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Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
Virgin Vodka Soda is a podcast about queer life after the healing buzzwords wear off. I’m Mick Resendez — gay, sober, and done performing wellness. What started as a show about sobriety has evolved into something deeper: a space for high-functioning, emotionally fluent queer men who still feel stuck, spiraling, or like they’re faking it. Each episode is a raw, unfiltered dive into the messier side of growth — from dating and loneliness to body image, boundaries, and finally learning how to feel instead of just perform.
Sometimes it’s storytelling. Sometimes it’s coaching. Always honest. Always human. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel whole… you’re not broken. You’re just ready for something real.
Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
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We’re back with the second episode of QueerRecovery 2.0 — and this is the one where I finally break down what “emotional integration” really is.
This episode is for the high-functioning gay or queer man who’s been in therapy, read all the books, bought the crystals, journaled, meal prepped, and still spirals over texts that go unanswered. You’re not broken. You’re just performing your healing. And you’re exhausted.
I talk about:
- What performative healing looks like (and why it’s so sneaky)
- How we use therapy and self-help to intellectualize emotions instead of feel them
- Why confidence after therapy fades by Friday night
- Why knowing your patterns isn’t the same as changing them
- And how I built QueerRecovery from that exact burnout
We also get into the trap of chasing external validation, gay gym culture, dating as a people-pleaser, and the difference between having tools and using them.
If you feel stuck, spiraling, or like all your growth isn’t translating to how you live — this episode is your mirror.
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It’s time to stop performing your healing and start living your life.