Milk & Honeys
Milk & Honeys" is the perfect blend of raw industry insights and unfiltered realness. Like the ingredients that sweeten and smooth out a cup of tea, hosts Kayla Becker (TV host of 10 years) and Vanessa Curry (model and actress of 10 years) bring their own flavors to the conversation— Together, they spill the tea on what it really takes to live and thrive in LA’s entertainment scene.
So, grab a mug and sip on some Milk & Honeys—because we’re serving the tea with all the right ingredients.
Milk & Honeys
Episode 28: Type A vs Type B: Friendship, Anxiety, And Owning Your Wins
Control or calm—what do you grab for when life gets loud? We break down the tension between Type A urgency and Type B ease through the most relatable moments: Uber countdown panic, movie-night delays, and that friend who always needs “one last spritz.”
We translate the traits in simple terms: Type A finds safety in structure; Type B protects peace through flexibility. From time anxiety to doorway pacing, we talk honestly about negotiating mismatched rhythms—offering real tools like micro-routines for the drifter, a grounding breath for the clock-watcher, and shared context (boats leave on time; brunch doesn’t).
Then we tackle confidence vs. bragging. Big rooms can trigger imposter syndrome, especially for women taught to shrink. Our rule: celebrate yourself, but leave room to listen. We call out name-dropping, share a story where gracious confidence wins, and run a “brag break” featuring dance projects, video-game characters, and hometown escape arcs.
We wrap with watchlist therapy—from true crime to cozy comfort shows—and leave you with usable reminders: set two alarms, take two breaths, and brag until your nervous system believes you. If it hits home, follow, share with your opposite-type friend, and drop your proudest win of the week.
All right, everybody, we are back. It is Milk and Honey. It's episode 27. I can't believe it. We literally, again, it's so weird that that's like almost two months. Is that two months? Math. Four weeks in a month. We celebrated episode 20. Almost two months since we've, yeah. Girl, I don't know math. Yeah. It's been it's been a long time. Well, the same since episode 20. Like in fact, it's been two months since we were celebrating and we're just rocking rolling. That's crazy. I know. That's what I'm saying. Okay, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:See, that's why I need someone to do math for me. Because like I can't, because now it's like, wait, two months ago? That was two months ago. That's crazy. I know.
SPEAKER_00:Like we're talking about like it's been half a year since we launched on May the 5th of this year. We do we are. Golly, it's crazy.
SPEAKER_01:I love that our uh anniversary, our year anniversary will always be on Cinco de Mayo. Cinco de Mayo.
SPEAKER_00:It makes sense.
SPEAKER_01:Tacos, tequila, and tacos.
SPEAKER_00:Yes. You look really cute and comfy today, by the way. Like your hair and the glasses and the outfits.
SPEAKER_01:I just realized I probably I have like hopefully you can't really see it, but I have cat hair all over me. So I, you know, I try to. Yeah. And um, thank you though. Yeah, you look very cute.
SPEAKER_00:Um, for those who are just tuning in for the first time, we are your host. I'm Caleb Becker. And I am Vanessa Curry. Yes. And we uh love to come together every week, talk about what's going on in our lives and the world and things that we're working on, and try to maybe give some uh inspirational words to you. And hopefully maybe you can relate to us. Yes. So make sure you tell your friends about us too. Absolutely. Yes. Uh how have how's it been? How's it been going? Also, if you hear my stomach is growling so loud right now. I'm so hungry. And we talked about all the way over here. We want nothing more than a Carney's hot dog. If you don't know Carnes, it's iconic in LA. I might get two today. Yeah, honestly.
SPEAKER_01:We always go there, not always, but a lot of the times after we're done filming, we're hungry. We'll go to Kearney's. But usually when we're filming, we usually film kind of afternoon or later in the afternoon. This time we chose, you know, the last couple times we've been coming in a little bit earlier. Earlier. But I mean, for most people who like have kids and stuff, 11 a.m. is lunchtime. It's lunchtime. So we're allowed to have a hot dog, sweet potato fries, and maybe a corona. You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_00:I think that literally is allowed.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it's in the Bible.
SPEAKER_00:Look it out.
SPEAKER_01:So, yes, Carney's, we love it. There's like there's one in West Hollywood. I know there's another one in the Valley, and they're just they've been around for so long. So good. We love your hot dogs.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, I know this is not a sponsored segment, by the way, but hello, if you're interested in being a sponsor, Carney's, we will have your hot dogs out here every single week.
SPEAKER_01:We will, I will eat your hot dogs on the show.
