Ep 16 - Balancing Masculine & Feminine Energy in Relationships

This week on The Charmed Life Project, we’re diving into one of the most transformative conversations we’ve ever had on the podcast — the energetic dynamics that shape our relationships, why attraction thrives on polarity, and how to bring harmony back to partnerships that feel disconnected or imbalanced.

But first, as always, Gina brings you a powerful energy update for the week ahead — and let’s just say… it’s a big one.
We’re talking:

🌿 Relationships & Values
💸 Security, Money & Routine Shifts
🌙 Dreams Becoming Structure
⚡ Unexpected Wake-Up Calls
🌍 Why Grounding Is Absolutely Essential Right Now

✨ THEN… We Dive Into the Heart of Today’s Episode:

A couple episodes ago, we explored the Law of Gender, the inner balance of masculine and feminine energies we all hold.
But today?
We take that concept deeper — into real relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

💛 Why relationships thrive when one partner leads with the masculine and the other with the feminine
💛 Why too much sameness kills attraction
💛 How polarity creates chemistry, connection, and emotional safety
💛 What healthy masculine and healthy feminine energy actually look like in real life
💛 The communication patterns that predict divorce with 97.5% accuracy (yes, really!)
💛 Why women need adoration and men need admiration — and how this changes everything
💛 How to talk to your partner without triggering defensiveness
💛 What to do when the feminine turns into the “nagging wife” and the masculine shuts down
💛 How modern couples navigate polarity when both people work, hustle, and lead

We also open up our personal lives in ways we haven’t before — from the systems Kim uses to avoid becoming the nagging wife, to how Gina and her fiancé stay connected during conflict, to the tiny language shifts that instantly change the energy in a disagreement.

💘 Dating? We’ve got you too.

If you’re single, don’t worry — we dedicated a whole segment to:

• Why planning every date is over-masculine energy
• What to do if you’re constantly initiating
• How to tell instantly if someone is not your person
• Why you should never, ever chase masculine energy

Plus, a classic book recommendation that changed both of our dating lives.

✨ This episode will challenge you, inspire you, and give you tools you can use TODAY.

Whether you’re married, dating, healing, or calling in love — this one goes deep.

If you’ve ever wondered:
 Why does communication feel so hard? Why does attraction fade? Why do we repeat the same arguments? Why does one tiny shift in energy change everything?
…this episode is the roadmap.

Tune in to learn how to create a relationship where:

💛 The masculine says “I’ve got you.”
 💛 The feminine says “I trust you.”
 💛 And together, the energy becomes magnetic.

Hit play — your relationship (and your inner balance) will thank you.

Transcript

Speaker: 1:46

Hi guys. I'm Gina Scapino, psychic, medium and spiritual life coach. Here is your energy update for the week ahead. We have some big themes. We have relationships and values, security and resources, dreams into structure. Unexpected wake-ups and grounding is paramount. As we look at all of these. Themes that are coming into the week, you can see that it's a hefty week. It's hefty. It got a lot going on. So with relationships and values, I want you to think about, are my relationships aligned with what I deeply value? Am I honoring my worth? Am I building something that lasts rather than chasing novelty? With security and resources awakening a new awakening around what makes you feel safe, and this has to do with money, home body routines, some shift could happen, an insight, a decision, maybe even something external. Prompting this change. And then when we look at dreams into structure, things you've been reflecting on or postponing could now start to move. Hallelujah. I've been waiting for this. This is a good week to get practical about your vision and what is your next step? So let's talk about unexpected wake up calls, shall we? Because something that you thought was super solid might show some cracks. This is actually an opportunity that's going to appear out of the blue. Now, your mantra for this is flexibility is key. So if you come across something that you thought was super solid and you're starting to see the cracks, or your rose colored glasses are coming off. Be flexible. This is here to help you and to guide you. Do not run away. All right? And with grounding, because of all of these shifts, your body, your routines, your self care, sleep, nourishment. All of that matter, way more right now. The energies will feel stronger if your foundation is super shaky. So ground yourself, be present, and really, really take care of yourself. So here's your mantra. I release the noise and return to my center. My choices are guided, my timing is divine. What's meant for me will find me because I am finally still enough to receive it.

