Mens mental health are you aware??

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You've Got to Be Critting Me
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• 11:02 [Ad] You've Got to Be Critting Me
• 11:40 (Cont.) Mens mental health are you aware??

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Yo, what's the word? What's the word? Hey, y'all. Hey, how y'all doing? We all right. We straight. The We Us BU podcast. Yeah. It's been a little minute. It's been a minute. It's always been a minute. That's why they tell us to stay focused. We climbing up in those numbers, though. This is episode eight. Bang. This is not bad. They said after 10, you ain't going to be able to keep up. Yeah, that's what I've been pushing for. That's exactly what I've been pushing for. I know they say after a certain number, it just starts to become muscle memory. Yes. But yo, the editing and all of this extra stuff is a lot. It's a lot of work. I see why people fall off because I have a normal life also. Yeah. I see. But that's why they hire people. That's next. Eventually we'll get there because we all have our own lives. Life be busy. Life be lifin'. Life be lifin'. We be busy. Kids be kiddin'. Kids be kiddin'. Life be lifin'. And bitches be bitchin'. Niggas be niggin' right now. Anyway, yo, what's up? It's the WeSBU podcast. Yes, sir. I go by the name of Twan Twizzy Twain. Yeah, yeah, and I'm Day Day. And we also got Miss Gio. Georgia Peach in the Texas heat. Georgia Peach in the Texas heat. She's still on her mission to 20K. You heard? I am, I am. 20K on you. I heard she gonna make that tomorrow. That's what she was telling me. Wait, tomorrow? In one day? 20K in one day? I'm trying. Amateur night. Oh, she said. I ain't there by any means. She said. Are you going to Amherst tonight? No, I'm not. I'm not. How are you going to make your 20K tomorrow? Tell us. I'm not. I'm just going to a bachelorette party. That's it. Oh, so you're going to steal her ones. Maybe. Oh. Or his. Nah, no blah. I'm that dude. You be stealing one? I'm that dude. You be like this? I'm that dude. I'm that dude. No way. It depends. It depends. It depends. Because I might pick them up and I might throw them back. That's recycling. That's fine. I'll recycle. Recycle. Ain't nothing wrong with that. Just don't be putting them in your pocket. I've been to a couple of bachelor parties. And I've seen people do it. Yeah, yo, she ain't hungry. She good. She got another party tomorrow. She got another party. She about to leave here. Because they got a max minimum they got to make. Facts. So she got paid before she even. I'm saying this is just. Max minimum. Yeah, so if it's a house party, we got to pay. So if they don't reach like$3,000, they got to reach$3,000. If they don't reach$3,000, then we got to come out of pocket. Y'all know a lot. Never heard of that. I've been to a couple of them, I told you. Never heard of that. It be the end of the night with the cheap niggas. You got to come out of your car. Yo, he ain't throwing no money. Yo, you can help me out with the... I'm like, God damn. There ain't no sense in throwing money when you still got to go. You know what I'm saying? This is my first bachelorette party ever. Really? Yes. Dang, you need more friends. No, I don't. I'm good with the ones I got. I'm waiting for the other ones to get married. So what do women do at bachelorette parties? I don't know. This is my first time. We about to All right, all right. So what are you expecting? 20K. I'm expecting games. I don't think we're going to have no strippers because it's going to be like a brunch and then we're going out for the night. It won't be no strippers. They always say that. It's going to be no strippers. They be playing in bad light. Like, nah, we just chilling. I'm just a cool girl. And then it be the construction worker that will come out and The cop. Yeah, the cop there. Really? Yeah, the fight, dog. He was just there. He was like, okay. He took his clothes off also. I'm hoping for some games and fun, some laughter, no fighting, just enjoying our time. We are way too old. Way too old. Bones gonna be aching. Nah, I'm good. You gotta get home to your child. And I haven't been out since I had her, so. Abort mission. Yeah. Okay, that's dope. Get home safely. Yeah, right. That's what's up. I'm I hope you have fun. Thank you. Thank you. I hope so too. Sounds fun. It sounds fun. Like, bachelorette parties, like, you know, maybe, because I know how calm we play. Like, what's a bachelor party? You know when you get to the, it's up. So I'm pretty sure. I ain't asking my girl nothing. I don't want to know nothing. You had a good night? You were safe? Yeah, that's it. That's it. I don't want to know nothing else. Good to know. I'll be over here, insecure, damn. Yeah, it was a goddamn. Like, how do you smell like that? Not why you smell like that. Why do you got glitter all over your face? I'm like, what? What the heck? That's a several. All right, well, it's been a lot going on for the past... We've been MIA for a little while, so in the world, there's a lot happening. Yeah. Today, Lil Wayne album dropped. I haven't listened to it yet. You haven't listened to it? No. I gave it to it about two listens. I tried. You tried? That's it. I mean, it's not Wayne... that I'm used to. Okay. It's, uh... It's this new growth, Wayne. Like, it's just not Wayne I'm used to. Yeah. He ain't the same no more. I mean, he grew. You talk about the same shit, though. Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. Did his sound grow? So he didn't grow. You don't think so? Because if you grow, like... Like, all right, I'm going to say Jay-Z, for example, because that's my favorite artist. They ain't really out there. But I'm going to say... Like Jay-Z, he used to talk about selling drugs and all that. Now that he grow, he talk about, okay, I cheated on my wife, like stuff like that. It's not grow, it's groove. No. Since he grow. He grew. Grown? Grown. Grew. Man. Hey, what Cam said, this ain't no speech class, bro. We are the podcast. We are media. This is media. In fact. So when you see the little subtitles going here, it says little subtitles that come here, not when he grow, when he grew. All right. But yeah, you know, he just, he talk about money, like he 50 years old still talking about Money, hoes, and clothes. Yeah, I didn't like the... It's a few songs that I got to live with that is kind of... That Noriega flip that he did was kind of fire. I'm kind of fired. But other than that, I mean... Yeah, it was like a cool... I think he dropped 19. Out of 19, I'm going to say it was about three to four. Yeah, cool three, four. And I don't think that's a good album to me. I've been hearing that a lot, so I'm not rushing to go listen. I'm sad. I love Lil Wayne. I think he just needs to retire the Carter series. Okay. Before he had the Carter, he had 500 Degrees. He had, you know, on hot boys he had uh forgot the other name of the album but ever since he came out with the card it's been carter carter yeah i think we need something he said this is it though but the last quarter i what that was my favorite the five the last yes really yes that was my favorite honestly i didn't even give it a listen i couldn't tell you what's on what Saved my life. Is that the one with... We don't know. Oh, never mind. If that's the one with the officer. No. That's Carter 3. Really? That was the best one. Yeah, that's my favorite one. She like freaking 20, 15 years later. Really? So what's Carter 5? Look up on your phone so we can know. Carter 5, yeah. Carter 5 and Carter 4. That was like... Yeah, because my favorite joint is with, I think it is Carter too, because I was listening to it like last week. Oh, Carter 5. I like the song with Kendrick Lamar. Okay, then no, that's not my favorite one. Because the one that you're talking about is my favorite album of the Carters. Carter III? Yeah. This one came out in 2011. Everybody, Carter III was their favorite because he came out, he sold a million copies in that week. The one with the cap and gown. Yeah. Yeah, that was my favorite. Yeah. I don't know which, the V with the one, I don't know. I don't know the Roman numerals. I don't, I have no idea. Yeah, that one. That's my favorite one. I have no idea. I don't know the... Yeah. It's another artist. It's another artist I sent Gio. Jacob Lattimore. Jacob. I did not know that he was fire. Yes. Yo, he is super fire. Like, why is nobody talking about his style? I don't know. Because he on the shot. No, back in the day when, like, Diggy Simmons and B5 and all them, that's when he was popular. But now that he done got older, it's like he got pushed to the side. They don't really listen, but... Listening to him sing and then watching the shot, it's like, yo, this dude is a whole different vibe. I was a little shocked to hear. And I seen it on TikTok. Yep. Yep. For informational purposes. I seen it on TikTok, and I'm like, oh, he sings? And then I'm just going through his discography, and I'm just like, oh, wow. This dude really sings, and he's really an R&B-ass nigga. Yeah. His music is fire. I see him on the shot now. I'm just starting to bust out in a fucking song and dance. This last season, he was singing. He gave a little melody. Oh, he did? Yeah. After we do this pod, I need to... Go catch up. It's good. It's so good. Other than that, anything new, guys? Nothing new. I'm going back to work. I had a pop-up Monday. Like a pop-up shop. I did clients for half price. Oh, wow. Yeah, I did. I have four clients. That's what's up. Yeah, I have four clients that day, so I might do that again before I go back into the salon. Were they your old clients? Nope, these are new clients. New clients? Yes. Okay. Do your old clients know you're coming through? Like, they know you popping back out? They do know that I'm in a different area, but it's an hour away from where I was, so I don't know if they'll travel. But I'm going back to where I was, so I'll get all my old clients back. All right, I got a question. What's the furthest you'll travel for a haircut? I give a good hour. Yeah, about an hour. Yeah, hours the furthest. I've traveled some, like I've been... Maybe I was too loyal. I lost all my hair now. Yeah, yeah. Y'all saving some money with no haircuts. Yeah, I done traveled a while for my barber and it's like the loyalty. It wasn't even the distance. It's the loyalty. Yes. You don't cheat on your barber. Bet not. Person that cheat on they barber, I don't even trust you. That's how I feel about your hairstylist. You can't keep going to different people and then you don't know who to blame. Yeah. You're losing your hair. Oh, the last stylist didn't know. It was the one before that. So you can't blame nobody but yourself. They say you can tell if a man's loyal by his barber. By his barber. I like that. I used to go to my barber until he retired. Since I was 15. I'm 34 now. I've been going to my barber since I was 19. Wow. Well, I moved from New York, but my barber from 19 to about 32, 33. Wow, that's not bad at all. And every time she see me, oh, papi, I love you so much. Oh, so you go to a girl barber. I'm kind of scared. Oh, it's a girl? Oh, that's fire. I'm kind of scared. She used to make me look real Dominican. Only thing I didn't like is that she used to try to do my eyebrows and she'd try to finesse the finagle and she'd just make me look mad gay. Give me your arch. I had to keep my hat real low sometimes. I had that one time when I went on vacation. She arched my eyebrows. I was like... Did you look shocked all the time? Yeah, I was like... My girl gonna think she's sexy all the time.

