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All In Your Bizz w/ Reka & Los
Bursting At The Seams: A Fashion Intervention
"Too tight is too tight." This simple phrase launches an unexpectedly deep exploration of how our clothing choices shape others' perceptions of us before we even speak a word.
When does "fitted" cross the line into "too small"? The hosts don't hold back, offering candid observations about visible underwear lines, struggling buttons, and the physical discomfort of squeezing into clothes that no longer fit. But this conversation quickly evolves beyond fashion advice into examining how our appearance creates lasting first impressions in professional settings, religious institutions, and everyday interactions.
Drawing on personal experiences and cultural observations, the hosts tackle the complex interplay between body types, professional expectations, and societal standards. They challenge listeners to consider how clothing choices might be helping or hindering their goals – comparing first impressions to car shopping, where the exterior appearance determines whether someone will look deeper. "If you didn't know anything about that car, the first thing that will attract you is the way it looks. Then after you see the car, then you get the details."
The discussion ventures into thought-provoking territory when examining how religious institutions often impose stricter dress codes, particularly for women, raising questions about control versus community standards. Throughout the episode, the hosts balance straight-talking advice with empathy for different body types and circumstances, encouraging listeners to "code switch" – adapting presentation for different contexts while remaining authentic.
Whether you're navigating professional environments, questioning dress codes, or simply wanting to make more intentional wardrobe choices, this episode offers valuable insights about the messages our clothing communicates. Share your thoughts with us at allinyourbizz25@gmail.com and join the conversation!
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Speaker 2:Welcome.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the real world kid.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Los Enrique Show. Like always, we are all in your biz.
Speaker 1:Let's go.
Speaker 2:Yes, sir, yes sir, the difference between fitted clothes and clothes that are too small.
Speaker 1:You talking about clothes being too small. Is that what you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, like what's the difference? Like if something fits like, does like rolls of meat have to hang out for the poles to be too small, or that they fit just right, like what's?
Speaker 1:no. So if you have a shirt, okay, and your stomach is hanging out the shirt, but there's like four or five maybe like rolls that come behind that then that stomach is hanging from underneath the shirt that means it's too small. Okay, if I can see what color underwear you got on, oh. However, that means it's probably too tight and too small, and that's not always just with women. So this is not women bashing and all because men has with stuff too tight too.
Speaker 2:Too tight meaning, like Eddie Long.
Speaker 1:Eddie Long too tight. I mean rest in peace to Eddie Long, but Eddie Long used to wear them too tight little shirts. You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2:Well, Eddie Long was on some other stuff.
Speaker 1:But those shirts was too small.
Speaker 2:Eddie Long stroke. Maybe he was sending a message yeah, that maybe.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I don't know what he was sending, but I'm sending. I would send him a message that that shirt too small so maybe it was a fitted? No, it was a fitted tee, no, no if I can see your nipples, whether you're a man or a woman, it's too small.
Speaker 2:But maybe that's the point.
Speaker 1:It's too small, yeah, or like these teachers Now I've seen some teachers on social media. I mean and these skirts that they be having on on. We just talking about women right now, but men do it too.
Speaker 2:I've seen men T-shirts and tight pants.
Speaker 1:Too tight. You know, if you can, you gotta walk sideways, if you gotta walk Squat, or you can see like If you gotta walk, if you gotta walk sideways and you can't bend over and get nothing without you know, like Biddy on knee or bending one knee forward and other knee to the back. It's too tight.
Speaker 2:Okay, but sometimes there's people that are.
Speaker 1:It's too tight.
Speaker 2:The anatomy is a certain way, their body is shaped in a certain way. So, being that their body is made a certain way, they can't wear clothes.
Speaker 1:That it's too tight.
Speaker 2:So what are they supposed to walk around in? A sheet what does that have to do with teaching?
Speaker 1:listen. You know that's a distraction. You shouldn't be.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I get it but if you have a curvy body, then you can wear bigger clothes okay, even if you wore bigger clothes, everything you wouldn't see it just look like the the brat right.
