How Are You Still Single with Kimmy

This episode is equal parts hilarious, honest, and a little too relatable.

Jess sits down with the beautiful and wildly self-aware Kimmy to answer the question everyone is secretly thinking… how are you still single?

What unfolds is a real, unfiltered look into modern dating. From dating apps that give you the ick before you even meet someone, to those tiny moments (yes… even a pizza order) that somehow reveal everything you need to know.

Kimmy opens up about being a late bloomer in love, navigating relationships in her 20s and 30s, and why being single is not about lacking options… it is about having standards. And maybe just a tiny sensitivity to red flags (or hopping-on-the-sidewalk situations).

There is something so refreshing about this conversation. It is funny, it is real, and it reminds you that being single is not a problem to fix… it is a choice to protect your peace until the right person shows up.

You will laugh, you will cringe (in the best way), and you might even rethink what you are willing to tolerate in your own dating life.

Because it says all the things we think but don’t always say out loud. Dating is weird. Standards matter. And sometimes… the ick is just the ick.

What You’ll Hear

• Why being single in your 30s is actually empowering
• The truth about dating apps and burnout
• What “the ick” really is and why it matters
• Real stories that will make you laugh out loud
• The difference between being picky and knowing your worth
• Why settling is never the answer

Modern dating struggles
Why am I still single
Dating in your 30s
The ick in dating
Scottsdale dating scene
Dating apps experience
Single successful women
Relationship standards

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

Welcome to Local Legends with Jess, the Arizona Edition. I'm Jessica Benevento, you're a mortgage matchmaker, opening doors with ease and bringing you the stories behind Arizona's most inspiring people. From best-selling authors and elite athletes to business badasses making moves across the valley. These are the local legends shaping our communities. Get the inside scoop, real talk, and powerful conversations you won't hear anywhere else. Local Legends with Jess, where Arizona's stories connect. Hello and welcome to Local Legends with me, Jess. My co-partner Jason is not here. He's actually in New Jersey right now, so it's just me running solo. I have an amazing guest today. Miss Kimberly Rock. Miss Kimberly Rock. It's so good that you're here. I'm happy to be here. So nervous. Okay. I'm going to start off that as I drive here to shoot videos, like to shoot episodes, I'm shitting my pants half the time. I hate it, but I love it.

SPEAKER_01 0:58

So if you're nervous at all.

SPEAKER_02 1:00

I hope not. Literally. Literally, I didn't. Not today. But I get nervous. So don't. It's we're just having a conversation. And you are one of the most interesting interesting friends that I have. Okay. I hope that's a good thing. That's a great thing. Okay. That makes you a local legend. This is why you're on here. And the reason I'm saying you're the most interesting because anyone that meets you, and myself included, doesn't know how you're still single. Like you're beautiful, extremely successful, you own a home. Through Jessica. Bought and sold and bought. Yes. And uh it's crazy because, like, again, I know people, even people that I know that meet you are like, how is she still single? Now, this is why you're on here. You need to explain what it is like and why you are still single in your third. Can I ask your age? 38. 38. Okay. Why are you still single? What is going on out there?

SPEAKER_00 2:00

How much time you got?

SPEAKER_02 2:01

We got 25 minutes.

SPEAKER_00 2:03

25 minutes. Let's go. Let's go. Yeah, there's so many reasons. Tell me. Tell me. It's just hard. You know, you you don't want to settle. I have many people I know, they settle and then they're miserable, and then they have kids, and um, there's just too many options with the dating apps, and it's just difficult. And then you get sick of people, you know? Right. And as you get older, it's just you become more aware of what you want and more comfortable on your own, especially when you've been alone for a long time.

SPEAKER_02 2:30

Right.

SPEAKER_00 2:30

And you're just, I'm like your mom. Like your mom is fine in her one bedroom, yeah, so content. No one's putting a fucking lamp on your mom's like dresser. Right. And I get it. I totally get it. You just get into your routine and you don't want to be bothered by someone else's bullshit. Right. They gotta bring something, you know.

SPEAKER_02 2:47

But now, so have you like going back to high school? Did you date in high school?

