E5 - Craig Haywood

Craig Haywood is Manager at Driftwood Cabana Club's Tiki Bar in Sea Bright, NJ and former Military Police Officer.

Expect to learn about Craig's experience from Marine to Bar Manager, a Military Officer's take on the public perception of police, how to cultivate a welcoming bar, the importance of positive energy, how to use the inner critic for personal growth, living happy, and so much more. 

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Host: Kurt Bruckmann
Co-Producer & Associate Director: Alex Fabio

Transcript

Hey Hey, everybody. My name's Kurt Bruckmann. I am your host for the Core Energy Experience. I hold my mastery in Core Energy Dynamics.

I am a certified global coach. I'm an internationally acclaimed best selling author in an anthology, Ready, Connect, Grow. I also am a senior contributor writer for Brains Magazine that reaches out to 65 plus different countries. I'm also here with our associate director and co producer, Alex Fabio, A great man behind the scenes. He makes it all happen.

Very happy to be with him. Also, we have a very special guest today. His name is Craig Haywood, good friend of mine, and we're gonna wing it and let it go. So, Craig, how are you today? Hey.

How are you, Kurt? Thank you so much for having me. This is actually exciting to be on a podcast. Excellent. I think this is gonna be awesome.

Absolutely. Very happy to have you here. Thank you for your time and energy today. So, Craig, if you will, to our audience, let's give them a little background about, who you are, you know, where you've come from, what you're doing, and where you plan on going. Alright.

So, my name's Craig Haywood. Originally born Brooklyn, Bay Ridge, New York. Moved in middle school to Middletown, New Jersey. Went to Middletown High School North for high school. Straight from there, joined the military, the marines, actually.

From that, I decided that I wanted to be military police from there. So did four years military police, and the game plan was to be NYPD. After experiencing what, like, a cop was like, I decided I didn't really want to go in that direction, but I liked the whole feeling of, like, being, like, security guard. So I decided to be a security guard at this, place called the Driftwood Cabana Club, Tiki Bar. It's in, Seabright, New Jersey.

So I started off as a security guard there, and, a bunch of things changed. I've been there for about a year and a half now, and, now I'm the manager. So it's going pretty good. That's fabulous. Very good.

Great experiences, My goodness. Yeah. And your transitions already, you know, you're you're into that. So in the core energy experience, we, concentrate if we have four concentrations that we work with, and that's leadership, performance, well-being, and transition. So you're all of that.

In fact, all of us, all people are that. It's just a matter of understanding how we operate from within and how we, decide to bring ourselves to the world that it is. So with that, saying that, Craig, let's focus a little bit on the marines and your stint there. Can you tell us what made what was the decision to do it and what it was like in there and the experiences you had while you're in there. Please.

So to be honest, how I actually joined the marines was I was not too big in school. So I kinda was just like, alright. Well, let's do something that could give me a really good background, a really good resume, something to, like, get my foot in the door, but still be indecisive and, like, get real good experience. My pop up, he used to be in the, the coast guard, and then my grandpa, he used to be in the army. So them tell me their stories.

It was just nice to, like, put my part in. So after talking to a recruiter, he did his job really well and convinced me to join the marines. So, I joined the marines and definitely wanted to be military police. I was pretty much set in stone on that. I definitely thought it was gonna be a hard experience physically and mentally, but I was ready.

I was ready for anything. I I I thought it was going to be a challenge, and I don't know, I thought I could do it. And I definitely was able to do it. I thought it was a lot easier than what I thought, but yeah, it was just an amazing experience. Everything I learned in the military, oh, I would not regret, and I recommend for everybody, to be honest, especially coming out of a high school straight.

You do learn a lot, and you pick up a lot of things on life as well. A lot of life's life lessons, I'm sure, involved in all that, discipline, performance. Again, this is you you are this core energy that we speak of a %, and having having the guts to go in there, is not an easy decision. I'm sure I know many people that thought about it and backed out, even right at the recruitment stage and just decided not to do it. I think a lot of them regretted it.

The experience of going into the service, the one you're serving, you know, that's what we call the military service. We're serving. And that's really a lot of what life is all about. You know, it's really not about us. I'm sure you know this already.

