All In Your Bizz w/ Reka & Los
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All In Your Bizz w/ Reka & Los
Wigs, BBLs, and Man Weaves: The Truth Nobody's Talking About
What drives someone to dramatically alter their appearance? Is it self-expression, insecurity, or simply following trends? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, we're peeling back the layers on body enhancements and beauty modifications that have become increasingly normalized in our social media-saturated world.
From makeup that completely transforms faces to BBLs that reshape bodies, we're asking the uncomfortable questions: When does enhancement become deception? At what point does self-expression become dangerous obsession? Our candid discussion explores the complicated relationship between how we present ourselves and how others perceive us, particularly in professional settings.
We tackle the contradictions of beauty standards – how society simultaneously craves "natural beauty" while promoting artificial enhancements. The conversation gets real when discussing workplace appropriateness, with surprising perspectives on how visible modifications might impact professional opportunities. We share personal experiences with tattoos, piercings, and makeup, reflecting on how age changes our relationship with these enhancements.
Most importantly, we highlight the concerning health risks associated with certain procedures, particularly for young people influenced by unrealistic beauty ideals on social media. Parents play a crucial role in validating children's natural appearances before these external pressures take hold.
Whether you're enhancement-free or covered in tattoos with a fresh set of lashes, this judgment-free discussion invites you to reconsider your relationship with beauty modifications. Share your thoughts with us – we want to know what drives your enhancement choices or why you choose to keep it natural. Subscribe now and join the conversation where nothing's off-limits!
Rika, you ready.
Speaker 2:I stay ready.
Speaker 1:Okay, if you stay ready, then I guess we'll introduce ourselves and all. So I am Los and I'm Rika. Rika, or should you start off first? You're like Rika and I'll be Los.
Speaker 2:It doesn't matter. How about we just Rika, you're Los.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, can I be Rika and you be Los? Whatever, Shake the table, but guess what? We're going to be all in your biz here. So that's the name of our show. This is our first episode here and we got a lot to talk about here. So what are we going to talk about today?
Speaker 2:There is a lot to talk about, but I've seen some things recently that have caught the attention of many, and it's also, I think, we're kind of desensitized by it. Now. It's a thing that we see and we notice.
Speaker 1:I mean, what is it? What is it I want to know? I want to know what you talking about.
Speaker 2:It's these body enhancements, oh Lord.
Speaker 1:It's these body enhancements, or BBLs, or lashes, wigs, these excessive tattoos, maybe facial tattoos, neck tattoos, you know just all kinds of enhancements, piercings, you know the things.
Speaker 2:So are you saying like it's getting out of hand? I mean, where you going with this? Then, rika, what are you saying? I don't know if it's getting out of hand, but I will say it's getting noticeable, more noticeable, I would say now I mean, I guess, coming from like a man point of view, I think some people need enhancements.
Speaker 1:Okay, like makeup, like I really believe that some people they just need it. You know, like you need that makeup to, and I don't know if that's nice to say or not, but it's a great enhancement for you.
Speaker 2:You know, some people don't need it, but so when you say people, I'm assuming you're meaning women need makeup. Like to fix correct what.
Speaker 1:To enhance, because I want to keep it. I want to be nice about it, however, but maybe it may be for some blemishes or something like that you want to use makeup or something of that nature.
Speaker 2:Most women can relate to that. Yeah, we want this appearance of flawless skin, so, but so are you saying that, oh, here we go a woman may need makeup every day if she has a lot of blemishes, or are you saying she needs makeup for something else?
Speaker 1:well, rika, you know we're gonna go there. How about that? So you know, like some women okay, it may be like for blemishes, like I said, but some women you just need. You know, sometimes people everybody's beautiful. You know, like I beautiful, I'm tap dancing here and there.
Speaker 2:Don't give me that.
Speaker 1:I just feel like some people need that enhancement because maybe they may have a face that only a mother could love.
Speaker 2:Can I say that You're saying that makeup would help someone look better.
Speaker 1:Is that? Just say that I mean I guess you're right, you know, you know but what happens then after?
Speaker 2:okay, let's say, you meet a lady, she has on makeup.
Speaker 1:I mean it?