SPEAKER_00 2:52

Like did you have no? I was perfect. No, I was a cheerleader, so I had cheerleading like two different teams every weekend. I didn't drink alcohol, like nothing like that. Oh, you were like a goody goody. I was perfect. Freaking perfect. And I didn't start to date till college. I dated someone for like four years. Oh, oh, so you were a late bloomer. I was a very late bloomer. Okay. But nice guy, those are the people I think you meet someone when you're a lot younger and you're too young to realize like how good it is. Right. You let it go because you think there's something else, and then you realize 15 years later, oh shit, you know, maybe I had a good thing then.

SPEAKER_02 3:25

Yeah. So that guy you dated for four years, is he married now?

SPEAKER_00 3:29

No idea. He blocked me on.

SPEAKER_02 3:33

Haven't been able to find him 16 years, probably. You know what's so wild? I feel like any guy that I I didn't date many, but any guy that I dated, they're so like MIA on social media. Is it bizarre, right? Are your guys MIA?

SPEAKER_00 3:48

I think it's good and bad. A lot of guys they do have social media, and the ones that don't is kind of cool too. I know. They're not on their phones all the time. They're more private. That's true. So that's a good thing.

SPEAKER_02 3:59

Yeah. Okay, going back to your guy. Okay, so four years, broke up. Why'd you break up?

SPEAKER_00 4:04

Because I I wanted to move to Arizona.

unknown 4:06

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 4:07

So I came out here. That's right. Yeah, this was like 2010. Okay. And then um, yeah, I mean, I've had a couple real you you know, you know, should I mention names on here probably?

SPEAKER_02 4:17

Totally.

SPEAKER_01 4:17

I mentioned some names in the last couple episodes.

SPEAKER_00 4:20

But I know. Yeah, I don't want to necessarily do that. I know. But um, yeah, I mean, I've had a couple long-term relationships, three years, four years. Yeah. Actually, not since then, but it's just tough. It's you get it's it's hard to explain.

SPEAKER_02 4:34

So you were in your twenties when you that was your longest relationship, the four years.

SPEAKER_00 4:39

With with yeah, with James's name.

SPEAKER_02 4:41

Okay. And then moved out here. Moved out here. Dated a little that's right. You date a little bit. We like Oh yeah. There was guys. Okay. Nothing serious.

SPEAKER_00 4:50

Nothing serious. It's hard it's hard in Scottsdale and it's hard in the East Coast too. It's hard anywhere you go.

SPEAKER_02 4:56

Why do you think it's hard here?

SPEAKER_00 4:58

I think because it's very well, I think it's probably harder for men, very like superficial, especially in Scottsdale. I'm very content being in Phoenix. Yeah. You know? Um, but everyone I remember when I first moved here, I went to Fashion Square Mall. It was like a Monday. Right. And I was in my twenties, and these women were walking around in an outfit that I would like splurge on for New Year's Eve. And it was a Monday at 10 a.m. And they're you know what I mean? And like the that's what you're dealing with here in Scottsdale. Right. And I think it's it's a lot. It's intimidating. Yeah. It's intimidating for me, you know. So that's why. So that's it. That's why you're single. No, that's no, definitely not why I'm single. I think I'm just picky, you know, and selective. And you really need to have so much in common and like really want to put the energy into it for it to last. Yeah. And no relationship's perfect. That's probably my problem too. Like you can't just pick apart little things. I used to be a lot more, I don't want to say shallow, but like unrealistic, like 10 years ago versus how I am now. Right. Now I just you want to meet someone, be happy, you know? Right. Um, so we'll see.

SPEAKER_02 6:02

So you meet someone, just talk about when we first like when I met you, when you moved here, there was a couple guys you would date, right? Be really into. And then what happens? Like, I it's been so long. So, like what happens, like what why does the relationship run its course? Like, did any has anything happened significantly? Like, I'm trying to remember a couple guys that I remember.

SPEAKER_00 6:26

It can be little things like the ick, we'll get into that. But like I broke up with someone that I was with for two years over a fucking pizza because he was cheap. Oh my god, that's right. And spiteful. And I was hungry.

SPEAKER_01 6:38

Okay, you would need to tell that story because that's a good one.

SPEAKER_00 6:41

And this person is one of the nicest people too. Love. Love.

SPEAKER_01 6:44

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 6:44

But uh it was a Sunday, and we were ordering um uh Grimaldi's? Yeah, we were ordering Grimaldi's, and I wanted a Caesar salad instead of getting he was spiting me and not getting the large pizza instead of the medium, right?

SPEAKER_02 6:58

It's like a four dollar difference.

