Her Work, Her Worth

Building Businesses & Bonds: The Power of Female Friendships | Give Her the Mic Ep. 7

In episode 7 of 'Give Her the Mic,' we reflect on the journey of building a successful business with the support of a best friend. We discuss overcoming self-doubt, the importance of mental health, navigating toxic relationships, and creating empowering environments. Our experiences in nursing, direct sales, and friendship highlight the significance of finding a true partner who supports and challenges you. Tune in for an inspiring, candid conversation about resilience, growth, and the magic of female partnerships.

00:00 Welcome and Episode Introduction
00:21 Reflecting on Positive Feedback
02:03 The Journey of Building a Business
03:25 Challenges and Support in Business
09:54 The Importance of Self-Care
13:02 Memorable Moments and Achievements
15:23 Reflecting on a Joyful Trip to Spain
16:38 Travel Mishaps and Luxurious Recovery
19:00 Embracing New Beginnings at Any Age
21:49 The Impact of Environment on Mental Health
24:38 Navigating Toxic Relationships and Personal Growth
27:44 Choosing Healthy Environments and Relationships
33:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Transcript

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Hello everybody. Welcome back. To episode seven of Give her the mic. Every time you say the episode, I get so nervous that it's gonna be the wrong one. Do you? Yeah, like I don't know which one we're on at this point'cause we've recorded so many, so I love it so much. I love though time flies. You know, we're having a good time. And, um, I do wanna say real quick, like I told Chloe this morning, the feedback that we have gotten and the positive like. Just everybody's support and people sharing our stories and trusting us with their stories. It's just been, we just know we're on the right path and I'm just, I'm super thankful. Yeah. Even though it's hard some days, like, you know, we were doing it and we're doing it because we were, we were told to. Yeah. And I mean, we literally, we said that this morning, we were like, you know, we are not getting paid for this. No. Like, this is just one of those things where we really felt like. We could really help people. Yeah. You know, and. You, same thing. Like I've read some of the messages that I've gotten on my personal Instagram. Same with you. Like this really is helping women. And that was the goal. Like that's what gift her the mic is. It's not the goal, not just about like the mic on here, but it's them feeling like they have a voice and they can be relatable and our stories are so different, which. So beautiful. Yeah. Like it's tragic in different ways. It's, it's tragic for sure. You know? Yeah. It's, so this episode is gonna be a bit lighter. Yeah. And we're gonna have some fun.'cause we're actually really cool and Yeah. We're really not that serious all the time. No. Like, I'm not even, I'm, I'm hardly ever, I mean, I am serious when I have to be, but I am not. So we wanna have some fun. We don't wanna always be like, you know, in the, what is it? Like it's, it just feels dark. Yeah. I mean,'cause we feel great. I mean, yes, we do. We talked about this like, yeah, we feel better than we ever, ever have, ever since. We started becoming friends and this episode we're gonna talk about, you know, work and our worth and our journey and it's been cool because a lot of our journey with work, we've kind of been there together. Yeah. Which I love. Even if it was just seasons, like at the hospital, there were Yeah, yeah. Little bits and pieces for sure. Thinking friendships wasn't pretty quick. You were at the hospital with you? I was. I was like, I gotta, I was like, I'm gonna cuss a surgeon out and I did a couple times. I remember you cussing a respiratory therapist out at one point. I feel like it might have been Anna. Don't mess with my patients. I was not Anna, I love Anna. It wasn't, I think that was actually somebody else that did that though. And I was like, don't mess with Anna. She will get you. Yeah. Oh yeah. You had to definitely call me. There's off the ledge multiple times. Right. Chloe? You could lose your license with nursing. Like people will push your buttons. Four, 12 hours. Like they literally will push your buttons and you really have to like learn to be, you know. Just like take a step back. It's tough though. I can't lie. It's, yeah, like, like yesterday when you said, you said somebody said they wanted to fight. Yeah. A patient. And you were like, oh, you wanna fight patient's, family member. She literally walked in and said she was ready to fight. I said, on a Tuesday, you wanna fight on a Tuesday? I said, I can take my hoops out. I mean, what are we doing here? Not Taco Tuesday. Not Taco Tuesday. No, not Taco Tuesday. But we really wanna talk today about, um. Chloe and I, our stories are a lot similar in ways over the past, you know, decade and then there's bits and pieces that are different, but some similarities for sure. We, we built our businesses together. Yeah. You know, and we did that during, I mean, our, my kids were smaller