DO YOU

This week's episode is a little inspired motivational chat on why being you, FULLY being YOU, is so damn important.

Want to swear? Do it.
Want to dress differently? Do it.
Want to dye your hair purple? Effing do it.

The world needs you to be yourself, not to be a conformed perfect version of you, and funny enough... by fully doing you, you will fully attract the results you seek.

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You are listening to I Can't Wait to Tell You with Casey Edward, episode 139. Welcome to I Can't Wait to Tell You, a podcast I created to share with you my knowledge, stories, and ideas on everything from manifestation and meditation to money, sex and relationships, self-love and body image, and life in general. I want you to know that you are not your thoughts, that you can choose your thoughts, and thus you and only you create your reality. It's time for you to take control of your life and let joy and abundance be your natural state of being. We all deserve to make some magic, so let's jump right in because there are so many things I can't wait to tell you. Thank you for tuning in. If this is your first time here, I am so grateful for every single one of you. Just a little background on the show. This show is designed to help you thrive spiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionally. A little about me. I live in Denver, Colorado, but I am from Boston, Massachusetts. And I started the show because I felt like there were so many things I learned along my personal journey, my spiritual journey, whatever you want to call it, that I had never been taught. And I really thought, wow, why is none of this more mainstream? Why am I not learning how to assimilate and handle my emotions in school? I was a college athlete. Why did no one ever tell me how to utilize my mindset? Everyone was like, yeah, think like you're gonna win, but never did anyone ever dive into it. And also I never really had anyone to talk to about intuition or shadow work or trauma or whatever it may be. So this show is just kind of accumulation of everything that you'll need to know to thrive, to feel good, to live your best life. And before we get into this episode, I did want to let you know that next week I am going to be doing another solo episode. I actually have a lot of interviews on the books, which I'm pumped about, but as I'm getting close to marathon time, I have been focused on the marathon a lot and my training. So those will be towards more towards October. And actually, if you would like to donate towards the cause that I am running for and fundraising for, I will put the link in the show notes. And the charity, the nonprofit, is called Back on My Feet. And this organization helps homeless people or people experiencing homelessness reintegrate into society through running, through community, through running and community. And it just has a special place in my heart. So if you want to check that out, if you're feeling called to make a donation or to donate to a cause that feels aligned with your values, you can check it out in the show notes. I've still got a little ways to go, and it would be greatly appreciated by both myself and the foundation. So, yeah, I've got some interviews coming up, but next week I'm actually going to be doing another solo episode on life updates. I know a lot of people were interested in the anxiety medication situation, and I will fill you in on that next week. I got a lot of messages about it, a lot of messages about it, and so I will fill you in on that. And then also my birthday is in September, so I am on the 24th. If you're into astrology, you know that I am like a cusp Libra. I was supposed to be born on the 23rd, which would have made me re Virgo, but I am indeed a Libra, and I feel like that is actually pretty suiting. I think that maybe I was like, yo, I feel like a Libra, so I'm gonna wait in here a little bit longer. I really don't know that much about astrology. I'm gonna have another astrology episode coming up soon, but just as an aside, because I know that people often like knowing people's birthdays and astrological signs. So next week, I digress, I digress, is going to be some lessons I learned this year, this past year in my 30th year of life. If you've listened to the show for a while or followed me on Instagram for a while, you know that I had a lot of changes in my life leading up to my 30th birthday. So when I was 29, obviously COVID began. I ended a four-year relationship with a girl I had been dating and moved across the country with. I moved out of the apartment I lived with her in. I started dating Joe, who I am dating now. I made some big business changes, I went through some deep personal work again and again and again, always an unfolding. And there was just a lot. And so my 30th year, I want to also fill you in on what I've been learning in this year because I feel like the tables really began to turn and things have been shifting, and I'm really excited about all of it, and I just want to share it with you. And so that's something to look forward to. As for today's episode, today's episode is going to be a little bit of a motivational episode. So if you have not been feeling yourself like you should be, if you have not been feeling like the badass that you are, if you have not been feeling really ready to put yourself out there and just to get fucking after it, that's what this episode is going to be for. I was on a bike ride this morning, and I was like, okay, what's what's coming through? Am I gonna do a podcast episode this week? I never force it, but like what's up? And then all of this just started flowing in, coming into me. And so I was like, okay, let's let's do