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I'm going to break"},{"startTime":73.116,"endTime":75.576,"body":"down what these three false beliefs are,"},{"startTime":76.036,"endTime":78.757,"body":"why they are so devious, and of course,"},{"startTime":79.017,"endTime":81.178,"body":"what you really need to know instead."},{"startTime":81.898,"endTime":83.92,"body":"Welcome to More Time for Mom, where"},{"startTime":84.06,"endTime":86.002,"body":"overwhelmed moms get science-backed"},{"startTime":86.062,"endTime":88.363,"body":"strategies to overcome the hidden sources"},{"startTime":88.404,"endTime":91.286,"body":"of stress stealing your time and joy. I'm"},{"startTime":91.306,"endTime":93.868,"body":"your host, Dr. Amber Curtis. Ready to make"},{"startTime":93.908,"endTime":98.78,"body":"more time for you? Let's dive in. We are"},{"startTime":98.78,"endTime":101.44200000000001,"body":"11 episodes into the More Time for Mom"},{"startTime":101.46199999999999,"endTime":105.044,"body":"podcast so far, and I have been dying to"},{"startTime":105.104,"endTime":108.286,"body":"record this episode for you because I fell"},{"startTime":108.346,"endTime":111.30799999999999,"body":"for these three lies about time for way"},{"startTime":111.488,"endTime":114.532,"body":"too long. And I can guarantee that you"},{"startTime":114.55199999999999,"endTime":118.017,"body":"have fallen for at least one, if not all"},{"startTime":118.17699999999999,"endTime":120.69999999999999,"body":"of them, too. If it sounds like I'm a"},{"startTime":120.74000000000001,"endTime":123.763,"body":"little fired up about this, I am, because"},{"startTime":124.184,"endTime":127.488,"body":"I've experienced firsthand the harm these"},{"startTime":127.56800000000001,"endTime":131.092,"body":"lies cause, not just to you, but to your"},{"startTime":131.152,"endTime":134.554,"body":"family. Let's get straight into it. Myth"},{"startTime":134.634,"endTime":137.934,"body":"number one is I don't have enough time."},{"startTime":138.634,"endTime":141.175,"body":"How many times, sweet mama, have you"},{"startTime":141.815,"endTime":144.636,"body":"thought that or said that yourself? I've"},{"startTime":144.676,"endTime":146.816,"body":"lost count, right? I think this is such a"},{"startTime":146.876,"endTime":149.917,"body":"common refrain. But it is not only"},{"startTime":150.137,"endTime":154.738,"body":"unhelpful, it is blatantly untrue. 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We won't even delve into"},{"startTime":982.357,"endTime":984.9599999999999,"body":"the invisible labor of parenting right"},{"startTime":985.0,"endTime":988.463,"body":"now, which is the most wonderful but truly"},{"startTime":988.6229999999999,"endTime":991.986,"body":"the most thankless job ever. The point is"},{"startTime":992.086,"endTime":995.768,"body":"that you are not and never could be a"},{"startTime":996.048,"endTime":999.249,"body":"failure, no matter what you do, no matter"},{"startTime":999.329,"endTime":1002.3299999999999,"body":"how much or how little you do, quote"},{"startTime":1002.39,"endTime":1005.6519999999999,"body":"unquote little. For so many women, the"},{"startTime":1005.712,"endTime":1008.393,"body":"false belief that you have to earn your"},{"startTime":1008.453,"endTime":1012.154,"body":"worth is so deeply wired into your brain"},{"startTime":1012.574,"endTime":1015.755,"body":"that you literally cannot sit still. You"},{"startTime":1015.8349999999999,"endTime":1019.115,"body":"are always go, go, go, constantly seeing"},{"startTime":1019.275,"endTime":1021.596,"body":"more that could or should be done. You"},{"startTime":1021.696,"endTime":1025.897,"body":"feel such tension to do that you can't"},{"startTime":1026.097,"endTime":1030.338,"body":"just be. And people telling you to relax"},{"startTime":1030.7579999999998,"endTime":1033.779,"body":"just stresses you out all the more. The"},{"startTime":1033.899,"endTime":1037.9399999999998,"body":"truth is you can't earn your worth, nor do"},{"startTime":1038.0,"endTime":1041.261,"body":"you need to. You are priceless,"},{"startTime":1041.781,"endTime":1045.743,"body":"invaluable, incredible. There's only ever"},{"startTime":1045.8229999999999,"endTime":1049.644,"body":"going to be one you. And if you don't"},{"startTime":1049.764,"endTime":1053.946,"body":"believe your worth yet, then please borrow"},{"startTime":1054.2259999999999,"endTime":1058.789,"body":"my belief in you. Let my reassurance plant"},{"startTime":1058.9489999999998,"endTime":1061.8919999999998,"body":"that seed of hope and encouragement in"},{"startTime":1061.932,"endTime":1065.875,"body":"your soul that the world needs you