years. They were, they were like, were very young, almost my kids' age now. A little bit older than kids' ages now. I think they were like six and eight-ish. Yeah. Something around there. Yeah. You know, and, and it's so fun. It was fun, honestly, like building. Our sensei business together. I feel like there's, there has been so much like, oh, these are the hard parts about building a direct sales business. But honestly and truly, we had a blast man. It was, it was, we had so much fun. So fun. We really did. And what we mean by was, is like building to the level of income, you know? Yeah. We wanted to get to, yeah. Um, it was so fun. It was effortless. So let's like get into that.'cause we did that together. Yeah. You know, that's why it was fun. I feel like when you do something with somebody that. Challenges you and supports you and I, I truly think about this, like trying to find a partner. I mean, I was, I was single for so long. Was she has a boyfriend? She I do. She does right now. I do right now. But, um. You know when you're building something with a partner, like you need someone who's going to be supportive and kind and like empathetic and all of those things. And we were doing it together and you were those things for me and that's why we thrived. Truly. Yeah, same. That's why we did, you know, it was a partnership and that's how people build things. Yeah, and I love that we're already talking about thi this,'cause it's not in our notes, but when you are trying to build something, if you have a true partnership with somebody. The world could be on fire. Like I had a shit day yesterday and you know, I did. Yeah. I mean, just being honest with you guys, you did like, it was one of those days and I was like, I really wanna start over. Like, I ate dinner in my car, um, with a Netflix show at like eight 30 at night. Yeah. Because that's where I, I wanted, I was like, I need that. And, um. I still was like, I can film today because I'm not by myself. Yeah. You know, love Josh. He's great, our producer for this podcast, but like, I have my best friend here with me, or she's gonna be here. I've gotta be here. Yeah. And I think that's actually key for women in business, which. We're definitely, as the seasons go on, we're gonna talk about building businesses, and I know y'all want to hear that kind of stuff. Yeah. And it's so key to have somebody locked in with you doing it because you cannot do this kind of stuff alone. I would never wanna do this alone. So yeah, start with like sensei for us and like all the fun stuff we did and how we built it and nursing. So Chloe and I for sure are both, I mean, as you guys can already see, we're number one. We love women. We love women. We love hearing women's stories. We love mentoring women. And a lot of sensei for us, we were building women up. Yeah. And I think that's why we thrive so much too, because women have kind of always looked to us for that. Yeah. Maybe now I kind of understand it more, but back then I didn't. Right. Um, but we were like running with them, but we were, it really is. And that's leadership. Yeah. But it's a gift. That's leadership. It is a gift for sure. The fact that God put us like, hey. I'm gonna put you with these women and they're gonna see you also with a woman that's your best friend doing it, right? Yeah. And. Remember all the time people used to be like, gosh, we really wanna find what you two have. And we would be like, you can. Yeah. Like it, it's, it's literally out there. Like yeah. But, but you have to get away from those toxic relationships and friendships. There's so many women that, you know, I know for me, um, I feel like people have taken advantage of my kindness a lot in friendships. Oh yeah. And I think a lot of people don't find what we have because they don't know how to, like. They give themselves too much to the wrong people. Yeah. You know, and, and I also think it's like one of those things where women we're all toxic in different ways. Oh, I, you know what I mean? Like the more unhealthy we are. Yes. Or I was reading about rest yesterday and how critical rest is for women. And like I told you this morning, like I didn't even sleep last night. Yeah. And so when you're not rested, you're going through difficult situations. I also wanna make sure like our viewers know like. It's okay if you've been toxic.'cause we've all been there. I think every human being has that angel, devil mentality. That's, that's why we need to get checked by people who love us. Mm-hmm. And we need to also give ourself grace because those imperfections that we each have, that's also what makes us human. Exactly. And, but yes, like when you are. Building something and it is heavily reliable on women, which was so different right? From being a nurse. Oh yeah. Which we can talk about that. It's like so different. It's like we're taking care of people in different ways. But when you're building women in a business, any kind of business where you involve women, you give them a lot of access. Oh yeah. And that creates, you know, that trial and error of not really knowing where. Things