🎙️Nalee's Hypothetical Hotline - Episode 4 - The Inheritance Lie (AUDIO ONLY)🎙️

This week on Nalee’s Hypothetical Hotline, we’re opening a conversation that sits heavy in a lot of families: inheritance.

Not just money.
Not just “who gets what.”
But legacy, loyalty, love, and the unspoken expectations that surface when someone passes.

We unpack the emotional weight of dying wishes, the tension between legal rights and moral obligations, and how adoption, disclosure, and long-buried family dynamics can shift everything you thought you understood. When sentimental items carry more value than bank accounts, and silence creates more damage than honesty, things get complicated fast.

This episode isn’t about greed.
It’s about belonging.
It’s about fairness.
It’s about what happens when grief and paperwork collide.

We talk about planning ahead, the responsibility that comes with transparency, and the uncomfortable truth that inheritance can expose cracks that were always there.

Takeaways that linger:

• Inheritance is rarely just about money
• Dying wishes can unite families—or fracture them
• Adoption and disclosure shape identity in ways people underestimate
• Financial stability doesn’t erase emotional wounds
• Planning ahead is an act of care, not control

It’s thoughtful. It’s uncomfortable. And it’s one of those hypotheticals that forces you to ask: what do we owe each other… and why?

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Transcript

Setup: The Inheritance Lie

NALEE 0:43

All right. Ring, ring, ring. Welcome to Nelly's Hypothetical Hotline. Today we have a spicy one for you. It doesn't have anything to do with relationships or anything like that, but we'll spice it. All right.

ANTHONY 0:56

I hope it's not too spicy. I had spicy chili for lunch today.

NALEE 1:00

It ain't gonna burn your booty hole, I promise.

ANTHONY 1:02

Okay, good.

NALEE 1:03

It'll spice things up.

ANTHONY 1:04

I'm all cleaned out. I'm all burned out.

NALEE 1:07

You are cleaned out. Okay, you ready?

ANTHONY 1:12

Yeah.

NALEE 1:13

Alright, so this one is called the inheritance lie. On their deathbed, your parents confesses something they've carried for decades. Oh, okay. He's already triggered. Your siblings isn't biologically theirs. They beg you not to tell. They say it would destroy everything. After the funeral, the will is read and most of the estates goes to that sibling. Justified as need basis, you're financially stable so no one questions it. Months later, your sibling opens up during a late night conversation and admits they've suspected the truth for years. Different treatment, vague comments, things that never quite added up. They say they never asked because they didn't want confirmation. Alright. So my central question is, is truth still owed when someone avoids it? So in this situation, the sibling who was adopted has known or has suspected all this time, but they didn't say anything about it. And obviously you didn't know that they were adopted up until your parents' deathbed. So all in all, do you feel like truth is owed when someone avoids it?

ANTHONY 2:23

Like for this particular situation?

NALEE 2:26

Yes.

ANTHONY 2:27

I don't feel like it's my place, and I don't also don't feel like it matters.

SPEAKER_01 2:31

Okay.

Is Truth Owed If Avoided

ANTHONY 2:32

So so I just want to make sure. So my sibling is was adopted.

NALEE 2:38

Yes. Or yeah, they're not biologically your sibling. So technically, yeah.

ANTHONY 2:44

Okay. Or were they kidnapped as a child and now and raised as my sibling?

NALEE 2:50

In our case, that's probably most likely, but that is most likely. Given to the hypothetical.

ANTHONY 2:57

Okay, so my sibling was adopted. I didn't find out until after our parents died.

NALEE 3:06

Yeah.

ANTHONY 3:06

They've suspected.

NALEE 3:08

But the thing too is that all all of the will goes to your your sibling. You get nothing. I guess it comes down to one. Yeah, go ahead.

ANTHONY 3:19

Well, I mean, that part would be shitty. That would be unfortunate. Like from a s like I don't I'll openly admit it, like from a selfish standpoint, that's pretty unfortunate. That like everything goes to my sibling who is adopted and nothing goes to me who's biological. But I mean, I'm not going to use that secret or that lie against them because like what is that going to change?

NALEE 3:43

I guess. But do you feel like betrayed that they knew and they didn't tell you or they suspected that, that they didn't discuss it with you? Like, hey, like, I kind of have a suspicion that I'm adopted. Like, do you not feel any sort of way on that? Okay.

