Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
Virgin Vodka Soda is a podcast about queer life after the healing buzzwords wear off. I’m Mick Resendez — gay, sober, and done performing wellness. What started as a show about sobriety has evolved into something deeper: a space for high-functioning, emotionally fluent queer men who still feel stuck, spiraling, or like they’re faking it. Each episode is a raw, unfiltered dive into the messier side of growth — from dating and loneliness to body image, boundaries, and finally learning how to feel instead of just perform.
Sometimes it’s storytelling. Sometimes it’s coaching. Always honest. Always human. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel whole… you’re not broken. You’re just ready for something real.
Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
I Don’t Want to Go to the Cheesecake Factory
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Let’s talk about the moments you don’t speak up. Not because you can’t. But because you’ve convinced yourself that being “chill” or “healed” means staying silent. Even when you don’t want to go to Cheesecake Factory.
This episode is for the high-functioning gay or queer man who knows their attachment style, knows their triggers, knows their trauma… and is still spiraling over a 30-minute text delay. You’re not crazy. You’re not broken. You’re stuck in performative healing — and no meme account is gonna fix it.
In this episode, I break down:
- Why insight without action keeps you stuck
- How “the work” became a performance (and a trap)
- Why knowing your patterns isn’t the same as interrupting them
- What emotional integration actually looks like in real life (hint: it’s awkward, human, and unfiltered)
- How to stop spiraling and start living with your whole damn self
If you’ve ever said, “I’ve done too much work to still feel this fucked up,” this one’s for you.
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Stop performing. Start living. Even if you still end up at Cheesecake Factory.