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Living Life by Design in Motherhood with Dr. Wendy O'Connor

Jena Burris Episode 48

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Episode 48: Living Life by Design in Motherhood with Dr. Wendy O'Connor

So many moms are living on autopilot.
You check the boxes.
You show up.
You do the “right” things.
And yet… something feels off.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Wendy O’Connor, Stanford-trained positive psychologist, to unpack what it truly means to live life by design instead of default, especially in motherhood.

We talk about the quiet kind of burnout that happens when your life looks good on paper but doesn’t feel aligned anymore. The kind where you’re not depressed, but you’re not lit up either. The kind where you start wondering, Is this just how it’s supposed to be?

Dr. Wendy shares the pivotal moment that changed everything for her, realizing she had built a successful life that no longer fit who she was becoming. That realization led her into the work she now teaches thousands of women: reconnecting to your strengths, values, and desires so you can stop surviving and start designing forward.

A Powerful Shift
One of the most important takeaways from this episode:
You don’t need to overhaul your entire life.
You need to start designing forward.

That might look like taking an honest audit of your day.
Noticing where you hit the “rumble strip.”
Asking yourself, Where am I saying yes when I mean no?
It’s not about blowing everything up.
It’s about inching closer to alignment.

Because every time you say yes when you mean no, you fracture self-trust.
And every time you choose yourself in a small way, you begin rebuilding it.

Why This Matters in Motherhood
There is no other season of life where you give so much of yourself.
And yet, when you disconnect from yourself, you don’t just affect your own fulfillment, you model that disconnection for your children.
If we live dimmed, filtered, and small… they learn to do the same.

Living by design isn’t selfish.
It’s modeling courage.
It’s modeling self-trust.
It’s modeling what it looks like to come home to yourself.

If You’re Feeling “Too Far Gone”
Dr. Wendy reminds us: there is no such thing.
Everything you desire is waiting on the other side of your next small move.

One mindset shift.
One boundary.
One aligned decision.

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Connect with Dr. Wendy
You can connect with Dr. Wendy O’Connor on Instagram at @drwendyoconnor and learn more about her work helping women live with clarity, confidence, and intention.

P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.