3. Embarassing Stories of the Week, Periods, Male Anatomy

Join Alyssa and Erica as they discuss some mishaps of the week, their periods because the cycle runs everything, and more. Listen for a good time only!

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Hello. Hi, Alyssa. Welcome back to another episode of No One Asked. Yes. We're here to entertain you. Maybe make you giggle. Hopefully you can relate to some things we share. I know for today I have some vulnerable things I'm gonna share. Okay. I can't wait to get into it. Yeah, I haven't told Erica anything. I'm like, we'll just save it for this. Um, which makes it very hard because. Before we see each other to do this. It's like we have to, we have to talk about things that we're not gonna talk about on the pod, but we wanna talk about everything and we wanna talk about everything. Yeah, it's super hard'cause it'll be like, oh, this should be on the pod, which we can always re-talk about something. But when it's like fresh in the moment. It's the best. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I wanna get your real reaction and Yeah. Okay. Your real emotions. Let's get to it. Alyssa, how's your week been? Okay, I'm gonna start with this past weekend I had a friend's birthday dinner. Mm-hmm. And her friends are people that I'm not very close with, and I view them as very cool people. I'll just admit it. Okay. Um, so. It was a few couples and then like a couple single people and, um. Whatever I, okay. Wait, hold on. Lemme figure out how to say this. Hold on. It's a group of people. Everyone mostly knows each other and they've al already met and then I was like the odd one out I felt. Okay. Um, new to a group of close friends. Yeah. Like, not that they're all super close, but they've all met before and I, and they've spent more time together, so I went into the night kind of nervous just knowing that I'm like the singular odd one out. Um, so then we have the dinner. It's fun. I am, I'm trying my best to be social. I'm doing my thing, and then we get to karaoke mm-hmm. In the evening. And I love karaoke, so that's very fun. I sing, we sing some songs and at one point. I'm doing a duet with another boy, and, um, he's like a very flamboyant gay guy. Yep. And love the gazes. Um, he sings very like femininely. Mm-hmm. Is that a word? Yeah. Okay. Today it is. And we're dueting the my neck, my back lick, my, my pussy. The myrick. Yeah. And, and the N word is in that song. Oh, okay. Okay. Right. It's in there a lot. Mm-hmm. And. I have someone on my side and he is like, oh, you guys better be careful. And in my mind I'm like, obviously I would never say that word. Mm-hmm. Like I, that's just not, you know, as a white person, that that's not our word to say. And even a song, even if it's in the lyrics, even in the songs, like, I'm not saying it, I've known that since I was like eight years old. Yeah. You're told at an early age and at one point. Um, the guy says it during the song Now, is he a white boy or, yes. Okay. Yes. And he like sings it softly. Like he was just reading the lyrics. I don't think he meant any harm by it. He was just reading the lyrics. Yeah. And says it. Okay. And then the night like, kind of like comes to an abrupt end. Like we had already done like 12 karaoke songs, so it was like coming to an end. And the one guy that told us to be careful, he immediately like switched the songs and he's like, all right, we're switching it up. And then it looks like people are like getting ready to go. So like, as a solo person, I'm making my decision, okay. It's time for me to leave. The night is complete. We're done singing it seems. Yep. Um, so I leave. And this whole week I'm feeling a little bit insecure about how I behaved at the party. Not because of that song, but just, I'm just like, uh, I hope people like me. Like I was just feeling weird, like I'm usually pretty confident and like, mm-hmm. I don't know. Obviously there was something about this group that made me feel insecure and I was triggered, I don't know. So I was like overthinking things I like said in conversation really stupid things. And I talked to my friend whose birthday it was on the phone the other day. Yeah. This is like four days after. And I am like, oh, did your friends like me, da da da da. And then I'm like, by the way, did you hear your friends say the N word during the song? And she's like, wait. And I'm like, what? She goes, Alyssa, everyone thought that was you. Oh. And I was like, shut the fuck up. I'm like, are you serious? I'm like, this whole time I'm like stressed out that these people didn't like me because of like. Just like your personality. My, yeah. And, and then to find out they don't like me. And it's because of the all because of the N word. You word saying, I was stressed out about the wrong thing. Oh my God. And I feel. So annoyed. And I told her, and she was like, she's like, wait, like when I first like noticed that happen, like I thought it was the guy too, but then these other people were like, no, that was Alyssa, because it sounded like a girl. And I'm like, did you not hear him singing? He was literally like laying on the couch. Like I, when I was singing it, I was sounding like I was enunciating. I was like, lick my back. Yeah, yeah. With that. And I would pull it away when it was. That word. And he was like, laying and you're like, was nobody watching me? He was like, like he was singing it like that. And I was like, really more loud about it, Uhhuh. And I was just, so that happened. Wow. So now, and I was like, okay, can you like, she's like, I'm gonna tell everyone now that like, that was, that It was, it wasn't you. And I'm like, cool, thank you. But I already feel like my reputation has been