SPEAKER_00 7:00

I know. And you get two more slices. This is serious. And we ended up having this blowout fight. I said, get the fucking large, I'll pay for it. And it was so ridiculous. But these stupid moments, this story that I'm telling is your answer. Exactly why I'm single. Because I'm bitching about a pizza. You know what I mean? Right.

SPEAKER_02 7:17

Yeah, but But that has to like there is nothing worse than someone that's cheap. I don't care how hot they are, how much money they have, but that is such a gross It is, right?

SPEAKER_00 7:29

It is. And I always I'm pretty frugal. I my advice to everyone is like, live below your means and whatever you think that is, go even lower because you never know what tomorrow's gonna bring, especially with the economy.

SPEAKER_02 7:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:39

But cheap I can't do.

SPEAKER_02 7:41

No.

SPEAKER_00 7:41

No. No.

SPEAKER_02 7:42

Oh, okay. So you felt the ick in the past. I mean, it's not it wasn't a secret, it was cheap.

SPEAKER_00 7:47

Yeah, and that I don't even think we knew about the ick then. I the ick came I from that show. It's um when that the chick she's dating the rabbi. It's on Netflix, and he orders the rest of the.

SPEAKER_02 8:00

Oh my god, it was such an amazing ragoo. She's like, oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 8:05

That's the worst. So you got it then. Not with not with him, not over the pizza. I've had it on several other occasions with other people, and these little things can happen that you just can't unsee.

SPEAKER_02 8:17

You're done.

unknown 8:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 8:19

I'm trying to think of but early on, right? Like this one, this guy you were dating for two years. But that was just you clearly knew he was cheap, but that instance specifically was like, that's it, we're done. Like I can't do it.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

It wasn't even that. No, because then COVID hit and we were, you know, we lived close together and it was convenient. And you know, but no, it wasn't that. I shouldn't say that was the reason. It's just these little things, but you know what that is? That's something festering, something that festered for a while, that I was annoyed by. And then you like, you it it it blows up, right you know, you erupt like Mount Vesuvius.

unknown 8:54

You know.

SPEAKER_02 8:56

And okay, so that was that relationship.

SPEAKER_00 9:00

And then now that's that wasn't the ick. Yeah. I'm trying to my best ick story actually. I was dating this guy about how'd you meet him? On Bumble. Okay. Bumble and Hinge. I do both. And um How long have you doing both? Oh my god, I have a lifetime membership. I paid $250 on Bumble.

SPEAKER_01 9:20

Years ago. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:21

But then I I won't go on it sometimes for like a year at a time. Right. But I'm still on there. Yeah. So I was dating this guy for like, this is actually very funny, probably like three weeks, four weeks, and he was a bit of a germophobe.

SPEAKER_02 9:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 9:32

He didn't want any people to wear shoes in their house, but that makes sense. Like we tracking all sorts of shit and germs, dogs. And so that was fine. There was a shoe roll, and I went over there one week, and I think we were going to the pool. So I picked up like white claws or Julies or something. And he was coming out of the house to help me bring in the bag. And at the same time that he was coming out, he realized that now he had stepped into uncharted territory on the sidewalk with socks on, right? His clean socks. And I shit you not. He starts hopping around like on his toes, like high knees, like a fucking cat on a hot tin roof. I almost had a fucking heart attack. What do you mean? It was just jumping around so that he didn't get his like Tootsies dirty. And I that was it.

SPEAKER_02 10:18

Oh my God. Things like that. When you're watching it happen, you're like, ugh, like ick. That was it. That was the ick. That was the ick.

SPEAKER_00 10:25

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 10:25

How'd you end it with him?

SPEAKER_00 10:27

That was it was just kind of slow. And then it was just, eh, we're not really, you know, a match. And uh-bye.

unknown 10:35

You know.

SPEAKER_02 10:36

So after that, are you hopping right back on match or hinge? Well, he was hopping on something.

SPEAKER_00 10:43

No. Your mom and I like said, this all get into like sometimes I can't even open the app. I get the ick from the app.

SPEAKER_02 10:50

I know. I Kimmy, I'm sorry. I can't even imagine.

SPEAKER_00 10:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 10:54

I really can't imagine what's going on there.

SPEAKER_00 10:56

You're so lucky you have Jason. Oh, I'm so such a doll.