SPEAKER_00:We will, and there's a whole other audience who probably love to watch us eating our hot dogs on the show. So oh, anyway, um, so we're gonna talk about a few things today that maybe, again, those of you can relate to, uh, including something we've uh discussed amongst ourselves, our personality types. Yes, those of you who have watched a show for the last several months, you may have been able to pick up on a little bit of our personalities. Um, but A-type and B type personalities, and especially as it pertains to friendships and actually what they all mean and what like, you know, people typically associate with. But I do think we're both kind of a perfect mix of both.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, you know, I think like we have a little bit, like you have a little bit more a sprinkle of like type A, and then I have a little sprinkle of type B, but we both we both we kind of weave in and out depending on like who the day.
SPEAKER_00:So this is what so for quick context for so you can figure out which one you are. Type A is typically very structured, ambitious, anxious achievers. Um and but type B is typically more chill, flexible, creative, chaos, achieving creative chaos achievers, so it can thrive more in the chaos of things versus you know, so uh science says type A people chase control for calm. I'm very much of a control freak. Type B, people avoid control for peace. Do you feel like that describes you for that?
SPEAKER_01:That is perfection. Um, because yes, I do avoid control for peace. I mean, I I like I said, there's a balance to it, but for the most part, yes, I am I am like a free bird most of the time, and I do sometimes need to be reeled in. And I understand that I'm aware of that, and I'm working on that.
SPEAKER_00:But I think also I don't think it's a bad thing. I think I want to like chill the F out sometimes. I can just, my anxiety gets like I'm stickler for time. My whole life I've been a stickler for time to where like my parents give me shit about it, my friends give me shit about it. They're like, do not show up late because then I get pissed off. But it's like just relax a little bit, it's not a big deal.
SPEAKER_01:But there, but there's times where you have your valid in okay, let's go, go, go. But then there's also some times where it's like, girl, we got an XL. They have to wait 15 minutes and they're going to wait. And that's okay. I need one more spritz of my perfume. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Great example, I think. When we were going to the movie, well, but also like my anxiety went up because my driver's anxiety was up. But you're right. Like, when you get an Uber block, they're supposed to wait. Yeah. I think they moved it down to five minutes.
SPEAKER_01:No, that's that's a normal Uber. Oh, so Uber? Okay, so you have to wait 15. Yeah, the normal Ubers, they wait five, you get five minutes, and the countdown starts right when they get there. Okay. But my guy was being so like Well, he also was listening to like Christian music, and I think that was triggering for you. So she texts. I got out of the car. She stand outside and wait. Yeah. She's like, I and I and I can tell her energy through a text at this point. So I, you know, our friend Cole is at my house and we're waiting. She was picking us up when we're going to the movies. And um, of course, you know, Cole gets there and he's there's tea that needs to be spilled. We hadn't seen each other in a month, and blah, blah, blah. And I'm trying to get ready, but you know, distractions. And so Kayla's telling us, I'm pulling up, calm down. And I'm like, okay, yeah. And then I think, I think I had to go to the bathroom before like we left. And so I was like, oh, damn it, hold on one second. And then Cole's like, okay, and I could just tell, like, she texts us, she goes, Hey, and by the way, let's be on good behavior, which I don't know what that means.
SPEAKER_02:But she said, I didn't mean it like that.
SPEAKER_01:She said, by the way, let's be on good behavior because our Uber drivers like blasting Christian music. And I, that right there is gonna make me not be on good behavior. I'm literally gonna ask him to play music, and I'm playing Cardi B WAP. That was her song, right?
SPEAKER_00:Is that Cardi and Nikki?
SPEAKER_01:Or no, Cardi and WAP, right? Oh, is it WAP? Yes. Yes. There's a couple of them. Yes. Like we are playing wet ass pussy in the Christian XL. Because you just told me to be on my business. I just want all of us.
SPEAKER_00:I know when the three of us get together especially, we're loud. We say curse words. We may be talking about things we should be talking about. And I just so bad. Like we're loud and we say curse words. I've my family's very religious, and so I feel like I am very traumatized and triggered. So I know if it's my dad behind the wheel, and like a we probably would have kicked us out. I'm sure a Christian man still cusses. I'm sure. I've never heard well, well, well playing. Um so but okay, but do you think, in all honesty, we'll have a little honesty. Oh my god, you're my stomach is really grabbing.
SPEAKER_01:I know, mine is two.
SPEAKER_00:I can't wait to have a I'm so excited. Um, does but so does my anus sometimes stress you out a little bit? You can say yes.
SPEAKER_01:No, yeah, yeah. I was gonna I was thinking only to say like in what way. Um, but yeah, no, it it does when it comes to that, like the car situation. And I could tell she was upset and I'm just laughing. So I don't know if that like pisses you off even more than where I'm just like, Cole's like, come on, I I think she's she says like the car's gonna go. And I'm like, no, it's not. The car is not leaving because it just got here and we have 15 minutes. So I'm gonna pee so that I don't have to do it when I get to the theater because I have a second, you know? Like, and then I can just tell. I know then we're just kind of sitting there just like um so you say my biggest flaw as a type A personality would be that that the time it but it's a it's a blessing and a curse though, because I I appreciate your time management because I used to be really good with time, especially when I first moved here dancing for the Lakers, you had to be on your job or like charity event 15 minutes before the job actually started. Like before when if you had to be there at if your job started at 10 a.m., you had to be there at 9.45. Like, and if you were there any later than 9.45, you're technically late. And you had to like call the coach and tell her why you were late and blah, blah, blah. You know, all these things. So I was like really, really, you know, and even for you know, jobs when I do book jobs, like I am on time. But sometimes I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, I feel like there's certain things that I stress about time that shouldn't be stressed about. So then your personal is like, we're like you said, we're fine, we don't need to. It's not like we are like we're we've never been late to like a premiere or anything of that sort.