ruined. Yeah. Correcting the information is gonna be. I'm like, this just sounds, and I, I immediately like felt teleported back to just high school, even younger than high school, just like being a kid. That was my exact feeling too, when you said that. I was like, oh, I, it just like instantly brought back that feeling of like, oh my God. Like a rumor was started. Yeah. That you had no idea. And it's not even a true rumor. Right? Like it's one thing if I did something stupid. Yeah. And like I get my punishment and like, I deserve that. But this was like. This isn't correct. Yeah. This is not factual and like, this is so not who I am. Like Yeah. I don't know. So I'm, I'm, I'm dealing with my feelings about that. Yeah. And it has fucked me up this week. Yeah. Like I, I felt some type of way. Yeah. Um, I could definitely see that too. I think, I think obviously you were feeling the energy of the room too when you had left because like, nothing's worse than like sitting up in the middle of the night feeling this like, and like. I'm assuming you didn't get like wasted drunk either. No, not at all. At all. Because like sometimes when you wake up you would just have like automatic shame. Yeah. From like whatever you said. But I've been not drinking a lot and I did have three beverages that night, so I think like I was feeling the next day just like the like, ugh. I feel like I sounded stupid when I talked and I was trying too hard and I was like trying to be funny and like just I should have chilled. Like I was just feeling like the insecure. Yeah. Feelings. Yeah. The alcohol like, yeah. Oh God. Anxiety the next day. Yeah. The anxiety doom. So, oh, well I'm so glad you cleared that up with her, because that is an unfortunate rumor to be going around about you. And I wonder if it was like said to him and he went along with it. Honestly, probably like,'cause just, I don't think that they would've not said it to him. Like if they thought it was you, they'd probably be like, bro, did you hear her say that word? Yeah. And he didn't like cop to it. That'd be so annoying. Yeah. Yeah. It was all very annoying and unfortunate and I had to calm myself and self soThe. Yeah. Being like, Alyssa, you were never friends with these people before. Right. It's not like these were people that were really involved in your day-to-day. Mm-hmm. This is like people I interacted with one time. Yes, they were cool. Would've loved to have more friends, but like I, I'm good. Yeah. And it's just a reminder to like, there are people that love you and. You feel the difference when you're around people who really love you and like you versus people who don't give a shit about you, which is fine. Not everyone needs to give a shit about you, but mm-hmm. Just. Put your energy where you are loved. Yeah. 100%. Yeah. And it was a good reminder of that for me, where I'm like so grateful. I do have people that do love me and care about me. Yeah. Yeah. But I got humbled this week. Yeah. I got, I was feeling like, I'm like, I'm so cool. Like I have so many friends, I have new friends, people like me, and then I'm go there and I'm like, no, no, no. I'm still like third grade Alyssa. That like isn't cool at all. Okay. And that's not the first embarrassing thing that happened this week. Okay. On top of that, you guys? Mm-hmm. I am getting ghosted and from the four date guy, from four date guy, we did go on our fourth date and, and. You know, the beginning of the date when he first, when I first met up with him, I immediately was like, Ugh, I don't know. I don't think he's the one. Which is fine. That's like you, you shouldn't think anyone's the one by date four. It should take longer than that. But by the end of the date I was like, oh my God, this is so fun. Like I was feeling really good and I felt like I was being very silly and myself. Yeah. So for them to not hear from him, oh no, for four days, I was like, oh my God. And then on top of that party thing, I was just feeling like, wow, people really don't like me. Like it was just, I shouldn't be myself. Not your fucking me. This week. It was not my week. So then. Because I am who I am and I just want honesty. And I just, I think when you, I think I needed a closure moment, so I sent him a message. Mm-hmm. Yes. Let's talk about the message and I, I just reached out and was like, Hey, I just wanna let you know that I had a good time getting to know you, and I think you're a cool, fun person. And it seems to me that you're not very interested and that's all good. I personally love a closure moment, so that's why I'm sending you this and like, I just, I wish you the best. And he did respond. Mm-hmm. And he was like, you know, I just didn't see us going the distance. And I'm like, fair, fair. And then he, he did thank me for sending that because he's not good at doing that. And well, clearly, yeah. And, and I felt really good. Like, I'm happy I said something'cause. There's no way to get an answer faster. Like you either shoot your shot, right, and or, and he might respond being like, no, no, no. I'm so sorry. It's been a crazy week. Like, I would love to see you again, blah, blah, blah. Or he'll be like, you're right. There was just no, I wasn't interested. Chemistry there for me, I. But, um, yeah, that was really humbling for me. You know, that's really hard. That's like such a shot to the ego, ego, like, yeah, no, my ego, ego. It's not that I like thought this guy was amazing and he was the one, like, I truly was like, I still need more information before I know. So I get why he said like, I think we both felt the same way, but I had in my head, we're gonna do the five dates. Right? We had done four, so, and I'm like, I still need more information. Like, I wasn't sure if he's husband