while you get ready and you're gonna hear everything. 00:15:18.559 --> 00:15:25.360 So she so first thing she showed me today was, Dad, I wrote an Insta story for you. 00:15:25.519 --> 00:15:27.600 And I was like, Oh, how nice. 00:15:27.759 --> 00:15:29.360 You're not gonna like it. 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:31.120 I was like, what? 00:15:31.840 --> 00:15:39.440 And I was like, I quickly grab my phone, I look, and it's this beautiful picture of my my daughter and I walking down the street hand in hand. 00:15:39.600 --> 00:15:44.559 And then the next picture is a picture that she should have deleted a long time ago. 00:15:44.879 --> 00:15:46.559 Instead, she put it up there. 00:15:46.639 --> 00:15:50.000 Now you're all gonna want to know her username, and I'm not telling you. 00:15:51.679 --> 00:15:55.200 But when you engage your body, you engage your mind. 00:15:55.519 --> 00:16:02.799 Uh my kids and I, we went with Sean and his some of his kids this week, and we went and saw Incredibles Part 2. 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:06.720 And we were we had booked these seats like a week and a half ago. 00:16:06.879 --> 00:16:14.879 We knew where we were sitting, we had the center of the section, mid eye up, like we were eyeballing that screen. 00:16:15.039 --> 00:16:18.639 And we were set up because we had a lot of kids with us. 00:16:18.960 --> 00:16:22.879 And uh one of the I looked down the aisle and I nudged Sean. 00:16:23.039 --> 00:16:25.039 I said, Sean, check this guy out. 00:16:25.200 --> 00:16:30.559 And I look down the aisle, and here's this big guy, and he is on the edge of seat. 00:16:30.639 --> 00:16:42.000 Now remember, Incredibles 2 is this cartoon for kids, and there's this big guy on the edge of his seat, like totally engaged in this show. 00:16:42.159 --> 00:16:45.279 Like I've never seen anyone engaged in Incredibles before. 00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:49.840 But this guy was ready to receive from Incredibles. 00:16:50.080 --> 00:16:55.039 I swear he was probably waiting for this show for the longest of time. 00:16:55.440 --> 00:16:59.759 But in the same way, when we engage our body, we engage our mind. 00:17:00.080 --> 00:17:04.319 And when we lean in, we set ourselves up to receive from God. 00:17:04.799 --> 00:17:13.039 So when we do that, we're positioning ourselves to respond to what God wants for us. 00:17:13.359 --> 00:17:16.000 Now, in our home, the busyness is there. 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:25.279 I in my home, it's important when I say something, I want my kids to reply with a yes, dad, like come to the table, yes, dad. 00:17:25.440 --> 00:17:28.400 Like I it's one of those things. 00:17:28.720 --> 00:17:33.680 And I hear it be in my own voice, even though I know that it was in my dad. 00:17:33.920 --> 00:17:40.160 When I was growing up, my dad would always be like, Yes, dad, and I'd be like, Oh, yeah, yes, dad. 00:17:40.319 --> 00:17:46.319 Like, if it's like, get to the table, did you uh things like um come over come over here? 00:17:47.039 --> 00:17:53.279 The worst was when I was just silent, come over here, and he wouldn't hear me. 00:17:53.599 --> 00:17:55.759 He'd be like, come over here. 00:17:55.839 --> 00:17:57.200 It's like, uh-huh. 00:17:57.680 --> 00:17:59.200 No, that's not what I want to hear. 00:17:59.279 --> 00:18:01.200 I want to hear, yes, dad. 00:18:02.480 --> 00:18:04.480 I want to hear, are we ready to go? 00:18:04.720 --> 00:18:06.640 Your shoes on, yes, dad. 00:18:06.880 --> 00:18:12.400 Like, yes, the word yes is really important in the home. 00:18:12.799 --> 00:18:13.440 Did you hear? 00:18:13.680 --> 00:18:15.039 Did you brush your teeth? 00:18:16.400 --> 00:18:17.599 Yeah, yes. 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:18.880 That's great. 