SPEAKER_01:So right. That's what I'm saying. I appreciate your time anxiousness. I'll work I'm gonna do it. Some time though. Some yeah, I'll work on it. And I'm working on being better at being on time always, because I I want to be on time. It's just like I said, my ADHD brain sometimes I'm trying to get out of the house, then I'm like, oh, but did I do this? Oh, but did I do that?
SPEAKER_00:My friend Josh is like that. One of my good friends Josh, I just thought I just gave up on like him with it. We all make fun of him, like, oh, we'll get there. We'll get we all go to his house typically to start, just to like get him out. Yes. And he can walk to like everywhere we're going. We're literally walking out the door. He's like, wait, I forgot something. So then he goes back in. Oh, yeah, that's me. But then it's like 10 minutes of him. He's like, wait, have y'all seen my wallet? Have y'all seen my keys? We'll start walking out. Actually, not for 30 minutes later. I'm like, so I just go walk out and just stand outside. I still stand there at very passive aggressive at the bottom of the stairs.
SPEAKER_01:You get you get see, that's that's Ozzy. Whenever my boyfriend and I, whenever we're trying to leave the house. And it's always at his place, like when we're leaving. And it's always, I oh like not always, but 90% of the time, almost I always have to go back in the house really fast. I'm like, oh, I forgot. And I could just feel his Kayla energy where it's just like Oh my god, yeah. Cause when I leave, I'm good. I don't ever, I'm Oh yeah. Ozzy, when he, it's like he is so a he's such a stickler on time, which I love. But also sometimes, like we've talked about, where I'm just like, bro, can you sit down? Yeah. Can you just give me a second? Because you pacing back and forth is giving me anxiety. It's like that's literally. That is you. I'm like, can you sit down and watch ESPN for like 10 more minutes? There's a bear to sit there. Maybe she needs to do it to me.
SPEAKER_00:Like it's like a baby with a bottle, just like in your hair, and I'll go distraction. Okay. It was her birthday, and I was trying to plan out like this really big birthday surprise where our other best friend was on a boat that I'd rented, but we had to get to the boat at a specific time. And she was so bad about she was way worse than any of y'all the time. And I was like kind of pacing, and I could tell she was getting really annoyed. And all of a sudden, she just yells at me. She like, I don't remember what she said to me, but she just yelled at me. And I was like, fuck you. Birthdays off, friends in a boat, go find them. I'm like, I have been stressed out for days about pulling up the perfect birthday birthday surprise. And you're so worried about getting your left eyebrow to match your right eyebrow. Get the hell out of the house.
SPEAKER_01:Did she know what you were doing or no? Stop.
SPEAKER_00:And that's why I'm like, I think that's why it was like hard for me to get mad at her. Because it's like she doesn't understand how important this situation is. But for me, she knew I was throwing some kind of birthday surprise, but it also was her birthday, so like I should just let her like take her time, getting ready.
SPEAKER_01:But also, it's like with those situations, you have to be there on time. The boat will leave you. The boat, yes. Like they're not gonna wait. Maybe they would wait because it's the birthday girl, but no, I like the way. But I don't think they're gonna wait, you know, at all. It's not like a uh Uber black. No, but do you ever wish that you could be chill like me? Yes, or just does that scare the hell out of you?
SPEAKER_00:I think, yes, I do wish I could chill out a lot more for sure. Um, but I would not necessarily change my like I'm always like, you know, if you're if you're on time, you're late, kind of thing, which is just how I think I've always kind of been raised. So I think I'll always kind of be like early to things. I think for us, it's really hard for me to be on time because we're there late in my brain. Oh, I see. Which is I see, yes. It's also learning LA. No one's on time in LA because no one can get through traffic and everything. So I feel like I'm trying to like I've been here for three years now, so I'm trying to like learn how to be a LA person, but because in Florida, Florida moves a little bit differently.