It's really about others around us and how that works. And that's what the beauty of our journeys are in life, and everyone has a different approach and has different journeys. So if you will, I guess without stepping out of bounds or privacy act, supposedly, when you're when you're in the marines, what were some of the things that really stuck out to you, really shined? I guess when it comes to certain responsibilities and leadership traits that you were just talking about, so what I would notice is that, when a lot of people, they get put into, like, leadership positions and it changes the way that they act and the way that they, talk to people or dictate things. And it's just, like, it's all about just how you wanna lead and just leading by example, essentially.

So the marines are always just gonna, like, break you down and start you from the very bottom, and you gotta work your way up. And then eventually, you'll get put into certain positions to where you need to go off of your judgment and how you can actually better the situation and advance as a whole. But, I would just say there's just countless people that just have different ways of just viewing things, but I like to take life as let life take its course and just go with the flow and just live happy, you know? Yeah. Yeah.

Well, you struck a chord there with with us because we profess, you know, to be. In fact, when I write it sometimes, I write capital b e, because that is really the most important part is to be authentic, to be raw, to be ourselves, and to understand that there is risk, but to take conscious risk. Right? And there's choice. We don't wanna do knee jerk reaction, with choice.

We want conscious choice. So that's part of what you took to, decide to go in there, it sounds like, and we appreciate that a %. While you were in there, there's a lot of multitasking that goes on. Can you describe some of that to the audience, please? Like, for the military, you're saying?

Yeah. Like Yeah. The multitasking? Yes. So there's so many different types of multitasking.

They give you so many things to do within the military. It's kinda hard to explain. So me, as just, like, a military police itself, you would start off by, like, loading up. You would have your gun to load up. You'd get a whole debrief or brief on how the day is supposed to go, what to look forward to, if there was anybody we need to look out for, specific things that people have been doing, as well as just going on patrols and everything from there.

So there's so many things that you can do, just when it comes to just patrolling, being real nice and respectful to all the people that you see, just being friendly out there, just being aware, letting people know that, yo, you're police, you're there to be helpful and always there to catch the criminals and all the bad guys, but also don't wanna be looked at as, like, a bad guy because, you know, you're just doing your job, but just be in a happy way. You know? What a balance, getting all that done. Right? You pointed it out, trying to appease the situation, go within the guidelines that you're served to perform and relating that to other people to understand.

So it sounds like there's a lot of collaboration going on in all of that. Oh, yeah. Is that correct, Craig? Yeah? 100%.

When you were in that position and you were holding the line of duty and the boundaries of the laws to work within and the people around you, How are they receiving that, and how did you deliver that to them? Well, so, actually, there is there's, like, a lot of people in this day and age that kinda just automatically have a bad feeling about cops, and no matter what, just anytime. And it's not it's not really a good sign to me. I kinda I kinda just think that, oh, the whole all cops are bad is not a good look at all. And I just try to do my part.

So when I was a cop, I always try to, like, patrol the areas, be friendly, see a bunch of kids playing baseball or something, walk out there, play with them, just hang out. If I don't have any calls or anything, why not just, like, help society just be more friendly and just happy? You know? It's just it's all about that. I mean, there's so many times I've had, like, to act and get serious about things and take all the happiness out of it because people like to do bad things sometimes.

But, you know, it's it's it's playing the best of both worlds and just how you wanna, like, see yourself and show everyone what you can be, essentially. Wow. There there's a lot in there, Craig, and, you know, we know one another well enough I can say this. That's who you are and using that word happy, But you're also showing the audience the understanding of what kindness with respect can lead to in all situations. The fact that you're, cognitive and aware enough to go in and and touch out to the the children, you know, who are active in the sports field or wherever that may be.

And as a as a police officer, as an officer in the military, certainly, you see so many different types of personalities. And to your point, you know, finding that fine balance, which is very special. And, you know, whether the military helped bring you bring that out of you or it's just part of who you are, I would profess it's the latter. It's part of who Craig Haywood is. You're, you know, you're really tuned in.

You apply your awareness and your acceptance with it, which is great. And then you move on and you trust in your process, which is very important in life. Right? That's really where we're able to deliver our our rawness or authentic self. And I have to say, gosh, if I were there and you were you were someone I was looking at too and, I would certainly look up to you in the military, being in the military police, and I would honor that.

And I'm sure there's a lot of people who didn't. Give us an example of what it might have been the energy of how you work with people that were in violation and continue to violate, thinking they were the man or the woman. Oh, I've had so many different calls. There there's so many times you'll get, so another big thing when it comes to being a military police, right, so it's you're dealing with only military members, but on a police side of it. So when I was in in the Marines, you could only reach a certain rank of corporal within the four years that you serve.