Speaker 2: 4:17

Hey everyone. Welcome back to the Charmed Life Project. A couple episodes back, we explored the law of gender, and we talked all about the importance of balancing both the masculine and feminine energies within ourselves. Because to live a truly aligned life, we need both the structure and direction of the masculine and the flow and intuition of the feminine. But today we're going to take it one step further. Into the realm of relationships where that inner balance shifts into a shared balance, a dance between two souls, while each person holds both energies within them, harmony in a partnership happens when one leads primarily with the masculine and the other with the feminine. It's that polarity, the contrast between energies that creates attraction, chemistry, and emotional flow. It's what fosters that magnetic tension that keeps things alive and vibrant between two people. Without it, relationships can start to feel flat or disconnected because here's the truth. Too much sameness kills attraction. When two people are both sitting in masculine energy, you'll see a lot of power struggles, constant clashing competition and the need to control outcomes. And when both are too much in their feminine, it can feel confusing. There's indecision, lack of direction, and no one really leading the way forward. But when one partner is grounded in their healthy masculine, the energy of presence. Safety direction and structure, and the other is open in their feminine. The flowing, nurturing, inspiring, and expressive energy. That's where the magic happens. The masculine creates the structure and the feminine fills that structure with life and softness. Each energy brings out the best in the other. That's when chemistry feels effortless. Communication fill deeper, and both people feel seen and appreciated for who they are. So today we're diving into how to cultivate that balance, not just within ourselves as we did on the Law of Gender episode, but between two people. We're going to tell you how to actually create that energetic harmony since it is the foundation for deep lasting love. Now, Gina has a lot of experience coaching her clients through these concepts, so I'm really going to lean into her wisdom for this one. And while I'm not a relationship coach myself, I've done some research of my own, which has led to some insights that I'm excited to share as well. So Gina, maybe you could start by telling us what the healthy, masculine and healthy feminine relationships look like. I think we could all benefit from hearing some real world examples of what this looks like when two partners are leading with their natural energies.

Speaker: 7:00

Today we're diving into what it feels like when the energies between two people stop competing and start co-creating. I'm gonna first talk about what it's like when it's in balance, and then, we're gonna get into the thick of it and talk about when it's not in balance. So understanding the balance, a healthy, energetic relationship isn't about gender, it's about polarity. The divine masculine holds the container. Presence, direction, structure and safety. The divine feminine flows within the container. Intuition, creativity, emotion, sensuality. When balanced, one doesn't overpower the other. The masculine says, I've got you. And the feminine says, I trust you. And together that creates energetic union. So what it feels like in real life examples. There's emotional safety. You can express your feelings without fear of being dismissed. This is a huge one. There's direction and flow. One partner may take the lead with grounded vision while the other brings depth, color, and heart. There's respect of polarity. If one is in chaos, the other anchors. If one is overdoing the other softens. It's not 50 50 every day. It's an intuitive dance, just like Kim said, where the energy shifts depending on what's needed. So if she's spiraling in emotion, he doesn't try to fix her, and he stays present. He's lost in overthinking. She doesn't criticize. She reminds him to feel that's balance in motion.