Speaker 1:I had no idea. I listened to the brat years and years and years in and I used to see her, but she's always way baggy clothes until maybe like the last you know what 10 years or so, and I seen her and I was like brat is big.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, but there's nothing wrong with that, but she covered it up with big clothes.
Speaker 1:So if the brat can do it, why a teacher couldn't do it? A pastor couldn't do it?
Speaker 2:So you're saying people should cover themselves up for their profession and then outside of their profession they can wear what they want, or should they always dress like that? Listen Because people can't focus.
Speaker 1:Too tight is too tight. You know, when you see something that's too tight, okay, so let's talk about you. Tell me when you. Okay, how about you? Will you see some? Tell me your definition of too tight, or is this just a fashion statement?
Speaker 2:now, at some point it's got to be this is too tight yeah, I had some jeggings, like jean leggings that I wore one time and I couldn't even bend over because they were yeah tight but they look good. I just couldn't do certain things. So what about nurses with scrubs? That?
Speaker 1:are too tight. I'm saying that all night. Too tight, too tight.
Speaker 2:I mean, you can still do your job but it's too tight. Okay, that may be for them, but it doesn't stop them from doing their job.
Speaker 1:It doesn't stop them from doing their job. No, but why in the heck do you?
Speaker 2:got to wear some too tight, because it looks good, it fits good, it looks good. Pain is beauty, beauty is pain.
Speaker 1:It's too tight, okay, okay.
Speaker 2:You know, and if your crack showing now a lot, of it's too tight. You've had plumber's ass before too, now it's too tight.
Speaker 1:It's too tight. Listen, it's too around the house and outside.
Speaker 2:It's two different things so it's okay to have plumber's ass in certain areas, but not other areas.
Speaker 1:Too tight is too tight now too tight is too tight, you know, but I'm not out in public. You know, there's some things I wear in the house that I wouldn't wear out in public. Okay, because it is too tight plumber's ass and summer's grass okay so you know, if you, if I can see what color panties you got. Oh, like the, the print or whatever it is in the lining of it.
Speaker 2:It's too tight, like you got butterflies on it that could mean it's too tight the material could be thin or the underwear could be like a bright color but all you have to do is wear something big.
Speaker 1:So do you think it's appropriate to to be able to to see through your pants or to see through your shirt because it's too tight? You think that's appropriate or it's just cute?
Speaker 2:appropriate. Uh, I guess it depends on the person. Me personally, I wouldn't try to do it on purpose, but you know there's some people that don't mind. So would you rather see somebody's underwear, or would you rather see them you? You rather for them to just free ball? Listen, you're going a little too deep now I just it means'm just saying Free ball, I just it just.
Speaker 1:I mean, it becomes a distraction, Like if you, if you went up to school and you talked to the teacher, okay, and she had some two little pants on and a two little shirt, and she's sitting there with some pumps on. That's about three, five, six inches high, would you think that is professional, or is it you want to say to say, hey, those are too little?
Speaker 2:I mean, it's not my place to say that, but I wouldn't think it was professional For a teacher or for an administrator. No, I wouldn't think that would be appropriate. But if her pants were tight, if her jeans were tight, because people Women wear tight jeans.
Speaker 1:Men do too.
Speaker 2:In those jeans. But you know, but if it were like a habit where the clothes were a little risque, not because she has a body and curves, that's one thing. But if the clothes are so tight like you can see somebody's pulse, then that's different.
Speaker 1:But again, it's not up for us to it's tight, I mean you know it's tight, you know, and it's like when you walk out the house you know that them pants are too tight. What if somebody? Doesn't have if you got moose knuckles showing it's too tight showing off my moose knuckle.
Speaker 2:I mean, but what if a person doesn't have money to buy bigger? You, you going down this never ending road right now process of losing weight and they say, hey, I'm not gonna buy any clothes until I lose 20 pounds, and then I'll get some more clothes, so I'm gonna wear these listen, the choice is.
Speaker 1:The choice is yours okay but it still doesn't change the fact it's too tight, you know, and tight can be a distraction too tight I mean, that's just what it is.