00:18:19.119 --> 00:18:26.160 The kids need to hear it, and the worst is hearing nothing at all, or even worse, hearing no. 00:18:27.119 --> 00:18:27.440 No. 00:18:28.319 --> 00:18:37.519 And uh that's when your little child is like pushing the envelope and wanting to control your life, and that's when you just say, no, no, no, no, no. 00:18:37.680 --> 00:18:40.640 No, you don't say no, you say yes, dad. 00:18:41.039 --> 00:18:44.319 It's more than just the way we respond in our own home. 00:18:44.960 --> 00:18:48.960 I believe it's the way we should respond, as Brian referenced this morning. 00:18:49.200 --> 00:18:50.799 We respond to God. 00:18:51.519 --> 00:18:55.039 Our response to God should be a quick, yes, dad. 00:18:55.599 --> 00:18:56.640 Yes, dad. 00:18:57.119 --> 00:18:58.720 What do you want, dad? 00:18:59.119 --> 00:19:13.839 Instead of something like it, instead of saying no, because let me tell you today, the miracle is always on the other side of yes, it is never on the other side of no. 00:19:14.319 --> 00:19:19.680 God can't, God won't, God hasn't, God's not able. 00:19:20.000 --> 00:19:31.119 No, the at the miracle is always on the other side of yes, God can, God is able, God is willing, God, it is possible. 00:19:31.519 --> 00:19:34.559 Yes, God, I come into agreement with you. 00:19:34.880 --> 00:19:38.720 I come into alignment with what you're saying. 00:19:39.200 --> 00:19:42.559 So don't be so quick to say no to God. 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:49.200 Don't be so quick to see that negative perspective that God can't do it. 00:19:49.920 --> 00:19:54.319 Because God is willing, God is wanting to do things in our lives. 00:19:54.559 --> 00:20:07.759 I love the example of Cornelius, a centurion, a soldier, who came to Jesus and he went to Jesus and he said, Listen, one of my servants is really ill, Jesus. 00:20:08.160 --> 00:20:15.599 And Jesus was and he said, Jesus was speaking to him, and and he said, You don't even have to come to me. 00:20:15.680 --> 00:20:17.839 I'm a soldier, I understand authority. 00:20:18.160 --> 00:20:22.400 When when someone says go there, I go there, they go and they do it. 00:20:22.559 --> 00:20:26.160 And when they say stay, they stay, and when come, they come. 00:20:26.559 --> 00:20:30.799 And he says, All Jesus, you need to do is just say the word. 00:20:31.200 --> 00:20:36.880 I'll agree with that word, and your yes is a yes from uh is enough. 00:20:37.119 --> 00:20:44.079 And the scripture says, as soon as Jesus said yes, his servant began to get better. 00:20:45.039 --> 00:20:48.000 On his way home, the servant began to get well. 00:20:48.400 --> 00:20:54.799 He said the centurion understood the power of agreement, the power of just saying yes to God. 00:20:55.680 --> 00:20:56.960 Yes to God. 00:20:57.359 --> 00:21:29.359 So we're gonna learn today from uh an unusual character in scripture, perhaps for Father's Day to discuss, but one who was an exemplary father, a father who was able to bring us his own family, one of the few fathers who was able to bring his family into the promised land, a promised area, a promised uh space that God had prepared for them for people. 00:21:29.599 --> 00:21:42.720 And isn't that what all we want for as fathers, as mothers in the house, is to be able to bring our fathers, our families forward, move our families forward into what God's promised for us. 00:21:43.039 --> 00:21:45.839 So let me give you a little bit of the backstory here. 00:21:46.240 --> 00:21:49.119 God had better plans for the Hebrew people. 00:21:49.279 --> 00:21:59.599 Obviously, they were enslaved in Egypt, they were being uh they were being abused in Egypt, they were not living the life that they. 00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:01.759 Were intended to live. 00:22:01.920 --> 00:22:04.799 They had lived in this slavery for a long time. 00:22:05.200 --> 00:22:10.319 And God miraculously released them out of Egypt through. 00:22:10.559 --> 00:22:11.759 There were plagues. 