material, boyfriend material, but I was willing. To find out. Yeah, I was, I was open to like exploring that more because I'm, each date I would go in being like, I don't know. And then by the end I was like, oh, I'm having fun. So then for him to not be feeling that way, oh my God, I suck. People don't like me. They don't even wanna be my friend. They don't wanna date me. No, no. I mean, we can't all have spectacular weeks all day through our lives. I know, I know. Yeah. This was a good. Humbling week, I'm back down to earth. I mean, you are a queen, so just keep yourself there all the time. But it's okay to be like brought back down smidge. I mean, it happens to the best of us. Um, still I think you're, I. Such a wonderful human. Thank you. You're welcome. I, yeah, this isn't, this isn't gonna knock me. I know. I love myself. I'm great, but Right. It's just, you know, it was just bad timing all of it together. And clearly these groups of people that you hung out with on the weekend just don't give like good energy to you, which is. Important to recognize. It is important to recognize. Yeah. Mm-hmm. And it's, it's good to feel the bad feelings.'cause then they make the good feelings feel that much brighter. Right. And it also like appreciates like the friends you have too, where you're like, oh, this is such an uncomfortable situation. I feel so gross about it. Yeah. And then it's like. Like you said, I actually have humans in my life that like love me that I can hang out with and be exactly myself. Yeah. And nothing's more comforting. It's just like, it like solidifies Yeah. Those relationships. Yeah. And you wanna be loved for who you are and you need to be around people that love you for who you are. Yes. So just a good reminder, you know? You know, and you're being batshit crazy. Yeah. Which we all are at some point. Yeah. So I would really love it if you did. Did anything bad happened to you this week? Oh God. I mean, for this week spec, I don't think anything specifically. That happened to me. Cool. You're having a great week. Having, I'm very happy for you. I'm having a good week. Okay, good. Great. Wait, let's talk about then, what's the best thing that's happened to you this week? Okay, so the best thing that's happened to me this week, probably finding my Pilates teacher. Oh yeah. I have a new fave. A new fave. I love this. Shout out the Spears Pilate on Abba Kinney in Venice, California. And my new favorite. Coach or no teacher? Yeah, teacher, teacher, coach. Also, it's spear Pilates. There's no S at the end, right? Spear. Spear. Did I say spears? I think so. Oh, spear. We were talking about Brittany Spears earlier. So, mm, easy Spear Pilates spear on Ab Abbu Kinney. Her name is. Taylor Olson. Shout out Taylor. I wanna try her class. I really like that studio. Honestly. She is kick ass. Okay. We did hips and glutes on Thursday and moves I haven't done before in Pilates. I was impressed. Also, humbled because I was like, you got physically humbled. Literally have never. Done a like she had, I don't know. I mean, if you do Pilates, you would kind of know, but you have like one leg up on the reformer and then one leg standing on the ground and you're doing like splits with your legs, kind of like you have a knee. Oh, is it the lunge? Kind of, but like from the side. I'll have to show you. Oh yeah. You'll have to show me. Anyways, it was some inner thigh work I've never experienced in my life. Oh. And it was phenomenal. She's a great, great instructor. If anybody ever wants to try it, please take her class. She's amazing. Good. I tried a new workout yesterday. I went to a gym called Training Mate. They're all over. Yeah. Why dont you ask you about that? What is this? Um, it sounds to me like it's an Australian owned gym. Okay. I don't know if all the coaches are Australian, but mm-hmm. Um. They do brand it that way. Like all their, Instagram captions are like, good day mate. the coach I had was Australian. He had a lot of energy. I went to the studio City location. The guy's name was Dan. He was very lovely. It was like a hit workout, I feel like it was Oh, short intervals. And you do like three rounds and it was all arms, so everything was an arm workout and that just is really hard. So I'm feeling it today. Yeah. But it was fun. I needed something new. I, I feel like this week. Really pushed me over. I was like, I need new energy. I need to be around a new group of people. I don't know what that means, but I just needed something new. Yeah. And now I'm gonna go on a whole new workout journey.'cause I used to do lifting. Right. Um, that was like my main form of working out for the a year and I did that like two years ago. Mm-hmm. Um, and then this past year I've just been doing yoga and Pilates and I think I'm ready to get back into my lifting journey. Yeah. So I'm gonna try a new gym on Sunday and I'm, I'm very excited. Lifting is great. Yeah. I can't just go to the gym by myself. I need a class. Oh, same. So I'm looking, I'm looking specifically for like the small boutique gyms. Yeah. Where they have group strength training classes. Yeah. Where it's like eight to 12 people. Mm-hmm. So it feels like personal training, but it's not as expensive. It's still more expensive than like a 24 hour fitness. But I'm, I don't care. I, I put my money in my fitness. Yeah, no, I, I completely agree. There are some times where I'm like, that shit is so expensive. Like, Pilates is not a cheap. Endeavor. Yeah. But if you're going every day or like four times a week, that's a lot. And I think I do use ClassPass. Yeah, me too. Which is helpful. And then it does kind of like it, not that it forces me to, but does give me the option to try other studios where like if you are locked into one