Speaker 2: 8:40

There is a way to maintain that positive balance, and it really comes down to two things Women need adoration and men need admiration. I found this over and over again as I was doing my research. So men need admiration. They need to feel trusted, respected, and appreciated for what they do. The quickest way to a man's heart isn't through. Cooking or sex. Contrary to popular belief, it's through praise. So instead of only offering love through caretaking, which is what a lot of women do to show their love. Mm-hmm. If you really want him to feel your love, you have to verbalize your appreciation for both his effort and his presence. This is how you really. Speak directly to his core. Saying things like, I love how you took care of that. You're amazing at your job. I know I can trust you. And then on the flip side, the feminine thrives when she feels seen and cherished. She doesn't want to be loved for what she does. She wants to be loved for who she is. And the quickest way to a woman's heart is not about complimenting her performance, it's about seeing the beauty in her essence. I love hearing what's on your mind. You make this house feel alive. You light up the room. You're stunning when you're passionate about something. When a woman feels adored, she softens. She becomes more expressive, creative, nurturing, radiant. All of those feminine qualities really are magnetized, but without adoration, she starts feeling unseen or like she has to earn love, which pushes her back into doing, into her mass. Skill. So just remembering that men want to do, women want to be, men want to feel appreciated for what they do. Women want to feel appreciated simply for being. And you know, of course that's back to that men are from Mars, women are from Venus, right? Yeah. Of course we need and want to totally different things. But my question for you is how do we manage this in today's time? Because. To me, this sounds like typical gender roles, but mm-hmm. We have moved away from that so much as a society. I mean, if you are a mother, if you have kids and you also have a job, odds are you are doing a lot. Some women may feel like they're doing more than their husband. Okay? Mm-hmm. And obviously this dynamic and this mindset is going to bring out the worst in both because. The woman is not going to be praising the man for what he's doing when she feels like she's doing more, and the man is not going to be admiring the woman because. Let's face it, her light is really dim when she's doing so much, and when that loop breaks down, when she stops showing appreciation and he stops offering adoration, everything starts to close off. So how can we balance this in a real life way when this dynamic is at play in so many relationships?

Speaker: 11:50

Okay, so first I also have to add this in for some of our listeners when we're talking about male and female relationships, or the masculine role and the feminine role, it is not just with him and her. Yes. Pronouns. So when we're talking about this, and you can just plug this in when we're talking about this, when we're talking about the masculine role. In the feminine role that can be with any gender or any identification. Mm-hmm. And you will know who's the masculine role and who's the morph. Feminine role. It doesn't matter who you are, there's always one in the relationship hands down. So you decipher which one is which. But to manage this or balance this in today's society, it really does have to be a dance between the two people. Like in my situation, my fiance Nick, he has a full-time job. He's super crazy masculine, which I love, but also I'm an entrepreneur and a business owner myself, so I'm in my masculine a ton. But if you were to see me, you'd be like, oh my God, she's so feminine. Right? But I have to really work on keeping my. Masculine balanced with my feminine because of what I do for a living on a daily basis. Mm-hmm. And so in thinking about these roles, what you really have to focus is on your two tips that you just gave us. And that's how you really manage it. If the feminine entity is feeling like they're doing too much in their relationship, then they have to use their masculine energy to voice it. Mm-hmm. And say, Hey, this is what's going on. So this is what it can look like with the unhealthy dynamic. So when energies are distorted, the wounded masculine controls criticizes or withdraws, I take full ownership that I can get into my masculine and try to control and criticize, and I do withdraw like a hundred percent. Mm-hmm. I go super introverted. The wounded feminine manipulates overgive play small. You'll feel power struggles shut, downs, and emotional exhaustion. Instead of polarity, you will get polarity flipping. The energy's constantly fighting for dominance. So healing begins when both people learn to self-regulate their own polarity before bringing it into a relationship. And you guys, that is so key to understanding yourself, learning to balance the feminine and the masculine. For all the people out there that get all of their information on TikTok, wipe it all clean. This is the one thing that you need to focus on. Masculine heals through integrity and stillness. And feminine heels through expression and surrender. I'm gonna say that one more time. Masculine heal through integrity and stillness and feminine heels through expression and surrender. And here's the thing. As a woman, I've had to heal both my masculine and my feminine. And so when you're an intuitive person, you're more than likely not gonna be wounded in just one side or the other. There's gonna be wounds in both. So dive into both and balance both. So on communication and relationships, we're gonna dive super deep into this because when you are in a relationship, the balance of masculine and feminine for me is so tough because I feel every single shift of slight energy and it perks me up and I'm like. Okay, where do I have to be rebalance? I'm constantly rebalancing, constantly looking at my relationship and evaluating do I need to bring more feminine? Do I need to bring more masculine? Okay, so if a disagreement happens, one partner shuts down and the other spirals emotionally too much masculine, shuts down vulnerability. Too much feminine floods the space with emotion. How many people have experienced this so many times? Right? So when it's balanced, one person grounds the space. Let's take a breath. I'm listening while the other opens up emotionally. Here's what I'm feeling. I'm not blaming that Sacred polarity and action structure and softness in working together and. As I'm thinking about this, I'm also thinking about the Gottman's because they are the world's relationship experts. I've read a couple of their books. I love how they teach. I actually have two more of their books in my cart right now because as Nicholas and I are getting ready to get married and focus on our relationship. We really want to make sure our bond is strong. And they really teach us a lot of great principles. And Kim, I know you love the Gottman's too, don't you?