Speaker 2:may not, it may not be glam, and we'll talk about glam, you know, because glam can sometimes take you to the next level where you don't even look like yourself. So let's just say she has on some regular everyday makeup and you know you go out with her. And let's say you go swimming no or you start sweating, right, right, right, or she happens to wipe her face with her hand and, oh my gosh, like I see three shades lighter, three shades darker and a lot of blemishes. Then how do you feel about that?
Speaker 1:You lied to me.
Speaker 2:But you said no wait a minute.
Speaker 1:You lied to me because when I seen you, you was like oh man, but it helps, do you not say?
Speaker 2:it helps you look better?
Speaker 1:I did say that. Okay, but I want you to be straight up with me the first time we meet, you know.
Speaker 2:I don't want no makeup. My face is effed up Like this is me.
Speaker 1:Exactly. And then when you do the enhancements, then I understand.
Speaker 2:But don't me saying, oh okay, you know, and then you know you get in the water or drink a cup of water or something, and then you know it's sliding down your face. It just slide down. So are you a makeup guy? Are you like, are you? One that says, okay, I'm okay with makeup, or is it just you don't like too much makeup, or how do you feel about makeup as a man?
Speaker 1:well, you know what. That's a good question. So I believe that makeup can like, as we say, it could be an enhancer and all but. Um, I'm like old school, you know, like, I like a natural look. I like, you know, maybe like a little lipstick or something like that or all the other little stuff, you know, just modestly, not just a whole bunch where it's like you're a whole different person, so you don't want a glam on a tuesday, no, and then wednesday coming is like well, hold up, this ain't this ain't rika, this ain't the.
Speaker 1:It's like you're a whole different person. So you don't want a glam on a Tuesday, no. And then Wednesday coming, it's like well, hold up, this ain't Rika, this ain't the same person I seen the other day. It's a noticeably different look and I'm sure that takes time, if you gotta do that every single day.
Speaker 2:That's a skill, that's an art form and that's why so many women pay makeup artists so much money. To you know, tighten up their look, to make their nose every day, though you got to do it every day.
Speaker 1:Some people do it every day wow, I can't imagine you know like that before you go to work or go out, however it is, and then it's like you know and some people I don't know if they're doing it themselves and all but their colors don't be matching.
Speaker 2:That's true. But sometimes people don't know. Or sometimes you know you may have one of those odd colors where your undertone and you know is off, or you know your neck is a different color from your face, that's when you go to the professionals and you have them look at your skin and get you some makeup and you buy that same makeup that they use and if you get a tan or if you get lighter in the winter, get some lighter makeup If you get tanned in the summer get some darker makeup so it can match.
Speaker 1:Sometimes people out here looking sick, I say you looking like something that's like something get sharp you look at casket sharp, like I'm looking from the head down, I'll get to the neck.
Speaker 1:You looking like you looking about as lighted I mean darker than me. I'm like I mean, come on now. Like I think that it has to be done in moderation, like I don't want, you know and I get it. You know, like you know, and I get it. You know, like you know, everybody you know wants to have that look. You know, but don't if you it costs to have that look.
Speaker 2:It does it does. Now let me ask when you talk about that look, how does it go? Or do you think it goes from having that look to like an obsession with always having that look like your hair has to always be in place, your makeup has to always be in place. You won't go in public without makeup. You won't let people see you without makeup. What do you think about that? Do you think there's a thin line between I want to enhance my look versus I need to be perfect? What do you think about that?
Speaker 1:I think it could be turned to obsession, you know, but I think that's like how society has made it like you gotta have long hair, you gotta have, you know this, you gotta have that. But you can be natural and I'm cool with that. You know, I'm saying like I'm not. Maybe when I was younger, it it was like you know, like I like you know the little, you know like the little extension or this and that other habits. But as you get older, like I want natural, you know, like I don't want to wake up, and then you know I look over at you and your eyelashes missing, your eyebrows are missing. You know, like, I'm like who, like it gets scary. I'm like who is this person you know like, and okay, okay, so let me switch that around. Like how would you feel if, you know, you see me with a whole head full of hair and then your man wig came off.
Speaker 1:My man wig came off. Like did you feel like I lied to you or I tried to deceive you?
Speaker 2:or what I would say. The man wig is something new why do you say wig? That's what it is right do I say is it a man weave or a man wig?