SPEAKER_01:But I but I I don't think that's a bad thing. I think I think being on time is is a good thing. I just struggle with it. That's all. It's like I I want to be better. I think that's maybe that's one of my goals for for the new year is uh time management. I like that. And mine is just taking a breath. Yeah, yours is just chilling and not getting so in your head. She gets in her head, and it's like you can see it, you could just see her, like there's voices going on in there, and I'm like, what is happening? The voice are you okay? The voices told me. Yeah, you can I could just feel her anxiousness, and then I'm like, and then we have a conversation, and I'm always right. Like I'm always right. Like I knew she was like in her head about something, and I'm always telling her, but that's dumb. You don't need to do that. Like, tell those, tell name those voices in there and kick them out. Say you are not allowed to be here. Yeah, you need to name your voices in the head. Oh my god, you're gonna come in and I'm just talking to all of you. Yeah, and then you just have to like visualize flicking each one of them off and say, like, you don't belong here.
SPEAKER_00:I know, I do, I do hate it. Like I hate it, especially like it happens when I wake up in the middle of the night and then I'm laying there in bed, and like it's like those, you know, like when you tell yourself it's like 3 a.m. I still could sleep for three more hours. I'm exhausted. But I have all these things I worry about during the day are now just manifesting the bigger things. But then I'm also telling myself, you can't fix it now. It's 3 a.m. Nobody else is awake thinking about these things. So why are you thinking about these things? But I just can't do it. I probably should like maybe I just need to smoke more weed.
SPEAKER_01:I think you need a sorry, I don't know what I'm talking about. I'm at just kidding. I think no, I think you need to like smoke more weed before bed and maybe like take away. I'm telling you, meditation. Like if you do sleep meditation, I just try it. Try, I'll send you one. His name is Kenneth. Yeah, I always I love his. I don't know what it is. I just his voice always puts me to sleep like in five minutes when I yeah, maybe I do need that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Um, if we swap per if we swap personalities for a week, what's the first thing you think we'd screw up? Despite your time management, you were really uh what's the word? You're really good at like you get it done. Like you'll get things done, even if it's like a little later. Like I feel like your work ethic is really impressive. So even when you're tired, like again, like yes or the other day, a couple weeks ago, you were really tired, but you still ended up going to work for like five or six hours, even though you didn't want to. I think what I would screw up is I would find a way to weasel my way out of those things because to not go. And I see what I think that I would do.
SPEAKER_01:I see that. I I think what I would I think I'd probably screw up being so on top of it. So yeah, exactly as this is why we work together. I'm sorry, this is why we work together. Uh, I think yeah, I would I would probably screw that up for sure. Easy, easy peasy. That is what's happening here. Like, unfortunately.
SPEAKER_00:So reading off our flaws list. I just put them, it's not our specific flawed list. So this is just all of you who are who are friends with someone who's opposite type of you. Um, this is typically what the A type flaw. I'll let you read mine and then I'll read yours.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so type A flaws um impatient, control freak, overachiever, burnout magnet. I mean, yeah. Sounds about right.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Sounds about right. And type B flaws, indecisive. I mean, that is the biggest I don't like the word inconsistent as it's as it pertains to you. I do think that is one, but I don't think you're inconsistent. Um easily distracted, absolutely. Oh gosh. And too trusting. That's a big thing. Yeah, type B personalities.
SPEAKER_01:You're very trusting. I am very I'm working on not, I mean, I it's as I get older, I am less trusting. Yeah, well, yeah, because you've been burned. So now you're learning. Many, many times. So yeah, I don't trust a lot of people anymore. My mom always tells us, she's like, just shut up. And I'm like, okay. Okay, on moments. That's true. Mama knows best. You're right, you're right. But yeah, the ink the inconsistent though, like I do want to be more consistent in life. That is something that I tell myself. So whether that's even even as something so small as like social media, right? Yeah, I just I want to be consistent because I know that there's a space to make more money and like become more financially free when it comes to that. So if I really honed in and was consistent with that more, even though I know it's social media and like how lame and we're millennials and like blah, blah, blah. But it's like I know plenty of millennials and older who are making a living off of social media. Oh my god, yeah. So it's like, and I love that for them. And I think that like we could be able to do that. We could be doing that. So I do think, yeah, and consistent, like that to me is like Content creation, you know? Just that, because we're good at it and we know what we're doing, but we just don't.
SPEAKER_00:I think if we were 10 years younger, we would. I think there's something for me, at least this is my thing. I think for me, I have a there's something in my head that says I'm too old to be doing it. Although, like you said, there's plenty of people our age who are doing it, but they also have been doing it for 10 years. But they just don't care.
SPEAKER_01:There's like there's moms and grandmas who are doing it now. Yeah, for sure. And they're yeah, and they're just starting, and they're already, you know, yeah, yeah, killing a financial debt.