And when you're a corporal, you'll eventually get calls to where you have to deal with really high ranking officers or or just staff members in general that put themselves on a pedestal and think that they can do whatever they want. And then when they get critiqued or asked by military police that's only a corporal, they'll be like, oh, well, we don't need to listen to you. I'm a higher ranking than you. It doesn't matter. And that's just not how it goes.

And then we would put our foot down, and we have our badge, and we know the law, and it doesn't matter. And that's what we would have to situate from there depending on what the call actually was. Wow. Really, really fantastic that we have people like you that are willing to step into those roles and be a leader all the way through and through, really important. And the fact that you talk about your performance level the way you do with such passion, and that word happy kept showing up, really that's fabulous stuff.

Very rare to hear that these days. Let's touch upon the the interesting avenue that, people when they see, a person in authority, particularly a military police or police you can relate to in outside the military, what do you think are some of the things that are shifting the attitude about the respect or disrespect for the police in today's society? So I would say it definitely goes both ways. I definitely think that people within this day and age need to just respect one another until there's a reason not to. I mean, if you're getting pulled over for, say, something, I mean, there's probably a reason you got pulled over, and there's no reason to make it escalate into something it wasn't.

Just be respectful and just let it go as it should, as well as the other way around where, say, you have a normal person who got pulled over and was just being respectful. Sometimes you'll have those cops that have themselves on a pedestal, and they're like, well, I'm the cop. You gotta listen to me however I wanna do it. And it's just everyone's got a learning experience, I think, and it's just it's not that big a deal. We're all going to the same place.

So you might as well just be happy. So well put, you know, and you use that word experience and such an important word. You know, when we discuss core energy dynamics, we tend to lean into the fact that there are experiences and people like to conjugate them as good or bad. What we profess is neither. The experiences are growth and that is part of the beauty of, you know, being involved in life and taking, certain risk, calculated risk to step out of our box, to be uncomfortable getting comfortable, you know, being able to branch out like you have, making decisions to go into the into the military, to be a marine, to be a, military, police force, and then realizing, okay, well, you know, I've done that, completed that, and that's my journey.

And you as part of you, always will be part of you. And I I see when I'm when I'm with you, and we're gonna touch about that now, I see when I'm with you and how you work with people. And you're always on a high pack, you know, position of all the activity, all the noise that's around. And we'll go into this, because now you're currently, attending bar at the Driftwood, and this is one reason and one area that we met. So when the Driftwood gets crowded, and I'll tell you audience, it is packed elbow to elbow.

There's maybe, well, I'll let Craig describe this, but I see Craig, I watch him, and he treats everyone with kindness and respect no matter how angry or anxious they are to get served. He he doesn't he doesn't discriminate. In other words, doesn't reach behind them. Everyone who's in line set up, he's make sure everyone is appropriately served, and that's that respect that Craig has an enormous amount of. So, Craig, let's go there now, because now we're gonna really just talk about more and more, what it is to, understand transition and to multitask.

Yeah. Well, definitely at the Tiki Bar, it can get pretty busy sometimes, and you'll get a lot of people that know your name yelling across the bar trying to get you. And, just it get it can get a little bit nerve wracking, but it all depends on how you wanna handle it as well. I mean, I it's definitely a different experience for me going from military police to being a bartender. It's totally different.

But Huge. Huge. I mean, I my hat's off to you. I'm sure the audience feels the same way. Wow.

What a transition that is. What so go into I I cut you off a little bit, but let's go into that feeling, man. That is so interesting how you went transitioned, like, to hit that, if you will. Yeah. So the the original game plan was, so my sister actually has been working there.

Her name is Courtney. She's been working there for about a year before me. And, she told me that they needed some security guards. And I was like, okay. Well, me being military police, not % sure if I wanna be a cop, get my foot in the door, get something on my resume, and go be a security guard.

So I was there for about two months security guard, and, not really not much to do. They didn't really need a security guard, to be honest. But, eventually, they started to ask me if I wanted to help bar back. And I was like, I mean, sure. Why not?

I I feel like I could help out with whatever. And, eventually, started bar backing. They gave me more shifts, started paying attention and picking up bartending as much as possible. And then, eventually, I guess I got good at it. And, he saw my leadership skills.