SPEAKER_02 11:01

But it probably, I feel like a lot of single people too. As we get older, we talked about this. Like once you live alone and you're able, you you realize that you could live alone. You don't need someone else, right? You could financially do it, especially work.

SPEAKER_00 11:17

Jess is your mortgage person, broker.

SPEAKER_02 11:21

But you know, being able to know that you are fine. You know, once you get out of your parents' house and you really get more established with yourself, I could totally see it being okay. Like, do you really want to bring someone in and have to share everything you've built and right? Like it's probably really hard. And I'm sure you watch friends and family that are married going through stuff and you're like, oh, fuck that, right? Like, aren't there a lot of times you're like, I'm so happy, I don't have to deal with that.

SPEAKER_00 11:51

Oh, yeah. The common um denominator I see with all my friends is they're all bitching about their husbands, mostly because they're not helping with the kids. And I I mean, no relationship is easy. I think being a mom is harder than my job. Like I would rather do my job than deal with like these kids all day. But yeah, nothing's easy. But I have gotten you just become so comfortable being on your own that it's like kind of like it's foreign to have someone come in. It's an inconvenience. And that and that's not a good thing. That you know, then there's people that are in relationships for so long and then they're single and then they don't know how to be alone.

SPEAKER_02 12:23

Kimmy, I will tell you, I there was eight months, like from my ex to Jason, there was an eight-month single Jess. Oh God. It was, I mean, I was hopping around, like I was out there trying to find love. I'm like, I don't know how to be, I'm not whole unless there's someone that compliments. Like, I was convinced my mindset was so on that I needed someone to to be happy, yeah, which was wild. Like and I moved across the the country. Country. I know. But I did fall in. I mean, I fell in love, but that feeling of oh my God. And I remember people being like, you have to be single, like you need to find yourself. I'm like, I found myself and I have to be with someone. Like I just convinced myself. Right. But now at 45, I'm like, I'm in love, but I could do this. I could be alone. I could see how it's kind of oh yeah. A cool thing. Oh, absolutely. Not having to share shit. Your mess is your mess. You're not dealing with other people's stuff.

SPEAKER_00 13:24

I know.

SPEAKER_02 13:25

Let's get into kids. Let's talk about kids. Because I know you've dated. I mean, as we get older, you're going to date people with kids.

SPEAKER_00 13:32

Oh, 100%.

SPEAKER_02 13:33

You don't have any kids.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

Not that I know of.

SPEAKER_02 13:37

But tell me how it is. You you meet with someone on hinge or what is it? Hinge? Hinge or hinge or bumble. Hinge or bumble, and you see they have kids. Are you like, eh, are you like, oh, cool. What is your response to that?

SPEAKER_00 13:51

See now, really anyone you meet, like I have my age range. I'm 38, so I I go up to 50. And a lot of these guys, of course, they have kids, and there's nothing wrong with that. But at the end of the day, and I've only dated two or three people that have kids, you're not gonna like love, like they love their kids. They're not my kids, you know? Yeah. And what I've learned through it is the kids come first, of course they should uh then the ex-wife, the ex-spouse comes, and then you're third. And whoever you're dating is gonna say, no, that's not the case at all. It always is. Yeah. And being third in line when you're at a trampoline park on a Saturday with someone else's fucking kids is not a good place to be. Right. So you really need to love the person to, you know, for that to work. I was seeing someone pretty serious, we'd reconnected, and he had a seven-year-old and an 11-year-old. And there I was seeing he lived in a different state too, which made things like very complicated.

SPEAKER_02 14:48

Right.

SPEAKER_00 14:48

But there was one Saturday I felt like I had to check myself. Like our time was limited already because I was, you know, he was flying there and he was flying here. And his seven-year-old was sitting on his lap, and I was sitting there, and I'm thinking, why am I jealous of a seven-year-old kid? Right. And I was. Yeah. I want to sit on daddy.

SPEAKER_01 15:07

But you get to-vision yourself throwing her off his kid or down.

SPEAKER_00 15:14

They're just his kids are such good kids, but Santa's not real. Santa's not real kid. And I had to, you know, obviously like sleep separate. And, you know, he's his kids are checking on him. You have to sleep in bed with them. And if he even moved, they're daddy, you know. Yeah. It's yeah. So it's, but that I respect, you know, like honestly, if you're seeing someone and they're a phenomenal dad, it's a major turn on. Right. You know?