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Oh, man. Well, what you call that came out? I'm probably going to give my kids. Nintendo Switch 2. That shit going to be hard to get. You might as well. You're going to have to wait about a year. They are in line for that joint. Really? They are in line. They are in line. And it looks kind of similar. The same. I'm sure all of them got the same character. So what's the difference? I don't know. They just want your money. That's it. I'm probably going to look. To see what the difference is. I bought the Nintendo Switch off of my nephew. For$100. I bought him the Nintendo Switch and you bought it off him. I see the money circle. Keep it in the family. That's what it is. Anything new? No. That's it. My next loss... Kind of upset about that, you know. But it's all right. We got next year. We find our head coach. I think y'all said that last year. I think that was the worst idea. No, it is. It's a bad idea, but then it's a good idea. Because you never know how it's going to turn out. Yeah, but he... We won't know. Until he came along, we didn't make it past... Like, we didn't even make it to the playoffs. Yeah. This is the first time in... Like, what, 25 years that we've actually made it to the playoffs past the second round? But you never know what somebody else can give us, Paul. You can't say Paul's. Oh, my bad. So it's men's... You can't say that either. You just got to let it rock. All the extra stuff, you just got to let it rock. So it's Men's Health Awareness Month. That's crazy. It's also... It's crazy because it's my birthday month. It's your birthday month? Yes, my birthday is June 24th. And then Father's Day is the week before my birthday. facts oh so you gotta you know what you gotta do you know what you gotta do I already know yeah you know you gotta you gotta put that on you gotta I don't know put it on but your your gift is going to and your guy he's the first he's the first time that right yes you gotta show and prove to see what you're gonna get what I'm gonna get for my birthday yeah yeah that's that's mainly what I say too because it's like whatever you get me is what you're gonna get yeah like I'm a person that's gonna like I I'll give you what you get me. I'll keep that same energy. If you give me a little tie, I'll get you a skirt. What shirt? That is hilarious. No, it's just... Yeah, I'm going to try to make it special. I ain't going. But other than that, you know it's summertime, right? Yeah. What that mean? What that mean? Niggas is getting rid of they old work. Yeah. Cuffing season ain't cuffing season no more, boy. It's too hot. It's too hot? It's too hot for cuffing season. So it seems like Cardi B and your man Offset and Remy Ma and Papoose. I thought that Ben broke up, though. Who? Remy Ma and Papoose. They did, like last year. Nah, they didn't break up. They did. They didn't break up. They was throwing shots at each other. And then now it's getting ugly because... Yeah, because she done pulled in without his hat on, bro. Like, bro, that's the ultimate party foul, bro. I didn't see that one. He ain't got no beard. He ain't got nothing. He just up there. So it's just like, bro, I don't know what I would do. You know? I thought he... Didn't he already post himself without a hat? Nah, because I was searching. Like, before she posted, I was searching. I was like, I ain't never seen Papoose without a hat on. So I was like, nigga, I'm searching. I'm searching. I'm like, yo. He look terrible. Never. She posted the ugly picture. Mike said he look like Smeagol. I did. He look like Smeagol. Well, see, like, wait. But my new dude ain't a looker either, so... I don't know who he is. Damn sure. They said he, uh... They said that he's not Pat Poose, he's Pat Moose or something like that. Clarissa Shields, somebody said this is an ugly breakup, but they was talking about the two couples, like both couples don't look good together at all. Ripping Ma is pretty, like the others is like... The others. Like Clarissa Shields. I think Clarissa Shields, she's a boxer though. Like how pretty do you want her to look to get beat up? But she looks rough. Like she looks rough. Even when she dresses, she looks rough. She's a boxer. Yeah, but I'm a truck driver. Outside my profession, I'm not going to look like a truck driver. You do look like a truck driver. Look at your beard. You look homeless. That is the truck driver way. You look homeless. She got the set it off braids. I get what you're saying. I do understand. She needs a stylist. She dress like she's stuck in the 2000s. And then even when she was on the Breakfast Club, she had a nice top on. Then she had on some wedges that was like a rose. You seen the pointers? Yeah, it's like, bro, what? What's going on? Man. I seem like the only person who's actually having a real good, well, when I say real good breakup, but an okay time is Cardi. Cardi is sad. She having the time of her life. She is sad. Yeah. And she enjoying it. Yeah. We know Offset, man. I can't say the same thing about Offset. He deleted his Twitter. The whole thing? Deleted his Twitter. Well, I think he should have because of the stuff he was saying. So, just go ahead and get up out of here, buddy. And Instagram. And Instagram. He deleted. But that's crash out. He making our Sagittarius look bad, bro. Because me as a Sagittarius, you doing that, I'm going to do better. I'm going to buy the boat and then have all the girls on there. Oh, my goodness. Yeah, but that just makes you look crazy. It don't matter. It makes you look crazy. It don't, nah. She got this one mega freaking whizzy effect. football player. Yes. But I didn't want you. And then the crash out part was like how you braid your son hair. No, no, no, no. The son has locks now. So that picture is old. Yes. Oh, I was about to say braid hair. Yeah. They braiding his hair. The son had the style first and then a long time ago, Stefan Diggs just did the same style. I feel like he was trying to make him upset. But the picture is old. The son got locks. But that's what, you know, if you know that as offset right somebody said he ain't seen his son since then oh that's true yeah you crashing out you look stupid you ain't seen your child oh wow you don't even know your child don't got braids no more that's crazy I mean that's a whole different perspective yeah that makes sense you know that kind of clears everything up yes That's crazy. That's what I don't get. Because it ain't no way. Because I'm going to just be petty right back. Of course. Of course. I'm going to be Stephon Diggs. King Petty. King Petty. Stephon Diggs. Stephon Diggs in this case. I'm going to just keep it chill, you know? King Petty Combs. And then he did the thing on his Instagram too. Oh, yeah. That's, you know, some chill shit. Yeah. That's how I would be. I'm not taking it to the internet. Nah, nah, nah. We got to deal with this outside. I don't want people in my business. I mean, but that's the thing about being a superstar nah I can't even if