SPEAKER_00:But you could literally pay your LA rent with the way these content creators work. So, like it's very easy. So you're right, we just need to be more consistent. More consistent for sure. Um, okay, so this brings us to another type A thing. Thing type A people suck at. And this isn't just type A, this is you and me both. Bragging about ourselves. Because I think you asked what's the difference between you said bragging and confidence. Or yeah, or like, yeah, cockiness and confidence. I think it's a good idea. Cockiness and bragging. So I think we've we've been going to these events lately, these like higher profile events with a lot of high profile people. And I think it's sometimes I've the level of like imposter syndrome kind of peaks, where like we'll have conversation, the people who are talking about themselves and everything they're doing. And then I feel like we at least I don't really talk about myself because I feel like it comes across as like boasting and bragging. And I do wonder like what that stems from. And do you think maybe it's like it's harder for women maybe to talk about their wins without feeling like guilty about it? Maybe it's just not not just women, but just like certain people.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I think for women it's very difficult in a lot of ways. And I see it mostly in honestly, like millennials and above. Because I feel like the generations underneath us, they don't really have a problem talking about themselves. That's true. And and honestly, most of the time I love it. I'm like, oh, that's like they're confident. It's the lack of awareness in a situation or in a room for me where you could start just like talking about yourself and like boasting about yourself, which I love. Yeah, but then you're not either a paying attention to the other person if they're talking back to you or giving the same respect and like listening and paying attention, if that makes sense. And then I'm like, oh, okay, so you just wanted to talk about yourself, but now that you now that you that I'm trying to talk to you about something, like you're not here. Yeah, you're just kind of waiting for me to finish so that they get so that you can start talking about yourself again.
SPEAKER_00:You know, I wonder if there's something like traumatic with that, because I think I've noticed with myself, I'll I'll let someone else talk for 20 minutes. And then when it gets to me, I'll talk really fast and consolidate it because I feel like I'm a bother and an inconvenience because I don't want them to have to sit and listen. Which is so crazy. But I feel like I've it's something I I've noticed that with myself in like social situations. Like, what have you done? I'll say something real quick. Oh, I worked in wrestling a little bit and now I'm doing a little bit of this. But like, what about let's go back to you? I just can't, for some reason, I can't do it.
SPEAKER_01:Our friend Jeff is like that too. Yeah. We've talked about that. He is an amazing producer, works for an amazing company, just did this awesome project, and I saw him posting his uh stuff on his close friends, and I knew why he was doing it. So I asked him, and it was. He was just, he said, I don't want to come off as like I'm like voting or bragging. And I'm like, you have worked so hard on this project, uh, working in this company, doing everything that you possibly can, work bending over backwards because you love what you do. You have every right and deserve to share. It's it's it's sharing with your audience. Look at this. Like, I got to create this amazing piece, this amazing art project. Like it's just this film, this commercial, this whatever he does. And so, yeah, I think it's important to have those people around you to remind you that because I think there's like, I don't know, I feel like it's a millennial and above thing where it's like, don't talk about it. Just do your job, go home. You don't talk about your finances, you don't talk about making you know money that you want to be making, because God forbid you're making money.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, don't yeah. If you go out and like, you know, do some really cool trip or whatever with all your money, don't post it because it looks like you're bragging. If we work this hard in our lives to like make this kind of money and have this kind of success, I think we should all have the right to flaunt it. And maybe, yeah, you know what? Maybe look a little boastful because we earned it. I think both the people who are getting mad at you for doing that is the people who are probably really envious and more mad at themselves that they didn't work as hard to do the things that you're that you've done. So yeah, I get I get I look at all these TikTokers who are living in mansions and traveling the world. And yeah, I get really salty and jealous, but I'm also realizing no, I could be doing that too. I haven't worked for that.
SPEAKER_01:Yes.
SPEAKER_00:So, like, that's just how I think the human brain kind of works. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_01:It's it's a weird what to you is something that would come off cocky, like too cocky, where you're just like, I mean, we all know those people who are like, you know, um, yeah, like today, I just oh you know who the cocky people are?
SPEAKER_00:Those people are obsessed with Bitcoin. I feel like those Bitcoin bros are always the ones bragging about shit. Or I'm like, I don't even believe you, bro. I don't even believe. And the people who like, yeah. I think anyone who brags about like, yeah, it's always giving small dick energy. Small drive. I'm like, I don't believe anything that you're saying. No bragging about like the I mean, I was obviously at last episode talking about my car I just sold, but I was very proud of how but you never saw me out posting by my Mercedes or anything like very few people even knew I had to do it. You do photo shoots on your Mercedes monthly. I never even posted a photo of my car. I think people who like do that all the time. Yeah. It's not like when you first buy a car, post it, whatever. Of course. All the other stuff. Um, yeah, I think that gets really braggy.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I I think also name dropping all the time. Yeah. You know, who you're with. We all know famous people. Everyone knows them. And sometimes like I don't, especially because like fame is such a loose term nowadays. Um, I do think people get offended when they have millions of followers on TikTok or Instagram, and they you meet them and you don't know who they are, and they get so offended. I was I was with this girl the other day and she works for Instagram. But what her title is is going, I don't know her title exactly, but what she does is she goes and makes sure that there's no like pedophilia like on there. So that's her, she's not, she doesn't have any pool for Instagram. No, no, no. She just I met this girl who works for Instagram. Oh, I see what you're saying. So she went to a party, so that's her job, right? Like her job is like to make sure there's no pedophilia on Instagram. Okay, that's her great job. Department. Good. We don't want that. And we love that.
