Our Life Is A Honeymoon

Our Forever Honeymoon: The Story Begins

• Tim Obert • Episode 1

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In the first episode of their podcast 'Our Life is a Honeymoon,' hosts Tim and Amy introduce themselves and share the story of how they met.


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Amy:

Hey everybody.

Tim:

Hello, hello, hello.

Amy:

Welcome to our first ever podcast episode of Our Life is a Honeymoon. Yes, yes. And there's no better way to start a story than by starting it from the beginning.

Tim:

Yes, how we met and uh all the antics and things that went into it.

Amy:

Yeah, so get ready and listen to some fun.

Tim:

All right.

Amy:

We're gonna tell you all about how we met.

Tim:

Here we go.

Amy:

The universe brought us together.

Tim:

That we know.

Amy:

And together we want to share that story with you.

Tim:

As well as all of the practices we do to keep our relationship thriving.

Amy:

Because to us, it feels like our life is a honeymoon.

Tim:

We want that same joy for all of you. I'm Tim.

Amy:

I'm Amy, and this is our podcast. Hey everybody.

Tim:

Hello, hello, hello.

Amy:

Hey, thank you for joining us for our very first podcast of Our Life is a Honeymoon.

Tim:

Welcome, welcome. This is very exciting. We've been um working on this for a little while now.

Amy:

Mm-hmm. So I'm Amy Considine.

Tim:

I'm Tim Obert.

Amy:

And we are so happy you're here with us. So, Tim, what's the reason we're um making this podcast to begin with?

Tim:

The reason we are making this podcast is we go to couples therapy for occasional sessions that I'd say is for, you know, just if anything pops up that we just feel like we need a third a third-party, you know, opinion. You know, we book a session with our therapist, and she actually recommended that we start a podcast.

Amy:

Yeah, absolutely. And we thought it was a good idea. She said, um, you two have such a healthy relationship, you really should start a podcast. And so we um we do have an awesome relationship, and we think that everybody else can have that too. So we have um so many ideas and things that we do on a daily, a weekly, a monthly, an annual basis. And um, so we're gonna share all of that with you guys over the weeks and the months and hopefully the years. So we thought there's no better place to begin than in the beginning.

Tim:

Yes.

Amy:

How we met.

Tim:

Yes, how we met. And this is a story that we have told to people and they've been inspired by, and we thought, um, you know, it's a good place to start. And so um, shall I just take it away?

Amy:

Yeah, take it away, Tim.

Tim:

All right, so in the beginning, when you know, right when uh say July 2017 is when I first reached out to Amy. It was on a uh meditation podcast called Insight Timer, and it was for you know keeping keeping time on meditation. Just, you know, if I want a timer, you know, it's like 10 minutes, set a little timer, and then it dings. But you could also, there was also a social media aspect to it, and so we her eye was just adding a bunch of people because it was fun, you know, just meditating and meditating with different people over the world. And then I saw Amy, I added her, and then she reached out to me, but I'll let her tell that part of the story.

Amy:

Okay, yeah, thanks. So um, yeah, I downloaded the same app, Insight Timer. Oh, that's a nice dog. And um, it was solely for a little ding when you're done meditating. So um I had been um sing I was single and just really focusing on healing and meditation and just coming becoming in touch with who I was deep down inside. So meditation became a big part of my journey. So I was just innocently meditating on my back patio and the little ding would ding. And then Insight Timer has this feature where it shows you these little tiny thumbnail pictures of like 12 people around the world that meditate at the same time that you've meditated. And um, yeah, I don't really pay much attention. So one day this guy friend requests me on Insight Timer, and I was like, yeah okay, boom. And then um from that point forward, Insight Timer shows you people that you're friends with who have meditated at the same time first before everybody else. And I'll note at that time there were two million users on the app. So there's a lot of people, and so I would meditate, and I kept noticing that when I was done meditating, his picture would pop up. And so it was teeny. So I took a screenshot and I blew it up, and I was like, he's kind of cute, but he lives all the way in Seattle, and this doesn't make any sense. And um so I sent his picture to my girlfriends, and I'm like, Do you think I should reach out? Uh I don't know, what do I do? And uh so I decided to. And so I just texted through, and it's not a real user-friendly social sort of app. It's not like Facebook or anything like that, it's a meditation app. Um, but you are able to message, and so I just messaged, do you remember what I said? Yeah, yeah.