Speaker 1:It's just too tight. Clothes is too small and they're like two, two, two, two, two, two, too tight. And then some of these guys behind me, too tight. Or two little shirts, they got button all the way up to the top, whatever, and it's just like the. The arms is like you was. Well, I'm swollen on. It's too tight. And then you, you want you on side of the road, skinny jeans is is what's up what?
Speaker 2:they're skinny. The guy is skinny, he's wearing skinny jeans and it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1:It doesn't matter if you fat, skinny or what. It's too tight like. I don't discriminate whether you, whether you thick, whether you short, tall, whatever it is. If I bend over or try to get something and then like a butt gonna pop, it's too tight okay like if you fall on the ground and you need, like, help for people getting you up because it's too tight, or you you up Because it's too tight, or you need a covering it's too tight.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay. So if you have whelps after you take off your underwear or bra or socks, they're too tight.
Speaker 1:Too small. That's what your socks and your pants are telling you. Your skin is telling you it's too tight.
Speaker 2:You got whelps from taking off your garment.
Speaker 1:So, listeners, if you take off your underwear and your bra and your socks, or even your pants, and you see whelps, it's too tight, it's too tight, it's too tight, they're all the way yeah, your blood pressure be up and stuff like that and you'd be having headaches because your your blood can't pump through your body all the pressure circulation it's too tight apparently too tight yeah, and then you know, like I do understand. You know, maybe some people may have figures and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:I get it, but you know you sound like a hater, though, for people who got on curves. I mean I can care less.
Speaker 1:But if you all up in church, that's why people be falling away like in church and stuff, because people be up there doing praise and worship or doing whatever it is or the usher and they stuff be too tight what do you mean?
Speaker 2:falling away? They be falling by the wayside no, that's because their flesh is weak. Now you got to be able to focus. If somebody has on a tight dress, what does that have to do with you and your salvation?
Speaker 1:so you, it's going to be a distraction.
Speaker 2:It's going to be a distraction do you have to ponder on it to the point be a distraction. Do you have to ponder on it to the point?
Speaker 1:I mean you don't have to ponder on it, but it's just like the lord is my shepherd, you know if you had two, two kids. You just say, use guys, two little boys sitting down, they at church, okay. And then somebody come by and they got like some big old, big old, just humongous breasts Is that her fault Okay.
Speaker 1:It's not her fault, you know, but I mean it's just like, and then you're right, that part is not her fault. But if you wearing a shirt, and I can see the split down the middle like the crease Maybe- there's not a shirt that she can fit, so what is she supposed? To do A jacket, or in the summertime she should come to church.
Speaker 2:Maybe there's not a shirt that she can fit. So what is she supposed to do? A jacket, or in the summertime, she should come to church. Come as you are into god's sit in the back god's temple and put a jacket on, because god made this woman this way. But she has to cover up because there's some lustful men no, you're changing it, but I'm just saying.
Speaker 1:I'm saying like I understand, no, no, no, that's not what I'm saying I'm saying like I understand no, no, no, no, that's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Let me clarify this.
Speaker 1:Now. There may be some, you know, you may have been blessed with big breasts or big cheeks.
Speaker 2:Okay, Big breasts, uh-huh.
Speaker 1:You know, that's fine, you know. But what I'm saying is, if you know that you have big breasts, okay, you shouldn't be coming out in public, or especially like to a church or to school and I can see your cleavage. Let me make this clear Like I shouldn't see it, Like it's bad enough that they so big.
Speaker 2:It's bad enough.
Speaker 1:No, I'm just saying no, I'm not, okay, let me, it's not. It's one thing, because they're big and they're going to attract attention okay but if they're exposed, then I mean it's going to be like it's going to be.
Speaker 2:That that's just the way I look at it yeah, clearly, because I got big cheeks you know I'm saying like, maybe that's why you be doing electric slide or what you can't, you can't.
Speaker 1:So basically, if you have curves and and body, you shouldn't do anything I mean, I mean I know that may sound harsh, but if you out there twerking and you got, I mean she can dance too, or he can dance too.
Speaker 2:She got some body parts, but I mean, you can't be happy and enjoy yourself and dance if you have body parts? You can people are gonna look. That's just what. That's just what it's for and I may be overly exposing. Maybe you know the tank top that goes like right before your areola starts, I get that like, okay, it's, it's you, you want to be seen, but some people don't mind that, and then other people.