SPEAKER_02:Yes.
SPEAKER_01:But she went to a a party and there were like famous, I guess, TikTokers there. And so when they found out that she worked for Instagram, she she said immediately they they were trying to like ask her questions, like, how do we do X, Y, and Z? And she goes, I I don't know. Like, that's not my department. And then they got offended that she didn't know who he was. Like, like, what do you mean you don't know who I am? I'm X, Y, and Z. And she goes, I have no idea.
SPEAKER_00:I don't Don't ever be that person. I can't stand that kind of. I went to a party and there was famous people there that I didn't know, I just knew they were famous who didn't want to introduce me to them. So like they wouldn't tell me their name because they're like, you should already know my name. Oh, I'm like, I don't care how big you are. You've seen some of the I've seen like top stars who will go up and introduce themselves and they're A-less celebrity like household names. Yes. Like that's how you are. Like being like Yes.
SPEAKER_01:No, I will never forget meeting Rihanna one night at a nightclub, like when I first moved here, and it was like the most amazing thing ever. She literally is at the table next to me and came up to me and said, Um, she she said I was gorgeous, which was like just so she's gloating and gradually.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, she said I was gorgeous.
SPEAKER_01:You guys um no, but she introduced herself. She was like, Hey, uh, I'm I'm Brianna, what's your name? I was like, in my head, I'm like, I know who you are. But again, I appreciate that you just like introduced yourself. Yeah. And and was so kind. Respect, Riri. That's why we love you.
SPEAKER_00:That's why she's the best. She's the queen. Um, so what's something that you have done recently that you didn't brag about, but you totally should have?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, uh, you know, I am uh doing a dance project. Yes, you are, and I'm so excited. It's um I'm dancing for an artist, and he's putting on a review show called XO Playhouse. And uh I am one of two of the Exo Angels, his dancers. And uh yeah, it's gonna be so fun. It's on October 18th, so check it out. I'll I'll post it all on my socials and stuff. But yeah, I'm excited about um just dancing, moving my body. I mean, she's a great dancer, so y'all want to go check her dancing out.
SPEAKER_00:She's very good. What about you? Um, I mean, I think I think Zuno is something weird that I always want to brag about, but I don't brag about it. I mean I talk about it, but I feel like it's always so weird to me. It's still wild to me that when I think about the fact that I was like a character in three video games, like 2K video games, which 2K is the biggest video gaming. Like, and not just like I was an actual like character. I think the reason I was I don't really brag is because I no, I'm not trying to shade my my family at all, but like they never cared. Like they never wanted to buy the video games, and like I was like, this is one of the coolest, like besides the tops training cards, but I have a lot of those too, but like three 2K video games to me, that's just the coolest freaking thing to be able to say I did. And I'm like, no, I feel like I get I get embarrassed to even talk about it now because I feel like no one's really cared.
SPEAKER_02:Like, what? Okay, I cared.
SPEAKER_01:I'm just saying, when she was telling me this one night, I made her put it on and we watched on YouTube. Like, we turned on something that you showed us your cartoon. And it was, I was like, oh my god, this actually looks like you. This is crazy. I mean, I don't play video games, so I didn't know, but I'm like, yeah, and she goes, Yeah, I'm in two more. And I'm like, that is so awesome. What? So yeah, you should kind of you should just post about it now.
SPEAKER_00:I should just put it on my Instagram. Like, this is me in the video game. Like, do they still do like TBT about Thursday? Should we bring them back? That's all millennial. TBTBD.
SPEAKER_01:Or what was it? Um, it was Man Crush Monday and then Women Crush Wednesday. Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:We remember all the hashtags. We're gonna be able to do that. I don't think anybody do those lately. No, should we start? I think we should bring them back. Okay, we'll do it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, absolutely.
SPEAKER_00:That'll be so fun.
SPEAKER_01:Man crush Monday.
SPEAKER_00:Man crush Monday.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_00:Um, okay, so each say we should each say it's a little brag break. And those of you who are watching should do the same thing. So it can be about anything. Each say three things that you're proud of. So, I mean, you know, you just said you're the rehearsal for something major, but it can be about anything that you've done in your in your life. So it's three things. It's just like that you look in the mirror, you're like, you know what, I'm so proud of you for doing that, or getting through that, or um moving to LA at 18 and choosing to come here, but also having the support.