Tim:

So I um around this time I was, you know, really into self-development books and just doing a lot of own my own healing. And I remember being very happy one day, and I took a selfie of myself. Um, selfie of myself. And you know, just remember posting it in this little, you know, in the inside timer. And, you know, I just remember being truly joyful. It was like the happiest time of my life, just doing a lot of self-work. And so I was like, you know, I need to document this. And so I posted it, you know, and Amy saw that picture. And in her message, I remember her saying, you know, your picture just radiates a lot of joy. And you know, I just wanted to share that with you. And you know, just when I see joy, I just want to, you know, show you know, mention that your joy is bringing me joy. And then so I saw that, and I remember thinking, I feel like I'm being catfished. And you know, is this a real person? Because she, you know, she is beautiful. And thank you. And you know, just a really, you know, she had a great picture too. And and so I I didn't mention that to her until I think maybe a year into our relationship. I think I told her that part. But but yeah, she reached out to me and then you know, just back and forth from there.

Amy:

Yeah, yeah. So um, yeah, so we messaged each other a little bit in the app, and honestly, it was like the third sentence that he sent me, and I'm like, he's the one. Because he asked me who my uh favorite musical artists were, and that was so important to me at that time to align with someone musically, which we did, and I just thought that was awesome because um I like a pretty specific genre of music that is not that popular in South Florida, and I used to always say, um, oh, I'm gonna have to um meet somebody out of state because I can't meet anybody here, and then I would say, No, you cannot say that because you're gonna manifest difficulty dating in Florida. But, anyways, I don't want to give it away, but I imported him from Seattle. Um so we switched from Insight Timer, I think, to Facebook Messenger, and we were talking for a while that way, and then we had our first phone call, which we were very, very, very nervous.

Tim:

Yeah, I remember um we each came prepared with a list of questions.

Amy:

Oh my god. That is very used.

Tim:

Like, like I was like, you know, I want this call to go great. Like uh, you know, just uh I remember we had notebooks and we I don't recall. You know, it was uh ended up being a three hour, three hour conversation, I think. The first phone call.

Amy:

I don't I I remember the Skype. I don't remember that one.

Tim:

Yeah, but we we just really remember it. We just really hit it off, you know, from from the first you know time we we spoke on the phone. But yeah, I think even before that we started sending audio messages because that's how we heard each other's voices through through uh Facebook Messenger.

Amy:

Oh, that's so cute. So then we decided um, okay, thing things are going well, let's Skype, because it's not like it was that long ago. It was 2017, but I feel like Skype is archaic too.

Tim:

Skype is out of business.

Amy:

Well, we owe a lot to Skype. So, anyways, um, we decided to set up for our first Skype. The first hour of our first Skype, I don't even think we made a logical sentence. We were just like, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. And uh that was a five-hour session. I do remember that. I never had any conversation with anybody that lasted that long. And um so things were going really well, and so we decided we needed to meet each other.

Tim:

I remember um the thing that was crazy about the Skype, I just want to kind of mention on this, was you know, we just it'd all been pictures and texts and audio, so like just seeing each other like in live, you know, we're 3,000 miles across the country, and so it just it started becoming more real and more real. And so the next step after talking on the phone, Skyping was meeting, and so we I think it was in September.

Amy:

Well, of course it was in September, that's it.

Tim:

Yeah, I just I think I remember I said November originally.

Amy:

Yeah, because there was a concert and I was like, Are you crazy?

Tim:

So way too far away. We uh, you know, so two months uh after first talking, yeah, we're you know, planning to meet. And so um, you know, I book a flight for September 7th. I mean, was it the seventh, yeah. And so it was right around the time for news to me of a hurricane coming through Florida.