Adoption, Biology, And Belonging

ANTHONY 3:57

No, because I feel like the whole like adoption thing is like a very case-by-case basis sort of situation. Everybody's gonna handle it. Some people are gonna wanna, some people wanna know, some people don't want to know. Some people want to know and they want to seek out their their birth parents. Some people, you know, it's a case-by-case situation. And for me, like personally, like it wouldn't, I wouldn't care. I I wouldn't matter. Like we were brought up in the same ho household, we had the same parents. Our parents instilled the same values in us. I'm one of those people that I don't care whether it's biological or not. You know, and it's kind of like how I've said, like, for me, like my grandmother was my mother.

NALEE 4:41

Yeah.

ANTHONY 4:41

She raised me, she instilled the values in me, she taught me about the world, she did all of those things. So it was never like, well, you're not my mom, so I don't have to listen to you. Like, so I'm not one of those people where it's like biologically it matters. So it is what it is. Like, if if my sibling had this this sneaking suspicion that maybe I'm adopted, okay, well, if you want to pursue that route, go ahead. If you want to invite me in, if you want to let me know, go ahead. But I mean, that's your that's your prerogative, that's your life. But I mean, I would strongly encourage, like, don't forget the fact that regardless of what your biological parents' circumstances were, our parents raised you. Like they put a roof over your head, they put food on the table, they gave you clothes, they put you to school. And now they're leaving everything to you in the wheel, you little bitch.

NALEE 5:41

Okay, okay. You little bitch.

ANTHONY 5:43

Little bitch. I give you nothing.

unknown 5:46

Okay.

NALEE 5:47

Interesting. I'm the opposite.

ANTHONY 5:49

Okay.

NALEE 5:50

Yeah, like well, if they're not your biological like child, why would you give them everything? Why wouldn't you give it to me? You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 5:59

Like, well, I mean, don't get me wrong, but like, what are you gonna do? Your parents are dead. Are you gonna like travel to the underworld and like have a conversation with them? You can't do anything about it.

NALEE 6:07

I'm gonna have a shaman like do their ritual and be like, what the fuck's going on? I'm just kidding. I agree with you.

ANTHONY 6:13

I was like, is that a thing? I don't know if that's a thing or not.

NALEE 6:16

No, I'm just kidding. But I agree with you. I'm just being a stupid bitch trying to stir shit up.

ANTHONY 6:20

You're playing devil's advocate?

NALEE 6:22

Yes. I agree with you. I will I don't find it.

ANTHONY 6:26

Well, I was just gonna say, you're right. I mean, you could go that route. You could go the whole, well, we're gonna take this to court and go through that whole thing, but what is that gonna do? It's gonna split up your family. It's gonna you're probably gonna sever ties, you're gonna waste money going to court that there's no guarantee. I mean, it's in plain black and white. Your parents left everything to them. Death is one of those things that ri it really brings out like the worst in people.

NALEE 6:52

The true colors. Yeah.

ANTHONY 6:53

Yeah.

NALEE 6:54

Yeah, I agree with you. I was just kidding about the it's an issue to me. I agree with you. Honestly, I don't see the adoption and the b non-biological sibling. I wouldn't see it in any way because we grew up together. You're just as much as my sibling as anybody else. It's just like friends who become your family. You know what I mean? And it's deeper than that. I feel like when people get adopted, it's deeper than that. You know what I mean? And even if that's the case, or if it it's not, and you got kidnapped and we just end up in this family together, I think if we were siblings, I don't I don't like segregate you or whatever from, you know, the family. In terms of my parents not giving me anything though, I don't think that I would be upset as far as like what the fuck, but I'd be like, Okay. I guess, you know. I'd I'd kind of be like, I would be sad because it's like, oh, well, what about me? You know, pick me, choose me, love me, you know? But it's it is what it is. I think in those situations, obviously you don't have you don't have a call in wills. You don't have a call in however people choose to give their stuff away.

Sentiment Over Money In Wills

ANTHONY 8:14

But I think that also opens your eye a little bit of like, oh, you know, but personally, I think what would affect me more, like I wouldn't care. I would be like, okay, so they got everything. But like I'm a very sentimental person. So if there's like ever anything that was of no value at all that I wanted, I would be a little like hurt by that. Like not being able to get those things. Like my grandma had this little, it looks like a, I don't know, a little plate bowl thing. And it has like the Last Supper on it, and it's like rimmed in gold. And like every house, apartment that we've lived in, it hung above our oven. And like I still have that. Like, so like if she had died and like left me nothing or I didn't have access to anything, yeah. Like little things like that, I would be like really sad that I don't have.