SPEAKER_01:That's I'm really proud of that, and I'm proud of my parents for that. Um I got through toxic relationships, even though I was in it for like 10 years, which is way too long. So if you are in one, get out. Get out. Um and and not losing, not allowing myself to be fully lost and finding myself again, who I actually am, the goofy, I'm over the top, and too much for some people, whatever, you know, and being okay with that and like still loving myself. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I love that. Yeah. What about you? Um, I think getting out of my small town because no one leaves. Like, no one, you you were born there, you find your first love there, you marry that first love, you have a few kids, you divorce your first love, then you go and date his best friend, you marry his best friend, and then if the cycle continues, and then you spend your days on Facebook rage messaging people on Facebook about your political views. Sounds so fun.
SPEAKER_01:And then you die.
SPEAKER_00:Um, I think getting in my town, like at 18, just knowing I'm bigger than this place and going out and doing it. And then, yeah, I think um get going to college and getting my my degree in my field and being able to parlay that into what I'm doing now. So knowing from the age of nine I wanted to one day be on TV or do some kind of broadcasting and still being what still doing that kind of work now, which I think is really exciting. So I love those things. I love. Look, see that we feel good. See, we gotta we gotta that's bragging about ourselves. And you know how uncomfortable I got even just saying that I know. It's so we gotta stop. We gotta talk about the cool things that we're it's okay. Yeah it's okay.
SPEAKER_01:It's okay to talk about good things that you're doing regardless if it's your job, your social life, your personal life, you know, I I just Yes. And also gratitude journals are a thing, right? It's like if we if we wake up every single morning and say the first three things that like we're grateful for and and I always tell people it could be your cup of coffee that you made in the morning it just tasted so perfect this morning. You know it's like a bowel movement that you're able to have you know something I just take that for granted. Yes. Because like when you can't go and you're stopped up it is dangerous. We have a fissure that you have to so yes a normal bowel movement is something to be grateful for.
SPEAKER_00:Oh God. All right well enough about us being all emotional mature and stuff. I want to start doing something in this episode in these shows or we want to start doing something where we talk about what we're watching because I think people I know for me I'm always like googling like what's what's playing right now.
SPEAKER_01:So well I just love the streaming services because they always are pushing what just came out. Yes we don't have to look for it which is I do genuinely love that. You know because it's just easier. I'm like ooh this is brand new and it's like a murder doc or something crazy or funny and I need that in my life right now and I just click it and it's perfect. It's fair yeah. So speak you said Murder Doc and almost sounded like Murdoch you know it's kind of yes so that's one show that we've both been watching so those of you who followed that whole the Murdoch Murdoch Murdoch Murdoch I always put a Murdoch but yeah we all that story from many years ago and now they've it's on that Hulu um and it's just obviously I was telling Kayla earlier I have watched every documentary that they've had she's a true crime fan I love it um and then you know I've listened to every like podcast that's done a segment about the Murdoch family um and this is a scripted series uh and Patricia Arquette is just like I just love her so much. She's amazing. The Arquette family like you know her brother's Dave Arquette We just have them both on the show one day. We're manifesting the Arquette to come in here because it was yeah she's just brilliant every role that she gets and makes come to life.
SPEAKER_00:So but do you think as someone because I haven't watched I mean I know the story but I haven't done nearly as much watching and listening as you have do you feel like so far the show's doing a good job of telling the story or do you think a lot of it's kind of Hollywood eyes too I think that made that word up but um I I think that they are doing a good job at telling the story for sure. Yeah I mean you in the beginning you already like hate the dad yeah they're they're very quick to do a great job too like him's like he said another thing on Netflix um the House of dynamite oh my gosh my sister movie my sister just told me to watch that watch it watch it let me know at the end what you think about it because the way it ends makes you I mean I think people some people say it's brilliant okay for some people it's infuriating so for me it was infuriating but you'll see why it's probably gonna be infuriating because I feel like you and I feel the same in a lot of the way it ends.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah it's just the way it ends well my sister loved it she was like she sometimes we'll send each other most of the time it's it's like polyamorous documentaries or like or not polyamorous what is it polygamy I'm sorry it's like not polyamorous at all um polygamous churches and documentaries and we're just we can't believe that like those things still exist so we'll always like send each other uh things to watch and so that was the last thing she texted me she's like you have to watch download it for the for your flight yes yeah um the perfect neighbor documentary on it first oh my goodness it's so heartbreaking it felt so wrong watching it because this this documentary is all all the footage is from a body police scam so I felt like oh my god I feel like I'm looking into these people's lives and shouldn't be yes devastatingly devastating fuck that woman yeah devastating like she racist piece of shit yeah she just literally yeah it it's it's one of those things where you just like we said in prior episodes evil does just exist some people just are evil and this person is the epitome of what evil looks like like she's another one of those people you put in the evil pile because she is psychotic and not in a good way because we're psychotic but in a good way or the fun way. We're the fun way. Yeah she just the way that she treated these children because they were playing flag football and always playing and they're being too loud because they're laughing. Not even on her progress and having a great time on the community grass is just it's it's so sad. And I just it's it's infuriating it is it is I hate it. I know I hate it I felt sick after watching it and you can see the children in the body cam footage as well and they you can tell they're just like they they're they're fatigued by this too to the point where they're being kids and they start to kind of try to press her buttons a little bit at that point like they're children and they're doing like and what the heart most heartbreaking part about that and I was watching when they got told what that I was like that little boy's gonna blame himself forever. Forever and I just hope they get the best fan like therapists and whatever in their lives because I did the way this woman just ruined so many people's lives for just being just being mean just being mean like just being mean I mean I will say on a positive note sorry my cat hair is probably just like flying everywhere my nose my sorry guys um so the dad when he had to tell them yeah I just I applaud him so much because he really he had his moment first we see it where like he had somebody hugging him I think it was I don't know if it was their neighbor other friend or something hugging him letting him have his moment but then when he told his children his two boys that his mom was not coming back you know what he did was just so brave you know one of the the younger one just wanted to run away from him and he pulls him back in and just hugs them so tight. Oh it makes me like it's like how do you tell your kids and then having a yeah I know but just like just like such a yeah he just he handled that situation I think the best way that you could possibly handle there's no rule book on how to tell your kid that your mother who you just saw got shot is not coming home.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:That's crazy. And so I just yes I applaud you dad I don't remember his name but he did an amazing job at just making sure and already I think at that point telling his older son like this is not your fault. Yeah yes this is not your fault.