Amy:

News to me also, because I don't watch the news because I don't need that negativity in my life. And uh, you know, that that that the news are always these scare tactics and trying to get people all worked up, so I don't let them make me nervous. But in this instance, probably I should have. So it was a few days before Tim was set to come, and I was like, I'm gonna go get a pedicure. And the news was on at the nail salon, and they're saying if you live in our area here in South Florida, you have to evacuate. And I was like, oh God, this is really happening. I'm like, okay, wake up, like, no more fairy tale dream. Like, you gotta get the kids and you gotta evacuate. So it was horrible. I I have a wonderful friend, this part's not horrible. I have a wonderful friend, Patty, who had a um condo up in, I think it was Sugar Mountain in North Carolina. And she was always like, Amy, anytime you want to stay there, you know, just pay the cleaning fee, go up anytime. So I'm like, Patty, um, you know, I am petrified. Can I evacuate and go bring the kids and the cats up to North Carolina? And so, of course, she said yes. And then I had to make the phone call and um let Tim know that uh this wonderful meeting was just not gonna happen. And I was so heartbroken and um really, really, really upset. So I um, but I had to just do what was best for me and for my kids and my cats. And so we canceled the trip um because Tim wouldn't have been able to fly in anyway. And so I contacted my ex-husband and um because we were very amicable, he was gonna watch the children while Tim was coming here for five days. So I let him know I was gonna evacuate with the kids, and he said no, he would prefer to take them to his mom's, who also lived in North Carolina. So then I'm on my own evacuating with my three cats, and then we look at Tim's ticket to fly here.

Tim:

Yeah, yeah. So, you know, this is all happening. I'm 3,000 miles away. Hurricanes aren't on my radar for even like I just didn't understand how it all worked. You know, living, you know, in Seattle, that wasn't a problem that we dealt with. And so, you know, I look at my ticket, like I we hadn't officially canceled it. It was like we canceled it with each other, but not, you know, through the you know, tickets and flights and all that. And so we looked at it and it was in North Carolina, the the place that she was evacuating to. And so I called the airline and you know, it was like, hey, you know, there's a hurricane. Is there any way I can switch my flight? My layover is you know exactly where I would like to be. And after you know, dealing with like, hey, can I speak to the manager? The first person turned me down, and then I don't remember any of this. Yeah. It wasn't easy.

Amy:

I thought you just took the first part and abandoned ship.

Tim:

No.

Amy:

Oh yeah.

Tim:

Tell me more, Tim. And so I had to, you know, deal with some, you know, pushback, even though I could have just done that, but I didn't, you know, I didn't cancel the whole thing.

Amy:

Yeah.

Tim:

Yeah, I don't know.

Amy:

It was so I he's a rule follower.

Tim:

I'm the rebel. And so uh, yeah, it all worked out, and I was able to land um, you know, where Amy was gonna be staying in the same, like, you know, a couple hours away.

Amy:

Yeah, yeah. So evacuation day comes, and um, I was going to be picking Tim up from the airport the next day. And so I got my kids with their dad, who happened to not be ready to take them until the afternoon, which put a little glitch in my system. So normally what should be, oh, I don't even know. I I don't know why I'm looking at you. I think an 11 or 12 hour drive. It was a 17-hour drive because everybody was evacuating. There was no gas. So it was me and the three cats and their carriers in the backseat. And um, I am not, do you remember what time your flight was? I think it was like around one o'clock that I was like landing. Landing, yeah, in Charlotte. And so um so I'm driving, it's becomes nightfall. I still have a long way to go, and I'm very clear that I cannot stop anywhere because I was very tired. Maybe get a hotel, sleep, and then keep going in the morning. That wasn't gonna be an option because I wouldn't have been able to pick him up. So every hour on the hour I pulled, well, when there was an exit, I pulled off, parked in a hotel parking lot, so I felt safe. I would take a 10-minute nap, get back on the road, and I did that all night until it became light out again. So I finally get to the base of the mountain, and this is, you know, very uh small town, North Carolina, everybody's very trusting. So there's a real estate office, and that's where I'm supposed to pick up my key to get into the condo. Um and they have just one of those little like mailboxes that's affixed to a wall that you just lift a little flap. And so I open the flap and there is no key after driving 17 hours. And so I called my friend Patty, and I'm like, oh my God, Patty, there's no key. What do I do? And she goes, she didn't live there. And she goes, I don't know, I only use a property manager. So I ended up finding an 800 number. Within an hour, somebody came and let me in. So I had to unload the cats, the car. I slept for 45 minutes, took a shower, got on the road to pick up this guy, and uh I've been talking a while. You wanna keep going?