He saw that, everything I can do and bring to the table to this place, and he made me the manager of the tiki bar. So yeah. Tremendous. Good decision by, Jesse Stavola. We'll give him a little shout out tonight because hopefully he'll he'll see this, and we'll tell him to look at it.

He, under with you guys have really worked a fabulous, atmosphere there. It's very, very friendly. You have nice bands, nice music. It's on the beach for the audience to understand. We're on the Jersey Shore, and it's directly on the beach.

So it's one of the few bars that stays open year round. And, the memberships come in at the May, so the public steps out. And then come Labor Day, the, the the beach club will start to shut down mid September, the public comes back in. So we're really a large large crux of the business there, and you guys have really set a really friendly atmosphere. You know, I've lived in Monmouth County all my life.

I know a lot of people, all different walks, different ages, you know, color, all of it, doesn't matter. When we're in their surroundings, and you're there, Craig, it's very, very pleasant. And you don't find that a lot because it does get so crowded. Usually, there are fights. You know, there's a pushing and shoving.

Next thing you know, you're out the door. It could easily happen at the tiki because you just roll right out into the sand and go for it. You know? I mean, it could be a free for all. But, you know, hats off to to you and the crew there and the management of of you and, working with Jess that, none of that has happened.

I mean, you can tell tell us, has there ever been a fist fight there? No. There has not been a fist fight ever. The about, I would say, a month and a half, two months ago, we actually had to kick our first person out of the bar. It wasn't anything big.

There wasn't any hands thrown or anything like that, but it was just disrespectful words that were said. And, it was just not something that we needed to have at our bar. So, he was a little bit too drunk, so we just politely told him, we'll have your business tomorrow, just not tonight. And we escorted him out. There you go again.

Doing it with respect even though the, gentleman was out of control a bit. You brought him in and and, did it with with kindness and respect, and that's fabulous. And, you know, so I use a metaphor occasionally, and I think it's sort of, important to use it here, a little applicable to what's going on. Life can be sort of like a a hurricane, you know? It's a massive swirl of noise all around us, everywhere, total distractions going on constantly, and it gets could be could be vicious.

And we necessarily can't control it. Right? Controlling life's a different thing. That's called force, and we're not here to force. But But anyway, so when we start to talk about the hurricane and all the noise swirling around, it's kinda like the bar, the attitude in there, all that noise and whatnot.

And what's in the middle of the hurricane is the calm, the eye, you know? So I look around and I and when I watch you in action and others, you know, I can see I've been in plenty of parts in my life, that's for sure. And numerous bartenders and, you know, the real good ones like yourself become the managers for reasons because you're able to manage all that noise and stay calm with your in yourself so you can work accordingly and deliver, you know, all the all the good attitude and the good energy out there. Very cool. I just wanna add on this.

When I was, a trader in World Trade Center in the commodity pits, the open outcry, the yelling and screaming back and forth, the the energy was tremendous. Every second, every minute counted. All was on, had to be on. Well, that is where, you know, all the multitasking came in. And that's where I have learned myself that in the middle of chaos is opportunity.

Right? And in the middle of all the noise, and these are all the outside influencers, not to be distracted, find the calm in ourselves. And that's really a lot about what we talk about the core energy. So really appreciate that. And one more thing, some of my best employees on the floor knew nothing about commodities, and I've spoken to you about this briefly.

If I were still active, I would ask to hire you. I'll be it Justin and I would have an issue there because you're you're his man and, you know, that's how it is. So I I would have to organize that in a different way. But the point is is that the bartenders were some of my best employees, sometimes by far. A lot of them would come.

My employees came through relationships, you know, family relationships onto the floor, or your friend relationships. But there I noticed there weren't a lot of bartenders and being in accustomed to being in front of the bar and watching you guys behind, I've always respected it. And it is that ability to multitask. So and it's very important that we understand that we're always in motion. Right?

Time keeps changing, so we're always in constant motion. Important for us to understand that and work with it. Work with the change because we're constantly moving. And that, my friend, is what you're a pro at, you know, amongst a couple other things. The ability to be able to, you know, multitask and deliver all your goodness to keep people happy.

So that's a fabulous thing. Congratulations on all of that. Thank you so much. I definitely try my best. Like, even even when I see that all the workers are getting all stressed out or down or something like that, I try to brighten the mood and just make jokes or something.