I couldn't do it everybody's in your business so you have to I couldn't do it seem like you're trying to get one up on somebody I'ma be like Lotto she's she we know she got a man we don't know who he is let's keep it like that we know who it is she is so fire though yes Lotto is so fire she was posting some recent pictures my man my man my man yeah it's her energy that's what I always say it's not even it's not even about her look it's just her energy towards her it's her looks also yeah she's pretty but it's her looks also It's her energy towards her man. Like, it's what makes you look more... I feel like it's not going to be like that once we figure out... I mean, once she shows Woody. I think it's going to be the same. Oh, I don't think so. I think it's because we don't know. As long as he's not with the clout. As long as he's doing his job like he's doing right now. Right, and ain't nobody screaming, like, yo, yo, I'm Dan Lotto. Yeah, that's corny. I got her news right here, cuz. That's corny, that's corny. She also says she can count her bodies on her hand. Yeah, I mean, same thing. also mad young. She's 25? She don't look like she's been outside long enough to have a bunch of bodies. Yeah, she's very young. I mean, keep it right, keep it tight. She's living to that quota, that five-finger quota. Yeah. Until she's 30. Is she 30? Nope. Nope, not even 30. Five niggas, not even 30? What, lost your virginity, did I say, at 18? Five niggas in what, from 18 to 30? Yeah. That ain't bad. That's not one of your, not even.5 or even.5. Because women count on toes, fingers, eyelashes. Right. Yeah, they overdoing it. They got some bodies. They got some bodies. Oh, there's another thing that I've been... I've actually been participating in. The goodnight challenge. Those have been mad funny. I've called our brother... Mr. Jamie Todd. Now you got to insert here. Yeah, yeah. I'm going to insert it here, which is hilarious. I was thinking about doing it. I thought, like, me and my girl were sitting up watching them. I was like, bro, I got mad people walking really cool. You wanted to do the, um... the pranks. So why not? This has been the best prank that you can do. But I just feel like, I just feel like everybody, I just feel like everybody has a social media. So they seen the challenge. Everybody ain't got TikTok. Yeah, but it's different. But it's not only on TikTok. Oh, I haven't seen it nowhere else. Yo, every time I've seen it, I laugh a little harder because it's different reactions. Yeah. Yeah, but they gonna be like, oh, you know, I've seen this before. Yeah. Try it. Yeah. You might, cause Jamie, cause when I called him, he was just like, Bye. Yo, what is you on? He thought I was drunk. He thought I was drunk. I have to see that. You in the house? Yo, you drunk? I was like, nah, man. I love you, man. I just wanted to tell you goodnight. And he was like, yo, what is wrong with you? Perfect person to call. I got some people. You should record it. Yeah, record it. It's actually pretty funny. And I watched the video back and it's just funny. So that goodnight challenge is... Yeah. Pretty funny. We've been seen laughing about it. What's the equivalent to goodnight? Like, what do you call your friend and then you ask, like... Like, our men just... Like, why can't we tell our homeboy goodnight? Because I'll be the guy to be like, alright, goodnight, bro, love you, kid. Nah, you can't call him... And tell him goodnight? And tell him goodnight, nah. If we in the same facility and it's like, alright, yo, my G, I'm about to head out. Alright, yo, yo, goodnight. That's cool. But to call your man up... I don't even think I would still say goodnight, though. I ain't even going to lie. Really? Because if we leaving, like, I done left my friend's crib plenty of times. I never say, yo, goodnight. Yes, you have. I'm pretty sure. I'm pretty sure you've said goodnight. No, I never said goodnight. I ain't out to see y'all. I never said goodnight. What's the equivalent to that? I was going to call you one day and be like, yo, what's up? Yo, you ate? But then that's just like, oh, yo, let's go. Yo, you ate. It's hilarious. What? It's like going to, like, tell you a little, yo, let's go get something to eat. That's kind of weird. That's what I was going to say. You buying? That's exactly what I was saying. I'm going to say no. No, I have not ate. Now what you going to do about it? Even if I did eat, I'm going to say, no, I ain't eat yet. Let's go get some drinks. I just want the drinks. Even if I did eat, I want the drinks. I ain't eat yet. You don't call no woman, like, yo, you ate? No, I didn't eat in three days. OK. I need a hundred bands. I can't eat rent, dude. Uh-uh. Yeah, girls be going through it. Oh my goodness. When you just meet them, they always going through it. I need my bills paid. Just meeting? What kind of girls y'all talking to? Ones on Tinder. Why are you on Tinder? Nah, they on Christian. Back in my day. They on Christian Mingle. You on Christian Mingle too? Nah, I ain't on Christian Mingle. No, sir. Christian Mingle, they be, they be, I need some money for the Lord. Wow, they brave. You better ask the Lord. At least get a couple conversations in before you start asking for money. Nope, nope. They just real fun with it. Wow, I don't even like asking for money now. I hate it. I live with my grandma. I have a couple of stories. It was rough out there when I was dating. It's rough out there now. They said the dating pool got pee. It got poop. It got a little go up. It got a little STD. It got a little saliva. It got a little bit of everything in there. I heard you could pick now. They say you could pick your height. You could pick your height. On Bumble, I heard that on the Breakfast Club because I know all the new social media apps. But I heard on the Breakfast Club, they was like, oh yeah. Bumble guy where you can choose your height. So he can be five foot or six foot. He's still going to cheat on your dumb ass. Like, why are you worried about how tall he is? I don't understand. When I watch these pop the balloons, they be like, oh, I pop because his height. I pop because he's not tall enough or he's too short. So which the shortest you would go? I'm 5'2", so how short can... I'm going to get a midget at that point. He at least got to be taller than me. He at least got to be taller than me. 5'2"? That's cool. 5'2 is the minimum? Like, you got to be height to height? Yeah. Could you date anybody shorter than me? Yeah. Nah. That's a midget. I'm short. That's a midget. That is. Because under 4'9", you a midget. 4'9"? 