Tim:

Yeah, so I'm not you know, I'm just making this easy flight across the US, you know, and meanwhile, Amy's just haggard, just pushing and struggling just to, you know, make, you know, make it, you know, I I would have been fine waiting, you know. I but it's an option at that time.

Amy:

This was very exciting.

Tim:

But uh so you know, I land, you know, no issues, no struggles, just a regular old flight. But I remember landing, and you know, then that's when things started to get really, you know, I'm like, all right, we're about to meet for the very first time, you know, this is this is something else, you know. And and I remember stopping at a water fountain. I think I might have taken a video of myself saying, like, this is me, you know, right before meeting Amy for the first time. Like there's a video somewhere. Oh, yeah. And just, you know, then, you know, popping in a piece of gum and then heading down the escalator. And and then I feel like Amy was at doing the same thing, you know, or no, she was coming from a different side.

Amy:

Yeah. So he picked he was coming down one escalator to the baggage claim, and I chose a different, not wrong, but different escalator. And if there's one thing, if I could go back in my life, I'll probably change a lot of different things, but for sure I would have had a videography crew filming this because we both were at the bottom of the escalators on the two sides of baggage claim in the Charlotte Airport. And then we just saw each other from afar and we just met in the middle. And I I didn't know was this a friendly meeting? And then he just laid one right on me, really good one. And uh, that was very exciting. And then we were so we were so nervous, we had to sit in baggage claim for over an hour. We were just like shaking. We couldn't walk. We could we were it it was like the emotion was unbelievable before we could even um exit the airport.

Tim:

Yeah, it was it was because everything was screen-based up until this moment. Everything was was, you know, digital. And so to it was like, you know, just like something you see, you know, maybe like meeting like a celebrity, but different. But better. And and so, you know, we just really, really just were shaken up, you know, in a great way that that it took a little while for for like the nerves to come down and for us to just start, you know, start hanging out.

Amy:

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I remember we w, I don't remember the name of the restaurant, but um, shout out to my friends Sarah and Jerry because they took me there one time before. There was a vegan restaurant um in Charlotte, and we had our first meal together, and I was so nervous eating in front of him, and yeah, just so nervous about everything. It was a very nerve-wracking but awesome experience. So our first date was five days long. Don't judge. We stayed together. And um, and it was on in the condo, and it was um the greatest. It was the greatest until the day before when I realized that it was going to end, and there was um what's next? We live 3,000 miles away. So you remember we were out to lunch, and what did we do? Do you remember? You don't remember we played roses and thorns. Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah. So Tim taught me this game, Roses and Thorns, where you share one great thing in your life and one sad thing in your life.

Tim:

Or one thing that's going well and one thing you're struggling with.

Amy:

Tomato tomato. Anywho. Um, and so when it was, I I honestly don't remember yours. I'm do you remember yours? Well, I remember mine, and I think my rose was like the how great this was, but then I started crying, and um, I was just so upset because all of my energy, and I'm a think aheader, but I think this was so exciting I forgot to think ahead. And all of a sudden it's like this went great, and now what? And I remember um just being really upset and call us crazy, but Tim was like what you said.