exactly"},{"startTime":1066.155,"endTime":1069.798,"body":"as you are. I am behind you every step of"},{"startTime":1069.838,"endTime":1074.6419999999998,"body":"your journey to rediscover who that you is"},{"startTime":1075.3419999999999,"endTime":1078.4850000000001,"body":"and help you to realign your time and"},{"startTime":1078.7250000000001,"endTime":1082.467,"body":"reclaim your joy. Your homework is to"},{"startTime":1082.568,"endTime":1085.288,"body":"journal about your pre-existing thoughts"},{"startTime":1085.468,"endTime":1088.89,"body":"and beliefs about time. What does time"},{"startTime":1089.1100000000001,"endTime":1091.57,"body":"represent to you? Where have those"},{"startTime":1091.63,"endTime":1094.771,"body":"thoughts come from? What messages did you"},{"startTime":1094.851,"endTime":1098.153,"body":"receive about time and how you spend it"},{"startTime":1098.2730000000001,"endTime":1101.654,"body":"growing up? Then step back and get"},{"startTime":1101.714,"endTime":1104.656,"body":"curious. Do you still think all those"},{"startTime":1104.736,"endTime":1108.738,"body":"things are true? Why or why not? What do"},{"startTime":1108.798,"endTime":1112.16,"body":"you want to believe about time? Which of"},{"startTime":1112.22,"endTime":1114.441,"body":"the three myths covered in this episode"},{"startTime":1114.781,"endTime":1118.263,"body":"feels most prevalent for you? Is it that"},{"startTime":1118.323,"endTime":1121.305,"body":"you don't have enough time? That you need"},{"startTime":1121.345,"endTime":1124.327,"body":"to manage your time better? Or that your"},{"startTime":1124.407,"endTime":1127.348,"body":"worth depends on what you have to show for"},{"startTime":1127.388,"endTime":1129.949,"body":"your time? At this point, I hope you're"},{"startTime":1129.969,"endTime":1132.3700000000001,"body":"feeling a little cynical, saying, well,"},{"startTime":1132.53,"endTime":1135.211,"body":"Amber, that's all fine and good to remind"},{"startTime":1135.271,"endTime":1136.751,"body":"us to separate our worth from our"},{"startTime":1136.791,"endTime":1139.252,"body":"productivity and that we shouldn't try and"},{"startTime":1139.292,"endTime":1142.453,"body":"do it all. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But how do"},{"startTime":1142.513,"endTime":1145.974,"body":"you actually change your relationship with"},{"startTime":1146.0339999999999,"endTime":1149.335,"body":"time? How do you actually come to believe"},{"startTime":1149.695,"endTime":1153.196,"body":"those new truths? That is such a fair"},{"startTime":1153.256,"endTime":1155.6009999999999,"body":"question. I bet what you've heard from"},{"startTime":1155.8609999999999,"endTime":1157.881,"body":"other productivity experts and time"},{"startTime":1157.921,"endTime":1160.5819999999999,"body":"management coaches, or maybe even a"},{"startTime":1160.882,"endTime":1163.443,"body":"well-meaning husband or friend, is that"},{"startTime":1163.543,"endTime":1167.185,"body":"you simply need to cut back and do less."},{"startTime":1168.0249999999999,"endTime":1170.7259999999999,"body":"That's actually the exact opposite advice"},{"startTime":1170.866,"endTime":1173.487,"body":"I would offer, and might end up doing you"},{"startTime":1173.587,"endTime":1177.129,"body":"way more harm than good. Join me back next"},{"startTime":1177.189,"endTime":1180.49,"body":"episode to learn why. And if the hair on"},{"startTime":1180.51,"endTime":1183.572,"body":"the back of your neck prickles up or you"},{"startTime":1183.652,"endTime":1187.074,"body":"feel rage start to explode inside of you"},{"startTime":1187.414,"endTime":1190.696,"body":"when someone tells you to chill or relax,"},{"startTime":1191.176,"endTime":1194.138,"body":"you cannot afford to miss this one. Until"},{"startTime":1194.1779999999999,"endTime":1197.74,"body":"then, remember nothing you do changes how"},{"startTime":1197.86,"endTime":1200.882,"body":"wonderful and worthy you are. Have a great"},{"startTime":1200.922,"endTime":1203.963,"body":"day. I know more than anyone how precious"},{"startTime":1204.003,"endTime":1206.2649999999999,"body":"your time is, so the fact that you spent"},{"startTime":1206.325,"endTime":1208.466,"body":"it listening to this podcast means the"},{"startTime":1208.526,"endTime":1211.247,"body":"world. Make sure to subscribe, and if you"},{"startTime":1211.288,"endTime":1213.849,"body":"got value out of this show, I would be so"},{"startTime":1214.029,"endTime":1216.27,"body":"honored if you'd leave a review and share"},{"startTime":1216.33,"endTime":1218.552,"body":"this episode with another busy mama who"},{"startTime":1218.572,"endTime":1220.373,"body":"needs to hear it. We've got this."}]}