Speaker 1:Sometimes people can wear a regular shirt with no special cuts and it's still like oh, no, I'm just saying like, if it's extreme, like like things, that that you know is tight and you did it on purpose. Oh, okay, I mean, you came out the house. You know this is your, your daughter's shirt. She's in fifth grade and you grown and you tried to squoze up in.
Speaker 2:Squoze.
Speaker 1:Yes, okay, then that means that shirt she's too tight.
Speaker 2:She feels like she still has it. But I think, going back to your point of church, I think that's why religion has these rules and they're mostly geared towards women. You have to cover, you have to be modest. You shouldn't wear you know certain churches, you know you're not wearing anything that's showing any curve, any chest, any ankles, ankles, any wrists, any necklines, may not even show any hair, lips, eyes, any of that, because you know the flesh. Maybe the flesh is. It's too weak.
Speaker 1:yeah, that's another topic, that's yeah, I'm gonna say that's a whole nother topic. You know, however, but that's from your perspective.
Speaker 2:That's how you feel, um, that you think that a lot of things will govern to what keep the woman down, so she can't necessarily keep the woman down, but just kind of put a band-aid on controlling, like it's like damage control you, you cover the woman to keep the man in line.
Speaker 1:Well, there'll be some lustful women out there too.
Speaker 2:I'm not saying that there's not. I'm not saying that there's not, but I'm just saying, as far as physically putting uh restraints, or you know um convictions, you know on women.
Speaker 1:Yeah, maybe we need to put that on our to-do list. Maybe we need to put that on our to-do list.
Speaker 2:maybe we need to talk about that you know I'm sure that's a discussion I I knew a lot of few girls not a lot a few girls that I went to school with and they had to wear dresses and skirts all the time yeah, I did too.
Speaker 1:I mean, I mean, they were still fast.
Speaker 2:But you know it didn't stop anything. But yeah, that was like their.
Speaker 1:You know their thing, yeah, but you know we want to put that on our, yeah, but you know we want to put that on our to-do list. We want to put that on our to-do list and talk about, um, you know, just about clothes and different religions and all how maybe it can affect even in the long run. You know, people grow up or sometime when people are suppressed and all. Then they get a chance, a little freedom.
Speaker 2:Then they just yeah, one of those girls I know she all her pants are too tight too tight she didn't get a chance to wear them.
Speaker 1:Now she is all in them I mean, I can see that, but you know, that's a, that's a a good topic that we wanted to talk about. You know, um, maybe we can put some serious topics in here. I don't want everything to be serious and all, but what do you think about?
Speaker 2:we can I mean you can, it can be serious and some humor added to it, you know. But I I do think, because you can make almost anything, you put some humor on it, but there's always a message oh, that's going to be a real message and and and and these type of of actions. And you know, I think it's a lot to share about the church and religion and how things are or can be controlled or, um some you know, damage control can be put in place for certain things I mean it's pros and cons and everything but,
Speaker 1:it's real hard to do pe in a skirt it is too hard to do PE in them, two little pants.
Speaker 2:That's true too.
Speaker 1:I mean you can't, even you can't, you can't jump up and you can jump. I mean you just can't run, you can't get down.
Speaker 2:Or stretch or you know. But yeah, we can talk about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we can definitely talk about that. No, so there you have it. You about that? Yeah, we can definitely talk about that. No, so there you have it. You know, like clothes are too small, what makes clothes? So you still didn't. Really I don't know if you really answered the question, and just in from your perspective what makes clothes too small? You didn't really say, you just kept.
Speaker 2:You was defending people wearing it because, yeah, because we don't want to throw all those clothes away, we might lose some weight, maybe fit in them in another 10 years. But I think what, personally, what makes clothes too small maybe, is how they feel on your body, because you feel it first, before anyone can see it, before you leave your house, and then you know if it's. You know you're showing midriff or butt crack or you know coochie crack or you know anything like that and it's inappropriate. And that's subjective too, because some people may think certain look is not inappropriate and some people do Camel's toe, moose knuckle, I mean. I mean it's for attention possibly, but if you have to pull your pants all the way up and your body parts are showing, then that could be a sign that your clothes are too tight.