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:You put a low emphasis on that g, like it was a wig I don't know I I've seen recently like on social media some barbers doing some really nice man wigs or man weaves, but I think I would feel a way if I saw my guy with the wig like peeling off.
Speaker 1:Well, listen, baby, look at I got a confession after this, but go ahead, you talk about the man wig.
Speaker 2:Now I can see the little Beijing. You know, in moderation, if it's shiny, black and peeling and dripping down your face, don't do that. But you know, as we age and you know our hair thins out in certain places, we need some help. But I think if you have to and again, this is a personal preference for that individual but if you feel like you need to hold on to your youth and you need a man wig or weave whichever, I'm being serious, whichever one it is, then just, you know, talk to your partner and let them know, but that's your thing. You know, that's something that you know. I need to let you know that talk to your partner and let them know, but that's your thing, you know.
Speaker 2:That's something that you know.
Speaker 1:I need to let you know that up front.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's a big surprise.
Speaker 2:You want to say, hey, man, I got on a wig, yeah I have on a wig and it's like, okay, I do too, but do we both take our wigs off at night and put them on the dresser?
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:You need to be up front I don't think the man wig comes off, I think it comes like I think the glue kind of lifts up after like a week or two yeah, some of them may be loving it. Go get it done again you know.
Speaker 1:But what if I had a rough night? I was tossing and turning and then, you know, put on a do-rag or something I don't know.
Speaker 2:I don't know, because that's's different. But you would look at me differently I can see how a man would look at a woman different with that scenario, because it's like oh, I thought you had a really nice patch of hair on the top of your head but it was lifting, gone, it was lifting, it was giving them praise. It was lifting up, yeah. So I mean, I think, as you become close, you know you just do that I get a little hair enhancement. I don't know, I mean it's different, but that's different.
Speaker 1:But we talked about hair, hair and stuff like that and makeup, but there's like a whole body full of things that you can get done and people get done. You know like nails like I'm thinking like how can?
Speaker 2:what do you think about nails like? Do you like because you remember back in the 90s we used to listen to swv and coco I think that was her name had the long nails and they had the airbrush. I remember my nails were not as long I hope that they were no back in the 90s I used to wear my my nails long and airbrushed and now um, you know how you gonna wipe.
Speaker 2:Tell me that you got hard you have to put the tissue at the tip of your nails and pull back, or maybe a bidet, I don't know. I'm saying back during that time, I don't know. I'm sure it's possible, if you can do anything, I'm sure it's possible. But you know, some women pay two hundred dollars or more to get their nails, you know, done and with jewels and and decorations on it, like that's an, that's a form of expression.
Speaker 1:I guess it is. But I mean if, if I come to the doctor's office and you asked me what my name is and your nails, you miss typing stuff and all that, like that's a problem.
Speaker 2:I think it it does interfere. I think in the professional space it could, Um, but if you've had, let's say you've had someone working in your office that's been there 10, 15 years with these nails, or she started off when they were short and you know she decided I want to grow my nails out. So can you get rid of a person because their nails Would you get rid of them.
Speaker 2:Oh they out of there, because then you come out like I'm sure like a lot of germs and stuff and get up under there. But that's a can see if if she were working in a food service industry or health care with nails like that, but if she's working in an office setting, can you really say? Gone sued, I don't know. I, I think I mean I just discriminated?
Speaker 2:yeah, you did I think it's a form of expression, but everybody may may not like it. You know, it may not be everybody's thing. Just like, let's say what about? Okay, you're in an office, we'll stay in the office. What if someone has an enlarged butt, like a massive butt, and their clothes obviously fit to where you can see it? Men are looking, women are looking, you, you know. How do you feel about that?
Speaker 1:are you? You asked me what will I? What do you think I mean?
Speaker 2:I'm not. I'm not judging you. This is a conversation.
Speaker 1:But this is a trick question, because then I'm gonna have to sleep out here and then you're gonna be like, because you said that you're gonna keep that lady not at all bbls you ain't gonna trick me no bbls and you know big by t gas or whatever.
Speaker 2:What do you think about that? All the the socialites, and you know everybody has it. People go out of the country to get it. You know some people have them done where it looks natural or a little bit. You know little junk and some people have trash, some people have donks, some what do?