Speaker 2: 17:13

I actually had never heard of them. Um, so it's ing No way. I know I sent my notes to you and I said that I was gonna bring'em up because you had mentioned it on the Law of Gender episode and I had never heard of them. But of course once I started, researching relationships and the balance of energies and all of that, they came up. Mm-hmm. Over and over and over again. Oh yeah. Um, but I will say like one of the biggest. Things that I kept seeing and it just makes so much sense. Was they call it the four horsemen of the apocalypse? Mm-hmm. Which is basically their research that shows that they can predict divorce with 97.5% accuracy. 97.5% accuracy. They can determine just from talking to a couple if they're going to get divorced or not. And it's based, oh my God. On, yeah, so, so everybody listen up. We all need to hear this. It's based on four communication patterns in marriage, and those four are criticism. Stonewalling contempt and defensiveness. And if you really break those down, this is what I found so interesting. They are the opposite of adoration and admiration. So if you look at ah, yeah, if you look at criticism, which we know of course is most common in females. This is the opposite of admiration, If you're critiquing someone, you are certainly not admiring them, right?

Speaker: 18:42

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2: 18:43

And then stonewalling, which is, withdraw, you're not even in the argument. You're just totally ignoring the other person. And this is most common in men. And of course, what's the opposite of adoring something? Totally ignoring it, right? And then we have contempt, which is superiority. You know, I'm better than you kind of communication. Mm-hmm. And obviously if you're feeling you like you're superior to someone, you're definitely not admiring or adoring them. And then defensiveness, which. I wanna talk about this one a little bit more because this was also something that kept coming up in the masculine feminine conversation around relationships. Mm-hmm. Um, you know, one of the key ingredients in a healthy balance is that the feminine expresses without blaming. And this is key because the feminine is expressive, that energy is expressive. She needs to express and. She needs to feel emotionally safe to do so, but she has to find a way to do it without it coming across as blame. The masculine needs to be able to listen without needing to fix, which is hard because they want to do right? Mm-hmm. But you can't do something maybe about something that's already happened. Right. You can't go back and fix it. And that's where their frustration comes in because they can't do anything. Mm-hmm. And this is of course, where most men become defensive. They take it as a personal attack, they shut down. And their defensiveness then triggers the woman back into their masculine to either fix the disconnect or, you know, fight it out. Yeah. But. It's really, the feminine wanting to share her feelings and to be heard. They don't want the man to do anything in this case. They just want them to hear them, to see them. So I think this is obviously where a lot of relationships go off track, and it's probably the majority of what, they talk about in therapy and counseling, how to talk to each other without getting defensive, without blaming. And we see this a lot. I mean, there's that nagging wife persona, like we see that all the time where men feel like they're constantly being micromanaged, constantly being mm-hmm. Critiqued. But of course, what's really needed in these moments is the feminine. To be emotionally open and lead with expression saying, I feel, and the masculine responding just with presence. I hear you. What do you need from me right now? Yeah, and the answer to that is typically nothing. Just listen, just hear me. Just see me appreciate what I have to say.