Tim:

Yeah, so I forgot it was this was part of the roses and thorns. Shout out to uh our friend Lisa, um she's the one who got me on the roses and thorns. I remember hanging out with her and uh with her and her husband Pete. Really, really good little uh conversation starter. Or you know, just gets a lot of a lot of good things that come from that. So I you know, I I I'm an impulsive person, not as impulsive as I was then. I'd grown, you know, that was eight years ago. And so I just remember saying, I'll just move down here. You know, like we've we've known each other for two months. And uh I was living in Seattle, and I had been there for seven years at that point, you know, it was 2017. I moved there in 2000, about almost seven years. And you know, just a natural, it felt natural, didn't feel like I was forcing anything, rushing anything, you know, even though, you know, if you look at it on paper, it's very fast.

Amy:

Yeah, when you know, you know.

Tim:

Yeah, and so we, you know, it was kind of decided there, you know, on a whim. It worked out. Here we are, you know, eight years later.

Amy:

Very much in love.

Tim:

But we uh, you know, it just all happened without making without forcing or thinking if just kind of you know we felt our way through it, which you know sometimes can backfire, but sometimes, you know, we took it we took a risk.

Amy:

We took a great risk and no regrets, no regrets. So we had, oh you're so cute. Um, so we had two months late, long distance, it can be done, but it is very chat, it was very challenging to have somebody face to face, and then all of a sudden you just have them through a screen after. I just wanted to crack that screen open and just grab you out. Um, so we had our next date in Seattle. I went to Seattle and stayed there for five days, and that went amazingly as well.

Tim:

Yeah, that was that was um, you know, uh interesting because the first time we met, it was in a like a neutral setting where she didn't really know the area that well. I didn't know the area at all. Um, you know, so now we're you know, next the next thing, and it was like the balls in my court, and so I just remember really um getting excited, excited to plan and and just come up with, you know, uh I remember getting like it was like a Sunday after work. I was working for a computer repair uh online company with uh my roommate Ben at the time. Shout out to Ben and Amelia, and so you know, I remember it was a Sunday, you know. Maybe I was working on the weekend and just really sitting down and like spending like three hours coming up with this epic, you know, itinerary of just options. It wasn't itinerary and we, you know, it just another like successful, just uh very you know, just another an effortless kind of experience of spending time together.

Amy:

Yep, 100%. And then we had another two-month break, and then you flew out and met the kids finally, and that was that was in December. That was in December, right after Christmas, and so we had another good week then, and then at that point you went back to Seattle and sold most of your possessions and you're out here by February.

Tim:

Yeah.

Amy:

And that's it. That that is the story of how we met. And um the odds of us meeting are pretty much zero percent.

Tim:

Like, can you imagine on this little tiny oh it's so scary to think about if we hadn't downloaded that app, I can't even shout out to for me, uh 10% happier than the the podcast is where I heard it because I was really into meditation, which I still am. And he was he mentioned the app, and that's how I found out about it.

Amy:

Yeah. I don't know how I found out about it, but I am so glad I did that. It was uh extremely life-changing. So, anyways, that that's the story of how we met, and um our future episodes are gonna be uh things that we've done to keep this relationship thriving, which I would say it it's definitely at 100% thrive level.

Tim:

Yeah, we were thinking about different uh themes, and some themes are more like practical day-to-day stuff. How like what do we do day to day, and some are more broad, whether it's like uh more general things about just how we've come this far in our relationship.

Amy:

Yeah, it's gonna be fun, it's gonna be exciting. Um, but I thought we could have a little fun right now as we wrap up our first episode and um maybe play a little round of would you rather?

Tim:

Okay.

Amy:

Okay. So I actually asked Chat GPT ahead of time. And how about I haven't seen these yet? I will read the question, but you go first for the first one. We'll do five of them. Um, so for anybody that knows us, and if you don't know us, we will learn quickly. We are obsessed with Disney. But we didn't become obsessed until we Yeah, we we we became obsessed together. We were not individually obsessed. We have grown this love together, and it is just kids are not involved.

Tim:

No, kids are not involved in this.