SPEAKER_00:Yes that's a good father. So and also yeah kudos to Netflix for Netflix just killing it with the the documentaries lately yeah at the end of the day just just get body cam footage I know for documentaries at this point.
SPEAKER_01:The way that like had me locked in show crazy that was crazy.
SPEAKER_00:Okay but on a lighter note I have not seen this show yet and I'm I'm so sad that I haven't watched it so I can't talk about it right this second but you said that you've watched you binge watched um uh no one wants season two yes I I love the first season um of course it's Adam Brody uh Kirsten I always say Kirsten Dunce that's okay too and we had a great surprise cameo by Adam Brody's actual wife your friend late measter when you see this scene you're gonna die so many fun little like remarks and you're altogether you're gonna get screwed I love I'm so excited cannot wait for a feel good show look it's a it's such an easy every episode's 30 minutes if you haven't seen the first season you could probably like binge watch both seasons in the same weekend right um and they did a great job of making this one just as like heartfelt as the first one so I love that and then last one oh maybe we'll do one each and then okay well you go first because I said two of mine I think oh you go I've I've okay fine a million dollar bunker it's a movie I mean it's a show on Netflix I think it's a foreign show so you have to let subtitles on I'm not sure I can't remember which okay so you have to pay attention it is it was one of the better shows I've seen lately and it's basically about the the world is ending so some of the most wealthy people get the opportunity the rare opportunity to go down into this billion dollar bunker it's like 30 or 50 families that get to come down this bunker and then the shit that happened inside this bunker and you will be swerved the entire time. So it's a really fun show I've like that kind of thing.
SPEAKER_01:I get to watch I love that but I was gonna say I did speaking of Kirsten Dunce we did watch Roofman with Channing Tatum we went that was when we went to the movie theater and we watched that and that was so fun. So and yeah just like that story is insane based on a true story so it's a true story and crazy this this this guy is you know running from the police then just because he's trying to take care of his family yeah and he lives in a Toys R Us right Toys R Us it was a Toys he lives in like a Toys R Us for two months and hides away and unfortunately little Peter Dinklage uh one of the best actors I think of our time so funny.
SPEAKER_00:Yes that was a really fun movie.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah I mean I don't want to spoil it I guess like the end but I guess you've you know the story because it's the true story. So he does get caught he falls in love and he does get caught because he falls in love and he has to go be with this girl. I know come on God just jerk off yeah you don't you don't need to go exactly you just got caught now you're in prison forever oh my gosh so sad.
SPEAKER_00:Well we had a lot more we're gonna discuss today but we are not going to get to that today. We'll play our little games the next time we feel yeah um but that was still I think a great enlightening episode perfect mix of chaos and clarity which is basically our names always um we learned that bragging is self-care type A people probably need more therapy and type B people need alarms type B people need a couple alarms a couple alarms and maybe like some texts and stuff in the time I need the alarm that says you need to leave in 10 and then I'm like okay I need to start putting my shoes on. And then the one that says leave now leave now to everyone listening be proud of yourself this week and if you're not just brag about yourself until you believe it.
SPEAKER_01:So I think that's the perfect closeout on that note milk and honey's out.
SPEAKER_00:Ow. You're not doing your little taglines anymore we retiring those? No we're not retiring I just thought that was a really nice like closing out. And then I just ruined it until I ruined again okay rewind.
SPEAKER_01:And that is a message from Milk and Honey right here.
SPEAKER_00:Straight tea Owen