Speaker 1:you think like let me tell you what. And I always think like this you know, as you get older, and all like, if you the more butt you get, the the more costly it's going to be. More tissue, I gotta buy, okay.
Speaker 2:No, the more draws, you gotta buy so you're not going to answer the question you know what I'm saying the bigger seat is it appealing to the male.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I mean, after a while, guess what? It's going to get old. You know what I'm saying. You're going to sit there and it's like that's more chairs I got to go through because you didn't half your cheek and came off of it and now the chair broke and everything. But I mean, to each his own how it is, but I think if it became like a distraction or something like that well, you got people you know coming and gawking and stuff like that and maybe you had like some harassment going on. How it is, I think you know I would have to tell that employee like, is there a way you can cover up them cheeks a little bit?
Speaker 2:but can you do that?
Speaker 1:I mean, I know I can't do it, but I'm saying like I don't need all the and is that that employee's issue where her body is okay?
Speaker 2:what if it was a natural body body? You know, you have some women, just have you got too.
Speaker 1:You got too much trunk to stay up in here. You gotta go. I'm sorry, how would you? So? How would you feel like if we was? I was at the office and you know the lady there at the front desk had a whole lot of junk in that trunk. Okay, Okay. I'm talking about a whole lot okay.
Speaker 2:A whole lot. She got a donk.
Speaker 1:I'm talking about, like, how would you feel if she was at the front desk and I worked there all day long, you know? Would you be like I know you will be? I mean, how would you feel?
Speaker 2:Okay, this is R all day long. You know, would you be like I know you will be. I mean, how would you feel? Okay, this is. This is rika speaking.
Speaker 2:Like I am a realist in a lot of things and I know and I understand that people are humans and people look shoot. If I saw a woman with the don't, I would look too like, oh my gosh, you know not saying that, I would feel like you were, you know, fantasizing about her, that you wanted her or she should be fired because of that body. No, but my. But my focus would be on like, how are you perceiving it? Like, are you, do you feel uncomfortable or are you.
Speaker 2:It'll probably make me feel uncomfortable if you're asking her for you know the report from yesterday you have to talk to her and her butt Like you can't look her in the eyes and say, hey, co-worker, can you send me the report from yesterday, or do you have to look at her butt and ask no, I won't Like.
Speaker 1:I have to look at her butt. But, it's just like it would be like it would be like I had to look at her butt. But it's just like it would be like. It would be like I guess in a sense it would be uncomfortable, I mean, if you just sit there. I mean, if you drop something, I'd be like, oh dang, like she got to pick it up.
Speaker 2:Do you have to watch her pick it up?
Speaker 1:I mean, I don't have to watch her pick it up, but I'm just like, naturally, I'm like okay it fell on the floor, we both looking down, so everybody's looking at her picking up. Nobody wants to help her pick it up exactly nobody wants to help.
Speaker 2:then she bent over. You know, you know, you don't know what, so does it? When does it get old, though? Like, when does it get old when you see her, you know, at 10 years, 15 years, and she still has this wagon, like is it all by that time? Like okay, yeah, I'm sure it can get old, but I think it will probably attract attention.
Speaker 1:You know like.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I know that she probably can't, you know, do anything about that high risk. But I'm like, can you wear a jacket or something or you know, and then don't have like breasts to go with it?
Speaker 2:I mean it's like you're more like god forbid, just put put all the women that have bodies in the closet and just. I mean I think this is just something that has to be talked about and you have to be. I mean you can't miss it. I mean if she has a body, she has a body.
Speaker 1:You can't miss it right, you know you can't miss it. She don't want you to miss it I mean it's not her fault.
Speaker 2:What is she supposed to walk around in A muumuu?
Speaker 1:Maybe she should work from home then, or something, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm sure, okay, ladies, if you have a big bottom and a big top, ask to work from home and see how that goes. I mean it may. Okay, so let's switch it. Let's talk about men with enhancements. Let's talk about tattoos and I know tattoos are popular. But does it get to a point where tattoos are kind of overboard, Like if they're on your face?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, they're on your face, on your neck, on your lips.