are gonna go. But I also think it's incredibly important for people to know that yes, you of course, like we've, we've learned a lot through relationships with others and our own relationship and how we treated each other. Oh, yeah. Which we've talked about in other episodes, but it's also like that's created. Our morals and values of where we are today.'cause who we are today and who we were 10 years ago. Like, not even the same. If I was on this podcast 10 years ago, I would be eating people alive. I would just be crying continuously. I would've just been like crying and then you would get mad at me, I'd, whatever. I'd be like, probably walk out. I'd be like, okay, I'm gonna do the podcast. On my own. I'm gonna finish it out. Yeah, she's fine. And I would just probably still be sitting here crying. She'd be like, you're fine. Get a tissue. The show will go on. You know? Yes. We're not who we used to be. And I think we do wanna talk about that too. Like I. When we were building sensei together and when we were nursing, you know, like you were, we were both building this crazy business at one point. Chloe, of course, left nursing and just did Sensei full-time and still does. Yeah. Um, but we were not taking care of ourselves in the interim at all. No. Like we were, we were literally just like. I mean, not even skincare. I don't even look the same. Not, I look younger. I look so much younger now than I did a decade ago. Were we putting anything on our face? I don't remember putting anything. I was washing my face. No, a cream, a serum. No. I don't remember. No. Like this morning I lacquered on like four things. Oh yeah. No. I told Brandon the other night when I went to bed, I said, don't light a match around me. Like it, my face will go up in flames. We are, you have to put so much stuff on your face. Okay. Any, if you don't take anything else away from this episode, please put, do it. Have a skin regimen. There is a glass skin girl on TikTok. Yes, I've been shown. Kristen, like, please like it is guys. Take a breath in the morning. And I know for me, there's two things. Either when I'm depressed, when I'm really depressed, um, I don't take care of myself. Like I don't, I'd still wash my face. I, that was ingrained in me, like no matter what, I wash my face every day, always tip my makeup off. Um, but I would not like wash my face, do my hair. I remember I didn't brush my hair for like a year, I think at one point, but like. That's number one. And number two, as women, we have so many responsibilities. The amount of things that we do before 9:10 AM is insane. That's why. So a lot of women are like, I don't have time to stop and do this. Yes, you do. And you have to, yeah. Lock your, you physically have to lock your kid out of the room, like. I know that sounds bad, but especially people with young kids. Like I have a lock on the outside of my bedroom door with a thumbprint keypad. Kristen knows this. Yeah, because like I love my daughter. She's my mini me. But yeah, like there's the invasion of just personal space. Personal space, and I feel like we do. Live in this generation now, like worldwide, where people are so overstimulated. Oh my gosh. And it's not age thing. It it's not. It's all generations where, especially with women,'cause we do wear so many hats, so many that I'll lock my door for a minute and I will tell my daughter, Hey, I'm doing my skincare. Or I'm gonna take a 10 minute bath, I'm gonna set you up with a puzzle and that's okay. And it took me a long time to get there. Me too. Because I used to, I think,'cause I had such a, such a, it's hard with my mom because she used to be good and then she wasn't good. And so it makes you think they were good the whole time, but there was always the bad parts. But. She never really gave me consistent time, and so I'm So you feel like you need to do the opposite almost? It's totally against it, yes. For me to be like, I'm gonna do skincare and I'm gonna do, you know, a bath or whatever. But it, it is so important because these, these nervous systems that we have as women are. Freaking out. You know. Let's talk about our guts for a second. Oh, we will Episode, uh, isn't it nine? Oh, I can't wait. Oh, yes, it's, I can't wait either. We're gonna talk about the gut. All that. The gut health. Your gut health. Like we have to talk about gut health for sure. I wanna, I wanna talk about, what do you wanna about a little more though? Let's talk about like how much fun we had when we were building that business and. Everywhere we are flying. Do you remember when you promoted, was it director or SSD? When we were on that trip with Jen Anderson. You flying? It was director and we were at some place. She rented. For us it was, we were in Vegas. We were in Vegas, uh, at the pool. When you promoted that day we were at the pool. I just promoted. It was the best day ever. Jumped in the pool. I was so excited. You remember that the way that we grew and how quickly we grew because we had the support of each other Yeah. Was magical. Yeah. Like I hit the top level in the company in two years. Yeah. They, that was supposedly