it. And it's funny because with the show, sometimes I'm like, okay, I have to think about what's gonna what I'm gonna talk about, or like what am I gonna talk about? And then I'm like, no, you know, if it flows, it flows. If it doesn't, it doesn't. And this flowed. So today we're gonna be talking about the fact that you need to be you and you need to do you. You need to be you and you need to do you. Okay? What I've been realizing lately as I've been going even further into this spiritual workslash my personal development is that the more layers that you peel away, so by layers I mean the more limiting beliefs, the more beliefs that you've taken on from other people, the more self-imposed limitations, whatever it may be, the more layers that you peel away, the more you can be you. Because this foundation of who you are that you came into this world as abundant, out there, explorative, expansive, you can be you as you take all of these layers off or all of these impositions off that have been put on you, whether by society or by yourself. And the thing is, the world needs you to be you. You are unique for a reason, and the world needs you. Your clients, potential clients, need you. The people in your life need you. Okay, you need you. You need to be you. You have to speak your truth, you have to do the actions that make you feel good, you have to stop talking to the people that don't feel good. You have to do what serves you. You need to be you. Here's why. Showing up as 60% of yourself, showing up with only 60% of your unique light is only going to get you 60% of the results you seek. If you are not showing up 100% as yourself, the world, the universe, you cannot be given 100% of what you are seeking, of what you deserve. And what made me think about this is, and I'm gonna give some good examples from my own personal life, and maybe you'll immediately be able to think of things in places where you've dimmed your light or shied away from who you are. But we just have to realize that we are supposed to be ourselves. And again, why we are not is because we take on these limits, we take on trauma, we take in trauma, we place blocks in our emotional body, in our physical body, in our spiritual body, in our energetic body, whatever it is. We put on all these layers, we have to take them off. So I'm gonna give some examples so that you can just be like, okay, okay, okay, I feel you, I feel you on this. And we're just, as you listen to this, like, get yourself amped up. Like, let yourself hear these words and be like, yes, I'm enough. Yes, what I do is enough. Yes, exactly as I am, and with the things I feel called to do and with the words I feel called to say, I am enough right where I am, right now, okay? So the first example that I am going to use of how I used to try to like diminish how I really wanted to be, or like I would try to alter it, is with swearing. Okay. So I swear. If you listen to the show, you know this. If you follow me on Instagram, you know this. I like to swear. And for a long time I had this stigma around swearing because I was like, well, older people might not like it, or like some parents might not like it, or like very religious people might not like it. All of the all of these stories. And then what I realized was I swear though. Like, if I were not doing something professional, or if I were not doing a podcast episode, I swear. So I'm going to swear. And that's just where it is. So, for example, there was a when I was a spin instructor, if you don't know, I was a cycle bar instructor for two and a half years, and in class I'd swear sometimes, and my songs swore. And in one class, we were climbing a really tough hill, and it was like silent for a little of it. And then I was like, Yes, you fucking can. It was necessary. It was so necessary. It gave me, it gave everyone that little push that we needed. And I heard someone that usually didn't ride my class, an older woman, say something under her breath. And so after class, she leaves or whatever. And one of the girls who rode with me, who rides with me a lot, was like, oh, she said, is that necessary? And the thing is, yes, that was necessary. And I'm not going to change who I am so that other people can enjoy my class more. That's just not, that's not how it's going to work. The woman who wants to wear earplugs in my class and not hear swearing, she's not meant to be in my class. That doesn't mean that she's not wonderful and that there's not a class out there for her, but that's not my class. And that's okay. Because again, if I'm stopping myself, if I'm holding myself back from using the language that I want to use or bringing the energy that I bring, no one else is going to be able to fully give their all. I wouldn't be giving my all. I have got to let myself flow through. And that's one of the ways. So I swear. And it's funny because I actually, so this is something that I have thought about a few times. So Brene Brown, a lot of you will know Brene Brown. She's a fantastic speaker. Her books are amazing, and she's just wonderful. But I remember her saying one time that she used to swear in her in her talks or in her seminars. And then she realized that a lot of people stopped listening to her or wouldn't listen to her because she swore, so she stopped swearing. And to each their own. But I remember in that moment thinking, but I wouldn't want to do that. I think that I will be able to reach the people that I am meant to reach by being myself. I am going to reach the people that I'm meant to be by being myself. Gary V swears like a fucking sailor. Do you think that he loses as many deals as he's given, as many talks as he's given, as many events, podcasts, business opportunities as he's