Because, you know, we'll just we'll get to the end of the shift eventually. You know? So Absolutely. The the moment is in the moment. Right?

And that's gonna to dissipate into another moment. So that's part of that. And you bring up another important part of understanding energy and there's two types of energy forms that, we work with. One is anabolic. That's the, the high energy, the filling energy, the constructive energy, the the dopamine fills.

Then the opposite of that is a catabolic. That's the draining energy. Destructive, feeling down and out. The cortisol dumps. You, I have never seen you have any of that catabolic energy.

And if there were, you immediately come right out of it into that that anabolic energy, the filling energy. So that's fabulous. Really important to have that in our lives and to and and to apply it in everywhere we go. Yeah? I completely agree.

I also feel like if you fill yourself with negative energy all the time, you're kinda just gonna live a negative life. I feel like in order to have a good life, you really just wanna live positive. You just gotta think past the little things that happen. Like, say you drop something and break it. Yeah.

Things happen. It's not the end of the world. Just laugh about it. You know? Absolutely.

I'm with you a %. And, you know, we understand that performance equals potential minus interference. Right? You get that. Yeah.

You know, it's so true. And it is, again, with all that interference that we all, all of us in life have, and that's just how life is. It's a busy world out there. Everyone has, but everyone has value. Right?

And you were pointing that out earlier, and let's go in there a little bit. How you, see and find value in people. Because everyone has something to say. There's no discrimination there. No limiting beliefs handed down.

Everyone has value and treat them as such. So when you see, an opportunity to deliver your value and, and to work with people, how does that come out for you, Craig? So for me, honestly, you don't you can't judge a book by its cover, You know? So every person could just be the most genuine person you've ever met in your life. Like, you could end up loving them.

And how I just like to act and treat people is you treat people how you wanna be treated. So, if I just treat people and respect people how I would like to be treated and respected, it usually goes a long way. And I've met countless of amazing people working at this bar that I would love to go and talk within me outside of work, that I would just go and have a drink with them. And I just think it's just awesome. It really just brings people together.

You know? Yeah. A %. And, you know, when I've been at the bar, when it's been a little quieter I mean, but both ways are are you have so many different attitudes that it can be so crowded. It's still a lot of fun because, again, the way you guys manage it, a % the way you are back there serving everybody.

And here you are in servants again. Right? Serving the military, serving the public in the, outside the military, being an off a police officer in the military, taking more servants upon yourself. And lo and behold, what do you do? You transition into the business of of, serving, the public in the in the restaurant business.

And, if you were to equate to two, Craig, how would that be? I'm just gonna lead a broad stroke so you can fill that in. Like, you're saying if I were to compare them, like, the restaurant business to the military? Yeah. It's definitely different.

So the military police aspect, well, I guess both sides of it, you wanna be like a people pleaser. Right? But you also wanna do it in your way. Like, yay. I can be completely fake and just put on a front and just, like, pretend like I'm the nicest person in the world, but where is that gonna really get you?

It's not gonna get you too far. And you wanna just be genuine these people so they can trust you and it opens up everything as well. Like, you'll have some people come in, and they're just not really too down, but you're you're used to seeing them all happy and everything, and sometimes they'll open up completely to you. Change equals awareness plus understanding, and this is a lot of what you've been describing in the transitions that you've been going through. And my gosh, you know, they're pretty massive as we discussed going from, the military and and then coming into, being a a servant, a manager at a very busy, bar.

But it's interesting that, you know, you always keep going back to your core about being happy, being with that analog, anabolic energy, you know, resonating in a high way. And that that rubs off. I mean, it rubbed off on me, certainly. Right away, I felt it from you. And, you know, you and I became friends quite quickly.

And I'm very appreciative of that. And, I want everyone to know that that, you know, Craig's a very special man, and I I appreciate him. And, also, we have to understand that, emotions equal energy. In motion. Right?

So everyone has emotions. Why? Because we're energy, and we're always in motion. We're always in that transitional stage, you know, whatever it might be. Because from the transition, we go into, our transformation, you know.

So I just wanna go here real quick. In the core energy dynamics, you know, we start out with the awareness, and then we move into the acceptance. And with that, we do the validation. With that, we move into the ability to create opportunity. And then with opportunity, we go into choice.

And we talked about that earlier briefly. We choose conscious choice over choice, a knee jerk reaction. And with conscious choice, that opens us up to go ahead and trust our process. And this is all about you too. I mean, you're you're an image of this in in the core energy.