Speaker 2:You have somebody's name across your, your throat, like and is it? This is a form of self-expression or is it like, does it impede with your professionalism? And that's a touchy topic because I know that, you know, each person chooses to get a tattoo or some tattoos for whatever reason. Do you feel as if you're younger? I think more people are inclined to probably explore tattoos. Some people really love them, some people like the feeling of tattoos, some people like the art.
Speaker 2:Do you feel, okay, you have tattoos. Do you feel like? I love the feeling of tattoos? Some people like the art, I like it, so do you feel, okay, you have tattoos? Do you feel like um? I love the feeling okay, do you feel as if your tattoos are acceptable in every place that you go?
Speaker 1:um, good question. So sometimes, you know, I would cover my arms up high-risk, you know, because I have both sides and all. And sometimes I guess, as you get older, you feel like this is not appropriate you know, but it takes you to get older. You know, however, but in that setting, you know.
Speaker 2:So it depends on the setting. It depends on the setting, so church.
Speaker 1:Church is supposed to be a place of, like a hospital or refuge.
Speaker 2:But do you feel comfortable?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:With tattoos on your temple.
Speaker 1:No, no, no See, I won't get tattoos like on my face or nothing like that on my neck but your body is your temple, so would you feel comfortable with the short sleeve shirt going into church? Um, no, that's why I would wear a long sleeve shirt, so I guess that would. That would so church, you would feel uncomfortable right, but I mean, I can't cover up my hands, you know my hands, or that's, I'm gonna put some gloves on maybe, okay, you could be an usher yeah since you sent women home, work from home.
Speaker 2:Maybe you can be an usher when you go to church and cover up, but I have limitations though, like I won't get tattoos like on my neck.
Speaker 1:Actually, I take that back. I wasn't gonna get a tattoo on my neck once, um, and it must have been heaven sent and all, because the lady said you don't want to do this. She said I can't do it. Now I'm thinking like I got the money, you know, like whatever she said, I can't give you the tattoo on you. And she said you have to find another artist or another place. So there is like why, she just said she didn't.
Speaker 1:She didn't really say why. She just said I just don't do tattoos on the face. You know like you have to go somewhere else, so I respected that you know. So I figured she probably had, you know, an issue with something like that. You know, I still got a tattoo but I just didn't get it. And when I thought about it I said, man, I'm glad I didn't get that, you know.
Speaker 2:What made you think about the neck like?
Speaker 1:what I don't know, the placement of the neck, like.
Speaker 2:What does or do you think neck tattoos represent?
Speaker 1:I don't know, you know what. I really don't know what I was thinking, but you know, like for me, like tattoos, I'm sure for a lot of people with tattoos, it's like a expression type of you know, type of thing. You know. So all my tattoos, they mean something to me. So a lot of you know, a lot of people ask you know, only you can tell the story you know. So I don't just get tattoos, you know, just to be getting them you know.
Speaker 1:So each one of them has a story behind it. You know, even like the one on my hand, you know you have to put them both together to see the face, but I can look at these and kind of like see a time in my life and however it is, but that's like a testimony to me. So, um, I know, I just I went through a crisis for a little bit, I guess young. I mean, I had the nose, uh, piercing, had the tongue pierced.
Speaker 1:I just oh, enhancement exactly now I did feel some type of way, you know, because, um, the environment I was in, I had a tongue piercing but I learned how to talk and how to keep it back. So you learn how to not only people that really look, they would see it. You know they're like hey is that I was like I don't know what you're talking about, but I would kind of like fold my tongue back a little bit and talk okay yeah, so you wouldn't, you couldn't tell.
Speaker 1:But, um, yeah, that was my, you know so do you think people have?
Speaker 2:let's say, for people who get tattoos at 17 with a waiver? Or 18 and up, and when they get into their 40s you know, maybe in their 20s they want to get somebody's name tattooed on them. They baby daddy or they girlfriend or whatever they mama's name, and do you think, as you age, do you think people kind of have? So you said that your tattoos represented something for you, you went through. You know, whatever you were going through at that particular time, right but do you think that people have regrets on tattoos?
Speaker 1:I'm sure there's probably people with regrets and all, however you know, but I don't think the the tattoos that I have is. You know, it's nothing regretful. I don't have anybody's name tattooed and nothing like that you know um. So I didn't. I mean, I still had, like you know, I still had standards that I wouldn't like. I can't go that far.