00:22:12.559 --> 00:22:14.480 God split the Red Sea. 00:22:14.799 --> 00:22:17.440 He swallowed up their enemy behind them. 00:22:17.599 --> 00:22:22.079 And they were on their way to the promised area. 00:22:22.319 --> 00:22:28.799 The area that God had intended for them to be landowners, to have possession, to occupy. 00:22:29.119 --> 00:22:32.079 God had a purpose for the people. 00:22:33.119 --> 00:22:41.200 And as they were on their way, they come to a location, and Moses, being their leader, says, Listen, I need 10 people. 00:22:41.440 --> 00:22:43.519 I want you to act as spies. 00:22:43.839 --> 00:22:52.559 I want you to go into this land, and I want you to account, bring back an account, a report of what's happening in this property. 00:22:52.720 --> 00:23:00.799 I want you to tell me how many people are there, what the people are like, what kind of soil they have, what kind of fruit there they're growing. 00:23:01.119 --> 00:23:08.079 And if you can, bring back a sample of things that you were able to acquire. 00:23:08.400 --> 00:23:16.960 And so after a little while, um they came back, and there was a spy's report, and this is what happened after 40 days. 00:23:17.119 --> 00:23:29.680 The scripture says this they came to Moses and Aaron and all the people, and these ten spies were carrying all this fruit that they were able to acquire from the land. 00:23:29.920 --> 00:23:34.240 And they told them, they said, Hey, we went to the land that you sent us to. 00:23:34.559 --> 00:23:36.960 It is certainly awesome. 00:23:37.119 --> 00:23:48.960 It flows with milk and honey, which means like there are bees there, there's flowers and produce and and all kinds of like agriculture and the milk. 00:23:49.039 --> 00:23:59.839 It's like there's cattle and goats, and like it's it's running wild with things that we need, what we want. 00:24:00.480 --> 00:24:01.920 He says, it's awesome. 00:24:02.079 --> 00:24:11.519 We live in this land, but there are people there, and these people who are there are very strong, and they're very large. 00:24:14.000 --> 00:24:15.279 They're giants. 00:24:17.279 --> 00:24:21.279 And everyone started shifting. 00:24:21.440 --> 00:24:40.640 The congregation started chattering among themselves until one fellow named Caleb stood up, one of the spies, and Caleb stood up and he quieted the people, and he said, This, we should go to the place where God told us to go and take possession of it. 00:24:41.119 --> 00:24:44.799 For we know what we will win, we will overcome. 00:24:44.960 --> 00:24:56.640 But the men who had gone with him, the other eight that had traveled with him, stood up as well and said, They're too big, they're too strong, the giants are massive. 00:24:56.799 --> 00:25:03.440 And they said, The land we're going in will never be able to inhabit because of the people that are in that land. 00:25:03.599 --> 00:25:13.839 And after that, the report was crushed, eight for eight to stay in the desert, and only two to obey the word of the Lord. 00:25:14.079 --> 00:25:20.640 Eight people said no to God, and two said yes. 00:25:22.880 --> 00:25:25.920 And this is where the story starts. 00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:32.960 So Caleb, this character in scripture, Caleb, he had to silence the people. 00:25:34.079 --> 00:25:36.480 Silencing some is dads. 00:25:36.559 --> 00:25:43.599 Maybe sometimes you just, even though you enjoy the chatter in your house, you just need a place where it's quiet. 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:47.359 Moms, do you agree with that? 00:25:47.519 --> 00:25:48.640 Is it just dads? 00:25:48.799 --> 00:25:51.920 You just need like a place to chill. 00:25:52.559 --> 00:25:54.160 A space that's your own. 00:25:54.240 --> 00:25:57.440 They call it the man cave, but my kids know where that is. 00:25:57.599 --> 00:25:59.680 It's like, I lock doors. 00:25:59.759 --> 00:26:01.599 They know how to pry that door open. 00:26:01.759 --> 00:26:05.039 They just need, sometimes you just need space. 