studio, you are only locked into that one studio. Yeah. So like this one, you can kind of like if you're traveling around or you can always take a class where. You are unless you're like in Europe. Yeah. Which is always No, but Europe difficult. You can use ClassPass. You can. Yeah. Certain, certain countries like have it not every like I don't think in Rome. Okay. But when I was in Rome, yeah. Erica's going to Rome this summer in like a month. We're taking an Italy trip. Yes. Oh yeah. You're doing an Italy trip. It's not just Rome, but when I was in Rome I did a CrossFit class. You did? I found a CrossFit and I like called and signed up. That's like, that's gonna be one of my top goals this time.'cause we are. Traveling for three weeks and the tendency when traveling, I mean we do do a lot of walking around, but there's never like lifting or like True working out. Yeah. You guys should do the CrossFit class there. Yeah, there was one in Rome. I like walked from my Airbnb. That's amazing. And it was really nice. Like at any time I'm doing, I love going to workouts when I'm in, when I was in Europe'cause it, I was just amazed at how many. Places like Teach in English. Oh, that's awesome. Yeah, I mean, that makes sense. I think that one, they might have been Italian, but the class was so small that he could just, like, he just would talk to me and tell me what we're doing. Oh, that's amazing. Yeah. It was like there was like five people. Yeah. I've definitely taken classes in different languages before and there were familiar classes like I did. In Mexico City. Um, we were there for about three months, so I did Pilates classes there and yoga classes. Oh, so fun. All in Spanish. Really? Yep. No English at all. So you're just kind of like watching, you're walking around watching everybody. Yeah. And like, I mean that's, it's easy'cause you know, like you're like, I've done, like, I've done Pilates for 10 years and it's just like you watch something do and you're like, okay, I feel like by the end you would like know the words. Definitely. Well, for yoga specifically, do they say the, like, are they like. I dunno. They say, I'm trying to think like, like Shavasana. Like do they say that? Yeah, they, did they say, um, like I, I did recognize the word for like Chaturanga. Yeah, yeah. At one point. But it's not Chaturanga. It's Oh, it's okay. Some, it's a Spanish word. Okay. I can't tell you now'cause now I don't remember it. Right. But like when they would say like, oh, I'm like, okay. No. And then you had recognize and then like. In Pilates, you learned like your left and your right. Ooh. So yeah, I learned what those were and now you don't even know I do, but I'm not even, but it's right. I'm not even gonna try to pronounce it to you right now'cause it's my Spanish is, oh, no bueno. No bueno. No bueno. I mean, we're working on it, but like I don't speak it enough to like be confident to tell you like right. What it means. Yeah, how it sounds. But the beauty with yoga and Pilates, I feel like even if you're in an English class, I'm still looking around you know, are you checking people out or are you looking for like information? No, I'm like information. If I'm, if there's a move I, I'm like, I don't know what that is. I'll look to the person next to me and then I'm like, oh, that's true. Make sure you're doing it right. Yeah. So, well also, some instructors are really good at telling you or guiding you through the flow, and then sometimes you get an instructor and you're like, what? Did you just say like, put my arm where? Yeah. Um, yeah, it's helpful to like watch other people. Where else are you going? You're going to Italy. So we're doing Italy and then we're doing a week in Amsterdam. So two weeks in Amsterdam. I'm sure ClassPass is one week in Amsterdam. I would, I'm gonna guess class Pass is on Amsterdam. Yeah, I honestly, I was just having this conversation with my, so I'm. Taking two private classes at the CrossFit gym that we go to. Okay. Um, which is Deuce on Lincoln. In Venice. Amazing. You're doing privates. Is it you and Dan together? Just you? Just myself.'cause I have specific things I wanna work on. Like my right hip has been bothering me. Okay. I wanna work on some stuff'cause we are trying to like, have babies this year, so I wanna be like optimal for like carrying yada yada, but. My goal with her is to like get some workouts that I can do by myself while traveling because like you, I am obsessed with classes. Yeah. Like I would much rather a class than like try to work out by myself. Yeah. And it's a good way to make you feel like you're at home while you're traveling because it's kind of like part of your routine. Yeah. And you're like. It just, I don't know. For me, it makes me feel like I'm, I'm, I'm me, I'm here. I'm grounded. Yeah. It, it helps with that. Yeah. It just like, flying to me can take a lot out of me. Like on a travel day, I don't make plans. Like even if I were to get home to California, like 2:00 PM I'm not doing anything. No. After flying, of course, but like it sometimes it'll take me like a couple of days to get back into it and I don't. I want that to happen'cause we are gonna be gone for a good amount of time. Um, so I don't wanna lose like, the motivation of working out. Yeah. So that's gonna be the goal for the rest of this month. Well you guys are also staying at hotels, right? We are gym are, so they're gonna be like nice gyms and we are staying at like, we can find some fun YouTube videos, pretty nice hotels. Yeah. I just have no motivation to do by myself. I love, I know going to a class and they tell me what to do, like for me to like. Plan out or even look up a work and like I'm lazy. I know if I'm doing it and it's like 10 reps, I'm like