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How will you push past doubt,"},{"startTime":1620.523,"endTime":1623.526,"body":"past dread, and then force yourself to"},{"startTime":1623.586,"endTime":1626.469,"body":"decide even when you don't know the right"},{"startTime":1626.589,"endTime":1629.392,"body":"answer or feel like it's perfect, how can"},{"startTime":1629.452,"endTime":1632.85,"body":"you bring your dream to fruition? Now, one"},{"startTime":1632.89,"endTime":1635.613,"body":"of the most well-intentioned but vicious"},{"startTime":1635.693,"endTime":1638.235,"body":"mental battles moms face when trying to"},{"startTime":1638.295,"endTime":1640.257,"body":"balance their dreams with motherhood is"},{"startTime":1640.617,"endTime":1643.319,"body":"mom guilt. Join me back next episode to"},{"startTime":1643.359,"endTime":1645.721,"body":"discover how mom guilt is stealing your"},{"startTime":1645.761,"endTime":1648.304,"body":"time and sabotaging your joy, but then"},{"startTime":1648.364,"endTime":1651.546,"body":"learn a huge mindset shift to overcome it"},{"startTime":1651.686,"endTime":1654.669,"body":"for good. Until then, remember nothing you"},{"startTime":1654.729,"endTime":1657.271,"body":"do changes how wonderful and worthy you"},{"startTime":1657.431,"endTime":1660.994,"body":"are. Have a great day. I know more than"},{"startTime":1661.154,"endTime":1663.6970000000001,"body":"anyone how precious your time is, so the"},{"startTime":1663.717,"endTime":1665.619,"body":"fact that you spent it listening to this"},{"startTime":1665.679,"endTime":1668.162,"body":"podcast means the world. Make sure to"},{"startTime":1668.202,"endTime":1670.504,"body":"subscribe, and if you got value out of"},{"startTime":1670.565,"endTime":1673.087,"body":"this show, I would be so honored if you'd"},{"startTime":1673.127,"endTime":1675.71,"body":"leave a review and share this episode with"},{"startTime":1675.77,"endTime":1677.592,"body":"another busy mama who needs to hear it."},{"startTime":1678.033,"endTime":1678.734,"body":"We've got this."}]}