Speaker 1:I won't do that, and so that's the kind of you know. I don't think that like 20 years from now, I'll look back and like why do you do that? You know, I mean, it is what it is. I don't got nobody's name you know, I mean, I do think that you should get a tattoo, you know, with my name on it, on you.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, with my name on it, on you, you know. Okay, you know you're gonna have regret.
Speaker 1:I'm glad you think that, but yeah, I don't. I don't want any more regret. You just ran right through that stop sign.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I, I would not have a regret because that's not something that I would be interested in doing get a fake one, not even a fake one I know, let me tell you, I know somebody that had a fake tattoo put on them and it was so funny because the person thought that it was. You know, they had their name tatted, so it was real and it was so funny because I think the name was on the girl's arm or forearm.
Speaker 2:And then there was another time that they were together, that it changed arms. It was on the other arm, but the guy didn't know, and so he thought like this is my ride or die, you know her name was Ted and then the tattoo changes uh, whenever she remembers to put it back on, but you know. But I just think like I don't think that's necessary, though I don't think that's like, like your property, and to each his own.
Speaker 2:But I personally don't think that it's necessary, just for me, like I got a tattoo on my ankle, um, when I was 17 you know, I do. I don't. At that point I thought it was cool. I mean, it was a flower, it's it's. It's modest. Me, it's a little big. I'm not a person that likes attention. So looking at me, and then you see my tattoo.
Speaker 1:Oh, you're gangster, yeah, when I was 17,.
Speaker 2:I thought like, oh yeah, I'm doing it. I got it going, you know, at the age that I am.
Speaker 1:now it's like If you could, would you get rid of it? Yes, oh, you know, at the age that I am now, it's like you want. If you could, would you get rid of it? Yes, oh, I don't need it like yeah, I don't need it.
Speaker 2:I mean I think it's nice the person that did it. It's very detailed, it's starting to fade and it's still oh, you get it redone.
Speaker 1:I know I'm not interested.
Speaker 2:I don't want it, and that's the thing like.
Speaker 1:I don't, I couldn't.
Speaker 2:I don't have to have it redone. I've outgrown it, but you know, again, it's a phase. So I think it's very important and we'll wrap this portion up. I think it's very important to know, like, when you're going to get something permanent, not a wig or even your butt or a tattoo, Like really put some thought into it, Like how far do you want to go? And at any point think about would I have a regret.
Speaker 1:Right, or it may come with complications too. Yes, you know, like all these enhancements and stuff.
Speaker 2:People have been hospitalized for, yeah, some type of infection like those sleeves on the arms or the leg. I've seen a lot of people that have had reactions from that, so you know.
Speaker 1:Do your research and your research know me trying to go cheap if you're gonna do it okay, yeah, you know that's serious a little ronnie in them because they, you know they got the hookup or whatever it is and they just cut people up with a whole rusty razor blade yeah, and packing you with you know that, uh, stuff, that being a pillow, the pillows, your pillow, cotton stuff and stuff, and now you're somewhere, it's not so we're oh, what's up, what's that? Oh, we see that the girls, they was fix it flat, yeah. Yeah, I mean like, come on it gets.
Speaker 2:I mean, and and here's the thing If you were not blessed to have certain things, don't put your life at risk.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Just so that you have it, to have other people look at you in a way, because body image is real, especially for young girls. Like young girls grow up. You know, not everyone is shapely, not everyone is. You know, light, not everyone is dark, not everyone is shapely.
Speaker 1:Not everyone is, you know, light. Not everyone is dark.
Speaker 2:Not everyone is brown.
Speaker 1:Not everyone has long hair, short hair curly hair, but that's the beauty of it, though.
Speaker 2:Yes, that's what makes us so?
Speaker 1:unique.
Speaker 2:And people should be mindful of this. And you know, parents, it's important to validate your children. Let them know, like you know beautiful, you are smart. I love your big eyes, I love your nose, I love your your lips. They are so beautiful. Because society kind of chooses what's beautiful and what's not right, and many times we see european standards being um at the forefront of beauty, whereas more ethnic features are not.
Speaker 1:You know, however, however, comma in comma but we see many non-ethnic people have body enhancements that look like ethnic people well right.