Speaker 1:Oh, so you do believe that there's a such thing as clothes too tight?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean I do. But I was also trying to think, like how would somebody who wore tight clothes or too small clothes, how they would argue that you know their clothes fit right Like it's they're fine Sub like it's subjective yeah, it is but to a point.
Speaker 2:To a certain point, because some stuff is just flat out too small now I've seen somebody recently where they had on some shorts, right stomach, all out front and back inside. It wasn't like a little pouch, it was a full stomach, you know where it jiggles. And then their pants were like really low and then the shirt was like whatever. So you know, and it was a man and he was just like hey, it is what it is. But you know, again, it's whatever people feel comfortable into yeah, I mean it is.
Speaker 1:So, I mean it's not you, just do you, I mean do you, but they still don't change the fact that it's too small yeah, yeah you know and you know, and um, so I mean maybe that's all. But then maybe maybe that's all he had, you know, and so I mean maybe that's all.
Speaker 2:But then maybe it could be a confidence thing too. It could be like hey, I'm going to wear this because I've seen some people like legs out, dimples, rolls, cellulite, and they're confident, you know.
Speaker 1:And it's okay to do, see, I don't want to get no bad emails.
Speaker 2:Okay, you're gonna get some, but what I'm saying is like you can be.
Speaker 1:You can if you want to expose your, your stomach, your arms, your legs, your butt, whatever I mean, that's fine, you know, but I think there is a way to do it. Now, you know, if, if this I mean, and yeah, you may have confidence and all this, however, but if you know it's too small, like when you know it's like you about to pass out so you still be confident in your clothes, but just make sure they fit better.
Speaker 2:Yes, right, okay, they're gonna fit better, because not?
Speaker 1:not just being just tight just for like no reason, Like if you wear like a 16 and you putting on like a 12, you know like that's extreme.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you got to, like, breathe in hard.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like you need somebody to help you take them off or put them on, like I think that's extreme. That's what I mean Like it's too little.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Okay, when you wear it like one time and then once you take them off. Ain't no way in hell you putting it back on.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, I can see that.
Speaker 1:Button popping and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:Or some your leggings have like the lint balls in between from the chafing up your thighs Like yeah, it's like they're too small.
Speaker 1:You know, like I have, I may just run around the house or something like that, you know, but I ain't gonna be out in these streets with something like too small I mean that's a point.
Speaker 2:So does it necessarily mean that you have to police yourself based off of someone else's opinion?
Speaker 1:or should you police yourself, based off of because you've grown you're an adult and you should know what's appropriate and what's not exactly, and then that could open up a whole nother can of worms because, believe it or not, like I always believe, I've always believed that the way you present yourself, the way you dress, it kind of like speaks for you even though you have not said a word. I agree In every aspect, whether it's in the work environment, whether it's just the everyday I'm in the neighborhood, whatever you know what I'm saying, it kind of like kind of speaks for you if you didn't say a word.
Speaker 2:So if someone came up to you with their um, let me see, just like their shirt button really low, um, and the clothes are really pants really tight, then you wouldn't take that person serious. They were coming for a job and they came with that on. And let's just say it's a simple job and they came with that outfit on.
Speaker 1:You wouldn't take serious no, so that's the thing. So I mean, like I would have to kind of know some. I mean, it could be just that day, you know. But in real life, yeah, somebody may take that a certain type of way. Sadly, people, you know, stereotype the way somebody look or they dress. But I'm just saying like, if my neighbor always wear uh, always wears, you know a certain thing, and I'll be like, oh, that's their thing, they always got on suits and all be like okay, then I would um, describe him like, yeah, you know, he's always kind of like well dressed and all. However, you know like he, you know. But then if the neighbor on the other side I mean if my neighbor was always, uh, holy shoes or this and that other, however, whatnot, or maybe they never got haircuts and they always look scruffy and whatever, and you know it just kind of like gives a different, you know, like, hey, he just chill mode, like he don't really be caring about all that you know, Like and that's.