4'9", you a midget. Oh, shit. Or a tiny person. Little person. Yeah, little person. Maybe I heard they being offended. Yeah, little person. I'm sorry. Shit, we can get a tiny home. In a tiny community. Right? No. Get a one bedroom. Okay, would y'all date a taller girl? A girl taller than you? Yeah. Absolutely. Really? Yeah. I would date somebody taller than me, you know? You're already like six foot. Yeah, but they gonna be what? Six two? Oh my goodness. Amazon. Just the Amazon. If you ever seen Jack and the Beanstalk? I have. It's like climbing that beanstalk and getting to the top of that and then just... And that's it. Yeah, that's it. I mean... My niece is in here. Listen to Megan. She tells you all the time. But I don't think Megan is taller than six. Nah, she tall. She's tall. She's six feet something. Oh, wow. Yeah, she's Megan tall. I don't remember. That's why I don't get why. I met her at PV. I don't remember her being that tall. Because Tory Lanez is like, what, five? Tory Lanez is pretty short. You know, if Tory Lanez can do it, I can do it. Crazy. Stop it. I don't like when men do that. What, they tall people? No. If he can do it, I can do it. No. He can do what I can do. No, no, no. He can do what I can do better. All right, y'all. Y'all want to talk about last pod? We should talk about that first. But yeah, let's talk about it. Last pod? Last pod was good and bad. It's good and bad? Good and bad. We know what to do with the guests. I'll say that. Yes, yes, yes. We got to go through media training. Yeah. Yeah. So it's like a class before you don't talk over this person. It's like one at a time. And we need more mics. We definitely learned a lot about the last pod. Yes, yes. It actually made me realize that I need a better laptop. I need a way better laptop. Sorry it took me so long for that episode to come out. I was dealing with some technical difficulties. But this part, this should be out like next week. This one should be out next week. The girl was talking too much, blew the speaker, and it was just crazy. Man blew a speaker, for real? Yo, I watched that. Yo, you know, I got, well, other than some of the women that were there, it was just... It was a lot. It was a lot. It was a lot to do. I think minimize the... Because it was more... girls than guys. It's just cool, but I think it should be a ratio. Eventually, it's going to be more guys than girls. We got a dude cast. Dude cast with one girl. It's just going to be like that. I didn't kick y'all out. Chio got to be here. I didn't kick y'all out. We're just sitting back chilling. It was they part at that point. They kept talking. Loving the death. They was doing the most. Some people I keep But I ain't going to say no name because, you know. Yeah, I ain't going to say no name. I'm going to say a name. Kay, my cousin Kay. Y'all should have been over here with me because you barely said two words, ma'am. Two words. You was there for the beauty. You're just like... Kay was in her own mind. Did she do edibles? I don't know what she was on. She was on something. I would invite Chocolate back. Chocolate is definitely... Yeah, my sister was chilling. She was definitely... I would like to have her a different type of pod. Yeah, she knows how to communicate and have a good, decent conversation. You know? Talk like adults. Yeah. I can see how their relationship go. I see why they single. They are not singles. Oh, they not single? No, they got a man. Both of them. I thought she had I thought she broke up with two men in the same day. No. Oh, all right. All right. Enough. Enough on the pod. Well, it is Ben's health awareness. So that's what we dedicate in this episode to Ben's mental health. And are you aware of your mental health? Oh, you're asking me? Yeah. Are you aware of your mental health? I'm very aware. Yeah. Yeah. I'm aware person. So when do you know you need a mental health day from work or people? When I feel exhausted. Well, that's like... It's like society tells us we can't get exhausted. We can't get tired. Why not? That's y'all's society. You can't quit. You got to keep going. Yeah, I understand that. But you still need a day to be like... A day or a week. Life goes on. If I'm out of commission for a day... Life's still going to go on. I get you. So you will feel guilty to take a mental health day? I wouldn't feel guilt. I do. I would. I would. I'm not even going to front. I would take. From work or like family? Nope. From both. From both. It's just like being a man, you have to, you take on so much responsibility. So trying to push that responsibility, it kind of seems selfish sometimes. But you have to be selfish. You have to. Because you got to live for yourself. Right. I remember my dad told me, you got to work on the machine. If the machine ain't running, everything stops. You got to worry about the machine. The machine keeps everything going. You have to worry. You got to oil it up. You got to give it a break. You got to service it. So when a man needs a break, why don't he just say, hey, I don't feel like talking today? Why do you have to go a whole week without talking? My man went a whole week without talking to me, laying right next to me, not saying a word. Dang, they said hi and bye. No, that did not. Did not. Was talking to my child, did not say a word to me. Okay, but I'm cool with that. Just say, hey, I just want to take a little... You know men's mental health awareness, you know it's all month, so he didn't have to talk to you all month. That was last month, nigga. He was preparing. He was preparing. You don't get another week, buddy. You don't get another week. But you know what it is, though? Because sometimes girls don't be out, like, as a girl, y'all supposed to be our way out. But sometimes y'all do make it worse because it's like, I'm going through this and then y'all asking for this. So it's like, how am I going to prepare for... We asking for that in the middle of your break? Nah, but during, like, we're not telling you we're going through something. Yeah, so how are we supposed to know? We can't read y'all minds. No, but we don't expect you to know. Yeah, but you are the closest person. You are a person, though. Yeah, you are the closest person. You're supposed to read us. You're supposed to know us, by the way. I tell people that all the time. It's not easy. No, just like I read my girl. I know when something's wrong. Yeah, I know when you need something. I know something, not exactly what it is. It's something, but we don't know exactly what it is. That's your job to figure it out. What if the man is not saying nothing? Men are not complicated. at all. Y'all make it so... Y'all make it complicated to where it's like men only probably need three things. What? To be fed, fucked, and what else? Fed, fucked, and finances. Because, nigga, if my money ain't right, I ain't trying to give it to you. I ain't trying to give it to you all the time. If my money ain't right, I ain't right. I understand that because I'm the same way about my money. Yeah. I don't want to do nothing. I don't want to talk. I don't want to go nowhere. But that's probably what your man was going through, you know? Yeah. I understand now. But sometimes we just don't. And probably his child was his way out. I was like, nah, she, you know, she never asked for nothing. She's just going to be there laughing. Not yet, though. Not yet. Cry, cry, cry. Yeah. Not yet. That's what you wanted to do? Cry? Mm-hmm.