SPEAKER_02 15:36

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SPEAKER_00 16:10

I went out on a date with someone once when when Lisa tailed me and followed me and was taking the videos of them.

SPEAKER_01 16:15

Oh yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:16

And the guy we were talking and he had said he had kids. He then he tells me he has no relationship with them. I've never been so turned off in my life. That was it. Right. Yes. Like if you're Oh, I totally remember. Two daughters aren't talking to you, you got a problem.

SPEAKER_02 16:29

Right. Oh my gosh, that's right.

SPEAKER_00 16:32

Yeah. So yeah, it's but it's something if you really care about the person, you'll make it work for sure. And if someone would have another one, I'm all in.

SPEAKER_02 16:42

Yeah. Because you want to have kids. Absolutely. Right?

SPEAKER_00 16:45

At least one.

SPEAKER_02 16:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 16:46

I'm getting a little older now, so But you definitely want at least a kids. Absolutely. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 16:50

How are we going to find you a guy, Kim? I feel like the dating sites are weird.

SPEAKER_00 16:54

They are. Right? They are weird. And people lie. Like people. Yeah. It's just and men deal with it worse. With women with all the filters, we're all guilty of it. Like, let's be honest.

SPEAKER_02 17:04

That's all I do. Everything's a filter. Yeah. Yeah. I mean this whole video is going to be it better be. And someone has to hold my freaking turkey neck. Um if I was on a dating site, I would have all my AI pictures up there. Oh, yeah. And I would absolutely be catfishing someone.

SPEAKER_01 17:21

Oh, like I'm admitting I would.

SPEAKER_00 17:23

They'd be screwed. Remember when I called Jason that time and he called screaming? I had that bad date, and I texted you and said, have your husband call me with an emergency. And he called screaming like a fucking fish wife. But the problem, like you get you can post five pictures. So of course you're going to put your best foot forward. Even me. I have a picture from like six years ago, and I was in that solo Scottsdale magazine. I look like a fucking Victoria's Secret angel. Like it's you know, it's not. But I even have that old photo. Okay. But so I think men deal with that with the filters. You have to stalk someone on Instagram first and Facebook or FaceTime. That was a thing during COVID because we couldn't meet. We started doing these FaceTime dates with people. God, it saves so much time. Really? Is it like hi? Like, isn't it awkward? Oh, it's totally awkward because you got to put on like a little makeup. You could have no pants on. They wouldn't know you just gotta have like a normal shirt, you know? Right. But what's weird to me is like if we're going to meet you in person, why are you lying? Like if you're if your hinge profile says that you're six foot two and I show up and you look like the secretariat from I know, sorry, the horse jockey from like the fucking secretariat, we're gonna have a problem. I've had that happen too. Yeah. It's just we're gonna meet you. So just put your like be who you are, be real, put your realistic photos up. Yeah. And let it be that, you know.

SPEAKER_02 18:43

Wait, wasn't it the guy? Wasn't there a guy once at Isabella's? Was that the time didn't you bother this guy? Holy shit.

SPEAKER_01 18:52

Didn't you call us? You're like, he's like 4'11.

SPEAKER_00 18:55

That was another one. That was the horse jockey. That was at Sorso. No, this guy, I didn't even think about this until today. He had great Instagram photos. Okay. My sister's happily married, and you know, and I had showed her the his profile. She's like, oh my God, can I fuck him? You know, like he was he was hot from Texas. He had, I don't remember the job. This was a long time ago. Yeah. I literally went and met him at Isabelle as I got dressed up.

SPEAKER_02 19:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:20

I walked in. He was he was missing a tooth. Oh, that's wrong. He was missing a fucking tooth. And there were other men at the bar probably wondering, what is this chick doing with this dude? And I just remembered this. I I did leave. I lied.

SPEAKER_02 19:36

I said that my mom What did you do?

SPEAKER_00 19:38

I did we call you? I did a different one. I had my mom call me. Okay. Okay. And then I just said, This poor bastard probably knew. I'm like, listen, I gotta go. My mom's boyfriend just broke up with her. Oh right. And then we were we were there like six months later and he was there. Yeah. And I almost dove under that outdoor patio table. I just but that's a perfect example. If men don't have any pictures smiling, run. Done. Yeah. If they have shirtless photos, they're insecure, they're fucking weird. Run. Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 20:07

It's it's what are some other signs of creeps on uh these dating apps? Can pull up a dating approach. If they send you a dick pic, that's obviously a problem. Do people do that? Yeah. Have you had that done? Like prior to meeting them?

