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It even"},{"startTime":851.821,"endTime":853.643,"body":"offered me the thought, you should just"},{"startTime":853.703,"endTime":855.484,"body":"quit the podcast altogether, you're"},{"startTime":855.544,"endTime":858.366,"body":"clearly no good at it. Have you ever had"},{"startTime":858.426,"endTime":860.027,"body":"those kinds of thoughts about something"},{"startTime":860.088,"endTime":863.95,"body":"you care about? Seriously, whose voice is"},{"startTime":864.01,"endTime":867.394,"body":"that? Maybe it's our inner critic. Maybe"},{"startTime":867.534,"endTime":869.916,"body":"it's more than that. 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Because of that,"},{"startTime":896.7620000000001,"endTime":900.025,"body":"here are five truths we all run into."},{"startTime":900.706,"endTime":903.729,"body":"Truth number one, things are never going"},{"startTime":903.789,"endTime":908.213,"body":"to be easy or perfect. Do them anyway. But"},{"startTime":908.453,"endTime":911.674,"body":"truth number two, know which fights are"},{"startTime":912.034,"endTime":915.655,"body":"and are not worth fighting. You can do"},{"startTime":915.856,"endTime":918.416,"body":"anything if you want it badly enough. But"},{"startTime":918.476,"endTime":921.457,"body":"in the same breath, at what cost are you"},{"startTime":921.517,"endTime":924.378,"body":"willing to go for it? You want to find"},{"startTime":924.498,"endTime":926.739,"body":"that Goldilocks balance of pushing"},{"startTime":926.779,"endTime":929.5,"body":"yourself to do hard things, but not"},{"startTime":929.74,"endTime":932.461,"body":"killing yourself in the process. Your"},{"startTime":932.541,"endTime":935.282,"body":"mental and physical health must come"},{"startTime":935.482,"endTime":938.602,"body":"first. Trust me, voice of experience here."},{"startTime":939.063,"endTime":942.243,"body":"Truth number three, sometimes what you"},{"startTime":942.303,"endTime":945.424,"body":"want to do will conflict with a higher"},{"startTime":945.484,"endTime":948.645,"body":"value you have. And you have to choose in"},{"startTime":948.6850000000001,"endTime":952.045,"body":"that moment. Always choose to stay in"},{"startTime":952.105,"endTime":954.746,"body":"integrity with the person you want to be."},{"startTime":955.4060000000001,"endTime":958.727,"body":"Again, I hate that I let you down. But for"},{"startTime":958.807,"endTime":961.747,"body":"me, that meant choosing sleep and family."},{"startTime":962.008,"endTime":964.588,"body":"And I hope you can appreciate that. Truth"},{"startTime":964.648,"endTime":967.49,"body":"number four, it's only a matter of when,"},{"startTime":967.87,"endTime":971.592,"body":"not if, you fall off track. The key is to"},{"startTime":971.6320000000001,"endTime":974.274,"body":"get back on the bandwagon as quickly as"},{"startTime":974.3340000000001,"endTime":977.6560000000001,"body":"you can and not make it mean more than it"},{"startTime":977.696,"endTime":980.678,"body":"does. I was late getting the podcast out"},{"startTime":980.998,"endTime":983.339,"body":"one week. The probability that I will be"},{"startTime":983.399,"endTime":986.741,"body":"late again sometime in the future is not"},{"startTime":986.801,"endTime":990.844,"body":"zero. It's possible. At the same time, I"},{"startTime":990.884,"endTime":993.144,"body":"have renewed my commitment to being on"},{"startTime":993.2040000000001,"endTime":995.545,"body":"time and batching a bunch of episodes"},{"startTime":995.705,"endTime":998.006,"body":"early so I have plenty of content to pull"},{"startTime":998.086,"endTime":1001.1080000000001,"body":"out as needed if I'm not able to record in"},{"startTime":1001.128,"endTime":1003.729,"body":"the moment. That leads to truth number"},{"startTime":1003.789,"endTime":1006.97,"body":"five, which is the never-ending message of"},{"startTime":1007.05,"endTime":1011.291,"body":"this podcast. Nothing you do or don't do"},{"startTime":1011.752,"endTime":1014.553,"body":"changes how wonderful and worthy you are."},{"startTime":1015.293,"endTime":1017.475,"body":"As a recovering perfectionist and people"},{"startTime":1017.515,"endTime":1020.018,"body":"pleaser who was brought up to believe I"},{"startTime":1020.078,"endTime":1022.8,"body":"had to earn love and belonging by"},{"startTime":1022.88,"endTime":1025.223,"body":"performing and achieving and keeping other"},{"startTime":1025.263,"endTime":1028.9859999999999,"body":"people happy, I still have to repeat that"},{"startTime":1029.066,"endTime":1032.109,"body":"to myself all the time, which is why I'm"},{"startTime":1032.249,"endTime":1034.671,"body":"so passionate about reminding you as well."