Speaker 1:And even if I didn't know him or never spoke to him, that's what I would just take it as like, hey, he don't care. I mean, I ain't judging, I ain't even getting into his situation, why he looking like that. Yeah, but it's just a perception of you know. And then you know, like even you know, like men and women, men, you, if you're out and you always got on, you know something like kind of provocative and snouted, like, what do you think that you will attract? I really believe that same thing with women. You know, if you all out, whatever it is, you got on skimpy, you know, skimpy this, skimpy that and however it is. You think that. I mean, what do you think you want? What do you think you're attracting? What message are you sending?
Speaker 1:so clothes, send messages they do, they do you know, unworthily, like, if you know you out to me, I want to, I want a man this and that other. And I'm not saying you're gonna find the golden man or the golden woman because the way you dress, but it's just like you, the, the group of people that it attracts. You know, like if I'm listening to a whole bunch of hip-hop and all, however it is, and you don't listen to hip hop and we riding down the street, you may like you ain't studying what I'm playing. You know, because you're not attracted to that, you're not. You don't care. Now if I'm playing some izzy brothers, you're like, okay, like you listen to grown folks, music or something or whatever it is.
Speaker 2:You attract different categories of people I agree, and I think even from a male's perspective possibly and you can speak on this if you saw a woman who I mean, there's a difference between sexy and provocative.
Speaker 2:Let's just say that exactly fully clothed or have a nice dress on, and she can be sexy, yet she's not showing all her skin. And then, you know, maybe a man can say, wow, that's an attractive woman. But if she has on, you know, her shorts are fitting up in her cheeks like dental floss and her chest is out. What, how does a man? I mean he may take her home, he may, he may bag her, he may deal with her, but is that someone that he wants to wife, or is that someone that he wants to be seen with?
Speaker 1:I don't think so.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like that's a different thing. So, like you did say, like what you wear and what you do and how you do things does attract that type, that likeness.
Speaker 1:Right, and it may not be that person's personality or character or none of that, but it's just the perception, like sadly, perception is everything you know when you go for a job interview. You know you may blow it like answering a question, you know, but maybe your character or your charisma was good, you know so it's like, yeah, I mean that will give you some points if you show up, even if it's a plain white button-up from walmart and some black slacks and a belt.
Speaker 2:That looks better and it looks like you came prepared exactly, yeah versus I. I just got up out the bed and wearing pajama pants, your hair all over your head, your your head um yeah, just even your shirt tucked in yeah it makes a big difference not being wrinkled, yes,
Speaker 1:that stuff. It matters and also definitely we talk about too tight and all, and I guess it kind of floats over to a perception, because perception is everything you know, sadly, and it may not. I know, like some really bright kids, very smart, I think I've had this conversation, um, with my older son. Um, it was just like with his hair. His hair was just like I don't care how you do your hair and all you know, and I hope we don't get no email or something you know, but we're just being like perception right now, like at the time he was trying to get into a school and I was telling him, you know, like they were doing like a Zoom call. They were doing like Zoom, you know. So I'm like they're going to see like from your head like to your shoulders and all how it is. You know like maybe let's do something with your hair. You know what I'm saying. Make sure that if you want to have braids or this and the other, however, make sure Look presentable yeah.
Speaker 1:Make sure it look present, student and all, but your perception may say something totally different and it may not be you. Yeah, and sadly, even in 2025, we are still there where people are just sadly, you're getting, you're getting pre prejudged, you know based off of your hairstyle.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sadly, you know your appearance, you know, or how you speak and all. So you got to know how to code switch. No, that doesn't necessarily mean, hey, you want, if you want to be out with your friends and you wear stuff like this and everything that's cool, but you got to know how to code switch, you know that's very important, especially in 2025.
Speaker 2:The younger generation, or kids, may think like well, what is? It's my hair? What's the big deal?
