Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
Virgin Vodka Soda is a podcast about queer life after the healing buzzwords wear off. I’m Mick Resendez — gay, sober, and done performing wellness. What started as a show about sobriety has evolved into something deeper: a space for high-functioning, emotionally fluent queer men who still feel stuck, spiraling, or like they’re faking it. Each episode is a raw, unfiltered dive into the messier side of growth — from dating and loneliness to body image, boundaries, and finally learning how to feel instead of just perform.
Sometimes it’s storytelling. Sometimes it’s coaching. Always honest. Always human. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel whole… you’re not broken. You’re just ready for something real.
Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
Why Can't We Be Friends? Part One
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Platonic friendship isn’t supposed to feel impossible — but for gay men, it often does. In this episode, I dig into the viral Threads post that pulled in over 250,000 views and thousands of comments from men saying the same thing: I want connection, but I don’t know how.
We get into the real reasons why: validation chasing, hookup culture, shame, and the conditioning that makes every new interaction feel like it has to be about sex. I talk about what it means to crave friendship but not have the skills to build it, why “low-maintenance” friends aren’t the flex they think they are, and yes, why half my gay friends are hot — and that’s not a problem.
This episode is about honesty. About saying the quiet parts out loud. About why so many of us are lonely even when we’re surrounded by people. And it’s about starting the conversation that no one else seems to be having: friendship isn’t hard, it’s unpracticed.
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