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Mm-hmm.

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That's what I wanted to do sometime. Y'all don't feel safe to cry? I do. I don't have a problem. I'm by myself now. You know? Like yourself? Yeah. I don't have a problem crying. It's just I haven't had a reason to cry. Yeah, a lot of my cries are my pop stuff. I can sit here and cry, but it's like the emotion thing. I just can't do it. I'm not an emotional type of person. I just can't cry. I can see that. Yeah, I think I got out of it. I can get my denzel on. I can bust out crying right now. I'm a good actor. I'm a really good actor. I need to work on my acting, like try to like acting classes and all that because I could really just bust out crying. Oh my God. I could be happy as yeah that's a gay uh that's a gay lord yeah oh it's also um pride month pride month it's a lot going on it's father's day it's a lot going on this month you can't say pause yo challenge you cannot say pause the whole month if you said it stand on it not stand on it or sit on it Either or. Whatever floats your boat. What is your go-to self-care activity? What do you do? Self-care? I haven't done nothing lately. I know there's something that we do do. What? We game. Okay, that could be one. We game. We game. We sit there and we... Because I'll play the game. That's my way out. That's my way out. That's my way of not even... I don't even know. Time exists at that point. I'll take my eyes off the screen. It's been three hours. Yeah. I'll say that. What I used to do is play ball. I used to go bowling. And I like working on cards. Those are my three way out. I used to say shopping, but... That's an expensive habit. Those used to be my ways out. I would say gaming now because I'm older. Some women think gaming is childish. I don't think so, but... It keeps you out the street. I don't mind. I'll bring you a plate in the middle of a game. I don't care. What you're not going to do is be on it all night. That's what you're not going to do. It's a level to it. If you're not going to work, if you're not doing stuff, if your mental is like, oh, I'm going to just come home game, that's it. No, we're not doing that. I think that's what cleaned up the streets. Video games? Now that you can play online with people. Oh yeah, you can make money. You can make money. I think that cleaned up the streets. Nah, because the streets still wild. Nah, but it's not. You got to think about a lot of them be in the house playing video games, playing 2K all summer. After they stole my car. They be outside. They don't know inside. And it's summertime too, so they finna just get into some stuff. Just please sit down somewhere. Find a house and chill out. It's too hot. They need to play games. They need to. Maybe they need to work on their mental health. They be stealing cars. They be shooting for nonsense. But that's... I think we, as older, we got to step up. I've heard people say it all the time and all that. And it's like putting yourself in harm's way because now, what if they don't like you? And they, you know, you come in and trying to give them some game. They ain't trying to hear that. Yeah, if they're already too deep in, some of them will listen. But if they're already too deep in, are they a lost cause at that point? Like, what can you say to him? Because that's what I say. It's more money than just like... These kids need dads in their lives. They do. It's a lot of... I think a lot of them have fathers. You think so? I think a lot of them... You think a lot of YNs got daddies in them? I don't think so. It's more... It's not how back in the day when your daddy leaves or whatever. There's a lot of dads still around. They said 70% of men are more in their lives now. They're just working all the time. Yeah. I can see that too. They're working all the time. But then are you there? You are there. But you're not disciplining the child. You're not giving them advice. You're not teaching them. I'm pretty sure they're getting lessons, but not that everyday type of... You need that tough love. And that's what I say, because men are here to... I'm here to keep my daughter off the stripper pole and my son out the streets. Women are here to... Nurture. I'm going to give you that tough love. My girl is here to give you that. Oh, baby, it's going to be okay. I'm not going to give my son that. It's not going to be okay. Step it up, bro. And that's what they need to learn. Women need dads, too. Yeah, I feel you. Because they keep them off the stripper pole. Not the stripper pole. It's just the emotional stress. I'm pretty sure you've been with a woman. You can always tell who has daddy issues. Always. I always tell who has daddy issues and it shows in the relationship how they treat you and how they talk to you. I had two dads. I had two dads. I'm a person that I like to read people. I know what you're doing. I know what your habits. So it's like, yeah, I can definitely tell. Your father should have taught you that. Yeah, because I'm not here to teach you. I'm here to treat you. You know what I mean? And slut you out. What in the world? I'm not here to teach you, baby. I'm here to treat you. Lord. These two men. Well, can social media be like, since everything evolves around social media, can social media affect your mental health? Definitely. Yes. I think it does also, too, because it's just endless scrolling of different emotions. Yes. Oh, my goodness. And it's like, yo, I went through fucking three emotions in the past, like, 15 seconds. Yeah. That's why I got disconnected. I seen a big old dookie booty. And then I seen, I follow weird shit. Your algorithm is crazy. Yeah, my algorithm is all the way. I would follow these worms and they was just eating this apple. What? And then after that, it was like the satisfying the toes, you know, the toes and then they take out the... No, I don't know what toes. My algorithm is a little... But it's definitely... I had to unfollow the shade room this