doing eight, yet you're like, no one's counting. Like even in Pilates class she'll be counting down and I am too. And then by like the third I'm like, okay, yeah, yeah, I'm not going harder on my last three. I know it holds you accountable when you're with other people. It really does. And the energy just like helps. Yeah, I get that. Yeah. So. Working on traveling. I don't even know how we got onto this, but I, what were you talking about? I, I mean, I enjoyed it. Yeah. No, it's great. I enjoyed it. What else do we have? I just feel like we were talking about something we had to move on from what I was talking about. Oh. Because we were talking about our favorite, what happened good to us this week. Oh, yes, yes, yes. Just my Pilates teacher, who I am obsessed with and did automatically. Sign up for every other classes that I could for her for the next four weeks. Oh, you did? How often does she teach? She works. Mon uh, teaches Monday and Thursdays. Um, but yeah, she's amazing. I love when you find somebody that's like, I. Great. Yeah. It makes a difference. The, the teachers make a huge difference. Yeah. And you like click with them. Yeah. You're like, oh, everything you say makes sense. You're really kicking my ass today. Yeah. I love it. Yeah. It's hard to be a good coach. It is hard to be a good coach and be motivating. Yeah. Um, okay. What else? Well, I guess that was kind of my obsession of the week. I think we wanted to talk about that, but we can always bring up another obsession of the week later. I don't have an obsession. Okay. But we have an ick. Ick of a week. Oh my God. This is a ick of a lifetime. Ick of a lifetime. I will never not have this ick. This is a pet peeve. It's a pet peeve. We have the same pet peeve and I share the same pet peeve slash ick and. It's chewing with your mouth open. Yeah. Any any food noises of the mouth. Yeah, any food noise. Ugh. I just can't, and like, it's so funny'cause my husband and I watch a ton of cooking videos. Right. And then it's naturally at the end they eat what they, yes. What they've made. And some people. It's fine. It's fine. Yes. Because it's not as loud, but then you get some people where I'm like, that is disco. This is my least favorite part of the whole show. Like typically I won't even damn will shut it off for me. Yeah. Because ugh, disgusting. I just can't, I know I can't. I've been posting a lot of food content and I filmed one myself where I taste the food and I was like, I'm not. Posting this. If I heard this, I would unfollow me. And then I was like, I'm just not. So I, I had like the one clip of me spilling before I ate it. Oh my. But that clip was me eating it. Yeah. And I was like, I'm not, no one needs to see that. They can just trust me when I say this is really yummy. You like, I don't need to like go. Mm. So when we went to Japan, one of the things is, is when you're eating noodles, oh, you wanna slurp? They need to slurp.'cause it's like, but that's fun. It's like complimenting, right? Yeah. But going to Japan, my husband was like, just be prepared that you're gonna to hear a lot of slurping and you need to slurp. But it's like, it's not in my brain. Like I just can't Yeah. Do it. Yeah. Like, I don't even know. No, they go, so yeah, like that's, that's not natural. And then, oh, sorry guys. Sorry. Ew. Gross. Now growing up, do you have other people in your family that are the same way? Yeah. No. My dad would, whenever we were at dinner, I feel like he was the first to be like, Alyssa, close your mouth. My dad too. But he was very like, I can hear you chewing from over here. Yeah. And I would be so annoyed. I'm like, can you just let, like, I'm, I'm just having a good time over here. Yeah. Um, but now that I'm older, I, but it doesn't bother me when I'm eating. Mm-hmm. If I'm chewing with you mm-hmm. All the sounds can happen. Same, same. But if I'm not eating mm-hmm. And I hear it. Mm-hmm. Ooh, yeah. There has to be like, oh, I get mad. But also it's like when I'm in a bad mood. Yeah. True. When it's PMS time, there is just like,'cause everything's amplified, so like Yeah. And you can like hyper fixate on it. Yeah. And my hearing is like amplified. So it's not even just like you eating. It's like I can hear everything that's happening inside your mouth. Yeah. And I just can't, I can't. Yeah. Speaking of PMs, I was just listening to a podcast and I learned, I always thought like, you know how you feel different levels of tiredness depending on where you're at in your cycle. Mm-hmm. And she mentioned like the week before your period is when you should go the easiest. Like you shouldn't work out hard. Oh. And then when you do start bleeding, you're actually good to go. Yeah. And you can go back. And I always thought,'cause I kind of do that naturally, like I feel like I am, I do notice I'm more tired the week before. The week of also, I feel like I have sleeping issues, but I feel strong. Yeah. Like I can still do my hard workouts. Yeah. Um, I don't know if you can relate or if you've noticed No, I, yeah, definitely. I used to do, um whole fitness back in the day and my favorite days were like. Right, like, like a day or so. Right before I got my P and I felt like Superman, like I could do everything and everything. Oh, right before your period, right before it, yeah. Not like, but But then she's saying you feel strong when you're on it. Like the second that makes sense, you start bleeding sense, but like the week before you're like more tired and you're craving the chocolate and you're craving, yeah. Yeah. I have mine. It doesn't necessarily always work that way. It depends. It changes, but mostly what happens is like the week before I get almost in like a nesting phase of like, I'm gonna be really