00:26:05.359 --> 00:26:13.200 But quiet, and the reason why Caleb stopped the people is he wanted to silence the people before they said no. 00:26:14.559 --> 00:26:20.160 He knew that they were complaining, so he says, Don't talk yourself out of the promise. 00:26:21.359 --> 00:26:24.640 Don't get, don't make your no too big. 00:26:25.039 --> 00:26:31.279 Like, realize the obstacles that are in your way, and then trust that God is bigger than those obstacles. 00:26:32.000 --> 00:26:37.200 Realize that God is got a his yes is bigger than any no. 00:26:38.559 --> 00:26:40.400 That this yes is important. 00:26:40.799 --> 00:26:44.160 So he said yes when everyone else was saying no. 00:26:44.400 --> 00:26:50.160 And there's a reason why people don't say yes. 00:26:52.160 --> 00:26:56.000 There are obstacles that people face, but there are reasons why they don't say yes. 00:26:56.079 --> 00:27:06.079 And maybe if you see some of these reasons, you'll be able to realize it, see the limitations, and back away and say, you know what, I'm ready to say yes. 00:27:06.319 --> 00:27:08.240 The first reason was doubt. 00:27:08.559 --> 00:27:09.759 Would you say that with me? 00:27:09.920 --> 00:27:10.480 Doubt. 00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:16.079 Men need people around them that don't doubt. 00:27:17.759 --> 00:27:19.839 That aren't the doubters. 00:27:20.960 --> 00:27:24.000 They need men around them who sharpen them. 00:27:24.480 --> 00:27:26.400 Iron, sharpening iron. 00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:35.759 My first, about uh 13 years ago, before I got married, I thought, man, I'm living in my parents' place. 00:27:36.480 --> 00:27:41.039 I probably need a place to live before I get married. 00:27:41.279 --> 00:27:50.799 And I was out hunting with one of my friends, and I'm we're driving to a hunting spot that's far away that I couldn't even tell you where it was, where all these animals were. 00:27:51.119 --> 00:27:52.480 I could tell you, I just don't. 00:27:52.559 --> 00:27:53.920 That's what a hunter does. 00:27:54.160 --> 00:28:01.200 And uh it was on a rock somewhere a few hours out of town, and I'm driving with my friend. 00:28:01.279 --> 00:28:02.480 I said, you know what? 00:28:02.720 --> 00:28:05.039 Blah blah blah, talking, talking, talking. 00:28:05.119 --> 00:28:07.680 I could really use a house, blah, blah, blah, blah. 00:28:07.839 --> 00:28:09.839 He's like, you should buy a piece of property. 00:28:09.920 --> 00:28:12.480 I've never built a dog shed before. 00:28:12.960 --> 00:28:15.440 A bird house, I never built anything. 00:28:15.599 --> 00:28:17.839 He said, You should buy a property. 00:28:18.480 --> 00:28:21.440 I'm thinking, oh man, how much is this property? 00:28:21.519 --> 00:28:24.960 And he gets on the phone while we're driving, calls someone up. 00:28:25.119 --> 00:28:27.359 How much is a property up on this mountain? 00:28:27.599 --> 00:28:29.279 Well, it's like$90,000. 00:28:29.519 --> 00:28:30.960 I know that, isn't that awesome? 00:28:31.200 --> 00:28:33.200 Back in the day, it's like$90,000. 00:28:33.519 --> 00:28:36.000 I'm thinking, I don't have$90,000. 00:28:37.279 --> 00:28:39.359 He's like, you should buy it. 00:28:39.680 --> 00:28:45.920 So he set up a meeting for me for when I came home from this trip with this developer. 00:28:46.079 --> 00:28:55.200 And I sit with the developer and he sits me down with one of his sales guys, and he put he sold me into probably one of the best investments I've ever made in my life. 00:28:55.519 --> 00:28:57.680 I bought a piece of land. 00:28:58.319 --> 00:28:59.599 I occupied. 00:28:59.920 --> 00:29:09.039 Now I had a piece of land, then it was pretty good because then I took my future father-in-law before I asked for his permission to marry. 00:29:09.119 --> 00:29:10.079 I I drove him. 00:29:10.240 --> 00:29:12.319 Hey, I can I take you up to this place? 