},{"startTime":1035.3519999999999,"endTime":1037.754,"body":"Let me quickly add a sixth truth that I"},{"startTime":1037.8139999999999,"endTime":1040.2759999999998,"body":"didn't think of until just now, which is"},{"startTime":1040.356,"endTime":1042.858,"body":"that, like it or not, you are the"},{"startTime":1042.998,"endTime":1045.921,"body":"emotional regulator of your household."},{"startTime":1046.681,"endTime":1050.3239999999998,"body":"Everyone else's emotions really revolve"},{"startTime":1050.524,"endTime":1053.9669999999999,"body":"around you as the stable rock and"},{"startTime":1054.047,"endTime":1057.32,"body":"foundation. It's such a blessing because"},{"startTime":1057.44,"endTime":1060.761,"body":"you know the nuances of all your family"},{"startTime":1060.801,"endTime":1063.382,"body":"members and you know how to handle each of"},{"startTime":1063.442,"endTime":1066.523,"body":"their feelings in their respective ways,"},{"startTime":1067.163,"endTime":1069.8429999999998,"body":"but it means you then have to be that much"},{"startTime":1069.943,"endTime":1072.704,"body":"more mindful when you start to get"},{"startTime":1072.764,"endTime":1076.0249999999999,"body":"dysregulated because it is going to throw"},{"startTime":1076.305,"endTime":1080.366,"body":"everyone else into dysregulation too. For"},{"startTime":1080.506,"endTime":1084.328,"body":"example, The more you ache to get away and"},{"startTime":1084.408,"endTime":1087.39,"body":"do something for you, the more resistance"},{"startTime":1087.45,"endTime":1090.593,"body":"you will face from your kids. It's like a"},{"startTime":1090.653,"endTime":1094.015,"body":"law of nature. Again, this is just one"},{"startTime":1094.095,"endTime":1096.437,"body":"example. For me, it was the struggle to"},{"startTime":1096.477,"endTime":1099.699,"body":"record a podcast episode. For you, it may"},{"startTime":1099.74,"endTime":1102.8220000000001,"body":"be wanting to find time to work out, to"},{"startTime":1102.882,"endTime":1106.364,"body":"take a bath, to go out with a friend, to"},{"startTime":1106.424,"endTime":1109.366,"body":"have uninterrupted reading time, or even"},{"startTime":1109.486,"endTime":1113.288,"body":"just to go to bed. Whatever it is, I don't"},{"startTime":1113.408,"endTime":1115.749,"body":"want you to get discouraged. There are"},{"startTime":1115.789,"endTime":1118.13,"body":"going to be times when it doesn't happen."},{"startTime":1118.71,"endTime":1121.312,"body":"But don't make that mean anything about"},{"startTime":1121.412,"endTime":1124.313,"body":"you or your future success. Just keep"},{"startTime":1124.393,"endTime":1126.814,"body":"coming back and trying again until you"},{"startTime":1126.934,"endTime":1130.478,"body":"finally do get to do it. Your homework for"},{"startTime":1130.538,"endTime":1133.04,"body":"today is to think of the last time you"},{"startTime":1133.14,"endTime":1136.101,"body":"wanted to do something and just couldn't"},{"startTime":1136.241,"endTime":1140.123,"body":"make it happen. Why? Who or what did you"},{"startTime":1140.183,"endTime":1143.405,"body":"blame? How did you feel? Did you let"},{"startTime":1143.445,"endTime":1146.446,"body":"yourself spin out in unhelpful mind drama?"},{"startTime":1147.146,"endTime":1149.948,"body":"What impact did that have on your family?"},{"startTime":1150.728,"endTime":1153.1490000000001,"body":"And most importantly, what did you learn"},{"startTime":1153.209,"endTime":1155.911,"body":"from that experience? How can you find"},{"startTime":1155.991,"endTime":1158.992,"body":"that elusive balance between prioritizing"},{"startTime":1159.032,"endTime":1161.493,"body":"yourself and what you love with"},{"startTime":1161.693,"endTime":1164.254,"body":"maintaining your sleep and well-being and"},{"startTime":1164.514,"endTime":1167.395,"body":"being the wife and mom you want to be for"},{"startTime":1167.475,"endTime":1170.035,"body":"those you love? Email me through the link"},{"startTime":1170.055,"endTime":1172.276,"body":"in the show notes or DM me at"},{"startTime":1172.316,"endTime":1174.957,"body":"solutionsforsimplicity on Instagram and"},{"startTime":1175.037,"endTime":1177.678,"body":"let me know one thing you want more time"},{"startTime":1177.758,"endTime":1181.079,"body":"for. I am here cheering you on every step"},{"startTime":1181.179,"endTime":1183.78,"body":"of the way. Join me back next episode to"},{"startTime":1183.84,"endTime":1186.501,"body":"talk about the greatest gift you can give"},{"startTime":1186.541,"endTime":1190.182,"body":"your kids and why. It is so not what you"},{"startTime":1190.222,"endTime":1192.663,"body":"think and I can't wait to open your eyes"},{"startTime":1192.763,"endTime":1196.144,"body":"to why it's so important. Until then,"},{"startTime":1196.384,"endTime":1199.065,"body":"remember nothing you do changes how"},{"startTime":1199.165,"endTime":1201.9660000000001,"body":"wonderful and worthy you are. Have a great"},{"startTime":1202.006,"endTime":1202.166,"body":"day."}]}