unheard of. Yeah. You know, it is. But we were just, we were just building. Yeah. And. I don't know. I mean, I remember we had, we had, I remember we did this one Halloween party and we dressed up in, out outfit. Like we literally, we sure did. Just had the time of our lives. Yeah. We did a video on, um, Facebook one time with some coconut brass on when they came out with a Hawaiian collection. We did, like we were, and we were truly ourselves. Did together. I, and I'm gonna say what, what I'm gonna say, I feel like we really pioneered. Social and direct sales with video and stuff like that because no, no one was doing it. Nobody was doing video on Facebook, um, and Instagram. Gosh, I wish, I wish we got on there sooner, but it's okay. But you know, like we really were like, we loved video. Yeah. And so we were videoing and going live all the time. Always life. Always life. And let's talk about Spain. Remember when we earned that trip to Spain and we got to take our friend Cassidy and her husband? Yeah. We stayed. So we stayed in this little village before we went to Barcelona. Yeah. Before we went to like, you know, the actual city. We stayed there for a week. It was wild. And we rented this Airbnb and it was in this little village. All they had was a, um, like a, you know, family owned restaurant, meat market. There was a meat market, there was a pharmacy, which was super cool. Coffee shop. A coffee shop. And it was amazing, the culture because they don't get up until like 11 o'clock every day, dude. Yep. Let's talk about that. It was insane. Remember? And then remember, like, uh, there was like nap time. Yes. Every day at like S3 Siesta. It was closed. We were, I remember we were starving and we were walking through Barcelona and there was, so just know if you ever go to Spain and you're hungry, make sure you eat before siesta time. Yeah. Or you will not get any food at all. Like Yeah. There's no food. Yeah. But that was, yeah. We, we were lucky. We really were. Yeah. Even though we were both struggling in other ways, like God. Truly like gave us so much joy in that season. It was just so fun. And I think for me, that trip to Spain is what really showed me, like, I'm even thinking about next year, like, I want me and you to go to Paris. It's on my list for us. But that really opened my eyes to like international travel. Yes. Because I never thought. Most people don't do it right. They don't like, and we got to do it together with our other like really good friend that we are still good friends with today. Yeah. And we always talk about that trip and like Yeah. You know, I wish, one thing I do wish is I wish that when me personally on that trip, I wish I slowed down. I think my brain was still so fast that I was like, you never slowed down back then though. Right. Even on trips. Right. You know, but, but that's because. Our nervous systems were still like up here. Yeah. And we weren't taking care of ourselves at all. Yeah. So even when we traveled, we were still like, now when we travel, we're like, where can I sit? Right. Like, how do I like truly rest? Because if you're gonna travel like it should be so you come back ready to like seize because life is hard. Yes. At home I taught you that. I taught, it never stops. I taught you how to travel. Like in style. Yes. Because even when we went to. Miami for your birthday. So we went to Miami off of her birthday and it was so fun. Um, but when we were flying back, all of our girlfriends had left. They went on early flights and we got stuck. Our flight got canceled because it started to monsoon. Yes, it did. And we were in the airport all day, sitting on the floor, rescheduled the flight twice, only for it to get canceled. And we were gonna have to sleep in the airport. And I went, oh hell no. And I said, we're gonna stay at the Setai. And so we literally, I said, Chloe, I took her phone'cause I saw,'cause Chloe is very Type A, she's the doer. She's like, here, we're going here, we're doing this, we're doing that. I looked at her and I could tell in her eyes she was done. I was done. She was done. So I took her phone and I started looking up hotels and I said, the only one that I see is a SAT tights right down the street. And she said, book it. I said, it is like 900 and something dollars. She said, I don't care. No, I'm done. It was, I am done. It was wonderful. It was the most beautiful place I've ever been in my life. Literally what? I can't wait to go there again. And once we got there, we took showers.'cause we had been, oh, we wore the same clothes for what? Almost 30 hours, 48 hours I had on a suit. We wore the next day y'all. She had a, she had a cat suit on. Okay. I had a catsuit on, like a black, like a one piece jumpsuit. And y'all know how that is when you're in a jumpsuit in the airport. You're naked? Yeah, essentially on the the toilet. I do know because you didn't tell me. And I wore a hat suit when I went on a business trip the next month and I texted her and I was like, I do not know how you wore this. And went to the airplane bathroom. And I said, I'm so sorry that I did not warn you