Speaker 2:you know, exactly um, I have tats, I have hair, I have body like get over it. That has nothing to do with me being able to do the job, and so we kind of come off and sound like old people. But I do think that, while that point is true, but also you have to think like I mean, that is the first thing that they see when they see you. That's the first time you come in for an interview. How you choose to come in that day, that's their first glimpse of you and if you're, if you're comfortable with that, then move forward, but if not, then you know you may have to clean it up until your interview is over and then go back to being yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's facts. That's facts. It's like if you go to a car dealership, the first thing that attracts you to it, the perception of it, is the way it looks. Ok, if you didn't know anything about that car, the first thing that will attract you to the car is the way it looks. Then, after you see the car, then you kind of get the details and the specs and start it up and test drive it, you know. So if the looks ain't really appealing right, because maybe it was kind of the muffler was hanging a little too low, maybe Maybe it had rust on the wheel, you know, maybe it wasn't the color you liked, maybe it had a little smell inside the car, you ain't going to want it, right.
Speaker 2:I agree.
Speaker 1:So the same thing when somebody you're going to a job interview or something of that nature and then they're looking at you like I don't even want to see what's in the car, I don't want you know, like the outside of it is rusty and busted, why in the heck would I want to go and sit in the car and test drive it? It didn't meet the first quality standard was the perception and the first thing when I seen it.
Speaker 2:I agree. That's like maybe you're going to see a doctor and the person comes out looking like they work at the graveyard. You're like hold up, I don't want you. Or if somebody's serving you some food and their clothes are dirty and their nose is running the nails are dirty, do you want them serving your food?
Speaker 1:exactly so you know, it's like we're perception and all so um yeah, that's that's very important about.
Speaker 2:not very something to think about Very something to think about Not trying to change how you feel. You know you have every right to express yourself in any way that you prefer. However, just think about that when just think about the different scenarios and for that particular job, would you feel like the hiring manager would want to see someone dressed like you at an interview or in the workplace and then you go from. That's all I have.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's all I have to know. That's this very unique how that started off with clothes that were too small.
Speaker 1:But it's just one of those things. It all kind of boils down to perception. It kind of boils down to perception yeah, perception of the clothes being too small and perception and how that can just fall into so many categories in life, um, and what we do and um, hopefully that someone out there listening will say you know what, just let me maybe the the perception you know you want your perception. Maybe the perception you know you want your perception to be Reflect the real you Exactly.
Speaker 2:And represent yourself in your best way, exactly the best way, the best way you can, and then you keep it moving.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then, if that, the last, on the last note, if that still say, hey, that's a hard pill for some, that's a hard pill to swallow, and I get it. For some that's a hard pill to swallow and I get it. But if it is that maybe you should seek guidance from your maker above and then you create and start your own lane, your own business, and then you call the shots on what you accept and what you're not going to accept.
Speaker 2:But until then, but if you do and you decide to have a restaurant, and I pull up to your restaurant because you've created your own lane and you have piercings all in your face and teeth missing and your clothes are dirty. Don't expect me to patronize your business, I'm coming.
Speaker 1:If it don't look good from the outside and it's spelled like, as soon as I walk in in, I'm leaving. See, that's perception like you may have the best food in the city, but if it don't, you know, and I think that's like when you become like older and all like, I'm very cautious and I'm very selective of where I spend my little money at, because I don't have to come to your establishment, right, I don't have to go to your little store, I don't have to, you know, whatever. And then if I ever go somewhere and I don't feel comfortable there or I feel like, oh, like I'm doing them a favor and all like, I'll just go somewhere else and I won't say it, I'll be like this would be the last, some plan sometime, I would say it. This would be the last time that I come here, you know, and that happened to me, uh, just the other day. I know we are, but, um, so I come in the store and it was a 7-eleven.
Speaker 1:I was running in there and I'm gonna run out, so it was a black young guy at the cash register and he was talking to his customer, you know, I guess, checking him out, whatever it is. And then I walked in and the first thing he says, can I help you? Can I help you find something? And I looked around and I said he taught me. He just stopped what he was doing with his customer, you know. And I said you may want to continue to continue to check out your customer, and all I said I think that I can find what I need to find now. I think I think that was kind of rude for him to stop, I mean like like come in there to steal something.