NALEE 9:11

Yeah. I think that's a really good way to put it where I think in those situations, it's the access part of it. It's kind of like, oh, well, I have nothing to like represent them by, you know. Like I think that's because in a way, from what you're talking about, where you know, you have your grandma staying above the oven, like moan people or the humongs, I don't know. I don't know about everybody, but I just know that like a lot of parents that I've seen in the past where they've passed away, they have like gold jewelry and stuff like that, like oops, like antiques or or whatever. And they kind of give it to each of their children or whatever. You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 9:51

Yeah. Um, and they're like things that are like passed down.

NALEE 9:55

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And if I'm just saying, even if I'm not the like your most favorite child, and but I don't at least get like I'm not re I'm not like I'm not uh what is it? I'm not ex oops, I'm not expecting it, but it's just kind of like well, you know. Again, it's just kind of like it hurts a little bit. I feel like it would hurt, you know?

ANTHONY 10:21

But and I feel like that's one of those conversations that you need to have with people. Like I know nobody wants to talk about death or you know, losing their parents, but it is one of those things where it's it's not a comfortable conversation, but like I know my uncle's been trying to have that with me about some of the things that like belong to my aunt, and I'm just like, well, I would want this. Like, just have that conversation. Like, if anything were to happen, is there anything that you would want?

SPEAKER_01 10:47

Yeah.

ANTHONY 10:48

So that I know, like, I'll make sure, okay, well, if if you're gonna make a will, or you know, if I get sick, I want you to take it out of the house so that you don't have to worry about it. Like, just those conversations, I think, are things that need to be had occasionally from time to time.

Planning, Wishes, And Documentation

NALEE 11:05

Yeah, or just like even before death, like you could just tell your children or whatever, be like, hey, you know, I saved this for you, and you know, if it's not being told or whatever, like I don't know if that really counts, if it's like given verbally, but maybe if you record it, I don't know. But I feel like I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. Actually, I don't know.

ANTHONY 11:29

I think it depends on like your relationship with your family and stuff. Cause I know like when my grandma passed away, we had the discussion about like burial versus cremation. And my grandma didn't have anything written down, she didn't have anything planned, and it was literally just word of mouth and things that she said to me. And so like I called, you know, for the cremation because she'd always said, When I die, you cremate me, throw my ashes in the wind so that I can haunt my children. And Did she actually say that? She did actually say that.

SPEAKER_01 12:08

Oh my God, what the fuck? But that's kind of funny.

ANTHONY 12:11

I didn't do the latter of that part, but I mean I did voice, you know, for and advocate for the cremation. It was her wishes.

NALEE 12:19

Yeah.

ANTHONY 12:19

And so it really depends on like how well do you think your family's going to handle that or take that.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

Yeah.

ANTHONY 12:28

Mom said that I get this dining room set. Well, no, she promised it to me. And like, and then it becomes a he said, she said sort of thing. So I think it is very important and very vital to get those things written down.

SPEAKER_01 12:39

Yeah.

ANTHONY 12:40

Even if it's just like a list of things that says like these are going to Nolly, and then like them signing it. It might not be completely legally binding, but like at the same time.

NALEE 12:54

Wills are expensive. Yeah, at least there's something in writing or like a voice recording or something. I know my dad, like, he's been really, really sick, and you know, I've been going through his health journey and stuff. Even if it's not written down though, we have like voice memos of how he wants things split, you know. It's always obviously it's it's the thing that nobody wants to talk about, but it's it's necessary.

ANTHONY 13:18

Yeah.

NALEE 13:19

It's very necessary because the thing is, what if one day you wake up and you didn't get your things aligned and then you know, it c it's like what you said where people's true color comes out. Like, what if they, I don't know, fight for the money or fight for certain things and then it's ugly, you know.

ANTHONY 13:37

Yeah. And then it and also just for like, you know, I don't even know what I'm trying to say here. Like, just another thing to think about, like, it's not even a matter of like waking up or not waking up, but like you don't know what's gonna happen or when it when it's gonna happen, right?

NALEE 13:57

Yeah.