given because he swears all the time? No. And that's not even on his radar. People ask him why he swears, and he's like, because that's how I am. That's because that's how I get my message across. And so I'm going to fully show up as me. If someone isn't interested in me showing up as that, then I'm not meant to be there anyways. And that's truly how I feel. And again, no shade to people who don't swear, right? No shade to Brene Brown. But I I've just never resonated with changing for the sake of getting more people to like what I'm doing or like me or to listen to me. And I think I fell into that for a little while. Like I hid for a little while. And there's other, there's other realms of life that we do this in. But just start to think about like, where am I, where am I shifting things for the sake of others? Okay. And this is not selfish. Again, the world needs your light. The world needs you as you are, as you are. What does it feel like to fully be you? What does it feel like to embellish yourself, to let yourself relish in the things you like? What are there, are there things you want to talk about in your business in your life that you aren't allowing yourself to talk about because you think they're taboo or you think you're gonna scare clients away or you think you're gonna scare people away? Those are most likely actually the things that you need to A, heal stuff around, and then B, call people in with. You know? Every podcast interview I do, they ask me before, can you swear on the show? Can I swear on the show? And I'm like, you sure can. You sure can. And I asked people before I go on their podcast, can I swear? If not, well, I might still. You know, like it's it's one of those things that I like knowing beforehand because I know that swearing is just part of my lingo. So, anyways, that's one example. The second example is when I started to date women. Okay, so in college, my first serious relationship, my first serious relationship of life, but it was in college, was with a girl on my soccer team, actually, Ella. And I remember just being like, oh, okay, yeah, like I I, you know, it was it was a little confusing for me at the time because I had never been in a serious relationship and I had only hung out with, hung out with, wink, guys. I'd only, you know, I wasn't in serious relationships. I had a few like flings before college, but it was all with guys. And then I get to school and I'm texting this girl. My friends were like, friends don't text like that. And I was like, oh, you know, like, oh, and then my and then like I remember we had a Facebook group, me and my friends from home, and everyone was like, oh, I did this and I did this, and I hooked up with this guy, and I went out to this party, and I was like, I hooked up with a girl on my soccer team, and everyone was like, Wait, what? Like, wait, what what what do you mean? I need details. What does that what does hooking up even mean? What what were you and you were sober? What I need more. And I was like, oh, like, is this a this is a thing? Like it's almost like you don't realize it's a thing until it's a thing. And so then it's like, oh, I kind of have to explain this, I guess, because people want to know. And then, of course, not of course, not of course, but as as the story sometimes goes, I was then told, well, our extended family can't know about this. And so I was like, well, even even back then, like I was more shy. Mmm, no, I was actually pretty, pretty not shy. But I was, you know, I wasn't as evolved as I am now. But even back then, I was kind of like, well, that's bullshit. Like, why can't they know? So fine, I'll block them on Facebook, but like I'm not gonna not post about this. I'm not gonna not be myself. I remember being like, no, I'm not having any of that. I'm not hiding this. I sure will be posting about this, I sure will let people know that the person that you, you know, my family was telling people I had an English roommate, and meanwhile, no, that's my girlfriend. No, yeah, that's my girlfriend. I'm not, that's that's not my English soccer roommate, okay? And you know, I got the well, I I was ready to walk down, watch you walk down the aisle with a man. This is gonna change things, whatever. And I don't really care. I don't care what you think of my truth, of who I love, of who I want to be with. I I know. And I never really took on that baggage, but I did hide it for a little while, and then I stopped hiding it. I unblocked everyone. I was like, if someone has a problem with this, then that's fine. I never didn't hold my girlfriend's hand in public. I never shied away from being like, oh yeah, I'm dating this girl, blah, blah, blah. Like, I just never felt called to hide who I was, and I shouldn't have. But what I'm saying is, were there people who were saying no, or well, that's not how we thought it would go, or what if our extended family thinks this, or maybe they shouldn't see. Of course. Again, I don't want to say of course, but like kind of, of course, because people do have their own limits and their own things that they were, their own baggage that they were given, and they can't understand. Not everyone's going to be as expansive as you. And if you're trying to expand, you have to again fully expand. Let yourself be fully who you are. So here I am dating a woman, and then I date a man, and then I date a woman, and everyone on campus is like, wait, what? What's going on? I thought you were just dating so-and-so from the baseball team, and now you're dating a teammate again. And like, who cares? Who cares, right? It's not up to you to explain yourself, it's up to you to be yourself. Now, here's the thing. If someone is really inquisitive in a kind and open