And so when we go into trusting our process, now we're in our transformation and we're really equipped to deliver now. We're we're fully engaged. We're we're fully in awareness, and now we go into our transformation. And this is what you've been doing with very profound energy. And it's so exciting for the audience to listen to this and hear you describe it, so well that you have.

So let's go there a little more. We talk about energy, when we talk about the core energies, we wanna get into our zone. And then in our zone, we collect ourselves, gather ourselves together, and prepare to deliver to the world as we, as we desire and however that's gonna come back. But once we're in the zone, we are able to get into a flow. So if you could describe that in the action that you're doing, as a as a supreme bartender there.

The, you know, the ability to get into your zone, get your coworkers in the zone, get the people that you're managing in the zone, and then create your flow, which is so so wonderful to be a part of because that's one reason that makes everyone happy. And that's one of your keywords, and we love that. So if you could expand upon that, that'd be great. Yeah. So there's definitely so much that goes into it when it comes to the bartending aspect, especially because you don't know what you're gonna see within the day.

You could have 400 people within that bar, or you could have 50 people. So you just have to think accordingly and just be ready for anything to come. As for, like, the flow aspect of it, so how I how I like to do things is I do things as efficient as possible. So if there's like, oh, I need to make five different drinks or something like that, I'll be like, okay, well, these two take the quickest. I'll make those quick and then go and get the beer and then make everything go faster.

If I see other people struggling or something like that, and I have a second to be like, okay. What can I help with? Oh, this could you can do this faster if you do it this way or if you do this first or anything like that, as well as, like, trying to just be happy about it and be like, hey. You're doing alright. It's not that big a deal.

We'll make it. Just I don't know. That kind of route I like to go. Yeah. Yeah.

That's a great route. And and that's that, we like to say, we go from the me to the we to the Us. Right? Does that resonate with you? Oh, yes.

It does. Right. Absolutely. And, you know, that that that's so much a part of who you are as being a leader. And, again, the performance, the transition, and the well-being.

Right? You have to take care of yourself in order to deliver in a proper format. So tell us how you prepare yourself for that physically, emotionally, and mentally when you're gonna go into the the bar, knowing it's gonna be a big day when you have certain groups, and it's a beautiful day out, and you get inundated with what how many people you hit a day? 1,500 or so in and out of there on any given day? Oh, yeah.

Something like that. You never know. It's a crazy fluctuation of people all the time. I mean, for me, I don't really prepare myself. I kinda just let life take its course.

Will it be a busy day? I guess, well, I'm ready for it whenever. I mean, I just try to stay ready. Just always be in the mindset of, like, you know what? I hope it's hard today because I wanna challenge myself because I can make a hell of a lot of money doing what I do with the smile I got on my face as fast as I possibly could without messing things up.

And you live and you learn. Yeah. You have mess ups, and that's that's just how you're gonna get better. So I don't know. I just don't really have, like, a mindset of, like, oh, you need to prepare.

I just think that, you know what? You got it. You know? Just take a deep breath, and you'll figure it out. Man.

I love that so much, Greg. Because it's in the it's in the now where we have to be in that moment as you're saying, and that is a big part of understanding our core energy. And letting go of, you know, that, okay, I'm gonna prep because as we know, I mean, how many times have you, you know, been invited to a party or an event and you're like, I don't wanna do that. It's gonna be this way, it's gonna be that way. We project.

Right? So we don't wanna project. You know, pull back on that. That's sort of like dreaming forward. Right?

It's not there yet. So what's here is in the now and in the moment. And I'm with you on all that. And that's so it's so important for all of our, listeners, viewers to understand what it means to be able to have that acceptance, to, understand that the all the action is in the moment. And we're gonna the the only way we can prepare for that is what we went through, the awareness, the acceptance.

We just described all that. And that is it. And then we show up with all our energy. And you've you've, made another point, too, is that it's the growth of it all. Right?

So you let the growth happen. You don't force the growth. You let it happen. And that comes from being in the experiences of the moment. Right?

Oh, yeah. Without a doubt. Yeah. So I wanna touch on another thing here, before we go, because we have a few more minutes. I'd like to touch upon so what happens when your coworkers that you manage come in and they they're they're delivering a little fear for whatever reason?

How do you work with that? By if they're if you're saying that if, say, it's too really too busy that their fear is getting in the way of how they're actually working, like their work ethic? Exactly. Yes. Exactly.