Speaker: 21:32

That is such a classic scenario of the nagging feminine. Mm-hmm. The nagging feminine gets to that point because the masculine goes to feminine. Okay. Mm-hmm. So, riddle me this, so the nagging feminine happens because the masculine has gone into the feminine and has stopped taking divine action, has stopped giving that attention, has stopped giving that admiration, and stop giving all of that energy towards the feminine. So then the feminine goes into masculine and is like, hello. I'm still here. Take care of me. Pay attention to me. And that is such a classic scenario of the woman's complaining that, or the feminines complaining that the masculine isn't doing enough and the masculine is like, just leave me alone. And it's this secular thing that you really have to pay attention to and also choose the right partner that wants to keep the balance with you. Mm-hmm.

Speaker 2: 22:41

It's funny because, even in, like the damsel and distress archetype Yeah. There's something to that because. It's not about being weak, but it is about allowing a man to feel needed, like when he gets to step up and save the day, what's really happening underneath is that he's feeling respected and effective. And so a lot of times in those situations, if you can come at it from that perspective of. I feel this way and this, however something is affecting you, and giving him the opportunity then to come in and save the day as well. Mm-hmm. Right? Instead of just, you do this, you do that, it's really a language change and it changes everything.

Speaker: 23:33

Mm-hmm. Yeah. Because if you look at a scenario of, say, a disagreement. Between the feminine, and the masculine, you all are having a disagreement. Instead of voicing your feelings, you say, oh my God, I can't believe you did that. That makes me feel so disrespected. That sounds kind of like what you should do, but not at all whatsoever. Mm-hmm. Instead say, and this is something that Nicholas and I try to practice often is handholding through conflict. And I admit I'm not the best about this. He helps me tremendously.'cause I'm like, ah. So we try to. When we have a disagreement or have a discussion through conflict, we try to sit down and hold hands so that we stay connected because I have a tendency of it's me against you. Like I automatically go to that place. But if we sit down and we hold hands, and instead of saying, you did this and it made me feel this way. Instead say, Hey honey, I'm feeling really scared right now. I'm feeling lonely and I'm feeling like I need some reassurance from you that's gonna land a lot different than, oh my God, you did this thing and I feel lonely. I feel effed up like I'm inside my head. Like, that's a completely different energy than going into your heart center and actually sharing how you're feeling. Instead of saying, this thing made me feel this way.

Speaker 2: 25:16

Yeah, absolutely. You

Speaker: 25:18

can voice that later on in discussion, but at first it has to be really from that heart space.

Speaker 2: 25:25

Yeah. And there's something to that about the way you open an argument or a disagreement or a conversation is gonna set the tone for it. So I think, a lot of times we have a tendency, or the feminine has a tendency to, in the moment. Go off on whatever is in her mind and whatever she's thinking, but really taking a breath and thinking to yourself, okay, when is the best time to approach this? Maybe it's not, right after he gets home from work, you know, maybe it's not, Certain times when you know that he's more stressed out or not very open. When is the best time to talk about this? And also, how can I open this what's that first sentence going to be outta my mouth that I can open this in a way that he will be receptive to hear it, as opposed to just closing down right off the bat. I also have problems with that, but I've, you know, I've, I've realized it over, however many years of marriage that. It really is all about how you start it. And if you keep that in mind that again, a man's most basic core need is to be admired, it really does mean that you have to be careful with your words. You know, you do have to come at it a certain way where you're not doing the opposite of.

Speaker: 26:41

Absolutely you do. Something that comes to mind in relationships that really throws masculine and feminine out of balance is decision making. Mm-hmm. Okay. So like, girl, I'm 40 years old. I'm engaged, I'm getting ready to get married. That means that I've had like all this time to be by myself, do what I want, when I wanna do it, all of the things, right? Mm-hmm. Nick is super masculine. And when making decisions, I have to really, this is something that I've worked on personally. I have to really let him take the lead on decision making and. Or appreciate where he's coming from, more so on decision making, you know, and so this really comes up for me in, in personal responsibility. I wanted to add this, I lost my thought a moment ago, but I wanna add this. It's thought process of personal responsibility for the feminine entity. So for the feminine, if there's something going on in your relationship and you're feeling it,'cause you're gonna feel it first before the masculine, like bottom line, if you're feeling it and you automatically go to criticizing or blaming the other person for what's happening in your relationship. You got it all wrong, sister. Sister Mr. You got it all wrong. You have to take personal responsibility because the feminine is gonna feel it first, and then it's an opportunity for you to alter it right then and there for you to take an action step towards balancing it. Because the feminine is the heart center and they do control the relationship. Mm-hmm. They control everything.