00:29:12.480 --> 00:29:14.640 And I said, This is my property. 00:29:14.880 --> 00:29:16.640 I'd like to marry your daughter. 00:29:16.799 --> 00:29:18.079 I was like, Yeah. 00:29:19.759 --> 00:29:21.519 You can't say no now. 00:29:21.599 --> 00:29:25.359 Hey, it's like he then he told me, you have to take her around the world. 00:29:25.519 --> 00:29:26.640 I'm like, okay. 00:29:28.400 --> 00:29:36.160 I was just like, all this stuff that was coming, it was my friend who had told me, don't doubt. 00:29:36.799 --> 00:29:38.799 Don't doubt, you can do it. 00:29:39.039 --> 00:29:55.039 You need people around you who are like, when God says yes, and the whole world is saying no, you need people around you who are who are there to say, yes, you can, you can do it, and to help you dissolve that spirit of doubt, that doubting spirit. 00:29:55.119 --> 00:29:56.319 I'm like, man, what do I do? 00:29:56.480 --> 00:29:58.480 I got 90,000, then I got to build a house. 00:29:58.720 --> 00:30:03.440 I don't know how to build a house, and we need all these obstacles we could have put in our way. 00:30:03.680 --> 00:30:12.880 Instead, instead, the right people behind you pushing you forward, push me forward into probably one of the best investments I ever made. 00:30:13.200 --> 00:30:18.400 And so this is the power of people who are there to support you. 00:30:18.640 --> 00:30:23.680 Um, so another one was Jonathan and his armor bear, and I thought of that the other day. 00:30:23.920 --> 00:30:34.240 Jonathan is like facing a mountain with an army on top, and his armor bearer is standing there with him, and they're like, Man, these guys have been causing us problems all the time. 00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:40.079 And Jonathan says, I think we should go up, and his armor bearer says, Whatever you say, I'm with you. 00:30:40.880 --> 00:30:42.880 That's a good armor bear. 00:30:43.119 --> 00:30:44.960 Not, are you sure? 00:30:46.079 --> 00:30:48.160 Let's be critical here for a moment. 00:30:48.319 --> 00:30:49.440 Let's assess. 00:30:49.759 --> 00:30:52.799 They have 3,000, we have two. 00:30:53.359 --> 00:30:56.480 They're on top of a mountain, we're on the bottom. 00:30:56.559 --> 00:30:57.839 We have to climb up. 00:30:58.000 --> 00:30:59.359 Not really an advantage. 00:30:59.519 --> 00:31:06.079 Let's do a SWOT analysis, strength, weakness, like analysis of this whole agenda. 00:31:06.240 --> 00:31:08.960 Instead, these two are like, we can do it. 00:31:09.039 --> 00:31:10.160 Let's call up to them. 00:31:10.240 --> 00:31:14.240 And if they say, cut up here, the Lord's given us a victory. 00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:17.839 So they yell up, hey, we want to fight. 00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:19.519 And they said, Well, come on up here. 00:31:19.599 --> 00:31:22.319 And they're like, God's gonna give us the victory. 00:31:22.559 --> 00:31:29.039 Like, I don't know if it's gullible or what is, but they actually said, We will believe the report of the Lord. 00:31:29.119 --> 00:31:35.359 So they climbed up the mountain, and by the time they got to the top, the enemy had already scattered. 00:31:35.599 --> 00:31:41.119 And they came back as victors, two men trusting the word of the Lord. 00:31:42.079 --> 00:31:49.200 Next, people uh they don't say yes because there's a fear of failure. 00:31:49.759 --> 00:31:55.440 There's a fear of failure, and and oftentimes this is the result of pride. 