ANTHONY 13:57

So it's you're never too early. And I just tried to have this conversation with my aunt because I'm like, she doesn't have, you know, like a power of attorney or any of that stuff on file. She's getting older, and I tried to explain to her, I'm like, sh' and you know, and she's like, well, I don't need it. I'm like, it's not a matter of need like having it when you need it. You have it prior to, because God forbid, you know, if something happens to get hit by a car and you end up in a coma and you don't have those documents or those things in place. Well, now you're in a coma. You can't fucking do it now, can you? You know?

NALEE 14:27

So it's like what do you what is that thing you always say?

ANTHONY 14:30

What's that thing you always say when we're at the Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

NALEE 14:34

Period. And I love it that you knew exactly what I was talking about.

ANTHONY 14:38

I know exactly what you're saying. I say it almost daily.

When Families Lawyer Up

NALEE 14:42

He said it daily. Daily. But all right. So the twist is because there's a twist. There's always a twist with you. What if this sibling is somebody you don't get along with? And what if you know that they are like sneaky? Would you then feel any sort of weight about you know how things played out? Or are you just kind of like, whatever?

ANTHONY 15:07

Regardless of this twist, I'm all I'm gonna feel some sort of way. But again, what can I do? Is it really worth hiring an attorney and going to court and dragging this entire thing on with no guarantee that it's gonna change anything?

NALEE 15:22

Now, if you do know that people like will full on do that though. You know, no, I know. I know they do. But yeah, it's crazy.

ANTHONY 15:29

But I feel like in those situations, and this is just me, that I have no studies or there's no factual based evidence to this, but I would be willing to put money on in most of those situations where families do take it to court and hire an attorney and drag it out and blah, blah, blah, blah. That's coming from a place of irrational emotion.

NALEE 15:55

Yeah.

ANTHONY 15:56

They're not thinking it's an emotional power play for sure. Yes. Yeah. They're not being logistical in in their thinking. And again, yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna feel some sort of way. And I would feel even worse if, again, you know, personally, I'm a very sentimental person. Like I would feel worse if okay, regardless of the fact that we don't get along or I don't like them or they don't like me. But if they're gonna inherit everything and Sorry, my nose is itching, my allergies are really bad.

SPEAKER_01 16:31

I'm like, it's okay. All I see, all I see do is, yeah, you're it was like creeping up.

ANTHONY 16:39

It was a tingling feeling, and I was like, are we gonna sneeze? What's gonna happen?

SPEAKER_01 16:43

You look so cute.

ANTHONY 16:45

But I would feel even worse if I knew that they inherited everything and they're the type of person that's literally gonna be like, throw everything in the dumpster or just throw it on the marketplace and sell it, and they don't want any of it.

The Kidnapping Twist

SPEAKER_01 16:59

Yeah.

ANTHONY 17:00

Then I'm gonna like, I'll say something to them, and you know, hopefully, regardless, hopefully we could put our differences aside that maybe they would be like, okay, you know, Anthony is really hurt. He's he really likes this dining room table, or he really wanted these ceramics that my aunt made. Like, okay, I'll just do the right thing and not be a piece of shit and just give them to him and let him do what he wants with them.

NALEE 17:29

Yeah. But like There's not a lot of people like that. A lot of people are pieces of shit.

ANTHONY 17:34

Yeah, I know. Oh well, again, death brings out the worst of people in families. When there's a funeral and there's a loss in the family, it really does people show their true colors and brings out a different side of people that they normally try to hide.

NALEE 17:50

Okay. All right. Well, I had some like questions to follow up on, but we've already like Throw 'em at me.

ANTHONY 17:57

Anything you got.

NALEE 17:58

Well, you've already answered them all. Because it was does biology affect inheritance rights? We said no. Is honoring a dying wish moral or coercive? I don't know. I don't think that I feel like that's yeah. And then would disclosure heal or destabilize? And I think it comes back to what we're saying where that doesn't matter. Like whether or not they knew about it, whether or not they wanted to look into it, like it's it's not a big deal. Like for me in that case, I'm kind of like you, where it's just like, okay, well, if you want to involve me, just let me know. I'll support you. If you don't, it's cool. Like it's not gonna affect our relationship.