Speaker 2: 28:33

Yeah. It's like that Gandhi, quote, be the change you want to see in the world. You do have to take that first step. If your relationship is falling apart, if you guys are not communicating well, all of these things are going on. There is this aspect of having to swallow your pride. You can see the bigger picture. Yeah. You know, men really, they are able to compartmentalize a lot more than women. We see all the boxes connected, right? So what do you really want? You want your marriage to survive. You want to have a loving relationship, so you have to put that foot forward. Don't necessarily expect for the man to do that and. When you do, when you go, okay, I know what his most basic need is. Mm-hmm. I'm going to fulfill that, even though I don't feel like it right now,'cause he's pissed me off. Mm-hmm. Once you do, then you'll find very quickly that he starts fulfilling your needs as well, because that opens him back up and that's what's most important. I was gonna mention, Some of the things that we do in our relationship because I'm right there with you. And I don't know that I really realized this until we started talking about the law of gender, but I am deeply in my masculine energy as well. And I think that's because I like systems, you know, I like developing the same, it's like a creative outlet for me, and yes. Yeah. So like if everything in my life, if I could systemize it all, simplify it all, like create routines and streamline every single obligation, every task, everything, all of it. That idea to me is. So exciting. Like I love that.

Speaker: 30:12

I'm same girl. My brain is a system. I have systems for freaking everything. Yes. And it works, and it's foolproof and it's perfect.

Speaker 2: 30:20

So get in line,

Speaker: 30:21

right? Yes.

Speaker 2: 30:23

Yeah. Well, my husband is the complete opposite of this, which we've talked about that before, but yeah, he's. Go with the flow. He wants spontaneity, he wants variety. He wants every day to look different and to have choices every day. And he's much more like reactive to life in my mind, than proactive about things He'd probably say different than, you know. Mm-hmm. But that's my interpretation of it. Yeah. Um, whereas I have a tendency of thinking if I am not ahead of the ball. A ball is going to drop. Like I have to anticipate and I've gotta have a plan in place. and Kyle just thinks everything's gonna work out. Everything's gonna be fine. You know, there's no need to worry about anything ahead of time. We'll deal with it when it comes. And I commend that there's, that's honestly a great way to be in life. But I do fear if we both came with that energy. Our life would just turn into complete chaos,, would just blow up. That's, really what I think would happen. But so here's a few things and our marriage is obviously not perfect. Nobody's is. But a couple of things that I learned along the way where I can. Take a step with my masculine, yes. But in order to then be in my feminine a majority of the time. Mm-hmm. That's where I come at it from. So, we have very clear separation of tasks, for example, and Yes. Yeah. This was me and my masculine setting this up, telling him this is what we're gonna do, but. We know I'm putting knocks to bed one night he's putting Chloe to bed. The next night we're gonna switch off and that's our routine. I'm going to,, make lunch in the morning. He's gonna make breakfast and get the kids ready. You know, we have these very clear, here's who's going to do what. And what that does is it allows me to. I'm not the nagging wife because it's just, this is just what we do. Mm-hmm. We're in a routine of it. I don't have to, ask him for help, you know?'cause that's often what it comes down to, with the woman. And so we just know that these things are going to happen and that allows me to relax. Mm-hmm. And so that's one of the things that, we started doing. I also. This is gonna sound a little crazy, so

Speaker: 32:41

bring it. I'm ready.

