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Loving Her Right: Real Marriage Lessons We Had to Learn as Black Men

December 08, 2025 • Tommie Jones & Lance Taylor • Season 2 • Episode 14

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In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance open up about the real, unpolished lessons they had to learn on the journey to becoming better husbands. This isn’t theory, and it isn’t advice from a pedestal—this is lived experience from two Black men who have grown through mistakes, maturity, and moments that forced them to evolve.

From choosing vulnerability over ego, to understanding love beyond tradition, to learning how to lead with your wife instead of over her, this conversation is grounded in honesty, accountability, and growth. And while the perspective comes from Black men, the truths in this episode apply to husbands, partners, and couples everywhere.

What We Talk About:

•The myths we believed about marriage—and how they broke

•Why loving her right requires unlearning, humility, and patience

•How communication changes once you mature in marriage

•The difference between being a provider and being present

•The role of accountability and brotherhood in becoming better men

•How culture, upbringing, and identity impact the way Black men love

•What it means to “lead” in a marriage today

•Real moments that forced us to grow as husbands and men

Four Titles, One Truth

A real-talk podcast for Black men navigating life as fathers, husbands, veterans, and men—building community through truth, growth, and shared experiences.