Yeah. So we've we've had people, kinda cave into stress a couple of times where they gotta take a break or a breather. We try to help accordingly. I mean, depending on how busy it is, we would really need that individual to try to at least, try their best, because but we all wanna work as a team because the only way you're gonna make it is if everybody is working good together. If you have one area to where, okay, they're doing not so good right now, they need they're really stressed out, and nobody all the coworkers don't wanna help them at all, it's gonna lead to the downfall of everybody.

So I just feel like bringing everybody up to be on the same page and just think of it as just in a happy way. We're all trying to make money. Then, you know, it's it'll go a long way. Yep. Common common intentions.

Right? That's that part we talk about, the me to the we to the us and the teamwork, essentially is and again, that's collaboration. We don't succeed in isolation in life. You know, we can't do it alone. And it's important for all of us to accept that and realize that, hey, reach out to one another.

Don't carry that fear because fears are just simply a reaction. Courage is a decision. And we all have the ability to shift from fear and into courage. And I like to to use this sort of metaphor about fear. Fear is like an alarm clock.

Right? It's there to let us know something's coming, and we're not gonna be able to stop it. So in order to work with fear, we say, okay, fear, come on in. Because we're all prepped through the process we've talked about through the core energy, the understanding and such. We're prepped for it.

So we deal to your point. We deal with what's going on in that moment, take care of the issue in the moment, knowing that time is our friend. It's gonna change and shift us out of it, and we're gonna walk into, a new moment. And therefore, that's part of courage. So when I talk to people in this fashion and groups and whatnot, the hands start to go up.

Well, you know, I don't really have courage. Well, yes, everyone has courage. I'm sure you've experienced that in both your lives, in the service and also as a, manager at the tiki bar. It's very important for us just to lean off ourselves. The inner critic, and I'm sure you saw a lot of that in the service too, and I wanna talk about that briefly before we sign off, Craig, is that inner critic can be so damaging.

Right? And why is that? How do you work with the inner critic, on yourself and with others around you to help them alleviate the the heaviness? Oh, well, definitely, people have their inner critic. I definitely have one myself.

I mean, I like to critique myself when it comes to things, but it all depends on how you handle it and how you better yourself off of what you do. So, I mean, you're not gonna be the best at everything, you know? You're you're gonna have to strive and practice in order to get to where you are. And you can't just you just always gotta seek improvement, and that's just my mindset. Like, I feel like I can do anything.

And if I can't do it, I'm gonna try my best to be able to where I can. I I don't know. I I'm a go getter. So What an example that is right there. You said it.

You summed it up so well right there, Craig. You know, just go ahead and get into that action. And you understand this so well, again, just in what you've been experiencing in your life. The actions, you know, that that's where the fun is. People will withdraw from that because they're a little taken back and think it should be with this way or one way.

And, really, if we just allow the action to take over, stay in action, again, you don't wanna just sort of hang out and be what they call a couch potato. Right? You wanna get moving. The body wants to move anyway. It's a mind body energy connection.

That that's who that's what we we are as individuals. So everyone has the ability. And I'm sure you saw it in the military. How many different types of walks of personalities and cultures did you see and did you work with in the military? And understand part of the messages there is that everyone has everyone is capable of the similar things.

We just deliver it differently. Yeah? Oh, yes. Without that. Yep.

Well, Craig, you have been tremendous for the audience, and, you know, I enjoy you so much, and Alex as well. You've delivered some very, very valuable understanding of what Core Energy is about, through your examples. And you you speak so profoundly about it and your complete understanding of core energy and how that works for Craig is fabulous. So I, would like to invite, everyone who is certainly in Monmouth County or the area and can get to the Tiki Bar in, Seabright, New Jersey, Driftwood Tiki Bar. Please get down there.

It's quite an experience, and you have the head man, Craig Haywood there. He's fabulous, and you guys will all feel it on the beach. It's a wonderful atmosphere, and I'm really fortunate to be a part of it, Craig. And I thank you very much for coming on with us today. Yeah.

Thank you so much for having me. This was just an amazing experience, and I was able I'm glad I was able to enlighten people a little bit about my life. Absolutely. So I would like all the listeners and, the viewers to please, whatever platform you're using to see this and hear this, please press that button. We're gonna be on on a weekly basis.

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And everyone, thank you for being on here, and have a fabulous day.