organized. Yeah. I'm feeling super motivated. Yeah. And then like a couple of days before my period, um, working out wise, I feel super strong. Like I can do anything in the world. And then it's like usually right before, like the day before my period, I. Get this like. Tired, overwhelmingly tired feeling. Yeah. Where like I could just, I'm just like, almost automatically happy because nothing in my mind is happening. Like that's how, that's how tired I get. And then it's just like, I'm just like out for the day, like I am, I'm gonna do things. But if it's not working for me that day, I'm just going to chill. Yeah. And like that's gonna be my day. Makes sense. And it's great. I need a chill day. I feel like I have not been chill. I've just been, um, addicted to Instagram. Well, you've been worried all week. Yeah, I have been working all week. Oh. And addicted to Instagram and addicted to. Tell me about the addiction. You've been off of Instagram for months. Yeah. How were you lost? I've gone through phases where I'll delete Instagram for like six months to a year, depending on the time, and it's great. Every time I do that, I'm like, wow, my life, like my life automatically becomes more productive. I feel happier. There's just less information in your brain. But I got back on it a few months ago and I'm scrolling. If I have a break, I like sit back and I'm checked out for like 15 minutes. Um, I need to work on it. I need to, I need to rein it in. Honestly though, like that 15 minutes is like, first of all, that's pretty short time. And second of all, like yeah, but if you do that 10 times a day, it goes by so fast. Yeah. It goes by so fast and it like. It makes me not wanna do anything. So when I do have to force myself to put the phone down, it feels like the hardest thing in the world. Yeah. And that's disgusting. What is that like all and all you're doing is you're watching people like, because your brain like shuts off, off. Like your brain just like gets into zombie mode being entertained. Yeah, and then I, I, I've been like fantasizing about going away to a cabin for like 48 hours and literally just turning my phone off. That sounds beautiful. I don't know if I could do it. I don't know if I could do it. Well, probably not right now. You kind of, I would say you'd wanna wean yourself off before you throw yourself in a cabin in woods. Yeah. I was thinking of doing it today's Friday, and I was like, maybe tomorrow I just like take a day off from my phone. Yeah. Like I don't have plans. Like I just, well, I mean, it's not like you can't do it. You've definitely survived before. Yeah. I've never done that. Not since I, like the day I signed up for Instagram. I've always been on Instagram like probably every day of my life. Wow. It's slower now. Like I'm not as interested as being on it Like when I wake up, I'm not going on it. Yeah. I can go a whole like full day without going on it. Right. As long as my notifications are off. Oh yeah. I don't have my notifications on. Yeah. And then other than that, but like before I would be, there are times, and again, it's very PMS associated. Yeah. I also just didn't get a lot of sleep this week. Like I think. On my period, I'm a horrible sleeper, so I was already feeling the insomnia. So when you're tired, you're just not as happy. True. And then you're chasing something. And then I'm going through this like feeling like shit because of these people this weekend and then getting ghosted and I'm like waiting for the video that's gonna gonna gimme the right piece of advice that I need to hear. That will just save my day. I love that. You're like, where's my motivation? Where's my motivational speakers? Where's my signs from the universe? That's what looking for. Tell me I'm amazing. Give me the right quote about why I'm getting ghosted. That's true though. There is sometimes something comes out and you just get it, that it's like the right timing. You're like. Yeah, I mean, this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. I'm obsessed with looking for recipes on Instagram, and that happens where all of a sudden I find the recipe where, and five minutes later I'm at the grocery store buying the shit like there. It just, you're inspired. I'll randomly find, I'll go through so many, and then I find one video and I'm like, I need to make that right now. I love that so much. That's amazing. All right, that was a fun segue. That is a fun segue. Ah. Oh wait, I see something fun on the list. What is it? Wait, how long have we been recording? Oh, good question. 32 minutes. Okay. Okay. We, we've got, we can, we can, let's talk about something juicy. Juicy. I see on our list we have small penises, small pains in the world.'cause they happen to me and you know, I don't think this is a hot take. Yeah. Or, uh, wait. I need to be careful what I'm gonna say. I need to think about this. I personally don't want a large, huge wiener. I agree. I tell everybody there is a thing as too big. Yes. Like, like this parading around about Big Cox to me is just like, first of all, ludicrous. If somebody has an overly large cock, like say. Seven. Really hate how you, you're saying cock. Cock, ugh. Penis. I just, there's no good word for it. Can I just give you a nick? Yeah. You gave me a nick like you just saying cock 10 times, cock, cock, cock, cock, penis. Penis is fine. Penis is so technical. I know penis like isn't sexy, but we are talking technical right now. Let's go, let's go with penis. Okay. Okay. Yeah. I called it wiener'cause I was so uncomfortable and I didn't like that. The second I said that, I was like, Ew, Alyssa, you're not wiener girl. Wiener. Wiener is like such a weird one.'cause it is like a, a like adolescent term, but also. Is a food, a hot