Speaker 2:So you want the small nose, but you want the big lip, full lips, and you want the tan and you want the body. Right, you want to be shaped like a barbie doll. You want, you know, this wavy hair, or you want this and that, so it's all what you. What standard that you set for yourself? So, parents, validate your children so that they don't have self-esteem issues.
Speaker 2:It's hard enough out there for young girls and, I'm sure, young men, and that's why probably why they get tattoos to look, you know a little more rougher or masculine or, you know, beefed up and maybe they get the crazy hair.
Speaker 2:Because I don't want to say crazy hair, but the trend now is young boys have locks all over or at the top and they're in their face when they can't see. I don't know why. You know that's the thing. They're all in your face, you can't see and they're flipping them and you know it's whatever fad? I mean, we've all gone through fads and right things, but what do you think about like and I get like this, this thing of hair discrimination, because that's a lot, that's a big thing in texas like with school schools and you know children's.
Speaker 2:Certain children's hair grows a certain way and you know. You know schools don't like them to have these kids to have. You know hair and ethnic styles or you know they want it short and you know, that's a listen, that's a whole, it is it is and we, we probably will need to talk about that, about that because hair in the africAmerican community is a big topic.
Speaker 1:Well.
Speaker 2:I mean, hair is self-expression. Hair goes back to a long time, long time. Yeah, like hair goes back to telling a story. Hair still does tell a story?
Speaker 1:It sure does. It tells a story. Whether it's done or not, it's telling a story. It's telling a story. It's telling a story.
Speaker 2:And you know, hair had to be covered. Hair had to be pressed, hair had to be chemically enhanced, you know hair had to be, you know, plaited up, locked up, whatever. So that's definitely a topic for discussion. And good hair, bad hair, all of that, that's a thing.
Speaker 1:That is a thing that is a thing, but you know what, if you don't mind, we'll switch the topic there, because you said something that I want to come back to. What Glam Okay?
Speaker 2:What's glam to you?
Speaker 1:Listen, I have seen some people to look totally different from one day to the day. I mean they look totally.
Speaker 2:I'd be like was it makeup glam, or was it a filter or no?
Speaker 1:this is somebody in real life, okay these are like people that I know in real life. I'm like who is that? Like we got a new person, like I mean it looks totally, totally different. I mean it's like A sculpture, like A Mona Lisa. I'm like Get out of here like so what's up with that? I mean that's just like For special occasions, or.
Speaker 1:It depends on that individual why do so I'm a little bit lost. Do you? Is it a must that you? I mean that you look A certain way, or I mean like I don't know.
Speaker 2:I think it depends on that individual and that's why I think I asked the question like is there a thin line between your look being enhanced or polished and an obsession or a fixation on? I need to look like my nose has to be thin, my lips have to be perked up, my eyebrows have to be drawn on like I don't know, but that glam so I'll just say that glam, that glam can make you like.
Speaker 1:it can make your nose look different. I'm like I know the heck, this ain't that same person.
Speaker 2:It can make your collarbone. The makeup artists can put highlights and contouring on your collarbone like they can put. The makeup artists can put like highlights and contouring on your collarbone to make your neck and collarbone area look very thin. What yes, it's a whole thing. They have body makeup where it looks like yes, you can even get makeup on your stomach to make it look like you have abs. Come on now oh, lord, yes yes, they can put bronzer on you.
Speaker 2:Yes, makeup can do a lot about this stuff here because I see it, I mean, and I think, in the world of of beauty and and body changes and images like you get to see all of that, you know, you get to see when celebrities are having photo shoots and the makeup artist is putting makeup on their arms their neck, their legs, their stomach chiseling in their abs.
Speaker 1:Yes, it is a thing.
Speaker 2:So it's hard for young girls to not see this and want to look like wow, I want to look like that. So even young girls in middle school, they're wearing lashes oh yeah and wigs and braids down to their, we're going to have to talk about hair but braids down to their calves and baby hair. And you know we see that in elementary school, so can you imagine once they get to high school and then post high school, it's like you won't have any hair.