way and wants to know, then absolutely sure, talk about it. But you know, when I was, when I first went vegan, I remember people will be like, Well, that's wrong. Are you gonna raise your kids vegan? Blah blah blah. And I was like, Okay, you do you. I'm not judging what you're eating. Like, I never I was just no, no, I'm not, I don't care what you're doing. I'm gonna do my thing, you do your thing, stay in your fucking lane, right? So that is another example. And then one other example is I have tattoos and I also had a lot of piercings at college. And again, people are going to comment on, like, are you sure you want to do that to your skin? Are you sure? Whoa, why do you have your tongue pierced? What is that for, right? You know, I had my tongue pierced, I had other piercings, and it's because I liked them. And I don't care what other people think. You know, it's there are going no matter what you do, my friends, people are going to have something to say about it. When you're rich and really fucking successful, people are gonna have something to say about it. And you're gonna be standing there with your middle fingers up, like, yeah, I made it, I don't care, who knows it? Like, what kind of inspired this episode or like made me feel this like badass edginess was I was listening to rumors by Lizzo and Cardi B, and I was like, look at all of these women in their power, like shaking their asses and having no shame in their game and being successful AF because of it. They are owning who they are, they own their body type, they own the words that they use, they own how they move their bodies. They use, they own what they wear, who they are, how they show up, what they do. They own it. Think about how important confidence is. Think about it. I will never forget this. So in my 20s, I was dating this guy, and I was super, super into, I mean, I'm still into health and fitness, but I was like really into it. And I would just kind of, it's funny because I was confident, but also very insecure. Like it was this fine line. Like some days I'd be like, yeah, I'm hot shit, and then other days I'd be like, oh, am I skinny enough, you know? And I remember my boyfriend being like, listen, if I were at a bar and there was a six standing across the room, and she was fucking owning it, confident, open, ready to talk to people. And then there was a 10 standing with her arms crossed, you can tell she's self-conscious. I'm going to the six every time. And I was like, really? And he was like, Yeah, like body language is so important. What you're exuding is so important. And I know that some of you are gonna be like, uh, it doesn't matter about looks and all that stuff. Whatever. This is just a true story, and this is where it was at. And we have to be real sometimes, right? So, but what I'm saying is the moral of that story is people can read confidence. People can read when you are showing up as you, your clients, your potential clients, the employers that you're going after, whatever it is, if you walk into that room and own it, it is going to matter so much more than walking in prepared and feeling like I'm not saying to go into things unprepared, but I'm saying to go into things knowing that you're gonna rock it. Being you. And again, there is a time and place for everything. If you're going into a meeting, a board meeting, and you don't want to be dropping F-bombs everywhere, I'm not saying to do that. But I am saying to just notice when you feel like you have to conform for the sake of others. Like I am going to be myself. We all have to just be ourselves without shame. And I think that shame, what I'm learning is shame around sex, around our sexuality, around our bodies, around what we want, around money, whatever it might be, shame is taking you out of your pleasure, out of your abundance, out of your wealth, out of your expansion. Where do you have shame in your life? Do you have any? Is there shame? Maybe there's shame from something you did in your past, maybe there's shame from how you feel right now, maybe there's shame around the fact that you masturbate every day. I don't know what it might be. But shame is not going to serve you. So the more that you can step out of shame, release the shame, heal the shame, say, I've been enough, I did my best, I'm doing my best, I am worthy, you are going to shift into completely different vibrations of you. You, oh, you are enough just as you are. Feel these words. You are enough just as you are. Exactly as you are. The things you are called to do, the things you are called not to do, the things you aren't doing, the things you are doing, the words you're saying, the people you're dating, whatever you feel inclined to do from a soul place, from a heart place, do that. Do that. And again, I'm not saying flagrantly run around and do things that aren't in alignment, but if dropping a fuck here and there feels good as hell for your soul, do it. Do it, do it. If you've been dating men and you've been eyeing the girl at the coffee shop, ask her out, right? Like whatever it may be that you have got to do for your soul. You have got to notice if you have taken other people's baggage on, let it go, step fully into your soul. Light. And I'm not saying, you know, that it's gonna be like, oh, you're right, Casey, and I'm just gonna do this overnight, but it's a process and it's going to feel so good. Let the layers go, release it, step into who you are. Step into who you are. Go towards the things that scary. Go towards the way of being that feel edgy. See what's there. What's the worst that could happen? It doesn't work. Okay, then you know. That's it. Or someone doesn't like it. That's also it. Like, oh. Oh, okay. But there is just such a