Sn 2, Ep 4 - The Bumpy Road to Love (A Special Valentine’s Day Message)

In this deeply personal episode, Gina opens her heart and shares the relationship journey that led her to love, healing, and ultimately, marriage. From relationships that awakened her psychic gifts and taught her to trust her intuition, to heartbreaks that forced her into therapy, boundaries, and true self-worth, Gina reflects on how every connection served a purpose.

She speaks candidly about grief, losing her beloved dog Opal, rediscovering herself after hitting rock bottom, and the unexpected calm that arrived when she finally met the man who would become her husband. This episode is a reminder that no relationship is wasted — every love, loss, and lesson shapes us into the person ready to receive what is truly meant for us.

If you're navigating heartbreak, healing, or wondering when your person will arrive, this conversation will remind you: your story is unfolding exactly as it should.

Transcript

Gina 1:40

Hello, friends. Welcome back to the Charmed Life Project. It's me, Gina, and today's episode is a little bit more personal, a little bit more heart opening because we're talking about relationships, the ones that almost worked, the ones that hurt. The ones that taught me everything and how every single one of them led me exactly where I needed to be to marriage and to truly understanding myself. Because here's the truth, no one tells you the wrong relationships are not mistakes. They're all prepping you. They're preparation. And today I wanna talk through my own personal journey. When I look back now, I can see how every person I dated was part of the path. Each relationship gave me something I needed even if at the time it didn't feel good. One relationship opened the door to my psychic awakening in Cuba, the trip where my gifts really came online. I took this trip to Cuba and I was there for about a month and I was learning Santeria and I was working with a San Priestess. It was an amazing experience now that I'm out of it, but when I was there, it was absolutely terrible. I was in culture shock. I had never been in. A country that was quite like this, and this was well before any Americans were allowed to go to Cuba. So when I was there, I wasn't able to speak English in the parts where I was. I had to pretend that I was only Italian speaking and that's just the way that it was. I was surrounded with all Spanish speaking people. Because of that, a lot of times I was in my mind, in my imagination because I was not fluent in the language. And so this one day, this one day. It all came in perfectly. I saw this car on the side of the road and we were in this old 1950s amazing car, but it was bare bones. So if your feet were on the floorboard, it was metal and your feet would get very, very hot. But I looked over to the side of the road and I saw this car that had a flat tire, and I got this jolt of energy, and I knew. Oh my gosh. We're getting ready to get a flat tire and within 20 minutes we got a flat tire. Nonetheless, I knew that all of my prayers have been answered and were going to be answered even more so because I had been praying for my psychic ability to come in. Some of you might know this about me, some of you not. But when I first started doing this work, I had no psychic ability. I had absolutely no idea how to tap in psychically, but mediumship, talking to the dead, contacting people in heaven, that was easy. That was a cakewalk. I did it naturally and easily, but tapping into the here and now on what was gonna happen in the future, it was like the mic was not on. When I really got that message and then it happened, I knew something was happening inside of me. And then with that, more things started popping up on that trip. And yes, I was there with a significant other, but nonetheless. It taught me very valuable lessons. I was stuck in a situation where I couldn't understand the language, so the only thing I had to tap into was energy. That's where me tapping into energy that's where it all transpired. My month long excursion into Cuba and learning Santeria from the Santer Priestess Maria. I love her so much and I think about her often. It was absolutely just beautiful. Another one taught me how to trust my gut. And when I was in a relationship with this particular person, everything on paper was perfect,. Checked all the boxes, got everything right, but something deep down in my gut told me it just wasn't right. This wasn't as happy as you could be. It was balanced. It was okay. They were a great person, but something in my gut said, no, something's not right. I learned to follow that, and when I followed it, my whole entire life opened up. In this particular instance. I had been praying to create a bigger presence I had been praying to create a bigger community in Louisville, Kentucky for my psychic and healing work. Well, God had different plans for me, and he picked me up, moved me to dc. I was there for a short while. As soon as I moved to DC I sat on my bed after I set it up, and I cried because God told me I was not going to be there very much longer. And I was like, what does that mean? I didn't know a breakup was on the horizon. I didn't know what was happening behind the scenes, but behind the scenes, everything was prepping me so that when I moved back to Louisville, I could create a bigger and greater presence. Then the next guy that came in after that. Oh, gosh, what a doozy. That one was a doozy, but I will tell you one, this person introduced me to people that I still have connections with today. Still working with today., Still collaborating with to this day. And this person really taught me how big my heart is and taught me that even though I have a big heart, you don't give to everyone.'cause not everyone deserves it. I carry those connections with me today, and I'm still grateful full. Even the relationships that ended painfully. It gave me clarity. Now, the big kahuna, the big mamma jamma, the most life changing relationship was the last one. And I remember waking up one morning and my soul just knew I have to have a baby. I have to get pregnant, I have to create a family. And with this person, I could never have that. Now granted, there were lots of other hardships and lots of other, whew, I don't even know how to put this into words. This relationship brought me to my knees to where I was begging God to help me, and I knew I needed to leave. I wish I could say that there was no drama and no fighting and just this quiet knowing, but there was. There was lots of drama. There was lots of fighting. There was lots of bad energy, and I had started to believe that I was that, I was so low, I had started to believe that I wasn't who I thought I was. I started to believe I was a bad person. I started to believe lies that I had heard. I thought I was a horrible person. I thought I didn't have anything to give to the world, and I was at my all time low. At that moment, I knew that there was only one place to go and that was up. After leaving that relationship, even though it was so hard and so devastating on more ways than one, but more so, I was devastated because. I had started to believe I was someone that I wasn't. That led me to the most