Speaker 1:It's extreme. Like I would like like lashes, like I think like lashes, like you said, like lashes, they're nice.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:Like I like a good, you know, like an average nice little eyelash, natural lash but don't have it like where I got to stand two, three feet away from you, because every time you blink it's like rubbing on my shirt like you can't. You can't even see, like your eye look, like it's red, it's tearing up.
Speaker 2:I'm like and women are getting eye infections, like they're putting hair glue, they're putting um, using, you know, tools that may not be clean, and then they're getting eye infections and that's serious. Like it goes, beauty can go from just normal beauty to beauty enhancement, to obsession.
Speaker 1:And what's the step after that?
Speaker 2:I don't know. It's a step. Yeah, it could be death.
Speaker 1:Because there's no way.
Speaker 2:You know surgery and then the pot out here that stuff. Just Matt can only do so much, okay, yeah.
Speaker 1:Matt can only do so much. Matt can only do so much. It's all good, though I guess our final verdict is I feel like some people need makeup.
Speaker 2:Some people need makeup. That's your final verdict Some people need makeup, some people don't For the enhancements.
Speaker 1:I think that enhancements are, you know they're okay and acceptable, but not extreme. Okay, Now you know what extreme is. When you know you look at somebody, okay, but it's extreme where it's like a loop video. Ow, that's extreme.
Speaker 2:Okay, Okay, I think. Let me see what I think To me. I think a natural look is good, but I think people have a right to self-expression. I may not agree with it, it may not be my thing, but they have a right to it. However, my concern is when the enhancement gets to the point where it could hurt you or cause harm to you where you're getting infections or even dying from procedures to look a certain way, you know.
Speaker 2:I think that's where my concern lies and I think it's important to share with young girls and young women like, hey, you know, be enough for yourself, find what it is about you that you like about you and enhance that to in whatever area that you may want to, but don't let someone else's opinion about you you're too thin, you're too this, you're too that cause you to make a decision that could be permanent.
Speaker 1:And that's it. I agree with that. Listen, I agree with that wholeheartedly. You know, like you know, you switch it into like muddily mode.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying like I think there's always a message. We talk trash, but I think there's always room for a message you know, out of anything that we can have.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I think that's what makes conversations. I think that's the difference between having a heated conversation or uncomfortable conversation, where you can talk about things and then you can add a message to it to make it where it's okay. You know, we make these uncomfortable conversations comfortable.
Speaker 1:Right right, right right.
Speaker 2:Because there's nothing off limits.
Speaker 1:That's right, because we're like all in your biz. We're going to be all in your biz, so we're gonna be all in your biz and we're gonna have a lot more um other topics coming. However it is, and um this was good.
Speaker 1:I enjoyed this yeah we just gonna just talk, you know, however it is, and then, um, you know it may some, some people, you know you may be mad at the end of the hybrid, but I mean, it is what it is. You know, and I think a lot of conversations need to be had about just about those topics that you don't want to talk about man, wear your man wigs wear your man. Put some extra glue on there, some extra glue.
Speaker 2:It's summertime, the sun is heating up that glue, but just know. But guess what?
Speaker 1:just know you're gonna have to tell somebody. You know like, hey, girl, I know we've been at this for a little bit, but I just got something I want to tell you. Okay, go ahead, tell that woman. You know, like I got a lot of glue up under this hair, these waves ain't real okay but, then you may be surprised, because this shit may come back.
Speaker 1:Mine ain't real either and it's like okay maybe you know it was meant to be, but on that we thank you so much. We'd like to definitely like the episode. However it is, tell a friend and join us on next time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and send us your comments, give us some feedback on what you think Did something spark your interest? Have you noticed an increase in enhancements? Are you a…?
Speaker 1:Wig wearer. Can you say a wig wear? Can you say a wig?
Speaker 2:wear wig wear three times wig wear wig wear.
Speaker 1:Wig wear are you?
Speaker 2:you know are are you um excessive in your enhancements and if so, tell us why. Like what do you? What do you find interesting about it, or what do you like, or what caused you to enhance your enhancements? We want to know, so we definitely want to know.
Speaker 1:We want to know, we want to talk about this. You know we, we always want to hear other perspectives. So we want to know. Hey, maybe you're. You know your justification to that. Maybe we missed something, you know right so, uh, it's all in love, though, so definitely remember to subscribe and all let us know what you think.