difference. Again, what are you exuding when you're out there? People can feel that shit. People can feel it. Do you show up to sell a package to a client confident as hell? Knowing if they don't buy it, damn, they missed out. Or are you like, shit, I hope they buy this. I hope it's enough. I hope it's no, it is enough. You are enough. All right. So this is kind of just the motivational little episode I wanted to do because this is how I've been feeling lately. Fuck it. I'm gonna be me. And all the people who told me I shouldn't, all the people who tried to hold me back, all my own self-limitations, all my own self-imposed thoughts, any of that I'm letting go of. I am letting go of. When I notice it come in, it comes in, I let it go. When I notice it comes in, sometimes I have to be like, fuck you, and then I let it go. Like find, find a little edge. If you have to be angry at the fact that you held yourself back or that someone held you back or whatever it is, be angry. Use that, release that, and then step further into the next version of you. Ugh. Find that power, find that power, find that power, find that power, find that power. That just keeps coming through me. Find that motherfucking power. It's in you. It's so good, it's so light. The more shadow work you do, the more work that you do, the more self-development, the more that you let this go, the density goes, the stories go, and you fully allow yourself to come into the light, into your awakening, into the light enlightenment. Ultimately, I've been realizing that enlightenment and awakening is just letting go of all the things that were keeping you dense, heavy, down, dark. Life is always going to have challenges, but are you making it harder than it has to be? Let whatever is weighing you down go so that you can fly.

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And if you're like, wow, where do I even start? I am going to be taking new one-on-one coaching clients, and it's going to be a little bit different from the coaching I've been doing in the past because I've stepped into a new paradigm of myself, which you can probably hear from the show. And so if you are looking to work with someone and do this and step into the next versions of yourself, make the wealth, find the soulmate, be the you you want to be, show up. If you can feel that there are blocks or trauma that you can't quite seem to get a hold of because you know your mind is blocking it or something's blocking it, we can work on that. We can also talk about money. We can also talk about sex. Like, what do you need to step into the next version of yourself? That you aren't able to talk about with other people. That is what a life coach is. That is what I would do. This is what I do do. This is what we will talk about. And again, if you don't want to talk about those things, fine, but what are we going to do to change your life? Mm-mm-mm, right? So I will put the link in the show notes for you to set up a discovery call for one-on-one coaching with me. I will probably only have a few spots for that right now because I've got a lot of other moving parts going on. But if you feel called, this is how you'll know if if if you're wanting to work together. Just feel it in your body if it feels good. Would it feel easy? Would it feel fun to jump on a discovery call? That's all you have to do. Ask your intuition. That's it. If we jump on and you're like, okay, that's not for me right now, cool. Then we get to meet. If it's for you, even better. Cool. All right. So I hope this episode lands with you. I hope you let it sink in. I hope that you go do whatever it is that your soul has been calling you to do that would feel so delicious that you haven't been letting yourself do. I love you, and I know that this can be difficult to step into who you are, but it is time, my friend. It is time. And that's why I'm saying I love you because I know it can be difficult. I was operating from like this wounded place for so long. And now, no, no more. Wounded to warrior, wounded to being who you are. The world needs you. You need you. You are meant to enjoy this life. You are the creator of your reality. You are the creator of this life. You're here to do the work, yes, but also ultimately to be a human and have a human experience. Have fun. Have the sex you want to have. Eat the food you want to have. See the world in the manner that you want to see it. Enjoy it with the people that will serve you, that you'll love, that will love you. Make the money. Make the money, honey. Make the money, right? Make the money. So be you, do you, let your light shine. If something's dimming it, take care of it. It's no big deal. You just gotta do the shit, keep going, all right? Don't let it weigh you down, don't let it boggle you down, don't let it get you all, uh, there's so much to do. How am I gonna do this? You've got this. You have got this. Dive into the deep end, do it. Yes, you can, okay? So again, my link to a discovery call for one-on-one coaching with me will be in the show notes, and you can check that out. And otherwise, if you like the show, please do leave a comment and a review on iTunes. You just go to the show and then you scroll all the way down, and you can leave a star review and then a comment. Both are so helpful, and I really appreciate it. And then you can follow me on Instagram at casey underscore edward. I'm getting back into the swing of posting a little bit now that I'm feeling some type of way. And you can follow the show as well at i can't wait to tell you.podcast. We do a lot of just kind of meme blocks or like text blocks, inspirational ones with little snippets from the show. And that is that. I will talk to you soon, my friends. Love you.