dog? It's a hot dog, but a specific hot dog. I used to go into this, a super side tangent and then we'll go back, but there was a convenience store down the street from me when I was like younger and I would go and I used to love, they were like hot dogs, but they were called wieners specifically. So I had to order a wiener wieners. Wow. And at 16, that's awkward. Yeah, I'm sure you talk very often. Can I get five wieners please? You probably giggled every time you did it or I'd be like looking at my toes. Yeah. Lemme just get five wieners or I'd like point. Yeah. But anyways, back to small wieners. Small penises. But I've never experienced a micro, I've never experienced a micro, but what is a, I don't, maybe, I don't know. Actually. I have experienced a very small penis. Yeah. Like, yeah, me too. Like we were having, so this was when I lost my virginity. Okay. Um, and I do remember it didn't hurt. Mm-hmm. And I was like, oh, this is interesting. Like you always hear about how it's gonna like hurt. And I was like, okay, this is great. And then there was at some point where I was servicing with my mouth, oh my God. From the tiny penis. Are we getting too sexual? We're getting as giving head, giving head, and my whole face like would hit the bottom. And it was, and like, again, this was the first one I experienced, so I didn't really have any other context. And then it was like my next boyfriend that I had had, we had sex and I thought his penis was humongous. Oh.'cause it just compared to the little one. Comparatively. Yeah. I was like, oh my God. And I dig around like, this guy has such a big dick, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like all of this. But like years later, him and I had this conversation about it because. In reality, he has a fine size penis. Right? It's not too large, it's not too small. It's like, it's great, right? But he brought it up to me like years later'cause we would keep in touch and he was like. Remember when you, you would like, you told people that I had like this huge dick and I was like, ah, that, because I thought you did. Yeah. That was your perspective at the time. I thought your dick was humongous. And I was like, and now I know it's average. And he is like, yeah, it's average. And he, uh, he is like. Just, it was interesting to me when I heard that and I was like, yep. But now I know better.'cause now I've had some big, big, yeah, and it was something, some people do love a big one though. Like I've heard girls and I've heard like gay guys and they're like, I want it to be huge. Yeah. And I'm like, really? Yeah, but okay. But that's good. Everybody needs. The big one's gotta go somewhere. Yeah. There is a dick for everybody. There is a dick for everybody. There is a dick for everybody. Just, I can't have it too large. When it hits to like the. Back of your cervix and there's nowhere else to go. No, I don't like that. It hurts. No. And it just feels like there's, it's gonna take a lot of work. Yeah. It's like when you know you're dealing with a large, you're like, Ugh, I have to get so horny. Have you ever Right. It's so much effort. You're like, well, I gotta really be juicy down there. Um, have you ever refused a penis. Yes you have. Yeah, I remember.'cause it was too big. It was way too big. I felt so bad for this guy. I feel like his was long, thick. It was the biggest thing I've ever seen in my life. Like I, he should be in porn. Oh my God. Um, and I remember I had seen this guy on campus. This was in college and. He looked like Hercules to me, and I used to like think Hercules was so hot. Yeah. So he like always caught my eye and then I finally like, saw him at a party and like made my way and, and like, we, like kissed and whatever. We started hanging out and I, we could not have sex. Like it couldn't even try a little bit. It was, I was like, there's just like, not even the tip. No. Like it, it was too much. Yeah. Like he, if he's sitting on a toilet, it's like on it, it's in the water. It's, it's in, it's Erica. This was the biggest thing I've ever seen in my life. Yeah. Wow. Poor guy. I forget his name too. That's okay. Yeah. I don't think he wants to be featured on here. No. Well, I mean, he does have a big dick. So good for him. I know, but I think it was a struggle for him. Like I think he had said like, this is a big issue in his life. I do remember being younger and like, I think I was watching like. It must have been Ricky late'cause I don't think this would be on Oprah, but I do remember this man sitting on stage and I think the topic was either dating or whatever, but he said, what if your dick is too big? Like a lot of girls don't like how big my dick is. And that was like the first time I was like, oh, there's there's such thing as too big. There's such thing as like too big.'cause you do get like, it does get sensationalized that like having the biggest. Penis. Like the best thing in the world. Yeah. And it's like, actually no. There is such a thing as too big. Yeah. Hmm. I have not poor boys come across something where I've had to refuse it. Okay. But I do know of people that have, yeah. Because it's just too large. I mean, that's the only one. I don't, I, I think everyone else is normal. Yeah. So there's guys with like big dicks and then there's guys with like micro penises and which would you prefer? I don't know. I feel like if they had a giant one, you could like rub it. You could, you could also still use it. Like it's not gonna fully go into your vagina, but I dunno, at you can use like half. Ah, I don't know. That is, that's a tough question for life. I don't know if we should keep this part in. We, can we, yeah, we can cut out. We can cut it. Cut it out. Make a note. We talked about your goaling situation