ANTHONY 18:39

If you want me to help your find, if you want me to help you find your biological parents, I'm on board. I'll help you. I will do whatever you want. Okay. But again, just don't forget who your family is. You know what I mean? Yeah. Like I, as far as the like that type of situation goes, it would be so shitty for somebody to be like, oh, I found I yeah, I'm adopted. I want to seek out my birth mom. And then you find her, and then it's like, bye, Anthony.

NALEE 20:03

She a crackhead whore.

ANTHONY 20:05

Well, I mean, that's possible. But like, just like leave the family that you were raised with to go and start living this life with your biological family.

NALEE 20:15

Okay, what if let's talk hypothetically, what if they were kidnapped? Like, what if you found out that they were like your parents? Like they, you know, your parents originated from England and they moved to the US and this child or this sibling of yours is actually was kidnapped. What would you do in that situation?

ANTHONY 20:34

Oh, they were kidnapped. That's a totally completely different story. I'm telling everything. We're finding your biological parents, we're getting the FBI involved. I don't give a shit. Especially if the parents if the parents dead.

NALEE 20:46

Okay. What if like it was only one? What if like your mom was still alive or your dad was still alive? Would you be like, put that bitch in jail? Put that mother in jail. Okay. But what if like you love your mom and your dad and they were like great parents?

ANTHONY 21:00

I can still love them from behind bars. Right. There's right and there's wrong.

NALEE 21:06

I'll send you$10 for commissary. That's how I love you.

ANTHONY 21:11

That's how much I love you.

SPEAKER_01 21:12

Yeah.

ANTHONY 21:13

But no, there's right and there's wrong, and especially if they're parents that like raised us to be able to differentiate the difference between right and wrong, and then to find out you kidnapped a child?

SPEAKER_01 21:27

Yeah.

Adoption Costs And Ethics

ANTHONY 21:27

Baby girl, there are better ways.

NALEE 21:30

Baby girl. There are better ways.

ANTHONY 21:33

Yeah.

NALEE 21:34

Yeah.

ANTHONY 21:34

Pay some college girl for her eggs. I don't know. Surrogate. Adoption. Do we gotta go steal a baby?

SPEAKER_01 21:45

What if they're poor? What would you do then?

ANTHONY 21:48

There are alternatives. There are pathways to having children without kidnapping. Even if you don't have money.

NALEE 21:57

Don't ever kidnap. Who the fuck? Come on.

ANTHONY 21:59

Yeah.

NALEE 22:00

In this day and age, it's so easy to find people.

ANTHONY 22:03

Yes.

NALEE 22:04

It's insane.

ANTHONY 22:05

Well, and it's like, there's so many children out there that are born that are not wanted. Like, go adopt. Go adopt. I know I'm I'm sure that it's yet you you know, you brought up the, well, what if you don't have money? There's gotta be, and I'm sure if you were to look and Google, there's gotta be like organizations that help you with the funding if you are truly deserving of being parents. My question to that is.

NALEE 22:36

Well, my question to that is like, and this is g people's gonna hate me, whatever. People about probably already do, it doesn't matter. But you know why people when they adopt, they have to make sure they're like they're in a certain income bracket, right? What if when you do adopt a kid and you get help and funding from like whoever, what if you can't afford to have, you know, to raise that child in the long run? Like, what about that? You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 23:03

Like, well, I think I think that there's some logistics to that because I mean, let's be honest, if you're not in a position to take care of a kid, you should not have a kid.

NALEE 23:15

Yeah, but what if it's a situation where you said they're su they're deserving and they do a GoFundMe page and they get donation and then bam, they got a child. But they can't afford that child. What are you gonna do in that situation?

ANTHONY 23:27

Well, I think that that's gonna happen during the adoption process, right? They're gonna look at your finances if you can't. But that's what I'm saying.

NALEE 23:35

That's what I'm saying. Why would you do that when you can't afford a kid? You know what I'm saying? I don't know. I don't know if you're not gonna be able to do that.

ANTHONY 23:42

Well, I get I get what you're saying, but I'm just saying it's not an excuse to kidnap.

NALEE 23:47

Yeah, obviously there's no excuses to kidnapping. We're gonna make that clear. Do not kidnap nobody's child, nobody's baby. Kidnapping is bad. There's another way, okay? But I'm saying in the situations where somebody really wants a child and they can't afford it, but then again, they do a GoFundMe, they go to a don donation place and people sponsor them and stuff. And then come to find out, like, I don't know, six months down the road, they can't afford a child. You know, I think that's the importance of being in a certain like tax bracket because you just have to be financially stable. Right. And I'm just saying, I don't know what's triggering me or whatever, but I'm just saying that children are expensive. And if you can't afford them, just because you want them doesn't mean that you should. It comes back to our subject of certain people shouldn't have kids, you know?