beautiful friendship of all my therapist and with my therapist. It got me into healing, into learning boundaries. Real ones, not just people pleasing, disguised as kindness. I learned how to take care of myself emotionally, spiritually, and physically. But don't get me wrong, there was grief too in all of that mess. I also lost the love of my life. My dog Opal, my 18-year-old Cockapoo, she was a champagne buff color, and so full of life. Until the day that she passed, losing my dog, who had been a constant companion cracked my heart open in a way that changed me. It made me look at life differently and at love differently. You see, Opal had been with me since I was about 20 or 21 years old. She had started with me in my very first apartment. And gone with me through every single relationship I had encountered. Through those almost 20 years, she'd seen people come and go. She knew my family. She was obsessed with my mom and the day that she passed, I knew that everyone that had come before she was there to be my support and to carry me through. And since I made this decision to leave that last relationship, she felt safe enough to cross over into the spirit world and guide me spiritually in that way. I just wanna take a moment and reflect on that. Have you ever had someone. A person or an animal means so much to you that when they cross over, you realize that they got you to the point that you needed to get to, and then they felt good enough to let you go, to spread your wings and fly. It was absolutely amazing, and somewhere in that healing process, I did a really cool thing. I did a twin flame meditation. I wasn't expecting anything, but it shifted something in me. It helped me release old energetic ties and call in what was truly meant for me. And during this twin flame meditation, let me describe this to you. I was in between houses. All of my belongings were in storage. My relationship had ended. And my love, the love of my life had just passed. And I was sitting in bed and I was like, twin flame meditation. All right, I'll try it. Let's see what what we do. So as I was meditating, I was seeing nothing but black darkness in my mind. And then I got this gorgeous, bright turquoise see-through smoke, and I got this image of a man. And I heard a voice say, this name will be important to you. I'm not gonna tell you the name because it tells the name of my significant other's brother, but that name came to me now. I didn't know anything that was going on behind the scenes when I got this name during meditation, but I did receive a text message now about, I don't know, nine months to a year before. Now, this is like well past my breakup, but during the breakup, I had a client of mine say, oh my gosh, you're going through a breakup. I know the perfect person to hook you up with. And I said, girl, there ain't no way I'm dating anybody right now. Give me at least a year to be by myself and then we'll revisit this. Okay? When I did this meditation, it was almost, I don't know, it was nine months, a year. It was something like that, and I got a text message from my client. I got a text message from my client saying, Hey, I'm getting ready to meet your blind date for dinner. Can I give him your number and set this up now? I was super reluctant, but then I said, all right, let's do it. And so she set up a blind date. So when it comes to dating a psychic medium, which it's its own adventure, imagine sitting across from someone and already feeling their energy, their intentions, and their baggage. But this was a blind date. Okay? And honestly, I didn't really care about going. I was completely uninterested. Zero excitement, completely calm. Isn't it funny? Because sometimes what's meant for you doesn't come in fireworks. It comes in calm, in peace and balance. Through all of this, I learned how to feel into what was truly right for me, not what looked good, not what others wanted, what felt aligned. And the biggest lesson, letting go of the past, not carrying old wounds into new love, not punishing someone new for someone else's mistakes. Because when Nicholas came into my life, I was finally ready. I wasn't perfect, but I was so healed that I was ready to receive love and ready to receive the love that I was waiting for. I went on the blind date, I went on the blind date, and I drank two margaritas. Not one, but two. We went to the crafty in downtown Louisville and we were making crafts. Now, if you know me, I don't really drink that much, and to have two margaritas versus one at three o'clock in the afternoon, you can imagine I was, I was, I wasn't nervous, but I definitely wanted the margarita to relax. And I'm sitting there and I'm making a macrame plant hanger, and I can't figure out these knots. I'm overstimulated. There's tons of people, tons of noise. We got a margarita, a new person, and I'm trying to make a hanging macrame plant hanger. I almost gave up, but something amazing happened in this state. As I sat there across from this person, I knew that he was kind. I knew that he was a giver, and I knew that he said the magic words. The magic words that I waited to hear. Now this might be a surprise, but what he said was so striking that I believe everybody should follow this protocol when we were sitting, he brought up what he was looking for and he said, and I quote, I'm not dating to date. I'm dating to find my wife. And he looked at me and he said, what are you looking for? And I said, I'm looking for the same thing. I'm not dating to date anymore. I'm dating to find my husband. And from that day forward. We learned about each other. We grew together, and little by little we made our way towards our marriage. It was a beautiful experience. You know, looking back on my relationships and everything that I've gone through and learned and experienced, I know that it was all prepping me for what I really needed. I would've never been ready for this relationship if I hadn't gone into therapy, if I hadn't learned boundaries, if I hadn't xed out, people pleasing, if I hadn't learned how to use my voice. Because let me tell you, my partner is confident and amazing, and if I were wishy-washy or passive, it just wouldn't work. So when I look back at these relationships, all I have is gratitude. Gratitude for the one that brought me so low that I had nowhere else to turn, but to learn to stand on my two feet with boundaries of never accepting ill treatment again. The one that brought me my psychic ability, the one that helped me trust my gut. All of these people, I am grateful to. From a distance, but I am most grateful for my mediumship and my connection to spirit. I'm so grateful for my intuition that has guided me all the way through. Even when I didn't think it was doing it, it all led me to be the best version of myself. If you're listening and you're in the middle of a heartbreak. Confusion or wondering why relationships keep failing. Trust that nothing is wasted. Every person, every lesson, every goodbye is shaping you into the version of yourself that can receive the love that's meant for you. Your story is unfolding exactly as it should, and I promise your person is worth the journey, I hope you've enjoyed today's episode. Wishing you so much love in your heart.