Amy:

The kids are not involved because they don't want to be. They have been invited, make us sound terrible. Um the children don't really want to go. So when um my kids, Star and Phoenix, are with their dad. Uh, well, Star is actually 19 and has her own place now, but we go then.

Tim:

And Phoenix is 16. He's 16. He had a phase where he was into it.

Amy:

Oh, those were the days he and I would take solo trips, and it was so magical. But anywho, back to would you rather? So, Tim, would you rather eat Mickey pretzels every day or never eat a dole whip again?

Tim:

I'd have to eat Mickey pretzels every day.

Amy:

What? Oh okay. I oh, I really like dole whips, but I would choose to never eat a dole whip again because the carbs in a Mickey pretzel every day. Um I'm on a quest to be more thin.

Tim:

Mickey pretzels are vegan. And I uh I uh I'm 99% vegan, which isn't really vegan. So I I try. You are very, very Mickey pretzels are vegan, so that's why.

Amy:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Tim:

They're good.

Amy:

Okay, so I'll answer the next one first. But would you rather spend a whole day at Magic Kingdom or a romantic evening at Epcot? Oh god. That one is so hard. I think my answer changes from time to time depending on which park. Oh gosh, which park. Um there's a cat that is infiltrating on the side. Do not drink my water. Esther, do not knock over our equipment. At this moment, I would choose a day at Magic Kingdom. I love it. Um I love it. It's just so cute. How about you, Tim?

Tim:

I uh my first thought is so the romantic uh evening at Epcot, I think that'd be my choice.

Amy:

Yeah.

Tim:

Because you know, it's just um a nice place to be and I know.

Amy:

It's the park we go to most.

Tim:

You know, there's just a lot of good food and you know, a lot of there's always some festival happening, and you can just eat a lot of different food.

Amy:

And it's chill. Everywhere's chill though that we go. We um we're past holders, so we don't feel the pressure to do things, so we just sit and we take it in and enjoy each other. Okay.

Tim:

Oh god.

Amy:

Would you rather get stuck on it's a small world or haunted mansion?

Tim:

I I I I mean, I've no we we've gotten stuck in a haunted mansion a lot, and it is not fun. I think it's a small world, it's a lot more spacious. And uh we have gotten, I think we've gotten stuck on both actually.

Amy:

But I remember mildly stuck on small world.

Tim:

But small world, I'll choose small world.

Amy:

Oh. Esther, I'm sorry, our cats are fighting. Okay, it's okay. Oh no, oh no, oh no, oh no. Stop it, Esther. Stop it. Um, okay. Uh fun fact, I am claustrophobic and I have had panic attacks on Haunted Mansion when we have um when we okay, okay, okay, kitties. When, oh boy. Somebody didn't tell a cast to behave. Um, I would much rather get stuck on It's a Small World for sure. Um, do you think that's enough fun facts, actually? Because I don't want to take too long on this. But yeah. So, anyways, thank you everybody for tuning in to our very first episode. Um, we super appreciate you taking the time to join us. And we hope that you will love this podcast and listen to all of our future podcasts.

Tim:

Yeah, we will have this on uh Spotify and anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. You know, we're gonna be this will be distributed on all of them, you know, all the major ones for sure. And then also on YouTube at Our Life is a honeymoon, the channel.

Amy:

And um you can follow us on Facebook or Instagram, and that is our life is a honeymoon official. So you can follow us there. And if you have any questions, we would love your questions. We will answer them on the air. Um, and you can email us at our life is a honeymoon official at gmail.com. And if you want to support us by buying us a Mickey pretzel, you can do so by going on buy me a coffee slash our life is a honeymoon, and you can buy us a Mickey pretzel.

Tim:

I believe it's buy us buymea coffee.com slash our life is a honeymoon.

Amy:

Try a few ways if yeah, we're new. Yeah, yeah.

Tim:

And so I think that's about it for this episode.

Amy:

I think it sure is. Good job, honey.

Tim:

All right, all right, yeah. Good job. All right, all right, see you.

Amy:

Okay, bye, everybody.