ANTHONY 24:42

Well, it's one of those things where it's like you can't always have what you you can't get what you want all the time.

NALEE 24:48

Yeah, yeah.

ANTHONY 24:49

It's a want. It's not a necessity in life. You know what I mean? Like it it is a want to have kids. It is not a requirement to have kids. It is a privilege to have kids.

NALEE 25:01

Yes, that's a good way to put it. Yes.

ANTHONY 25:03

No, I shouldn't say privilege because there are people that can't have kids. But I mean Yeah, really, at the end of the day, it's I think kids, I don't know.

NALEE 25:11

I think I think people who are able to have kids and people who have kids and people who afford to have kids are very very lucky.

ANTHONY 25:19

Yeah, I agree.

NALEE 25:20

And yeah. Yeah.

ANTHONY 25:23

I mean, we could tangent and I could get on my soapbox about how I feel about people who have kids that shouldn't have kids. Do it. No, I don't want to go down that I don't want to like turn this into like a negative thing, but like all I'm gonna say.

NALEE 25:40

Do you feel like it's a negative thing?

ANTHONY 25:42

I do feel like it's a a negative thing because I could really go down the entire rabbit hole about that and the effects that it has on, you know, the economy, the overall status of the country. All I'm gonna say is I worked with a woman many years ago who was telling me about how much money she got back in taxes.

NALEE 26:10

I can't. I can't.

Who Should Have Kids

ANTHONY 26:11

And she had like nine kids, and she was because she was the whole conversation was about how much her tax refund went down because one of her kids had turned 18, I think it was. Yeah. These she was still getting back like 11 grand, and I'm like, so those people that are having kids solely as a basis to work the system, I have a big problem with. Oh. Yeah.

unknown 26:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:46

It's a tricky situation.

ANTHONY 26:48

It's not a tricky situation. We need who was I talking about? We need well, we need one. Let's be like China, where we only like people are only allowed one child. Yeah.

NALEE 27:01

Yeah.

ANTHONY 27:02

Yes, please. Yeah, I You have to like pass a test to have kids.

NALEE 27:09

Damn. Yeah, I I don't know. I think I don't know what my thoughts are on that, but I do agree. I feel like it's fucked up. And there are people who have kids just to clean them on income tax. Mm-hmm. Like it's you know what? You do you boo at this point. Yeah. I mean, again, I'm not I'm not gonna judge anybody, but the only thing is I am gonna judge is if that's your sole purpose of having kids just so that you could clean them on income tax, you're having kids for the wrong reason.

ANTHONY 27:43

Yeah. That's all that I have a problem with, if I'm being honest. Like, I don't care if you if you have kids, have kids. But just be responsible. Know that it is a lifelong commitment. You have to provide for these kids. And if you're like Nollie said, if you're doing it just for the, you know, the the tax incentive and and you're planning on, you know, having kid after kid and after kid and jumping on Medicaid and food stamps, like that's it's just not fair to the rest of society.

NALEE 28:18

I don't even think it's that. I think like, and this is coming, this is my opinion coming from somebody who's lived with like a lot of siblings. Because, you know, I have seven siblings. Obviously, I would not trade the world for like, you know, I don't know how to phrase it, because at this point my brain is mush. But I wouldn't trade the world for not having them. You know what I mean? Like, they mean everything to me. I love my siblings. I think it's a blessing that we all get along. I've seen families where they have 10 siblings and none of them gets along with anybody. So I think I'm very blessed to have that connection with everybody and stuff like that. However, I feel like by having a big group of kids or by having like a lot of kids, even though you people don't admit it, there comes to play where people favorite their kids. And whether you want to admit it or not, it's always gonna happen. You're always gonna have a favorite child. You're always gonna have somebody who you focus more, you're always gonna have, you know, like each kid, when you have them, it's different. Like the firstborn is always one where the parents will invest to everything. Secondborn, yeah, maybe a little bit, but they're kind of like, oh, I know this already. But then I feel like a little bit after that, they're just kind of like, ah, it's fine. You know, like I've gone through this. They could do whatever the hell they want. You know what I mean?