and tell you not to do that. I think I was still traumatized from our situation, so I'm sorry. Yeah, it was bad. But like remember, don't wear a jumpsuit to the airport. We got to the setai and then we showered. And it was just like so luxurious.'cause they had shampoo and conditioner there. That was luxurious. The shower was like a cave. Yeah. We got room service. Mm-hmm. We slept in our robes. Yeah. Because like we were not, we have to take care That, and the entire story is that like you have to know yourself enough to know what to do for you to breathe. Yeah. To truly like settle your nervous system down because you can't live that way. No. You're inflamed. Yeah. Like there's so many things that go into it. It is not good. But yeah. I love the tie. Yes, we will. I wish I could live there. It was amazing. It was amazing. I can't, so, moving on. Let's see what, let's talk about. It's never too late. Oh yeah, let's talk about it. Let's talk about It's never too late. Too late. Y'all know I'm 42 and I feel like a lot of my life is just beginning, if that makes sense. It's kind of beautiful. Kind of wonderful. Yeah. It actually is beautiful and wonderful. And, um, I could have, you know, taken the last however many years of my life, all the things I've been through and been like, I'm just gonna fold. But life is way too short. Like, you know, we never know if we're gonna wake up tomorrow. Yeah. And every day is a new beginning. Mm-hmm. It doesn't matter if you're 42, 22. You know, 55, like you still have so much life because every I'm, I said that the other day to my older son. I was like, I'm just so thankful that God has still kept me here. Yeah. You know? Yeah.'cause I should be gone. Yeah. So many times I should be gone. Yeah. But I know that like I still have so much purpose and it doesn't matter how old you are. Like you still have, God has you here for a purpose. Yeah. And every day you should live that way. Mm-hmm. And be thankful for it. So Yeah. It's never too late, man. No. Because you can do anything that you want this life, even like, you know, I feel like my, I know my dad and stepmom specifically. Used to get on my nerves when I was younger because they would, you know, wanna do family time and wanna do all this stuff and wanna ask how my day was and slow me down. And I would be like, no, I'm busy. Like, no, I don't care about that stuff. And now I look at it as in, you know, those are the moments that actually they matter, matter and are impactful is sitting down. And like I tell Brody, my son all the time, I told him yesterday, I looked at him in the eye and I was like, you know. I love you so much. I think it's so important to tell the people that we love, that we love them, and yeah, to just, I, yeah, I just feel like, and have conversations. I feel like people just don't have conversations in general, like hard, easy, whatever in the interim, like you, you need to talk. Yeah. Yeah, and you know, I even look at me being 34 and I could look at it two ways. Like, oh my gosh, I am in my mid thirties now. Where did my life go? Yeah. And I think about that sometimes I, I literally am like, God, how did I get here? Me too. And it's not in a selfish way, but I'm like, yeah, I know it was my choices. But I also know life, life will really mess you up and really will, will derail you and really will make you think when you're in your bubble of the way things are, you think this is just how it's gonna be. You know, like we were talking about this this morning'cause we were reading a text from. Our friend Dana, and you know, when you're in bad situations or certain situations, you really think like this is, I'm never getting out. This is just how it is. Like these are the cards I was dealt. And it, it doesn't create a victim mentality, but it creates a depressed mentality. And for like a long time, most of my twenties I was, I was pretty in and out of depression and, but then it's like I come from a family that. Has diagnosis of bipolar, schizophrenia, OCD, like, and so I, I fought so hard to like, I don't wanna be on medication, I'm not gonna be medicated. But then you have people around you that make you feel crazy, and I don't even know where I'm going with this, but it's like to not have that support and to feel crazy if there's anybody out there that feels like that, like. You're not alone. You know, it's, and also you're a product of your environment, that part. And so whoever you're around and whatever you're around and whatever's being fed to you and through you, and those daily, those daily things in relationships, like that's going to, they all matter affect. They all matter. Every single conversation that comes your way from the second that you wake up it. Affects you. Yeah. And it shapes you. It truly does. And there's been so, so your environment Yeah. Is the biggest thing that I think most people don't realize. That you can change. Yeah. You can change. You can. And it's freaking hard. That's what it's hard. You know, you've shown me and like my stepmom through talking with her about things like, you can think differently and re