SPEAKER_00 20:24

I sure have. No! What do you mean? You can report them on these apps, but yeah, I mean, there's a lot of perfs on there. And wait. There's a lot of married men, I think.

unknown 20:33

Really?

SPEAKER_00 20:34

I've noticed a pattern, like a lot of men sometimes you'll exchange numbers or or and then they want a pen pal. And why are we just texting? It's like they want like validation in some way, and you're texting for a couple weeks and make a fucking plan. Right. And I I I think they're married. I really do.

SPEAKER_02 20:49

And what do you think they're doing? Just getting attention?

SPEAKER_00 20:51

I think they're getting attention. Their wives are obviously clueless or don't realize they're oblivious, right? Their husbands are on these and they're talking to them.

SPEAKER_02 20:59

I would have no idea if Jay was on. I don't look at his phone anymore.

SPEAKER_00 21:01

Yeah. And they're talking to the Kimmy Rocks in the world, probably laughing their asses off. Oh my gosh. It's bad.

SPEAKER_02 21:09

It's bad. We gotta get out there and just we do.

SPEAKER_00 21:12

It'd be funny to see you if if you were dating. I think you'd you'd kill it.

SPEAKER_02 21:17

I don't I don't I don't know. I think it'd be horrible.

SPEAKER_00 21:20

I think you'd intimidate a lot of men. No.

SPEAKER_02 21:22

Absolutely. That's a huge compliment. With those tits.

SPEAKER_01 21:29

I love you. I can't can't.

SPEAKER_00 21:32

And you would one thing too, just thinking about it. I was thinking about it on my way over because I've never done a podcast. But like you know when you walk into a date within the first, I would say 15 to 30 seconds if you're interested. Really? You really do, because you're attracted to them or you're not. Yep. And then I never do dinner on a first date because if you don't have that going, then you gotta sit through the meal. It's awkward when the check comes. Totally. You gotta like if they let me pay, ick gross, you know, on a first date. date. Yeah. Later on you can obviously do that. And I do.

SPEAKER_02 22:02

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

But yeah, you just know right away. So that's the that's the tough part, you know? Yeah. But and then sometimes you can have if it's really bad, you're out of there in 45 minutes. But then how do you leave? I just text my friends or my mother and tell them emergency 911, get me the fuck out of here.

SPEAKER_02 22:23

Oh my gosh. And what is your like give me a the craziest date?

SPEAKER_00 22:30

Probably the one when I had your husband call me. Um that was like eight years ago. Okay. That guy, I was completely catfished. Okay. He another one had a kid. And the person that I first of all I should have the red flag should have gone up because he suggested meeting at the Tilted Kilt. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 22:46

Where's that? I don't even know where the South of Bell Road.

SPEAKER_00 22:49

Oh my God. But I'm new to the area. I was new to Arizona. What a weird place. Like it was a pub. It was weird. And I think the women wore like slutty outfits. Oh almost like Twin Peaks. It was like a Twin Peaks. Okay. And the person that I met was not the person from the photos but like looked kind of similar. Maybe it was like a brother. No. Yeah we sat down and he told me that he has a very colorful past like he had been arrested for stealing street bikes in Seattle. And I'm like Jason call me with an emergency. Yeah I snuck into the bathroom.

SPEAKER_02 23:22

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 23:23

But I used to date a lot like I used to be on a mission dating like just going through them. And here I am. Yeah. And now I've taken like I went a year like I just get so disgusted by it. And I'm content. You know I'm with my family a lot my niece and nephew and I'm fine like not but then at the same time when you meet someone and it's right and it's like It's so fun. It's so fun. I know. And if you're not interested in someone on the first date I've made this mistake too.

SPEAKER_01 23:51

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 23:51

You're oh he's nice he's this maybe go on the second and see if it's different. No. Just no. If it's not a hell yes it's a no like on the first date. So I've become a lot smarter with that.

SPEAKER_02 24:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 24:01

And I'm very I am a compassionate person. So I hate getting ghosted. I've been ghosted before. Right. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with these men. They're blind. But um but I don't like to do that to someone. Right. And I always will send the courtesy text like afterwards like we're not a match. You know whatever you got to say but I don't like to hurt people's feelings. Yeah right because you don't know what's going on in someone's life and totally that's another very difficult thing if you have a soul and like a conscience of dating because you have to be the you have to be nice enough to have the courtesy to send that text.