00:31:55.759 --> 00:31:58.960 Pride, the first words in a kid's mouth, mine. 00:32:00.000 --> 00:32:03.200 Mine, mine, mine, mine. 00:32:03.359 --> 00:32:04.799 I want it my way. 00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:06.400 I don't want it your way. 00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:15.359 I want it my way because then then if I if I put myself out on the line, if I risk something, I might fail. 00:32:16.480 --> 00:32:18.640 But I'm gonna do it my way. 00:32:18.960 --> 00:32:23.920 And so uh oftentimes in a man's life, you know, it's like, what do you do? 00:32:24.319 --> 00:32:29.599 You this impression that you're left with in your life, and they give you a good shake on the hand. 00:32:29.680 --> 00:32:36.960 And I was in Calgary a few weeks ago, and all these big farmers are shaking my hand, and they say, You must be a pastor. 00:32:38.640 --> 00:32:39.119 Why? 00:32:39.279 --> 00:32:41.440 Because I moisturize or something. 00:32:41.519 --> 00:32:43.680 It's like, what's the problem here? 00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:45.839 What's the problem? 00:32:46.160 --> 00:32:48.319 It's nice to have soft hands. 00:32:48.640 --> 00:32:56.000 And uh, but these, but the fact is that fear of failure is a huge, can become a huge issue. 00:32:56.160 --> 00:33:00.559 And the issue with men is that we often see the problem and not the promise. 00:33:01.839 --> 00:33:13.599 And so what we need to do is we need to see the areas that need not just see the areas that need to be fixed, but realize that we actually are in relationship with the fixer. 00:33:14.480 --> 00:33:17.839 He's with us, so we don't have to be afraid. 00:33:18.160 --> 00:33:21.359 If God is for us, who can be against us? 00:33:21.839 --> 00:33:27.599 Even a setback is uh is uh a means of prosperity. 00:33:28.079 --> 00:33:32.880 Number three, a bad attitude will set you back from saying yes. 00:33:33.200 --> 00:33:35.759 The Bible says it's just rebellion. 00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:37.920 No, I don't want to. 00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:39.839 And it boils down to control. 00:33:40.240 --> 00:33:43.359 And the result is people just had a bad attitude. 00:33:43.440 --> 00:33:45.519 They started grumbling, complaining. 00:33:45.599 --> 00:33:48.319 And I'll tell you this, it's toxic. 00:33:49.119 --> 00:33:51.440 Bad attitudes are toxic. 00:33:51.680 --> 00:33:57.839 The scripture actually said about Moses said to Caleb, he said, This is the word of the Lord to you. 00:33:58.079 --> 00:34:04.000 He said, You're a man of a different spirit, a different attitude. 00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:08.400 You need people around you who have a different attitude. 00:34:08.800 --> 00:34:16.480 And if you want those people around you, then you yourself have sometimes got to embrace a different attitude. 00:34:16.719 --> 00:34:28.559 And not an attitude that's just saying, or being rebellious, an attitude that's that's like uh the way this is the way culture is moving, this is the way culture is, or the church is. 00:34:29.519 --> 00:34:38.719 You don't decide your response, you decide to agree with the response of the Lord, and that's the response that we need to take on. 00:34:39.039 --> 00:34:40.320 We occupy. 00:34:41.039 --> 00:34:43.440 Fourthly, discomfort. 00:34:44.079 --> 00:34:45.039 Discomfort. 00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:48.559 Comfort is highly, highly overrated. 00:34:49.440 --> 00:34:55.840 Nothing great has ever ever ever ever occurred in a place of comfort. 00:34:57.039 --> 00:35:00.159 Nothing great has been produced out of comfort. 00:35:00.320 --> 00:35:08.320 Leading good families, making right choices is oftentimes difficult and very uncomfortable. 00:35:08.559 --> 00:35:12.639 Um the the mission of the church is not comfort. 00:35:12.960 --> 00:35:16.480 Jesus said, if you follow me, people will hate you. 00:35:18.480 --> 00:35:22.000 Woo! How's that for a pitch, right? 00:35:23.119 --> 00:35:25.760 You know, your leader was crucified. 00:35:25.920 --> 00:35:34.559 All of his disciples, his disciples were killed, as made as martyrs, abandoned, exiled, hung. 00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:37.440 This is this is the life of the Christian. 00:35:37.679 --> 00:35:40.400