almost like rewire your brain through therapy and through positive self-talk, but. I think to the downfall of social media as well as like when you have a platform like me and you have. You set yourself up to be judged and you set yourself up for failure sometimes and like me and you are feelers and so it's like we can feel whenever people are being fake. We were talking about that the other day on social or when people just will show up for clout or start to come around when you're, when you're doing super well and you know, it's, I think just the environment. Is so critical. Mm-hmm. Of what is happening in our homes and in our space. Because somebody can say one bad thing to you on social and you'll get over it, but if somebody says something bad to you that you care about Yeah. And that you love and that you think loves you, it affects you 10 times differently. And it take, and then, you know. When you grow up like that, because I grew up and you know, I was telling you the other day, we're gonna talk about this in the next episode because we're gonna talk about narcissism. Yes. We're the narcissist. The word that starts at the end, you know, I'm talking to my mom two weeks ago and then now on this podcast. Now we're not talking because the true colors always come out. The core self of people is what I think scares me the most about human beings in general, and that's why. I love that we're talking about, it's never too late because it is never too late. And there may be people that are listening now that are walking through this where they are in environments where they are being told they're great and then they're shitty. Yep. And when you go back and forth, the rollercoaster in relationships like that and friendships and whatnot. Are you gonna feel great or are you gonna feel shitty? You're gonna feel shitty. Of course, you're, because it doesn't matter how many times you're told you're great when you. Are cut down and it could be the hospital. Right? Yeah. There's been so many times, right? Yeah. Where you've been cut down at the hospital. Oh yeah. Made, made to feel replaceable, insignificant. Like your old boss, like I wasn't a good nurse and I am the best damn nurse. Right? Yeah. So many times. But when people tell you those words are like. Even with your ex, when he would, you know, tell you, you know, or undermine when you started Hazel House mm-hmm. Or undermine your needs or, you know, um, A, B, C, and D, it, it affects you even thinking that you could be anything else. Yeah. Which is why I think our relationship and women finding relationships with. Their best friend is so important because if it wasn't for you, I don't know if I would, I know I wouldn't be doing this podcast, number one, and I know you wouldn't either. No, but I also know, like those other voices of the times when I've been told, you're not good enough, you're not a good mom. You're, you know, you're nothing, this is your fault. You're in this situation. Mm-hmm. You did this to yourself. Mm-hmm. What did you think was gonna happen? Yeah. Um, or like when my mom texted me the other weekend and said, let me, let me clarify what you said on your podcast and let me, let me address like what I really did. And it's like, no, you're gaslighting me. Yep. But it's, it's really hard, like Right, like even with therapy, hard to, like, it's hard. It's so hard. Step into like, it is, it is the hardest thing that anybody will ever do. Getting out of a toxic relationship, marriage, abusive one. It is literally like. I think the only way you can do it is like you just have to take a breath, and even if you don't have the strength, you just do it and then eventually you find it. But what's so crazy is that when you do it, the peace that comes immediately after is something that I cannot even, because for so long, like you didn't stand for that and then you, so it's different. Yeah. But any who? Yeah. So said. But any, so nursing, um, Sensy, building our careers. Mm-hmm. Getting into therapy, um, I know was really big for Yes. Both of us. Yes. And, um, and just being the choices that you make for yourself every single day. Matter so much. Yes. Choosing, and that's why I say all the time now, like, I choose for myself so differently than I ever did before. Yeah. You deserve to choose for yourself'cause you are your own person. Yeah. You know? And I don't think that, I think people just worry about what everybody else is saying and everybody else is doing it also to the backlash of the choices that they make. But yeah, you're gonna get it no matter what you choose. Right. And even being an environment you don't wanna be in. Like I told myself at the beginning of the year, and I told you this too, like I was making a choice to not be in environments anymore. That made me uncomfortable. Yeah, and I was in a situation. In April at, on my business trip with a particular woman and she put me in a situation'cause I was literally stuck in a room. Yeah. And when she came and invaded my personal space, I literally walked out of that room and Justin came and walked a walked out to see if I was