SPEAKER_02 24:34

Right.

SPEAKER_00 24:34

You know and just and not just completely ghost someone and have them because I've been there and it's a really shitty place to think.

SPEAKER_02 24:39

It's the worst feeling ever. Okay so you have you have the full audience of the whole world right now. Oh wow okay talk to your future husband tell him about you tell him what you're waiting for tell him your like fantasy life do it first of all I would tell them to find a therapist now.

SPEAKER_00 25:03

No no I'm totally kidding my fantasy life I love dogs like that has to be in the in the picture. Um that's another thing I think I would have to say like I I always will work right I like to work except for if I had kids I would love to take some time off right and then I could be just like you bitches bitching about my husband. It doesn't fucking do anything and you know and I'm not getting a paycheck you know with a kid on my tit.

SPEAKER_01 25:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:28

But um yeah I mean I think just when it's right and that would be an adjustment for me. I've lived with one person before it's tough. You learn a lot about a person when you move in with them. Yeah. Um but yeah just finding someone I mean I think you have to date someone for a long time couple years before you cohabitate because it's it's a lot and I like I learned the hard way one time as you know and um that was a long time. I think I lasted six weeks there.

SPEAKER_02 25:54

I know I know. But at least you did it. Like at least you moved in and figured see I think you get it over with right away. Like you meet someone you go on a few dates and then you move right in and you see you see if you could live together.

SPEAKER_00 26:09

It works for some people. Right. It does but like with my experience I moved in way too fast. I broke my lease but there was that spark.

SPEAKER_02 26:17

That's right.

SPEAKER_00 26:17

And he had a dog. Yeah. He had a golden retriever but the dog was not neutered and it was like Harvey Weinstein. Okay. So if you had other dogs there it was like Jesus.

SPEAKER_02 26:26

Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 26:26

And then you move in with someone and you realize maybe they have a bit of a temper or they're not picking up their dog shit in the and you know every Monday I remember I was shoveling shit 115 degrees in the yard he'd forgotten to take the trash out and it's like if you don't do the little things in life you're never going to do the big things. Totally. So I'm fucking out of here I move back at which that's right. But I've learned from that I was way too impulsive. And now I you if you lose don't lose the lesson you know I like that Kimmy.

SPEAKER_02 26:57

All right so and a a final shout out to your future husband. Tell him where you are what you do what you're looking for.

SPEAKER_00 27:04

Well my name's Kimberly Rock I'm here with Jessica best broker ever. She really is very compassionate. She targets herself towards buyers like me like middle class buyers. She's amazing and I live at 5450 which you own a home. I own a home and you're paralegal I'm a paralegal and um very close with my family I have a nice circle of friends here. I have a phenomenal personality originally from originally from New Jersey just like Jessica. We have a whole we flock to each other like geese. Like our whole group of friends here I was actually just telling your producer like we all are New Jersey and New York people. And we have great Sunday dinners nice meatballs and we have a lot of fun. Love to laugh. Love to laugh yep we like to go you know to each other's pools barbecue we're very family oriented. Yep. People in Arizona are not like that. Yeah. There's no block parties there's no like it neighbors introducing themselves to each other. It's very different. Different. Yeah I prefer the East Coast vibe. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:09

So it preferably maybe an East Coast guy out here.

SPEAKER_00 28:12

Maybe an East Coast guy. Or someone with like East Coast roots or family.

SPEAKER_02 28:16

Yeah. Yes. Yeah so Kimberly Rock I am not only the mortgage matchmaker but I also am a matchmaker.

SPEAKER_00 28:22

Yeah by trade. Yeah no you're I know you're good. I'm trying you have set me up remember that guy you set me up with it was a horrible match.

SPEAKER_02 28:29

Which one? No that was your sister.

SPEAKER_00 28:32

He was um in the restaurant industry he bored me to death I think so yeah and he had a cat I think I remember the important style sorry I'll try better.

SPEAKER_02 28:45

It was a little bit this is a platform now. Yeah. So now we could reach more people to get you uh hitched. Absolutely. Okay. Thank you for being here. You are a local edge, Miss Kimberly Rock. Not only in New Jersey but here in Arizona. Well thank you Jessica this is fun.

SPEAKER_00 29:00

Yeah. Till next time. Take care brush your hair