Speaker 2: 32:43

But I use a. Post-it note, like a sticky note system with Kyle. So you know, you've got the honey do list. And I know that this is a problem in many marriages where you want them to do things quicker than they do them a lot of the times. And the problem is, I want to get things off my plate, I wanna say, here you handle this, and then know that it's gonna get taken care of and I don't have to worry about it anymore. Mm-hmm. But what happens often, and I know that this happens in a lot of relationship. Is, it's important to me, not necessarily important to him. So I'm having to remind him, remind him, remind him, did you do it? Did you do it? Did you do it? Mm-hmm. And that causes serious friction. Mm-hmm. So instead what I do now is I use a post-it note and I write it down and I put it on the mirror in his bathroom. And that means I know he's seeing that twice a day. I no longer have to remind him and once it comes down, I love that. And once it comes down off the mirror, it means it's done. So I don't have to keep checking back to see when it's done. I know it's no longer on the mirror. He's done it.

Speaker: 33:44

That's super tricky. I love it.

Speaker 2: 33:48

Now you'd have to ask Kyle, I don't know how he really feels about this. He might hate it. But at the end of the day, need to bring Kyle in. I know I, I need to interview him about all this stuff. Um, but he does it, you know, and at the end of the day, like that really helps me from day to day, not mm-hmm. Become the nagging wife. Mm-hmm. I have the support I need because we have a system in place. And I think that's kind of where you need to get to if you have those different, relationship dynamics where you both lead with different energies.

Speaker: 34:19

Mm-hmm. Yeah, absolutely. And. if you can find common ground between the masculine and the feminine, and this is something that I go into also when I'm trying to balance my masculine and feminine. When my masculine comes out, I'll often ask myself, if my best friend was doing this, would I get mad at them? If my best friend was doing this, would I say something about this or would I let it roll? And it's like this constant, check-in. Mm-hmm. And a lot of things that come up are boundaries and openness with your partner. And also in dating dynamics, to rebalance boundaries, what you have to do is activate masculine energy through boundaries. I love you, but I can't hold space for you right now. Boundaries are not walls. They're actually sacred structure that keep your energy clear. And on the flip side, if your walls are up, no one can reach you. Too much masculine protection. Invite the feminine to soften and express and allow safe vulnerability. So I do wanna talk about dating dynamics. Last but not least, okay? Because for those listeners that you know aren't in committed relationships or marriages and they're, they're dating on apps, all of the things, this is for you guys, and I know you all are gonna love it. So here's the scenario. You're the one that's constantly planning the dates, initiating or controlling how things will go. That is over masculine. You're diving into the relationship instead of letting it unfold. That's huge. And this is how you shift it. Drop into the feminine, receive, let the other person show up and trust the flow. But if you're waiting endlessly for someone to take charge, it's time to awaken your masculine and take the lead. On your own. But here's also the thing with masculine feminine energies and dating. If you want a masculine person and you start dating someone and they're not like showing you affection or attention, and you are the one having to reach out to them and plan dates and be like, Hey, do you wanna get together this weekend? They're probably not your person. Like if you're wanting someone super masculine to show up and they're not doing that right off the bat, guess what? They're not gonna switch into it. Next swipe. Oh, what? Okay. So I had to get that in last, but not least. And it reminds me of this book that my mom got me when I was in my early twenties, and it's, uh, they made a movie about it. It's called, he's Just Not That Into You. Oh yeah, I read that too. Oh. Like I love my mom. She gave it to both me and my sister and it changed the dating game for me. It changed everything. And it was the beginning of me learning masculine and feminine energies. So I'm sure you've seen the movie. If you haven't read the book, pick that up. So dive into really looking at your masculine and feminine energies in your relationship and look and see. And just notice this week you don't have to implement any of these tools, but maybe this week you just look at it and evaluate. And look and say, you know, at the end of the day, say, okay, I was really in my masculine energy then and next time I'm gonna try to be more in my feminine and this is what I'm gonna do to be more in my feminine. And so take little baby steps and just acknowledging the energy, watching it. Balance, watching where the imbalance is and then maybe jotting down some notes for the next time that it happens. And third, if you need relationship help in any way, shape, or form, even if your relationship is perfect or if you want a future relationship, get anything by the Gottman's because they are the masters. They explain things so well and it'll be the perfect pathway for you. All right guys. Thank you so much for listening in. Tune in next time, like subscribe and share. Visit our websites and we hope you have a magical day.