okay. And. I made the choice. I said, no, I'm gonna actually leave this environment. Yeah, and you can, and I was proud of myself because old Chloe would've stayed there and trained and done that while she sat in the front row and tried to do what she has done to me since I joined this business. But I said, no. Like her power is gone. There you go. That power is gone. And that's what I'm really fighting for this year is like. Not being in an, I don't have to be in environments or try to, we talked about this the other day, try to be friends with people that do not like me. No. Why are we trying to No befriend people that. Or let relationships last where that season's long gone, because that's an old part of us too, that mm-hmm. And I think that's what's hard to let go of too. Mm-hmm. Is like all of those relationships where you used to like, just stand there and be tough and it'll maybe get better. No guys, it literally doesn't get better because they, it's not you. No, no, no. Or it may be bringing out a horrible version of you. Triggers in you For sure. Which mean you have talked about. Mm-hmm. And so I think that's super important too. Yep. Is for the viewers to understand. Like you actually don't have to be in situations that make you uncomfortable. Mm-hmm. You don't. You don't. And when you're, when you start moving differently and going, no, like even on my last work trip, like I didn't go to dinners with people. Mm-hmm. I, all these things, you know, I used to like force myself to do that. Yeah. And the way that my anxiety works and the way that I run, I have major trust issues like. So do you. Oh yeah. Big time. It's like I would be a fool just to think I could sit at a dinner table with women that I only know on the internet. Yeah. Do you get what I'm saying? I know we live in this world where we think like, oh yeah, they like me, they're for me. You literally have no idea until you were like building. Quality time with people. Mm-hmm. Over time you don't know them in person. You, yeah. You do not know and you don't. That's super important. Mm-hmm. For people to know too, like if they're building a business, whether it be they're an entrepreneur building a business, or it's direct sales, or they're on social, you must be very careful because unfortunately, most people are not for you. No. Most people are selfish. They are. They're not for you. Mm-hmm. And that's why you know it. Matters more to me, like pouring into our relationship and pouring into my relationship with my stepmom and with my friends that walked with me through the past five years. Like being in those kinds of relationships and not trying to win back. Put your effort where it's supposed to be. Yeah, yeah. Like exactly. Like I had a friend text me this morning and she was like. Maybe one day, like the certain people will apologize to you. And I said, you know, honestly, I don't even think I'm looking for that. No, because I've already done what I needed to do. And also have let that go. And those aren't genuine people. Yeah. And I think, you know, so to wrap it up, I don't know if there's anything you wanna add to. Let me think. I do, I did wanna say too, um, in your job, like I, Chloe knows, I, um, was in the float pool for two years, and at the end I was miserable. Like my body felt that it was so bad going to work every day. I like was in so much pain. Um, and she, I mean at one point she was like, girl, you gotta go. I think you said that to me multiple times. Mm-hmm. And finally, but like you, I definitely, I. I am used to staying in things, even if they're not perfect, not perfect, but you know, even if I'm complete, not completely happy or comfortable. And I was like, I gotta go. And now my job is so beautiful. My nervous system is so much better. It's still crazy at times'cause I'm a nurse, let's be honest. But just like you said, multiple, multiple times, like you don't have to stay in an environment. No. Even in your job. No. There are many jobs in this world like y'all. Yeah, you can switch. It will be okay. And you have to get up every day and do that. Yeah, and if you don't like it, it's not a good idea. So yeah, we talked about a lot of stuff on this episode. It was that we didn't even like plan or anything. But you know what? It was great. It was so good. It was so good. I'm so glad. Yes. So yes. So basically we want you guys to go out. Go out and build the business, find your bestie, build it with them, find a, find a partner type friendship. Where they are going to help you win at life. That is, I know, is the key between both of us, and that's what we've done. Um, and, and make, oh, sorry. No, go. Make sure the relationships that you're in feel that way too. Yeah. Like every day, like look around you and really self-reflect and be like, is this how my re like with my best friend is my relationship with my partner this way? Like, you have to stop and truly think. Is this the environment and everything else that's like healthy for myself and my nervous system? Yeah. Nobody does that. Yeah. So any who does that? Take your own advice. We'll see you guys next week. Bye.