week. Why? They just always posting negative stuff, and it's mostly about black people, especially with the DDG and Holly Bailey. I didn't want to see that. I'm tired of seeing that. Can y'all post something happy, like Teyana Taylor and her man? Did y'all see that video? Who her man? What? Aaron, is Aaron something? That's her man. Aaron Taylor, yes. We should have talked about her with the breakup because her breakup with Amandis. But then she with her new man. Oh, she got a new man? Yes. Who, Tiana Taylor? Yes. Or Holly Berry. Aaron Pierre, the guy from Lion King. Oh. Mustafa. I think he was Mustafa. I don't know. I thought he was a little. You know who? No, that's her man in that video. Y'all got to go watch it. I thought he was shooting free throws. No, he was not. Oh. Not at all, actually. But anyway, I had to unfollow them because they just post a lot of negative stuff and I'm tired of seeing it. I get it. I get it. I get it. Sometimes I just need a mental break. Yes. I agree. Because I don't be like... If you don't, you just don't want to be on social media. Yeah, don't. But that's why I be telling, like, people send me a lot of reels. And I be like, bro, don't send me nothing negative. I want to be funny all the time. Like, that's just me as a person. Like, even the stuff that I follow, I follow stuff intentionally. Yes, you have to. Like, I truly follow stuff intentionally. Even if you watch one video, that's what you're going to see. Yeah. the rest of the time you scrolling. Because your girl sends you relationships. All my shit, relationship, relationship. I'm careful on who sends me stuff and I click on because like I said, I'll let them be all over the place. All over the place. Mine is perfect. Beauty, relationships, and babies. That's all I see. Relationship, clothes, and hoes. That's it. I got sneakers. For some reason, like, women always pop up on mine. I don't know why. Yo, and they be having the bodiest of the body. Like, they be thirst trapping, like, everybody. That's why I'm telling you, bro. And then when I see something, I be like, oh, nah. Like, I don't even be stimulated because I done seen something already that's crazy. It's like, everybody, bro. I scroll, okay. It's like they're just trying to get you. It's like, bro, calm down. It ain't that serious. I'd just be looking at y'all like, bro, y'all thirsty. Does that affect relationships? Social media, does that affect relationships? I'm going to say it do. Absolutely, yeah. Because you're comparing. No, it's not comparing, but definitely comparing. You're not used to seeing half-naked women. And if your girl don't dress up for you, then what? Yo, you know, my uncle, he gave me a story. He was like, man, I feel bad for y'all. Y'all young. I was like, why, uncle? He said, because when I was young, I only seen maybe three women a day. He seen his wife. He seen maybe the lady at the supermarket. And maybe a lady, a random lady in the bus. He said, y'all pick up y'all phone, y'all see thousands. Thousands. Thousands of women a day. And it's like, how can you not compare? And it's like, that's what I'll say too. And it's not a bad comparison, but it's just like, you know, I dated you for a reason. So I would like for you to wear lingerie. I don't want to see this. Like, this is not... entertaining to me it's like everybody is doing it yeah but i want to see it from the person i'm with i feel it and that's what i that's what i think it's not insane everybody doing it and you're just doing it because you're thirsty like you want to get money that's everybody doing it just so they can get money shit i mean but that's what i say it's just you know get with it well that's Part of our men's mental health awareness month. Be aware of your mental health. Facts. Because it's very important. It's very important. And I say counseling too. I went through counseling for about a year. Yeah? Yeah, I did too. You learn how to cope with stuff. Because you don't feel as guilty. Stuff, you don't feel as guilty. Because she said everybody coped with stuff differently. You know what actually helped me? When we were younger, we seen a therapist for like a long time for trauma that we experienced. And that helped me a lot. It brought me up to see certain things and pay attention to behaviors and stuff like that. So that actually helped me a lot. And you know what else helped me too? That's why I think we goofy. Remember what our pops told us when we used to go to therapy? That we was crazy. He used to say that all the time. He said, yeah, yo. He used to say, yo, I'm crazy. I'm crazy. And we used to say it all the time. All the time. But it's like, I get joy. I get joy out of laughing, out of my own pain. Your pain is just, it's just weird. Yo, my son does that. I seen your post said, I like dark humor, so we ain't gonna laugh the same or something like that you said. Yeah, yeah. I laugh at things. It can't be too dark for me, but I laugh at some dark stuff. Chopping your head off. If we had a funeral and we're laughing, people are going to think, like, what the fuck? Yeah, what y'all laughing at? You got to laugh about the good times. Like, yo, remember what such and such? Exactly. Mom, but they want to sit there and cry and not be thinking about the good. And that's what my counselor told me. She said, think about the good shit. That was a, whatchamacallit. But I feel you. Yeah. What's the most annoying text y'all got or ever received or sent? I didn't think about that. You know what I really dislike? And it grinds my freaking gears. Let's see if you got the same one as me. K. No, we don't got the same one. I hate that. I'll send you a whole what you call and it's like K. Like I'll turn into the Red Hulk. K. K. What's yours? Yeah, what's yours? I mean, it's probably something petty, but mine is what you doing? Like, what you doing? That's the most annoying text? Yes, because you know I'm at work. Like, you know my schedule. It's annoying when you know they've been asking for something. That'd be