for this week. Mm-hmm. For this. Yeah. I'm sure more ghosting will happen when I'm ready to go on new dates. Have you ghosted somebody before yourself? Um. Not any, not in the past year. I, I really, even if we go on one date, I'm gonna let you know. It was so lovely to meet you. I don't feel a connection actually. That's, yeah. Is it ghosting if you both just don't say anything my friend told me that's not ghosting. Ghosting is if like I reach out and you don't respond. True. So I've mutual, if it's mutual, where like we go on a date. And you can kind of tell, and I've, I've even practiced, I've gone on a first date and on the date I go, listen, I don't feel a romantic connection. And I say it in person because I just would rather be so real and like it doesn't need to be a bad thing. I still had a great time with you. Like we talk so much. We had friend chemistry, but I just, yeah. I just don't feel it romantically. Id rather you's getting to the point. I'd rather be real. Yeah. I mean, we get to a point in life where it's like. I just don't even wanna like, put the energy into like making it. Yeah. And especially if I'm not interested in you, I want you to know right away so that you're not like thinking about planning a second date and like, I want you to go off and like continue to try. Right. Like, you know. Yeah. That's very, that's very nice of you Alyssa. I'm overcompensating. Okay. Listen, we, we, we talked, we did talk like this was a good amount of time. 43 minutes, 43 minutes. It could be like a half hour, you know, we don't have to, and not everything needs to be an hour and a half long. Yeah, I agree sometimes. Yeah. I think, I think this is good. Yeah. Thank you for another good episode. Next time. We'll be a little bit more planned. Where we're, this is a tired week for me. Okay. I've gone through a lot. You guys we're both PMSing? Yeah. This is a, this is a pm s week. This is a p Are we on the same cycle? Well, so I haven't started mine, but I'm definitely PMSing. Okay. My boobs hurt so bad. Mind you too. But today's like the last day of my period and like, oh really? I'm in pain. Like I feel I, I've just, this has just been rough. Okay. Yeah. The week before. The week of I know. I know. And honestly, when your emotions and your hormones are like un. Just another level. All of that stuff seems so much more. Yeah. Cranky. Accentuated just we're cranky. Ugh. I love being cranky though. And like, first of all, I have to tell Dan right away'cause I'm like, yeah, he needs a warning. He needs to know. Yeah. Because there are sometimes where I'm just annoyed at everything and it's, it's really nobody's fault. It's just, I'm just annoyed. Yeah. Um. Your baseline level is just bitchy. Mm-hmm. And like it's good to just put it out there like, I'm bitchy. Yep. This has nothing to do with you. Yep. But the thoughts in my head or not What you wanna know right now. Yep. Yep. And I'm gonna be quiet. Yep. I'm gonna eat my chocolate. Yep. I, I live with two girls and I feel like we're all very open about that stuff. Like Lily will come up and she's like. I don't wanna talk today. I'm not feeling good. And I'm like, heard, received. We got it right. Yeah. Cool. It does put us in a mo like a moment though, where, my husband will come up to me like if something's happening and I'm, I'm am aggravated or whatever, but it's just like the situation and then he'll like gently ask, oh, so are you PMSing? Are you getting your period? And then sometimes I wanna be so mad at him for asking that question that I'm like, that's such a fair question. Yeah. And like I never, like in life at work, things like that, like I don't think that should be the base question for men to ask women, but I'm like. I've basically given him permission to, because they're, because like being like, oh, I do have my period. I'm fucking aggravated right now. Don't talk to me. He should just know your cycle. Well, it changes. Oh. Like I don't have the period every, the same I. Week. Usually it's like a couple of days before. A couple of days after. Oh. But it's like around typically, and then like if I'm traveling or something, it'll change. But that's, it's been like that my entire life. Okay. Got it. I've never had like, yeah, yeah, same. I mean, I've never been on birth control either, so. Oh. It's very much like, who are my friends during this time of the year. Right. Like, what am I eating? What am I working out? Like where are we going? You know? So it changes a lot, but, okay. Okay. Nothing to worry about. Not worried. Not worried. Dan might be worried, but I'm not. Oh. I think everyone learned a lot about our periods today. Uh, this is, I love hearing people talk about their periods. I do too. Yeah. We'll talk about it more. This won't be the last Yeah. You're gonna know where we're at every month. Yeah. I mean. It's gonna be a great weekend. We're moving forward. It's gonna be a great weekend. Positivity track. I can't wait. Yes, yes. Egos will be restored. Yes, and And it is. Time is just beautiful. Like time heals everything. It really does. You can feel so strongly about something one day, and then three days go by and you're like, wow, life is good again. Yeah. I know that. I know that. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah. We're gonna move on. You're like, that was so ridiculous. That was so ous. I'm, yeah, and I'm just, I'm a sensitive person and that's okay. That is okay. There's beauty to it. I feel my feelings loudly and proudly. I. Preach girl. Thank you. Okay. Speaking. Okay, we're we're good. We're complete. This is complete. Our journey's complete here. We are done. Alright. Thank you for being part of this. Sorry we were all over the place. We love you. We appreciate you. I.