Speaker 2:Is that how you felt? Like he stopped what he was doing to address you? Okay.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I mean, I don't know what kind of perception that he made. See, he made a perception of me, I guess, because the other people were other colors, mm-hmm, and I was black, he was black.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:So was black. So I'm guessing he thinking you know, like I don't know what he was thinking on, but I kind of took that kind of personal. You know you're going to stop what you're doing. However, you know and ask me if I need it's 7-11 what could you? What is so difficult? Is it an hour 13?
Speaker 2:you're gonna steal some cigarettes, some maybe some pizza. Maybe he thought you were going to come in and spill steal some of those hot dogs on that wheel?
Speaker 1:okay in there, I don't know yeah but I, so kindly, I I still, because I needed what I need to get and actually I was in a hurry. So I went up to the cash register, I put my stuff up there. You know, he didn't uh, he didn't, he had his head down and all, he didn't acknowledge you.
Speaker 1:No, no, no I guess maybe he thought maybe I would leave or something, you know. However it is. But you know he rung up my stuff, you know, and usually I don't ask for a receipt because this time I'm going to be a butt.
Speaker 1:I said I need my receipt, and I said I don't need a bag, but I do need my receipt, and I did tell the young man. I said I will never come here again. However, as I said, because, uh, that was very rude, um of your demeanor and all which you may thought it was like to be helpful and all, but you don't stop your customers and y'all talking to somebody you say, hey, let me help him out, like no it doesn't work that way.
Speaker 1:So I think that was like hidden perceptions that he had whatever and um. But yeah, so shout out to 7-eleven yeah, 7-eleven and the employee, um, because I will not be bringing my little change back there anymore. Matter of fact, I may not go to 7-eleven at all. None of them, in nowhere, no city oh, no more slushies nope, and my clothes weren't too tight neither okay but on that note, hopefully you got something out of it something.
Speaker 2:I mean it was, it was, I mean there was something for everyone, I think.
Speaker 1:Something, something, something, something for everybody.
Speaker 2:Clothing church work Slurpees 11. There's a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, most definitely. And then, even though we went right into the show tonight, you know, we just I guess we have like a lot of things on our heart and all, but we want to give a shout out to the listener of the week. I believe that that person name was tyrone brown brown. Tyrone brown, salute to you brown yeah, tyrone roney rome okay, nasty like call tyrone, you know, and then uh, kalamazoo michigan, so shout, you know.
Speaker 2:And then, Kalamazoo Michigan.
Speaker 1:So shout out to you, and then also we're going to do a special shout out to Ken Crell. Ken Crell.
Speaker 2:From the Pride Nomad Letter. Shout out to you. We received your email. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1:Most definitely. We hope you're doing great.
Speaker 2:Most definitely With all your endeavors, so shout out to you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and we definitely going to get around and we're going to respond back to you. It's been like A long Couple weeks.
Speaker 2:Life is life.
Speaker 1:But, thankful, we're still in Atlanta. So, ken, we didn't forget about you and shout out to you, and we certainly appreciate you taking time out of your busy schedule to email us. Thank you, we appreciate it so shout out to Ken. Shout out to.
Speaker 2:Tyrone T-Nasty from Kalamazoo. Tyrone Brown from.
Speaker 1:Kalamazoo. And, on that note, if you feel it's tight, if you know it's tight, if you know it ain't right if you show it's tight show, you're right take it off like teddy p we're still all in your biz, though yeah, we still on your business till next time. Where can they reach us at, though?
Speaker 2:oh, you can definitely reach us at all in your b I z z 25 at gmailcom for the people in the back.
Speaker 1:Can you say it one more time?
Speaker 2:All in your B-I-Z-Z 25 at gmailcom.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then, last but not least, are we going to get the song or are we going to wait until next time?
Speaker 2:I think we'll wait until next time. I have to build up the momentum.
Speaker 1:Oh wow, because I know people have I'm to build up the, the momentum.
Speaker 2:Oh wow, because I know people be people have a little stuffy.
Speaker 1:You know I'm a little stuffy, so yeah, a lot of people be requesting that butterflies in the sky.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that deep bravado.
Speaker 1:Yes, I know maybe we can get an instrumental you can sing along to that yeah, yeah.