annoying. Like, this is my off day. Actually, I'm busy as hell. I'm so busy right now. All right, Jill, what's yours? Can we talk? Or we need to talk. I love that. Yo, I love that one. That is like, if I send that, I send that on purpose so you can think about me all day. I'm leaving work to go talk because what we need to do is get this over with right now. That's crazy. That's a good way to tell somebody like, because they'll think about it like, yo, we need to talk. And it's like, all right, about what? And then you don't answer. Yeah. About what? Oh, my goodness. Then they call you. Yo, you good? Yeah. I said about what? I hate it. I hate it. That's a good one. That's a good one. Can we talk? Can we talk? I don't want to talk. Please tell me now. That's a good one. Because I'm leaving work early. That would bother me like all day. Yo, we need to talk. All right. What's up? and then not hear nothing yeah my mama did me like that last week probably don't even be nice i need to have a conversation with you early in the morning i was like about what ain't heard from 10 o'clock at night i said i'm on the way i need to figure out what we need to talk about i'm on the way over that's crazy what's the most annoying text y'all got Yeah, let us know that too. Yeah, what's the most annoying text that you can send or receive? Please let us know in the comments below. Yeah, because that is like a gear grinder. Some of those text messages they be sending. I'm pretty sure a lot of women gonna hit you with the, what you doing? What you doing? All the time. That's the conversation started. Yeah, it's like, all right, that's how you start the conversation. Like, don't text me what I'm doing. Tell me to pull up. Yeah, like... Shut up. Shut up. Not if y'all dating. Not if y'all dating. Nah, don't text me what you're doing. You know what I'm doing. You got my location. The fuck? But I... We not doing that. Location sharing ass day-day. Yeah, but I'm... She's trying to make sure I'm safe, she said. Oh, safe. Okay. Yeah. She gonna pull up with the blicky. The blicky. Yeah. Yeah. That's what she said. That's what she told me. What's the list for the week, Tuan? List of the week. Out of all these. Something you're not doing anymore. I thought we went through that one already. I don't remember. Something you're not doing. Yeah, something you're not doing anymore. Yeah, a list of things that you're not... I hope so at our age. We just talk bad about Lil Wayne not growing. I've grown. I've grown. What did I say? I've grown? I've grown. Alright, yeah. It's a list of things that you're not doing anymore. I bet. What's the list of things y'all not doing? Because y'all know what I'm not doing. I'm not outside no more.

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Um...

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A list of things. I'm not being selfish anymore. I can say that in the past couple of weeks I've experienced of going to back home and having conversations with different people. I don't want to be selfish anymore. I've noticed I've been selfish and thinking about myself a lot. It's like thinking you have to sometimes think about other people and their feelings. And most of the times I'll be like, man, fuck your feelings. But you can't do that about people you love and you want to be, you know, what you call. So I'm, I've been thinking about other people's feelings and how they interact with me. And yeah, it's a long, it's a process though. Cause sometimes I'll be like, yeah, Alright, Gia, what's up with you? Something I don't do anymore. Take things personal. If you're dealing with something that's on you, it has nothing to do with me. And I have to stop blaming myself for it. You gotta grow up. Yeah, I'm not doing that no more. Oh, nice. Y'all on it. Y'all got good ones this week. I've been thinking. Oh, I wanted to show... I started something new. What? With my kids. So, could you text your niece and see if she's still up? It's 1 o'clock. She still might be up. So, there's this thing that... What's her number? I don't even know her number. This is a thing that's been going around about with your kids. Calling them or... It's like an affirmation thing.

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Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00: 53:50

So it's like a little speech thing I go through with my daughter because I'm not, I can't be there 24 seven. So it's, uh, I asked her what accountability is. She answers what is, um, damn, I'm not going to bring for it. What's accountability. Uh, what about, I think I seen what our boundaries, what is, um, discipline, um, Yeah, stuff like that. What is control and what is respect and all that. So I've been doing that for like the past two, three months. And my daughter is starting to get it. Yeah, she is good. She is excelling at, you know, one of the questions is, it's not my responsibility to what? She knows to make anyone happy. No, it is my responsibility to what? make myself happy. So that's the little thing I wanted to share. I liked it. It actually helps a lot with kids and growing up. Because right now, everything is TikTok and social media and all this other stuff. Sometimes we just have to remind our, well, tell our kids or remind them of these certain definitions that we just, are very important. Yeah. Okay. I'll take that. My daughter won't talk back to me. Oh, yeah? My G2 chill. You alright. We gonna see you, little butterball. She only like three months. My little butterball. She yelling at me right now. Yeah? Every time she see me, she give me that little smile. I think I see a tooth coming. Yeah, something. The way she be hollering. There better be something wrong with you. I'm coming in the house, you hollering, just like your mama. Shots fired. All right, y'all. That was a good pod. There was. All right, y'all. Anyway, this is the We SBU Podcast, where we going to be us. You be you. You be you. Yes, sir.

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Yo! Yo!