ANTHONY 29:33

Oh, 100%. That's totally a running joke with parents.

Big Families, Favorites, And Resentment

NALEE 29:35

Yeah, so it's just kind of like you kind of what what word am I trying to look for? I can't think of the word, but you know, you just you're not yes, having a big family is fine, but at the same time, you give them a disadvantage of being treated like a an it's an as a new child or as a new baby or whatever. You know what I mean? Like you ease off, you don't put as much effort, and then that's when, you know, neglecting or that's when children they they have different characteristics or they build resentment and stuff like that, you know, towards you. So I don't know.

ANTHONY 30:17

But I agree with that. I think that resentment can be built and you know, some sort of emotion, not emotion, relationship between the siblings and the parents is gonna vary drastically because not all parents are very like concise and consecutive with all of their kids, kind of like what you're saying. But it's also like, okay, so my first kid, you can't date until you're 16, no cell phone until you're 17 or 16, and then second kid, you know, they're okay, you're going on a date at 15, and like the rules aren't the same, and the rules change per kid, and then it's like it does sort of build some sort of resentment because it's like, I didn't get a fucking cell phone until I was 17, and here little six-year-old dipshits getting a cell phone so he can text who?

NALEE 31:10

Who's he gonna fucking text? Yeah, I heard this, I heard this quote the other day that's kind of fitting for this, where this guy, I forgot who it was, but he says, I think it's I know his first name is Gayton. I forgot his last name though. He's a really good child psychologist. He works a lot with like attachment issues and stuff like that. But he was saying that in a family with your siblings, you guys may have the same you guys are in one family, but you have you each have a different mom and dad because they're treated differently each time.

ANTHONY 31:42

Mm-hmm.

NALEE 31:44

And yeah.

ANTHONY 31:45

You can see that in any like television show that you watch where there's multiple kids. Yeah. How they treat them differently. Like you watched that 70s show, right?

NALEE 31:55

Mm-hmm. Yeah, I love that 70.

ANTHONY 31:56

How the parents treated Eric versus the publicist sister. Yeah, whatever her name was.

NALEE 32:00

Yeah, yeah, yeah. The slut.

ANTHONY 32:02

The slut.

NALEE 32:03

Yeah.

ANTHONY 32:04

Yeah.

NALEE 32:06

Yeah. So I think and it's not just that. I think the kids don't even they just don't build resentment towards the parents. It's the sibling too. Because they're like, well, you always get mom and dad's attention, or you're always a spoiled one. And it kind of puts them in a situation where it's just like, well, I can't help it. You know, it's not, I didn't choose to have mom and dad treat me like this, whatever. So there's a lot of different stories, there's a lot of different like point of views, but at the same time, I think when you have a really big family, it gets difficult, you know?

ANTHONY 32:37

A hundred percent. A hundred percent.

NALEE 32:40

This is an interesting segment or segue or tangent.

ANTHONY 32:44

Tangent, yeah.

NALEE 32:45

Yeah, but did you have anything else to add? I think that was pretty much it. For this one, I think you've already uh answered, like I said, a lot of the questions that I wanted to talk about. So um that's what's up. That's what's up. That's what's up. But yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:01

Did you have anything else to add?

ANTHONY 33:03

No. No? Oh no.

NALEE 33:05

All right.

ANTHONY 33:06

I think I said everything that I wanted to say.

NALEE 33:08

Okay.

ANTHONY 33:09

But no, I I I lied. I want to say one more thing.

NALEE 33:12

Okay, go ahead.

ANTHONY 33:13

Okay. To our listeners, to our viewers, failing to prepare is preparing to fail. Just think about that. But that's it.

NALEE 33:23

That's all. Okay. All right. That's why Anthony sees it. It's so stupid. I thought it was something important. All right.

ANTHONY 33:30

It's kind of important.

NALEE 33:31

Okay, well, it is important. It is important. But yeah.

ANTHONY 33:35

Get your paperwork, get your documents in in line.

NALEE 33:38

Yeah. Always have plan A, B, C, D, C. Always be prepared. But that said, since Anthony doesn't have anything else to say, that concludes our episode today of Nolly's Hypothetical Hotline. Nolly's hypothetical hotline. Can't talk. But come back again for the next two Wednesdays from now for your next episode. All right. Bye.